October 15, 2025 • 47 mins
New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & Reed
We took Coffee with Gays on the road — and straight into controversy.
After one viral clip sparked hundreds of comments, Blaine and Reed sit down (in Reed’s car, of course) to unpack the debate: straight bachelorettes in gay bars, allyship vs. entitlement, and the ongoing evolution of LGBTQ+ community spaces.
From respectful allies to chaotic party crashers, from Pride parades to neighborhood gentrification, they explore how safe spaces have changed — and what it means to protect queer culture without gatekeeping.
Grab your coffee (or your road-trip snack) and buckle up — this one gets heated.
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🧠 What You’ll Hear
• Reading hate comments and unpacking the viral clip
• The gay bar debate: inclusion vs. invasion
• How straight allies can show up respectfully
• Pride parades and the “family friendly” evolution
• Gentrification, capitalism, and the erosion of queer culture
• Why gatekeeping sometimes protects the community
💬 Key Takeaways
• Respecting LGBTQ+ spaces means understanding their history.
• Allies are welcome — but awareness matters more than attendance.
• Pride has shifted from protest to parade, and that’s complicated.
• “Safe space” doesn’t mean everyone gets to make it about them.
• Conversations like these are how we keep queer culture alive.
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 — Context: Why the clip blew up
01:46 — Gay bars & straight patrons
07:55 — Reading the hate comments
14:21 — The role of bars in queer community life
20:10 — Gentrification & commercialization
21:51 — Invasion or inclusion?
24:09 — Straight allies in queer spaces
28:02 — Pride parades: family-friendly or off-mission?
33:33 — Integration vs. exclusion
🔊 Sound Bites
“You can’t equate this to a straight bar.”
“Pride parades have to be family friendly?”
“Be an ally, not the main character.”
“Straight people have destroyed Pride.”
“Bring a gay friend. Read the room. Be cool.”
🧭 Why It Matters
Community spaces are built on trust, not trendiness.
This episode isn’t about exclusion — it’s about respect.
Allies are essential, but understanding the culture you’re stepping into is too.
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Episode Transcript
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Okay, well, welcome to Coffee with Jays.
(00:01):
We're at Coffee with Jays on theRoad.
This is a new thing we're doing.
It's a read between the lines.
It's a read between the linesepisode.
Yes.
But in Reed's car, he's drivingme to go get my dog.
Yes.
And we thought it'd be fun toread our hate comments for the
week.
Well, uh, let me let me correctyou.
It's not our hate comment.
It's my hate comment.
(00:22):
Lane's hate comment.
For once, I said something thatupset everybody.
Yeah, I mean, it upset me too.
Okay, so for context, let'sfirst tell the context of the
video, which was a clap that wastaken.
We have to have to release thisepisode, which I'm going to now,
so everyone can get the context.
But the I the thought was I'msick and tired of one.
(00:45):
I think our gay bars are introuble.
I think that straight people areinvading them, specifically
straight bachelorette parties.
And I would like to add to thatthey're very disrespectful.
They come up to you super draw.
They expect you to buy themdrinks, but they expect you to
entertain them.
Okay.
This is facts, facts, facts.
Okay.
So I stand by it, and then Ibasically said, why would you go
(01:07):
to a gay bar without a gayfriend?
That was my point.
And then I made a comparisonthat people really didn't get,
which was, wouldn't you go toChuck E.
Cheese without a kit?
Your first.
Okay, so to correct you, yourfirst question was, Reed, would
you go to a lesbian bar withouta lesbian friend?
And I said, yes.
(01:28):
And then you said, okay, well,let me make it, let me make it
easier.
But Reed, would you go to ChuckE.
Cheese without a kit?
Yes.
Those don't coincide.
I still stand by this.
I did still.
They don't know.
They don't coincide at all.
This doesn't make any sense tome.
So read off the comment that Iwas referring to from the
bartender.
Who I very much I agree with you100%.
(01:52):
Okay.
Do you want me to read thebartender comment?
Yes.
Because he flat out said this isYeah.
Okay, well, let's read this onefirst because I think this is
actually one that I can answerthat I do want to address.
Okay.
I'm very sorry.
This is an honest question.
I am a straight cis woman.
Yeah.
And I travel alone a lot inareas where I don't, where I
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know there are a lot of LGBTQplus people.
Right.
And she was and she was beingvery responsible.
Like she said, she feels bad.
I agree.
You made her feel so I willalways go there because I feel
safer and more welcome and willalways have a great time.
Is that acceptable or should Inot do that?
I honestly love supporting thosespaces.
So my answer to her was you'retotally fine.
(02:36):
You're not who I'm talkingabout.
You are not the prop.
Did you did you remove my comic?
Because I responded to her too.
I said you were.
And I do think that is that isthe case.
Now, I will give you an example.
There was a video on TikTok ofyet another girl who said that
she went into a gay bar and shewas by herself, and she was
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offended that the gay men didn'ttalk to her.
That's a different story.
Well, that's my point.
That's what I'm talking about.
These entitled street women thatcome to our bars and expect us
to be a chance to do it.
Okay, okay.
So that is a specific.
She had to take her TikTokaccount down because yeah, okay,
so that's a specificcircumstance and situation.
And I I would agree with you.
(03:18):
Don't come into anyestablishment, you know, with
entitlement.
That's just that's not how lifeworks, lady.
Like, I and I I say anyestablishment because I oh, I
didn't see all these commentsunder the comments.
Yes.
Let's read this one.
Yes.
Um, by that same logic, it's notthe 80s, 90s, or early 2000s
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bars are no longer the onlyplace that community is able to
congregate in reduced fear ofpersecution.
In 2025, a gay bar is nodifferent than a biker bar or a
karaoke bar.
Okay, a biker bar?
What?
You're proving my point.
Okay.
And meaning that meaning thatall walks of people in all walks
of life are welcome to come tothe bar.
(04:00):
Sure, but like, okay, I'll giveyou an example.
Of course, another one.
Am I no, am I gonna go in amid-riff into a biker bar in the
middle of like rural Louisiana?
No, that's disrespectful, rude,and it's not like what a bunch
of straight dudes would want.
So, no, I wouldn't do that.
In a midriff with a midring.
(04:20):
Like a midriff, like showingyour stomach and like daisy
dudes, like acting like abitcoin.
Oh, well, maybe I did go into abar in Homeless Assassin,
Florida, looking pretty gay.
Oh, it's Florida.
It's Florida.
But they ended up loving us.
They loved us, but like, youknow what?
We did a lot of work to makesure that those people loved us.
I think the I always peg you tobe more secure than you're
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they're coming off right now.
I'm not being insecure.
I'm saying I think when you gointo somebody's space, like a
community space, you have to berespectful of that space, which
we'll get to some of thesecomments as well.
Oh no, I got I got a I got agreat one for you.
How about on Latin night?
Is it disrespectful for me to goto Latin night at what is it?
(05:02):
What is that uh bar across fromRoundup?
Because I don't know any of thebars, but is it disrespectful
for me to do that?
And I did say, I did also saythat that like everybody's
welcome.
Or did you write that comment?
I wrote everybody's welcome.
What happened to my comment?
I wrote but wrote her back.
I didn't delete it.
Okay.
(05:22):
Oh, maybe it was this one that Iresponded to.
Yeah, as a female, we feel saferat LGBTQ bars than any other.
Yeah.
They almost always are more fun.
Duh, we know that.
Yes, we are fun.
Okay.
They feel safer there.
Sorry, but it's true.
That said, I do have plenty offriends I go with when I'm well,
yeah, exactly.
I said I'm totally cool withthat.
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Just be cool.
I'm talking about the gamble ofdrunk girls who come to our bars
more.
Look, I have these girls comeand like run into me at the
bars, like shove me out of theway.
They're rude.
They're rude.
Maybe it's because I'm 6'5 andthey just be like whatever I can
barrel around and bedisrespectful, but I find it
really disrespectful.
I mean what I'm talking about.
(06:04):
I don't because I don't, I don'thave you been in Nashville?
Yes, I have all those junk girlsrunning around in white suits.
It's like that.
But that's what they do whenthey come to our bars.
I mean, people are out to have agood time though, you know?
What like if you're going to abar, you kind of have to be
prepared to bump into people andget bumped into sometimes.
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Yes, they may be straight women.
Yes, you know, so what?
Let them have a good time, letthem have fun, get their hair
down.
I would feel honored andprivileged that they wanted to
come hang out with me.
Okay, I actually asked for anexplanation on this one.
The guy on the top, that wouldbe me, uh is just inadvertently
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made the arguments biggestinquading gay people to creeper
behavior.
How?
Like, how did I do that?
I don't understand.
I didn't read that comment, butI think you should read the
bartender comment.
I have to find it, there's somany comments.
(07:12):
And while you're finding thebartender comment, I'm gonna pop
some yes.
What number is this?
Six yeah.
Wow.
Oh, look at this.
Somebody agrees with me.
That's a first.
Who did you pick?
No.
I'm yeah, we're gonna read thatone for sure.
(07:39):
Number are you six?
We're definitely gonna talkabout her.
Why?
And I love my comment back.
Okay, let's just do this reallyquick before we get gas.
Read.
SPEAKER_01 (07:53):
Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_00 (07:54):
Okay, and this is exactly what I'm talking about.
It's this kind of white girlattitude that pisses me off.
Okay.
Now we're getting racist here.
No, I'm not getting racist.
By the way, you know how manypeople call me a cis white male
that is privileged in thesecomments?
So it's this girl, right?
And she comments, this is why Idon't trust any white man no
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matter what.
And you know what I said to her?
Okay, that's ridiculous.
And I don't trust you eitherwith your comment, by the way.
You, okay, so let me also justwere you very upset when you
were were responding back to thecomments after I had already
replied as a movie.
Because you were, yes, you're ahobby.
You were in a move.
First of all, you have been onthe receiving end of so many of
(08:38):
these.
I have.
It is my first time that I'vesaid something super, I guess,
controversial.
I don't even think this iscontroversial.
I know people agree with.
I don't think they it's the it'snot what you're saying, it's how
you're delivering it, is what Ithink most people are trying to
get across to you right now.
Okay.
(08:58):
So check it out the gas, andthen I'm gonna find it.
Check the bartender comment,because I think you would
understand if you wrote thebartender comment.
He was very respectful.
I completely understood.
I even I liked it with ouraccount, the copy with the gaze
account, and I bounced out of itand got my own personal account
just to say, hey, I agree withyou too.
Like, great guy.
(09:21):
He works in the industry.
He, you know, he thinks thatbringing in clientele and
customers, regardless of whatyour you know sexual preference
is, is very healthy for the thecommunity, the bar, the owners.
So I'm not saying it's not.
Okay, we're gonna we're gonnatalk about the owners in a
(09:44):
little bit, okay?
Read the comments.
I'm trying to find it.
There's hundreds of comments.
