May 27, 2025 • 18 mins
Episode Introduction:
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in your direct sales business but still hitting a wall? You’re not alone. In this raw and real episode, Rachel shares a powerful revelation she had during a recent coaching session—she’s been unintentionally shrinking herself. And chances are, you might be doing the same.
Key Points Covered:
- The sneaky ways high-achievers shrink themselves without realizing it
- Why being “likable” might be limiting your growth and income
- How people-pleasing and needing approval can silently sabotage your success
- Subtle signs you're filtering your personality—especially on social media
- Real talk: Being “too much” is exactly what your audience needs
- Rachel’s challenge: 7 days of unhinged YOU (and what that could look like)
- Why you don’t need permission to evolve, do things differently, or lead boldly
- How softening your edges to make others comfortable keeps you stuck
- Why your next chapter requires a different version of you—and how to find her
- Encouragement to stop downplaying your bold opinions, wins, or desires
Closing Reminder:
You don’t have to shrink to be safe. You don’t have to fit into someone else’s version of success. You were meant to stand out. Let’s get unhinged. Let’s be fully YOU. And when you do? Tag Rachel on Instagram @rachelaperry so she can cheer you on.
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Send me the message PODCAST over on Instagram at @rachelaperry and I’ll send you my "Parties-Optional Profit Plan!"
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Direct Sellers Podcast, the podcast
for direct sellers who are readyto get uncomfortable, build
their business and grow a teamwhile changing the face of the
direct sales industry.
I'm your host, rachel Perry.
Join me as we get real and talkabout all the things you need
to kick some serious directsales booty From overcoming
(00:26):
limiting beliefs to sharing theexact strategies you need to
attract the right people whobecome customers and beg to join
your team.
I've got you covered, girl.
I'm going to be your new BFFwhen it comes to balancing life
and kids while building yourdirect sales business with poise
, peace of mind and, of course,a good set of fake eyelashes.
Let's get started.
(00:48):
Hey guys, welcome back toanother episode of the Direct
Sellers Podcast.
I'm your host, rachel Perry,and today we are going to get
real.
It's so funny because I alwayssay I'm either super excited for
this episode or I'm like we'regoing to get real.
(01:08):
Like when are we not real?
Like when am I not real, right?
Actually, it's funny that I saythat because we are going to
talk about are we being real?
Are we showing up as our fullselves?
So I have to tell you something.
I actually had a revelationyesterday.
I have been shrinking myselfagain.
(01:30):
I've been hiding, I've beenadding a filter, what?
And I didn't even know.
This was not in an obvious wayand it wasn't in like a
self-deprecating like who am Ito do this kind of way?
It was more like a subtle, Idon't know, sneaky, maybe high
achiever way.
And if you are in direct salesand you're feeling frustrated or
(01:50):
stuck or like you're meant formore, or you're doing all the
things and it's not working,whatever it is, girl, this
episode is for you.
So let me tell you I had a callwith one of my coaches the
other day, and I'd requestedthis one-on-one call because I
(02:11):
felt like I was hitting a wall.
I didn't understand why Iwasn't moving as fast as I
wanted to, because, in business,because I'm doing all the
things, I'm doing all thestrategies, but I kept hitting a
wall and I couldn't figure outwhat it was.
And so I spoke to my coach oneof my coaches and I was like
(02:34):
listen, I just need you to tellme like it is.
What do you see?
And that's scary, right, it'sscary when you ask someone else
to tell you what they thinkyou're doing wrong.
And, honestly, it wasn't.
I don't think that I.
I thought maybe there wassomething that I'm doing wrong
that I can fix, and she's likeyou're not doing anything wrong,
but let's talk about this.
(02:54):
So I was very willing to be veryvulnerable and open and raw and
I was willing to hear what shehad to say.
And I think we have to get tothat point when we and I've
always been like this with mycoaches Like if I'm paying to be
a part of a program or I'mpaying to be a part of a
mastermind, I want you to tellme like it is.
(03:16):
I need to hear the hard stuff,right?
We need to be willing to hearthe hard stuff because, guess
what?
We're all flawed.
None of us are perfect, andsometimes people on the outside
looking in are more objective.
They're able to see what mightbe the problem.
So I did that yesterday and Ilearned some things about myself
(03:36):
, or I realized some thingsabout myself that were
surprising to me, right?
