June 10, 2025 • 30 mins
In this episode, Lauren talks about the spiritual dimensions of foster care, which offer a different perspective to what we, as society, may think. She shares her experiences supporting a foster baby and explores why souls choose to start their life in such challenging circumstances.
Lauren discusses the importance of childhood experiences for the soul's journey, the potential growth these situations offer, and the deeper lessons they can provide. She also touches on the concept of breaking intergenerational trauma and the role of collective healing.
Tune in to gain a new understanding of foster care and the soul’s purpose behind these life experiences.
00:00 Introduction to Foster Care
02:16 The Journey of a Foster Baby
05:26 Understanding the Soul's Perspective
11:22 Healing Through Explanation
19:00 The Bigger Picture of Foster Care
24:54 Concluding Thoughts on Foster Care
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Welcome to Babies from Beyond, the podcast that gives all
babies a voice whether they are still in spirit or already earth
side. I'm Lauren Dionysius, a former
registered NICU nurse turned baby soul communicator, and I'm
here to share the wisdom of today's babies to guide you on
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your motherhood journey. So in today's episode, I'm going
to be talking about foster care.There's also a lot of overlaps
when it comes to adoption as well.
But I'm feeling to do a separateepisode on adoption because
while there are many similarities why souls would
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choose to come into foster care and also adoption has a slightly
different energy around it as well.
So I'm feeling to do a separate episode, but this episode where
I focus on foster care. I'm going to talk about the
journey of a foster baby that I supported for a few weeks while
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helping out his foster family and the wisdom and the messages
that he taught me about being born or starting life in that
way. I'm also going to talk about why
a soul would choose to come and be separated from their
biological parents, especially under what we would call
difficult situations, which is what happens when a soul goes
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into into foster care. I also want to touch on why
childhood experiences are so important for the soul's journey
to the earth and also look into the benefits of foster care for
the soul because we tend to label foster care as bad or
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unlucky or unfortunate or poor child or all of these things.
But what I've learned from the soul's perspective is that all
of our life situations, good, bad, and everything in between,
do have the potential to offer some really profound insights
and guidance, but also growth for the soul during their
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journey here on earth. So I've had to learn not to be
so quick to judge these experiences and instead to dive
a little deeper and just feel more into why these things may
be happening on that higher perspective or bigger picture
that we usually don't even thinkto consider.
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So first I want to talk about a little foster baby that I, you
know, through some very synchronistic circumstances, I
guess I came to care for. So this little boy, he was about
6 weeks old when I met him. He was born biologically to a
mother who had severe mental health issues that escalated
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towards the end of her pregnancy.
And so from birth, this little boy was placed into a foster
family by child safety. And again, through a series of
synchronicities and alignments, I was asked to help out this
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foster family with this young baby because they also had older
children that they were fostering as well.
So as I said, he was around six weeks old when I first met him.
And energetically, by this pointI had become very familiar with
the energy of babies and how theenergy fields are very, very
different to that of adults. And as I was caring for him,
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which was basic newborn care, sofeeding, bathing, changing,
settling, putting to sleep, all of these things.
And the first thing I noticed from this little boy when I
first met him is that he was very energetically shut down.
Even though a baby's soul or thea baby's energy field is
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generally a lot lighter than an adult's because they have been
on the earth for less, so they have picked up less.
There's less clutter or debris in their energy field compared
to an adult's which can be quitedense.
He actually felt a lot more distant and a little bit too
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light compared to most babies even of this age that I'd cared
for in the past. And interestingly, though, he
also, there's a lot of fear in his energy field and confusion,
but his way to deal with that energetically or to adjust to
that was just to shut down and to kind of disconnect from his
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environment, from his experienceof the earth, from people around
him. And I felt his soul was just so
disconnected from his little human body.
And it was so sad for me to feelhim like that.
It's like the lights were on. He was doing all the things.
Even developmentally, he was on track, but he was like on this
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little empty shell. And he also had a lot of fear
around going to sleep. And he was actually quite
difficult to get to settle and he would wake very, very easily
and very quickly and had a very short sleep cycle to the point I
don't think he really was able to establish a sleep cycle,
especially in those early months.
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So as I continued to care for this child, and it was just for
one day a week over a period of a few months from memory, and I
began to learn a lot from him around his journey and why he
chose to have this start in life.
And I've come to believe not just through him, but with so
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many babies I cared for in the nursery.
We had a lot of babies, unfortunately, that before they
were even born had a child safety alert attached to their
file that we needed to take action for different ways,
different reasons, for differentcircumstances, different
families. But they taught me a lot, these
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children around why they would choose to be born biologically
to a mother or a couple and thenbe separated from their birth
parents under these difficult situations.