You'll find it in a second.
It's not your space.
Don't go.
Yeah, exactly.
I mean, with a gay friend, gowith a gay friend.
(10:04):
I don't know why this is socrazy.
Okay, this guy's a dick, and Itotally had uh a total back and
(10:29):
forth with him.
I actually think we ended upgetting to a good spot.
Can you read it?
But okay, he's a great exampleof what I think is weird about
this scenario.
Listening.
And he also called me a pedo,too, by the way, which freaking
rude.
Okay, again, I'm listening.
(10:50):
What was the comment?
Okay, so this commenter says,bro, tripping.
This is straight, bro.
I got invited That does not meanhe's straight.
I say bro all the time.
Okay, bro tripping.
Super straight bro.
I got invited to hang out withthis girl and her friends.
The girl knew I was straight,and so were her friends.
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Turns out it was at a gay bar.
So this is another problem Ihave.
The girls are having a straightguy come meet them at the gay
bar without the gay friend.
So what that's weird.
It's not weird.
Freaking weird.
All right, Blaine, answer methis.
Do you go into straight bars?
Yes, but I don't go withoutstraight people.
(11:34):
Okay.
Yes.
First of all, everything is astraight place.
It's the majority of places wego.
Let's be honest with ourselves,okay?
But do we have to do this no,no, no, no.
You cannot equate this to, firstof all.
It's not like going to therattlesink bar at the Ritz,
okay?
Like, when I go to therattlesink bar, my point is when
I go to a straight bar, uh-huh,do I dress like I would I'm
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going to Pride at a gay bar?
No, I just dress like a normalperson.
I act like normal, not likesuper gay or anything.
I don't do anything crazy.
Like, I just am my normal self,right?
But I'm not like, but straightbar is not the same thing.
But it would be like going tolike this biker club example.
Are you upset because thesestraight women like to use gay
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bars as like an amusement park?
Yes.
Okay.
They do, they do.
And why are you inviting astraight guy to a gay bar?
Maybe she wants to test him outand see if he's accepting of the
gay.
(12:38):
Uh no one is gonna potentiallyarrest a straight person for
being at a gay bar, never saidanything like that, minding
their own business and drinkingand chilling.
I mean, I agree.
I mean, I totally agree.
What I'm talking about, though,is the behavior that usually
follows this.
Find find the the bartendercomment.
I would love it if you just holdoff.
Hold on.
(12:58):
I gotta I know unpumped gas orjust not pumping area.
Do people even watch thesevideos, by the way?
Comparing a gay bar to a Chuckycheese is the wildest takeover.
(13:20):
I never did that.
You compared a lesbian bar tochuck and cheese.
No, I did not.
I just was making a point of goto certain places because you
have a kid, or you have alesbian friend, or you have a
gay friend, or you don't justkind of like necessarily go to a
biker bar unless you're with abiker friend, I assume.
I think, I mean, maybe I'd go toa biker bar, but like probably
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not.
That would be like kind ofreally uncomfortable.
I mean, these aren't bear barsthat they're going to, you know,
they're not going to specificbars.
I think what the majority ofpeople are trying to say is,
hola.
Okay.
We're gonna go.
Oh, he did say what people aretrying to say.
I just I stop I found it.
Of course he didn't stop gethurt.
(14:08):
You're asking.
We're in the middle ofrecording.
I know.
Oh, you know what we should do?
We should go to Slovex.
What's Slow Vex?
They have like barbecue and theyhave those kalachis.
You know, it's a big deal.
I still have never had a calach.
You've never had a calachi?
A kolachi okay.
My treats you're driving.
Oh, sure.
Happy to.
(14:28):
And we go to Slow Vex and it'sreally good.
We'd pick him up on the wayback?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And there's a place for goal.
Okay.
Here's the here's the questionyou were talking about with the
bar today.
Comment.
Yes.
I haven't been able to stopharping about the yes.
unknown (14:44):
Oh.
SPEAKER_00 (14:45):
As someone who works.
Uh-oh.
Uh-oh.
Give me a stuff.
Are you supposed to get offthere?
So Google Manager.
I mean, it's they both lookreally bad.
Waco's the worst to go through.
Yeah.
Waco is.
Chip and Joanna ruined thistown.
unknown (15:04):
Oh my.
SPEAKER_00 (15:05):
I can get into that too.
That's the next hot take.
That's a very controversialtopic.
No, it's not.
It's not.
They ruined Waco.
I'm sure everyone's so happythat they, you know, brought
everyone.
Have you ever been to thosesilos?
No, I haven't.
I heard they were garbage.
It's the worst.
I heard they were garbage and Iheard all their stuff is
overpress.
It's overpressed.
(15:26):
I like Chip and Joanna games.
I eat like I love Fixer Upper.
I loved watching their show.
But I'm not gonna pay$500 for afucking throw pillow.
Suck a dick.
It's not great.
And you have to wait foreverjust to get it to the
restaurant.
It's terrible.
Okay.
Next comment.
As someone who works in theexact bars you were talking
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about, this is such a wildfucking take.
We live in a capitalist,capitalistic hellscape.
And unfortunately, we needeveryone's dollar to thrive,
including straight dollars.
Yes.
Bars, I agree.
Bars are not safe spaces.
They are spaces.
That's not true.
Bars are safe spaces.
This is ridiculous.
I don't really know what youmeant by that.
(16:09):
They are spaces with strangersand alcohol.
Tons of straight guys go toSioux.
Sioux Ellen's is our lesbianbar.
Tons of straight guys do not goto Sioux Ellens.
I've been to Sioux Ellen's athousand times, and I can verify
for you I've never seen astraight man there.
Ever.
It's a bunch of lesbians.
If the lesbians in the commentsthat have been to Sioux Ellens
tell me that that's true or not,I'm gonna actually text my
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lesbian friends and find out ifstraight men frequent Sioux
Ellen's often.
That's the stupidest thing I'veheard.
Anyway, it's normal for peopleto mix and mingle, and it's
weird to be exclusionary.
First of all, can I tell youwhat?
Can gays bring back being alittle bit exclusionary?
I think we have gotten to thepoint that we just let everybody
in.
(16:52):
It's just like we're not, we'renot.
If you want me to really gothere with you, we're gonna go
there at some point.
Think about think about how thegay community has been foreseen
to the entire world.
They don't, uh majority don'tvalue monogamy.
Oh, there we go.
If you want me to go there, Iwill go there on your polyamory
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to that.
I'll get the eat off me.
I don't judge anybody for whatthey choose, but don't act like
you come off Judge.
Oh my gosh.
Well, don't act like, oh, whyare we accepting everybody in
here?
Why are we?
I don't think we should.
I think a lot of these peoplethat say they're part of our
community, they aren't even apart of our community.
That's for another video.
But I do not think there'ssomething wrong with being a
little exclusionary because theworld in and of itself is
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exclusionary.
So at the door, at the entranceof these bars, like grow up,
like you need to realize thatthe world is a little
exclusionary.
That said, I'm finishing thecomment.
When these bars need money toand support to survive, this is
nonsense.
And yeah, first of all, okay.
We we spend a lot of moneythere.
Equating Chuck E.
Cheese to a lesbian bar is suchan incorrect and offensive take.
(17:56):
First of all, that's not what Isaid.
I said you wouldn't go to ChuckE.
Cheese without a kid, youwouldn't go to a lesbian bar
without a lesbian.
I would actually go to bothwithout either.
Like when was the last time youwent to Sioux Ellens by
yourself?
Never.
I've never actually said up.
You've never even been to SiouxEllens, so you haven't even been
to a lesbian bar, so don't fuckwith me.
That is so stupid.
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I I would love to know He's nottalking shit to you.
He's just being honest to you.
Like he's just being asrespectful as possible.
If you want to be a truly safespace, go to your friend's
house, not a public.
First of all, I'm not eventalking about safe spaces.
You know me.
I don't believe in safe spaces.
I actually have in ourdescription the copy with Jays,
it's not a safe space.
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I am fine with not having safespaces.
But what I am saying is if youcome to our gay space in our gay
neighborhood, be somewhatrespectful and don't be a crazy
girl that is like party hardyand like puking.
Like, I'm not kidding you.
The other day at Woody's, therewas a girl on the front street
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girl puking, having her hairrolled back, and had to be
kicked out of the bar.
Now I know the case through thattoo.
I've definitely seen plenty offights happening outside of
Woody's and outside of what isthat?
What is that one bar that'sacross from Roundup?
What is that one bar?
Okay.
Keep assuming people's sexualitybecause they might present
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straight.
Super fun to dial that help.
Look, I'm not saying I know theymight.
Whoa, you you did not tell him,you did not repeat the comment
that you made to his comment.
What was your response?
I said you're lost.
That's all I said.
Which is like a backhandedcomic.
It is.
It's totally a bitchy backhandedcomic.
Oh, you're totally lost.
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Because here's the deal.
I want to just also point thisout.
Anybody that's been in WestHollywood will know this.
Yeah, I've never been to WestHollywood.
Well, I know.
Okay, Reed bumped in here overhere.
I'm gonna tell you, WestHollywood used to be a gay
space.
And Lisa Vanderpop moves herminions in and starts opening
like Pop and Stir and all thisstuff.
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And all these gables and girlscome in.
Then they opened TomTom.
That was the worst one that theyever opened.
Because TomTom, these girls andguys were having dates in the
heart of West Hollywood.
Now, I get it.
But like not the heart of WestHollywood, West Hollywood is a
big town, city, where they havelike restaurants and stuff you
can go.
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But this is in the middle of thestrip of Boys Town.
They call literally Boys Town,where there's really all gay
bars.
I think it's strange to go on adate in a gay neighborhood where
you're surrounded by gay bars.
I think that's weird.
But she created thatenvironment, and all these
people from like Ohio and allover the country that want to
come and have a at least amanner pump experience came.
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And then you know what they wereplanning on doing?
Tearing down a bunch of bars andbuilding condos for all the
straight people to come in andmove in and start having babies.
And then guess what?
There would be no gayneighborhood.
That would be the housing ofurban development.
And by the way, just so youknow, no, we talked about we
what?
I just I believe that the cityplanner has to do with that.
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I don't believe Lisa Vanderpumplike single-handedly changed
West Hollywood.
She almost did if it wasn't forLance Bass.
West Hollywood would be gone.
He he revived and did Rocco's.
And if he hadn't done that in arage, rage brought rage and
turned it into something else.
I don't know.
I've left since it.
But if it weren't for LanceBath, West Hollywood would be
gone.
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There would be no WestHollywood, there would be no
safe spaces for any little gayboys.
Oh, and you know who else?
What's his face?
Um, who owns the Abbey went andbought the Abbey back too
because they were trying todestroy that too.
Really?
So, yes, straight people do justtry to infiltrate our
neighborhood and destroy themsystematically.
Yeah.
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I mean, it literally has beenhappening for years.