She basically said I don't evenremember the question that she
asked me, but it was somethinglike what's holding you back?
And I was like I don't thinkanything's holding me back, I'm
showing up, I'm showing up in myfull self.
And she was like Rachel, I kindof feel like you're not.
(03:59):
And I was like what are youtalking about?
I've been pulling out the wigs,I'm vulnerable.
She's like actually, it feels alittle awkward.
Your stories don't seem likeyou.
And I was like what, like myInstagram stories?
And I really took a hard lookat myself and I realized that
(04:20):
she's right, I'm not showing upin my full self, I'm still
holding myself back a little bit.
And so we started diving intothat Like why am I doing that?
Why am I not showing up in myfull, bold, rachel self?
Why am I downplaying myselfsometimes?
(04:40):
And I realized that I've beenkeeping myself just likable
enough or safe enough or justdigestible enough.
I think that's probably morelike it.
Like I don't want to be toomuch because I don't want people
to reject me, or I don't wantpeople to feel uncomfortable, or
I don't want people to decidethey don't want to be around me.
(05:04):
I wasn't being the version of methat I know I'm here to be,
because I've always been told,basically, you're too much right
.
Like you're weird, rachel,you're weird right when I'm
being crazy in myself.
Or okay, like all right, rach.
Like you're too sensitive oryou wear your heart on your
sleeve or you're too emotional,and whether or not those were
(05:26):
the stories or whether or notthose were the words people were
using, many times they were.
I remember the weird commentsall the time, but that's what I
heard, and so I found that Iknew the way to not have those
comments is to kind of downplaymyself.
Let's put a filter on me, let'ssimmer down a little bit Rach,
right.
(05:46):
And the thing is, is this, thispattern that I'm falling into of
shrinking myself, is a patternthat I see many of you falling
into as well?
Okay, and let's talk about whatthat might look like.
So for me it was, and I'm stillfiguring out what, how I'm
shrinking.
I'm still I don't think that Ifully am aware, to be totally
(06:09):
honest, of how I diminish myself.
I don't say things that I meansometimes I and I and I don't
mean like I'm not a jerk, but Ido mean sometimes I don't say
exactly what I think because Idon't want people to think badly
of me or I don't want someoneto think I'm being rude about
(06:31):
them.
Another way I see peopleshrinking themselves is over
explaining things.
So if you decide to dosomething different, right, like
if your upline is telling youto do something or telling you,
encouraging you to do a strategythat's worked for her or works
for people in her downline, butyou don't want to, because you
(06:52):
don't feel like it's right foryou, you over-explain why you're
not doing it.
I've been there over-explainingwhy I'm doing the things that
I'm doing.
That's shrinking ourselvesy'all.
We need to own.
Own it right, playing down your, your ideas, so that you don't
outshine anyone.
Oh my gosh, playing down yoursales and your and your ranks.
(07:14):
You're, you're ranking up inleadership.
Like, maybe you play that down,maybe you play down wins that
you have so that you don'toutshine anyone.
Or maybe you're waiting forsomeone to give you permission
to do what you want to do, andthat 100% is something that I
really identify with.
I am very much a play within orcolor within the lines type of
(07:39):
person.
Right, like, let me follow therules, here's what works for
everybody else.
So this has to work for me, andI've been waiting for someone
to give me permission.
But guess what, nobody needs togive us permission.
We need to give ourselvespermission.
Right, holding back your boldopinions so you don't ruffle
feathers y'all.
That is shrinking yourself, andshrinking isn't always loud
(08:01):
Sometimes it looks like you'rejust softening your edges so you
don't scare people away or loud.
Sometimes it looks like you'rejust softening your edges so you
don't scare people away.
Or maybe like tiptoeing aroundthe truth because you don't want
to make someone else feeluncomfortable.
Oh my gosh, right Like this isme to a T no more, sister, no
more.
And if this is you, let's sayno more.
All right, listen, you don'tneed to stay small to stay safe.
(08:25):
You didn't come this far tostill be asking for permission.
Right, you're allowed to evolve.
You're allowed to leaddifferently.
You're allowed to do more.
Right, what if you stoppedtrying to be so you know?
Okay, and non, non, oh, what'sthe word I'm looking for?
(08:45):
You don't want to rock the boat.
What if, instead, you're likescrew it, I'm going to be
powerful.
