June 23, 2025 • 21 mins
This week on Chocolate Chip & Sip, we’re talking about the breakups that don’t get enough credit—the ones with your homegirls.
From drifting apart after years of loyalty to that one friend who ghosted like a man, let’s unpack the quiet grief of friendship breakups, how to heal without bitterness, and how to spot when the vibe shift isn’t just in your head.
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From drifting apart after years of loyalty to that one friend who ghosted like a man, let’s unpack the quiet grief of friendship breakups, how to heal without bitterness, and how to spot when the vibe shift isn’t just in your head.
Let’s connect:
Instagram: @ChocolateChipandSip
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For business: inquiries@stormypea.com
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Almost in my old intro. What's up, beautiful people, it's
your girl story repeat, and this is another episode of Chocolate,
Chip and Chip. And today we're not talking about the
situationship you keep going back to. We're not talking about
standing on boundaries. We're not talking about doing better, choosing better,
giving yourself your all. Today we're gonna talk about something
(00:26):
even more serious. Where's your mic shot? Exactly? I feel
like we talk about being ghosted by a guy you
shouldn't have gave a chance to all the time, right,
I feel like we talk about toxic situationships all the time.
All right, No, we don't talk about just what you
keep happening. It's a breakup, but it's a friend breakup,
(00:48):
a friend breakup. Now. I know so many y'all have
been saying, yeah, yeah, it's not that serious. What's not
that serious? Breaking up what a friend is just the
same as breaking up with a nigga, just the same
as breaking up with your girl. And I'm gonna tell
you why breaking up with your friend is hard, because
that heartbreak it different. This ain't just somebody, right, you
just gay yams too? You say I don't really need
(01:09):
to see them again or I'm saying you can just
get over as simple as that. No, this is somebody
who's seen you at your highest, somebody who's seen you
at your lowest, and somebody who might have seen your
titties the hurt. The hert is different, Okay, the herd
is different. Honestly, fellas, y'all might learn a thing or two. Okay,
I know y'all be wondering why girls go to Miami
and they't not friends when they get back, you gonna
(01:31):
find out. You gonna find out. You gonna find out today.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
We already know because all of them wards have like
one or two of them.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I said one or two.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Somebody always getting trashed. No, somebody's always getting trashed by
a penist, and then somebody's always getting and then somebody's
always getting lost, and then somebody whose ain't got no money.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
It's always it's always one of those factors.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
It's it's it's you. You mentioned it too, like it's
always home to money or money, or somebody want to
be a whole when you're found that's money, or somebody
wants to be a You already know started trying to
jump ahead like damnigg we got segments, thank you sawone
to start with. A friendship breakup hurts just as bad.
(02:16):
It's not more than a romantic breakup because number one,
you wouldn't expect this type of behavior from your ride
to die, bitch. I didn't know you was gonna have
to die, okay, when we entered this pact, when we
became friends, whether it be when we met each other
in the breakroom at work, whether it be when we
sat down on the rug together in third grade. I
didn't know you was gonna show your ass. I didn't
(02:39):
know I was gonna have to sing you to the
shadow rem since like it's hard out here, it's just unexpected.
I have shared so many juicy details with you, you know
too much, like you gotta go, you gotta go. You
can be a great person, but this one individual those
all your skeletons in your clod it and could be
(03:01):
out here trying to tell everybody, like how do you
handle that? When we talk about like friend breakups, we
always automatically assume it's a girl thing. Fellas be feeling
it too, finding out your homie, try to talk to
your fine shit or some old work It's hard finding
(03:21):
out your homie is actually a bum who's not going
to pay you back the money they said they were
going to pay you. It's hard, okay, finally maturing and
realizing your homie is the nigga who say, yo, Bro,
you think I got too many Jordans? When bitches come around,
even harder, okay, Like friendship breakups across the scale are
hard because it's intimate. Okay, you never expected it and
(03:44):
nobody wants it.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
And the pain don't come till three months later.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I think when you break up with a friend, you
have to grieve them, okay, dog, Like I have to
grieve you because you're no longer here. You're dead to me.
Can't just say I don't watch you anymore, bro, And
I be real pissed when it's like I gotta I
gotta meme or real I want to sing you because
(04:09):
I know you wanted. A few people who go and
get it and think it's funny, Oh my god, it
beat the worse like and then it's like we'll stop
being friends then like two years later, like Instagram or
Facebook says people, you may know I know that hole
and I don't like her no more. We're not friends.
(04:30):
We're not cool.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
We're not cool. This is six years ago.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Discover you ain't never lied to you ain't never lied
or like you said, like and here come folky ass Facebook.