You know child safety was never slapped on the file of a healthy
family, right? So as I continued to care for
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this little child, he taught me that he was afraid.
He understood on the soul level,at least energetically, that he
had been separated from his biological mother.
He helped me to understand that he needed to come into a foster
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family for the next chapter of his journey.
And while there was the fear andthe confusion there, there was
also an acceptance for him on the soul level that this was
part of his journey. I've never come across a baby
who was surprised when they end up in foster care or for
adoption for that matter as well, which I'll get into in
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another episode. So there was a knowing that this
is how it was going to be, but also, as I said, this fear and
this uncertainty. And there was a deep wound there
for him that I could feel already around not being with
his mother. And it was a sense of
abandonment, rejection, not feeling like he belonged
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anywhere, even though this foster family were beautiful and
were doing everything they couldto support him.
There were other foster kids in the family, and he was feeling a
little on the altar, like he hadn't really hadn't adjusted to
to being in this different family.
They were all unfamiliar to him.He didn't know their voices, he
didn't recognize them, didn't know their energy.
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They were essentially strangers to him, at least on the human
level, even though he, as I said, his soul did have an
understanding and an expectationthat this would be his path in
life. So as I continued to look after
him, I just asked him so many questions.
I'm sure he was like sick of me by the end of my time caring for
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him. But asking him like why he chose
this? Like why he wanted to start life
in this way. And he told me that he'd had a
lot of experiences in other lifetimes where he felt
disconnected, where he felt confused, where he didn't have a
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good family upbringing or a strong connection with his
parents, even in times where he stayed with them.
So he shared that just because you stay with your biological
parents or family doesn't automatically mean a sense of
belonging or connection or support or love or care like all
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of these things. So for him, his soul this time
wanted to have a different experience of that.
He wanted to also on the soul level, start to have more of a,
a healing journey around this wound.
But also that he also needed to Pierce that wound or to
establish that wound early in this life in order for him to
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move through it and grow throughit.
If he had been born into a very like a highly functional,
conscious family that loved him unconditionally and he was very
connected and supported, he wouldn't have had the
opportunity to explore these wounds.
He wouldn't have been able to understand what it was like to
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feel abandoned and to feel rejected by his parents.
And so as hard as it can be for us to understand on the human
level, the those childhood experience or for him and for
many of us really set us up for our journey ahead and for the
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lessons or the growth that we come here to learn.
And while hard to understand, wedo often need to have the
experience of those situations early in life to then give us
the opportunity and the choices to learn and grow and peel
through them. Because as I said, if we don't
have that, how can we truly learn?
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How can we truly grow? Because it's through experience
and emotions and energy and situations that we grow, not
from reading a book, watching others.
So that was a big part of what of what he shared with me around
his journey. But his ability to adjust to
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that in human form was a little skewed.
It was a little challenge. As I said, he was quite
disconnected and quite distant. But it was also his way of
dealing with his experience as well and trying to make sense of
it. So I actually worked a lot with
him during the time that I worked with him, supporting his
energy field, explaining to him what was going on.
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And this is one of the simplest things we can do for any baby,
any child, regardless of the situation.
It doesn't need to be as complexand as difficult as the this
little boy that I'm talking about.
But we completely underestimate their ability to be able to
understand their environment andtheir surroundings.
They know so much more than whatwe give them credit for, but
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they don't understand what's going on.
On energetic level. They feel it, they sense it, but
there's no connection made thereor no understanding of that.
And so one of the simplest things that we can do for babies
right from preconception all theway through pregnancy, birth,
that newborn phase, older babiesand children, is to explain to
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them what's going on because they feel it anyway.
And that's what I found with this little boy.
He could feel everything that was going on.
He just didn't understand it. So over a carry of weeks, I
worked with him to explain what had gone on, explain what
happened in the later, I think from Emory, it was the last
month or six weeks of his pregnancy with his biological
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mother. I explained what had gone on.
I explained that it wasn't his fault.
I explained what happened when he was born and why he was
suddenly no longer with this mother that or with this woman
that he had essentially known for that first eight months of
his journey to earth. And explaining to him what was
going on. Explaining to him the processes
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now on this family that he was with now and why he was with
this to look after him in the short to medium term to make
sure that he was fed and was sleeping and had a safe space to
live and stay. And I will say with this, I know
this isn't true for all foster families, but I can absolutely
say hand on heart with this foster family I worked with,
their hearts were so beautifullyin the right place.
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And the foster mother had actually been through the system
herself as a child. So what she was doing for this
little boy and also the other children in her care was was
beautiful, a beautiful active service on the soul level and
the human level to support thesechildren because she really knew
their struggles from first hand experience.
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And what I found with this little boy, just talking to him,
just explaining to him what was going on, what was happening, is
his energy just naturally started to shift.
