Sheryl Green: The Power of No: How to Set Boundaries & Reclaim Your Life

In this episode, Cheryl Knowlton and Sheryl Green discuss:

• Realizing your right and responsibility to set boundaries

• Identifying past "icky" situations to find where boundaries are needed

• Using the PEC system - Pause, Evaluate, Communicate

• Communicating boundaries graciously and with respect

• Seeking support to help set boundaries if needed

 

 Key Takeaways:

• Boundaries are a Necessity, Not a Luxury. Recognizing your entitlement and responsibility to set boundaries is the first step. Ignoring this can lead to burnout, resentment, and even serious health consequences.

• Reflect on Past Experiences. Identifying past situations where you felt uncomfortable or resentful can reveal where your boundaries need to be strengthened. This self-awareness is crucial for building boundary-setting skills.

• Pause, Evaluate, Communicate. The PEC system provides a structured approach to setting boundaries effectively. Taking a moment to pause, evaluate the situation, and communicate your needs respectfully can make all the difference.

• Gracious, Not Grudging. Communicating boundaries in a kind, appreciative manner preserves relationships and demonstrates self-respect. Framing it as "not the right time" rather than a flat rejection can go a long way.

• Seek Support if Needed. If directly communicating a boundary feels too difficult, finding a trusted ally to help navigate the conversation can be a game-changer. Boundary-setting is a skill, and it's okay to ask for help.

 

“You have the right and the responsibility to set boundaries and you get to start today.” 

- Sheryl Green

 

About the guest, Sheryl Green:

Sheryl Green is a recovering people-pleaser who learned the hard way that boundaries aren’t just a suggestion—they’re a necessity. After years of putting everyone else first, she hit a breaking point and discovered the power of saying “no.” Now, she helps individuals and organizations set healthy boundaries to improve relationships, communication, and well-being. With a background spanning Mental Health, Customer Service, Public Relations, Education, and Non-Profits, Sheryl brings a unique perspective to her work.

An accomplished author, Sheryl has written six books, including You Had Me at ‘No’ and Surviving to Thriving. A passionate animal advocate, she dedicates her time and resources to supporting animal welfare. When she’s not writing or speaking, you’ll find her with her husband and two fur babies, practicing yoga, or nurturing her ever-growing collection of houseplants.

 

CONNECT WITH SHERYL GREEN:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylgreen/ 

Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylgreen/ 

How to Say No Cheat Sheet: https://mailchi.mp/b3930ac2d5d9/you-had-me-a