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A SWAT officer in one of America’s most dangerous cities retires at 28, then spends the next 18 years teaching the mindset mechanics that got him there. That’s the story “Neo” brings to our chat, and we dig into what “thoughts become things” looks like when you strip away the hype and treat it like a daily practice you can train. If you’re a dentist who feels stuck, stressed, or quietly burned out, this conversation is built to give you language and tools that you can actually use between patients, on the commute home, or when your brain will not switch off.
We talk about money mindset and financial freedom, but we keep coming back to something deeper: attention. Neil breaks down why most of our 65,000 daily thoughts run on autopilot, how the ego fights new goals by dragging you back to “reality”, and why meditation is less about being mystical and more about learning to hold a calm inner state on demand. We explore affirmations that work because your nervous system believes them, the “knot” feeling that tells you when a phrase is backfiring, and a powerful reframe: ask better questions so your subconscious starts searching for solutions instead of your ego shouting you down.
Neil also shares the “watcher” and compound visualisation techniques that helped him make bold changes fast, plus a simple habit he calls “waking up” throughout the day to interrupt the rat race and reset your mind.
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Dr James (01:43):
Super excited to be presenting this podcast today.
A little bit different.
We're talking about moneymindset and how my next guest
retired from the 9 to 5 at 28.
We have Mr.
Neo from Neopositivity.com, theofficial voice of the Thoughts
Become Things movement.
Neil speaks to dentistsspecifically and helps them
(02:03):
understand how much more thereis to Light and Dentistry, what
are the things that they can do?
Whether they like dentistry orthey don't don't like dentistry,
it's good to know what else isout there and broaden our
horizons.
Neil has a really interestingstory, lots of takeaways.
Looking forward to getting intoit on today's podcast.
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Everybody's just heard my introabout Mr.
Neo, and I'm gonna do what I'mvery bad at today, which is do
(03:07):
less talking rather than more,because this podcast is about
yourself, Neo, and how we canrelate the lessons that you've
learned, particularly from yourwalking away from the nine to
five at the age that you did,how people can translate them to
their own lives, and why youbelieve this is especially
important of it's an especiallyimportant message for dentists
specifically.
We're gonna be getting into allof that today, all of that good
(03:30):
stuff.
Neil, maybe a good place tobegin is with a little bit of an
introduction from yourself tothe audience.
Neo (03:36):
Yes, yes.
Thank you, Dr.
J.
Can I call you Dr.
J?
Dr James (03:39):
Yeah, sure.
I've been calling voices.
Neo (03:42):
No, that's a he's a legend out here, and you're a legend.
Um, thank you for the intro.
And uh hello everyone andwelcome.
I'm Neil fromNeoPositivity.com.
Voice of the thoughts becomethings movement.
And just to sum it up for you,uh as quickly as I can before we
dive in, uh, you know, Ilearned about this phrase,
thoughts become things.
(04:03):
Uh, when I was 28 years old, Iwas a police officer on a SWAT
team in the most dangerous cityin America.
And when I learned this phrase,I got obsessed with it, how to
use it, how to manifest.
And uh eight months later, Iwas retired and I sat on a
journey to tell everyone exactlyhow I did it.
(04:24):
You know, so interviewingpeople that know about this
stuff, learning more from them,and then sharing it on stages.
I've been doing that ever sincefor the last 18 years.
I'm obsessed with it, changinglives.
And uh, I was brought into thedental world because of the high
suicide and depression rate,you know, specifically to uh
change the industry.
(04:44):
They were number one inAmerica, high suicide depression
rate for 18 years in a row.
And they brought me inspecifically to combat that.
And in the last four years,we've gotten down to number
four.
So something's working.
So in a nutshell, you know,that's that's where we're at
with it.
Dr James (05:01):
Nice.
And all of that good stuff onthe Dice Podcast, the best of
the best of those lessons whichare really valuable to people.
And you know what?
We should just set the scene.
Um, when we share this stuff,we're we're sharing it from the
point of view of emphasizing thepositive side of it.
Like what takeaways can wehave?
Because there'll be people outthere who just flippin' love
their life, right?
Or or people who think it'sreally great, but they're
(05:23):
looking for these little bits oftid, you know, tidbits of
information to take their lifeto the next level.
We're definitely not saying onepath is superior over the
other.
You know what?
If you love dentistry andyou're working nine to five and
you're living your best life, ina way you kind of are retired,
right?
You're having fun, you know,it's it's so unique to you.
And I just wanted to say thatto set the scene.
We share this stuff from aplace of inspiration, and that's
(05:46):
about it.
Neo, when us Brits hear aboutthe SWOT agents, we think to
ourselves, right, this is what Idon't know how it is in
America.
Maybe you can just set therecord straight, okay?
But basically, when we when wewatch movies and the SWAT agents
get called in, we're like, ohshit, shit's about to get the
fan.
We're sitting up, shit's aboutto hit the fan.
We're sitting up on our seat,and we're like, right, okay,
(06:08):
this is the this is the actionpart of the movie.
So I'm actually reallyinterested to start a roundabout
there.
How did you get into that?
Neo (06:17):
Well, let me have you ever heard of uh a Warhammer?
Dr James (06:20):
Yes, the the little figurines and you paint them,
right?
Neo (06:23):
Yeah, is that big at all over there?
Dr James (06:25):
It's it's actually a UK company, interestingly.
Okay, yeah, so it's it'sactually on the uh a little bit
of an investing reference here.
It's on the aim market, thealternative investments market.
So it's like if you're notquite big enough to make the
FTSE 500, I think you go on thisAIM uh public uh stock
exchange, effectively.
So yeah, it's a UK company, sothere we go.
Neo (06:46):
Nice.
Well, you know when those guysshow up, how all the rest of the
soldiers are looking.
Dr James (06:52):
What is it?