I could feel it. I wasn't doing anything special.
I wasn't doing anything particularly intuitive.
I was just explaining to him, just helping him to understand,
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just orientating him to the earth and what was going on in
his little life. And over a period of weeks and
months, he started to just land more in his body.
And that naturally happens generally the longer we're here
on Earth, but not always. And we can make it easier just
by explaining what's going on. And as I continued to ask him
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about his journey and also his fear around sleeping as well,
what he shared with me is that one of his earliest memories
that was imprinted on his soul, on his energy field in his short
life was sleeping in a cot near his mother.
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And then when he woke up, she was no longer there and he was
in a different place. And that was the original wound
for him. That was that initial split,
that initial trauma, that initial shock for him in his
life. And even just through that, he
developed this fear of sleep, this fear of change, this fear
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of something happening while he was sleeping, this fear of
waking up and not knowing where he was, who he was with, and
what did happen. And what I noticed as I
continued week after week, putting this child to sleep and
all the other care that came with supporting him is that I
learned again, just by helping him to understand what was going
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on. To reassure him, to ask his
guides to come and support him while he was sleeping.
Just to give him that extra support and extra reassurance
that that he was going to be OK.That he was going to wake up in
the same house, in the same bed,the same cot, in the same
location that he went to sleep in.
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Whether that was 20 minutes earlier or two hours earlier,
three hours earlier. And I noticed like, how much
more lighter his energy field came, how much more adjusted he
came to the earth, how much morepeaceful his energy field
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became, how much that fear softens in his energy.
And he began to feel more adjusted to the earth plane and
more safe to be here because that's a huge thing, not just
with babies and newborns, but with all of us.
The main thing I'm learning, at least in my experience and
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working with others, is our needfor safety in the world and how
often we don't feel safe, whether that's physically,
emotionally, energetically, spiritually on all levels.
And this is one thing that we can really do for babies and to
really to support them. So after a few months, my
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journey with this little boy came to an end.
He was meeting all his milestones, he was settling
more, he was sleeping more, his feeding.
It did wobble a little bit and we did need to make some changes
during the time I was with him. But generally he was eating well
and and sleeping well. You know, with the normal baby
moments. It wasn't all smooth sailing,
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but I remember the last time that I cared for him and just
holding him like I get quite attached to the babies that I
care for and I wished him all the best.
I wished that he had a beautifullife ahead of him and that he
could always feel safe and supported.
And I asked his spirit team to come and be with him, to be with
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his energy, to help him to know that he was safe, that he was
loved, that he was never alone, which are three things that I
say to all babies and also All Souls.
We need to know that we're safe.We need to know that we're
loved, and we need to know that we're not alone on our journey
here on earth. And I remember as I told that to
him, and I was just holding him on my chest.
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He'd just had to feed and I'd held him upright on my chest and
his whole body just softened. His whole body just like melted
with this sense of ease and thissense of peace and just an
understanding of what was going on.
And again, as I said, this is something so simple that that we
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can do. Sorry, I know that I've
digressed a little bit here by talking about this baby, but I
do want to bring this conversation now back to foster
care. And as I mentioned with him, he
really needed to have the start in this life for his soul's
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growth around those primary wounds.
Difficult to understand for mostof our humans through our minds,
but very, very profound on the soul level.
So, you know, a question I oftenasked is why would a soul choose
to come and be separated from their biological parents,
especially under what we would call like really difficult
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situations. Like why wouldn't we just be
born to decent families or helpful and loving parents?
And I've already touched on thisa little bit, but, you know, it
can really help to bypass familyissues by this little boy being
born to a mother that really struggled with mental health
issues and being placed into a family that from all I could
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see. And in my experience, like
working with families, I didn't notice any major mental health
issues there. So automatically taking him out
of that environment can help to break into generational patterns
that he may have really struggled to break if he had
been born into and stayed with with his biological parents.
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Because if he was born into kind, loving, generous parents
and he's come from a soul history, say of mental health
issues or substance abuse or whatever it may be, they're
being born into a family where those situations are not
established early and those wounds are not pierced early.
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It just masks it with trauma patterns or generational trauma.
It won't give that opportunity for growth and healing and
release because what we resist persists, right?
Whereas if something comes up for us really strongly, we have
an opportunity to really lean into that with curiosity and
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compassion and to make differentchoices and make changes.
But it's always the choice of the human as well as to whether
they make those changes and takeup the new opportunities.
But these situations can really offer souls a very powerful
opportunity to do that. So, and as I mentioned, like the
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soul is always looking to learn and to grow, we don't come to
earth for a joyride. In my experience.
We don't come to take the easy route.