And and the thing is, is thegays we're just sitting here
like, okay, it's super cool,just come hang out, no big deal.
It's a big deal.
So I don't think that straightpeople are infiltrating the gay
neighborhood.
I I don't think the straightpeople or straight people really
care about.
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Oh, I'm sorry.
I'm the controversial one, buteveryone's having a fucking
goddamn meltdown over crosswalksright now, which by the way,
haven't even been around inDallas for five years.
And yet everyone's having ameltdown because Abbott did it.
But like, we're gonna have ameltdown over a fucking
crosswalk.
But the fact that there's like abunch of I was in Roundup the
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other day, and there were fivecollege-age dudes, all straight,
ending up.
My friends ended up finding outbecause we were like, are they
straight?
Because to your point, theycould be presenting as straight,
and they aren't.
But my friend, who's like superattractive, decided it was like
he's gonna go hit on them.
They all ended up beingstraight.
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And we were like, confounded.
Why are five straight dudes youknow, sometimes playing pool at
our bar?
Uh, because maybe they havereally good pool tables and
cheap pool tables.
Like I You know how many coolpool spots there are in Dallas?
So I didn't come out until I was22.
I I went to a lot of bars thatwere straight and was making me
furious.
Presented as straight a lot oftimes.
(23:11):
I went to a bunch of lesbianbars, or not a bunch, but I went
to a lesbian bar in FortLauderdale.
I mean, though my ex-girlfriendwas a lesbian at the time.
Um Wait, your ex-girlfriend wasa lesbian?
For a time, how about we downcoffee with gaze on that?
Well, she's married now to ahusband, so I don't know if she
would ever want to want me totalk about her, but yeah.
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Um to that cart.
I know.
Fucking wanko drivers now.
Um I can see that you're verypassionate about this topic, but
just take a breather.
Like, don't I've got anothercomment that I think is and I
think it's only fair to me.
Go ahead and situation.
Okay.
How about this?
(23:53):
Why do you need to invade queerspaces uninvited?
The majority of society istailored to the needs and
desires of cis straight whitemales and females, and the needs
and desires, but I guess whitemales more so than females.
I'll take that one back before Iget murdered.
And there are a thousand otherpool tables for you.
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Why do you need to have accessto the gay pool tables?
Are you that greedy?
Yes, tired LPCA.
I agree with you.
I mean, and those guys weretaking over our pool table.
There's only two pool tables,and it's hard to get one as it
is.
And they were playing all night,too.
I would have been too.
Like, what's the big deal?
(24:34):
They and I bet you anything thatthey're buddies with one of the
bartenders who are probablystraight.
Whoa, like, what's the big deal?
Because I already know at thatpart in particular, they like to
hire other straight guys.
Ah, straight dudes, whatever.
Because they don't want, yeah,they don't want people giving
away free trades.
Who the fuck cares?
Like, they're like, I I care.
I care.
It's it's it's the it's theruining of our gatekeepers.
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Okay.
Uh let's see.
Who else?
I think it's genius, but oh, oh,here's a golden one.
Golden.
Gatekeeping at its finest.
My favorite bar was owned bylesbians, and yeah, it was
mostly gays, but they didn'tturn it away anyway.
First of all, nobody's beingturned away.
Nobody's being turned away.
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You might not be comfortable ifpeople like are nice to you.
Keep popping out of the frame,but um it's okay.
I'm gonna pop in in and outbecause I'm animated right now.
Uh-huh.
Yeah.
And I said, I will gatekeep andkeep things alive because I've
seen the erosion of the gaycommunity for 20 years.
(25:37):
And if you want to and if youwant that trend to continue,
fine, but I intend to keep itstrong.
So there.
Sure.
And she said, look, you'reright, you're right to be
weirded out by it.
And if some dumb girls treat youlike entertainment, please tell
them off.
The thing is, I'm it needs to becharging.
(26:03):
Are you using it only as anexternal hold on?
Yes.
Because there was a change inone of your audio devices.
A new recording will startautomatically.
Okay.
Still recording.
(26:24):
Oh.
Oh no.
You can see it right there.
Okay.
So her point is tell them offwhich I was going to one day.
I was gonna tell these girlsoff.
I don't think that's nice.
(26:44):
No, no, no.
My friends wouldn't let me.
My friends wouldn't let me.
I didn't.
I didn't tell them off.
They ended up Can I tell youwhat ended up happening?
They ended up taking the bestphoto of us.
And I ended up being really niceto them.
Exactly.
Wait, say that.
Say that again.
They ended up being very niceand taking a great photo of you
guys.
See, give people a chance.
I'm I'm giving people a chance.
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What I'm explaining to thecommunity is there is an uptick
in drunk girls at the bar actinga fool.
So use this as your PSA, yourpublic service announcement.
For those of you who are whothink that you want to go get
wasted and shit on gay bars andvomit all over the bar and treat
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it like crap, pass on the gaybars.
Please.
Well, we're not yourbachelorette party, but that's
it.
That's definitely one thing.
You want to go to a dump divebar?
Like, go ahead.
And let me say like you aregonna have your bachelorette
party at our bar, you better bereal freaking fine.
Because nobody likes you there.
I'm just telling you, everybodytalks shit about the
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bachelorette.
Oh my gosh.
There was a girl though, I willtell you this, she was she had a
bachelorette at Roundup, and shehad these like light-up lay
things that were like black andgold, and they were and
everybody wanted one, and it waslike a whole thing where we were
like trying to fight for them.
So I'm not like an evil humanhere.
I I'm saying I've had fun times.
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I'm just saying that for themost part, and the one-off is
okay.
It's becoming, though, a realpattern of like this invasion of
our space, I think.
It's just what I'm saying.
Sure.
Hold on.
There's a meme that I think willreally help.
There's a meme.
(28:32):
How are we supposed to describea meme?
We're supposed to be talkingabout the comets.
No, I just look, there is a memethat has been going around for a
while that I think will help.
Okay.
See if I can find it real quick.
I can't do that.
Oh god.
What?
(28:53):
We came up in the searchresults.
What?
We came up in search results.
Like my name?
No, like our video on topic.
Oh.
We're like on the first imagesearch of Google.
That's funny.
I think we should immediatelypost this to TikTok over.
Oh shit.
Hold your old your old logo.
(29:14):
Shit.
Now my fault, dude.
You okay?
Yeah.
What was that?
I was everybody in this lanejust decided to slam on their
brakes.
I can't find a mean.
Okay, I can go on to othertopics.
(29:37):
Oh, we gotta fix that.
Fucked up.
Oh my god.
What?
unknown (29:43):
Ha!
SPEAKER_00 (29:44):
Here's the quote.
Here's a cut.
Here's one for you, Reed.
Wait, you need to fix thisthing.
I got it.
Oh maybe don't slam on thebrake.
I was trying to save our lives.
I mean, that's true.
(30:06):
The guy in the video, whoseentire personality is his hat,
is obsessed with HeteroSuperiority LMAO.
So embarrassing, dude, LOL.
That's it.
What the fuck?
I mean It's my favorite hat,first of all.
I have no problem taking it off.
Anytime you want me to, cometake it off.
Like, here, I'm not wearing ahat.
(30:28):
Oh wait, I totally responded tothat comment.
I need to delete that.
I love my hat.
I clearly got thought everybodywas attacking me, so I responded
to them attacking you.
I well.
Oh, here we go.
It's not being exclusionary.
Thank you, Jake the Snake.
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People created those spaces forthe people to be around other
similar people.
Just be respectful and find yourown place.
Going to an L or G safe spacefor beer specials is wild.
I agree, Jake.
Why?
I do.
I mean, that's another thing.
Oh, because our drinks arestrong and our really good
(31:10):
specials.
Like, that's not another goodreason to go.
Listen, I'm get a gay friend.
Listen, I'm not spending insaneamounts of money on alcohol.
Like, I'm drinking to get fuckedup.
Not to fucking.
It's not an investment, alright,at the bar.
I want cheap drinks.
unknown (31:31):
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00 (31:31):
Cheap and cheerful.
That's what I want my night tobe at the bar.
Cheap and cheerful.
Cheap and cheerful, yes.
And it, you know, it's great.
Okay, let's do another scenario.
Okay.
I mean, I personally, I knoweverybody's super obsessed with
apps, and I know that thiscomment exists in here.
With abs?
Apps.
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Apps.
But I don't need people on gayapps anymore.
I don't get on gay apps.
I need people in real life.
So I find it strange.
We meet a lot of straight womenin real life.
Really, we meet a lot ofstraight women, right?
Yeah, exactly.
They're taking up a lot ofspace.
But then I also think it's weirdwhen you're going and you're
getting you're hitting offpeople and they're straight at
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the gay bar without a gayfriend.
I don't, I like, again, that'snever that I'm never gonna agree
with.
So okay, well.
Nothing I'm ever gonna agree on.
Okay, here we go.
See, this is the person thatjust didn't clearly listen to
what I had to say.
How can we expect allies tofight with us for us when we
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don't allow them to celebratewith us?
With us is the it's what I'msaying.
With us.
Why what they're trying to sayis why couldn't they come to the
bar without a gay friend andmake a gay friend?
Is that so difficult?
Why is that so weird?
No, I said that it's not weird.
I said, like, those girls thatare out of town and going to the
gay bar, I think it's fine.
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I wouldn't want to be anout-of-town girl and go to a
street bar by myself.
I think that's fine.
unknown (33:03):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (33:04):
Obviously, if someone is acting up, they need
to be checked, but if someone isat a bar festival or parade, oh,
don't even get me on theparades.
Let me tell, let's talk aboutthe parades.
This is another great example.
Okay.
Pride parades.
Reed hates the pride parade, sohe's not gonna defend it.
I don't hate let me tell youwhat the pride parade is turned
into.
Now we have to have prideparades be family friendly
(33:27):
because they now are forstraight people bringing their
kids.
This is not a child event.
It's not for it's not for gaycouples who have children.
Look, if I want a child, I wouldnot take my child to a pride
parade.
I'm just telling you, Iwouldn't.
I don't think it's appropriateto bring your kid to a pride
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parade.
Now, I do think if you want, youcan have them celebrate pride in
a different way, but I don'tthink pride parades have
historically, nor should theybe, some kind of place where
they have children activities.
It's not, it's just like, look,it's like when the moms were
bringing their kids to dragshows.
It's a parade.
Let me just make it clear,Blaine.
(34:11):
This is a parade, right?
Pride is a public parade.
Why shouldn't children beallowed to go to a public?
Because guys wear theirunderwear.
And is that appropriate?
unknown (34:24):
Huh?
SPEAKER_00 (34:24):
Is that appropriate?
I think it's totally fine.
It's how it's always been done.
Don't bring your kids to thepride parade.
Here's my thing.
What are we?
This is my point though, though.
My point is this is why is thegay community because we have to
accept everybody all the time,and we can't say no to anything.
