Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety. Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/

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August 5, 2022 31 min

Anxiety makes us forget, and it’s particularly amnesiac to past successes. Helping kids work through fears and worries also includes showing them how to connect to their successes, feel masterful, and make worry less powerful when it arrives. In this episode, Lynn tells you how to build those all important reminder bridges to the past successes that anxiety wants them to forget.

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How do we actually inspire children and teens to step in and retrain that anxious brain when worry is saying NO! The fifth of our 7 anxiety disruptors helps parents and kids get “some skin in the game.” The tactics are a bit different for young children versus teens, and rewards (OK, maybe we admit they are bribes!) have a place. Lynn talks about how to use rewards correctly and the conversations that parents must have ahead of tim...

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Emetophobia, Astraphobia, Autophobia. Some kids became afraid of a variety of things: throwing up, needles, dogs, thunderstorms, the dark. As parents we want to help, we want to make our kids feels safe and comfortable. We want to address the worry. But how we do that often just makes the worry and fear stronger. In this episode I ask Lynn to explain her effective approach of addressing the process of worry and not the content. Bec...

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Summer can be a wonderful time for playfulness and connection, but parents often feel pressure to make every minute count, every vacation fabulous. It’s a time of high expectations for parents, which means mom guilt finds fertile ground. Guilt has a purpose, but listen to what anxiety expert Lynn Lyons says about ineffective and overused guilt, how to lessen its power, and name the true emotions that come with parenting. 

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Is breathing used to eliminate worry? Nope, it is not. In this next episode of our 7-part Anxiety Disruptor series for families, Lynn explains how stepping into uncertainty is necessary but not always easy for kids, especially when big physical symptoms show up like tummy aches, headaches, or a racing heart. Simple breathing exercises help your child's brain and body reset, taking the body out of emergency mode and supporting t...

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July 1, 2022 49 min

Got rage? When we first recorded this episode, we were in the midst of grieving for our pre-pandemic world, mixing our sadness with our anger. Sadly, reasons to feel rage continue. In this episode, Lynn talks about the anger we feel and how we bring it home to our family and children. How do you help your children through their outbursts? How do you raise kids who don’t have outbursts as an adult? How do you manage your own powerfu...

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Anxiety wants certainty, and when that’s not possible, avoidance becomes the demand. Unfortunately, as anxious families fall into patterns of avoidance, anxiety strengthens. Families need a different strategy, a way to break patterns and retrain the worried brain. In this episode, Lynn explains how to build on the first two puzzle pieces of expecting and talking to worry (our first two episodes in this seven-part series). It’s now ...

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Externalizing worry (and other strong emotions) teaches children and parents to take a step back and notice HOW worry and other big feelings operate. Changing the response to worry (instead of changing the environment to meet anxiety’s demands) is a powerful skill. Consistency and practice are key, and Lynn talks about how to explain and use externalizing in your family to promote emotional intelligence and management. These skills...

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Today we talk about the separation anxiety parents feel around summer camp, because it really is harder on us that it is on them. How can we best prepare our own kids leaving home for somewhere new? How we can manage our worry when our kids are out of our sight? Why is it so important to learn this skill as a parent?

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Whether you’re a loyal listener or new to the podcast, you’ll want to join us for this seven-part series on Lynn Lyon’s approach to anxiety. Each week during the summer, Lynn and Robin will talk about one of the puzzle pieces that creates an anxiety disrupting strategy for parents and kids. Together, they are the foundation for a family to shift their anxious patterns. Lynn will explain the steps in order, just as she does in her p...

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Friendships and connection sustain us, but that doesn’t mean they’re always smooth or come naturally. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about the ways we can help foster the skills of connection, how to support our kids and teens as they navigate friendships, and why Lynn will never go on another girls weekend.

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Technology allows us to track most everything, including our children. But do tracking apps actually keep our families safer? And how does tracking impact the development of key skills our kids need to be out in the world? Anxiety loves certainty, but it comes with a price.

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What role does anxiety play in your marriage? Anxious patterns will often show up differently in a couple, and sometimes, even as a bossy, inflexible third partner. When you look at some common marital friction points with an anxiety lens, conflicts become conversations.

And what’s up with that Atlantic article on intensive parenting? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons weighs in on the latest discussion of helicopter parenting.

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The mom wine culture is well-rooted now, and statistics show that women are indeed drinking more, significantly outpacing men. Are women paying a higher price with their emotional and physical health? Is the Mommy Wine culture more than just a way to take the edge off a busy day? What are the warning signs moms need to heed as we navigate a stressful world with our various coping strategies? 


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Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks to a listener about her 6 year old with separation anxiety. This family has been working hard on their own and with a therapist to get their daughter comfortable being away from mommy. This is a very common issue and one of the first patterns of anxiety to appear developmentally. Learn how to manage these situations and conversations with your young children and how to talk to their teachers to get e...

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What if your kid needs things “just so” or a meltdown is imminent. When your child seems to be overwhelmed easily and unable to tolerate many sensations, it is sensory processing disorder or is it anxiety? Even trickier, how does a sensory processing disorder lead to an increase in anxiety disorders in children? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discusses how parents can understand the difference between the two, as well as how and at what...

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Patterns of anxiety are often passed down in families. If you are actively working to shift the culture in your family to manage anxiety, where do your parents fit in? While your parents can be supportive and helpful, some like those of this listener do not believe in “this therapy nonsense”. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons address both the positive and negative ways grandparents get involved and how to talk to them (or when to keep them...

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When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And how should parents react? In this episode, anxiety expert Lynn discusses the traps to avoid and the family skills to promote when this dramatic pattern takes hold. 

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In this episode we talk about how Pixar’s latest movie Turning Red dives into the big emotions and shifting relationships of the tween years. We also discuss Inside Out, the gold standard of Pixar’s commitment to the development of emotional intelligence. Pop culture-from Mr. Rogers to Pixar-shows the power of story to teach us all…when it’s used this well. Why and how can these movies can be a part of your parenting toolkit? Anxie...

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On this Flusterclux In Session episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks to a mom who is managing a tricky combination of factors: her own worry, her daughter's worry, and her daughter’s chronic illness. Knowing the difference between what worry demands and how to manage a serious condition (like type 1 diabetes or anaphylaxis-causing allergies) can be hard to discern. But it’s a skill families must learn together when your chil...

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