We come to dig deep and to experience different hearts of
being a human, but also to have the full spectrum of human
experiences, the good and the bad.
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I don't know about you, but I don't know anybody who has had a
simple, easy life with no problems at all.
I think we have different problems and different areas of
our lives depending on what we come here to learn.
But I've never come across anyone who has no problems.
But I do think that some souls do choose to learn some really
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hard lessons in life, and being separated from the family of
origin is really one of these hard lessons.
Just that wind of rejection, abandonment, that is so strong.
And I just want to say too, thatwe don't need to have begun our
life in this way for those wounds to be there either.
It's just having an experience like this at the beginning of
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our life can really add some oomph and some energy behind
these wounds which some of us may need, some of us may not.
I also find too, and just comingback to this little boy, these
lessons that we come to learn and grow through and these
wounds that we come to explore, they can be on the individual
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soul level, but also on the collective level.
So this healing journey for manyof us is very individual and
very different from others. The learnings and the growth are
different. The situations and experiences
are different, The lessons are different, but many cells also
choose to Incarnate to support the transformation or to
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transmute these wounds on the systemic level.
So when it comes to foster care,for example, we all know of
situations that we've heard in the news or through our own
network around babies being borninto what we would call the
system. And also how many of these
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children and their experiences, again, hard to understand on the
human level, but looking at the soul's perspective and the the
greater picture of humanity, these experiences and
circumstances also highlight problems in the system, which
then gives the opportunity to create new policies and
procedures, interventions, protocols, things like this to
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improve the system. Even though you know, it's
taking time, right? It's not something that's going
to to happen overnight, but it can be important in that
collective energy. And there are souls, as I said,
who are putting their hands up to support that, to contribute
to that. And I just want to finish this
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episode just by sharing some of the gifts that I've learnt from
not just this little boy that I was caring for in foster care,
but many other babies I cared for in the nursery who were
going through that that system or were about to enter that
system. And the things they shared with
me around why their souls chose,that is, they wanted to come
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here to learn about independence, to be more
autonomous, to be able to rise above their situations and their
surroundings, to make different choices, to explore different
dimensions, often really challenging dimensions around
interpersonal relationships withothers and dealing with other
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people, both the good, the bad and the ugly, as I already
mentioned. Like really giving themselves an
opportunity to explore these core wounds around rejection,
abandonment, neglect, especiallyfrom their family of origin, but
also understanding that their family of origin were just
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playing a role, were just actorsin their play.
It's not about beating up on theparents or judging the
biological parents for their actions.
They're all on their own soldier, and that's different
for everyone. But acknowledging the role that
these biological parents played in the soul's journey for these
children, and as I mentioned, these experiences, these
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situations which I'm learning tosee, and I will emphasize that
it's something I've needed to learn.
It's something that didn't come naturally to me, is learning how
the soul or the human who's attached to that soul learns to
or chooses to deal with these experiences and situations.
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Some foster children really struggle to break free from
these wounds. They can turn to substances or
even violence to deal with it. They can become stuck in the the
victim mentality or become like like a revolving door of these
of the system and go on to have their own children who become
part of the system. So some souls are unable to
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break free from these wounds andsometimes it can take us a few
lives to be able to do this. It's not just a one time gig for
many of us, especially with these really deep core wounds.
Others that go through the system, like I mentioned with
the foster mother who was caringfor this little baby that I was
supporting them with, she went through the system and just in
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her own world, she created profound changes in the system
by going back into the system asa foster mother to support this
next generation of kids who would be placed into foster
care. Because what an incredible gift
that she and many others in her situation are able to offer this
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next generation of foster children.
Again, giving them a deeper understanding and compassion
that they may not have been ableto experience with say, a family
that had had not had that that first hand experience.
And again, these are generalizations.
Each soul's journey is very, very different.
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So I'm feeling to leave this episode here.
I feel like there was a lot to this and I understand that it
can be a very challenging topic and something that can be very
difficult to understand through our human minds and to make
peace with that, especially if it's being part of your own
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journey in some way as well. So I want to acknowledge the
difficulty of that. And I know for my own journey,
I've needed to separate at timesthe the soul's journey or their
plans for this life or what theycame here to experience in that
bigger picture and really separate that from the human
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experience. Because while the soul may have
these plans from a very high vibration and from a very wise
place, at the end of the day, it's us humans that need to
execute that plan and to live out the experiences and in many
ways for the consequences of that soul's plan, which isn't
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easy at all. In fact, what I've come to learn
is the most powerful lessons forthe soul on their journey to to
earth, actually the most brutal for the human to experience
physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually,
energetically, and also to integrate and process and begin
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to heal from. But as I said, they're also the
most profound. So yeah, today was a big
episode, so be gentle with yourself.
