January 25, 2025 • 13 mins
Reflecting on the past year is essential for personal growth. We discuss taking inventory of our life goals, the importance of mental and physical health, keeping promises, and nurturing healthy communication as we enter 2025.
• Importance of self-reflection for growth
• Assessing mental and physical resources in relationships
• Balancing promises made to self versus others
• Planning and executing effective communication strategies
• Cultivating healthy interactions and thoughts
• Starting the new year with a focus on emotional health
• Invitation for listeners to share thoughts and questions
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Thank you.
Align any religion, ethnicgroup, club, organization,
company, individual or anyone oranything.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ear,
opinion and your listening ears.
Happy Thanksgiving, merryChristmas, happy Kwanzaa and
Happy New Year.
Welcome to 2025.
(01:01):
We are focusing on continuingto build our listening base and
getting listeners more involvedin our episodes, which means you
can submit your questions tothe Queen.
Last year around this time wetalked about taking inventory of
ourselves and this year we willcontinue the idea of taking
inventory.
But we must reflect on theprevious year 2024, to review
(01:24):
whether or not we achieved ourgoals or fell short last year.
Now, in this episode, we aretalking about the inventory
goals of 2024.
Did you accomplish any of yourlife goals for 2024?
Let's start here.
What is the point of takinginventory?
(01:46):
The purpose has not changed.
The purpose of taking inventoryof your life is to reflect on
last year's communicationsbetween relationships with
family, friends, co-workers,your partner and yourself.
So let's get started byanswering the questions to see
(02:07):
if we accomplished any of ourgoals from 2024.
We have four goals in 2024.
Let's start with number one.
Did we have enough mental andphysical assets to deal with
each relationship, essence todeal with each relationship?
(02:30):
No, I did not have the mentalcapacity to deal with all my
relationships.
I was not prepared to haveconversations with certain
friends and family members.
I wanted a change in my lifelast year, but I went about it
the wrong way.
I didn't have that mentalcapacity to just let out my
feelings in a way that could beheard and respected and dealt
(02:52):
with by other people.
I let my feelings out wrongbecause in the moment I felt fed
up, frustrated and my feelingscame out wrong.
Up, frustrated and my feelingscame out raw.
This approach cost me dearlyand depleted more of my mental
(03:12):
inventory than I had expected.
So I tell you, if your yearfelt anything like my 2024
mental state, then we both knowwe must restock the inventory
and move slower and morecautious of our feelings towards
ourselves and others in ourlives Right now.
(03:34):
January 2025,.
I got to take it slow on me.
Yes, I said it, I got to takeit slow and easy on me.
Yes, I said it, I got to takeit slow and easy on me.
I have used up so much mentalstorage that I spent no time
working on my physical storagein 2024.
(03:55):
I pray I can do better in 2025with my physical strength.
I don't like to make New Year'sresolutions.
I just want to take it day byday, month by month.
Let's see what happens.
You never know.
Number two did we keep thosepromises we made to ourselves
(04:19):
and others?
This is a 50-50 response, or ayes or no response, because we
may have kept promises withothers, but not to ourselves.
This isn't a good thing to do.
We seem to put ourselves secondand never first.
Why?
Well, we don't want todisappoint people in our lives
(04:45):
To know that you made a promiseto someone and was unable to
keep that promise due tounexpected circumstances, and
now we have to go back and tellthat person we can't fulfill the
promise, to see their faces andhear the disappointment in
their voices again.
(05:05):
In other words, it can make usfeel like shit.
And who wants to sit in thosefeelings?
Not the queen.
We make promises to ourselvessaying I am going to buy that
new car this year and nothing isgoing to stop me.
(05:25):
No, no, no.
I've been saving up for thiscar and I am ready.
You tell yourself I promise youwe'll be driving a new car
before the end of the year.
And now here we are in 2025 andyou still don't have a new car.