Remember when you was friends with this bitch six years ago? Okay,
I do.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
I don't want you, but I do.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
It's hard when you gotta stop fucking with the person
who knew your passwords right. And it's hard when you
gotta imagine your life without so when you may have
planned the rest of it with not on like some
we getting married stuff that was like, Yo, bro, I
expected you to be at my wedding. I expected you
to be standing next to me, like I expected you
to be standing next to me as I'm grieving you know,
(05:13):
my mom, my grandmom. Like I expected you to be
at the birth of my child, at my kids graduation,
like I envisioned this for us because we were so
locked in. This is SHOT's fault. Just so y'all know,
Shod told me last week. He was like, Yo, bitch,
I'm sick of you talk about relationships, so go with
(05:33):
something else. So this is SHOT's fault. So yeah, the
next thing I want to talk about the only thing
Worse than breaking up with a friend is seeing them
hanging out with people y'all wasn't cool with when y'all
was friends. Now, when the fuck did this happen? I'm confused? Now,
y'all chum chummy, Now y'all, buddy buddy, didn't she burn us?
(05:54):
Don't that whole owe us money? How are y'all friends?
Didn't that nigga say he was gonna come through and
he didn't? How are y'all friends? Now? That be the
part that be getting me so bad? When fucking Meghan
said Op's linked up in a picture, I felt that
on a spiritual level, y'all don't even like each other.
Y'all just don't like me. It's never gonna be you.
(06:19):
To see how low you would go makes me realize
you was never really my friend.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
In the beginning, we was.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Just in the group chat talking about this girl. Now
y'all friends. Now y'all bumping coot chase. Okay, maybe not
bumba coe cheese, but you know, y'all sharing pocketbooks, same thing,
same thing. The only thing worse than that is when
they start hanging out with people you introduced him to. Jesus,
my friends get out of here. Okay. It even worse
(06:47):
when the people you introduced them to, y'all not really
locked in like that, so they don't got no reason
to choose sides, so you can't be mad at them.
But you could be mad at your funky ass ex
friend because you know what, Or you just go around
trying to recruit other people not to like me, hate
me on your own. How don't You don't need no backup?
(07:07):
Hate me on your own. You do not need to
venture out and rally a squadron of people not to
like me. Okay, you don't gotta do that, Hey me
with your chest?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Ye?
Speaker 1 (07:18):
No, Because a man might not deliberately recruit other men
not to like you, but he'll start dirty macking and
dry snitching and saying shit about you that other niggas
cannot want to fuck with you for same thing. I'm sorry.
What you're done, You're fucking done. I stopped being friends
with somebody, and afterwards I just looked back and said,
(07:41):
how didn't I know that wasn't my friend? Like when
they say hindsight is twenty twenty, it is twenty motherfucking twenty.
I can look back and pinpoint every situation where it
should have became clear that they are not your friend.
Every compliment they give you comes with some backhand smart
ass like other comment like what are we doing here?
I don't like that, Or it's like whenever they need
(08:03):
to borrow money from you, it's okay, but whenever you
ask for your money back, damn, I didn't know we
was counting favors. Uh, we're not. I'm we also not
taking advantage of me either. How come they don't never
have the same urgency they had when they returning the
money as when they were when they was asking for
the money. It's the timelines are never the same. There
(08:23):
I need that money.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Being a strong friend, always being called being the one
a child we need. Okay, let's go, let's go, let's go.
This is low key my fault because I enabled this
behavior by, you know, just being being loyal.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
It's hard when you're genuinely a good person because you're
not counting favors. You're not doing things because you expect
something in return. You're doing things out of the kindness
of your heart and your mind.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
You looking out for.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Your homie, so they're automatically going to look out for you.
But everybody don't think that way. Or it's like whenever
you tell them some good news, some accomplishment, some new accolade,
all of a sudden, this you congress on your little promotion.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Hold on, bitch, big promotion, big money.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Okay, Oh yeah, I see you got your little show popping,
big show. Okay. Oh you know, I see you out
here with your new little car or whatever. Big car,
big fucking lease, big fucking whatever. Okay, put the right
energy on it. They always want to throw some little
shit to make it seem like it's not that deep.
These are all signs that that person isn't really your friend.
(09:22):
But if you're a good person and you have a
good heart, you're gonna miss them all. You are going
to miss them all. When old people be like, oh,
if it was a snake, it would it bit me, baby.
It is so crazy how you can look back and
see every single situation where that person wasn't really down
for you, that person wasn't really in your corner, And
(09:43):
it sucks. It fucking sucks because the whole time you
was riding and looking out for them out of the
kindess of your heart. And then don't let you try
to better yourself and go to fabry and start making
better changes and better decisions in your life. So now
you don't want to do a lot of that fuck
stuff no more. All of us is damn you changed. Nah, Baby,
I grew and I see that you're not right and
(10:06):
not be the worst part, like out growing your friends.