The um oh yeah, we will notwe've got to be careful to not
go down too far this rabbithole, right?
Because a lot of people mightnot have heard of Warhammer, but
it's like what are the what dothey call the guys, the the
Space Marines, right?
Neo (07:04):
Yeah, there it is.
That's you know, when all thenormal cops are there and SWAT
team shows up, it's like themovies, they're like the
celebrities of the policedepartment.
Yeah, so it's actually likerightfully so, because the
training and everything that wego through is rightfully so.
It's earned, and the thingsthat we have to do, you know,
(07:24):
going into houses full of smokeand gunmen, you know, normal
cops don't have to do that.
So a lot of respect, yeah.
Dr James (07:33):
Wow, and what drew you to that path?
Because you went on a bit of ajourney, right?
You obviously that was theobjective, the goal for you at
one point.
That was like, wow, this iswhere I really want to go.
And then you had a bit of anawakening, right?
Neo (07:46):
You know what?
I say like this.
I always wanted to play in theNFL, I wanted to be a football
star.
And while pursuing that, Iended up having my daughter and
my my dad, who was a sergeant inthat same police department.
You know, he was just like, youneed medical benefits.
So take the police test.
I took it, I scored high, andthat's where I ended up at.
(08:09):
And, you know, while I was acop, you know, I wanted to be
undercover, I wanted to be SWAT,I wanted to be, you know, bike
patrol, I wanted to do all thosefun things.
So yeah, just following what Ilove to do, you know.
Karate was huge in my lifegrowing up and football, you
know, obviously was huge, andbeing a police officer involves
chasing people and fighting.
(08:30):
That's karate in football.
So that's how that ended upthere.
Dr James (08:34):
Sure.
Because we have over here, Idon't I'm not an expert on this
stuff, right?
But in America, there's a a lotmore of a gun culture, right?
What is it, the FifthAmendment, isn't it?
The right to bear arms.
Over here, not so much.
So there's not really it's notreally as common that that
there's you know, there's thesesort of agents required.
Uh so they don't get nearly thesame publicity, but SWAT is
(08:57):
like everywhere in the movies.
So it's crazy that it isactually like that in real life.
So you were you were followingyour heart, in effect, and then
I guess a question to ask isjust before we move on, was the
when you made it, when you gotto where you wanted to go, which
was to become a SWAT agent, howdid the reality compare to how
you imagined it to bebeforehand?
(09:18):
Was it that?
Was it different?
Did you become disillusioned?
Neo (09:23):
It everything was just so much more real.
I was um I was on achampionship paintballing team
before that, and so the tacticalwarfare part of it I was
already good at, but when yougot real bullets in the game,
that changes everythingmentally, blood pressure, tunnel
(09:46):
vision, that changeseverything.
So it's just a lot more faster,and you know, you just got to
be trained to use muscle memorybecause you can't think in those
moments.
It's like flying a helicopter.
Uh, I'm a pilot as well.
When you fly an airplane, youyou know, use gauges and you
fly.
When you fly a helicopter, youcan't think.
Your hand is moving off of justreactions.
(10:08):
If you try to think, the plane,the helicopter's moving left,
go right, you're gonna crash.
You just have to use instinctscompletely when you're using the
uh the stick.
So it's kind of like that.
Dr James (10:19):
Okay, fine.
Yeah, right, crazy.
Okay, cool.
So we've talked about that partof the journey, and then you
had an awakening, as I as I wassaying a second ago, and that's
when you learned about theconcept of thoughts become
things, which is on yourt-shirt.
Neo (10:38):
Yes, every shirt I wear, my wristbands, everything uh says
thoughts become things on it.
Um, my old partner in thepolice department was a retired
CIA agent, and he's telling meabout he knows I'm all about
psychology.
I've always been into thebrain.
I wanted to take psychologyclasses.
Um, and he tells me about thismovie that they make all the CIA
(11:00):
agents watch every year in theacademy.
Every year they have to watchthis one movie.
And I'm thinking it's like SWATteam, rapid deployment,
something like that.
But no, it's this movie calledThe Secret.
You familiar with The Secret?
Dr James (11:12):
I've heard of it, never watched it.
Neo (11:16):
Well, if you're gonna get into it, just skip the movie
because it's although it's agood movie, it's a bit
redundant.
They basically say thoughtsbecome things over and over
again for 45 years.
Dr James (11:23):
Should we say spoiler alerts, right, Noy?
Or no?
Neo (11:26):
No, because they say thoughts become things over and
over again in the movie, theyexplain it 50 different ways,
but it's just it's it's more ofa documentary.
Sure.
Um, uh, I'll put it to you likethis: Oprah describes the
secret as a cherry on top of acake.
I describe the secret as acherry on top of a multi-layered
cake with sprinkles and jimmiesand MMs and all the fixings.
(11:48):
So you need to know all theother things as well.
And that's what I did.
I compiled everything togetherto become what was
neo-positivity.
It started off as a philosophyand became a stage name.
So that's what I got from themovie.
Thoughts become things, and uh,I just got obsessed with the
concept.
You know, my partner told meabout it.
I saw the movie, it made somuch sense.
(12:11):
It connected all these piecesin my brain as to why I did what
I did and in my whole life andwhy things played out the way
they played out.
So for me, you know, a lot ofpeople hear a concept and they
might resist it.
And some people gravitatetowards it.
I immediately gravitatedtowards it because it made sense
to me.
And then I wanted to know more.
(12:31):
I went straight to YouTube.
That's where I saw, you know,uh the Oprah video.
She said there's a book thatshe sleeps with on her
nightstand that she highlightedso many lines in the first
chapter that she just stoppedhighlighting.
That book is called The Powerof Now by Eckhart Tolley.
So I went and got that book,and then I just let the universe
take me on a journey, gettingme new, more and better
(12:52):
information that I could use tostart shifting my mind and all
this other stuff.
