Talk About Gay Sex TAGSPODCAST

In this episode:

• Where Steve and Lincoln first felt at home after coming out
• Why gay spaces can become much more than places to drink or hook up
• Finding community, belonging and chosen family
• Sex and relationship dilemmas
• Communicating what you actually want
• Navigating expectations in dating, hookups and relationships
• Steve and Lincoln dispense some very unofficial gay advice
• And why sometimes there really is n...

• Why open doesn’t mean “anything goes”
• The difference between rules, agreements and boundaries
• Asking permission vs. simply giving your partner a heads-up
• Whether jealousy automatically means something is wrong
• Sexual intimacy vs. emotional intimacy
• When a repeat hookup starts becoming something more
• Whether “don’t catch feelings” is even a realistic rule
• What responsibility o...

• What does it actually mean to “de-gay” your home?
• Would you remove homoerotic artwork when family comes over?
• Is nude male art treated differently than female nudity?
• Where is the line between art, erotica and porn?
• Being considerate of guests vs. censoring yourself
• Kodi’s first impressions of Folsom Street Fair
• What surprised him most about leather and BDSM culture
• Kink as sexual expression, ...

We get into:

• How Brad’s background and personal journey shaped him as an artist
• The origins of Season’s Breedings and that unforgettable name
• Turning homoerotic imagery into playful queer pop art
• Where sexuality, humor and fantasy intersect in his work
• Celebrating the male body without apologizing for desire
• Creating art specifically through a queer gaze
• How Brad develops his characters, concepts and ...

In this episode:

• Why imperfect plans can sometimes create the most memorable experiences
• The fellow partygoer who declared, “We’re the real New Yorkers—we showed up”
• Leather, exposed ass cheeks and dancing through uncertain weather
• The surprisingly meaningful conversations Steve had with gay men throughout the boat
• Why even the busiest among us still need time for pleasure, release and communi...

Also discussed:

• Why Hank Social was created and what was missing from existing gay apps
• The difference between a social community and a traditional hookup platform
• Creating spaces for leather, pups, rubber, gear and other fetish communities
• Balancing sexual expression with friendship, education and genuine connection
• Privacy and discretion for men who may not be publicly open about their interests
• Helping newcomers...

In this episode:

• The controversial “no men over 55” entrance policy
• Why describing older gay men as “more relaxed” feels so condescending
• Ageism and the obsession with youth in gay male spaces
• Why energy, confidence and sexual vitality do not have an expiration date
• The difference between creating a specific atmosphere and outright discrimination
• The sauna’s avatar game and its attempt...

In this episode:

• Maria Van Cartier brings the glamour, humor, and unforgettable stories.
• The importance of documenting and preserving queer history.
• How New York City nightlife creates community and chosen family.
• Making space for the stories of Black and Brown queer people.
• What it means to live—and age—openly and unapologetically.
• Maria shares the inspiration behind her podcast, Remember the ...

In this episode:

• When Miguel first discovered his artistic voice • Celebrating the sensuality and diversity of men’s bodies • The line between erotic art, pornography, and fine art • Creating intimacy and trust between an artist and his subject • Body confidence, aging, vulnerability, and being truly seen • The importance of preserving queer sexuality through art • What Miguel saw—and captured—when he drew Steve

In this episode:

• Is the “top shortage” supported by real data?
• Why are younger gay men more likely to identify as bottoms?
• Do some men grow into topping as they gain confidence and experience?
• Are there no tops—or simply no tops who meet every requirement?
• The erection and performance pressure placed on tops
• Why topping a partner can feel easier than topping a stranger
• Porn, h...

In this episode:

• More hilariously vague Grindr phrases translated
• Why “not on here much” rarely means what it says
• The difference between losing interest and genuinely ghosting someone
• Why men initiate conversations they have no intention of continuing
• Whether apps provide validation even when no hookup happens
• The endless cycle of taps, photos, attention and disappearing
• Why possibility can feel more...

In this episode:

• What common Grindr bios are really trying to say
• “Just vibes” and the language of emotional ambiguity
• Why sincerity on dating apps can feel suspicious
• The appeal—and limitations—of a Gay No Sex Weekend - actual group in the UK....
• Whether sex and emotional connection actually conflict
• The difference between removing sex and removing pressure
• How gay men have historically b...

• Why Heated Rivalry delivers more than just steamy sex
• The irresistible fantasy of being sexually and emotionally obsessed with someone
• Why yearning may be hotter than hooking up
• Whether dating apps have made intense romance feel even more desirable
• Women enjoying gay male romance versus men consuming lesbian fantasy
• The difference between admiration, voyeurism and fetishization
• Fan art, Patreon, musicals and the ...

• When does being genuinely unsure about someone become stringing him along?
• Are we avoiding rejection—or simply avoiding an uncomfortable conversation?
• Why do we sometimes want someone more the minute they start pulling away?
• Can you have a roster of casual guys without actually benching anybody?
• Have dating apps conditioned us to constantly look for the next best thing?
• Is being slowly benched actually worse ...

In this episode:

• What do we actually mean when we talk about gay trauma?
• The lasting effects of growing up feeling different or unsafe
• Shame, rejection, bullying, and the closet
• How trauma can influence sex, dating, intimacy, and attachment
• Seeking validation through sex, attention, and relationships
• Recognizing survival behaviors we've carried into adulthood
• Why healing doesn't mean becoming less sexual or less ...

In this episode:
• Leo energy, Lincoln and loving the spotlight
• Why summer feels so damn sexual
• Sex vs. validation: do we just want to be wanted?
• Thirst traps, flirting and the erotic power of attention
• Hot Gay Summer expectations—and sexual FOMO
• Feeling sexy as we get older
• Hookups, connection and end-of-summer reflection
• The ultimate question: when nobody is looking, do you stil...

In this episode:

• Why bad sex and bad relationships can still teach us something
• The difference between a regrettable experience and a harmful one
• Whether Gen Z is sexually repressed or simply more cautious
• How fear of judgment is changing flirting, dating and intimacy
• The mistakes gay men commonly make during breakups
• Why heartbreak can be valuable information
• What today’s queer cinema may have lost
• The freedom and danger...

In this Episode:

• Why wanting a relationship does not necessarily mean you are ready for one
• The dating skills gay men are rarely taught
• Chemistry versus genuine romantic compatibility
• How anxiety, self-sabotage, and old relationship patterns affect dating
• Whether attraction can develop over time
• Becoming your own matchmaker
• Recognizing when someone is truly a good match
• Dating with clearer intentions w...