Out Growing your friends is sometimes worse than one of
them doing you dirty because you don't even have a
reason to say, like, this can't work, no more other
than baby's shoe. It's not me, it's shoe, And that's hard.
I feel like a lot of times we see people
fall out on the internet, or we see people in
our inner circle stop being friends and it's like, well
(10:28):
what now, and the crash outs be immense. But if
you're one of those people who's trying to figure out
how to navigate your life after a friend breakup, I
got some suggestions for you. First things First, I don't
want y'all to go on the internet and start crashing
out and telling everybody's business. Okay, I don't want to
(10:48):
hear about how they tub got dirt rings around it,
and how they wear holy drawls and how they always
broke and how they are ho or how they don't
get no hold. I don't want to hear none of that,
because when it was doing all that, that was your
fucking best friend, and that was the people you were
surrounding yourself with. So keep that same energy. It wasn't
(11:10):
a problem when y'all was friends. Okay. She wasn't a dirty,
nasty hoe who owed you money when y'all was linked
up and hanging out every day. Okay. He wasn't a
broke nigga who you always had the front money for
that press the girls and let him borrow your car,
borrow your clothes. He wasn't that when y'all was besties.
So I don't want to hear it when y'all stopped
being friends, okay, because apparently that was just the company
(11:30):
you keep. Instead. What you can do is, I know
y'all don't like it. I know y'all don't like it,
but give it a try. Therapy, journaling, self care. I
know these sound like sugar buzzwords and he just goes
in one air and out the other, But I promise
it makes a difference. Ask yourself, what do you look
like when you are practicing self care? A lot of
(11:51):
people won't have to answer, can it enter? Maybe taking
a bath, going shopping, taking a walk, taking a mindful walk,
Like what else can we do for you that's just
for you to get your mind off. I go to church,
release them demons, okay, journal, take a bath, take a walk,
ride your bike. All right, pour back into you and
(12:13):
don't jump into filling the void. And when I say
filling the void, I'm gonna say probably the toughest part
about breaking up friends as an adult making new friends
because honestly, if it's not like at work as an adult,
where do we make new friends? Church? Okay, the gym, okay, work, Ugh,
(12:35):
Losing your core friend group and having a start over
or losing your best friend as an adult is hard,
never mind the trust issues that you're gonna have coming
off of that. But it's like just as an adult
going up to people like Hi, I'm Gibbie.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
That sucks.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
It sucks regardless. We need to have the energy of
you know, I'm not mad. You just can't sit with
me no more. And if that means I got a
rebuild my own table without you, then it is what
it is. So now we're going to get into Then
there's a segment somebody come look at this.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Okay, Oh I like it.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
We are going to get into some funny stories that
I found on Reddit, and you know, today we're talking
about friendship, so these have to do with friends, and
you know, like, no, you need to because last time
you didn't you need to be on the mic. Last
time you just yelling at the background. Now we're going
to get into some cool stories from Reddit about friendships
(13:36):
or lack thereof. So the first one, am I the
asshole for not forgiving my best friend for sleeping with
my ex even though she.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Said it wasn't that serious.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah yeah, yeah, checks ash And seeing these chit fucking
reels on social media, I gotta send the team where
we're done. My ex, thirty mail and I twenty nine female,
dated for three years. We broke up amicably, but it
still hurt. I thought he was the one. About three
(14:11):
months after our breakup, my best friend of ten years, Kayla,
admitted she'd been talking to him. I don't like that
term sounds like a war Jesus Christ. I was stunned.
She said they'd hooked up a few times and wanted
to tell me before it got serious. Now, hold on, Kayla,
(14:31):
hold on, Kayla, we're gonna have to process the timeline
a little better, Okay, because hooking up a few times, baby,
it's already serious. You have a steady situationship going here.
Like just because y'all not my boyfriend and girlfriend on me,
it's serious. You needed to tell me when y'all exchange
numbers and asks permission, then, okay, telling me after y'all
(14:52):
already did the no pants dances crazy. I was crushed.