And, you know, I guess we'llget into the all the meat and
grits of that later.
But yeah, that was the start ofmy journey, you know, and I
started manifesting things, itstarted working and it started
working on demand.
And I said to myself, whoa,this thing, if it really works
the way it's working, then Ishould use it to retire.
(13:14):
Like I want to retire and dosomething else.
You know, I knew I was meant tohelp people on this earth, but
I knew I was meant to help morethan just the citizens of Camden
City.
You know, I was doing great asa police officer, but I wanted
to affect the world.
And in order to do that, Icouldn't be chasing bad guys for
40 hours or 40, 50 hours a weekin this little city in New
(13:36):
Jersey.
And so that's what I did.
I set on a path to retire, andeight months later, I was done.
I was able to do that, andthat's exactly what I did after
that.
I've dedicated my whole life tospreading this information and
learning more about it.
Dr James (13:52):
I love that, man.
And you know what?
Something clicked, right?
Because literally eight monthslater, you got to where you did,
which is amazing.
So I'm looking forward tolearning more about that journey
as this podcast continues.
And I mean, yeah, in a weirdway, I I uh the listeners in
(14:15):
this podcast may or may not knowthat I left clinical dentistry
when I was at 29, and the reasonthat happened was uh a lot of
it was manifesting, man, youknow, like a lot of it was like
I just know I'm just gonna buildsomething and I I can see the
vision, and there's literallytwo realities right now.
I'll either die trying, right?
(14:36):
I literally, I literally dietrying, okay, or this will
happen, right?
And when you bring that energy,you know what?
You can't you can't lose, likeyou physically can't lose
because you're not gonna quit.
You only quit, you only losewhen you when you give up, you
know, and um that that kind ofperiod of time.
It was about you know what itwas about like maybe I started
(14:56):
Dennis Who Invest and then Iwent back to clinical dentistry
for a while, and then ninemonths later it I actually went
full time on on Dentist WhoInvest, and yeah, man, I just
would never have believed thatwas possible.
And it's it's weird these kindof curveballs and things that
can come up for you.
And I'm not saying that's theright thing for everybody, but I
am saying I actually reallyliked dentistry.
(15:18):
Uh I just guessed that otherthings came up.
Let's just say that.
And I I was I was reallyenjoying the journey of
Dentistry Invest, and I justthought, you know what, let me
try this for six months andlet's see how it goes.
And here I am, four yearslater, still having fun, still
growing.
Uh anyway, I don't want tosteal the limelight.
You know, I'm just I'm justwhat I'm trying to say is the
(15:39):
story resonates with me, man,because a lot of it was
manifestation.
You have to believe in yourselfuh before anybody else does,
right?
Like you have to set you you'realmost setting that boundary.
It's like, no, I take myselfseriously, and then you keep
pushing until everybody elsedoes, because they never will,
it'll never happen the other wayaround, if you ask me.
So it's it's partly that.
(16:00):
But anyway, man, um I'm reallyinterested to get into more of
your story.
What happened in those eightmonths?
Neo (16:10):
It was it was to key off of what you just said, real quick,
which will segue great intothis.
In those eight months, I had tolearn how to use thought to
become things.
And one of the biggeststruggles was when I sat back
and tried to close my eyes andand meditate or just sit in the
headspace, two or three secondswould go by of stillness, and
(16:33):
then my mind would say, I needto get milk on the way home.
Or did I take out the dog?
It's that's it's it's humans,and it was so frustrating for
me.
I'm like, why won't my brainjust allow me to sit in these
head spaces and visualize?
Because they say we're tuningforks, we vibrate at a specific
(16:54):
frequency, and that's accordingto what we're feeling and what
we're thinking.
And any two things that vibrateat the same frequency will
naturally pull towards eachother.
So you and a certain outcome,good or bad, stressful or great,
when you're thinking about it,you're pulling it towards you.
And so if I can't sit in thesegreat head spaces because my
mind is wandering everywhere,then I'm not going to be able to
(17:15):
pull it towards me long enoughtill it's actually a part of my
reality.
So that became my main area offocus.
That was it.
We as humans, we have 65,000thoughts on average per day per
person, right?
And as a tuning fork, 94 pluspercent of those 65,000 thoughts
are on autopilot.
Our brain is just throwing atus what it's used to throwing at
(17:38):
us, and that's what's creatingour future.
Thoughts become things, and soimmediately I said, Whoa, whoa,
whoa, whoa.
I don't want autopilot creatingmy future.
So I need to control that 94%of my thoughts.
I need to shift that.
And so that led me to all kindsof mental exercises that I had
to create because I can't, Ican't use the same mental
(18:00):
exercises as Oprah Winfrey.
For her to sit in the cornerand say, I'm rich, I'm rich, I'm
rich.
My ego, if I say I'm rich, I'mrich, my ego is gonna say, No,
you're not, no, you can't.
How dare you dream that big?
How many people with thepercentage of people that you
grew up with that made it?
You know, your egoic voicethat's always kicking your back
(18:20):
in when you're trying to dreamand not allowing you to stay in
these head spaces.
That voice really became mytarget focus.
I needed to weigh, I neededways to be able to sit in a
great scenario that's notcurrently happening yet, you
know, a scenario where I'mretired, a scenario with that
promotion, whatever I wanted.
I needed to be able to sit inthat scenario without my ego
(18:41):
coming in and saying, that's notcurrently happening.
That's not, how dare you dreamthat big?
And that became the area offocus where I needed to really
knuckle down and see how totrick the ego into shutting up,
allowing me to stay in thatheadspace, vibrate at that
frequency, and pull it towardsme.
So that was just a journey.
I always call myself aprofessional tryer because
(19:03):
that's what I'm doing.
I just try, try differentthings in my mind, try, try,
try.
I feel tested, friends andfamily, old, short, tall, young,
fat, skinny, no matter whatreligion, I feel tested with
everybody I can.