We're so we have no backbone,zero backbone whatsoever, and we
have to include everybody in allof our stuff because we can't be
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exclusive, can't beexclusionary, can't be bad.
Because of that, now our prideparades have to be family
friendly.
Like I have to be around kidsall the time, everywhere I go,
and there are so many kids outthere, there's so many
activities for kids to do.
I don't think a pride parade isnecessary for a kid to go to.
(35:08):
They can go to something else.
First of all, like in myopinion, I just don't even think
kids should even need to knowwhat gay is.
I think that's silly, numberone.
If I was a gay parent, I reallywould leave my kid with the
babysitter and go enjoy pridemyself.
And then at the end of the day,pride is for adult gay people.
So why are we even like makingit so that there's a few kids
(35:30):
that can go?
So kids of gay parents?
Okay, great.
But then you start adding in thestraight parents.
That's who's really taking theirkid to pride, not the gay
parents.
I can tell you, it is more kidsof straight people coming to our
parade and then being like, oh,it should be like family
friendly, and there shouldn't beguys in their jock straps.
I mean, so let me let me tellyou my opinion on the pride
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parade.
Is that what we're proud of?
Guys in jock straps?
Just to be clear, is that whatwe're is that what we're about?
Yes.
That's what we're proud of.
No, I mean there's more thanguys in jock straps.
But like the depth of the paradegoes only as far as a jock strap
and a leather harness.
No, it doesn't.
There's people playing in bands.
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There are trunks, the bars alldo their like things.
That's how it used to be.
I'm glad we don't have any ofthe corporate floats anymore
because I was really sick ofthat too.
Because guess what?
That was a bunch of straightpeople too.
Those weren't even gay peoplethat worked for those companies.
Those are just people thatwanted like a some some like
work credit for whatever.
Again, people getting involvedin our community where they and
(36:37):
by the way, now the officialpride thing in July sucks.
Nobody wants to June, nobodywants to go.
None of the gays even go toPride anymore.
Right.
That's the reality.
Because they've destroyed it.
The straight people havedestroyed Pride.
You have a thing.
And they are gonna destroy ourbars.
You have a bug up your ass aboutstraight people, and I can't I
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don't.
I mean, there's so many straightpeople.
I love my straight people.
I have plenty of straightfriends, and I have straight
friends that come to the gay barwith me.
That's my point.
Thank you.
Can you be a good passengerproducer?
I mean, why did you move it inthe first place?
You still didn't do it.
It's still messed up.
What's Zivas tough?
Pitch the bottom upward.
Hold this while you pitch thebottom.
(37:21):
There.
Okay.
Now push back.
Now just push this part back.
There.
Okay.
I'm just saying, this is exactlywhat's gonna happen.
It's happened to Pride.
Now it's gonna happen to the gaybars.
Oh, Blaine.
What?
Put that back.
You're blatting the fuck out ofme.
Okay.
Branded by the lava.
(37:42):
Oh, it's about to Okay.
There's a straight guy who comesto our poker night at the bar I
go to, huh?
It's fine.
There's a straight guy thatcomes to the poker night at the
bar I go to, and I feel totallycompletely safe around.
I dude, that's great.
And he sounds like he knows youguys, and that's my point.
(38:06):
It's cool.
Right.
So no issue there.
So let people get to know you.
Oh, oh, here's a good one.
We can't slice and dice likethis.
And I said, yes, we can.
We need to at some point.
We help was almost destroyed.
And how do we integrate withoutallowing others to know us?
Um I think you show up justbeing your normal self in
(38:29):
everyday life.
I don't think integration meanslike, oh, like by all means
flood our gay bars with straightpeople.
It doesn't mean not to, though.
Like, doesn't mean you're a gaybum.
Never said straight peoplearen't allowed in a gay bar.
I just think you should have agay friend with you most of the
time.
You all need to go out there andrecruit a gay fucking chaperon.
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No.
I'm gonna walk into a straightbar just fine anytime I want,
without a straight person, withor without a straight person.
Doesn't matter.
That is so not an equivalentfeed.
And I am gonna walk into a ChuckE.
Cheese, but I don't have a kidsometime, too.
And what?
That's error.
I'm joking.
I'm joking.
(39:12):
Maybe it's even busters.
That's for adults.
Yeah.
Yeah.
But like I I don't I don't know.
Let's see.
Finding another comment?
(39:33):
Yes.
What?
This is good.
The Chucky Cheese comparisonbreaks down because you ain't
getting in another kid at toeunless it's been changed.
I showed up having God Child'sbirthday straggling coming.
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You know what happened when Iwas in Paris, France?
You all love Paris, France.
You're talking about LA, you'retalking about Paris.
I'll tell you what happened inParis.
Okay.
Because everybody loves Paris.
Paris is so accepting and theylove everybody, right?
Are they?
No, they aren't.
I was there and a guy, a gayman, had a friend of his try to
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bring her into the gay bar, andthe bouncer said, no, women,
this is a gay bar.
Didn't let her in.
What if she was a lesbian?
Well, she didn't say that, and Iwas like, you know what?
Maybe I should do Paris, becauseI agree with these rules, and
all of my friends that were withme thought the same thing.
(40:40):
Yes, and we will start to havewater fountains that just say
gay only.
But I'm not advocating for that.
I'm not, yeah, clearly not.
Not you'd be okay with itthough.
You'd be okay with it though.
I might not mind it.
But no, I guess I thought it wasreally, I felt bad for the girl.
She was also with a gay friend.
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So I thought, like, that wasreally harsh.
Now there were a few girls inthere.
Those girls clearly had to workvery hard to be, like, get to
know people and get access tothis space.
Right.
But that's imperadox.
I mean, I'm not that far offbase.
I know I'm not.
(41:22):
Y'all can think I'm a horribleperson, but I I'm just, I don't
think I am.
He's not a horrible person.
He just doesn't know how torelay his message.
No, I think we've reallyexplained my stance.
And you can tell me in thecomments what you think.
We're gonna actually put this asa full episode, and then we'll
clip it up into clips on TikTokas well.
(41:44):
I think we're gonna post it onTikTok right now, right when
we're done.
Reed, you can't do the wholething on TikTok.
Why not?
It's too long of a format.
Oh.
But we'll definitely put this onour YouTube channel so you can
like see the whole thing.
I think this is great.
We should do more of this.
Maybe this should just be thenew format.
Maybe.
Just drive around Texas and talkabout chat.
(42:04):
Reed loves to drive.
I mean, I happen to drive a lot,yes.
He drives all the time.
So and uh I hate to drive, soI'm a great passenger.
But I could just do my work inthe car.
I'm actually I'd be shocked ifyour car even turned on at this
point because you haven't movedit from your parking garage
again south.
It doesn't, it does sometimes itdoesn't.
(42:26):
I mean, my battery just died, soso I don't drive it much.
I literally have to like justget the car washed every time I
take it out because it getsdustal in the parking garage.
I don't know why you live inDallas.
I know.
You should live in like Chicagoor yeah.
I would love to live in Chicago,but it didn't happen.
But I mean I live in a verywalkable neighborhood.
unknown (42:46):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (42:47):
We're very close to the gay bars, but you know, I do
go to the straight bars, and uh,I do feel I don't to go there as
well, I will say.
Any closing thoughts on thisone, Reed?
Yes, you're not allowed to go toany dog park if you don't have a
dog.
Why?
Okay, this is a great analogysince everybody didn't get the
(43:08):
trendy chase analogy.
Why would you go to a dog parkif you don't have a dog?
Because it's a nice park, butyou want to walk around it.
No, dog parks actually usuallyugly, quite frankly.
You wouldn't go to a dog parkwithout a dog.
That's weird.
That's weird.
And you wouldn't go to a gay barif you don't have a gay bar.
I think I can't wait for peopleto tell us how many straight men
(43:29):
go to Sue Ellen's lesbian bar bythemselves.
I think every all watch the liveare welcome.
Uh like I'm not saying peoplearen't welcome.
Stop twisting my words.
You ever come to the gay bar?
Bring a gaggle of gays with you.
Or what?
I'm saying what?
You can be 10, 12, 15 girls withone gay guy.
(43:50):
Yep, because that's what one gayguy wants to do with his
Saturday night.
Shefferat 15 fucking girls inthe gay bar.
I mean, it does sound miserable,doesn't it?
I wouldn't do it, but I will saythat guy, I could say, you know,
he went to a bachelorette partyand he's one gay guy with like
eight or ten girls in CostaRica.
So my god, he traveled all theway to Costa Rica for it?
(44:11):
Yeah.
Are you nutsh?
Yeah, but like that's a greatexample.
It's like, yeah, you have onegay guy with people, so you go
to the gay bar with the Was hesecurity?
Like what no.
He wasn't security, he's thebutt one.
And what if what if thesestraight girls wanted to bring
uh like what if the what if thegirl that's getting married,
(44:31):
right?
The bassurette, her brotherwanted to go with her to these
bars?
What if she brought him?
Is the brother gay?
unknown (44:39):
No.
SPEAKER_00 (44:42):
I don't understand the question.
It just it doesn't make sense.
So you want to bring yourstraight brother to a gay bar,
sure.
And no other gay people.
Do you understand how weird thissounds?
What if they brought a lesbian?
A lesbian's fine.
Why?
It's not a lesbian bar, it's agay bar.
I mean I think lesbians and gaysgo to each other's bars.
(45:05):
Older dash, you wouldn't go to alesbian bar without a lesbian.
I personally, I mean, I've beento Sue Ellen's and I would I
just personally would not likenormally be like, oh, I'm gonna
go hang out.
Like, let me let me take my youknow how large my freak group
is.
If I took them all after brunch,it's like, you know what?
We're not gonna go to Woody'stoday.
We're gonna all 15 of us go hitup Sue Ellen's.
(45:28):
Do you know that those thosewomen would be freaking pissed?
I mean, no, they would be.
At this rate, they should be.
At this rate, you should nameoff all the bars that everyone
should go to on a Saturday.
I'm just telling you, if my loudass went into Sue Ellen's,
cackling and hollering with allmy gay cackle of friends, I
think those women would be like,get the hell out of Sue Ellen's.
(45:49):
I'd probably get beat up.
Maybe people are just beingnice, and but they really want
you to lead.
Girl, they are not nice.
Lesbians, lesbians are tough.
They're gonna keep spats.
I mean, let's be honest.
If you ever if you are ever in afight, you want a lesbian.
Maybe.
(46:10):
Because they will they will takethem out.
So I look, I think uh let uslesbians and gays get along.
I'm not saying we don't.
I'm just saying, like, I justdon't think that they would
really appreciate a bunch ofgays like infiltrating their bar
all the time.
Sure.
That's just my take.
Sure.
Okay.
Well On that note, we have 20minutes left of our drive.
(46:33):
And we will think of anothertopic to talk about.