I didn't expect lifelong loyalty to my ex, but I
did it expect her not to crawl into bed with
someone I loved. She said it wasn't serious and I
was being possessive. I told her we were done. She
tried to guilt trip me by bringing up all the
time she was there for me doing the breakup, and said,
(15:13):
I'm throwing away a decade long friendship over casual sex,
the same casual sex that you also threw away a
decade long friendship with because you come, come on, and
then you wanna try to gaslight knock your frontsut all
this deca.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
The world you are that one. That's what I would
have said.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
All this dick, not just all this dick all this
casual dick you can be getting. You choose mine, you
choose my old one.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Three months, Rob, Oh, you don't want to talk about serious.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Bright, they've been together for three years. You didn't seen
me three three Christmases, three birthdays. We probably had a
group check by this time, like you was plying. It's
giving you was plying. She said, Maybe I'm being dramatic,
Maybe it wasn't that serious, but it feels serious, and
my asshole ending our friendship over this, baby. I'm gonna
(16:02):
hold your hand when I say this. Y'all was never friends. Okay,
the friendship was already.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Over as soon as I heard knew.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Oh my god. Okay, you can't blame all the Kaylas
for this. You cannot blame to me personally. It's really
the fact that y'all was together three years and she
tried to guess like you into making it seem like
it wasn't that deep.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
That's like when you hold somebody down here, like I
didn't ask you to all those things.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
She think you sweet sis. Okay, no, you're you're not
the asshole. I don't I don't know about y'all, but
I don't think she said something you're spaghetti. I'm gonna
go to the next story, and mighty asshole for refusing
to continue the date because she showed up with the
friend unannounced, y'all. Why y'all do this, y'all? Good boy,
(16:52):
I cannot continue to defend y'all with these type of shenanigans. Okay,
y'all are making it hard for me. It says basically,
got matched on tender for a Saturday date. We agreed
on some cafe in public, and she shows up with
a friend of hers who's to be fair more attractive
than herself.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
That was your first mistake, syst That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
If you're going to show up on a date with
somebody else, bringing somebody more attractive than you is bold
as hell. But you know what, I take that back.
What if her thought process was if my friend is fine,
he'll pay for her drinks too, So I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
She might have been cooking left. Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
So when I met them, I asked what's up, and
she said, I bought a friend if you don't mind,
just to be more comfortable. I replied, I thought this
was a date since I specifically asked if you would
like to go out for food and drinks with me.
She basically said her friend wanted to come for security reasons.
All Right, I'm gonna be real you. If everybody's grown here, right,
(18:04):
like everybody's is an adult, you don't need to be
going to dates with your friends. If you are going
to go on a date with your friend for security reasons,
sins play the game smart, sit a table away, put
a menu in front of your face like you play
the game.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Sets feel uncomfortable with me. I'm feel uncomfortable on you.
We're not doing nothing now. I agree that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Because you saying you brought your friend for security reasons.
What if he think y'all trying to rob him for
security reason?
Speaker 2 (18:33):
To like, that's crazy. A whole nother person do, that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Dog. I got annoyed and said I'm not doing a
three person date. Sorry, have a good win and left.
I'm a twenty seven year okay, and this what pitches me, Hey,
twenty seven, which means y'all are around twenty seven, So
everybody is grown. I'm twenty seven years old with almost
no free time, looking for a serious partner, not some
situationship or a fun night man. My profile also clearly
(19:00):
states looking for something serious and long term online and
offline talk about is this normal to bring a friend
on a date? Or am I just behind with the times?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Baby?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
No, it's not. No, it is not normal. And whoever
is spreading the word that it's okay to go on
a date with your girlfriend who's not incognito, because I
don't mind if she incognito. Who's not incognito? That's not
okay bring.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Out with people where you feel like you need to
bring somebody for security in the first place.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
I was just about to say.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
That anything that I do at that point is gonna
looking I'm gonna be nervous walking.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
If you are, say to the point where you feel
like you don't feel safe with this person, ask yourself why?
Because he just said y'all met during the day in
a public place. He didn't take you to no hole
on the wall like bar in the middle of North Philly.
He's taking you to some place in the day in public, Like,
what is he gonna do? Sis? And I don't want
(19:54):
to say what's he gonna do? Because I know things
have happened. But if you're at a point where you're
this uncomfortable, maybe you shouldn't be dating. Maybe you're not
ready to step out there and get to know new
people and try new things. Maybe you should go see
a therapist.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Figure out friends, should get a job and take yourselves
off food and another fucking thing.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Friend who's more attractive as the more attractive friend?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
What are you trying.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
To steal her man or hurt her potential man? Because
I don't really like how this is working out as
the more attractive friend, you should know you don't need
to be bringing no other friends, Like what are we
doing here? Daytime in a public place is safe enough.
So let me ask you a question. What would you
do if you showed up to a date and your
date for a friend? Me me personally, I don't know.
(20:37):
A two v one handicap match is crazy? All right, y'all?
You know, scrap, shut up? You know. I just want
to say, if you're having a hard time, shot just
dropped this blunt. If you're having a hard time dealing
with a friend breakup, you're not alone, and the feelings
that you're feeling, whether it be hurt, whether it be betrayal,
(20:58):
whether it be discussed, because you can't even believe you
were ever friends with a person like this, all of
this is valid, and I want you to know that
although it may be hard, you will get through this
and you will make even better friends.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Who won't be pieces of shit.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
So it'll be great friends who actually want to be
friends with you for you, and aren't just using you
for your money, using you for Cloud, maybe using you
for the girls that you have around you, using you
for the gods that you have around you. Okay, something
better is coming. I also want to say my birthday
is on Sunday. By the time this drop, my birthday
will be yesterday actually, but my message is always going
(21:35):
to be the same. Follow me on the gram at
Stormy Pea, at Chocolate Chip and Sip and if you
don't remember anything else, please remember you weren't the problem.
