Radio Blogs: Bella is a Certified Hater!

Bella recently ran into someone who bullied her in high school and she wants to know if it's appropriate to still hate them.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I guess you're doing a blog. Now, go ahead, Bell,
I guess, so, yeah, sorry, we could have gone another one,
but okay, all right, Well Bell, I'm like, why is
Belle running in here? And why are you putting your
name next to Belle's ideas?

Speaker 2 (00:11):
To be honest, you already asked me, and I thought, gosh,
what did I write about a grudge? But I didn't
want to ask you because I know you don't like
when we don't remember.

Speaker 3 (00:18):
So then I was really fast, Well.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
I don't like when you don't remember what you?

Speaker 2 (00:23):
Yeah wrote, yes, yes, well you're asking me to remember
yesterday and I don't. So I scrambled because we were live,
and I told Belle to come in here, Bella.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
What's your blog? Take it? Take it away, Bella, the
phone screener, go ahead, don't do a blog?

Speaker 3 (00:36):
You your blog?

Speaker 4 (00:37):
So what's an appropriate amount of time to hold a grudge?
So a couple of weeks ago, I went back home
to San Francisco, and I ran into some people I
knew from high school, and I ran into somebody who
I still hate. It's been eleven years, and this person
wrote on my Instagram photo that I wore too much
makeup and I was ugly.

Speaker 1 (00:56):
Eleven years ago. Eleven years ago, and I we had
Instagram eleven years ago.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
Yeah, wow, I don't know that.

Speaker 4 (01:02):
And I still hate them, and I can't get over it.
And I have mutual friends that are friends with this person.
And the thing is I didn't really know this person
and he probably doesn't remember that he did this, but
I still hate him and.

Speaker 3 (01:15):
I wish I could get over it.

Speaker 4 (01:16):
And unfortunately they were at my friend's wedding that I
was at, and so I couldn't get away from them.

Speaker 1 (01:21):
And I talked to you like it never happened.

Speaker 3 (01:23):
No, I made I made sure that they knew I
didn't like that.

Speaker 1 (01:27):
How did you do that? How do you make sure
that someone knows you don't like them?

Speaker 4 (01:31):
I give them the classic ballistare I look down and
up and then a head nod back.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
Oh, shary, And I did it three times. Kicky knows
it well ye and scary yep.

Speaker 1 (01:44):
I don't know that I would ever get over anyone
calling me ugly. No, so I don't know that you
have to get over there. Now. Hate is, you know,
not necessary because hate requires energy from you. Now, that's
my thing about hate is to hate someone that's like
taxing on your system, you know what I mean, Like
like if you're running too many apps and your phone
slows down, like that's hate to me. It only works

(02:05):
against you, really because the other person doesn't really care.

Speaker 3 (02:07):
Yeah, I'm just really spiteful. I guess that's valid. But
you do have a lot of like one sided beefs.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
And I noticed I did with some of the nicest
people around the office, and those are the ones that
maybe we can let go.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
We have what other nice people do? We have beef?

Speaker 3 (02:21):
Okay, a lot person that.

Speaker 4 (02:22):
Did that was not nice to be who called me ugly.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
It was nice to you that you have beef with.

Speaker 3 (02:27):
There's just the poop shoes.

Speaker 4 (02:29):
Somebody threw away pooh shoes in front of me in
the bathroom, and I'm very afraid of pink guy.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
What are poo shoes?

Speaker 3 (02:40):
Shoes? Their shoes that they stepped and dog poop in.

Speaker 4 (02:44):
She screamed it in the bathroom while I was by
the trash can, didn't ask me to move, and threw
it at me.

Speaker 3 (02:49):
And I've never forgiven her sense.

Speaker 4 (02:51):
She's I don't even know if she remembers it, but
I do not like this person.

Speaker 3 (02:55):
She could have given me pink eye. Fred. She's one
of the nicest people of sales. Hank guy.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
I don't know what else that person was supposed to do.
They stepped in, and so they threw the shoes away.

Speaker 3 (03:04):
Excuse me, May I throw.

Speaker 4 (03:06):
I guess out of the way so I can throw
in my poop shoes.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
I think you can forgive but never forget.

Speaker 4 (03:12):
Oh, and I don't forget, because you know what I'm
with you, I don't.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
I don't always forgive. Yeah, I never forget. Yeah, but
I don't. But hate hate just it just requires too
much energy to hate.

Speaker 4 (03:26):
Yeah, in my opinion, Yeah, I'm just one of those people.
It's like, you know, I feel like I'm pretty nice.
In the second that you don't do something nice to me,
I will never forget and I will always make you remember.
I know I have to be better at that, Yeah
I will.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
I will say. I'm a very unforgiving person like you.
If you mess with me, if you do me dirty.
You guys are similar. I don't remember, you don't remember.
You don't forget either. I think you don't remember anything.
I thought you don't. I have the worst membery in
the world. That's why I let people do the same
crappy things to me over and over and over, because

(03:59):
you forget that's a get and I'm a door mat Yeah.
I thought it was just low self escape that we
all have therapy. Oh no, I tell Jason all the time.
I'm like, why are you letting people like? No? The
answer is no, like no, you can say no, but no, no,
I don't. I don't think you should harbor any this
person that you've obviously surpassed them. Look at you, Yeah,

(04:23):
you're you're famous. Now, I'm super faking. You're the boss
of the show, even though you're the lowest ranking. You're
the boss. You're scared of you. You're the mayor.

Speaker 3 (04:31):
He's scared of me.

Speaker 1 (04:32):
You're married. You know you got the Hebrew hammer that
you're married to. I mean, does does life get any better?

Speaker 2 (04:37):
No?

Speaker 3 (04:37):
It doesn't. I just want him to know that I
hate him. I just want him to know it.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
We realize affected some change in the last five minutes.
After all that, You're like, she'll I hate him, right,