In the first of a few planned episodes, we begin our discussion of unresolved childhood struggles playing themselves out in adult relationships.
The need for approval is an overdeveloped defense mechanism. It's important to lose our attachment to approval from disapproving people. It will never happen.
Concluding where we started with MLT 89 - discussing the "arc" of boundaries and where/when/how it all goes wrong especially if you have a fear of conflict. Send your comments, questions etc. and we'll talk MORE about this!
In this episode we talk about resistance to "the work" whether it's our program, our therapist, our trusted friends. Suddenly we're smarter than everyone else and no one knows what we know. For the boundaries section, we begin here and will conclude on Episode 90 about Fear of Conflict and Boundaries.
In this episode we talk about the importance of creating and maintaining balance in our grief recovery protocol.
I released this podcast to the podcast supporters, the Meanies, on Thanksgiving, but it's about grief, gratitude, fairness, unfairness, inclusion and victimization.
Someone sent me email about women who write to men in prison and other signs of codependency large and small. It happens on a curve - and everyone can be guilty of giving too much to too many for too long. The GPYB program is the way out
In preparation for the release of Power! Boundaries, I invite everyone to send me questions, comments, situations about setting boundaries. No, they are not easy, but they are vital.
Part of our recovery is making decision all along the way as to who and what we are as a person and as a couple. Before you get back into a relationship, you need to decide what you're going to be and how you're going to decide if this person is for you. It's about "you get what you put up with" and how you arrive at what you put up with.
I have gotten a lot of email about ambivalence and "is there something wrong when I feel nothing or don't know what I'm feeling?" NO and AMBIVALENCE is part of the package of ALL human relationships. It's more than okay. It's part of the journey.
Don't lament having to go through the books again. They are MEANT to be done that way. Trust the process and trust that you are healing and that the healing will heal you and eventually help others.
As requested by a Meanie, the Infidelity Podcast. What does it mean and how does it seem "okay" in other relationships and how to make it right or not right in yours.
Great expectations and narcissists - by popular demand!
Part of getting back on track is using my own advice and the goal worksheets in the workbook, which I have not really used in years. Guess what? They work!
Talking about the short hiatus I've been on and how I've been working on things. Please let me know what you want to hear!
By special request - from a Meanie - some general topics we talk about a lot....is it GIVING or is it MANIPULATION???? When we are codependent and have little self-esteem, we have to think about this. We're talking about giving, getting involved with "project people" and fixer uppers, boundaries, self-esteem and narcissists.
I've gotten this question since before GPYB was published. What if I can't get over it? What if I never stop crying?
This came from a Meanie request to check out the MTV show "Ghosted" and to talk about that. It's just another term for BS behavior is what it is.
In this episode it's a preview of the stalking material. Stalking is an epidemic and police departments are woefully undertrained in dealing with it. I have gotten emails from listeners around the world telling me about different cases. I think it's important to understand the epidemic that is stalking.
Boundaries keep us safe and tell the world you deserve to be treated this way and not that way. It's very clear that sometmes all about us are losing their heads and blaming it on us.Sometimes we must explain that we're not explaining. Healthy boundaries are respected by healthy people. Unhealthy people challenge and lose their heads over it.