E62 Is Fear Of Judgement Stopping You?

E62 Is Fear Of Judgement Stopping You?

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Fear about what other people might think of you can be a tricky thing to get over. In this episode I talk about something that I recently went through and how I swallowed my fear about what other people might think and did "the thing" anyways.

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
Hi and welcome to Classic Advice.
I'm Scarlet Classic, your host. Welcome everyone on this show I
tell stories from my life in order to draw lessons from them
to encourage self improvement for a more fulfilling and
happier life for you and me. Are you scared of being judged

(00:25):
and is your fear of judgment turning you into or causing you
to be a people pleaser? At the time of recording, it's
actually December and this is coming out in January.
But in December I decided that Ineeded to start posting on

(00:48):
social media just as my way to tell people about my show.
And it was really difficult for me to do that.
I don't know. I, I kept, I was talking to Roy
about it and I was like, I don'tunderstand why this is so hard

(01:08):
for me to do. I don't understand why I'm so
terrified to put short little videos on social media.
I just, it scares me. It's terrifying.
And I, I decided what I want to do.
So what I do if you haven't seenthem, is I call them my classic
tip of the day and I just give short classic advice, tips that

(01:33):
are really to the point and done.
I release them on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and what's
the other one? Tiktok and they're an above and
beyond thing to me recording my show.
So right now I'm recording and it's audio only.
So I can't just what a lot of podcasters do is they're just

(01:56):
like, we'll just take a clip from your show that you think is
like a great quote or a good point or whatever it is from
your show and post that on social media.
But all of mine are just audio only.
And I don't intend on going to video podcasting anytime soon
because I don't have a studio right now.

(02:18):
I am sitting in my camper on thecouch and you know, not, not
that there's anything wrong or bad with that, but it's just
until I have an actual studio, which is, you know, I would love
to have one down the road. I just, I don't know, I just,
and I, and I have a very busy life right now.
So I, I just, I don't know, I think it's just there's a lot

(02:41):
more editing that goes into video and it's going to take
more time. So that's just a whole tangent.
You didn't need to know, but there it is.
That's why I'm not doing video, but the social media posts do
need to be video. And I think the other thing that
was scaring me was a lot of people on my social media, you

(03:04):
know, especially Facebook. Like I wasn't even on Facebook.
I had it to go on Marketplace and do other things, but I
really wasn't posted on Facebookat all.
And it was just at there, I guess, because I had it, but I
also tried when I very first started podcasting, I had a

(03:25):
Facebook page. But I have found that I was just
getting too overwhelmed with allthe background stuff that came
to podcasting that I cut. I just had to stop doing that
for now anyways. Maybe I'll fire it up again in
the future. But I just, I cut back a bit
when I first started because I didn't realize how much actually
goes into having a podcast. And now that I've got, I found

(03:49):
my footing again. I'm recording on a regular
basis. I'm, I'm getting back into the
groove of things. I decided that I really need to
take the leap and start doing social media posts.
I was just so scared. And I think sometimes when we

(04:10):
are really terrified like that, it's because we're scared of
being judged. And you might think, well,
Scarlett, you'd have your show would why is that any different
than social media? And I don't know.
I don't know why, but it was forme.
And I don't want, I don't want to let my fear stop me from

(04:39):
doing things. And that's why I went outside
with my phone and I just startedrecording little my little
social clips, my little classic tips of the day.
And I decided I was going back and forth with an AI called

(05:03):
Perplexity on how often should Ido it, when should I release,
what time of day, how often should I do this blah blah blah
blah blah. And what perplexity was telling
me is, you know, 3 five times a week, it's great.
I release in the evenings, whichworks great with my work
schedule. And I was like 3 * a week would

(05:32):
definitely be more sustainable. But in order to create a habit,
I'd decided to go harder, go home, and I'm doing every single
day. I'm not saying do what I do.
That's just what I thought was going to work best for me.
So that's what I'm doing. And I jumped right in with both

(05:52):
feet, right into the deep end because I don't want to be a
people pleaser. Because I don't want to let the
fear of other people judging me stop me from doing the things
that I want to do. And here's the reality.
The reality is people are going to judge you whether you do the

(06:15):
thing you want to do or not. People are going to judge you
while they're standing behind you in line at wherever the
grocery store. They're going to judge you for
what you're wearing, the hairstyle you have, whether they
think you should be leaner or fatter or more toned or less

(06:39):
toned or have glasses or wear contacts or why would you do
your makeup that way. There's so many things.
There's so many things that people will judge you on.
And I was thinking about this and I was like, it is this is an
irrational fear that I have. Should I be scared of posting on

(07:02):
social media? No, I shouldn't be.
And I think, I think that, you know, there's something called
exposure therapy that if you're scared of doing a thing, you
just do it over and over and your fear will lessen.

(07:24):
I'm basically doing exposure therapy with my social media
posts because I know if I do it enough, I'm going to get better.
I'm going to become more relaxedand the fear is eventually going
to go away. Are people still going to be
rude? Am I still going to get haters
on there? Am I still going to get

(07:44):
opinions? Am I still going to be judged?
Yes, but I'm going to be judged regardless of whether I do it or
not. So why not?
Why not just do the thing? I lived abroad in Romania for

(08:06):
five years and I was judged overthere too, for the way that I
was, for the way that, you know,lots of different things that
I'm not going to get into right now.
But that's The thing is we're going to get judged anyways.

(08:27):
So what are you doing or what are you not doing because you're
scared of what people think of you?
I think that I think the lesson that we should draw from me

(08:50):
challenging myself to just do the posts on social media, even
though I'm scared, is just be yourself at the end of the show.
I like to stay. I like to say stay classically
you, stay uniquely you and the right people will love you for

(09:12):
you. And that is a beautiful,
beautiful thing. Because if we change ourselves,
if we don't do the thing we really want to do, but we're too
terrified to do it, are we goingto regret it later?
Are you going to regret doing ornot doing the thing that you're
scared of being judged on? I don't know if I can actually

(09:36):
say I regret not posting on social media.
But I think I would regret not trying.
And I think I would regret not doing something just because I
was scared of what people would think of me and scared of the
judgement. My challenge for you guys this

(09:58):
week is to be brave and take thestep that you're scared of
taking. That's a wrap.
Please keep in mind JJ is sayingis to please pause, think about

(10:18):
what it is that you're not doingor doing because you're scared
of being judged, and love yourself enough to jump in and
do it anyway. And recognize the fact that

(10:39):
people are going to judge you whether you do it or not.
And be aware of your ripple. We all have a ripple in life.
Let's make it a +1 stay. I know I already said it, but
stay classically you, stay uniquely you.
And I would love to hear from you guys.
I would love to hear about the thing that you're scared of.

(11:04):
Maybe you're doing it and you'vebeen doing it for a while and
people are judging you. And I would love to talk to you
about how you're handling that, how you're navigating that.
All the links are in the show notes but my website
isclassicchronicles.ca Till nexttime you guys take care.
Love you. Bye.