We will update you.
Well, curious to have an episodeof Coffee with Gays on the Road
slash co-sponsored by RidingReed.
What's it?
Is it riding with Reed Betweenthe Lines?
I have not been between thelines at all whatsoever.
No.
Why didn't we call it ridingwith read?
(46:54):
Roller Reed's roller coaster.
I think riding ride is better.
Oh my god.
Nobody rides read lately.
Well, I don't know.
We ride coconut oil.
I'm gonna keep my mouth.
I think we need to rebrand it toriding reed.
I got it.
Or read rides.
Reed rides.
Yes, read ride.
Why didn't we do that?
What do we do?
(47:14):
Read speaking the lines.
Read rides.
That's cool.
Clearly, we're not great withthe the marketing.
And this is a much better likestudio view than what you did
before.
I think people will beinterested in this.
Oh, okay.
Yeah, I like that.
Much better.
Drive around Dallas, look forthe right backdrop to my
(47:35):
recording.
Yeah.
Okay.
Well, cheers.
Thank you for another episode ofCoffee with Kays.
Um Cheers.
We'll call this one uh playinggets uh steamrolled by people.
But until I can say bye.
Okay, well, welcome to Coffee with Jays.
(00:01):
We're at Coffee with Jays on theRoad.
This is a new thing we're doing.
It's a read between the lines.
It's a read between the linesepisode.
Yes.
But in Reed's car, he's drivingme to go get my dog.
Yes.
And we thought it'd be fun toread our hate comments for the
week.
Well, uh, let me let me correctyou.
It's not our hate comment.
It's my hate comment.
(00:22):
Lane's hate comment.
For once, I said something thatupset everybody.
Yeah, I mean, it upset me too.
Okay, so for context, let'sfirst tell the context of the
video, which was a clap that wastaken.
We have to have to release thisepisode, which I'm going to now,
so everyone can get the context.
But the I the thought was I'msick and tired of one.
(00:45):
I think our gay bars are introuble.
I think that straight people areinvading them, specifically
straight bachelorette parties.
And I would like to add to thatthey're very disrespectful.
They come up to you super draw.
They expect you to buy themdrinks, but they expect you to
entertain them.
Okay.
This is facts, facts, facts.
Okay.
So I stand by it, and then Ibasically said, why would you go
(01:07):
to a gay bar without a gayfriend?
That was my point.
And then I made a comparisonthat people really didn't get,
which was, wouldn't you go toChuck E.
Cheese without a kit?
Your first.
Okay, so to correct you, yourfirst question was, Reed, would
you go to a lesbian bar withouta lesbian friend?
And I said, yes.
(01:28):
And then you said, okay, well,let me make it, let me make it
easier.
But Reed, would you go to ChuckE.
Cheese without a kit?
Yes.
Those don't coincide.
I still stand by this.
I did still.
They don't know.
They don't coincide at all.
This doesn't make any sense tome.
So read off the comment that Iwas referring to from the
bartender.
Who I very much I agree with you100%.
(01:52):
Okay.
Do you want me to read thebartender comment?
Yes.
Because he flat out said this isYeah.
Okay, well, let's read this onefirst because I think this is
actually one that I can answerthat I do want to address.
Okay.
I'm very sorry.
This is an honest question.
I am a straight cis woman.
Yeah.
And I travel alone a lot inareas where I don't, where I
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know there are a lot of LGBTQplus people.
Right.
And she was and she was beingvery responsible.
Like she said, she feels bad.
I agree.
You made her feel so I willalways go there because I feel
safer and more welcome and willalways have a great time.
Is that acceptable or should Inot do that?
I honestly love supporting thosespaces.
So my answer to her was you'retotally fine.
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You're not who I'm talkingabout.
You are not the prop.
Did you did you remove my comic?
Because I responded to her too.
I said you were.
And I do think that is that isthe case.
Now, I will give you an example.
There was a video on TikTok ofyet another girl who said that
she went into a gay bar and shewas by herself, and she was
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offended that the gay men didn'ttalk to her.
That's a different story.
Well, that's my point.
That's what I'm talking about.
These entitled street women thatcome to our bars and expect us
to be a chance to do it.
Okay, okay.
So that is a specific.
She had to take her TikTokaccount down because yeah, okay,
so that's a specificcircumstance and situation.
And I I would agree with you.
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Don't come into anyestablishment, you know, with
entitlement.
That's just that's not how lifeworks, lady.
Like, I and I I say anyestablishment because I oh, I
didn't see all these commentsunder the comments.
Yes.
Let's read this one.
Yes.
Um, by that same logic, it's notthe 80s, 90s, or early 2000s
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bars are no longer the onlyplace that community is able to
congregate in reduced fear ofpersecution.
In 2025, a gay bar is nodifferent than a biker bar or a
karaoke bar.
Okay, a biker bar?
What?
You're proving my point.
Okay.
And meaning that meaning thatall walks of people in all walks
of life are welcome to come tothe bar.
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Sure, but like, okay, I'll giveyou an example.
Of course, another one.
Am I no, am I gonna go in amid-riff into a biker bar in the
middle of like rural Louisiana?
No, that's disrespectful, rude,and it's not like what a bunch
of straight dudes would want.
So, no, I wouldn't do that.
In a midriff with a midring.
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Like a midriff, like showingyour stomach and like daisy
dudes, like acting like abitcoin.
Oh, well, maybe I did go into abar in Homeless Assassin,
Florida, looking pretty gay.
Oh, it's Florida.
It's Florida.
But they ended up loving us.
They loved us, but like, youknow what?
We did a lot of work to makesure that those people loved us.
I think the I always peg you tobe more secure than you're
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they're coming off right now.
I'm not being insecure.
I'm saying I think when you gointo somebody's space, like a
community space, you have to berespectful of that space, which
we'll get to some of thesecomments as well.
Oh no, I got I got a I got agreat one for you.
How about on Latin night?
Is it disrespectful for me to goto Latin night at what is it?
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What is that uh bar across fromRoundup?
Because I don't know any of thebars, but is it disrespectful
for me to do that?
And I did say, I did also saythat that like everybody's
welcome.
Or did you write that comment?
I wrote everybody's welcome.
What happened to my comment?
I wrote but wrote her back.
I didn't delete it.
Okay.
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Oh, maybe it was this one that Iresponded to.
Yeah, as a female, we feel saferat LGBTQ bars than any other.
Yeah.
They almost always are more fun.
Duh, we know that.
Yes, we are fun.
Okay.
They feel safer there.
Sorry, but it's true.
That said, I do have plenty offriends I go with when I'm well,
yeah, exactly.
I said I'm totally cool withthat.
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Just be cool.
I'm talking about the gamble ofdrunk girls who come to our bars
more.
Look, I have these girls comeand like run into me at the
bars, like shove me out of theway.
They're rude.
They're rude.
Maybe it's because I'm 6'5 andthey just be like whatever I can
barrel around and bedisrespectful, but I find it
really disrespectful.
I mean what I'm talking about.
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I don't because I don't, I don'thave you been in Nashville?
Yes, I have all those junk girlsrunning around in white suits.
It's like that.
But that's what they do whenthey come to our bars.
I mean, people are out to have agood time though, you know?
What like if you're going to abar, you kind of have to be
prepared to bump into people andget bumped into sometimes.
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Yes, they may be straight women.
Yes, you know, so what?
Let them have a good time, letthem have fun, get their hair
down.
I would feel honored andprivileged that they wanted to
come hang out with me.
Okay, I actually asked for anexplanation on this one.
The guy on the top, that wouldbe me, uh is just inadvertently
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made the arguments biggestinquading gay people to creeper
behavior.
How?
Like, how did I do that?
I don't understand.
I didn't read that comment, butI think you should read the
bartender comment.
I have to find it, there's somany comments.
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And while you're finding thebartender comment, I'm gonna pop
some yes.
What number is this?
Six yeah.
Wow.
Oh, look at this.
Somebody agrees with me.
That's a first.
Who did you pick?
No.
I'm yeah, we're gonna read thatone for sure.
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Number are you six?
We're definitely gonna talkabout her.
Why?
And I love my comment back.
Okay, let's just do this reallyquick before we get gas.
Read.
SPEAKER_01 (07:53):
Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_00 (07:54):
Okay, and this is exactly what I'm talking about.
It's this kind of white girlattitude that pisses me off.
Okay.
Now we're getting racist here.
No, I'm not getting racist.
By the way, you know how manypeople call me a cis white male
that is privileged in thesecomments?
So it's this girl, right?
And she comments, this is why Idon't trust any white man no
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matter what.
And you know what I said to her?
Okay, that's ridiculous.
And I don't trust you eitherwith your comment, by the way.
You, okay, so let me also justwere you very upset when you
were were responding back to thecomments after I had already
replied as a movie.
Because you were, yes, you're ahobby.
You were in a move.
First of all, you have been onthe receiving end of so many of
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these.
I have.
It is my first time that I'vesaid something super, I guess,
controversial.
I don't even think this iscontroversial.
I know people agree with.
I don't think they it's the it'snot what you're saying, it's how
you're delivering it, is what Ithink most people are trying to
get across to you right now.
Okay.
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So check it out the gas, andthen I'm gonna find it.
Check the bartender comment,because I think you would
understand if you wrote thebartender comment.
He was very respectful.
I completely understood.
I even I liked it with ouraccount, the copy with the gaze
account, and I bounced out of itand got my own personal account
just to say, hey, I agree withyou too.
Like, great guy.
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He works in the industry.
He, you know, he thinks thatbringing in clientele and
customers, regardless of whatyour you know sexual preference
is, is very healthy for the thecommunity, the bar, the owners.
So I'm not saying it's not.
Okay, we're gonna we're gonnatalk about the owners in a
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little bit, okay?
Read the comments.
I'm trying to find it.
There's hundreds of comments.
You'll find it in a second.
It's not your space.
Don't go.
Yeah, exactly.
I mean, with a gay friend, gowith a gay friend.
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I don't know why this is socrazy.
Okay, this guy's a dick, and Itotally had uh a total back and
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forth with him.
I actually think we ended upgetting to a good spot.
Can you read it?
But okay, he's a great exampleof what I think is weird about
this scenario.
Listening.
And he also called me a pedo,too, by the way, which freaking
rude.
Okay, again, I'm listening.
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What was the comment?
Okay, so this commenter says,bro, tripping.
This is straight, bro.
I got invited That does not meanhe's straight.
I say bro all the time.
Okay, bro tripping.
Super straight bro.
I got invited to hang out withthis girl and her friends.
The girl knew I was straight,and so were her friends.
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Turns out it was at a gay bar.
So this is another problem Ihave.
The girls are having a straightguy come meet them at the gay
bar without the gay friend.
So what that's weird.
It's not weird.
Freaking weird.
All right, Blaine, answer methis.
Do you go into straight bars?
Yes, but I don't go withoutstraight people.