It's really important to, as yougo through your journey,
wherever you are, to reach out for the support that you need in
the time that you need it. Thank you for tuning in to
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you. Until next time, trust your
journey and your baby. Take care.
Welcome to Babies from Beyond, the podcast that gives all
babies a voice whether they are still in spirit or already earth
side. I'm Lauren Dionysius, a former
registered NICU nurse turned baby soul communicator, and I'm
here to share the wisdom of today's babies to guide you on
(00:25):
your motherhood journey. So in today's episode, I'm going
to be talking about foster care.There's also a lot of overlaps
when it comes to adoption as well.
But I'm feeling to do a separateepisode on adoption because
while there are many similarities why souls would
(00:46):
choose to come into foster care and also adoption has a slightly
different energy around it as well.
So I'm feeling to do a separate episode, but this episode where
I focus on foster care. I'm going to talk about the
journey of a foster baby that I supported for a few weeks while
(01:09):
helping out his foster family and the wisdom and the messages
that he taught me about being born or starting life in that
way. I'm also going to talk about why
a soul would choose to come and be separated from their
biological parents, especially under what we would call
difficult situations, which is what happens when a soul goes
(01:32):
into into foster care. I also want to touch on why
childhood experiences are so important for the soul's journey
to the earth and also look into the benefits of foster care for
the soul because we tend to label foster care as bad or
(01:54):
unlucky or unfortunate or poor child or all of these things.
But what I've learned from the soul's perspective is that all
of our life situations, good, bad, and everything in between,
do have the potential to offer some really profound insights
and guidance, but also growth for the soul during their
(02:17):
journey here on earth. So I've had to learn not to be
so quick to judge these experiences and instead to dive
a little deeper and just feel more into why these things may
be happening on that higher perspective or bigger picture
that we usually don't even thinkto consider.
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So first I want to talk about a little foster baby that I, you
know, through some very synchronistic circumstances, I
guess I came to care for. So this little boy, he was about
6 weeks old when I met him. He was born biologically to a
mother who had severe mental health issues that escalated
(03:09):
towards the end of her pregnancy.
And so from birth, this little boy was placed into a foster
family by child safety. And again, through a series of
synchronicities and alignments, I was asked to help out this
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foster family with this young baby because they also had older
children that they were fostering as well.
So as I said, he was around six weeks old when I first met him.
And energetically, by this pointI had become very familiar with
the energy of babies and how theenergy fields are very, very
different to that of adults. And as I was caring for him,
(03:56):
which was basic newborn care, sofeeding, bathing, changing,
settling, putting to sleep, all of these things.
And the first thing I noticed from this little boy when I
first met him is that he was very energetically shut down.
Even though a baby's soul or thea baby's energy field is
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generally a lot lighter than an adult's because they have been
on the earth for less, so they have picked up less.
There's less clutter or debris in their energy field compared
to an adult's which can be quitedense.
He actually felt a lot more distant and a little bit too
(04:37):
light compared to most babies even of this age that I'd cared
for in the past. And interestingly, though, he
also, there's a lot of fear in his energy field and confusion,
but his way to deal with that energetically or to adjust to
that was just to shut down and to kind of disconnect from his
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environment, from his experienceof the earth, from people around
him. And I felt his soul was just so
disconnected from his little human body.
And it was so sad for me to feelhim like that.
It's like the lights were on. He was doing all the things.
Even developmentally, he was on track, but he was like on this
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little empty shell. And he also had a lot of fear
around going to sleep. And he was actually quite
difficult to get to settle and he would wake very, very easily
and very quickly and had a very short sleep cycle to the point I
don't think he really was able to establish a sleep cycle,
especially in those early months.
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So as I continued to care for this child, and it was just for
one day a week over a period of a few months from memory, and I
began to learn a lot from him around his journey and why he
chose to have this start in life.
And I've come to believe not just through him, but with so
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many babies I cared for in the nursery.
We had a lot of babies, unfortunately, that before they
were even born had a child safety alert attached to their
file that we needed to take action for different ways,
different reasons, for differentcircumstances, different
families. But they taught me a lot, these
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children around why they would choose to be born biologically
to a mother or a couple and thenbe separated from their birth
parents under these difficult situations.
You know child safety was never slapped on the file of a healthy
family, right? So as I continued to care for
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this little child, he taught me that he was afraid.
He understood on the soul level,at least energetically, that he
had been separated from his biological mother.
He helped me to understand that he needed to come into a foster
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family for the next chapter of his journey.
