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December 26, 2022 64 min

Episode 294 is about diving deep into the human experience.

When we deal with our emotions, especially when it comes to love, it’s helpful to identify our patterns. This could resolve a lot of issues when it comes to intimacy, traumas, and even grief. After all, the opposite of love is grief. You love somebody you can lose. That’s an unforgettable line we got from Dr. Thomas Jordan — whose clinical specialty is treating adults who are depressed and anxious about past or present unhealthy relationship experiences, people who are struggling with low self-esteem, feelings of loss, or an unhealthy love life.

Today, Dr. Thomas will be with us to talk about the psychology around love, and how you can change your love life by changing your psychology.

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Quick Timestamps:

00:01:09 Guest Intro & Background: Dr. Thomas Jordan

00:05:46 How Thomas Got Started

00:07:39 What You Need to Work On to Have a Great Relationship

00:09:08 What Love Is

00:10:00 Examples of Sabotage

00:14:25 Variation in Attraction

00:15:35 Consciousness Is the Key

00:16:48 Will Is a Decision That You Have to Act On 

00:18:42 The Differences in Women: Independence, Control, Intimacy

00:21:19 How the Psychology of a Person Affects Their Experience

00:22:51 Change Your Love Life by Changing Your Psychology 

00:23:39 Healthy and Unhealthy Attachment to Thoughts

00:26:28 The Idea You Could Be in Love and Not Get Hurt

00:31:21 Parentified Child

00:32:02 Sharing Your Emotions With Your Child

00:34:12 Starting the Journey of Self-Healing

00:34:42 The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Kids

00:38:54 What Wakes People up From Old Patterns

00:39:59 Dealing With Loneliness

00:43:34 Stop Wasting Your Time

00:44:05 The Importance of Intimacy

00:46:49 Getting Trust Back in a Relationship

00:50:45 The Psychology of Caution and Paranoia

00:53:19 Letting Go of the Past

00:55:39 The Opposite of Love

00:58:03 Schools Should Teach Love and Grief

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