When you're living inside an abusive relationship, one of the hardest things to do is see the pattern clearly while you're still in it. Everything feels confusing and destabilizing, especially when blame shifting, gaslighting, and constantly moving goalposts are part of the dynamic.
That's why I'm so grateful to welcome back Anne Wintemute, CEO and Co-Founder of Aimee Says, an AI-powered support and documentation platform that helps women understand what's happening in abusive dynamics. Anne and I talk about how women are using Aimee Says in real life to bring clarity to chaos, especially during post separation, custody battles, and ongoing co-parenting conflict.
We explore how identifying patterns as they are happening can be revolutionary, and how Aimee Says reflects women's lived experiences back to them in a way that validates reality. We also talk about how having all of your information in one place helps women create clear plans of action when preparing for mediation, working with attorneys, or deciding next steps.
Moreover, we talk about the changes and updates to the platform, some of which are a total game-changer for victims and survivors.
This episode is about seeing what's really happening, trusting yourself again, and having tools that help you stay grounded in truth.
What you'll hear about in this episode:
- How Aimee Says helps clarify patterns in abusive relationships (5:26)
- How women are using Aimee Says in real life to document abuse (10:56)
- Why blame shifting is the most common tactic women experience and how it keeps people stuck (12:04)
- The connection between authoritarian leadership, power and control, and abusive dynamics (31:18)
✨ If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here.
Learn more about Anne Wintemute: Anne Wintemute is the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI companion for victims and survivors of controlling partners. When she's not working to hold perpetrators accountable, Anne can be found tending her urban farm or playing with her kids in Denver Colorado.
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