And when it works, I release itto Facebook.
And so, to you, to what youwere saying earlier, all of
these mental exercises that Icame up with, a lot of them I
(19:27):
would see in other books, andI'm like, okay, that's cool.
That means I'm on the rightpage.
But most of them I came up withthem on my own.
But no matter how many mentalexercises that I might give
somebody, none of them will workif you don't believe in your
ability to manifest.
Is what you were sayingearlier.
You had the confidence inyourself that you were either
(19:49):
going to do this or die trying.
And you had the confidence thatit was going to work.
You didn't know how, but youhad confidence in your ability
to manifest.
When I was trying to, I justcame up with a book, 18 years of
research, over 2,000 livestream interviews, and over 200
podcasts of me interviewingpeople who have used these
techniques.
I'd put that all into thisbook, and I couldn't couldn't
(20:12):
think of a name.
I'm like, man, what do I meanthis book?
What do I name this book?
I ended up naming it your ATM.
And ATM stands for ability tomanifest.
And I like when you think of anATM machine, you know.
Um, do you guys call it ATMmachine?
Dr James (20:26):
Where we do, we do, or we just say we say crash point,
but we we know what an ATM is.
Neo (20:32):
Okay.
Okay, yeah, no, because I saidthat to somebody from Missouri
and they were like, What?
Like they never used that termbefore.
So anyway, uh, I'm thinking ofthe ATM machine, you put
something in it, your card, andthen you get something out of
it.
And that's how the universeworks.
You put your thoughts and youremotions into the universe, and
then it gives that back to you.
(20:53):
And so I like the ATM referenceas far as the machine and then
your ability to manifest,because that is the strongest
point.
I can give you all the tools, Ican give you every mental
exercise, I can give youeverything I've learned over the
last 18 years.
But if you don't believe thatyou have the power to create
your future the way you want itto, it's not gonna do no good.
(21:14):
Not gonna do any good.
So, yeah, that was that was myjourney.
The next eight months wasintense mental exercises, field
testing, seeing what worked toget me this and what didn't work
to get me that and what feltgood when I said it, changing my
affirmations because one wordmade me feel different.
Talk about this thing in the inyour chest.
(21:36):
I call it the knot.
If you're to lie to yourself orsay something bad, uh you'll
feel it go down, right?
And it kind of likegut-wrenching, you know.
If you're if you were to andgive me an example, if you were
to say, I'm a billionaire,you're gonna feel something go
down a little bit.
It's because you lied toyourself.
But if you're to smile orlaugh, you feel it go up.
(21:58):
Pay attention to that knot.
So if you're gonna do anaffirmation like I'm rich, you
feel the knot go down, it's nota good thing.
You shouldn't use thataffirmation because your ego's
coming and saying, No, you'renot, no, you can't, no, you
don't.
Your ego's showing you yourbank statement, proving to you
that you're not rich.
So you got to pay attention tothat knot.
If you were to say somethinglike, I love money, that knot
might go up a little bit.
(22:19):
It's not gonna go down, mightstay still, might go up, but
guess what?
That's what you want.
You want affirmations that makethat not go down.
Because we do love money.
It's what feeds our kids, it'swhat put gas in our car so we
can go to where we we need to goto.
So it's all about the verbiagewith these affirmations.
And this is the type of thingsthat I was working on over those
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next eight months and beentrying to perfect as good as I
can over the last 18 years, youknow, while sharing and learning
and you know, interviewingpeople along the way.
Dr James (22:52):
You know, I'm just gonna offer two quick
reflections and then I wannahear what happens next.
There's a book by I think it'sJohn Maxwell, uh, and it's
called Psycho Cybernetics.
Have you read it?
Neo (23:07):
No, but I'm familiar with Maxwell.
Dr James (23:10):
Yeah, I think it's I think it's Maxwell.
Maxwell, no, sorry, I messed itup.
His name is Maxwell Holtz, Ithink it is.
Sorry.
John Maxwell is somebody else.
But there's a quote in thatbook, okay, and he's like, Your
mind, your subconscious mind isa heat seeking missile, right?
It just finds the thing thatyou tell it to, and that can be
(23:31):
happiness, but it can also besadness, it can be anger, it can
be also joy, right?
And it's it'll always find waysto prove itself right.
So, in a weird way, if you wantto achieve your Goal, you have
to convince your subconsciousmind that it's real, first of
all, because then it will findways to prove itself correct in
your world, which sounds reallywoo-woo, but it's a hundred
(23:53):
percent a thing.
It's a hundred percent a thing.
Because otherwise, if you don'tdo that, if you're trying to do
something and you fail, whichyou inevitably do, depends how
you term fail.
Let's say you suffer a setback,right?
That's not really failure, it'sjust a setback.
Your brain, your subconsciousbrain is like, Told you you
could never do that in the firstplace, right?
And you're that much morelikely to just quit.
That's the first thing.
(24:15):
I know the second thing isthis, and I know this this may
be a teeny bit controversial.
I'm gonna say it anyway.
I know not everyone is an ElonMusk fan.
That's fine, that's completelyokay.
Let's put that aside.
The one thing the guy does do,or the one thing the guy has is
a crazy level of self-belief,right?
But we can't take that awayfrom him, that's for sure.
And there's this one video, andit's when he's he's being
(24:36):
interviewed, right?
And he gets really emotional,and it actually gets me a little
bit, this interview.
And the interview says to him,it's like, Hey, when you had
that third rocket failure, didyou think about giving up?
And you can see the tears inhis eyes, man, when he's
replying to the to theinterviewer, and he's like, I
don't ever give up.
And it's the way that he said,he's like, I don't ever give up,
(24:57):
like that, right?
And it's the emotion, I'm notdoing it justice, right?
It's the emotion in his voice,and you just tell you can just
tell he believes in himself somuch, man.
