Dating and relationships have never been simple — but in today's world of apps, algorithms, and endless options, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and disconnected. In this episode, I speak with Dr. Justin Garcia, Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute, evolutionary biologist, sex researcher, and author of the upcoming book The Intimate Animal. We talk about what our biology can (and can't) tell us about love and desire, how technology is reshaping intimacy, and why breakups can hit so hard.
We also get personal — sharing stories about grief, recovery, non-monogamy, and navigating love in the real world. Dr. Garcia brings a refreshingly nuanced perspective, blending science, lived experience, and a deep respect for the complexities of modern relationships.
Topics Covered
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The biological basis of pair bonding and why love is a survival strategy
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How dating apps are changing the way we connect — and the pitfalls of infinite choice
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Non-monogamy, open relationships, and what science really says about them
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Breakups, heartbreak, and why they feel like addiction withdrawal
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Infidelity: what motivates it, and why it's often about secrecy more than sex
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Practical dating advice backed by years of research
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The neuroscience of attraction, and how foreplay, communication, and intention keep passion alive
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How personal experience shaped Dr. Garcia's latest work — including his own recent marriage and fatherhood
Guest Bio
Dr. Justin Garcia is an evolutionary biologist, sex researcher, and Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. He's also the Chief Scientific Advisor for Match Group, guiding large-scale studies on modern relationships like the annual Singles in America survey. His research has been featured in outlets like The New York Times, TIME, and CNN, and his new book The Intimate Animal: The Science of Sex, Fidelity, and Why We Live and Die for Love will be released on January 27, 2026.
Learn more:
Kinsey Institute Bio – https://kinseyinstitute.org/about/staff/executive-director-justin-garcia.html
Pre-order The Intimate Animal – https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/justin-r-garcia-phd/the-intimate-animal/9780316594035/
Resources Mentioned
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Singles in America study – https://www.singlesinamerica.com/
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Kinsey Institute – https://www.kinseyinstitute.org/
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Dr. Garcia's social media: Search "Dr. Justin Garcia" on major platforms or follow updates via the Kinsey Institute
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