Have you ever caught yourself saying "no" to your kids' adventures out of pure instinct — only to wonder later if maybe the risk was worth it? In this episode, Chris and Melissa talk about how they're learning to raise kids who are more confident, capable, and adventurous by saying yes a little more often.
The idea started after Melissa read The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt — a powerful book that explores how modern parenting and constant digital connection have created more anxious, less independent kids. Together, they reflect on how the shift from outdoor play to screens has changed childhood, and what parents can do to reclaim freedom and resilience for their kids.
They share personal stories from their own family — like letting their teenage son navigate New York City solo, their kids exploring Paris and Croatia by themselves, and their 10-year-old's first bike ride to school (which included a coyote sighting and a dog chase). Each story carries the same theme: that a little bit of risk, independence, and real-world adventure is not just okay — it's essential.
Chris and Melissa also discuss how media consumption has shaped our fears, why the world may not actually be more dangerous than it used to be, and how giving kids appropriate autonomy builds courage and confidence. They tackle the smartphone dilemma too — why they're rethinking when their kids get phones, and what it means to trade "connection" for constant anxiety.
This episode will inspire you to loosen the reins just a bit, trust your kids more, and rediscover the joy of letting them learn through life — not just lectures. As Chris puts it, "Adventure builds confidence. Confidence builds courage. And courage builds character."
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Episode Minute By Minute:
- 00:00 – The inspiration behind today's topic: The Anxious Generation
- 01:00 – Introducing the Family Brand Croatia Cruise (June 20–27!)
- 03:00 – Letting their 17-year-old explore New York City alone
- 05:00 – How independence builds confidence and perspective
- 06:00 – Kids navigating Paris, Croatia, and new cities on their own
- 08:00 – The 10-year-old's first solo bike ride (and wild encounters)
- 10:00 – How small risks create big growth and resilience
- 11:00 – Is the world really more dangerous than it used to be?
- 12:00 – The role media plays in fueling parental anxiety
- 13:00 – What The Anxious Generation teaches about freedom vs. fear
- 15:00 – Revisiting your family's smartphone rules
- 16:00 – Chris's powerful analogy: "Would you pay for your child's destruction?"
- 17:00 – The Harvard study on boredom and why it's good for kids
- 18:00 – Rediscovering stillness and creative thought
- 19:00 – Building community around shared parenting values
- 20:00 – Changing the narrative: why "different" is good
- 21:00 – Rewriting your family's agreements — it's never too late
- 22:00 – Holiday reflections: gifts that inspire adventure, not anxiety
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