50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again

About this episode

Out in theaters right now is Fifty Shades Darker, the second film based on Fifty Shades series. These novels have spurred a lot of conversation and questions about erotica. And we’re going to address that topic head-on.

1. Why do you think so many wives have been drawn to erotic romance stories? What about this genre appeals to them?

2. I've had wives tell me that reading these novels awakened their sexual desire. What’s wrong with that? Isn't that ultimately good for the sexual intimacy in their marriage?

3. Some say that these erotic stories are no different from porn, and others say they’re no different from romance novels. What do you think about either or both of those charges? How are they the same or different?

4. Let’s get practical: What is okay and what’s not okay in the world of BDSM?

5. What are your own greatest concerns about the Fifty Shades phenomenon?

From the Bible

Galatians 5:22-23: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."

Colossians 3:19: "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them."

1 Corinthians 10:23: "'Everything is permissible,' but not everything is helpful.  'Everything is permissible,' but not everything builds up." (HSCB)

Resources

The Forgiven Wife: A Shaded View of Romance

The Forgiven Wife: Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women?

The Forgiven Wife: As Bad As Porn?

Authentic Intimacy: The Good News about Fifty Shades of Grey

OysterBed7: 50 Shades of Uncertainty?

OysterBed7: Libido Boundaries?

Hot Holy & Humorous: Why I Haven’t Talked about 50 Shades

Hot Holy & Humorous: Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You?

Hot Holy & Humorous: Q&A with J: How about Bondage in the Bedroom?