Instead, I'm going to rock theboat if it needs to be rocked.
I am such a rule follower andalso I think there's some self
doubt sometimes in myself, and alot of that comes from being a
(09:06):
pleaser, and as a pleaser, right, growing up, you're always
looking for approval from others.
You're always looking forapproval and I 100% was that
person and I hate that.
My kids are like that now and Ifeel like what did I do wrong
there?
But a lot of it is probablythey're my children, so they
come by it honestly.
But we don't need otherpeople's approval, and the fact
(09:30):
that I turned 50 last month, twomonths ago, and I'm still
discovering that I still lookfor people's approval was a big
eye opener for me.
Because the thing is is, youdon't need it.
You don't need it.
We don't need approval fromothers.
Who we are is amazing andwonderful and it's who God has
(09:52):
designed us to be.
We don't need to dim our lightso that other people feel
comfortable.
We don't need to do that andsometimes we do.
Sometimes we do it around ourspouses, right, our family,
because of whatever has happenedin the past, whatever.
(10:12):
But we don't need to be likethat.
Who we are is who we are meantto be, right.
We are meant to be the humansthat we are.
And listen, what got you here?
Who?
The person that you were thatgot you here is not the person
that's gonna take you to thenext chapter, and we're always
evolving.
We're always evolving.
We should be okay.
(10:33):
We don't need to be digestible,right.
Your power is in your presence,not in your perfection.
We need to stand in our fullpower, right, like no more
shrinking ourselves, no morebeing afraid that we'll offend
(10:55):
or confuse people.
Yesterday I said to my coach inthis conversation I was like,
yeah, but I think sometimes I'mworried that, you know, in this
cancel culture, I'm going to saythe wrong thing.
And she was like F it Be, you,don't hold back.
Now, obviously I don't want tosay things that are offensive,
but I do think that we really dofilter ourselves so much and
(11:20):
hold ourselves back from beingwho we really are, because we
don't want people to be likeanalogy so many times.
But it's like if a boy, alittle boy, is telling people
what to do, right, like he'stelling people like if they're
(11:40):
having a play date or something,and he's like no, we're going
to do this, we're going to dothis.
We go, oh, you know what he isso assertive, like he's got
vision or whatever.
But if a little girl does it,what do we say?
Oh, she's bossy, right.
And I think so much of this issort of like we've learned this
behavior, right, we don't wantto be too much, we don't want
(12:02):
people to go okay, and like,when I tell you how like this
has happened to me so much, calmdown, right.
Do you ever hear that Calm down?
Okay, calm down, like you're,you're a little bit too much.
It really.
We internalize this and I haveinternalized it, and so my
encouragement to you is torecognize this and let's let's
stop shrinking ourselves, let'sstep into the full version of
(12:26):
ourselves.
And this might take somereflection, like you might need
to really like think about this.
And I'll tell you the truth,like I've been thinking about
this since I ended my call withmy coach yesterday and I'm
thinking about all the ways thatI minimize myself and I think
(12:47):
about all the things that I say.
And do I say things softly,like I tried to soften the blow.
Have you ever done that?
You know you soften the blow,whatever the blow is right.
Like me saying this has taken mea long time to say I don't
think your direct sales businessis your end game.
I really don't.
I think there's more for youout there.
And by me saying that I amclosing some doors, like there
(13:13):
isn't a network marketingcompany that's gonna necessarily
want me to hire or wanna hireme to speak on stages for their
company.
Why?
Because I'm telling people thatI don't think direct sales is
the end game.
I think it's where you start.
I'm not bought in that this isyour life, that this is going to
be your life for the rest ofyour life.
I don't, for some people, sure,I think you are meant for more.
(13:36):
It doesn't mean I think youneed to quit your direct sales
business.
Not at all.
I just think it's let's put an.
And there I have a direct salesbusiness, and right.
It's so important for us torecognize that we are meant for
more.
And what does that more looklike for you?
(13:58):
I don't know.
Only you know.
And the thing is is we have toreflect on this, we have to take
the time to process this.
Right, me talking to you rightnow, in this 20 minutes.
You're not going to be likeokay, well, that is all fixed
and done, and now I know how I'mfiltering myself and I'm going
to show up differently.
This is a process for me too.
So my coach challenged me to doseven days of unhinged Rachel
(14:23):
and I was like okay.
And then I'm like but what doesthat look like?