You know, even though he'strying to do this completely
crazy thing, like trying to heliterally trying to put this the
first private rocket ship inorbit that no one has ever done
before, and um to you can justtell that he doesn't care if
(25:19):
he's a laughs and stalk, heliterally does not give it one
toss, he doesn't care whatanyone thinks about him.
He will either do that or he'lldie trying.
And I really like that clip,man.
I really like it, and I knownot everyone's an Elon fan, but
I do really love that clip.
Anyway, uh back to what youwere saying, I just wanted to
offer those reflections.
Neo (25:39):
No, it it it is a great it plays a huge role, your
confidence, and so many peoplelack that confidence, and it's
this pre-programming that wehave growing up, and a lot of
people will blame society andgovernments and all that other
stuff, and it does make sense,but you've been taught limits
(26:00):
since you were birth born.
When you were a baby, you couldonly scream so loud, you could
only reach so far.
Every single day of your life,you're taught these limits.
So, of course, you're gonnahave limiting thoughts.
Of course, you're it's gonna behard to see unlimited.
We've never seen unlimitedanything.
So we're tasked with being ableto see and live in these head
(26:24):
spaces for long periods of timeto attract these things towards
us for the reward of havingthem.
You know, they say controllingone's thoughts is the hardest
occupation a man can have,according to both science and
religion, right?
Hardest thing a person can dois control their thoughts.
And for a lot of people willsay, Oh, it's not hard.
I can think about anything Iwant.
(26:45):
Just think about the last timeyou had a grandparent who was in
the hospital, and you're tryingto stay positive, and the
hospital bed's beeping, and youdon't know if they're gonna make
it home this time becausethey've been in there a bunch of
times.
You're trying to stay positive,your brain keeps going back to
the what-ifs and all my that'sjust a perfect example of how
the mind works.
It's it's very hard to control,it's the hardest occupation
(27:07):
someone can do.
However, it yields the greatestreward in the spirit of
yin-yang evenness, it yields thegreatest reward, which is the
ability to create your future athousand percent.
But this is it's work, it's noteasy, it is a lifelong
practice.
It's not like a black beltwhere you get it, it's yours for
the rest of time.
(27:28):
No, no, no, this is somethingyou gotta work at.
It's like jogging.
You're a world-class jogger andyou take off for two months,
you're not gonna be aworld-class jogger anymore.
Dr James (27:35):
You might still be good, but this is like a muscle
practice.
Um I think a muscle is theperfect analogy, right?
Neo (27:42):
Yes, yes.
They say the brain, they don'tsay, but the brain is an organ,
but it acts like a muscle, andthat's what you're
reprogramming, your brain.
Those that 94 plus percent ofyour thoughts that's on
autopilot.
What I try to do is get peopleto reprogram that so they think
differently, they seedifferently, they act
differently, they make differentdecisions, and what happens
(28:03):
when you're making differentdecisions, different outcomes.
Now you're a different person,now you're retired at 28, 29,
pursuing something else.
I loved being a cop.
You love being a dentist.
However, here's the thing Ifelt like I was meant to serve a
larger group of people thanjust the 80,000 citizens of
(28:23):
Camden City, and so I went forthat.
You know, I always try to tellpeople, let's say you wanted to
be, let's say you're this typeof doctor, uh, a foot doctor,
right?
And you were meant to be agastro.
Now you can go on and be asuccessful foot doctor and have
three or four practices and livea very great life.
(28:46):
But once if you had pursuedwhat you were meant to do, which
is the gastro, it would havebeen far, far better.
Whatever that means, whatever10 practices, better marriage,
better life, I don't know.
But when you pursue your dream,what you're good at, what you
do naturally, great, that's whenyou end up in those spaces.
(29:07):
That's when you end up in greathead spaces, and everybody
around you is in a greatheadspace, living a better life,
living a better, fulfilledlife.
I was happy as a cop.
I was I was the man everywhereI went, you know, SWAT team.
I walked in the room, I waslike the president.
Um, and it and it felt good,you know, but I was putting my
life on a line every day.
My kids knew that, they sawthat.
(29:29):
The waves were sometimes at myface.
But when I started pursuingthis, the waves have been at my
back ever since, thrusting meinto the next room full of
people that wants to hear thismessage and is telling it to all
their friends and it'sspreading it, and that's how it
goes.
The waves are at my back now.
I'm out of the danger that Iwas in.
My kids are happier,everybody's just happier, and
(29:50):
that's what I that's what Ifeel.
So for everybody out there, youmight like this and be great at
that.
And I just want everybody totake a little deeper look inside
and ask yourself if I won $10billion, right?
After I paid off all myfamily's debts and bought
everybody houses and cars andtook care of their health bills,
(30:12):
and I took every vacation thatI could possibly take.
At the end of all that, you'regonna sit down on the sofa and
you're gonna be bored.
And you're gonna say, Okay, nowI have to do something.
You're not gonna care aboutmoney because you got billions,
but you're gonna have to start,you're gonna start some kind of
company, whatever it finds, thatis and pursue that.
In your downtime, while you'restill doing whatever you 40,
(30:34):
you're doing for 40 hours aweek, just put a little bit of
effort into pursuing that, andthem waves hit you at your back
and you start ending up in phonecalls in that direction, and be
open to where the universetakes you.
I never knew that this is wherethe universe was going to take
me.
And I'm here and I'm happierthan I could have ever been.
And you know, from talking toyou, it sounds like you're
(30:56):
experiencing the same thing.
You know, you you you're you'regrowing when you talk about
your newest ventures.
And I love that.
See, you start smiling.
For those who are listening tothe podcast, get on the video
and see them smile when I saythat.
And that's it's a differentlife when you're in that
headspace like all day.
It is a different life, adifferent world.
And I just want to geteverybody to that place.
Dr James (31:18):
Yeah, yeah, I fully agree.
