Episode 295 - Session 3 Age Appropriate Conversations - OCEAN Homeschool Conference, Albany, OR - June 2022

Episode 295 - Session 3 Age Appropriate Conversations - OCEAN Homeschool Conference, Albany, OR - June 2022

 

Episode 295's video link: https://youtu.be/-1gIvvaeUmY  

 

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Welcome to healing Lives with Cory Gilbert, a podcast sponsored by the healing Lives center, discover how to love and lead your family well and biblically God created sex marriage and the family for our stewardship growth and benefit my heart and passion is to teach, train educate and disciple christians that want straw long marriages and families. The healing Life center has been serving christians since the year 2000. Its mission is to be a center for sex, trauma and marriage education and transformation where we offer counseling, coaching courses and speaking services to you, your church or ministry. Check us out at Healing lives dot com moms and dads, this is for you. This is a recording of a session I did at the home school conference in june 2022 in Albany Oregon, the ocean homeschool conference and this is session three age appropriate conversations. Alright welcome, welcome. So this session a little different than what we've done before today um the agent conversation we're gonna really literally focus on birth to 56 to 10, what do we talk about how and some of those kind of things so hopefully a very practical application QR code years to access the handouts that'll be later, they're not on there right now and then the record the video recording as well and some other stuff as I continue to do that. So welcome, welcome now, let me start with the story, these are my two boys of years ago Alex and blaze. Um most of us when we, when we go somewhere we tend to have an expectation about what's going to happen at a location. So I love to go skiing, this is who do one of our favorite places to go. It's the last day of the season. Um People were doing some crazy stuff, There's a few up top jumping off with hang gliders and doing some crazy stuff. People wearing um interesting clothes and outfits. Well there was a number of girls wearing um sports bras and my son was like, they're supposed to be wearing those, it's like wear whatever they want business, little kid. Um And so then he went up to one of the guys and said why is she wearing that? Because he's got no filter and he said because she's hot, he's like, so which one is it hot temperature or Anyway, so we went on the day or continued today and then all of a sudden down comes the girls topless, I'm like, oh great, this is gonna be fun, luckily Blaze was nowhere to be found. He did not see this because he would have had a heyday with that one. Instead it was Alex. So I chased after Alex and I get to the bottom of the slope and there's Alex just wide eyed because this was not a small young, small young lady, old lady was not a young lady um she was quite large and she had flown right past him so that I passed her back to him and it's like, so the first time he's like, yes, like how did you like it? I'm not gonna say that cancer. That just totally embarrassed just a horrible moment. He's just shocked. It's not what you expect if you think of what we do as parents, everything we're trying to do is trying to protect them from certain things. Did not expect to go skiing, that they have to have these conversations and what we're gonna see today is actually most everything that's gonna happen is gonna be almost happen outside of our purview or our ability to control, which is why we must be earlier rather than late. A lot of times what I'm seeing is most often we're airing on the side of too late. Even to this point to the point of that our Children will believe almost whatever they hear first. It's just scary to think about. So a number of years ago actually, it was two years ago, California mandated that all kindergartens have to teach all 15 genders. I'm not sure where they got 15 from because Facebook has 75-90 something and they're in California. So they haven't talked. I don't know if they haven't caught up yet, but parents are freaking out because if you live there, you kind of have to have six jobs to live. So you can't have a stay at home mom very easily or dad. So what do you do and then here's what I hear from parents? Well my child is too young for me to teach them but I'm gonna send them to school and they are so not too young for them, them whoever them is but they are too young to know. We need to reverse that. We need to be the ones if they're walking into that school or in that any situation we have prepared them um for what's what's next, Our experience influences our parenting, all of our experiences, do everything that we've been through for some of us, the reason why we actually homeschool, homeschool because of something that happened to us, things that actually harmed us and if we don't deal with those things we