Cause I kind of feel like I'mmy full self, like I kind of
already feel like that's who Iam.
So I don't know who that is.
And of course, I startedoverthinking it.
Hello, remember, I'm alreadylike trying to like simmer
myself down and uh, then I waslike you know what I was laying
in bed this morning and Ithought, you know, I'm going to
(14:43):
do a reel where I share thingsabout myself.
I'm going to share me beingstupid.
I'm going to share me dancing.
I'm going to share me wearing awig.
I'm going to share me dancingon a stripper pole on a bus that
I did for my birthday.
We went to a winery and we gota limo bus and there was a
stripper pole on there and youknow, I danced on that.
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Right, I've been hiding thatpart of me.
I didn't want people to judge me, because I don't want people to
be like oh my gosh, like she'scrazy.
No, don't want people to belike, oh my gosh, like she's
crazy.
No, this is who I am.
Y'all Guess what?
Here's another reality.
I cuss, I say bad words and Ilove Jesus.
Right, I am not perfect.
I'm so imperfect and so flawed,but I like who I am.
(15:32):
I like this flawed version.
I don't want to be perfect, Iwant to be me.
I want to be who God hascreated me to be, and this has
been such a journey for me, andyou guys have been along this
journey with me.
But I just want to encourageyou.
Who are you meant to be?
Who are you meant to be?
Let's take this filter off.
Who are you?
Who are you?
Tell me?
I want to know who are you, andmy challenge to you this week
(15:56):
is let's get unhinged.
Who is the real you?
And if you want to do sevendays of unhinged you, let's do
it and tag me.
Tag me on Instagram at Rachel APerry.
If you do something unhinged Forme today, it was that real.
Another thing that I did thatwas unhinged for me was wearing
(16:16):
a wig and lip syncing to a song.
Why?
That doesn't mean that that'swhat it is for you, but that's
fun for me, to just be silly andgoofy.
I need to show more of that.
What is it for you?
I don't know.
Only you know.
So that's my challenge to youtoday is to stop shrinking and
start showing up as you.
Show up as the full.
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Insert your name, becausethat's who the world wants to
see and that is who you've beendesigned to be All right and
listen seriously, come and checkout.
Well, by the time.
Well no, there'll be stillunhinged days left, and I'm not.
Here's the thing.
I have seven days of unhingedRachel, but guess what?
This, I think, is a process forme to recognize who I really am
(16:57):
.
So this is gonna keep happening.
I'm showing up.
I'm committed to showing up infull Rachel Perry mode.
So make sure you come and hangout and again, get unhinged,
sister, and tag me when you do.
Let's be our full selves.
Okay, all right, I love you andI appreciate you listening and
(17:18):
I hope you have an amazing week.
And until next time, my friend,take care.
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Welcome to the Direct Sellers Podcast, the podcast
for direct sellers who are readyto get uncomfortable, build
their business and grow a teamwhile changing the face of the
direct sales industry.
I'm your host, rachel Perry.
Join me as we get real and talkabout all the things you need
to kick some serious directsales booty From overcoming
(00:26):
limiting beliefs to sharing theexact strategies you need to
attract the right people whobecome customers and beg to join
your team.
I've got you covered, girl.
I'm going to be your new BFFwhen it comes to balancing life
and kids while building yourdirect sales business with poise
, peace of mind and, of course,a good set of fake eyelashes.
Let's get started.
(00:48):
Hey guys, welcome back toanother episode of the Direct
Sellers Podcast.
I'm your host, rachel Perry,and today we are going to get
real.
It's so funny because I alwayssay I'm either super excited for
this episode or I'm like we'regoing to get real.
(01:08):
Like when are we not real?
Like when am I not real, right?
Actually, it's funny that I saythat because we are going to
talk about are we being real?
Are we showing up as our fullselves?
So I have to tell you something.
I actually had a revelationyesterday.
I have been shrinking myselfagain.
(01:30):
I've been hiding, I've beenadding a filter, what?
And I didn't even know.
This was not in an obvious wayand it wasn't in like a
self-deprecating like who am Ito do this kind of way?
It was more like a subtle, Idon't know, sneaky, maybe high
achiever way.
And if you are in direct salesand you're feeling frustrated or
(01:50):
stuck or like you're meant formore, or you're doing all the
things and it's not working,whatever it is, girl, this
episode is for you.
