Kathy Fray: Pregnancy, Birth, Babies & Motherhood – Evolving wisdom for an evolving World!

We have all been birthed onto this planet and from our first breath our journey has been one that I would like to think, of being wanted, loved and that our parents and siblings make family life one of connection and joy.

Yet, has this ideal been materialised in your life?

Kathy tells of her experience having just over the last 10 years been available 24/7 as a midwife - of assisting around 500 human babies to be born into our realm.

She also says that there is an increasing understanding of new holistic preparatory  methods, that once the prospective ‘first' mother-to-be, educates herself (along with her spouse) major positive changes eventuate. This translates to attending advanced prenatal class etc, (prior to birth) that from then on - virtually every birth becomes so much easier. That over the hours, days, weeks and months every aspect of motherhood, becomes so much easier for both baby and mother - making parenting very satisfying and fulfilling.  

She mentions that in the current obstetric system 50% of first time births for mums are dramatic and traumatic - however when we add up the C section and also the instrumental delivery rate - this is what happens.

That any woman who are not fully engaged in their pregnancy - having too much happening in their life -  (yet still think that they are engaged), but they are not fully engaged - like get really focussed and engaged and get as much information about pregnancy so that when the time of the birth happens - that it a fantastic beautiful, wonderful birth - everything goes better.  

The enjoyment of feeding is better, the baby is thriving - virtually no post natal depression - the husband and partner are wrapped -everything just works better - everything flows in what Kathy calls the ‘cascade of normalcy’  -

She states that the Number 1 priority for the baby is:

    The safest, most kindest, most gentlest birth. (Listen to what is often said next)

    Mum’s to be - you need to quit work early if you can!  It is important to be rested and relaxed

    (we did not get around to soft nature sound or soothing music for the baby in utero …

Gold standard for mums doing part time work to 28 weeks and not working from 32 weeks   This always turns out better for the mother - listen

Working to 38 weeks is definitely not the way to go.

Eating - the big one is for mothers is to avoid food poisoning - this Kathy says is what it is all about.  Listen  - Fresh, organic,

Mothers milk and the magic of what it does. Listen

Baby be fed breast milk for the first 6 months - has all the antibodies and goodness for babies intestines.

Formula - very technically advanced now …

Though no colostrum, be it a mouse, a goat or a whale - because we are born with our intestines sterile.

The need for us all to be aware of the inherent goodness of mothers milk.

China Visit

Kathy talks about her last months visit to China of 1.4 billion people, where there are 400 million millennials in there 20’s and 30’s. That each year 17 million Chinese babies come into the world.

China is relaxing its 1 person policy to that of a 2  child policy - yet, with no welfare system available, the children as they grow older become aware of filial responsible for ones parents …of taking care of them in their retirement - getting an education and working is incredibly important over there. That child has 4 grand parents and 2 parents who have an investment in that child. Plus a respected hierarchy within the family - they still have strong Confusion values.