And while there was the fear andthe confusion there, there was
also an acceptance for him on the soul level that this was
part of his journey. I've never come across a baby
who was surprised when they end up in foster care or for
adoption for that matter as well, which I'll get into in
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another episode. So there was a knowing that this
is how it was going to be, but also, as I said, this fear and
this uncertainty. And there was a deep wound there
for him that I could feel already around not being with
his mother. And it was a sense of
abandonment, rejection, not feeling like he belonged
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anywhere, even though this foster family were beautiful and
were doing everything they couldto support him.
There were other foster kids in the family, and he was feeling a
little on the altar, like he hadn't really hadn't adjusted to
to being in this different family.
They were all unfamiliar to him.He didn't know their voices, he
didn't recognize them, didn't know their energy.
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They were essentially strangers to him, at least on the human
level, even though he, as I said, his soul did have an
understanding and an expectationthat this would be his path in
life. So as I continued to look after
him, I just asked him so many questions.
I'm sure he was like sick of me by the end of my time caring for
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him. But asking him like why he chose
this? Like why he wanted to start life
in this way. And he told me that he'd had a
lot of experiences in other lifetimes where he felt
disconnected, where he felt confused, where he didn't have a
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good family upbringing or a strong connection with his
parents, even in times where he stayed with them.
So he shared that just because you stay with your biological
parents or family doesn't automatically mean a sense of
belonging or connection or support or love or care like all
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of these things. So for him, his soul this time
wanted to have a different experience of that.
He wanted to also on the soul level, start to have more of a,
a healing journey around this wound.
But also that he also needed to Pierce that wound or to
establish that wound early in this life in order for him to
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move through it and grow throughit.
If he had been born into a very like a highly functional,
conscious family that loved him unconditionally and he was very
connected and supported, he wouldn't have had the
opportunity to explore these wounds.
He wouldn't have been able to understand what it was like to
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feel abandoned and to feel rejected by his parents.
And so as hard as it can be for us to understand on the human
level, the those childhood experience or for him and for
many of us really set us up for our journey ahead and for the
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lessons or the growth that we come here to learn.
And while hard to understand, wedo often need to have the
experience of those situations early in life to then give us
the opportunity and the choices to learn and grow and peel
through them. Because as I said, if we don't
have that, how can we truly learn?
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How can we truly grow? Because it's through experience
and emotions and energy and situations that we grow, not
from reading a book, watching others.
So that was a big part of what of what he shared with me around
his journey. But his ability to adjust to
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that in human form was a little skewed.
It was a little challenge. As I said, he was quite
disconnected and quite distant. But it was also his way of
dealing with his experience as well and trying to make sense of
it. So I actually worked a lot with
him during the time that I worked with him, supporting his
energy field, explaining to him what was going on.
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And this is one of the simplest things we can do for any baby,
any child, regardless of the situation.
It doesn't need to be as complexand as difficult as the this
little boy that I'm talking about.
But we completely underestimate their ability to be able to
understand their environment andtheir surroundings.
They know so much more than whatwe give them credit for, but
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they don't understand what's going on.
On energetic level. They feel it, they sense it, but
there's no connection made thereor no understanding of that.
And so one of the simplest things that we can do for babies
right from preconception all theway through pregnancy, birth,
that newborn phase, older babiesand children, is to explain to
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them what's going on because they feel it anyway.
And that's what I found with this little boy.
He could feel everything that was going on.
He just didn't understand it. So over a carry of weeks, I
worked with him to explain what had gone on, explain what
happened in the later, I think from Emory, it was the last
month or six weeks of his pregnancy with his biological
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mother. I explained what had gone on.
I explained that it wasn't his fault.
I explained what happened when he was born and why he was
suddenly no longer with this mother that or with this woman
that he had essentially known for that first eight months of
his journey to earth. And explaining to him what was
going on. Explaining to him the processes
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now on this family that he was with now and why he was with
this to look after him in the short to medium term to make
sure that he was fed and was sleeping and had a safe space to
live and stay. And I will say with this, I know
this isn't true for all foster families, but I can absolutely
say hand on heart with this foster family I worked with,
their hearts were so beautifullyin the right place.
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And the foster mother had actually been through the system
herself as a child. So what she was doing for this
little boy and also the other children in her care was was
beautiful, a beautiful active service on the soul level and
the human level to support thesechildren because she really knew
their struggles from first hand experience.
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And what I found with this little boy, just talking to him,
just explaining to him what was going on, what was happening, is
his energy just naturally started to shift.
I could feel it. I wasn't doing anything special.
I wasn't doing anything particularly intuitive.
I was just explaining to him, just helping him to understand,
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just orientating him to the earth and what was going on in
his little life. And over a period of weeks and
months, he started to just land more in his body.
And that naturally happens generally the longer we're here
on Earth, but not always. And we can make it easier just
by explaining what's going on. And as I continued to ask him
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about his journey and also his fear around sleeping as well,
what he shared with me is that one of his earliest memories
that was imprinted on his soul, on his energy field in his short
life was sleeping in a cot near his mother.