So let me tell you I had a callwith one of my coaches the
other day, and I'd requestedthis one-on-one call because I
(02:11):
felt like I was hitting a wall.
I didn't understand why Iwasn't moving as fast as I
wanted to, because, in business,because I'm doing all the
things, I'm doing all thestrategies, but I kept hitting a
wall and I couldn't figure outwhat it was.
And so I spoke to my coach oneof my coaches and I was like
(02:34):
listen, I just need you to tellme like it is.
What do you see?
And that's scary, right, it'sscary when you ask someone else
to tell you what they thinkyou're doing wrong.
And, honestly, it wasn't.
I don't think that I.
I thought maybe there wassomething that I'm doing wrong
that I can fix, and she's likeyou're not doing anything wrong,
but let's talk about this.
(02:54):
So I was very willing to be veryvulnerable and open and raw and
I was willing to hear what shehad to say.
And I think we have to get tothat point when we and I've
always been like this with mycoaches Like if I'm paying to be
a part of a program or I'mpaying to be a part of a
mastermind, I want you to tellme like it is.
(03:16):
I need to hear the hard stuff,right?
We need to be willing to hearthe hard stuff because, guess
what?
We're all flawed.
None of us are perfect, andsometimes people on the outside
looking in are more objective.
They're able to see what mightbe the problem.
So I did that yesterday and Ilearned some things about myself
(03:36):
, or I realized some thingsabout myself that were
surprising to me, right?
She basically said I don't evenremember the question that she
asked me, but it was somethinglike what's holding you back?
And I was like I don't thinkanything's holding me back, I'm
showing up, I'm showing up in myfull self.
And she was like Rachel, I kindof feel like you're not.
(03:59):
And I was like what are youtalking about?
I've been pulling out the wigs,I'm vulnerable.
She's like actually, it feels alittle awkward.
Your stories don't seem likeyou.
And I was like what, like myInstagram stories?
And I really took a hard lookat myself and I realized that
(04:20):
she's right, I'm not showing upin my full self, I'm still
holding myself back a little bit.
And so we started diving intothat Like why am I doing that?
Why am I not showing up in myfull, bold, rachel self?
Why am I downplaying myselfsometimes?
(04:40):
And I realized that I've beenkeeping myself just likable
enough or safe enough or justdigestible enough.
I think that's probably morelike it.
Like I don't want to be toomuch because I don't want people
to reject me, or I don't wantpeople to feel uncomfortable, or
I don't want people to decidethey don't want to be around me.
(05:04):
I wasn't being the version of methat I know I'm here to be,
because I've always been told,basically, you're too much right
.
Like you're weird, rachel,you're weird right when I'm
being crazy in myself.
Or okay, like all right, rach.
Like you're too sensitive oryou wear your heart on your
sleeve or you're too emotional,and whether or not those were
(05:26):
the stories or whether or notthose were the words people were
using, many times they were.
I remember the weird commentsall the time, but that's what I
heard, and so I found that Iknew the way to not have those
comments is to kind of downplaymyself.
Let's put a filter on me, let'ssimmer down a little bit Rach,
right.
(05:46):
And the thing is, is this, thispattern that I'm falling into of
shrinking myself, is a patternthat I see many of you falling
into as well?
Okay, and let's talk about whatthat might look like.
So for me it was, and I'm stillfiguring out what, how I'm
shrinking.
I'm still I don't think that Ifully am aware, to be totally
(06:09):
honest, of how I diminish myself.
I don't say things that I meansometimes I and I and I don't
mean like I'm not a jerk, but Ido mean sometimes I don't say
exactly what I think because Idon't want people to think badly
of me or I don't want someoneto think I'm being rude about
(06:31):
them.
Another way I see peopleshrinking themselves is over
explaining things.
So if you decide to dosomething different, right, like
if your upline is telling youto do something or telling you,
encouraging you to do a strategythat's worked for her or works
for people in her downline, butyou don't want to, because you
(06:52):
don't feel like it's right foryou, you over-explain why you're
not doing it.
I've been there over-explainingwhy I'm doing the things that
I'm doing.
That's shrinking ourselvesy'all.
We need to own.
Own it right, playing down your, your ideas, so that you don't
outshine anyone.
Oh my gosh, playing down yoursales and your and your ranks.
(07:14):
You're, you're ranking up inleadership.