And you know what?
My reflection on that is uhthat I never really intended to
build like 90% of the thingsthat I built, right?
I was in it, it almost soundsslightly whimsical, right?
But I was just doing the thingthat I thought made sense next,
but was also fun and that Ienjoyed.
(31:38):
And that sounds a bitwhimsical, but you can actually
get pretty far on that logicbecause I think a lot of people
they kind of they're they kindof feel paralyzed because
they're like, oh, but how do Iknow the next thing that I'm
gonna do is gonna be my passionor what I enjoy or what I love?
It's literally as simple asjust pick the thing at the top
(32:00):
of your fun list, potentially,that it doesn't even necessarily
have to make you money, right?
Just friggin' do it, right?
And it's as simple, it's it'salmost like it's as scientific
as that, really, from for me.
And then if it is your goal tomake money out of it, I mean
you'll probably figure that outalong the way, or maybe it
isn't.
That's fine too, but at leastyou're kind of enjoying yourself
(32:22):
at the same time.
And I think we should rememberthat.
I think life's very short, andwe need to remember that a lot.
Neo (32:30):
I think it's a huge level of blind faith.
You're just like, okay, I don'tknow if this is gonna work out,
but I'm gonna give it a shotanyway.
And so many people have beenlet down so many different times
in their life that they don'teven want to try something new
or try to make what they loveinto a profession.
But listen, step out and justgive it a shot.
What if you got to lose?
(32:52):
If you if you if you pursuethat and it doesn't work out,
you end up right where you areright now.
You've lost nothing.
But you can say that I tried.
And like I said, I'm aprofessional tryer, so I'm just
gonna keep trying things.
Dr James (33:06):
I think I think a big part of it is reframes, right?
It's like we, you know, it itdepends how someone frames
failure, right?
And there's there's a sayingthat I love, and it it the
saying is you either win or youlose.
You I sorry, you you either youeither win or you learn.
That's the saying.
So you're not really losing perse or feeling, right?
(33:27):
You're just learning.
You're like, okay, that didn'twork.
Fine, I learned.
And then when you remove thethe F-word in a way, the the
feel word, I guess, right?
You're just like, hey, I'mlearning.
And if you feel like it'stough, you're just learning real
hard, right?
Yeah, that's what I say.
And that sounds a bit silly,but I say that to myself all the
(33:49):
time.
You know, uh, is Jay-Z big outthere?
Oh, yeah, he's big.
He's big.
Neo (33:56):
He was one of my favorite artists um growing up, and um,
he said in this one song, hesays, For I will not lose.
He said, 'I will not lose foreven in defeat, there's a
valuable lesson learned, so thatevens it up for me.' And when
he said that, it just hit me sohard.
And I said, I will never loseagain.
You know, and and it and youknow, it's got to be said
(34:18):
different ways to differentpeople.
And it's the same thing withthese mental exercises.
There's no one path.
I can't get up here and giveyou a set of mental exercises
and a set of affirmations thatare going to work to get you
exactly what you want today.
These are so custom to eachperson because of what we've
been through, what we'velearned, and what our brains
(34:39):
allow us to believe.
And so diving into it is areally a self-study of who you
are and then implementation ofthese practices daily.
That's what it comes down to.
And at the end of the day, whenyou lay down in bed and you
say, How many mental exercisesdid I do today?
That is the same question ashow bad do I want it?
(35:03):
Because if you did three mentalexercises, you have 65,000
thoughts today, and three ofthose 65,000 thoughts were
positive affirmations.
What's the over-under on that?
Three versus 64,997.
Hmm, why didn't your lifechange today?
(35:24):
You know, so it's it's it's allabout that over-under and how
bad you want it.
That's why I try to challengepeople with this, but it is
possible.
There's no doubt.
I was I Camden City, where Iwas a cop, poorest and most
dangerous city in America, I wasborn there.
I grew up there.
There was nothing special aboutme from the person next to me,
(35:44):
outside of the fact that whenour guidance counselors and our
teachers told us that we werenever going to amount to
anything, I didn't believe them.
All my friends did.
I didn't believe them becausemy dad was a cop and he had he
had he loved watches.
He had these expensive Movadowatches.
They were a thousand dollars,and this is back in like you
(36:04):
know, '95.
So the thousand dollars was alot more back then than it is
now.
And he would have thesewatches, and it gave me hope
that I didn't have to end uplike everybody else in my school
whose parents and brothers andcousins were drug dealers, and
my dad is the one chasing them.
And so I didn't listen to theteachers who told me that.
(36:25):
And I'm so like my life wouldbe so, you know.
Point is everything changedwhen I learned this message.
I was just a normal dudefollowing his dad's footsteps,
joining the police departmentbecause I got my girlfriend
pregnant.
Learned this message eightmonths later.
I'm retired.
I have my own TV show, I havefive Super Bowl rings, I have my
(36:47):
own radio shows, changing wholeprofessions at a time all the
day that this came in.
So a lot of people consider ithippie talk.
My life is my resume, it is nothippie talk.
Dr James (37:03):
Boom.
My life is my resume.
Neo (37:06):
Mic drop.
Dr James (37:07):
Mic drop right there.
Neo (37:09):
I talk about interviewing so many people, just getting
this information, getting theirtips and secrets, and putting it
all in this book.
98% of those life coaches andnew thought thinkers that I
interviewed live terrible lives.
Their relationship with theirkids are terrible.
They don't talk to theirparents, they're broke, they
(37:32):
have another nine to five jobthat they hate, and they're life
coaching other people.
And I just, I just, I don't, Ijust don't, you know, this
doesn't add up to me.
You should be financiallystable and happy with good
relationships if you're usingthese principles right.
Now, I'm not saying they're notgood at what they do, because
(37:53):
often people aren't good attaking their own advice.
That's very, very common.
