Many times old messages from dysfunctional others cause us to turn them on ourselves and we start to backslide and refuse to acknowledge our good qualities, accomplishments, talents or traits. A new rejection or breakup can cause us to doubt ourselves again. We not only stay stuck but we stop pursuing our dreams and goals. It’s important to recognize the signs and symptoms of unwittingly giving into the old messages and to keep do... Read more
Talking about BOUNDARIES, STANDARDS, LIMITS and LOVE. Talking about doing the hard things we have to do to be safe in our lives and to make sure our children feel safe. What we can learn from others and how hard it is to do the right thing sometime. Thanks for your support!!!
In this third part of this series, we discuss rejecting the rejector, walking away from those who are not treating you right, going back to face your early wounds and being good to you in order to heal your attachment issues. What a healthy person does and does not do. For Patreon supporters 4.99 and above there will be a 4th part – so stay tuned and thank you for your support!!!
In the second part we continue our discussion about how people with attachment issues get into relationships that don't work out.
The first of a 3-part series (4 if you're a Patreon supporter) on Attachment, Rejection and Grief discussing John Bowlby and other attachment theorists.
In this episode we talk about no-contact, gaslighting, dating burnout (or when to pull back) and future episodes. Enjoy the podcast! Become a Meanie!
In a trial run for a FB and YT Live podcast recording where you get to ask questions, we are recording a video tonight. This is the edited audio. We go to the wayback machine to pull a random letter out about fear of commitment and fear of intimacy. Go to YouTube for the unedited video.
In this episode we continue talking about the ways that we get into "blaming" mode - either as a blamer or as a victim or sometimes both. We talk about unwarranted jealousy and how relationships turn corrosive and destructive..
This episode finishes up the discussion about changing the dance with the personality disordered and moves into GBOT issues - dating, standards and what you want in a future relationship and - MOST IMPORTANTLY - How To Get It!
In this episode 1 of 2 we wade into the wacky world of going to court with the personality disordered, the abuse excuse and how to disarm the narcissistic, socipopathic, dysfunctional crazy people who want to make court your weekly appointment. The second part (55b) will continue about boundaries, PDs and then DATING (no, not with the personality disordered.)
In this episode we return to original Mean Lady subjects: narcissists, mirroring, love bombing, asking questions, accepting unacceptable behavior and jerks who wind up on television (bear with me).
This is about so many internet "get rich quick" schemes that spill over into the breakup coaching arena. Who should beware of this? What do you need to know? It's frightening how many are out there to make a quick buck on people who are vulnerable and people should become aware that they are out there.
In this episode we are talking about physical (send your questions!), emotional (coming out sideways) and mental (self-talk) and getting better with the GPYB Program.
In this 2 of 2 episode we continue the discussion from 51a specifically about narcissists' overplaying their hands and how to cause that to happen in court.
In this first of 2 episodes we are talking about Narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, stalking, obsession.
This episode a continuation of 51a where we continue on talking about narcissistic head games, communicating with the personality disordered, abuse and strategy.
In this episode (1 of 2) we are talking about jealousy, suspicion, name calling, cheating, abuse and narcissism. It continues on in part B.
The rest of the 50th episode podcast extravaganza! We tackle cyberbullies, real bullies, double dating (it's not what you think it means), working out your recovery and moving on from a bad relationship. This program works if you work it and we explain how. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
In the 50th episode PART ONE, we're talking about a few somewhat generic topics: not picking losers, upping your game, making your standards higher and affirming your way to better relationships with better people. Try not to wind up on television judge shows suing bananaheads for money you shouldn't have loaned them in the first place.
Continuing on with our discussion about No Contact and the way the personality disordered spins that to their advantage and why you MUST stop bsing yourself about it especially if you're a codependent. No Contact is about your healing, your recovery and you need the time and space that NC affords you.