(05:47):
Just like usual, you talkyourself out of feeling bad,
saying well, it's okay, I had tohelp others who needed me more
than me having a new car.
Okay, I'll be fine.
Again, putting yourself secondMaybe I need to make less
(06:11):
promises going forward.
No, no, no, no.
Or I should be saying we needto make less promises.
You know you made too manypromises as well.
Yes, you did, I did it, we didit Made too many promises.
Number three did we carefullyplan and approach to resolve
(06:33):
issues in our relationship?
Hell, no, this was awful for me.
I realized that when you areventing your frustrations or
dislikes about a situation toothers, that they will take
control of your plan to addressthe issue with the other party.
I had a plan.
(06:55):
Yes, I did.
Oh, yes, I did.
I made a plan to approachseveral different situations,
but the plan didn't go as Iintended it to.
Somewhere between the planningand execution of the plan,
things went awry.
Once I approached the person,other people intervened and took
(07:18):
over the conversation and theplan went out the damn window.
So, friends, who are supposed tobe the listening ear, do just
that and listen.
Your friend doesn't need you tohelp them execute the plan of
approach to resolve an issue.
(07:38):
You are just a sounding board.
You know the practice versionof how they are going to resolve
the issue.
Thank you for your help andyour support.
But don't butt in on an A and Bconversation.
Just see your way out and useyour E.
(08:00):
You know ears.
That's what I need.
Listening.
Did we plant healthycommunications and thoughts
towards others?
They say you can plant seedsand watch them grow.
I think I did plant healthycommunication seeds and healthy
(08:21):
thoughts towards others in 2024.
I planted a lot of seeds, butsome of them came out defective
seeds, but some of them came outdefective.
My healthy communication seedsgrew strong and tall.
I made many new friends and therelationships started growing.
(08:43):
We both realized we had so manythings in common and we wanted
to hang out together more.
My seeds of good thoughtstowards others.
Well, this is where the seasbegin to go awry.
You know how you think you knowsomebody and what they may or
may not do in certain situations.
Well, after hearing how yourfriend reacted in stressful
(09:06):
situations, your thoughts aboutthem were not healthy or good
thoughts, but off-centered.
So much for the good thoughtstowards others.
I allowed a specific reactionof a situation to impact my
thoughts.
I need to stop allowing onereaction to a situation to
(09:29):
influence my thoughts.
This didn't go well for me.
Here we are now in 2025.
I need to restock my warehouseagain.
This time I'm going to restockwillpower, communication and
emotion.
(09:50):
Like I said before, when youknow the type of emotion stored
in your body warehouse, you canthen manage your inventory
better, smarter and wiser.
So I know where I'm lacking andthat's why I chose these three
C's to restock.
(10:10):
You can never overstock oncommunications or emotions,
because we are human and we areemotional all the time and those
emotions sometimes take overour communication.
Therefore, we want to keep ahealthy balance of communication
and emotions in our storehouse.
(10:32):
Willpower Willpower seedsrequire three times the average
amount of seeds in my warehouse.
Willpower is required for me tostay strong and focus on
putting me first and sometimesletting others be second.
The queen wants to know did youaccomplish any of your life
(10:56):
goals in 2024?
Did you take inventory of yourlife goals in 2024?
Did you take inventory?
What do you need to restock inyour warehouse for the new year?
If the queen can offer youanother opinion on the matter to
help you restock your warehouse.
Shoot me a text message oremail me with your question you
(11:17):
just might need another opinionand clicking on Get In Touch to
leave your feedback or leave aquestion for the queen.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
We realized that many of you are on the go and listen
to podcasts through your phonesor in the car, so we wanted to
make contacting the queen easier.
You can now send a text.
Yes, you can text the showright from your phone.
Try it right now, today.
Send your feedback about thisepisode or any episode that you
have listened to over the months.
We can't wait to hear back fromyou.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
A Queen's Opinion is a podcast that allows people,
especially women, to think outloud about life situations and
seek an opinion without beingjudged.