So I get it, but at the end ofthe day, I want to be able to
say my life is my resume, and Ican lean on that, I can stand on
that, you know, and I live bythat.
I I wouldn't be happy as happyas I am if it wasn't, you know.
Dr James (38:15):
I used to be really skeptical of this stuff, and
then yeah, as I say, I Iembraced a lot of it as well,
and things changed, you know,they're not going to change
overnight, right?
But it's that it's that sparkthat starts the fire, isn't it?
And you know what I'd love todo, you know, over that for the
for the benefit from my owncuriosity and also for the
benefit of the audience.
If we zoom in on that eightmonths between initial inception
(38:38):
of this concept, and then youleaving uh and inverted commas
retiring, right?
And the reason I sayinverticomas is it's like it's
not like you sealed off in thesunset and went to a beach,
right?
You you started to enjoyyourself, right?
And that is a version ofretirement.
That's basically whatretirement is.
You know, I read a really greatbook once, and it was ah,
(38:59):
that's gonna annoy the hell outof me.
I can't remember what thebook's called, but uh, what did
stick with me was how he definedretirement, and how he defined
retirement was the day that youstop exchanging present
unhappiness for the futurepromise of being happy.
Okay, bit to unpack there,right?
Neo (39:23):
I'm gonna have to unpack that one.
I like it.
Dr James (39:25):
Right, and I know there's there's at least two or
three things to unpack there.
I'll I'll cover it super quickbecause I think you'll like it,
and the audience.
Maybe, maybe some I think I'vesaid this on a podcast before,
there might be some peoplerolling their eyes out there,
but you know what?
It's so it's so useful.
I'm gonna I'm gonna cover itagain.
The the day is in right here,right now, okay, or whenever
this happens, that you stopexchanging present unhappiness,
(39:46):
that you sacrifice happiness tosome level versus your 10 out of
10 version of being happy,right?
There's some sacrifice ofhappiness going on there, yeah.
The day that you stop doingthat in exchange for the future
promise, because it is apromise, you don't know if
you're gonna be happy when itactually you actually get there,
(40:08):
right?
You have no idea, it's just apromise, and like all promises,
with the best intentions, theydon't always happen, yeah.
The future promise of beinghappy, as in that you'll reach a
finish line and then be happy.
It's where you just do it inthe here and now, however that
looks.
And that's actually not a moneything.
Think about that.
That's not a money thing, man.
(40:28):
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Neo (42:23):
Definitely.
He started like started the rapgame.
Uh, I read this book seekingfinancial advice, and it didn't
talk about finances at all.
So yeah, and I I love that.
(42:46):
I'd love to memorize that andbe able to say it because it
means it doesn't make sense nowthat I explained it, right?
Dr James (42:53):
You get it.
Neo (42:53):
Yeah, big time, big time.
I wish I had heard that yearsago.
I always define retirement, youknow, as being able to because
it just simply just being ableto not have to work anymore,
ever.
You know, that's in and that'sand that was my goal, you know,
(43:13):
so that everything I did afterthat would be like on my time,
and I could take six months offif I wanted to.
And you know, and so that wasthat was my big thing.
But to uh to to to give you abreakdown, after I saw it was uh
March 11th, 200 uh eight.
I saw the secret.
My my partner told me about it.
(43:35):
I went and picked it up fromBarnes and Noble, um blew my
mind, and I tried to sit downand think.
Like they said, I tried tovisualize and then these random
thoughts would come into myhead.
I gotta walk the dog.
Uh a car drives by, and I thesound of the car just they're
playing music, and it's a songthat I like.
(43:56):
Whatever, all theseinterruptions.
And I didn't like that I wasn'table to sit peacefully in a
scenario and vibrate at thatfrequency until that toy,
because I was going for toys atthe time, uh specifically remote
control airplanes, because I'mI'm I'm really into remote
control airplanes, um, and hellcopy anything that applies, I'm
(44:16):
I'm obsessed with.
And so I I said I have to learnhow to meditate.
That was my thing.
I needed to learn how tomeditate.
And that's a the that that wordis a lot of people hear that
word and they run for the hills.
But if you want to be able toquiet your mind, you have to
practice quiet in your mind.
Just simply put, you have topractice quiet in your mind if
(44:39):
you want to be able to do it ondemand.
And so for the next 16 days, itwas mental torture trying to
learn how to meditate.
I'll never forget it wasexactly 16 days.
And then I thought back to themovie The Secret.
They said there's a littlehack, and they said, I'm so
happy and thankful for dot dotdot, fill in the rest with
(45:00):
whatever you want.
And I said to myself, I wentback, I went back and watched
the movie again.
And that's where I said, youknow what, let me key in on
that.
And so I started saying, I'm sohappy and thankful that I enjoy
meditating.
I'm so happy and thankful thatmeditating is working.
I'm so happy and thankful thatmeditating is one of my favorite
things, even though it wasn't.
I was saying these things, Iwas reprogramming my mind.
(45:23):
And then I would find I wasable to sit in these head
spaces, this peaceful, blank, nothought.
Because for me, meditation,some people have guided
meditation where there's someonetelling you, you're walking
through a forest and the treesare I call that guided
meditation.
To me, true meditation isabsence of thought.
Nothing.
(45:43):
You're just focusing on yourbreathing, just complete absence
of thought.
And it's hard to do that foreven a couple of seconds.
But the more I did it and themore I did that affirmation, I'm
so happy and thankful for, Iwas able to spend more time.
It went from three seconds tofour seconds to five seconds
that I can sit in an emptyheadspace with no thoughts, up
(46:05):
to 30 seconds where I could sit.
And I was like, wow.
And then I started to like it.
Because after that 30 secondsor 15 seconds of pure no-thought
just being, I would be able torun a scenario like me owning my
own airplane, me retiring, medoing this, me doing that.
(46:26):
I was able to sit in thosescenarios.