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Okay.
Yes.
First of all, everything is astraight place.
It's the majority of places wego.
Let's be honest with ourselves,okay?
But do we have to do this no,no, no, no.
You cannot equate this to, firstof all.
It's not like going to therattlesink bar at the Ritz,
okay?
Like, when I go to therattlesink bar, my point is when
I go to a straight bar, uh-huh,do I dress like I would I'm
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going to Pride at a gay bar?
No, I just dress like a normalperson.
I act like normal, not likesuper gay or anything.
I don't do anything crazy.
Like, I just am my normal self,right?
But I'm not like, but straightbar is not the same thing.
But it would be like going tolike this biker club example.
Are you upset because thesestraight women like to use gay
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bars as like an amusement park?
Yes.
Okay.
They do, they do.
And why are you inviting astraight guy to a gay bar?
Maybe she wants to test him outand see if he's accepting of the
gay.
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Uh no one is gonna potentiallyarrest a straight person for
being at a gay bar, never saidanything like that, minding
their own business and drinkingand chilling.
I mean, I agree.
I mean, I totally agree.
What I'm talking about, though,is the behavior that usually
follows this.
Find find the the bartendercomment.
I would love it if you just holdoff.
Hold on.
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I gotta I know unpumped gas orjust not pumping area.
Do people even watch thesevideos, by the way?
Comparing a gay bar to a Chuckycheese is the wildest takeover.
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I never did that.
You compared a lesbian bar tochuck and cheese.
No, I did not.
I just was making a point of goto certain places because you
have a kid, or you have alesbian friend, or you have a
gay friend, or you don't justkind of like necessarily go to a
biker bar unless you're with abiker friend, I assume.
I think, I mean, maybe I'd go toa biker bar, but like probably
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not.
That would be like kind ofreally uncomfortable.
I mean, these aren't bear barsthat they're going to, you know,
they're not going to specificbars.
I think what the majority ofpeople are trying to say is,
hola.
Okay.
We're gonna go.
Oh, he did say what people aretrying to say.
I just I stop I found it.
Of course he didn't stop gethurt.
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You're asking.
We're in the middle ofrecording.
I know.
Oh, you know what we should do?
We should go to Slovex.
What's Slow Vex?
They have like barbecue and theyhave those kalachis.
You know, it's a big deal.
I still have never had a calach.
You've never had a calachi?
A kolachi okay.
My treats you're driving.
Oh, sure.
Happy to.
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And we go to Slow Vex and it'sreally good.
We'd pick him up on the wayback?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And there's a place for goal.
Okay.
Here's the here's the questionyou were talking about with the
bar today.
Comment.
Yes.
I haven't been able to stopharping about the yes.
unknown (14:44):
Oh.
SPEAKER_00 (14:45):
As someone who works.
Uh-oh.
Uh-oh.
Give me a stuff.
Are you supposed to get offthere?
So Google Manager.
I mean, it's they both lookreally bad.
Waco's the worst to go through.
Yeah.
Waco is.
Chip and Joanna ruined thistown.
unknown (15:04):
Oh my.
SPEAKER_00 (15:05):
I can get into that too.
That's the next hot take.
That's a very controversialtopic.
No, it's not.
It's not.
They ruined Waco.
I'm sure everyone's so happythat they, you know, brought
everyone.
Have you ever been to thosesilos?
No, I haven't.
I heard they were garbage.
It's the worst.
I heard they were garbage and Iheard all their stuff is
overpress.
It's overpressed.
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I like Chip and Joanna games.
I eat like I love Fixer Upper.
I loved watching their show.
But I'm not gonna pay$500 for afucking throw pillow.
Suck a dick.
It's not great.
And you have to wait foreverjust to get it to the
restaurant.
It's terrible.
Okay.
Next comment.
As someone who works in theexact bars you were talking
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about, this is such a wildfucking take.
We live in a capitalist,capitalistic hellscape.
And unfortunately, we needeveryone's dollar to thrive,
including straight dollars.
Yes.
Bars, I agree.
Bars are not safe spaces.
They are spaces.
That's not true.
Bars are safe spaces.
This is ridiculous.
I don't really know what youmeant by that.
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They are spaces with strangersand alcohol.
Tons of straight guys go toSioux.
Sioux Ellen's is our lesbianbar.
Tons of straight guys do not goto Sioux Ellens.
I've been to Sioux Ellen's athousand times, and I can verify
for you I've never seen astraight man there.
Ever.
It's a bunch of lesbians.
If the lesbians in the commentsthat have been to Sioux Ellens
tell me that that's true or not,I'm gonna actually text my
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lesbian friends and find out ifstraight men frequent Sioux
Ellen's often.
That's the stupidest thing I'veheard.
Anyway, it's normal for peopleto mix and mingle, and it's
weird to be exclusionary.
First of all, can I tell youwhat?
Can gays bring back being alittle bit exclusionary?
I think we have gotten to thepoint that we just let everybody
in.
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It's just like we're not, we'renot.
If you want me to really gothere with you, we're gonna go
there at some point.
Think about think about how thegay community has been foreseen
to the entire world.
They don't, uh majority don'tvalue monogamy.
Oh, there we go.
If you want me to go there, Iwill go there on your polyamory
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to that.
I'll get the eat off me.
I don't judge anybody for whatthey choose, but don't act like
you come off Judge.
Oh my gosh.
Well, don't act like, oh, whyare we accepting everybody in
here?
Why are we?
I don't think we should.
I think a lot of these peoplethat say they're part of our
community, they aren't even apart of our community.
That's for another video.
But I do not think there'ssomething wrong with being a
little exclusionary because theworld in and of itself is
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exclusionary.
So at the door, at the entranceof these bars, like grow up,
like you need to realize thatthe world is a little
exclusionary.
That said, I'm finishing thecomment.
When these bars need money toand support to survive, this is
nonsense.
And yeah, first of all, okay.
We we spend a lot of moneythere.
Equating Chuck E.
Cheese to a lesbian bar is suchan incorrect and offensive take.
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First of all, that's not what Isaid.
I said you wouldn't go to ChuckE.
Cheese without a kid, youwouldn't go to a lesbian bar
without a lesbian.
I would actually go to bothwithout either.
Like when was the last time youwent to Sioux Ellens by
yourself?
Never.
I've never actually said up.
You've never even been to SiouxEllens, so you haven't even been
to a lesbian bar, so don't fuckwith me.
That is so stupid.
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I I would love to know He's nottalking shit to you.
He's just being honest to you.
Like he's just being asrespectful as possible.
If you want to be a truly safespace, go to your friend's
house, not a public.
First of all, I'm not eventalking about safe spaces.
You know me.
I don't believe in safe spaces.
I actually have in ourdescription the copy with Jays,
it's not a safe space.
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I am fine with not having safespaces.
But what I am saying is if youcome to our gay space in our gay
neighborhood, be somewhatrespectful and don't be a crazy
girl that is like party hardyand like puking.
Like, I'm not kidding you.
The other day at Woody's, therewas a girl on the front street
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girl puking, having her hairrolled back, and had to be
kicked out of the bar.
Now I know the case through thattoo.
I've definitely seen plenty offights happening outside of
Woody's and outside of what isthat?
What is that one bar that'sacross from Roundup?
What is that one bar?
Okay.
Keep assuming people's sexualitybecause they might present
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straight.
Super fun to dial that help.
Look, I'm not saying I know theymight.
Whoa, you you did not tell him,you did not repeat the comment
that you made to his comment.
What was your response?
I said you're lost.
That's all I said.
Which is like a backhandedcomic.
It is.
It's totally a bitchy backhandedcomic.
Oh, you're totally lost.
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Because here's the deal.
I want to just also point thisout.
Anybody that's been in WestHollywood will know this.
Yeah, I've never been to WestHollywood.
Well, I know.
Okay, Reed bumped in here overhere.
I'm gonna tell you, WestHollywood used to be a gay
space.
And Lisa Vanderpop moves herminions in and starts opening
like Pop and Stir and all thisstuff.
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And all these gables and girlscome in.
Then they opened TomTom.
That was the worst one that theyever opened.
Because TomTom, these girls andguys were having dates in the
heart of West Hollywood.
Now, I get it.
But like not the heart of WestHollywood, West Hollywood is a
big town, city, where they havelike restaurants and stuff you
can go.
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But this is in the middle of thestrip of Boys Town.
They call literally Boys Town,where there's really all gay
bars.
I think it's strange to go on adate in a gay neighborhood where
you're surrounded by gay bars.
I think that's weird.
But she created thatenvironment, and all these
people from like Ohio and allover the country that want to
come and have a at least amanner pump experience came.
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And then you know what they wereplanning on doing?
Tearing down a bunch of bars andbuilding condos for all the
straight people to come in andmove in and start having babies.
And then guess what?
There would be no gayneighborhood.
That would be the housing ofurban development.
And by the way, just so youknow, no, we talked about we
what?
I just I believe that the cityplanner has to do with that.
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I don't believe Lisa Vanderpumplike single-handedly changed
West Hollywood.
She almost did if it wasn't forLance Bass.
West Hollywood would be gone.
He he revived and did Rocco's.
And if he hadn't done that in arage, rage brought rage and
turned it into something else.
I don't know.
I've left since it.
But if it weren't for LanceBath, West Hollywood would be
gone.
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There would be no WestHollywood, there would be no
safe spaces for any little gayboys.
Oh, and you know who else?
What's his face?
Um, who owns the Abbey went andbought the Abbey back too
because they were trying todestroy that too.
Really?
So, yes, straight people do justtry to infiltrate our
neighborhood and destroy themsystematically.
Yeah.
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I mean, it literally has beenhappening for years.
And and the thing is, is thegays we're just sitting here
like, okay, it's super cool,just come hang out, no big deal.
It's a big deal.
So I don't think that straightpeople are infiltrating the gay
neighborhood.
I I don't think the straightpeople or straight people really
care about.
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Oh, I'm sorry.
I'm the controversial one, buteveryone's having a fucking
goddamn meltdown over crosswalksright now, which by the way,
haven't even been around inDallas for five years.
And yet everyone's having ameltdown because Abbott did it.
But like, we're gonna have ameltdown over a fucking
crosswalk.
But the fact that there's like abunch of I was in Roundup the
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other day, and there were fivecollege-age dudes, all straight,
ending up.
My friends ended up finding outbecause we were like, are they
straight?
Because to your point, theycould be presenting as straight,
and they aren't.
But my friend, who's like superattractive, decided it was like
he's gonna go hit on them.
They all ended up beingstraight.
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And we were like, confounded.
Why are five straight dudes youknow, sometimes playing pool at
our bar?
Uh, because maybe they havereally good pool tables and
cheap pool tables.
Like I You know how many coolpool spots there are in Dallas?
So I didn't come out until I was22.
I I went to a lot of bars thatwere straight and was making me
furious.