I love you, guys, and I'll see next week.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
Peace.
Almost in my old intro. What's up, beautiful people, it's
your girl story repeat, and this is another episode of Chocolate,
Chip and Chip. And today we're not talking about the
situationship you keep going back to. We're not talking about
standing on boundaries. We're not talking about doing better, choosing better,
giving yourself your all. Today we're gonna talk about something
(00:26):
even more serious. Where's your mic shot? Exactly? I feel
like we talk about being ghosted by a guy you
shouldn't have gave a chance to all the time, right,
I feel like we talk about toxic situationships all the time.
All right, No, we don't talk about just what you
keep happening. It's a breakup, but it's a friend breakup,
(00:48):
a friend breakup. Now. I know so many y'all have
been saying, yeah, yeah, it's not that serious. What's not
that serious? Breaking up what a friend is just the
same as breaking up with a nigga, just the same
as breaking up with your girl. And I'm gonna tell
you why breaking up with your friend is hard, because
that heartbreak it different. This ain't just somebody, right, you
just gay yams too? You say I don't really need
(01:09):
to see them again or I'm saying you can just
get over as simple as that. No, this is somebody
who's seen you at your highest, somebody who's seen you
at your lowest, and somebody who might have seen your
titties the hurt. The hert is different, Okay, the herd
is different. Honestly, fellas, y'all might learn a thing or two. Okay,
I know y'all be wondering why girls go to Miami
and they't not friends when they get back, you gonna
(01:31):
find out. You gonna find out. You gonna find out today.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
We already know because all of them wards have like
one or two of them.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I said one or two.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Somebody always getting trashed. No, somebody's always getting trashed by
a penist, and then somebody's always getting and then somebody's
always getting lost, and then somebody whose ain't got no money.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
It's always it's always one of those factors.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
It's it's it's you. You mentioned it too, like it's
always home to money or money, or somebody want to
be a whole when you're found that's money, or somebody
wants to be a You already know started trying to
jump ahead like damnigg we got segments, thank you sawone
to start with. A friendship breakup hurts just as bad.
(02:16):
It's not more than a romantic breakup because number one,
you wouldn't expect this type of behavior from your ride
to die, bitch. I didn't know you was gonna have
to die, okay, when we entered this pact, when we
became friends, whether it be when we met each other
in the breakroom at work, whether it be when we
sat down on the rug together in third grade. I
didn't know you was gonna show your ass. I didn't
(02:39):
know I was gonna have to sing you to the
shadow rem since like it's hard out here, it's just unexpected.
I have shared so many juicy details with you, you know
too much, like you gotta go, you gotta go. You
can be a great person, but this one individual those
all your skeletons in your clod it and could be
(03:01):
out here trying to tell everybody, like how do you
handle that? When we talk about like friend breakups, we
always automatically assume it's a girl thing. Fellas be feeling
it too, finding out your homie, try to talk to
your fine shit or some old work It's hard finding
(03:21):
out your homie is actually a bum who's not going
to pay you back the money they said they were
going to pay you. It's hard, okay, finally maturing and
realizing your homie is the nigga who say, yo, Bro,
you think I got too many Jordans? When bitches come around,
even harder, okay, Like friendship breakups across the scale are
hard because it's intimate. Okay, you never expected it and
(03:44):
nobody wants it.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
And the pain don't come till three months later.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I think when you break up with a friend, you
have to grieve them, okay, dog, Like I have to
grieve you because you're no longer here. You're dead to me.
Can't just say I don't watch you anymore, bro, And
I be real pissed when it's like I gotta I
gotta meme or real I want to sing you because
(04:09):
I know you wanted. A few people who go and
get it and think it's funny, Oh my god, it
beat the worse like and then it's like we'll stop
being friends then like two years later, like Instagram or
Facebook says people, you may know I know that hole
and I don't like her no more. We're not friends.
(04:30):
We're not cool.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
We're not cool. This is six years ago.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Discover you ain't never lied to you ain't never lied
or like you said, like and here come folky ass Facebook.
