#313 How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles

Do your kids struggle with tantrums, power struggles, or emotional meltdowns—and you’re not sure how to stop the cycle without yelling or harsh discipline?

After posting on Instagram about how we raised our 7 kids without yelling, punishments, or power struggles, we received so much interest and questions from parents wanting to know—is it really possible?

Yes, it is—and in this episode, we share exactly how we did it.

Raising emotionally healthy, well-adjusted kids starts with creating a strong foundation of love, trust, and connection. In this conversation, we unpack the specific things we never do as parents, and why avoiding them has helped our children become confident, competent, and emotionally resilient.

From mockery and sarcasm to yelling, punishments, and ignoring big feelings—these parenting pitfalls actually increase misbehavior, power struggles, and emotional shutdown.

We also share personal stories—including a controversial ocean swim encounter—that demonstrate how pushing limits (safely and intentionally) builds competence, confidence, and calm under pressure—for kids and adults.

Whether you're parenting toddlers or teens, these insights will help you shift your mindset and methods to raise kids who thrive without tantrums, yelling, or power struggles.

Key Takeaways:

✅ Strong attachment = strong self-worth

✅ Small emotional habits shape your child's future

✅ Sarcasm erodes trust—kindness builds connection

✅ Harshness leads to fragility and misbehavior

✅ Family culture and personal growth go hand in hand

✅ Confidence comes from challenge, not comfort

Chapters:

00:00 Raising Well-Adjusted Kids on the Move

10:39 Understanding Tantrums and Yelling

15:45 Prioritizing Connection Over Correction

27:41 Investing Time for Long-Term Benefits

29:25 The Importance of Connection Over Correction

31:15 Understanding the Desire for Connection

33:03 The Impact of Parental Engagement

35:27 Recognizing Attachment Issues

37:10 Daily Intentional Connection

39:04 Behavior as a Symptom, Not the Problem

41:24 Going to the Root Cause of Behavior

43:41 The Investment in Parenting Knowledge

47:37 Clarifying Expectations in Parenting

50:27 Engaging in Clear Communication

53:40 Encouraging Dialogue for Clarity

01:00:08 Natural Consequences and Child Empowerment

01:06:14 Establishing Family Systems for Smooth Parenting

01:12:53 Emotional Co-Regulation in Parenting

01:21:33 Building Resilience Through Connection and Challenge

Memorable Quotes:

🗣 “We never participate in sarcasm or tearing each other down.”

🗣 “Do your children feel good in your home—or do they feel fear?”

🗣 “Harshness creates distance and fragility, which causes misbehavior.”

🗣 “If you want different results, you’ve got to change how you parent.”

🗣 “Push yourself and your kids—growth replaces fear with competence.”

🗣 “The key to raising kids without tantrums is becoming emotionally safe yourself.”

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• How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles