April 22, 2025 • 38 mins
Do you think it's okay to honor your late husband at your wedding? Fred and the crew weigh in! Plus we debate relationship drama on Stay or Go about if it's ok to hang out with a single dad alone... Listen now!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
A Dude's fiance plans to wear her late husband's wedding
ring on a chain around her neck during the wedding
ceremony to the new guy. So her husband is dead okay,
and she's going to she wants to wear the wedding ring.
I guess his wedding ring that from when they were
(00:23):
married before he died, around her neck when she marries
another guy, the next guy. Okay. She says it's a
quiet tribute to the guy she once loved, who passed
away in a tragic car accident five years ago. She
believes the law shaped who she is today and wants
to carry that part of her past into the new chapter.
But her fiance's not feeling great about him. He says
(00:44):
it makes him feel like he's sharing the most important
day of his life with someone who isn't there, and
like he's somehow second place. And people on the forum
are torn. Some stood with the groom, saying the wedding
should be about the new relationship, not the old one.
Other's suggested a compromise, like a symbolic gesture instead of
wearing the ring. I would, if I'm being one hundred
(01:07):
percent transparent, if I'm keeping it on on the reel,
one hundred percent on the one. If I'm being one
hundred with you, okay, please, I'm gonna be one hundred
with you as opposed to the ninety nine I usually am.
I'm gonna be a hundred. I wouldn't like him. I
wouldn't like him. I wouldn't like it. You wouldn't be either.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
No, I would not.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Okay, good because you're like, yeah, I know, I know Fred,
I know Fred, You weak, little, weak little nugget.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
No.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
No, can you imagine if Hobby in Vegas at the
wedding had a ring around his neck of a that
he gave to another woman who's dead.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
See, okay, I have compassion.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
You would not.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
No, I upset.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I'd be bothered for sure. But like, it's sad if
that person tragically died. I mean that's awful.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Nobody's saying that's not sad or awful, But like, yeah,
why are we I mean you're marrying me now? Like
this day be about us?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Correct?
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Why are we still reflecting on this person? I'm sorry
this person died. I'm sorry this person is not in
your life anymore. But the feeling that it would give
me is and it's pretty clear if that dude weren't dead,
I wouldn't be standing here. You never would have chosen me,
This wouldn't even obviously, this wouldn't even be happening. True. Yes, well,
I know, I don't think i'd be reminded of that.
(02:22):
I don't know. I don't need to be reminded of
the person that I'm marrying now and committing to the
rest of my life with would probably rather be with
someone else if they weren't dead.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Yeah, it takes a special kind of person to be
with a widow. I don't think everyone can do it.
But I'm in a similar situation. Actually, one of the
bachelorettes I have coming up, her previous boyfriend passed away
and it was tragic, and his mom wants to pay
for something on her bachelorette for a new guy. She's
getting married to a new guy and her mom, her
former boyfriend's mom, wants to pay for something for us,
(02:51):
like a table or a night.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
When we go out.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah, and but some of my friends, which I don't
think it was their place to say, are like, no,
completely unacceptable, Like that's you should be doing that, Like
your fiance is going to be upset, and I don't know,
I thought that that was kind of wild. Yeah, yeah,
thing to you.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
It's kind of interesting, like I'm gonna pay for you
guys to go ahead and get hammered.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yeah for the why did the best of the wedding?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Dude?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Yeah, But she, like I guess, feels like this.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Is the closest she's going to get to, Like I
don't know, her son getting married, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
She's like happy for her. She still talks to her.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
So it is, but it is interesting.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
That's nice.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
It's something.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
It'sn't even marrying a widow like, uh, it's not even
it's even so much that it's it's okay, I'm marrying
a widow. So I'm already aware that you were fully
in love with another guy. I actually just happened to
a family member of mine, and I've never discussed it
with her. I've discussed it with her family though, And
this dude. Sadly, when on a business trip the company
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had private jets. There were two private jets. Everybody piled
in one or the other. There was no rhyme or
reason one made it the other one didn't, and so
there was I don't know the inside of their relationship,
but from what I understand, they they were relatively newly married,
like everything was fine, you know, and then he's gone, right,
so she moved on married another guy, had kids with them,
everything's great, and I wonder, like I wonder, does that
guy ever lay up at night and be like, man,
(04:11):
you know, if that dude hadn't tragically died, like I
wouldn't even be here. I wouldn't have my kids, I
wouldn't have any of this. Like maybe I would have
had it with somebody else, but like that, I'm admitting
that's an insecurity, but that would get to me, I think,
But but it's that that's life. But now I got it.
Now you got to have like something tangible with you
at the wedding. To me, I'm trying to really like
(04:31):
sure resemble him, Like guys, we're moving on like right at.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
The wedding, probably not see if Hobby did that, we
wouldn't be at the Little White Wedding Chapel. I think
we'd be honestly in therapy to work through that because
it's like, why would you want to include that on
your special day?
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Are you really ready to do this? If we're still
reflecting on the best I guess that would be my question.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Have anything from their previous you know, marriage or like
a photo or anything, I.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Mean, and how it exists, like we can put them away.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I'm not saying I don't want them, you know, like
plaster on the liv wall when you walk in. Probably not,
But I would still understand that this happened. Like you said,
it's a part of his history, right, I mean she
didn't do anything to me.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
I mean she passed away.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Right, Theoretically, in this theory, we're doing like she passed away,
and I don't want him to forget her. But on
our special day, probably not. This is today is about
us because you're loving a not complete person. I feel
like at that point, like.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
A part of their heart will always be with the
spouse that they thought they were going to spend the
rest of their life with.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
And that's totally fair.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
But like on our special day, at least you know
it's my wedding too, right, it's a two people event.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
It's you know, for yourself, I watched that it can
be a multiple person event. It depends where you live.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
You know, it could be correct, it can be, but
my mind, for example, always me.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
And we two of us, right, That's why I'm saying
I don't think everyone can handle that situation.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I really don't think that, I agree, just my opinion.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
I mean, what, Jason, you're over here with this look
on your face of disgust, like honestly, like, okay, So
so Mike the mechanic wants to marry you, and he's like, hey,
but this, dude, I hope that with on Grinder a
while ago, like I need I need to make sure
that I he left his chain in my house.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
It's a little different, I know, for multiple years.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay, but honestly, though, do you want a person who
is who is essentially you're replacing them? I mean, okay, okay,
imagine this, imagine imagine okay, you're you're my beloved co worker, right,
you my beloved co worker. God forbid, I hate this example,
but God forbid, you decide I'm going to I'm I'm
(06:31):
gonna move on. I'm going to go and be Britney
Spears's manager. And everyone's happy, well sort of happy for you. Yeah,
I mean, like it's a little late in the game
for that, but you know, still, Okay, so you're gonna
be Britney Spears's manager.
Speaker 5 (06:41):
We're also happy for you. We're clapping or whatever, and
you know, it's it's a wonderful it's a.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Wonderful baying like you know, here's to the jolly goodfellow whatever. Okay,
So then we have to replace you. Sadly, it's terrible.
But we have a picture of you right there in
your chair that stares at the new person every single
and it says, we miss so we miss you so
much Jason Brown, you know, to the greatest person to
(07:06):
ever sit in this chair, Jason Brown, you know. And
the new person asked to sit there and stare at
that all morning. I mean, it might be true, but
what I'm saying is nobody wants that daily reminder that
like there was somebody greater than me here.
Speaker 6 (07:20):
That's completely it is not at all. It is completely different.
This is someone task away. I didn't die, but you're
not here anymore. Better even crazier people I've somehow found them.
(07:42):
But that's so different. There's nothing like I can't even
imagine the pain of losing a spouse. So I look
at I have I have not been through that.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
There.
Speaker 6 (07:53):
I cannot say one single thing about how you deal
with it. That pain is like, I can you even
think about how that makes you feel?
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Like?
Speaker 6 (08:06):
You can feel all you want, But I would have
to be fine with It's not like it's competition.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
He's gone, yeah, but don't. Don't my feelings about this matter.
I'm marrying you now. It's about me now, it's not
about that person. I'm so sorry for what happened. But
I feel like if we're honoring your ex husband at
your new wedding, I mean, listen to that sentence.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
That doesn't say anything about the grief and how she
deals with it. I'm sorry, absolutely my opinion, you didn't
you know, go through that. She did, So whatever she
needs to do to feel better, that's what she gets
to do.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Yeah, at your wedding. At your wedding, we're going to
honor another guy, Jason. If someone died that they were
married to, who am I to say? You don't get
too honestly, the new husband, it doesn't matter. Goodness pining
away so quiet.
Speaker 7 (08:53):
Over here, Oh, because I was trying to figure out
whose side I'm on today, and I think I want
to be on the right side today.
Speaker 5 (09:03):
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
It's welcome. It's nice over here.
Speaker 7 (09:06):
Because fred it's dead. So like, literally, they're never going
to be your competition, competing with the goal.
Speaker 8 (09:12):
Never.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I don't think that's true. I don't think that's true.
I think if a person is still honoring their ex
husband at the wedding to the new person, you're constantly
being compared to that.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
First of all, it's just me.
Speaker 7 (09:25):
I'm wearing change, a symbol of somebody I love that
has passed on.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Yes it, I.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
Mean for you would have to walk away like it
bother you. Then you would have to say, listen, this
is not for me.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I can't handle that.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
She's not wearing his chain, she's wearing his wedding ring neck.
Oh my god, what do you want me to do?
Speaker 9 (09:45):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (09:46):
No, she can keep it. I don't melt it down.
I'm not trying to. I'm not trying to destroy the
human being. I mean I did. We're moving on. We're
moving on to Cleveland. Hey, Roberta, Roberta, how you doing?
What did you want? This is nuts? You guys are crazy.
Speaker 10 (10:02):
I agree with me either. Why he why is he like?
Why is he comparing himself to a ghost?
Speaker 9 (10:08):
Like?
Speaker 11 (10:08):
Why did he feel like he's in competition with him?
Like she knew what he was getting me into.
Speaker 10 (10:12):
He knew that she was a widow, and he knew
that she.
Speaker 11 (10:15):
Loved that she loved him.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
But isn't the memory enough?
Speaker 10 (10:19):
I mean, it's fraud.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
What, Roberta, are you? Are you married?
Speaker 12 (10:27):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Would you have been okay with your husband honoring another
woman who he was previously married to at his wedding
to you? Come on, Roberta, come on, there's a time
and a place for this stuff. I'm not saying we
raised his memory. I'm not saying that it wasn't they're
not Is that a fun time in your life? But
I mean, so you tell me when when I take
your clothes off at the end of the night, I
gotta look at the wedding ring of the dude from before.
Speaker 11 (10:52):
It's like a tattoo if somebody had a tattoo, you
know what I'm saying. Or the tramp stamps, you know,
like it's little reminder. But why are you like he.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Knew who's getting a tram stamp with him?
Speaker 5 (11:06):
Roberto what kind of tattoos you got? I'm worried about you.
Speaker 11 (11:10):
I got a lot.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
How you doing so?
Speaker 10 (11:12):
You know that some women get their their spouses names
on them, although they shouldn't. But you know, it's so
it's like that, but like this person is dead, Like
why is he trying to like why is he trying
to compete with him?
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Right? Why am I being reminded of him? I guess
it's going to be hard enough to just camein's original point.
The amount of trauma that must you know, that you
must endure to process something like that is extreme, like
and there's no one questioning that. But I guess I
would wonder if we're doing that, are you really ready
for me? I guess would be the question that I
(11:49):
would be asked.
Speaker 10 (11:50):
But do you not think that they had the conversation beforehand?
Like I'm sure that he was aware that he meant
something really special to her because that was her at
some point, so he should have had that in the
back of his mind before he asked her to marry him.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yeah, but he also he's gone to Reddit because he
feels a little shocked by this gesture, like he didn't
see this case.
Speaker 11 (12:11):
He's a man, he doesn't know how to communicate.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I mean, he wrote very clearly. I read it so.
Speaker 9 (12:19):
A day.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
I don't think anyone is saying that you don't honor
what was. I just don't know if that's the time
and the place and the way to manifest him, because
because I do think you also have to consider how
it makes the person you're marrying feel. That person's feelings
matter too in this but the grief that comes with
losing a spouse.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
And then I'm back at this wedding place where I
only saw this for my past husband, So it's like
it's something that maybe makes her feel safe in that
moment to like I'm doing this again. I'm trying to
love again without the fear of losing this person again.
It's just a little sense of comfort, like a blanky.
I cannot bring my blanket, like you know.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Why is your dead husband your comfort? I'm your comfort.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
It takes a special kind of person, and it's okay,
Like everybody's feelings are valid. If it's not working for you,
that's okay, that's okay period.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Okay to want to Hi, Hi, Hey, so sad that
you were in a situation like this, and I am
sorry that you encountered this.
Speaker 9 (13:15):
Thank you. I was with some one for ten years.
We had three boys together, and unfortunately he passed away
and about fourish Almost five years later, I met some
one else. We were married. My system off from my
previous marriage was my matrod of honor. Her husband helped
pay for our limo, and we're still very active in
(13:38):
each other's lives. We go on vacations together with each
other's families and everything. So I think it just depends
on how mature you take the situation. I'm sure that
my husband probably feels a certain way, but because we
have children together, he just wanted to give them as
much love as he could doing if they had a loss.
(14:00):
So I just think that sometimes you have to think
about that person is all over with you, and if
it was you that passed away, would you want your
wife to forget about you and never ever think about
you ever again? No, I think that's hard to say
if you haven't been in a situation.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
No to what, I wouldn't, But I also I wouldn't.
I guess I can tell you I wouldn't expect to
be honored in any way at her wedding to another man.
I don't think that's the time and the place. I'm
not saying that you shouldn't be friends with your I
mean everything that you just said is completely reasonable. You
have kids in a family. You didn't ask for any
of this, that's all reasonable. I just don't know why,
you know, we we have the ice sculpture of the
(14:38):
man at the rehearsal, like I don't know, Like I
don't know. Don't we don't need to do that, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 9 (14:43):
Yeah? Ice sculpture might be a little much?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 9 (14:45):
I mean, I guess she wanted to wear the necklace.
I mean, maybe not on her neck per se, but
maybe intertwined in her garter or something like that. I mean,
I don't I.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Don't think we needed any closer to the virgin than time.
Just think there's a time and a place. But hey,
and thank you for sharing. And I'm sorry that happened
to you. And I appreciate your perspective.
Speaker 9 (15:09):
Your friend, and I hope that everything turned out great
for her.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Thank you so much. Luckily I don't know this person,
because if I did, I wouldn't I would be uninvited
to the way. Hey, Kyle, how you doing? Good morning? Hey,
turn the radio down, Kyle, please, Okay, there you go.
Hey man, what do you want to say? Go ahead?
Speaker 13 (15:27):
Hey, I'm just saying I agree with you. I mean
the guy unfortunately he passed away. But at the same time,
like he don't need to remember that at my wedding
because hey, this is my day, Like why do you
take my shign off of me? And no, it's not
about being a competition or anything. But how would you
feel if I wore my ex wife's bringing as she
passed away. You're gonna have a whole fee.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah, I don't think that would go over very well
with very many people. But thank you, Kyle, have a
good day. I appreciate you. No, but somebody said, here's
the thing somebody said on here. What did they say,
Fred isn't ready to marry a widow because he's not
accepting it her fully. First of all, I don't know
what you're talking about. That is it is case by case.
I'm talking about a particular case where it seems like
a woman is not necessarily over her previous marriage. That's
(16:10):
what it seems like to me. But I don't think
we're considering the other side of this. I think we're
only considering the needs of this woman. Okay, because as
a guy who has dated people who have lost their
previous significant other, I'm accepting of that. Person's situation. But
I think that person needs to be accepting of mine,
which is that I'm going to be insecure about this
(16:32):
man that you loved and didn't do anything wrong. This
isn't a breakup, this isn't a divorce. I mean, you know,
everything was fine and then they were gone and that
is awful, right, But like that's going to be difficult
for me too. So why are we Why do we
have to put that in my face on that day?
I guess it'll be the question that I'm asking because
as much as I am going to be obviously i'm
(16:54):
marrying you, I'm accepting of of whatever you've been through.
I think you also have to accept the face. Wow,
I wouldn't even be here if that hadn't happened. And
you know, that's a significant relationship that ended with zero closure.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
Did they say how long she had been widowed before
they started to get it?
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Didn't say? And by the way, someone says that screams insecurity. Yeah,
I said that from the beginning. It does. I'm insecure
about it.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I'm very honest.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
I'm telling you. I know, I know it's an unpopular opinion.
I'm just telling you what I.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Think and I respect that. I respect that. I mean,
I think we should all be able to say our opinions.
And that's okay.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I did say from the beginning when I told you
I was keeping it on the reel. It's an unpopular opinion.
And you guys can cut on me all day, but
that's what I think. Oh, I have agree with you,
and it would be it would absolutely be an insecurity.
Absolutely it would.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
Be because I don't know if you ever get over that,
because it wasn't there's no closure, there wasn't any problem. Yeah,
So it's like you say, she's not over it. I
wonder if you ever do. I mean, who knows. I
couldn't speak on it.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
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Speaker 5 (18:02):
It's stay or go all right, Daniel is here, Hi, Daniel,
Good morning.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Good morning Daniel. What's going on with this is you're
a married man, okay, and you got some kids and
your wife is up to something. You think, maybe what's
the situation?
Speaker 12 (18:22):
So I wanted to get some advice, you know, relationship advice.
So my youngest daughter mentioned something to me about mommy's
new friend Jeff's house. So I was, you know, kind
of caught off guard by that.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
So I asked my wife. She told me their kids.
Speaker 12 (18:39):
You know, my daughter made friends at the park with
this girl, and they went over to their house, the
new friend's house, for a playdate, and Jeff is their dad.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Okay, Jeff is all right, all right, So the kids
are playing and they go over to Jeff's house. Okay.
Speaker 9 (18:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 12 (18:57):
And so I was just a little put off by that,
Like my.
Speaker 14 (19:00):
Wife didn't tell me.
Speaker 12 (19:00):
I had to find out through my daughter, and so
I guess my way. I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Am I wrong to be bothered at? My wife was
married to me, obviously went over to a single man's house.
Speaker 12 (19:10):
This is a single dad, and I didn't know anything
about it.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
I don't think this is a problem. Why is this
a problem?
Speaker 2 (19:17):
It's not.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Why is this a problem? I mean, the kids are
playing like, it's not the kid's fault that you know,
Jeff got divorced or whatever sort right, I'm sorry, what
if Jeff's gay?
Speaker 5 (19:29):
Do we know?
Speaker 1 (19:29):
What do we know about Jeff? How much do we
know about this man? I mean, I I'm being honest
I'm not. I'm not invalidating your concern. I just I think, like,
do you do you always are you always fully briefed
on the on the relationship status of the parents of
the playdate, honestly, And I'm not again, Daniel, I'm not
making funny here, but I'm serious.
Speaker 12 (19:48):
No, I mean, and I confronted my wife and she said,
you know, it's not a big deal. She just the
fact that she didn't bring it up, you know.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Me suspicious.
Speaker 12 (19:55):
And you know, obviously I'm a little insecure about it.
And I you know, I if the tables were turned
and I was stay at home dad and I went
to a single mom's house, I would be, you know,
have the wherewithal to tell my wife, Hey, I'm going
over to you know whatever Stacy's house and you know,
hang out with it, you know, just so you're aware
of what's going on. The fact that it wasn't you know,
(20:15):
he mentioned to me put me off. I had to
find out through my daughter. And then the way she said,
she's like mommy's new friend.
Speaker 5 (20:21):
Jeff.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Okay, well, the wording of that was.
Speaker 5 (20:23):
A little.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Like I'm gonna, I'm gonna I'm gonna put a crazy
one out there for you, because I am crazy, so
I can do that. Let's say that your wife went
over to Samantha's house and Samantha had a couple of kids.
We're not worried about that, right, We don't say anything
about that, about Samantha a single mom.
Speaker 12 (20:42):
Right, Sure, No, I'm not worried about that, because.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
It turns out Samantha's and lesbian. Oh turn, it turns
out his wife is exploring, experimenting. Turns out not to say,
I'm just saying if it were a woman, we wouldn't
say anything about this, and we wouldn't say anything because
we don't think there's a sexual threat, because that's what
this is about. This is about the potential for a
(21:06):
sexual threat, when really it's about the kids playing. Now,
I admitted last hour, I'm an insecure person. This doesn't
bother me because why I'm married to this person. Why
are they automatically cheating on me if they're alone with
a single person. That could be happening anywhere. Why ouse,
Why are you in the house. Where are the kids
supposed to play at a park? The kids play at
(21:26):
a park.
Speaker 7 (21:27):
You don't need to be in Tim's house or John's
house without telling me anything.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
John could be a serial killer.
Speaker 7 (21:32):
And you got you and my kids in that house
and no one has said anything to me.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
Absolutely not what Samantha could be a serial killer?
Speaker 7 (21:39):
Jamantha, Samantha could, but I know John might be for real,
I'm not no, no, no, no. My man doesn't need
to be in any other woman's house without my knowledge.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
You guys, if she were alone, if she were like,
if the kids weren't there, Yeah, then that's a problem.
Speaker 7 (21:54):
Know that the kids might have been in the basement
playing at her and Timmy what's.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
His name, Jeff, Yeah, my friend.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
Jeff, mom stay as playing.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
People are texting that, they're saying, why are they saying
Jeff's Mommy's friend Jeff's house and not my friend Susie.
Speaker 4 (22:08):
Right, like you know the age of the kid, Like
maybe that's but you.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
You guys, I am in the look. I am insecure
in relationships. Many may I have a lot of unreasonable
thoughts about what I am into and what I'm not into,
and what I think is cool, what I don't think
is cool. But I have to tell you when it
comes to the kids, I mean, there's there are going
to be situations where one parents they are the other parents,
not single parent, moms at work, dads at work, you know,
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soccer practice moms, their dad took the kids, mom, mom.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
And sister wives everybody.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
What I'm just saying, why do we automatically jump to
there has to be infidelity?
Speaker 3 (22:47):
I don't think in fidelity my well, my concern is
maybe I over communicate with my husband. But do people
not talk at the end of the night where it's
like you're in bed, you want to, you know, chuck
yourself in, Oh, how was your day?
Speaker 14 (22:58):
All?
Speaker 2 (22:58):
It was good.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
We went to Jeff's house and little Susie played with
little Jimmy and they had a great time. Like why
are they not telling each other this? I tell my
husband everything. I'll be like, oh, yeah, I was here today.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
I mean this, be more concerned, Paulina. If it were
over explained to me my wife, Now, Jeff's a single day,
but you have nothing to worry about it because the kids.
I'd be like, wait a minute, I wasn't working about it.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
He's gay. No, not even that.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
It's just like I feel like you just communicate with
your partner and say, how.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Is your day?
Speaker 1 (23:23):
What did you do?
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Would you see where'd you go? Like, I don't know,
it's a little panter.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
No, do you have any suspicion of your wife? Otherwise
I think I'm not invalidating your feelings because the are
a lot of people apparently that agree with you, that
think it's inappropriate. I guess when it comes to the kids,
I guess I don't necessarily think you get to choose,
you know, the marital status of the parents of the kids.
That your friends be friends, right. I tend to agree
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with your co hosts.
Speaker 12 (23:49):
I think everything should be out in the open and
have an open line of communication. If there's nothing to hide,
then us nothing you can't say then, just to be
open and just. And if she went to a female's house,
I'd like to know that too, just for the fact
that we're married, we're life partners. Our lives, you know,
do revolve around each other and our children. So it's
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nice to know if God forbid, something does happen where
she was, what she's doing. So I think that's only
fair and open line of communication and a marriage to me,
and I would offer her the same respect from my
vantage point. If the table's returned, so me not getting
it it's just alarm bells went off.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Yeah, and I hear what you're saying. I just think
there are far more sinister ways to conceal infidelity than
play dates out And maybe it's maybe it's like you know,
right out in the open. Maybe you should be worried
about this because it's just so obvious that. But at
the same time, if you don't suspect your wife, if
you don't suspect she's a cheater, if you've never suspected
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she's a cheater, then why are we putting that on
her now? In this one situation that is pretty easily explainable.
The kids met at the park, they hung out. It's
not as though you can say, no, kids, I'm sorry,
but we can't go over to that house because daddy
said that Jeff's a predator, you know, And Daniel, I'm
just say, I mean, it sounds ridiculous, and again not
making fun of you, but like, come on, you know
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what I mean. It's not as though she I don't
think we targeted the guy in the playground. Hey, kids,
go play with those kids because daddy's hot, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 12 (25:17):
I find it a respect. I wouldn't do that on
my end, I wouldn't go to a single our female's house,
whether single or marriage. Just to me, it would be
just putting yourself in a situation where it's not necessary.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
So I just wouldn't do that.
Speaker 12 (25:30):
So I feel like I should be given that in return,
as you know, equal boundaries, And it's just not even
putting myself in the situation. It just temptation isn't even there.
There's no you know, because that's what leads to others things.
It's just it can easily go down that path.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
So I'd rather not even dabble.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Just this is ridiculous.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
I'm gonna say, communicate with your partner at the end
of the night, when you're having your tea, whatever you
guys do together at night, your wine.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Just say this is how my day went. That's all
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
But he's taking it too far now, just because you're
a single mom all of a sudden, like you're attempted
to come on like.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Relax, what's at Jeff's house that's not at our house?
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Maybe Jeff, maybe he's the cool guy with the bounce
house or the no no no, the loo. Maybe it's
the loop.
Speaker 7 (26:17):
You gotta be the loop because they were in the backyard.
They say, we were in their house. Hey, why what's
in Jeff's house that is not at our house?
Speaker 1 (26:25):
I come on, he don't know.
Speaker 7 (26:28):
I'm telling you, guys, I don't say leave your wife,
but you need to investigate.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
You need to go to work and circle the block
and pop up what.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
You Guys, we can't just suspect our partners of cheating
all the time, just automatically because we're alone with another
single person, Like, we just can't do that. Let me
take some let me take some phone calls, Daniel, have
a great day, thanks for calling.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
I don't even know. I say, they don't have to
be single for things to happen.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Also, there's so many other ways this could be. And
I'm just guys, come on, And people are like, Fred,
you're wrong about guys. Right last hour, I told you
I'm insecure at this hour, I'm like a ghost about
a ghost. But in this hour, guys, I can't. I cannot.
If I'm married to someone, I cannot constantly police who
they're with and when and why. Okay, So she goes
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to work and there's a single guy the cubicle next
to her.
Speaker 7 (27:18):
They're doing it no, no, there at work, there work,
they're not.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
That doesn't mean anything. Did you see the story in
Charlotte last week and the people who have work and
they go to the top of the parking garage and
they're doing it in the back of the car, and
it went viral in all of the world, all over
TikTok because these people were doing it in the middle
of work.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Imagine what they doing in the back.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Of before runner where there's a bed.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Imagine what you write.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
You guys, Come on, Megan, Hi, Megan, good morning.
Speaker 15 (27:43):
Hi, good morning. I cannot believe I got through. But anyways,
I think it definitely needs to be a conversation. I'm
not saying he needs to go, but there needs to
be more of a conversation. The little girl said, mommy's
new friend. The little girl didn't say my new friend.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
That's right.
Speaker 15 (28:01):
I think it doesn't matter like kids know like kids,
kids are smart, and so I think that the way
that the little girl phrased it, she didn't talk about
her new friend, Susie. She talked about mom's new friend
Jeff's house. Whether Jeff has kids or Jeff single, it
doesn't matter one way or the other.
Speaker 11 (28:20):
The way that this was set up.
Speaker 15 (28:22):
Was mom was going to her friend's house.
Speaker 8 (28:24):
A little girl didn't.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Go to her friend.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
My sister thought she was a horse when she was
a toddler, you know, like she maybe she just phrased
it that way.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
I don't know that. I mean, you're right, maybe there's
a raw honesty from a child that you know is
truly revealing. But someone texted, I'm being disrespectful or insensitive
about this. No, I'm not. What I'm doing is I'm
not automatically running to infidelity.
Speaker 13 (28:48):
Just because.
Speaker 9 (28:51):
You're together.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
He did, that's his concern, and I'm not being I'm
not being insensitive, but I'm I'm I'm arguing that I
don't think that's fair to her, a person who he's
married to and trust and had kids with, and says
admittedly on our show he's had no reason to doubt her.
And now all of a sudden, their kids meet a
single dad, and now automatically he's they're they're they're sleeping
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with each other. Guys, that's yeah, I'd want to.
Speaker 15 (29:17):
Invest to get I'd want to talk to the kid
more and be like, where did you meet this person?
Because mom said, oh, the kids met at the park.
How do we know the kids really met at the park.
The mom can tell the kid, oh, yeah, this is
the friend you met at the park the other day.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Megan, thank you and I appreciate the call. Have a
good day. I'm a I'm a single guy. I've been
single my whole life. I have tons of married friends
whose husbands are at work, and sometimes we'll go to
lunch or sometimes I've even gone to stuff. I've even
gone to stuff with mom and kid when dad's out
of town. And I'm not pretending to be the dad.
(29:50):
I'm just accompanying because you know, hey, we got this
thing in the park. You know you went.
Speaker 5 (29:55):
I'm not sleeping with these people. I'm not saying with
his people, but like he would look at you.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
I think it's unfair to me as a single guy
that we automatically always target me as the guy who's
up to something. I can't just be friends with a
woman who's married without sleeping with her. It's impossible. Sound Yeah,
so I think you're being insensitive, type casting me as
a bad dude or Jeff over here. I don't think,
but we don't know. Maybe Jeff is a dirty dog.
(30:23):
Maybe Jeff is gay. Yeah, we really don't know. True,
he can be out a dirty dog, but if he's
getting a dirty dog and he's dirty dog in somewhere.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Dotail's house, I.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Think it is insensitive to automatically jump to infidelity every
time your spouse or girlfriend or partner is doing something
with another human being of the opposite sex. Yes, thank you,
thank you, Tanya, Hi, Hi there, good morning.
Speaker 16 (30:54):
I honestly feel like he should invite have his wife
invite Jeff to their house and see if Jeff is
open to meeting them together, because I kind of get
the feeling that maybe, like the mom and Jeff had
this thing going on and they were like, Hey, I
want to be able to see you, you know more.
Maybe we can have a playdate for our kids at
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the park and they can like, you know, and then
we can have an excuse to get together. I honestly
think it's kind of fishy, I.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Guess, but I you know, I mean, that's a different
level of awful. If this woman is using the children
to play in the other room while she cheats on dad, like,
that's a whole different thing. While Wow, we have apparently
Jeff and mom, the woman that he's married to that
he committed to life. Apparently she's the worst human being
(31:43):
to involve her children in infidelity. Like, guys, this is crazy.
Speaker 6 (31:47):
I have to ask for any of this, and all
of a sudden, we're like making you like come over
and meet the family and.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
Tanya, Do I think there could be better communication? Absolutely?
But you guys, we cannot just jump to the worst.
We cannot just put this on people all the time,
Like why is everyone a cheater?
Speaker 16 (32:05):
I have young kids, and I will tell you this.
They do not know people's names. Like my kids don't
know their friend's parents' names, So the fact that they
know the parents name is kind of suspicious to me.
My friend, my kids severely learn their friend's name.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
All right, you know, tell me these are all good points.
I appreciate that. Thank you, Thank you for listening. Have
a good day.
Speaker 4 (32:25):
You're not laughing at you.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
And by the way, we weren't laughing at her at all.
It's just can you just over here stirring it up?
Oh yeah, you saying it? Look what you've done with
these people?
Speaker 2 (32:35):
Everyone is cheating?
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Why are we Who is being insensitive? No one's being insensitive.
I just don't think that it's fair to label this
person as a cheater for this. We don't know that,
Aaron High, Aaron, we can't just call everybody you cheater
every time. Giky, she does, I know, and if you will,
what did you want to say? Arin? Please please take
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it about.
Speaker 8 (33:04):
I hate to be if I'm taking side to your friend.
I'm kind of against you.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
I hate to say it's okay. I think I'm used
to it.
Speaker 8 (33:09):
I don't think they should go. I think there were
two questions that are important that you didn't ask, And
the first one was the age of the child does matter?
Because of how she phrase it of Jeff's friend if
she's three or four, and saying that it is different
than if she's eight, and saying Jeff's friend's house. So
that's number one. Number two is I'd be a little
bit questionable. I hate to bring this up. The income
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of the families. I kind of have a I talked
to a lot of people, and I am aware that
people that are more affluent, that have more money are
very open to open relationships and saw there now they're
rich and swinging.
Speaker 14 (33:52):
I'm just saying it.
Speaker 1 (33:58):
So much in Aaron, You're fantastic, so so it's possible
that there's socioeconomic status.
Speaker 8 (34:08):
No, I'm speaking, I got. I used to teach it
wh park and that was very common in the affluence.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Okay, okay, got no, fair enough, there's there are some
freaky things when I'm in the suburbs out there. Hey, Aaron,
thank you have a good day, problem you guys, I don't.
I'm sorry, I just I can't with this. So we
got to do a full vetting process before my wife,
if I were married, before my wife can take my
kids to hang out with.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Just to see his taxes?
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Hey, can we do a full std and blood panel
on this guy. I want to know. I want to
know what Jeff's lippings are like, is.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Just as the toddler, Like, let's give the toddler that trauma.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Like, does he have low TI? If he has low See,
nothing's going on.
Speaker 5 (34:53):
Here, Bianca, Hi, Bianca, out of control?
Speaker 1 (35:11):
High bank? Sorry yeah, Hi, it's your turn, please say something?
Speaker 11 (35:18):
Can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Yes? Of course, yes, yes, Bianca go.
Speaker 14 (35:23):
Hey, Hey, Hey, I was calling them to say, there's
no way a mom with a couple of kids is
having an affair just because she goes to Jeff's house.
We are so tired. We are just glad to have
people who want to be with our children and entertain
our kids. And if I'm giving the choice between sleeping
with somebody else or taking a nap, I'm always going
(35:45):
to take the nap.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
Read girl.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Yeah, I just again, I think it's really unfair to
just say, oh, two people, man and a woman.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
Now you're taking Yes, you're taking a napat Jeff's house.
Speaker 11 (35:59):
I mean I'm gonna be taking a nap if I'm
going to hang.
Speaker 14 (36:02):
Out with my kids and play.
Speaker 9 (36:04):
I am totally down.
Speaker 10 (36:05):
I am in okay, you're.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Not helping anything.
Speaker 5 (36:13):
Get out of just man, get out of Thank you
have a good day in my car.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
I gotta go. Well, now you're doing in the car,
do it in the car while the kids playing. Now
you're a netliging parent too. Somebody calls alone with a man.
You just me, oh my god, taking a nap, honey,
don't walk outside, you might it's the mailman. Single you guys.
(36:44):
You guys are crazy.
Speaker 5 (36:45):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
Hey, I'll tell you what if we find out, if
we find out that this woman is cheating, and I
take it all back and I'm sorry, and I will
publicly apologize, and I'll be roasted at the at the square.
You can stone me at the square if this is
what it. But I just don't. I think it's a
I think we're really jumping here. And let me tell
you something else. If I went on the air and
(37:07):
I said, and if I were married with kids, and
I went on the air and I said, yeah, my wife,
you know my my my kids have a school friend
and you know he's a stay at home dad, and
they were over there yesterday while I was at work.
They were having brunch and playing in the backyard, and
she's obviously cheating. You guys would crush me. You would
crush me. You'd be like the we don't know the location.
(37:31):
We don't know the venue of the hangout.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
You said, a school friend that has history there.
Speaker 1 (37:38):
If I went on the air, Paulina and I said,
my wife was hanging out with our kids and a
single dad. Obviously she's up to something, you guys would
destroy me to pieces. And all I'm saying is, we
don't know that. And so now you're gonna go you're
an accuser of cheating. You're gonna accuse her of cheating
in front of the kids, using the kids as a decoy.
(37:59):
I mean, that's a lot, a lot of accusation.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
It's a lot of work to spin the block.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
And I'll tell you what if she if she's doing
all that, she's a bad human being.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
Right and she smashes on the first date forty night
at the.
Speaker 1 (38:11):
Park, I mean great, Yeah, it was more of a
second date thing. So totally classic, way classy. The Entertainer
Report and show up his kicking next Fred Show.
A Dude's fiance plans to wear her late husband's wedding
ring on a chain around her neck during the wedding
ceremony to the new guy. So her husband is dead okay,
and she's going to she wants to wear the wedding ring.
I guess his wedding ring that from when they were
(00:23):
married before he died, around her neck when she marries
another guy, the next guy. Okay. She says it's a
quiet tribute to the guy she once loved, who passed
away in a tragic car accident five years ago. She
believes the law shaped who she is today and wants
to carry that part of her past into the new chapter.
But her fiance's not feeling great about him. He says
(00:44):
it makes him feel like he's sharing the most important
day of his life with someone who isn't there, and
like he's somehow second place. And people on the forum
are torn. Some stood with the groom, saying the wedding
should be about the new relationship, not the old one.
Other's suggested a compromise, like a symbolic gesture instead of
wearing the ring. I would, if I'm being one hundred
(01:07):
percent transparent, if I'm keeping it on on the reel,
one hundred percent on the one. If I'm being one
hundred with you, okay, please, I'm gonna be one hundred
with you as opposed to the ninety nine I usually am.
I'm gonna be a hundred. I wouldn't like him. I
wouldn't like him. I wouldn't like it. You wouldn't be either.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
No, I would not.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Okay, good because you're like, yeah, I know, I know Fred,
I know Fred, You weak, little, weak little nugget.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
No.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
No, can you imagine if Hobby in Vegas at the
wedding had a ring around his neck of a that
he gave to another woman who's dead.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
See, okay, I have compassion.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
You would not.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
No, I upset.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I'd be bothered for sure. But like, it's sad if
that person tragically died. I mean that's awful.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Nobody's saying that's not sad or awful, But like, yeah,
why are we I mean you're marrying me now? Like
this day be about us?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Correct?
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Why are we still reflecting on this person? I'm sorry
this person died. I'm sorry this person is not in
your life anymore. But the feeling that it would give
me is and it's pretty clear if that dude weren't dead,
I wouldn't be standing here. You never would have chosen me,
This wouldn't even obviously, this wouldn't even be happening. True. Yes, well,
I know, I don't think i'd be reminded of that.
(02:22):
I don't know. I don't need to be reminded of
the person that I'm marrying now and committing to the
rest of my life with would probably rather be with
someone else if they weren't dead.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Yeah, it takes a special kind of person to be
with a widow. I don't think everyone can do it.
But I'm in a similar situation. Actually, one of the
bachelorettes I have coming up, her previous boyfriend passed away
and it was tragic, and his mom wants to pay
for something on her bachelorette for a new guy. She's
getting married to a new guy and her mom, her
former boyfriend's mom, wants to pay for something for us,
(02:51):
like a table or a night.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
When we go out.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah, and but some of my friends, which I don't
think it was their place to say, are like, no,
completely unacceptable, Like that's you should be doing that, Like
your fiance is going to be upset, and I don't know,
I thought that that was kind of wild. Yeah, yeah,
thing to you.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
It's kind of interesting, like I'm gonna pay for you
guys to go ahead and get hammered.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yeah for the why did the best of the wedding?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Dude?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Yeah, But she, like I guess, feels like this.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Is the closest she's going to get to, Like I
don't know, her son getting married, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
She's like happy for her. She still talks to her.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
So it is, but it is interesting.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
That's nice.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
It's something.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
It'sn't even marrying a widow like, uh, it's not even
it's even so much that it's it's okay, I'm marrying
a widow. So I'm already aware that you were fully
in love with another guy. I actually just happened to
a family member of mine, and I've never discussed it
with her. I've discussed it with her family though, And
this dude. Sadly, when on a business trip the company
(03:48):
had private jets. There were two private jets. Everybody piled
in one or the other. There was no rhyme or
reason one made it the other one didn't, and so
there was I don't know the inside of their relationship,
but from what I understand, they they were relatively newly married,
like everything was fine, you know, and then he's gone, right,
so she moved on married another guy, had kids with them,
everything's great, and I wonder, like I wonder, does that
guy ever lay up at night and be like, man,
(04:11):
you know, if that dude hadn't tragically died, like I
wouldn't even be here. I wouldn't have my kids, I
wouldn't have any of this. Like maybe I would have
had it with somebody else, but like that, I'm admitting
that's an insecurity, but that would get to me, I think,
But but it's that that's life. But now I got it.
Now you got to have like something tangible with you
at the wedding. To me, I'm trying to really like
(04:31):
sure resemble him, Like guys, we're moving on like right at.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
The wedding, probably not see if Hobby did that, we
wouldn't be at the Little White Wedding Chapel. I think
we'd be honestly in therapy to work through that because
it's like, why would you want to include that on
your special day?
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Are you really ready to do this? If we're still
reflecting on the best I guess that would be my question.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Have anything from their previous you know, marriage or like
a photo or anything, I.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Mean, and how it exists, like we can put them away.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I'm not saying I don't want them, you know, like
plaster on the liv wall when you walk in. Probably not,
But I would still understand that this happened. Like you said,
it's a part of his history, right, I mean she
didn't do anything to me.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
I mean she passed away.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Right, Theoretically, in this theory, we're doing like she passed away,
and I don't want him to forget her. But on
our special day, probably not. This is today is about
us because you're loving a not complete person. I feel
like at that point, like.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
A part of their heart will always be with the
spouse that they thought they were going to spend the
rest of their life with.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
And that's totally fair.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
But like on our special day, at least you know
it's my wedding too, right, it's a two people event.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
It's you know, for yourself, I watched that it can
be a multiple person event. It depends where you live.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
You know, it could be correct, it can be, but
my mind, for example, always me.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
And we two of us, right, That's why I'm saying
I don't think everyone can handle that situation.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I really don't think that, I agree, just my opinion.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
I mean, what, Jason, you're over here with this look
on your face of disgust, like honestly, like, okay, So
so Mike the mechanic wants to marry you, and he's like, hey,
but this, dude, I hope that with on Grinder a
while ago, like I need I need to make sure
that I he left his chain in my house.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
It's a little different, I know, for multiple years.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay, but honestly, though, do you want a person who
is who is essentially you're replacing them? I mean, okay, okay,
imagine this, imagine imagine okay, you're you're my beloved co worker, right,
you my beloved co worker. God forbid, I hate this example,
but God forbid, you decide I'm going to I'm I'm
(06:31):
gonna move on. I'm going to go and be Britney
Spears's manager. And everyone's happy, well sort of happy for you. Yeah,
I mean, like it's a little late in the game
for that, but you know, still, Okay, so you're gonna
be Britney Spears's manager.
Speaker 5 (06:41):
We're also happy for you. We're clapping or whatever, and
you know, it's it's a wonderful it's a.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Wonderful baying like you know, here's to the jolly goodfellow whatever. Okay,
So then we have to replace you. Sadly, it's terrible.
But we have a picture of you right there in
your chair that stares at the new person every single
and it says, we miss so we miss you so
much Jason Brown, you know, to the greatest person to
(07:06):
ever sit in this chair, Jason Brown, you know. And
the new person asked to sit there and stare at
that all morning. I mean, it might be true, but
what I'm saying is nobody wants that daily reminder that
like there was somebody greater than me here.
Speaker 6 (07:20):
That's completely it is not at all. It is completely different.
This is someone task away. I didn't die, but you're
not here anymore. Better even crazier people I've somehow found them.
(07:42):
But that's so different. There's nothing like I can't even
imagine the pain of losing a spouse. So I look
at I have I have not been through that.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
There.
Speaker 6 (07:53):
I cannot say one single thing about how you deal
with it. That pain is like, I can you even
think about how that makes you feel?
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Like?
Speaker 6 (08:06):
You can feel all you want, But I would have
to be fine with It's not like it's competition.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
He's gone, yeah, but don't. Don't my feelings about this matter.
I'm marrying you now. It's about me now, it's not
about that person. I'm so sorry for what happened. But
I feel like if we're honoring your ex husband at
your new wedding, I mean, listen to that sentence.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
That doesn't say anything about the grief and how she
deals with it. I'm sorry, absolutely my opinion, you didn't
you know, go through that. She did, So whatever she
needs to do to feel better, that's what she gets
to do.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Yeah, at your wedding. At your wedding, we're going to
honor another guy, Jason. If someone died that they were
married to, who am I to say? You don't get
too honestly, the new husband, it doesn't matter. Goodness pining
away so quiet.
Speaker 7 (08:53):
Over here, Oh, because I was trying to figure out
whose side I'm on today, and I think I want
to be on the right side today.
Speaker 5 (09:03):
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
It's welcome. It's nice over here.
Speaker 7 (09:06):
Because fred it's dead. So like, literally, they're never going
to be your competition, competing with the goal.
Speaker 8 (09:12):
Never.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I don't think that's true. I don't think that's true.
I think if a person is still honoring their ex
husband at the wedding to the new person, you're constantly
being compared to that.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
First of all, it's just me.
Speaker 7 (09:25):
I'm wearing change, a symbol of somebody I love that
has passed on.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Yes it, I.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
Mean for you would have to walk away like it
bother you. Then you would have to say, listen, this
is not for me.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I can't handle that.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
She's not wearing his chain, she's wearing his wedding ring neck.
Oh my god, what do you want me to do?
Speaker 9 (09:45):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (09:46):
No, she can keep it. I don't melt it down.
I'm not trying to. I'm not trying to destroy the
human being. I mean I did. We're moving on. We're
moving on to Cleveland. Hey, Roberta, Roberta, how you doing?
What did you want? This is nuts? You guys are crazy.
Speaker 10 (10:02):
I agree with me either. Why he why is he like?
Why is he comparing himself to a ghost?
Speaker 9 (10:08):
Like?
Speaker 11 (10:08):
Why did he feel like he's in competition with him?
Like she knew what he was getting me into.
Speaker 10 (10:12):
He knew that she was a widow, and he knew
that she.
Speaker 11 (10:15):
Loved that she loved him.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
But isn't the memory enough?
Speaker 10 (10:19):
I mean, it's fraud.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
What, Roberta, are you? Are you married?
Speaker 12 (10:27):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Would you have been okay with your husband honoring another
woman who he was previously married to at his wedding
to you? Come on, Roberta, come on, there's a time
and a place for this stuff. I'm not saying we
raised his memory. I'm not saying that it wasn't they're
not Is that a fun time in your life? But
I mean, so you tell me when when I take
your clothes off at the end of the night, I
gotta look at the wedding ring of the dude from before.
Speaker 11 (10:52):
It's like a tattoo if somebody had a tattoo, you
know what I'm saying. Or the tramp stamps, you know,
like it's little reminder. But why are you like he.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Knew who's getting a tram stamp with him?
Speaker 5 (11:06):
Roberto what kind of tattoos you got? I'm worried about you.
Speaker 11 (11:10):
I got a lot.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
How you doing so?
Speaker 10 (11:12):
You know that some women get their their spouses names
on them, although they shouldn't. But you know, it's so
it's like that, but like this person is dead, Like
why is he trying to like why is he trying
to compete with him?
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Right? Why am I being reminded of him? I guess
it's going to be hard enough to just camein's original point.
The amount of trauma that must you know, that you
must endure to process something like that is extreme, like
and there's no one questioning that. But I guess I
would wonder if we're doing that, are you really ready
for me? I guess would be the question that I
(11:49):
would be asked.
Speaker 10 (11:50):
But do you not think that they had the conversation beforehand?
Like I'm sure that he was aware that he meant
something really special to her because that was her at
some point, so he should have had that in the
back of his mind before he asked her to marry him.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yeah, but he also he's gone to Reddit because he
feels a little shocked by this gesture, like he didn't
see this case.
Speaker 11 (12:11):
He's a man, he doesn't know how to communicate.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I mean, he wrote very clearly. I read it so.
Speaker 9 (12:19):
A day.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
I don't think anyone is saying that you don't honor
what was. I just don't know if that's the time
and the place and the way to manifest him, because
because I do think you also have to consider how
it makes the person you're marrying feel. That person's feelings
matter too in this but the grief that comes with
losing a spouse.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
And then I'm back at this wedding place where I
only saw this for my past husband, So it's like
it's something that maybe makes her feel safe in that
moment to like I'm doing this again. I'm trying to
love again without the fear of losing this person again.
It's just a little sense of comfort, like a blanky.
I cannot bring my blanket, like you know.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Why is your dead husband your comfort? I'm your comfort.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
It takes a special kind of person, and it's okay,
Like everybody's feelings are valid. If it's not working for you,
that's okay, that's okay period.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Okay to want to Hi, Hi, Hey, so sad that
you were in a situation like this, and I am
sorry that you encountered this.
Speaker 9 (13:15):
Thank you. I was with some one for ten years.
We had three boys together, and unfortunately he passed away
and about fourish Almost five years later, I met some
one else. We were married. My system off from my
previous marriage was my matrod of honor. Her husband helped
pay for our limo, and we're still very active in
(13:38):
each other's lives. We go on vacations together with each
other's families and everything. So I think it just depends
on how mature you take the situation. I'm sure that
my husband probably feels a certain way, but because we
have children together, he just wanted to give them as
much love as he could doing if they had a loss.
(14:00):
So I just think that sometimes you have to think
about that person is all over with you, and if
it was you that passed away, would you want your
wife to forget about you and never ever think about
you ever again? No, I think that's hard to say
if you haven't been in a situation.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
No to what, I wouldn't, But I also I wouldn't.
I guess I can tell you I wouldn't expect to
be honored in any way at her wedding to another man.
I don't think that's the time and the place. I'm
not saying that you shouldn't be friends with your I
mean everything that you just said is completely reasonable. You
have kids in a family. You didn't ask for any
of this, that's all reasonable. I just don't know why,
you know, we we have the ice sculpture of the
(14:38):
man at the rehearsal, like I don't know, Like I
don't know. Don't we don't need to do that, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 9 (14:43):
Yeah? Ice sculpture might be a little much?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 9 (14:45):
I mean, I guess she wanted to wear the necklace.
I mean, maybe not on her neck per se, but
maybe intertwined in her garter or something like that. I mean,
I don't I.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Don't think we needed any closer to the virgin than time.
Just think there's a time and a place. But hey,
and thank you for sharing. And I'm sorry that happened
to you. And I appreciate your perspective.
Speaker 9 (15:09):
Your friend, and I hope that everything turned out great
for her.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Thank you so much. Luckily I don't know this person,
because if I did, I wouldn't I would be uninvited
to the way. Hey, Kyle, how you doing? Good morning? Hey,
turn the radio down, Kyle, please, Okay, there you go.
Hey man, what do you want to say? Go ahead?
Speaker 13 (15:27):
Hey, I'm just saying I agree with you. I mean
the guy unfortunately he passed away. But at the same time,
like he don't need to remember that at my wedding
because hey, this is my day, Like why do you
take my shign off of me? And no, it's not
about being a competition or anything. But how would you
feel if I wore my ex wife's bringing as she
passed away. You're gonna have a whole fee.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah, I don't think that would go over very well
with very many people. But thank you, Kyle, have a
good day. I appreciate you. No, but somebody said, here's
the thing somebody said on here. What did they say,
Fred isn't ready to marry a widow because he's not
accepting it her fully. First of all, I don't know
what you're talking about. That is it is case by case.
I'm talking about a particular case where it seems like
a woman is not necessarily over her previous marriage. That's
(16:10):
what it seems like to me. But I don't think
we're considering the other side of this. I think we're
only considering the needs of this woman. Okay, because as
a guy who has dated people who have lost their
previous significant other, I'm accepting of that. Person's situation. But
I think that person needs to be accepting of mine,
which is that I'm going to be insecure about this
(16:32):
man that you loved and didn't do anything wrong. This
isn't a breakup, this isn't a divorce. I mean, you know,
everything was fine and then they were gone and that
is awful, right, But like that's going to be difficult
for me too. So why are we Why do we
have to put that in my face on that day?
I guess it'll be the question that I'm asking because
as much as I am going to be obviously i'm
(16:54):
marrying you, I'm accepting of of whatever you've been through.
I think you also have to accept the face. Wow,
I wouldn't even be here if that hadn't happened. And
you know, that's a significant relationship that ended with zero closure.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
Did they say how long she had been widowed before
they started to get it?
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Didn't say? And by the way, someone says that screams insecurity. Yeah,
I said that from the beginning. It does. I'm insecure
about it.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I'm very honest.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
I'm telling you. I know, I know it's an unpopular opinion.
I'm just telling you what I.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Think and I respect that. I respect that. I mean,
I think we should all be able to say our opinions.
And that's okay.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I did say from the beginning when I told you
I was keeping it on the reel. It's an unpopular opinion.
And you guys can cut on me all day, but
that's what I think. Oh, I have agree with you,
and it would be it would absolutely be an insecurity.
Absolutely it would.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
Be because I don't know if you ever get over that,
because it wasn't there's no closure, there wasn't any problem. Yeah,
So it's like you say, she's not over it. I
wonder if you ever do. I mean, who knows. I
couldn't speak on it.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
But let's do the biggest stories of the day. Next.
God got Bruno mars now back in three minute. It's
the Friend Show, Fred Show is on.
Speaker 5 (18:02):
It's stay or go all right, Daniel is here, Hi, Daniel,
Good morning.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Good morning Daniel. What's going on with this is you're
a married man, okay, and you got some kids and
your wife is up to something. You think, maybe what's
the situation?
Speaker 12 (18:22):
So I wanted to get some advice, you know, relationship advice.
So my youngest daughter mentioned something to me about mommy's
new friend Jeff's house. So I was, you know, kind
of caught off guard by that.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
So I asked my wife. She told me their kids.
Speaker 12 (18:39):
You know, my daughter made friends at the park with
this girl, and they went over to their house, the
new friend's house, for a playdate, and Jeff is their dad.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Okay, Jeff is all right, all right, So the kids
are playing and they go over to Jeff's house. Okay.
Speaker 9 (18:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 12 (18:57):
And so I was just a little put off by that,
Like my.
Speaker 14 (19:00):
Wife didn't tell me.
Speaker 12 (19:00):
I had to find out through my daughter, and so
I guess my way. I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Am I wrong to be bothered at? My wife was
married to me, obviously went over to a single man's house.
Speaker 12 (19:10):
This is a single dad, and I didn't know anything
about it.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
I don't think this is a problem. Why is this
a problem?
Speaker 2 (19:17):
It's not.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Why is this a problem? I mean, the kids are
playing like, it's not the kid's fault that you know,
Jeff got divorced or whatever sort right, I'm sorry, what
if Jeff's gay?
Speaker 5 (19:29):
Do we know?
Speaker 1 (19:29):
What do we know about Jeff? How much do we
know about this man? I mean, I I'm being honest
I'm not. I'm not invalidating your concern. I just I think, like,
do you do you always are you always fully briefed
on the on the relationship status of the parents of
the playdate, honestly, And I'm not again, Daniel, I'm not
making funny here, but I'm serious.
Speaker 12 (19:48):
No, I mean, and I confronted my wife and she said,
you know, it's not a big deal. She just the
fact that she didn't bring it up, you know.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Me suspicious.
Speaker 12 (19:55):
And you know, obviously I'm a little insecure about it.
And I you know, I if the tables were turned
and I was stay at home dad and I went
to a single mom's house, I would be, you know,
have the wherewithal to tell my wife, Hey, I'm going
over to you know whatever Stacy's house and you know,
hang out with it, you know, just so you're aware
of what's going on. The fact that it wasn't you know,
(20:15):
he mentioned to me put me off. I had to
find out through my daughter. And then the way she said,
she's like mommy's new friend.
Speaker 5 (20:21):
Jeff.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Okay, well, the wording of that was.
Speaker 5 (20:23):
A little.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Like I'm gonna, I'm gonna I'm gonna put a crazy
one out there for you, because I am crazy, so
I can do that. Let's say that your wife went
over to Samantha's house and Samantha had a couple of kids.
We're not worried about that, right, We don't say anything
about that, about Samantha a single mom.
Speaker 12 (20:42):
Right, Sure, No, I'm not worried about that, because.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
It turns out Samantha's and lesbian. Oh turn, it turns
out his wife is exploring, experimenting. Turns out not to say,
I'm just saying if it were a woman, we wouldn't
say anything about this, and we wouldn't say anything because
we don't think there's a sexual threat, because that's what
this is about. This is about the potential for a
(21:06):
sexual threat, when really it's about the kids playing. Now,
I admitted last hour, I'm an insecure person. This doesn't
bother me because why I'm married to this person. Why
are they automatically cheating on me if they're alone with
a single person. That could be happening anywhere. Why ouse,
Why are you in the house. Where are the kids
supposed to play at a park? The kids play at
(21:26):
a park.
Speaker 7 (21:27):
You don't need to be in Tim's house or John's
house without telling me anything.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
John could be a serial killer.
Speaker 7 (21:32):
And you got you and my kids in that house
and no one has said anything to me.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
Absolutely not what Samantha could be a serial killer?
Speaker 7 (21:39):
Jamantha, Samantha could, but I know John might be for real,
I'm not no, no, no, no. My man doesn't need
to be in any other woman's house without my knowledge.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
You guys, if she were alone, if she were like,
if the kids weren't there, Yeah, then that's a problem.
Speaker 7 (21:54):
Know that the kids might have been in the basement
playing at her and Timmy what's.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
His name, Jeff, Yeah, my friend.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
Jeff, mom stay as playing.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
People are texting that, they're saying, why are they saying
Jeff's Mommy's friend Jeff's house and not my friend Susie.
Speaker 4 (22:08):
Right, like you know the age of the kid, Like
maybe that's but you.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
You guys, I am in the look. I am insecure
in relationships. Many may I have a lot of unreasonable
thoughts about what I am into and what I'm not into,
and what I think is cool, what I don't think
is cool. But I have to tell you when it
comes to the kids, I mean, there's there are going
to be situations where one parents they are the other parents,
not single parent, moms at work, dads at work, you know,
(22:36):
soccer practice moms, their dad took the kids, mom, mom.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
And sister wives everybody.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
What I'm just saying, why do we automatically jump to
there has to be infidelity?
Speaker 3 (22:47):
I don't think in fidelity my well, my concern is
maybe I over communicate with my husband. But do people
not talk at the end of the night where it's
like you're in bed, you want to, you know, chuck
yourself in, Oh, how was your day?
Speaker 14 (22:58):
All?
Speaker 2 (22:58):
It was good.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
We went to Jeff's house and little Susie played with
little Jimmy and they had a great time. Like why
are they not telling each other this? I tell my
husband everything. I'll be like, oh, yeah, I was here today.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
I mean this, be more concerned, Paulina. If it were
over explained to me my wife, Now, Jeff's a single day,
but you have nothing to worry about it because the kids.
I'd be like, wait a minute, I wasn't working about it.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
He's gay. No, not even that.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
It's just like I feel like you just communicate with
your partner and say, how.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Is your day?
Speaker 1 (23:23):
What did you do?
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Would you see where'd you go? Like, I don't know,
it's a little panter.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
No, do you have any suspicion of your wife? Otherwise
I think I'm not invalidating your feelings because the are
a lot of people apparently that agree with you, that
think it's inappropriate. I guess when it comes to the kids,
I guess I don't necessarily think you get to choose,
you know, the marital status of the parents of the kids.
That your friends be friends, right. I tend to agree
(23:49):
with your co hosts.
Speaker 12 (23:49):
I think everything should be out in the open and
have an open line of communication. If there's nothing to hide,
then us nothing you can't say then, just to be
open and just. And if she went to a female's house,
I'd like to know that too, just for the fact
that we're married, we're life partners. Our lives, you know,
do revolve around each other and our children. So it's
(24:10):
nice to know if God forbid, something does happen where
she was, what she's doing. So I think that's only
fair and open line of communication and a marriage to me,
and I would offer her the same respect from my
vantage point. If the table's returned, so me not getting
it it's just alarm bells went off.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Yeah, and I hear what you're saying. I just think
there are far more sinister ways to conceal infidelity than
play dates out And maybe it's maybe it's like you know,
right out in the open. Maybe you should be worried
about this because it's just so obvious that. But at
the same time, if you don't suspect your wife, if
you don't suspect she's a cheater, if you've never suspected
(24:47):
she's a cheater, then why are we putting that on
her now? In this one situation that is pretty easily explainable.
The kids met at the park, they hung out. It's
not as though you can say, no, kids, I'm sorry,
but we can't go over to that house because daddy
said that Jeff's a predator, you know, And Daniel, I'm
just say, I mean, it sounds ridiculous, and again not
making fun of you, but like, come on, you know
(25:08):
what I mean. It's not as though she I don't
think we targeted the guy in the playground. Hey, kids,
go play with those kids because daddy's hot, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 12 (25:17):
I find it a respect. I wouldn't do that on
my end, I wouldn't go to a single our female's house,
whether single or marriage. Just to me, it would be
just putting yourself in a situation where it's not necessary.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
So I just wouldn't do that.
Speaker 12 (25:30):
So I feel like I should be given that in return,
as you know, equal boundaries, And it's just not even
putting myself in the situation. It just temptation isn't even there.
There's no you know, because that's what leads to others things.
It's just it can easily go down that path.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
So I'd rather not even dabble.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Just this is ridiculous.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
I'm gonna say, communicate with your partner at the end
of the night, when you're having your tea, whatever you
guys do together at night, your wine.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Just say this is how my day went. That's all
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
But he's taking it too far now, just because you're
a single mom all of a sudden, like you're attempted
to come on like.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Relax, what's at Jeff's house that's not at our house?
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Maybe Jeff, maybe he's the cool guy with the bounce
house or the no no no, the loo. Maybe it's
the loop.
Speaker 7 (26:17):
You gotta be the loop because they were in the backyard.
They say, we were in their house. Hey, why what's
in Jeff's house that is not at our house?
Speaker 1 (26:25):
I come on, he don't know.
Speaker 7 (26:28):
I'm telling you, guys, I don't say leave your wife,
but you need to investigate.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
You need to go to work and circle the block
and pop up what.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
You Guys, we can't just suspect our partners of cheating
all the time, just automatically because we're alone with another
single person, Like, we just can't do that. Let me
take some let me take some phone calls, Daniel, have
a great day, thanks for calling.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
I don't even know. I say, they don't have to
be single for things to happen.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Also, there's so many other ways this could be. And
I'm just guys, come on, And people are like, Fred,
you're wrong about guys. Right last hour, I told you
I'm insecure at this hour, I'm like a ghost about
a ghost. But in this hour, guys, I can't. I cannot.
If I'm married to someone, I cannot constantly police who
they're with and when and why. Okay, So she goes
(27:16):
to work and there's a single guy the cubicle next
to her.
Speaker 7 (27:18):
They're doing it no, no, there at work, there work,
they're not.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
That doesn't mean anything. Did you see the story in
Charlotte last week and the people who have work and
they go to the top of the parking garage and
they're doing it in the back of the car, and
it went viral in all of the world, all over
TikTok because these people were doing it in the middle
of work.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Imagine what they doing in the back.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Of before runner where there's a bed.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Imagine what you write.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
You guys, Come on, Megan, Hi, Megan, good morning.
Speaker 15 (27:43):
Hi, good morning. I cannot believe I got through. But anyways,
I think it definitely needs to be a conversation. I'm
not saying he needs to go, but there needs to
be more of a conversation. The little girl said, mommy's
new friend. The little girl didn't say my new friend.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
That's right.