Presented as straight a lot oftimes.
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I went to a bunch of lesbianbars, or not a bunch, but I went
to a lesbian bar in FortLauderdale.
I mean, though my ex-girlfriendwas a lesbian at the time.
Um Wait, your ex-girlfriend wasa lesbian?
For a time, how about we downcoffee with gaze on that?
Well, she's married now to ahusband, so I don't know if she
would ever want to want me totalk about her, but yeah.
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Um to that cart.
I know.
Fucking wanko drivers now.
Um I can see that you're verypassionate about this topic, but
just take a breather.
Like, don't I've got anothercomment that I think is and I
think it's only fair to me.
Go ahead and situation.
Okay.
How about this?
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Why do you need to invade queerspaces uninvited?
The majority of society istailored to the needs and
desires of cis straight whitemales and females, and the needs
and desires, but I guess whitemales more so than females.
I'll take that one back before Iget murdered.
And there are a thousand otherpool tables for you.
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Why do you need to have accessto the gay pool tables?
Are you that greedy?
Yes, tired LPCA.
I agree with you.
I mean, and those guys weretaking over our pool table.
There's only two pool tables,and it's hard to get one as it
is.
And they were playing all night,too.
I would have been too.
Like, what's the big deal?
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They and I bet you anything thatthey're buddies with one of the
bartenders who are probablystraight.
Whoa, like, what's the big deal?
Because I already know at thatpart in particular, they like to
hire other straight guys.
Ah, straight dudes, whatever.
Because they don't want, yeah,they don't want people giving
away free trades.
Who the fuck cares?
Like, they're like, I I care.
I care.
It's it's it's the it's theruining of our gatekeepers.
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Okay.
Uh let's see.
Who else?
I think it's genius, but oh, oh,here's a golden one.
Golden.
Gatekeeping at its finest.
My favorite bar was owned bylesbians, and yeah, it was
mostly gays, but they didn'tturn it away anyway.
First of all, nobody's beingturned away.
Nobody's being turned away.
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You might not be comfortable ifpeople like are nice to you.
Keep popping out of the frame,but um it's okay.
I'm gonna pop in in and outbecause I'm animated right now.
Uh-huh.
Yeah.
And I said, I will gatekeep andkeep things alive because I've
seen the erosion of the gaycommunity for 20 years.
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And if you want to and if youwant that trend to continue,
fine, but I intend to keep itstrong.
So there.
Sure.
And she said, look, you'reright, you're right to be
weirded out by it.
And if some dumb girls treat youlike entertainment, please tell
them off.
The thing is, I'm it needs to becharging.
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Are you using it only as anexternal hold on?
Yes.
Because there was a change inone of your audio devices.
A new recording will startautomatically.
Okay.
Still recording.
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Oh.
Oh no.
You can see it right there.
Okay.
So her point is tell them offwhich I was going to one day.
I was gonna tell these girlsoff.
I don't think that's nice.
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No, no, no.
My friends wouldn't let me.
My friends wouldn't let me.
I didn't.
I didn't tell them off.
They ended up Can I tell youwhat ended up happening?
They ended up taking the bestphoto of us.
And I ended up being really niceto them.
Exactly.
Wait, say that.
Say that again.
They ended up being very niceand taking a great photo of you
guys.
See, give people a chance.
I'm I'm giving people a chance.
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What I'm explaining to thecommunity is there is an uptick
in drunk girls at the bar actinga fool.
So use this as your PSA, yourpublic service announcement.
For those of you who are whothink that you want to go get
wasted and shit on gay bars andvomit all over the bar and treat
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it like crap, pass on the gaybars.
Please.
Well, we're not yourbachelorette party, but that's
it.
That's definitely one thing.
You want to go to a dump divebar?
Like, go ahead.
And let me say like you aregonna have your bachelorette
party at our bar, you better bereal freaking fine.
Because nobody likes you there.
I'm just telling you, everybodytalks shit about the
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bachelorette.
Oh my gosh.
There was a girl though, I willtell you this, she was she had a
bachelorette at Roundup, and shehad these like light-up lay
things that were like black andgold, and they were and
everybody wanted one, and it waslike a whole thing where we were
like trying to fight for them.
So I'm not like an evil humanhere.
I I'm saying I've had fun times.
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I'm just saying that for themost part, and the one-off is
okay.
It's becoming, though, a realpattern of like this invasion of
our space, I think.
It's just what I'm saying.
Sure.
Hold on.
There's a meme that I think willreally help.
There's a meme.
(28:32):
How are we supposed to describea meme?
We're supposed to be talkingabout the comets.
No, I just look, there is a memethat has been going around for a
while that I think will help.
Okay.
See if I can find it real quick.
I can't do that.
Oh god.
What?
(28:53):
We came up in the searchresults.
What?
We came up in search results.
Like my name?
No, like our video on topic.
Oh.
We're like on the first imagesearch of Google.
That's funny.
I think we should immediatelypost this to TikTok over.
Oh shit.
Hold your old your old logo.
(29:14):
Shit.
Now my fault, dude.
You okay?
Yeah.
What was that?
I was everybody in this lanejust decided to slam on their
brakes.
I can't find a mean.
Okay, I can go on to othertopics.
(29:37):
Oh, we gotta fix that.
Fucked up.
Oh my god.
What?
unknown (29:43):
Ha!
SPEAKER_00 (29:44):
Here's the quote.
Here's a cut.
Here's one for you, Reed.
Wait, you need to fix thisthing.
I got it.
Oh maybe don't slam on thebrake.
I was trying to save our lives.
I mean, that's true.
(30:06):
The guy in the video, whoseentire personality is his hat,
is obsessed with HeteroSuperiority LMAO.
So embarrassing, dude, LOL.
That's it.
What the fuck?
I mean It's my favorite hat,first of all.
I have no problem taking it off.
Anytime you want me to, cometake it off.
Like, here, I'm not wearing ahat.
(30:28):
Oh wait, I totally responded tothat comment.
I need to delete that.
I love my hat.
I clearly got thought everybodywas attacking me, so I responded
to them attacking you.
I well.
Oh, here we go.
It's not being exclusionary.
Thank you, Jake the Snake.
(30:48):
People created those spaces forthe people to be around other
similar people.
Just be respectful and find yourown place.
Going to an L or G safe spacefor beer specials is wild.
I agree, Jake.
Why?
I do.
I mean, that's another thing.
Oh, because our drinks arestrong and our really good
(31:10):
specials.
Like, that's not another goodreason to go.
Listen, I'm get a gay friend.
Listen, I'm not spending insaneamounts of money on alcohol.
Like, I'm drinking to get fuckedup.
Not to fucking.
It's not an investment, alright,at the bar.
I want cheap drinks.
unknown (31:31):
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00 (31:31):
Cheap and cheerful.
That's what I want my night tobe at the bar.
Cheap and cheerful.
Cheap and cheerful, yes.
And it, you know, it's great.
Okay, let's do another scenario.
Okay.
I mean, I personally, I knoweverybody's super obsessed with
apps, and I know that thiscomment exists in here.
With abs?
Apps.
(31:52):
Apps.
But I don't need people on gayapps anymore.
I don't get on gay apps.
I need people in real life.
So I find it strange.
We meet a lot of straight womenin real life.
Really, we meet a lot ofstraight women, right?
Yeah, exactly.
They're taking up a lot ofspace.
But then I also think it's weirdwhen you're going and you're
getting you're hitting offpeople and they're straight at
(32:14):
the gay bar without a gayfriend.
I don't, I like, again, that'snever that I'm never gonna agree
with.
So okay, well.
Nothing I'm ever gonna agree on.
Okay, here we go.
See, this is the person thatjust didn't clearly listen to
what I had to say.
How can we expect allies tofight with us for us when we
(32:37):
don't allow them to celebratewith us?
With us is the it's what I'msaying.
With us.
Why what they're trying to sayis why couldn't they come to the
bar without a gay friend andmake a gay friend?
Is that so difficult?
Why is that so weird?
No, I said that it's not weird.
I said, like, those girls thatare out of town and going to the
gay bar, I think it's fine.
(32:57):
I wouldn't want to be anout-of-town girl and go to a
street bar by myself.
I think that's fine.
unknown (33:03):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (33:04):
Obviously, if someone is acting up, they need
to be checked, but if someone isat a bar festival or parade, oh,
don't even get me on theparades.
Let me tell, let's talk aboutthe parades.
This is another great example.
Okay.
Pride parades.
Reed hates the pride parade, sohe's not gonna defend it.
I don't hate let me tell youwhat the pride parade is turned
into.
Now we have to have prideparades be family friendly
(33:27):
because they now are forstraight people bringing their
kids.
This is not a child event.
It's not for it's not for gaycouples who have children.
Look, if I want a child, I wouldnot take my child to a pride
parade.
I'm just telling you, Iwouldn't.
I don't think it's appropriateto bring your kid to a pride
(33:50):
parade.
Now, I do think if you want, youcan have them celebrate pride in
a different way, but I don'tthink pride parades have
historically, nor should theybe, some kind of place where
they have children activities.
It's not, it's just like, look,it's like when the moms were
bringing their kids to dragshows.
It's a parade.
Let me just make it clear,Blaine.
(34:11):
This is a parade, right?
Pride is a public parade.
Why shouldn't children beallowed to go to a public?
Because guys wear theirunderwear.
And is that appropriate?
unknown (34:24):
Huh?
SPEAKER_00 (34:24):
Is that appropriate?
I think it's totally fine.
It's how it's always been done.
Don't bring your kids to thepride parade.
Here's my thing.
What are we?
This is my point though, though.
My point is this is why is thegay community because we have to
accept everybody all the time,and we can't say no to anything.
We're so we have no backbone,zero backbone whatsoever, and we
have to include everybody in allof our stuff because we can't be
(34:47):
exclusive, can't beexclusionary, can't be bad.
Because of that, now our prideparades have to be family
friendly.
Like I have to be around kidsall the time, everywhere I go,
and there are so many kids outthere, there's so many
activities for kids to do.
I don't think a pride parade isnecessary for a kid to go to.
(35:08):
They can go to something else.
First of all, like in myopinion, I just don't even think
kids should even need to knowwhat gay is.
I think that's silly, numberone.
If I was a gay parent, I reallywould leave my kid with the
babysitter and go enjoy pridemyself.
And then at the end of the day,pride is for adult gay people.
So why are we even like makingit so that there's a few kids
(35:30):
that can go?
So kids of gay parents?
Okay, great.
But then you start adding in thestraight parents.
That's who's really taking theirkid to pride, not the gay
parents.
I can tell you, it is more kidsof straight people coming to our
parade and then being like, oh,it should be like family
friendly, and there shouldn't beguys in their jock straps.
I mean, so let me let me tellyou my opinion on the pride
(35:54):
parade.
Is that what we're proud of?
Guys in jock straps?
