The key to managing all of our expectations (of the president, of our spouse, of our boss, etc.) is understanding the reality and accuracy OF our expectations. We cannot expect to have a Hallmark marriage or a textbook boss if it is impossible for those people to actually function in those contexts. Meaning, if our expectation of a spouse cannot be realistically achieved, guess what? We're going to bounce from relationship to relat... Read more
Really, where is the love in today's world? We're not talking about the kind of empty pleading like 'can't we all just get along', but more about genuine compassion and empathy needed to truly make this world a better place. From the 'wall' and the government shutdown, to the tripe that is Facebook, do we really CARE about our fellow humans or are we pressing our own agenda? Today, Jack helps us to figure that out.
We hope you have a wonderful time with friends and family and take time to brighten someone's day. May you have a blessed holiday.
Taking a small divergence from the usual mind things, Jack gives some great sports commentary flying around the pros and college. And to top it all off, he helps us to understand the link between leadership in sports and our favorite word, say it with us...being HEROIC!
'Tis the season to be nice to one another. Really we should be nice to everyone all the time, but just like eating an elephant one bite at a time, be nice to one person for just one day and see what kind of a difference that makes. We all want people to be nice to us, but are we taking time to be nice to others? Not much more we can say here. Have fun with it and see who you can make smile!
Taking the time to objectively and sincerely reflect through our life experiences is one of the greatest actions we can take when we truly desire personal growth. Much like ripping off a Band-Aid, asking the tough questions about our failures can be very painful. It takes fortitude, confidence, self-esteem, and most importantly, a desire to change. Change is not bad. It is uncertain. It is scary. But, it is inevitable. If we learn ... Read more
How do we coach others to become their best? How much responsibility lies with the coach and how much lies with the player? It can be argued where the differences are and that argument is for another day, but it is important to understand the influence and impact that coaches, leaders, managers, supervisors, etc., etc., etc. When that influence (and RESPONSIBILITY, hint, hint, HEROIC) is understood, respected, and appreciated, the ... Read more
We like to throw the phrase around, 'forgive and forget' but do we really? Is it even possible? We think what is really being said is, 'don't bring it back up until you can use it against the person or situation that caused it,' right? Well, as you've heard us say over and over, it is all about the journey. Our lives are the culmination of all every wrong-doing, back-stabbing, double-crossing, two-faced, blessing, and favor we ever... Read more
What is your answer if someone asks you, 'What makes you different?' Do you give the business answer and rattle off your accomplishments and accolades? Do you give the self-serving answer and talk about all of your 'charitable' giving? What if the answer lies in the sum of all these experiences? This really is a powerful question and one that bears much introspection. Spend time thinking about what makes 'you' YOU. YOU might just b... Read more
Today, Jack takes us through the most important life lessons as he delves into what makes the world go round. In a throwback to our inaugural episode, Jack helps dispel some of the mystery that surrounds anxiety and argument at the Thanksgiving dinner table. Why are they such stressful times? It is just dinner!? It is the same thing we do EVERY SINGLE day! You would think this would be fairly simple to figure out, but there is more... Read more
Today we talk about the MASSIVE amount of money Mark Zuckerberg lost in this last year ($20 BILLION!!!), but we actually have a point with this. Mostly in his response to his employees, we see his true leadership come out and how it is so recognizable in so many leaders. What we do see are 'anti-qualities.' By this, we mean we see these qualities that appear to be important, necessary, and fundamental to great leaders, but the trut... Read more
Why do managers, supervisors, executives, moms, dads, and coaches all seem to command attention more than siblings, co-workers, and teammates? It's because of that little title behind their name. Does that make them better human beings? Not in the least. What about the fact that your CEO probably gave more money away in a month than you made in a year? Does that make her/him better? Absolutely not! It all comes down to the human ca... Read more
How does #embracethesuck and #embracetheadventure connect? Listen up coconuts, as Dr. Seuss would say, “Oh, the places you’ll go” with the help of someone else and not alone. What if connecting with others meant that his or her success was dependent on our investing in them? What would that look like if we all believed that it did it? We plan for tomorrow but live today to create our masterpiece. Is our masterpiece for fame and for... Read more
As we move through HEROIC, we encounter Openness next on our journey. Openness is what guides us to new experiences and provides the means to learn. As Maddy and I discuss the heated topic of the qualification marching band as a sport, we weave HEROIC throughout to show ample opportunity for growth and learning. When we learn to see ourselves and our interactions through these six behavioral aptitudes, we begin to notice not only t... Read more
Being fake (or superficial as we like to say) isn't always as simple as it seems. We have the potential (and most likely are) to be fake on a daily basis. When we justify our behaviors with illogical reasoning (i.e. 'I'm the best', 'You're stupid', 'Because I want it', etc., etc., etc.) we can probably be sure superficiality has set in, right? How do we combat this? Well, take a wild guess...HEROIC, right? We counter superficiality... Read more
Just when you thought Halloween was over, Jack shows us how we might be living out every day behaviors as if it were Halloween. It is election day so responsibility is right in the middle of the maelstrom. Being responsible has so many different facets that we could spend the rest of the year just talking about them, but it is important to understand its basic, fundamental meaning and application. Being responsible has humility rig... Read more
When did we become so oversensitive to every little thing? I am probably upsetting someone by saying they are oversensitive. It is almost like there is a massive vacuum of self-esteem (or explosion of greed, take your pick) in this country. All we want to do is complain about not being given enough and at the same complain that we were somehow offended in the process! Much like the debate surrounding Georgia governor nominee, Stace... Read more
It’s Halloween coconuts and I hope y'all have a safe evening trick or treating with you kids. Be sure to grab an umbrella because it is supposed to be rainy, but what is Halloween without 40 mph winds and rain - the ghouls and witches love it. Jack’s Halloween special opens up with some controversy surrounding WIBC’s Tony Katz, and then takes off on a broom to Bristol, England. You just can’t make up stories like these on today’s p... Read more
All too often we like to throw around the phrase, 'walk a mile in their shoes' but do we ever stop to realize what a powerful and challenging statement it is. We think it, much like 'empathy' and 'leadership' has been used so much it has lost its effect. Daniel Pink said it perfectly (as we've been telling you!), 'Empathy is about standing in someone else's shoes, feeling with his or her heart, seeing with his or her eyes.' That ca... Read more
Coming to you (kinda live) from the Garden State of New Jersey, today's episode is keepin' it real for the coconuts. Not really, but you try writing show notes for 70 episodes and we'll see how original YOU are! See what we did there? We just made you feel attacked and slightly belittled. See what else we did there? Put feelings into your head unnecessarily. One more thing: DON'T THINK ABOUT A PINK POLAR BEAR SITTING ON A BABY GRAN... Read more