Remember when you was friends with this bitch six years ago? Okay,
I do.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
I don't want you, but I do.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
It's hard when you gotta stop fucking with the person
who knew your passwords right. And it's hard when you
gotta imagine your life without so when you may have
planned the rest of it with not on like some
we getting married stuff that was like, Yo, bro, I
expected you to be at my wedding. I expected you
to be standing next to me, like I expected you
to be standing next to me as I'm grieving you know,
(05:13):
my mom, my grandmom. Like I expected you to be
at the birth of my child, at my kids graduation,
like I envisioned this for us because we were so
locked in. This is SHOT's fault. Just so y'all know,
Shod told me last week. He was like, Yo, bitch,
I'm sick of you talk about relationships, so go with
(05:33):
something else. So this is SHOT's fault. So yeah, the
next thing I want to talk about the only thing
Worse than breaking up with a friend is seeing them
hanging out with people y'all wasn't cool with when y'all
was friends. Now, when the fuck did this happen? I'm confused? Now,
y'all chum chummy, Now y'all, buddy buddy, didn't she burn us?
(05:54):
Don't that whole owe us money? How are y'all friends?
Didn't that nigga say he was gonna come through and
he didn't? How are y'all friends? Now? That be the
part that be getting me so bad? When fucking Meghan
said Op's linked up in a picture, I felt that
on a spiritual level, y'all don't even like each other.
Y'all just don't like me. It's never gonna be you.
(06:19):
To see how low you would go makes me realize
you was never really my friend.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
In the beginning, we was.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Just in the group chat talking about this girl. Now
y'all friends. Now y'all bumping coot chase. Okay, maybe not
bumba coe cheese, but you know, y'all sharing pocketbooks, same thing,
same thing. The only thing worse than that is when
they start hanging out with people you introduced him to. Jesus,
my friends get out of here. Okay. It even worse
(06:47):
when the people you introduced them to, y'all not really
locked in like that, so they don't got no reason
to choose sides, so you can't be mad at them.
But you could be mad at your funky ass ex
friend because you know what, Or you just go around
trying to recruit other people not to like me, hate
me on your own. How don't You don't need no backup?
(07:07):
Hate me on your own. You do not need to
venture out and rally a squadron of people not to
like me. Okay, you don't gotta do that, Hey me
with your chest?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Ye?
Speaker 1 (07:18):
No, Because a man might not deliberately recruit other men
not to like you, but he'll start dirty macking and
dry snitching and saying shit about you that other niggas
cannot want to fuck with you for same thing. I'm sorry.
What you're done, You're fucking done. I stopped being friends
with somebody, and afterwards I just looked back and said,
(07:41):
how didn't I know that wasn't my friend? Like when
they say hindsight is twenty twenty, it is twenty motherfucking twenty.
I can look back and pinpoint every situation where it
should have became clear that they are not your friend.
Every compliment they give you comes with some backhand smart
ass like other comment like what are we doing here?
I don't like that, Or it's like whenever they need
(08:03):
to borrow money from you, it's okay, but whenever you
ask for your money back, damn, I didn't know we
was counting favors. Uh, we're not. I'm we also not
taking advantage of me either. How come they don't never
have the same urgency they had when they returning the
money as when they were when they was asking for
the money. It's the timelines are never the same. There
(08:23):
I need that money.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Being a strong friend, always being called being the one
a child we need. Okay, let's go, let's go, let's go.
This is low key my fault because I enabled this
behavior by, you know, just being being loyal.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
It's hard when you're genuinely a good person because you're
not counting favors. You're not doing things because you expect
something in return. You're doing things out of the kindness
of your heart and your mind.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
You looking out for.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Your homie, so they're automatically going to look out for you.
But everybody don't think that way. Or it's like whenever
you tell them some good news, some accomplishment, some new accolade,
all of a sudden, this you congress on your little promotion.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Hold on, bitch, big promotion, big money.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Okay, Oh yeah, I see you got your little show popping,
big show. Okay. Oh you know, I see you out
here with your new little car or whatever. Big car,
big fucking lease, big fucking whatever. Okay, put the right
energy on it. They always want to throw some little
shit to make it seem like it's not that deep.
These are all signs that that person isn't really your friend.
(09:22):
But if you're a good person and you have a
good heart, you're gonna miss them all. You are going
to miss them all. When old people be like, oh,
if it was a snake, it would it bit me, baby.
It is so crazy how you can look back and
see every single situation where that person wasn't really down
for you, that person wasn't really in your corner, And
(09:43):
it sucks. It fucking sucks because the whole time you
was riding and looking out for them out of the
kindess of your heart. And then don't let you try
to better yourself and go to fabry and start making
better changes and better decisions in your life. So now
you don't want to do a lot of that fuck
stuff no more. All of us is damn you changed. Nah, Baby,
I grew and I see that you're not right and
(10:06):
not be the worst part, like out growing your friends.
Out Growing your friends is sometimes worse than one of
them doing you dirty because you don't even have a
reason to say, like, this can't work, no more other
than baby's shoe. It's not me, it's shoe, And that's hard.