Like, maybe you play that down,maybe you play down wins that
you have so that you don'toutshine anyone.
Or maybe you're waiting forsomeone to give you permission
to do what you want to do, andthat 100% is something that I
really identify with.
I am very much a play within orcolor within the lines type of
(07:39):
person.
Right, like, let me follow therules, here's what works for
everybody else.
So this has to work for me, andI've been waiting for someone
to give me permission.
But guess what, nobody needs togive us permission.
We need to give ourselvespermission.
Right, holding back your boldopinions so you don't ruffle
feathers y'all.
That is shrinking yourself, andshrinking isn't always loud
(08:01):
Sometimes it looks like you'rejust softening your edges so you
don't scare people away or loud.
Sometimes it looks like you'rejust softening your edges so you
don't scare people away.
Or maybe like tiptoeing aroundthe truth because you don't want
to make someone else feeluncomfortable.
Oh my gosh, right Like this isme to a T no more, sister, no
more.
And if this is you, let's sayno more.
All right, listen, you don'tneed to stay small to stay safe.
(08:25):
You didn't come this far tostill be asking for permission.
Right, you're allowed to evolve.
You're allowed to leaddifferently.
You're allowed to do more.
Right, what if you stoppedtrying to be so you know?
Okay, and non, non, oh, what'sthe word I'm looking for?
(08:45):
You don't want to rock the boat.
What if, instead, you're likescrew it, I'm going to be
powerful.
Instead, I'm going to rock theboat if it needs to be rocked.
I am such a rule follower andalso I think there's some self
doubt sometimes in myself, and alot of that comes from being a
(09:06):
pleaser, and as a pleaser, right, growing up, you're always
looking for approval from others.
You're always looking forapproval and I 100% was that
person and I hate that.
My kids are like that now and Ifeel like what did I do wrong
there?
But a lot of it is probablythey're my children, so they
come by it honestly.
But we don't need otherpeople's approval, and the fact
(09:30):
that I turned 50 last month, twomonths ago, and I'm still
discovering that I still lookfor people's approval was a big
eye opener for me.
Because the thing is is, youdon't need it.
You don't need it.
We don't need approval fromothers.
Who we are is amazing andwonderful and it's who God has
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designed us to be.
We don't need to dim our lightso that other people feel
comfortable.
We don't need to do that andsometimes we do.
Sometimes we do it around ourspouses, right, our family,
because of whatever has happenedin the past, whatever.
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But we don't need to be likethat.
Who we are is who we are meantto be, right.
We are meant to be the humansthat we are.
And listen, what got you here?
Who?
The person that you were thatgot you here is not the person
that's gonna take you to thenext chapter, and we're always
evolving.
We're always evolving.
We should be okay.
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We don't need to be digestible,right.
Your power is in your presence,not in your perfection.
We need to stand in our fullpower, right, like no more
shrinking ourselves, no morebeing afraid that we'll offend
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or confuse people.
Yesterday I said to my coach inthis conversation I was like,
yeah, but I think sometimes I'mworried that, you know, in this
cancel culture, I'm going to saythe wrong thing.
And she was like F it Be, you,don't hold back.
Now, obviously I don't want tosay things that are offensive,
but I do think that we really dofilter ourselves so much and
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hold ourselves back from beingwho we really are, because we
don't want people to be likeanalogy so many times.
But it's like if a boy, alittle boy, is telling people
what to do, right, like he'stelling people like if they're
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having a play date or something,and he's like no, we're going
to do this, we're going to dothis.
We go, oh, you know what he isso assertive, like he's got
vision or whatever.
But if a little girl does it,what do we say?
Oh, she's bossy, right.
And I think so much of this issort of like we've learned this
behavior, right, we don't wantto be too much, we don't want
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people to go okay, and like,when I tell you how like this
has happened to me so much, calmdown, right.
Do you ever hear that Calm down?
Okay, calm down, like you're,you're a little bit too much.
It really.
We internalize this and I haveinternalized it, and so my
encouragement to you is torecognize this and let's let's
stop shrinking ourselves, let'sstep into the full version of
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ourselves.
And this might take somereflection, like you might need
to really like think about this.
And I'll tell you the truth,like I've been thinking about
this since I ended my call withmy coach yesterday and I'm
thinking about all the ways thatI minimize myself and I think
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about all the things that I say.