Speaker 15 (28:01):
I think it doesn't matter like kids know like kids,
kids are smart, and so I think that the way
that the little girl phrased it, she didn't talk about
her new friend, Susie. She talked about mom's new friend
Jeff's house. Whether Jeff has kids or Jeff single, it
doesn't matter one way or the other.
Speaker 11 (28:20):
The way that this was set up.
Speaker 15 (28:22):
Was mom was going to her friend's house.
Speaker 8 (28:24):
A little girl didn't.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Go to her friend.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
My sister thought she was a horse when she was
a toddler, you know, like she maybe she just phrased
it that way.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
I don't know that. I mean, you're right, maybe there's
a raw honesty from a child that you know is
truly revealing. But someone texted, I'm being disrespectful or insensitive
about this. No, I'm not. What I'm doing is I'm
not automatically running to infidelity.
Speaker 13 (28:48):
Just because.
Speaker 9 (28:51):
You're together.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
He did, that's his concern, and I'm not being I'm
not being insensitive, but I'm I'm I'm arguing that I
don't think that's fair to her, a person who he's
married to and trust and had kids with, and says
admittedly on our show he's had no reason to doubt her.
And now all of a sudden, their kids meet a
single dad, and now automatically he's they're they're they're sleeping
(29:15):
with each other. Guys, that's yeah, I'd want to.
Speaker 15 (29:17):
Invest to get I'd want to talk to the kid
more and be like, where did you meet this person?
Because mom said, oh, the kids met at the park.
How do we know the kids really met at the park.
The mom can tell the kid, oh, yeah, this is
the friend you met at the park the other day.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Megan, thank you and I appreciate the call. Have a
good day. I'm a I'm a single guy. I've been
single my whole life. I have tons of married friends
whose husbands are at work, and sometimes we'll go to
lunch or sometimes I've even gone to stuff. I've even
gone to stuff with mom and kid when dad's out
of town. And I'm not pretending to be the dad.
(29:50):
I'm just accompanying because you know, hey, we got this
thing in the park. You know you went.
Speaker 5 (29:55):
I'm not sleeping with these people. I'm not saying with
his people, but like he would look at you.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
I think it's unfair to me as a single guy
that we automatically always target me as the guy who's
up to something. I can't just be friends with a
woman who's married without sleeping with her. It's impossible. Sound Yeah,
so I think you're being insensitive, type casting me as
a bad dude or Jeff over here. I don't think,
but we don't know. Maybe Jeff is a dirty dog.
(30:23):
Maybe Jeff is gay. Yeah, we really don't know. True,
he can be out a dirty dog, but if he's
getting a dirty dog and he's dirty dog in somewhere.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Dotail's house, I.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Think it is insensitive to automatically jump to infidelity every
time your spouse or girlfriend or partner is doing something
with another human being of the opposite sex. Yes, thank you,
thank you, Tanya, Hi, Hi there, good morning.
Speaker 16 (30:54):
I honestly feel like he should invite have his wife
invite Jeff to their house and see if Jeff is
open to meeting them together, because I kind of get
the feeling that maybe, like the mom and Jeff had
this thing going on and they were like, Hey, I
want to be able to see you, you know more.
Maybe we can have a playdate for our kids at
(31:15):
the park and they can like, you know, and then
we can have an excuse to get together. I honestly
think it's kind of fishy, I.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Guess, but I you know, I mean, that's a different
level of awful. If this woman is using the children
to play in the other room while she cheats on dad, like,
that's a whole different thing. While Wow, we have apparently
Jeff and mom, the woman that he's married to that
he committed to life. Apparently she's the worst human being
(31:43):
to involve her children in infidelity. Like, guys, this is crazy.
Speaker 6 (31:47):
I have to ask for any of this, and all
of a sudden, we're like making you like come over
and meet the family and.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
Tanya, Do I think there could be better communication? Absolutely?
But you guys, we cannot just jump to the worst.
We cannot just put this on people all the time,
Like why is everyone a cheater?
Speaker 16 (32:05):
I have young kids, and I will tell you this.
They do not know people's names. Like my kids don't
know their friend's parents' names, So the fact that they
know the parents name is kind of suspicious to me.
My friend, my kids severely learn their friend's name.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
All right, you know, tell me these are all good points.
I appreciate that. Thank you, Thank you for listening. Have
a good day.
Speaker 4 (32:25):
You're not laughing at you.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
And by the way, we weren't laughing at her at all.
It's just can you just over here stirring it up?
Oh yeah, you saying it? Look what you've done with
these people?
Speaker 2 (32:35):
Everyone is cheating?
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Why are we Who is being insensitive? No one's being insensitive.
I just don't think that it's fair to label this
person as a cheater for this. We don't know that,
Aaron High, Aaron, we can't just call everybody you cheater
every time. Giky, she does, I know, and if you will,
what did you want to say? Arin? Please please take
(33:03):
it about.
Speaker 8 (33:04):
I hate to be if I'm taking side to your friend.
I'm kind of against you.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
I hate to say it's okay. I think I'm used
to it.
Speaker 8 (33:09):
I don't think they should go. I think there were
two questions that are important that you didn't ask, And
the first one was the age of the child does matter?
Because of how she phrase it of Jeff's friend if
she's three or four, and saying that it is different
than if she's eight, and saying Jeff's friend's house. So
that's number one. Number two is I'd be a little
bit questionable. I hate to bring this up. The income
(33:32):
of the families. I kind of have a I talked
to a lot of people, and I am aware that
people that are more affluent, that have more money are
very open to open relationships and saw there now they're
rich and swinging.
Speaker 14 (33:52):
I'm just saying it.
Speaker 1 (33:58):
So much in Aaron, You're fantastic, so so it's possible
that there's socioeconomic status.
Speaker 8 (34:08):
No, I'm speaking, I got. I used to teach it
wh park and that was very common in the affluence.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Okay, okay, got no, fair enough, there's there are some
freaky things when I'm in the suburbs out there. Hey, Aaron,
thank you have a good day, problem you guys, I don't.
I'm sorry, I just I can't with this. So we
got to do a full vetting process before my wife,
if I were married, before my wife can take my
kids to hang out with.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Just to see his taxes?
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Hey, can we do a full std and blood panel
on this guy. I want to know. I want to
know what Jeff's lippings are like, is.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Just as the toddler, Like, let's give the toddler that trauma.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Like, does he have low TI? If he has low See,
nothing's going on.
Speaker 5 (34:53):
Here, Bianca, Hi, Bianca, out of control?
Speaker 1 (35:11):
High bank? Sorry yeah, Hi, it's your turn, please say something?
Speaker 11 (35:18):
Can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Yes? Of course, yes, yes, Bianca go.
Speaker 14 (35:23):
Hey, Hey, Hey, I was calling them to say, there's
no way a mom with a couple of kids is
having an affair just because she goes to Jeff's house.
We are so tired. We are just glad to have
people who want to be with our children and entertain
our kids. And if I'm giving the choice between sleeping
with somebody else or taking a nap, I'm always going
(35:45):
to take the nap.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
Read girl.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Yeah, I just again, I think it's really unfair to
just say, oh, two people, man and a woman.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
Now you're taking Yes, you're taking a napat Jeff's house.
Speaker 11 (35:59):
I mean I'm gonna be taking a nap if I'm
going to hang.
Speaker 14 (36:02):
Out with my kids and play.
Speaker 9 (36:04):
I am totally down.
Speaker 10 (36:05):
I am in okay, you're.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Not helping anything.
Speaker 5 (36:13):
Get out of just man, get out of Thank you
have a good day in my car.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
I gotta go. Well, now you're doing in the car,
do it in the car while the kids playing. Now
you're a netliging parent too. Somebody calls alone with a man.
You just me, oh my god, taking a nap, honey,
don't walk outside, you might it's the mailman. Single you guys.
(36:44):
You guys are crazy.
Speaker 5 (36:45):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
Hey, I'll tell you what if we find out, if
we find out that this woman is cheating, and I
take it all back and I'm sorry, and I will
publicly apologize, and I'll be roasted at the at the square.
You can stone me at the square if this is
what it. But I just don't. I think it's a
I think we're really jumping here. And let me tell
you something else. If I went on the air and
(37:07):
I said, and if I were married with kids, and
I went on the air and I said, yeah, my wife,
you know my my my kids have a school friend
and you know he's a stay at home dad, and
they were over there yesterday while I was at work.
They were having brunch and playing in the backyard, and
she's obviously cheating. You guys would crush me. You would
crush me. You'd be like the we don't know the location.
(37:31):
We don't know the venue of the hangout.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
You said, a school friend that has history there.
Speaker 1 (37:38):
If I went on the air, Paulina and I said,
my wife was hanging out with our kids and a
single dad. Obviously she's up to something, you guys would
destroy me to pieces. And all I'm saying is, we
don't know that. And so now you're gonna go you're
an accuser of cheating. You're gonna accuse her of cheating
in front of the kids, using the kids as a decoy.
(37:59):
I mean, that's a lot, a lot of accusation.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
It's a lot of work to spin the block.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
And I'll tell you what if she if she's doing
all that, she's a bad human being.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
Right and she smashes on the first date forty night
at the.
Speaker 1 (38:11):
Park, I mean great, Yeah, it was more of a
second date thing. So totally classic, way classy. The Entertainer
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