I feel like a lot of times we see people
fall out on the internet, or we see people in
our inner circle stop being friends and it's like, well
(10:28):
what now, and the crash outs be immense. But if
you're one of those people who's trying to figure out
how to navigate your life after a friend breakup, I
got some suggestions for you. First things First, I don't
want y'all to go on the internet and start crashing
out and telling everybody's business. Okay, I don't want to
(10:48):
hear about how they tub got dirt rings around it,
and how they wear holy drawls and how they always
broke and how they are ho or how they don't
get no hold. I don't want to hear none of that,
because when it was doing all that, that was your
fucking best friend, and that was the people you were
surrounding yourself with. So keep that same energy. It wasn't
(11:10):
a problem when y'all was friends. Okay. She wasn't a dirty,
nasty hoe who owed you money when y'all was linked
up and hanging out every day. Okay. He wasn't a
broke nigga who you always had the front money for
that press the girls and let him borrow your car,
borrow your clothes. He wasn't that when y'all was besties.
So I don't want to hear it when y'all stopped
being friends, okay, because apparently that was just the company
(11:30):
you keep. Instead. What you can do is, I know
y'all don't like it. I know y'all don't like it,
but give it a try. Therapy, journaling, self care. I
know these sound like sugar buzzwords and he just goes
in one air and out the other, But I promise
it makes a difference. Ask yourself, what do you look
like when you are practicing self care? A lot of
(11:51):
people won't have to answer, can it enter? Maybe taking
a bath, going shopping, taking a walk, taking a mindful walk,
Like what else can we do for you that's just
for you to get your mind off. I go to church,
release them demons, okay, journal, take a bath, take a walk,
ride your bike. All right, pour back into you and
(12:13):
don't jump into filling the void. And when I say
filling the void, I'm gonna say probably the toughest part
about breaking up friends as an adult making new friends
because honestly, if it's not like at work as an adult,
where do we make new friends? Church? Okay, the gym, okay, work, Ugh,
(12:35):
Losing your core friend group and having a start over
or losing your best friend as an adult is hard,
never mind the trust issues that you're gonna have coming
off of that. But it's like just as an adult
going up to people like Hi, I'm Gibbie.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
That sucks.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
It sucks regardless. We need to have the energy of
you know, I'm not mad. You just can't sit with
me no more. And if that means I got a
rebuild my own table without you, then it is what
it is. So now we're going to get into Then
there's a segment somebody come look at this.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Okay, Oh I like it.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
We are going to get into some funny stories that
I found on Reddit, and you know, today we're talking
about friendship, so these have to do with friends, and
you know, like, no, you need to because last time
you didn't you need to be on the mic. Last
time you just yelling at the background. Now we're going
to get into some cool stories from Reddit about friendships
(13:36):
or lack thereof. So the first one, am I the
asshole for not forgiving my best friend for sleeping with
my ex even though she.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Said it wasn't that serious.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah yeah, yeah, checks ash And seeing these chit fucking
reels on social media, I gotta send the team where
we're done. My ex, thirty mail and I twenty nine female,
dated for three years. We broke up amicably, but it
still hurt. I thought he was the one. About three
(14:11):
months after our breakup, my best friend of ten years, Kayla,
admitted she'd been talking to him. I don't like that
term sounds like a war Jesus Christ. I was stunned.
She said they'd hooked up a few times and wanted
to tell me before it got serious. Now, hold on, Kayla,
(14:31):
hold on, Kayla, we're gonna have to process the timeline
a little better, Okay, because hooking up a few times, baby,
it's already serious. You have a steady situationship going here.
Like just because y'all not my boyfriend and girlfriend on me,
it's serious. You needed to tell me when y'all exchange
numbers and asks permission, then, okay, telling me after y'all
(14:52):
already did the no pants dances crazy. I was crushed.
I didn't expect lifelong loyalty to my ex, but I
did it expect her not to crawl into bed with
someone I loved. She said it wasn't serious and I
was being possessive. I told her we were done. She
tried to guilt trip me by bringing up all the
time she was there for me doing the breakup, and said,
(15:13):
I'm throwing away a decade long friendship over casual sex,
the same casual sex that you also threw away a
decade long friendship with because you come, come on, and
then you wanna try to gaslight knock your frontsut all
this deca.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
The world you are that one. That's what I would
have said.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
All this dick, not just all this dick all this
casual dick you can be getting. You choose mine, you
choose my old one.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Three months, Rob, Oh, you don't want to talk about serious.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Bright, they've been together for three years. You didn't seen
me three three Christmases, three birthdays. We probably had a
group check by this time, like you was plying. It's
giving you was plying. She said, Maybe I'm being dramatic,
Maybe it wasn't that serious, but it feels serious, and
my asshole ending our friendship over this, baby. I'm gonna
(16:02):
hold your hand when I say this. Y'all was never friends. Okay,
the friendship was already.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Over as soon as I heard knew.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Oh my god. Okay, you can't blame all the Kaylas
for this. You cannot blame to me personally. It's really
the fact that y'all was together three years and she
tried to guess like you into making it seem like
it wasn't that deep.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
That's like when you hold somebody down here, like I
didn't ask you to all those things.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
She think you sweet sis. Okay, no, you're you're not
the asshole. I don't I don't know about y'all, but
I don't think she said something you're spaghetti. I'm gonna
go to the next story, and mighty asshole for refusing
to continue the date because she showed up with the
friend unannounced, y'all. Why y'all do this, y'all? Good boy,
(16:52):
I cannot continue to defend y'all with these type of shenanigans. Okay,
y'all are making it hard for me. It says basically,
got matched on tender for a Saturday date. We agreed
on some cafe in public, and she shows up with
a friend of hers who's to be fair more attractive
than herself.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
That was your first mistake, syst That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
If you're going to show up on a date with
somebody else, bringing somebody more attractive than you is bold
as hell. But you know what, I take that back.