And do I say things softly,like I tried to soften the blow.
Have you ever done that?
You know you soften the blow,whatever the blow is right.
Like me saying this has taken mea long time to say I don't
think your direct sales businessis your end game.
I really don't.
I think there's more for youout there.
And by me saying that I amclosing some doors, like there
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isn't a network marketingcompany that's gonna necessarily
want me to hire or wanna hireme to speak on stages for their
company.
Why?
Because I'm telling people thatI don't think direct sales is
the end game.
I think it's where you start.
I'm not bought in that this isyour life, that this is going to
be your life for the rest ofyour life.
I don't, for some people, sure,I think you are meant for more.
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It doesn't mean I think youneed to quit your direct sales
business.
Not at all.
I just think it's let's put an.
And there I have a direct salesbusiness, and right.
It's so important for us torecognize that we are meant for
more.
And what does that more looklike for you?
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I don't know.
Only you know.
And the thing is is we have toreflect on this, we have to take
the time to process this.
Right, me talking to you rightnow, in this 20 minutes.
You're not going to be likeokay, well, that is all fixed
and done, and now I know how I'mfiltering myself and I'm going
to show up differently.
This is a process for me too.
So my coach challenged me to doseven days of unhinged Rachel
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and I was like okay.
And then I'm like but what doesthat look like?
Cause I kind of feel like I'mmy full self, like I kind of
already feel like that's who Iam.
So I don't know who that is.
And of course, I startedoverthinking it.
Hello, remember, I'm alreadylike trying to like simmer
myself down and uh, then I waslike you know what I was laying
in bed this morning and Ithought, you know, I'm going to
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do a reel where I share thingsabout myself.
I'm going to share me beingstupid.
I'm going to share me dancing.
I'm going to share me wearing awig.
I'm going to share me dancingon a stripper pole on a bus that
I did for my birthday.
We went to a winery and we gota limo bus and there was a
stripper pole on there and youknow, I danced on that.
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Right, I've been hiding thatpart of me.
I didn't want people to judge me, because I don't want people to
be like oh my gosh, like she'scrazy.
No, don't want people to belike, oh my gosh, like she's
crazy.
No, this is who I am.
Y'all Guess what?
Here's another reality.
I cuss, I say bad words and Ilove Jesus.
Right, I am not perfect.
I'm so imperfect and so flawed,but I like who I am.
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I like this flawed version.
I don't want to be perfect, Iwant to be me.
I want to be who God hascreated me to be, and this has
been such a journey for me, andyou guys have been along this
journey with me.
But I just want to encourageyou.
Who are you meant to be?
Who are you meant to be?
Let's take this filter off.
Who are you?
Who are you?
Tell me?
I want to know who are you, andmy challenge to you this week
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is let's get unhinged.
Who is the real you?
And if you want to do sevendays of unhinged you, let's do
it and tag me.
Tag me on Instagram at Rachel APerry.
If you do something unhinged Forme today, it was that real.
Another thing that I did thatwas unhinged for me was wearing
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a wig and lip syncing to a song.
Why?
That doesn't mean that that'swhat it is for you, but that's
fun for me, to just be silly andgoofy.
I need to show more of that.
What is it for you?
I don't know.
Only you know.
So that's my challenge to youtoday is to stop shrinking and
start showing up as you.
Show up as the full.
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Insert your name, becausethat's who the world wants to
see and that is who you've beendesigned to be All right and
listen seriously, come and checkout.
Well, by the time.
Well no, there'll be stillunhinged days left, and I'm not.
Here's the thing.
I have seven days of unhingedRachel, but guess what?
This, I think, is a process forme to recognize who I really am
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.
So this is gonna keep happening.
I'm showing up.
I'm committed to showing up infull Rachel Perry mode.
So make sure you come and hangout and again, get unhinged,
sister, and tag me when you do.
Let's be our full selves.
Okay, all right, I love you andI appreciate you listening and
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I hope you have an amazing week.
And until next time, my friend,take care.
That's it for this episode ofthe direct sellers podcast, but
our fun doesn't have to end now.
You'll catch me hanging outover on Instagram between
episodes and I'd love for you tojoin me.
So hop into my DMS.
I promise you're not gettingany hate girl messages and I
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promise I'm not going to beasking you to weirdly buy
anything.
Send me the message podcast soI can send you my free 90 day
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