Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 186 of our show. Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa! Stuart wishes everyone very happy holidays. This year Stuart wants you and your partner to have a holiday season filled with love, togetherness and connection. Today is a really special episode, because today Stuart is taking everyone on a magical journey today. A special journey of attachment, and acceptance, one of vulnerability and love. Visit a strange land where you will be meeting people as the most authentic version of yourself. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Wearing masks [3:45] Recognizing when you are not being your best [5:00] Acknowledge your partner’s experience [9:00] Open the door to Attachmentland [11:00] Stop thinking you have to live up to an expectation [14:00] Being authentic [16:50] Dig deep and ask yourself questions [17:30] Stop surviving, and start living [20:00] That place where you are never alone [21:00] Qualities of authentic people [26:15] There is a relaxation that occurs when you are authentic. What are the qualities of authentic people? Are you self-reflective? Are you accepting of yourself and other people? Are you able to express your emotions freely and clearly? Do you make commitments that you live up to? Do you forgive easily? There is a sense of love and giving. We treat people with kindness and respect. Be yourself everyone else is already taken. - Oscar Wilde We want to be that person in our partner’s life that they see as their best ally, their best confidant, that wouldn’t hurt a fly. Until next time, Stay Connected The Couples Expert Podcast is sponsored by: Stuart’s Daily Notes: Subscribe and change your relationship in 5 minutes a day with a video sent to your email inbox. The response has been overwhelmingly positive. Stuart’s Daily Notes can help you too! https://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/stuart-daily-notes/ Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes:https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-couples-expert/id951362894?mt=2 Email: Stuart would love to hear from you. If you have a comment, review, or suggestion for a topic Stuart can tackle in the future, please email him at firstname.lastname@example.org Next time on The Couples Expert Podcast: Join us next time as Stuart discusses New Year’s resolutions and whether or not you are a good partner.