Joyfully Married After

Joyfully Married After

Joyfully Married After with Heath and Tracy is a weekly podcast discussing relationships, specializing in premarital preparedness and inter-marital improvement. We want you Joyfully Married After everything.Heath and Tracy are relationship strategists, specializing in premarital preparedness and improving your marriage. We want our listeners married and motivated.We'll discuss our journey with sex, money, disagreements in marriage, fighting fair when you have disagreements in marriage. We'll also cover things like improving communication, how to handle trust issues in marriage and learn how to avoid divorce.Since we have four children, expect to hear discussion techniques on keeping your marriage strong despite inevitable disagreements on how to raise the kids and keep life in balance.So if you want to be an awesome mate and how to avoid the minefields in relationships, tune in every week! Don't forget to check out HeathandTracy.com

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April 22, 2021

In this episode we interviewed Lamar Tyler of Black Married with Kids and TSP.

Using his motto "The Gatekeepers Are Gone," Lamar has leveraged social media to build a movement of online brands that support, uplift, and encourage the black community with over 600 thousand social media fans and over 51 thousand customers in all 50 states and 43 countries across the globe. 

Among the recognition received for his work, Lamar, alo...

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Is it possible to love someone but not feel emotionally close? 

  • There is often a gap between the love we feel in our heart and the emotional intimacy we experience with someone. 
  • The connection we desire may seem so close, so we keep trying, but it remains elusive.
  • You can love someone but don't experience the trust and safety that are necessary for the relationship to thrive. 
  • But this emotional safety is an essential foundation f...
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    The best way to handle money in your Marriage


    Begin with a plan to move your family and your future in building a legacy.

    This is the way to solid finances.


  • You want to start with an abundance mindset. Not a scarcity mindset.
  • Be Ok, plan. Watch your spending on the necessities. Rent/Mortgage, Transportation and food. My dad calls it “Food, clothing and shelter. 
  • Be Secure. This is where you are going for the 6 months or more savings.
  • Bui...
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    Marriage isn’t a fifty-fifty proposition. Conducting your relationship as a business deal will get you in a lot of trouble. Since we live in a competitive culture, we see things thru a capitalist lens, prompting us toward seeing things as quid pro quo or tit for tat rather than giving more freely and less conditionally. 

    Instead of real giving of yourself, you see relationships as an investment, expecting a return,  and if you don’t...

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    If you are doing the following things, you are cheating:

  • If my partner asked me about my chats, comments, and messages to others on social media, do I hide some messages?
  • Do you sometimes like to chat or message ex’s online?
  • Sometimes, instead of going to my partner, Do you share deep emotional or intimate information with others online?
  • Do the above statements apply to you? 

    Spending time with another person outside of your relationshi...

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    Healthy Relationships vs Unhealthy Relationship

     What is a Healthy Relationship?

  • The easy answer is that it looks different for every couple. However, I realized a long time ago that if we didn't grow up with parents who had wonderful ways of relating to one another, that there was virtually nowhere else to turn to find a healthy couple to learn from. 
  • This leaves the ways that happy and healthy couples relate as secrets that many...
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    Focus on small acts of kindness. Boosts your mood. Do t be stingy with each other. You need some water?

    Pay attention to your inner voice that creates distance. Don’t listen to negative/critical voice on your shoulder. No self sabotage with the inner voice. Don’t allow it prevent you from being vulnerable.

    Be aware of fantasies you may form. An illusion of oneness vs 2 distinct people working together to create a great marriage. “W...

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    Each year Tracy and I go through this exercise to plan our year. We break it up into 2 parts. ( The first 6 months of the year and the second) 

    Additionally we do this with each of our adult children as well to get them accustomed to reflection and goal setting.

    If have a business or you’re creating a brand, it’s great to create a calendar for your content creation as well so you have dates and time frame targets to keep you on tra...

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  • The year of exposure. Brought out the best and worst in our relationships. What we loved grew and what we hated grew. Go back to the beginning and remember what drew you to each other. Think about what happened. Don’t play a blame game. Put yourself in their shoes.
  • Communication but start with how not what. What’s the process to get us back to where we were. Focus on the process.
  • Be the bigger person. Be responsible for your emotions...
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    We are being asked your most pressing questions by Gary Jones of the "Get With the Program" Radio show. 

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    A key component that threatens trust is fear.

    Our son’s action earlier this week broke the trust and its primary cause was fear. 

    Leaving the house without telling us was caused by “ a fear that we’d say no”.

    A fear of missing out on some perceived fun with a buddy.

    This action unknowingly broke the trust that was built up over the years.

    Then avoidance and shame kicked in about what he’d done ✅ and he hid avoiding the consequences...

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    What we’re discussing today.

     

  • “I said what I said.”- Rules of Communication
  • Question of the week -  Hey if you are married and your spouse doesn’t tell his family what does that mean for your relationship?
  • Doing it Well -A Sexless Marriage is a vulnerable Marriage 
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    3 Rules of Communication that leads towards connection.

    Many couples make the mistake of assuming that their problems are due to poor communication.  That is not (or ...

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    In this episode Heath and Tracy discuss

    1. Getting your husband or wife back after separation.

    2. Question of the week - "My husband is always checking for an Ex on Facebook, Is this a problem?"

    3. Doing it Well - Kill the routine. “Inside or Outside?” 

    Discussing the DO’s of how to save the relationship, we talked about the DON’Ts last week. The first thing we want to say is NO Manipulation. There are many out there that m...

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    What we’re discussing today. 

  • 5 Things NOT to do when your partner wants out of the relationship.
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  • Question of the week - "Is it appropriate for a married man to be part of private group chats with other men that share nothing but VERY pornographic/explicit videos and pictures of women?"
  • Doing it Well  - Is it “Hump” day yet? Scheduling Sex
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    November 25, 2019

    Two people marry more than each other – they marry a set of circumstances.52 Becoming aware of how their two worlds combine on a practical level is essential to making sure they don’t collide on an emotional level. 

    Booth, A., Johnson, D., & Edwards, J. (1983) 

    Social - Financial - Expectations

    Social- There are four aspects of a couples social world. Friends and Family Support - In- Laws Relationships -Level of Investment - Fa...

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    What is WellBeing? It is measuring the psychological health for both individuals + caution flags as well as the emotional health of your marriage together.

    Why does it matter?Your relationship can only be as healthy as you and your partner.

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    What we’re discussing today. 

  • 5 Marriage Mindsets
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  • Question of the week - He is still on a dating website, but asked me to get off. What should I do?
  • Doing it Well
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    Top of Mind

    Mindset of our Relationships - every person brings a mindset to marriage - What they say, think, and believe when it comes to tying the knot. Basically it’s your attitude toward marriage. You already have beliefs, thoughts, feelings and attitudes about...

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    Theme of the month

    Passion

    Definition of passion - strong and barely controllable emotion, the suffering and death of Jesus.

    Being passionate is key to the marriage relationship. You can display passion about your life together, about the one you love, about specific parts of life; however the most important thing you should be passionate about is survival and thrift of the marriage itself. Be locked into what's best for the ma...

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    What’s next? Navigating Passion to Compassion

    The good news is that if couples get past that two-year slump and hang on for an another couple of decades, they may well recover the excitement of the honeymoon period—at a most unlikely time: 18 to 20 years later, when their children have typically left home and, with the freedom of the so-called “empty nest,” partners are left to discover one another—and, often, their early bliss—onc...

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