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And then when he woke up, she was no longer there and he was
in a different place. And that was the original wound
for him. That was that initial split,
that initial trauma, that initial shock for him in his
life. And even just through that, he
developed this fear of sleep, this fear of change, this fear
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of something happening while he was sleeping, this fear of
waking up and not knowing where he was, who he was with, and
what did happen. And what I noticed as I
continued week after week, putting this child to sleep and
all the other care that came with supporting him is that I
learned again, just by helping him to understand what was going
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on. To reassure him, to ask his
guides to come and support him while he was sleeping.
Just to give him that extra support and extra reassurance
that that he was going to be OK.That he was going to wake up in
the same house, in the same bed,the same cot, in the same
location that he went to sleep in.
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Whether that was 20 minutes earlier or two hours earlier,
three hours earlier. And I noticed like, how much
more lighter his energy field came, how much more adjusted he
came to the earth, how much morepeaceful his energy field
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became, how much that fear softens in his energy.
And he began to feel more adjusted to the earth plane and
more safe to be here because that's a huge thing, not just
with babies and newborns, but with all of us.
The main thing I'm learning, at least in my experience and
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working with others, is our needfor safety in the world and how
often we don't feel safe, whether that's physically,
emotionally, energetically, spiritually on all levels.
And this is one thing that we can really do for babies and to
really to support them. So after a few months, my
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journey with this little boy came to an end.
He was meeting all his milestones, he was settling
more, he was sleeping more, his feeding.
It did wobble a little bit and we did need to make some changes
during the time I was with him. But generally he was eating well
and and sleeping well. You know, with the normal baby
moments. It wasn't all smooth sailing,
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but I remember the last time that I cared for him and just
holding him like I get quite attached to the babies that I
care for and I wished him all the best.
I wished that he had a beautifullife ahead of him and that he
could always feel safe and supported.
And I asked his spirit team to come and be with him, to be with
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his energy, to help him to know that he was safe, that he was
loved, that he was never alone, which are three things that I
say to all babies and also All Souls.
We need to know that we're safe.We need to know that we're
loved, and we need to know that we're not alone on our journey
here on earth. And I remember as I told that to
him, and I was just holding him on my chest.
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He'd just had to feed and I'd held him upright on my chest and
his whole body just softened. His whole body just like melted
with this sense of ease and thissense of peace and just an
understanding of what was going on.
And again, as I said, this is something so simple that that we
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can do. Sorry, I know that I've
digressed a little bit here by talking about this baby, but I
do want to bring this conversation now back to foster
care. And as I mentioned with him, he
really needed to have the start in this life for his soul's
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growth around those primary wounds.
Difficult to understand for mostof our humans through our minds,
but very, very profound on the soul level.
So, you know, a question I oftenasked is why would a soul choose
to come and be separated from their biological parents,
especially under what we would call like really difficult
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situations. Like why wouldn't we just be
born to decent families or helpful and loving parents?
And I've already touched on thisa little bit, but, you know, it
can really help to bypass familyissues by this little boy being
born to a mother that really struggled with mental health
issues and being placed into a family that from all I could
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see. And in my experience, like
working with families, I didn't notice any major mental health
issues there. So automatically taking him out
of that environment can help to break into generational patterns
that he may have really struggled to break if he had
been born into and stayed with with his biological parents.
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Because if he was born into kind, loving, generous parents
and he's come from a soul history, say of mental health
issues or substance abuse or whatever it may be, they're
being born into a family where those situations are not
established early and those wounds are not pierced early.
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It just masks it with trauma patterns or generational trauma.
It won't give that opportunity for growth and healing and
release because what we resist persists, right?
Whereas if something comes up for us really strongly, we have
an opportunity to really lean into that with curiosity and
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compassion and to make differentchoices and make changes.
But it's always the choice of the human as well as to whether
they make those changes and takeup the new opportunities.
But these situations can really offer souls a very powerful
opportunity to do that. So, and as I mentioned, like the
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soul is always looking to learn and to grow, we don't come to
earth for a joyride. In my experience.
We don't come to take the easy route.
We come to dig deep and to experience different hearts of
being a human, but also to have the full spectrum of human
experiences, the good and the bad.
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I don't know about you, but I don't know anybody who has had a
simple, easy life with no problems at all.
I think we have different problems and different areas of
our lives depending on what we come here to learn.
But I've never come across anyone who has no problems.
But I do think that some souls do choose to learn some really
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hard lessons in life, and being separated from the family of
origin is really one of these hard lessons.
Just that wind of rejection, abandonment, that is so strong.