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
(12:22):
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
(12:44):
Ask the queen.
Go to our website,wwwaquingsopinioncom and click
on get in touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the queen.
Touch to leave your feedback orleave a question for the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
(13:05):
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
Thank you.
Align any religion, ethnicgroup, club, organization,
company, individual or anyone oranything.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ear,
opinion and your listening ears.
Happy Thanksgiving, merryChristmas, happy Kwanzaa and
Happy New Year.
Welcome to 2025.
(01:01):
We are focusing on continuingto build our listening base and
getting listeners more involvedin our episodes, which means you
can submit your questions tothe Queen.
Last year around this time wetalked about taking inventory of
ourselves and this year we willcontinue the idea of taking
inventory.
But we must reflect on theprevious year 2024, to review
(01:24):
whether or not we achieved ourgoals or fell short last year.
Now, in this episode, we aretalking about the inventory
goals of 2024.
Did you accomplish any of yourlife goals for 2024?
Let's start here.
What is the point of takinginventory?
(01:46):
The purpose has not changed.
The purpose of taking inventoryof your life is to reflect on
last year's communicationsbetween relationships with
family, friends, co-workers,your partner and yourself.
So let's get started byanswering the questions to see
(02:07):
if we accomplished any of ourgoals from 2024.
We have four goals in 2024.
Let's start with number one.
Did we have enough mental andphysical assets to deal with
each relationship, essence todeal with each relationship?
(02:30):
No, I did not have the mentalcapacity to deal with all my
relationships.
I was not prepared to haveconversations with certain
friends and family members.
I wanted a change in my lifelast year, but I went about it
the wrong way.
I didn't have that mentalcapacity to just let out my
feelings in a way that could beheard and respected and dealt
(02:52):
with by other people.
I let my feelings out wrongbecause in the moment I felt fed
up, frustrated and my feelingscame out wrong.
Up, frustrated and my feelingscame out raw.
This approach cost me dearlyand depleted more of my mental
(03:12):
inventory than I had expected.
So I tell you, if your yearfelt anything like my 2024
mental state, then we both knowwe must restock the inventory
and move slower and morecautious of our feelings towards
ourselves and others in ourlives Right now.
(03:34):
January 2025,.
I got to take it slow on me.
Yes, I said it, I got to takeit slow and easy on me.
Yes, I said it, I got to takeit slow and easy on me.
I have used up so much mentalstorage that I spent no time
working on my physical storagein 2024.
(03:55):
I pray I can do better in 2025with my physical strength.
I don't like to make New Year'sresolutions.
I just want to take it day byday, month by month.
Let's see what happens.
You never know.
Number two did we keep thosepromises we made to ourselves
(04:19):
and others?
This is a 50-50 response, or ayes or no response, because we
may have kept promises withothers, but not to ourselves.
This isn't a good thing to do.
We seem to put ourselves secondand never first.
Why?
Well, we don't want todisappoint people in our lives
(04:45):
To know that you made a promiseto someone and was unable to
keep that promise due tounexpected circumstances, and
now we have to go back and tellthat person we can't fulfill the
promise, to see their faces andhear the disappointment in
their voices again.
(05:05):
In other words, it can make usfeel like shit.
And who wants to sit in thosefeelings?
Not the queen.
We make promises to ourselvessaying I am going to buy that
new car this year and nothing isgoing to stop me.
(05:25):
No, no, no.
I've been saving up for thiscar and I am ready.
You tell yourself I promise youwe'll be driving a new car
before the end of the year.
And now here we are in 2025 andyou still don't have a new car.
(05:47):
Just like usual, you talkyourself out of feeling bad,
saying well, it's okay, I had tohelp others who needed me more
than me having a new car.
Okay, I'll be fine.
Again, putting yourself secondMaybe I need to make less
(06:11):
promises going forward.
No, no, no, no.