Just to be clear, is that whatwe're is that what we're about?
Yes.
That's what we're proud of.
No, I mean there's more thanguys in jock straps.
But like the depth of the paradegoes only as far as a jock strap
and a leather harness.
No, it doesn't.
There's people playing in bands.
(36:14):
There are trunks, the bars alldo their like things.
That's how it used to be.
I'm glad we don't have any ofthe corporate floats anymore
because I was really sick ofthat too.
Because guess what?
That was a bunch of straightpeople too.
Those weren't even gay peoplethat worked for those companies.
Those are just people thatwanted like a some some like
work credit for whatever.
Again, people getting involvedin our community where they and
(36:37):
by the way, now the officialpride thing in July sucks.
Nobody wants to June, nobodywants to go.
None of the gays even go toPride anymore.
Right.
That's the reality.
Because they've destroyed it.
The straight people havedestroyed Pride.
You have a thing.
And they are gonna destroy ourbars.
You have a bug up your ass aboutstraight people, and I can't I
(36:59):
don't.
I mean, there's so many straightpeople.
I love my straight people.
I have plenty of straightfriends, and I have straight
friends that come to the gay barwith me.
That's my point.
Thank you.
Can you be a good passengerproducer?
I mean, why did you move it inthe first place?
You still didn't do it.
It's still messed up.
What's Zivas tough?
Pitch the bottom upward.
Hold this while you pitch thebottom.
(37:21):
There.
Okay.
Now push back.
Now just push this part back.
There.
Okay.
I'm just saying, this is exactlywhat's gonna happen.
It's happened to Pride.
Now it's gonna happen to the gaybars.
Oh, Blaine.
What?
Put that back.
You're blatting the fuck out ofme.
Okay.
Branded by the lava.
(37:42):
Oh, it's about to Okay.
There's a straight guy who comesto our poker night at the bar I
go to, huh?
It's fine.
There's a straight guy thatcomes to the poker night at the
bar I go to, and I feel totallycompletely safe around.
I dude, that's great.
And he sounds like he knows youguys, and that's my point.
(38:06):
It's cool.
Right.
So no issue there.
So let people get to know you.
Oh, oh, here's a good one.
We can't slice and dice likethis.
And I said, yes, we can.
We need to at some point.
We help was almost destroyed.
And how do we integrate withoutallowing others to know us?
Um I think you show up justbeing your normal self in
(38:29):
everyday life.
I don't think integration meanslike, oh, like by all means
flood our gay bars with straightpeople.
It doesn't mean not to, though.
Like, doesn't mean you're a gaybum.
Never said straight peoplearen't allowed in a gay bar.
I just think you should have agay friend with you most of the
time.
You all need to go out there andrecruit a gay fucking chaperon.
(38:52):
No.
I'm gonna walk into a straightbar just fine anytime I want,
without a straight person, withor without a straight person.
Doesn't matter.
That is so not an equivalentfeed.
And I am gonna walk into a ChuckE.
Cheese, but I don't have a kidsometime, too.
And what?
That's error.
I'm joking.
I'm joking.
(39:12):
Maybe it's even busters.
That's for adults.
Yeah.
Yeah.
But like I I don't I don't know.
Let's see.
Finding another comment?
(39:33):
Yes.
What?
This is good.
The Chucky Cheese comparisonbreaks down because you ain't
getting in another kid at toeunless it's been changed.
I showed up having God Child'sbirthday straggling coming.
(39:54):
You know what happened when Iwas in Paris, France?
You all love Paris, France.
You're talking about LA, you'retalking about Paris.
I'll tell you what happened inParis.
Okay.
Because everybody loves Paris.
Paris is so accepting and theylove everybody, right?
Are they?
No, they aren't.
I was there and a guy, a gayman, had a friend of his try to
(40:19):
bring her into the gay bar, andthe bouncer said, no, women,
this is a gay bar.
Didn't let her in.
What if she was a lesbian?
Well, she didn't say that, and Iwas like, you know what?
Maybe I should do Paris, becauseI agree with these rules, and
all of my friends that were withme thought the same thing.
(40:40):
Yes, and we will start to havewater fountains that just say
gay only.
But I'm not advocating for that.
I'm not, yeah, clearly not.
Not you'd be okay with itthough.
You'd be okay with it though.
I might not mind it.
But no, I guess I thought it wasreally, I felt bad for the girl.
She was also with a gay friend.
(41:01):
So I thought, like, that wasreally harsh.
Now there were a few girls inthere.
Those girls clearly had to workvery hard to be, like, get to
know people and get access tothis space.
Right.
But that's imperadox.
I mean, I'm not that far offbase.
I know I'm not.
(41:22):
Y'all can think I'm a horribleperson, but I I'm just, I don't
think I am.
He's not a horrible person.
He just doesn't know how torelay his message.
No, I think we've reallyexplained my stance.
And you can tell me in thecomments what you think.
We're gonna actually put this asa full episode, and then we'll
clip it up into clips on TikTokas well.
(41:44):
I think we're gonna post it onTikTok right now, right when
we're done.
Reed, you can't do the wholething on TikTok.
Why not?
It's too long of a format.
Oh.
But we'll definitely put this onour YouTube channel so you can
like see the whole thing.
I think this is great.
We should do more of this.
Maybe this should just be thenew format.
Maybe.
Just drive around Texas and talkabout chat.
(42:04):
Reed loves to drive.
I mean, I happen to drive a lot,yes.
He drives all the time.
So and uh I hate to drive, soI'm a great passenger.
But I could just do my work inthe car.
I'm actually I'd be shocked ifyour car even turned on at this
point because you haven't movedit from your parking garage
again south.
It doesn't, it does sometimes itdoesn't.
(42:26):
I mean, my battery just died, soso I don't drive it much.
I literally have to like justget the car washed every time I
take it out because it getsdustal in the parking garage.
I don't know why you live inDallas.
I know.
You should live in like Chicagoor yeah.
I would love to live in Chicago,but it didn't happen.
But I mean I live in a verywalkable neighborhood.
unknown (42:46):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (42:47):
We're very close to the gay bars, but you know, I do
go to the straight bars, and uh,I do feel I don't to go there as
well, I will say.
Any closing thoughts on thisone, Reed?
Yes, you're not allowed to go toany dog park if you don't have a
dog.
Why?
Okay, this is a great analogysince everybody didn't get the
(43:08):
trendy chase analogy.
Why would you go to a dog parkif you don't have a dog?
Because it's a nice park, butyou want to walk around it.
No, dog parks actually usuallyugly, quite frankly.
You wouldn't go to a dog parkwithout a dog.
That's weird.
That's weird.
And you wouldn't go to a gay barif you don't have a gay bar.
I think I can't wait for peopleto tell us how many straight men
(43:29):
go to Sue Ellen's lesbian bar bythemselves.
I think every all watch the liveare welcome.
Uh like I'm not saying peoplearen't welcome.
Stop twisting my words.
You ever come to the gay bar?
Bring a gaggle of gays with you.
Or what?
I'm saying what?
You can be 10, 12, 15 girls withone gay guy.
(43:50):
Yep, because that's what one gayguy wants to do with his
Saturday night.
Shefferat 15 fucking girls inthe gay bar.
I mean, it does sound miserable,doesn't it?
I wouldn't do it, but I will saythat guy, I could say, you know,
he went to a bachelorette partyand he's one gay guy with like
eight or ten girls in CostaRica.
So my god, he traveled all theway to Costa Rica for it?
(44:11):
Yeah.
Are you nutsh?
Yeah, but like that's a greatexample.
It's like, yeah, you have onegay guy with people, so you go
to the gay bar with the Was hesecurity?
Like what no.
He wasn't security, he's thebutt one.
And what if what if thesestraight girls wanted to bring
uh like what if the what if thegirl that's getting married,
(44:31):
right?
The bassurette, her brotherwanted to go with her to these
bars?
What if she brought him?
Is the brother gay?
unknown (44:39):
No.
SPEAKER_00 (44:42):
I don't understand the question.
It just it doesn't make sense.
So you want to bring yourstraight brother to a gay bar,
sure.
And no other gay people.
Do you understand how weird thissounds?
What if they brought a lesbian?
A lesbian's fine.
Why?
It's not a lesbian bar, it's agay bar.
I mean I think lesbians and gaysgo to each other's bars.
(45:05):
Older dash, you wouldn't go to alesbian bar without a lesbian.
I personally, I mean, I've beento Sue Ellen's and I would I
just personally would not likenormally be like, oh, I'm gonna
go hang out.
Like, let me let me take my youknow how large my freak group
is.
If I took them all after brunch,it's like, you know what?
We're not gonna go to Woody'stoday.
We're gonna all 15 of us go hitup Sue Ellen's.
(45:28):
Do you know that those thosewomen would be freaking pissed?
I mean, no, they would be.
At this rate, they should be.
At this rate, you should nameoff all the bars that everyone
should go to on a Saturday.
I'm just telling you, if my loudass went into Sue Ellen's,
cackling and hollering with allmy gay cackle of friends, I
think those women would be like,get the hell out of Sue Ellen's.
(45:49):
I'd probably get beat up.
Maybe people are just beingnice, and but they really want
you to lead.
Girl, they are not nice.
Lesbians, lesbians are tough.
They're gonna keep spats.
I mean, let's be honest.
If you ever if you are ever in afight, you want a lesbian.
Maybe.
(46:10):
Because they will they will takethem out.
So I look, I think uh let uslesbians and gays get along.
I'm not saying we don't.
I'm just saying, like, I justdon't think that they would
really appreciate a bunch ofgays like infiltrating their bar
all the time.
Sure.
That's just my take.
Sure.
Okay.
Well On that note, we have 20minutes left of our drive.
(46:33):
And we will think of anothertopic to talk about.
We will update you.
Well, curious to have an episodeof Coffee with Gays on the Road
slash co-sponsored by RidingReed.
What's it?
Is it riding with Reed Betweenthe Lines?
I have not been between thelines at all whatsoever.
No.
Why didn't we call it ridingwith read?
(46:54):
Roller Reed's roller coaster.
I think riding ride is better.
Oh my god.
Nobody rides read lately.
Well, I don't know.
We ride coconut oil.
I'm gonna keep my mouth.
I think we need to rebrand it toriding reed.
I got it.
Or read rides.
Reed rides.
Yes, read ride.
Why didn't we do that?
What do we do?
(47:14):
Read speaking the lines.
Read rides.
That's cool.
Clearly, we're not great withthe the marketing.
And this is a much better likestudio view than what you did
before.
I think people will beinterested in this.
Oh, okay.
Yeah, I like that.
Much better.
Drive around Dallas, look forthe right backdrop to my
(47:35):
recording.
Yeah.
Okay.
Well, cheers.
Thank you for another episode ofCoffee with Kays.
Um Cheers.
We'll call this one uh playinggets uh steamrolled by people.
But until I can say bye.
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