And I just want to say too, thatwe don't need to have begun our
life in this way for those wounds to be there either.
It's just having an experience like this at the beginning of
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our life can really add some oomph and some energy behind
these wounds which some of us may need, some of us may not.
I also find too, and just comingback to this little boy, these
lessons that we come to learn and grow through and these
wounds that we come to explore, they can be on the individual
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soul level, but also on the collective level.
So this healing journey for manyof us is very individual and
very different from others. The learnings and the growth are
different. The situations and experiences
are different, The lessons are different, but many cells also
choose to Incarnate to support the transformation or to
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transmute these wounds on the systemic level.
So when it comes to foster care,for example, we all know of
situations that we've heard in the news or through our own
network around babies being borninto what we would call the
system. And also how many of these
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children and their experiences, again, hard to understand on the
human level, but looking at the soul's perspective and the the
greater picture of humanity, these experiences and
circumstances also highlight problems in the system, which
then gives the opportunity to create new policies and
procedures, interventions, protocols, things like this to
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improve the system. Even though you know, it's
taking time, right? It's not something that's going
to to happen overnight, but it can be important in that
collective energy. And there are souls, as I said,
who are putting their hands up to support that, to contribute
to that. And I just want to finish this
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episode just by sharing some of the gifts that I've learnt from
not just this little boy that I was caring for in foster care,
but many other babies I cared for in the nursery who were
going through that that system or were about to enter that
system. And the things they shared with
me around why their souls chose,that is, they wanted to come
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here to learn about independence, to be more
autonomous, to be able to rise above their situations and their
surroundings, to make different choices, to explore different
dimensions, often really challenging dimensions around
interpersonal relationships withothers and dealing with other
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people, both the good, the bad and the ugly, as I already
mentioned. Like really giving themselves an
opportunity to explore these core wounds around rejection,
abandonment, neglect, especiallyfrom their family of origin, but
also understanding that their family of origin were just
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playing a role, were just actorsin their play.
It's not about beating up on theparents or judging the
biological parents for their actions.
They're all on their own soldier, and that's different
for everyone. But acknowledging the role that
these biological parents played in the soul's journey for these
children, and as I mentioned, these experiences, these
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situations which I'm learning tosee, and I will emphasize that
it's something I've needed to learn.
It's something that didn't come naturally to me, is learning how
the soul or the human who's attached to that soul learns to
or chooses to deal with these experiences and situations.
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Some foster children really struggle to break free from
these wounds. They can turn to substances or
even violence to deal with it. They can become stuck in the the
victim mentality or become like like a revolving door of these
of the system and go on to have their own children who become
part of the system. So some souls are unable to
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break free from these wounds andsometimes it can take us a few
lives to be able to do this. It's not just a one time gig for
many of us, especially with these really deep core wounds.
Others that go through the system, like I mentioned with
the foster mother who was caringfor this little baby that I was
supporting them with, she went through the system and just in
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her own world, she created profound changes in the system
by going back into the system asa foster mother to support this
next generation of kids who would be placed into foster
care. Because what an incredible gift
that she and many others in her situation are able to offer this
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next generation of foster children.
Again, giving them a deeper understanding and compassion
that they may not have been ableto experience with say, a family
that had had not had that that first hand experience.
And again, these are generalizations.
Each soul's journey is very, very different.
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So I'm feeling to leave this episode here.
I feel like there was a lot to this and I understand that it
can be a very challenging topic and something that can be very
difficult to understand through our human minds and to make
peace with that, especially if it's being part of your own
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journey in some way as well. So I want to acknowledge the
difficulty of that. And I know for my own journey,
I've needed to separate at timesthe the soul's journey or their
plans for this life or what theycame here to experience in that
bigger picture and really separate that from the human
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experience. Because while the soul may have
these plans from a very high vibration and from a very wise
place, at the end of the day, it's us humans that need to
execute that plan and to live out the experiences and in many
ways for the consequences of that soul's plan, which isn't
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easy at all. In fact, what I've come to learn
is the most powerful lessons forthe soul on their journey to to
earth, actually the most brutal for the human to experience
physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually,
energetically, and also to integrate and process and begin
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to heal from. But as I said, they're also the
most profound. So yeah, today was a big
episode, so be gentle with yourself.
It's really important to, as yougo through your journey,
wherever you are, to reach out for the support that you need in
the time that you need it. Thank you for tuning in to
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Babies From Beyond. If you've enjoyed this episode,
I'd love for you to leave me a review just wherever you listen
to your podcasts. Also, head over to Instagram and
give me a follow at Bourne Energy and check out the show
notes for more ways that you canconnect with your baby's soul,
including one-on-one readings and online programs to support
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you. Until next time, trust your
journey and your baby. Take care.
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