Or I should be saying we needto make less promises.
You know you made too manypromises as well.
Yes, you did, I did it, we didit Made too many promises.
Number three did we carefullyplan and approach to resolve
(06:33):
issues in our relationship?
Hell, no, this was awful for me.
I realized that when you areventing your frustrations or
dislikes about a situation toothers, that they will take
control of your plan to addressthe issue with the other party.
I had a plan.
(06:55):
Yes, I did.
Oh, yes, I did.
I made a plan to approachseveral different situations,
but the plan didn't go as Iintended it to.
Somewhere between the planningand execution of the plan,
things went awry.
Once I approached the person,other people intervened and took
(07:18):
over the conversation and theplan went out the damn window.
So, friends, who are supposed tobe the listening ear, do just
that and listen.
Your friend doesn't need you tohelp them execute the plan of
approach to resolve an issue.
(07:38):
You are just a sounding board.
You know the practice versionof how they are going to resolve
the issue.
Thank you for your help andyour support.
But don't butt in on an A and Bconversation.
Just see your way out and useyour E.
(08:00):
You know ears.
That's what I need.
Listening.
Did we plant healthycommunications and thoughts
towards others?
They say you can plant seedsand watch them grow.
I think I did plant healthycommunication seeds and healthy
(08:21):
thoughts towards others in 2024.
I planted a lot of seeds, butsome of them came out defective
seeds, but some of them came outdefective.
My healthy communication seedsgrew strong and tall.
I made many new friends and therelationships started growing.
(08:43):
We both realized we had so manythings in common and we wanted
to hang out together more.
My seeds of good thoughtstowards others.
Well, this is where the seasbegin to go awry.
You know how you think you knowsomebody and what they may or
may not do in certain situations.
Well, after hearing how yourfriend reacted in stressful
(09:06):
situations, your thoughts aboutthem were not healthy or good
thoughts, but off-centered.
So much for the good thoughtstowards others.
I allowed a specific reactionof a situation to impact my
thoughts.
I need to stop allowing onereaction to a situation to
(09:29):
influence my thoughts.
This didn't go well for me.
Here we are now in 2025.
I need to restock my warehouseagain.
This time I'm going to restockwillpower, communication and
emotion.
(09:50):
Like I said before, when youknow the type of emotion stored
in your body warehouse, you canthen manage your inventory
better, smarter and wiser.
So I know where I'm lacking andthat's why I chose these three
C's to restock.
(10:10):
You can never overstock oncommunications or emotions,
because we are human and we areemotional all the time and those
emotions sometimes take overour communication.
Therefore, we want to keep ahealthy balance of communication
and emotions in our storehouse.
(10:32):
Willpower Willpower seedsrequire three times the average
amount of seeds in my warehouse.
Willpower is required for me tostay strong and focus on
putting me first and sometimesletting others be second.
The queen wants to know did youaccomplish any of your life
(10:56):
goals in 2024?
Did you take inventory of yourlife goals in 2024?
Did you take inventory?
What do you need to restock inyour warehouse for the new year?
If the queen can offer youanother opinion on the matter to
help you restock your warehouse.
Shoot me a text message oremail me with your question you
(11:17):
just might need another opinionand clicking on Get In Touch to
leave your feedback or leave aquestion for the queen.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
We realized that many of you are on the go and listen
to podcasts through your phonesor in the car, so we wanted to
make contacting the queen easier.
You can now send a text.
Yes, you can text the showright from your phone.
Try it right now, today.
Send your feedback about thisepisode or any episode that you
have listened to over the months.
We can't wait to hear back fromyou.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
A Queen's Opinion is a podcast that allows people,
especially women, to think outloud about life situations and
seek an opinion without beingjudged.
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
(12:22):
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
(12:44):
Ask the queen.
Go to our website,wwwaquingsopinioncom and click
on get in touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the queen.
Touch to leave your feedback orleave a question for the queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
(13:05):
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
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