Episode 34 - Epiphany Click Moments

Have you ever had that actual lightbulb moment, that click of an epiphany when something you've been working on for a long time, years even, finally makes sense?

Takeaways

• We may not be able to control our present circumstances but we can control our thoughts and our mindset around our circumstances.
• You can choose to not identify with your pain, meaning you use words like “experiencing right now.” 
• Self-improvement is a life long process and it takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight and once you think you’ve resolved some issues, new ones come up. It’s just how it works.
• To sustain progress and continue with your self-improvement, it has to come from within you, not only for the sake of external factors like validation, acceptance, approval etc.
• You can do a thing, like exercise to lose weight, but the reason behind it can be so different and change your approach, like losing weight to please others vs for yourself
• We are each responsible for our own happiness, no one else’s.  
• We are responsible for how we conduct ourselves in relation to others but their reactions, feelings, actions, are their own responsibility, not yours.
• Like The Four Agreements says: Do not take it personal. 
• Other people’s emotions are not your fault, ever. Of course you might say something that upsets them, but the way they show their anger is not your fault.
• Anger is a natural emotion that is inside each of us BUT how we react or choose to respond is behavioral that is learned and can be unlearned with time and effort.
• Be patient with yourself. Self-improvement takes time. It’s a journey with no real destination except expanding your inner peace and calming your inner dialogue.
• When you do your shadow work (shadow work is when you dig deep inside yourself to heal and improve), it will eventually click into place for you.
• Winning at life isn’t about all the tangible things we collect, but the journey to improve yourself.
• Teach people how to value your time and services, coming from a place of self-worth.
• You are most useful to your tribe when you are your best self, and that best self is always changing and improving; like moving the chains in American football.

Resources

• https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319
• https://www.miguelruiz.com/the-four-agreements
• https://declutterthemind.com/blog/moment-of-clarity/
• https://uhs.berkeley.edu/sites/default/files/understanding_anger_0.pdf
• https://unfuckyourbrain.com/peoples-feelings/
• https://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control

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