What if her thought process was if my friend is fine,
he'll pay for her drinks too, So I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
She might have been cooking left. Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
So when I met them, I asked what's up, and
she said, I bought a friend if you don't mind,
just to be more comfortable. I replied, I thought this
was a date since I specifically asked if you would
like to go out for food and drinks with me.
She basically said her friend wanted to come for security reasons.
All Right, I'm gonna be real you. If everybody's grown here, right,
(18:04):
like everybody's is an adult, you don't need to be
going to dates with your friends. If you are going
to go on a date with your friend for security reasons,
sins play the game smart, sit a table away, put
a menu in front of your face like you play
the game.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Sets feel uncomfortable with me. I'm feel uncomfortable on you.
We're not doing nothing now. I agree that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Because you saying you brought your friend for security reasons.
What if he think y'all trying to rob him for
security reason?
Speaker 2 (18:33):
To like, that's crazy. A whole nother person do, that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Dog. I got annoyed and said I'm not doing a
three person date. Sorry, have a good win and left.
I'm a twenty seven year okay, and this what pitches me, Hey,
twenty seven, which means y'all are around twenty seven, So
everybody is grown. I'm twenty seven years old with almost
no free time, looking for a serious partner, not some
situationship or a fun night man. My profile also clearly
(19:00):
states looking for something serious and long term online and
offline talk about is this normal to bring a friend
on a date? Or am I just behind with the times?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Baby?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
No, it's not. No, it is not normal. And whoever
is spreading the word that it's okay to go on
a date with your girlfriend who's not incognito, because I
don't mind if she incognito. Who's not incognito? That's not
okay bring.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Out with people where you feel like you need to
bring somebody for security in the first place.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
I was just about to say.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
That anything that I do at that point is gonna
looking I'm gonna be nervous walking.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
If you are, say to the point where you feel
like you don't feel safe with this person, ask yourself why?
Because he just said y'all met during the day in
a public place. He didn't take you to no hole
on the wall like bar in the middle of North Philly.
He's taking you to some place in the day in public, Like,
what is he gonna do? Sis? And I don't want
(19:54):
to say what's he gonna do? Because I know things
have happened. But if you're at a point where you're
this uncomfortable, maybe you shouldn't be dating. Maybe you're not
ready to step out there and get to know new
people and try new things. Maybe you should go see
a therapist.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Figure out friends, should get a job and take yourselves
off food and another fucking thing.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Friend who's more attractive as the more attractive friend?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
What are you trying.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
To steal her man or hurt her potential man? Because
I don't really like how this is working out as
the more attractive friend, you should know you don't need
to be bringing no other friends, Like what are we
doing here? Daytime in a public place is safe enough.
So let me ask you a question. What would you
do if you showed up to a date and your
date for a friend? Me me personally, I don't know.
(20:37):
A two v one handicap match is crazy? All right, y'all?
You know, scrap, shut up? You know. I just want
to say, if you're having a hard time, shot just
dropped this blunt. If you're having a hard time dealing
with a friend breakup, you're not alone, and the feelings
that you're feeling, whether it be hurt, whether it be betrayal,
(20:58):
whether it be discussed, because you can't even believe you
were ever friends with a person like this, all of
this is valid, and I want you to know that
although it may be hard, you will get through this
and you will make even better friends.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Who won't be pieces of shit.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
So it'll be great friends who actually want to be
friends with you for you, and aren't just using you
for your money, using you for Cloud, maybe using you
for the girls that you have around you, using you
for the gods that you have around you. Okay, something
better is coming. I also want to say my birthday
is on Sunday. By the time this drop, my birthday
will be yesterday actually, but my message is always going
(21:35):
to be the same. Follow me on the gram at
Stormy Pea, at Chocolate Chip and Sip and if you
don't remember anything else, please remember you weren't the problem.
I love you, guys, and I'll see next week.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
Peace.
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