So I'll give you an example.
My friend, my best friend, Itried to tell her to envision
going on a cruise with unlimitedmoney.
You can spend as much money asyou want, that you won a prize,
go on this cruise to whereveryou get off the boat, you can
(46:48):
spend as many, as much money asyou want.
She won't even run thisscenario with me.
She feels uncomfortable.
And a lot of people do becausethey feel like it's a waste of
time for one.
And when they come back toreality, they're disappointed
because that's not the reality.
Because of the limiting beliefsand the pre-programming.
And that's what I'm talkingabout.
Being able to sit in thesescenarios for an extended period
(47:10):
of time and vibrate at thatfrequency for an extended period
of time, you need to be able todo that.
And so meditation became a bigpart of my life.
And that's when I would justtry different things.
Once I was able to sit in thosehead spaces, now I can run
scenarios, which is what I callproactive manifesting.
If your thoughts are becomingthings, and a lot of them are on
(47:30):
autopilot, well, the onesyou're proactively projecting,
you're choosing which thoughtsto think about.
I call that proactivemanifesting.
And then that's that's when itgot into all the affirmations.
Um the ego was a big partbecause when you think something
good that hasn't happened yet,the ego says, You're lying,
that's not happening.
(47:51):
I needed to figure out why thatwas happening, and that was
huge.
Why does the ego keep kickingmy back in every single time I
try to think of something great?
The Power of Now by EckhartTolle.
Basically, in a nutshell, theego wants you in this moment.
The ego wants you in thismoment at all times.
(48:12):
It doesn't acknowledge thefuture of the past.
You and I, we've never tasted,touch it, touched, or seen
anything in our future.
Have you?
Think about it.
And in your past, you can't goback and relive something from
your past.
If you did, it would be doingit the second time, not the
first time.
So the ego doesn't acknowledgethe future of the past because
(48:34):
they literally don't exist.
Everything we've ever done,everything you've ever done, you
will do in this seeminglyrecurring current moment.
And that's what I learned fromThe Power of Now by Eckhart's
Holy.
We everything is this moment.
Like right now, me and you aretalking in this moment right
now.
Okay, when I just said that,that's the past, right?
I'm gonna do it again.
(48:54):
Right now, we're back in thismoment again.
Everything again, we're back inthis moment.
There's no future or no past.
And since the ego doesn'tacknowledge them, if you spend
headspace in those times, theego will wake you up from it.
So all 65,000 of your thoughtsthat you're gonna have today,
something is going to wake youup from every single one of
them.
That's your ego saying you'renot present and pulling you back
(49:18):
to this moment.
That's why it's shutting youdown.
That's why when you try todream about having a yacht, you
don't have that.
It's using your subconsciousdatabase to prove to you that
you don't have that, showing youbank statements, you're not
rich, all to pull you back tothis moment.
And so this was a bigrealization for me because I was
I was hating my ego.
I'm like, why do you keepinterrupting my beautiful
(49:40):
thoughts about the future andvacations and money?
But you got to learn yourenemy.
It was my enemy at the time,but you have to learn why it's
doing what it's doing.
And once I learned that, and Ilearned that it's a part of me,
and to hate a part of me isgoing to manifest, thoughts
become things more hating me.
You know, that all became astudy, you know, and I'm still
working on you know egoicstudies now.
(50:02):
But yeah, that's what thosenext couple months consisted of
me coming up with differentmental exercises and finding out
the rules in the game, like theego, why it does what it does.
Um, you know, all those typesof things.
Learning the rules, learningmental exercises.
And uh in November of 2008, Ihad this uh crazy epiphany I
(50:26):
call a watcher.
Um basically, and this is thisis one month before I retired,
and I believe this is whatpushed me over the edge.
This is what got me there.
I call it the watcher exercise.
I'll tell you a story realquick.
I was taking this governmenttest, right?
Now, it wasn't a superimportant test.
I was in a room with nowindows, there was no camera, it
(50:48):
was just one desk, one chair.
I take the test.
When I get up to walk out, mymy foot, I trip over the leg of
the table.
I just stumbled a little bit.
And mind you, no one's watchingme.
It wasn't that important.
But when I stumbled, I feltembarrassed and I kind of like,
I kind of looked around, like,oh, like who saw that?
Like, you know, you just hadyou know, you've ever had that
(51:10):
feeling like someone someone'ssaw you, someone saw that.
We've all had that feeling.
We're walking down darkalleyway, or you know, as your
kid, you're walking down thehallway to use the bathroom at
two o'clock in the morning, youfeel like something's watching
you.
That watcher feeling, everyonehas experienced that in their
life.
And I like to study things thatwe all experience.
(51:32):
Every country, people laugh inevery country.
You know what I mean?
I like to experience, I like tofocus and study things that we
all have in common on everycountry and every, you know.
So I decided to study thiswatcher feeling that I had in
that moment and that I can haveright now, and you don't even
know I'm doing it.
So I decided to study it.
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And the first thing I noticedwhen I decided to study the
watcher feeling was that it knewI decided to study it.
I don't know how I knew that,but I just knew that it knew
that I had decided to study it.
And I thought to myself, wait aminute, watching me at all
times, okay, even when I'm notwatching it, because when I when
(52:15):
I go to notice the watcherwatching me, it's already
watching me.
So watch me at all times, evenwhen I even when I'm not
watching it, no one can hear mythoughts.
I'm not a super religiousperson, but this kind of sounds
like God.
And if I'm right, this is theclosest humans have come to uh
(52:38):
feeling interaction.
Like I'm in my mind, I'm like,holy crap, what have I stumbled
onto here?
And so that led to a whole slewof different uh research
projects and exercises with justthat watcher.
But what I ended up using itfor was this.
I'll give you and I'll give youan example.
(53:00):
I had never been to theBahamas, right?
I wanted to go to the Bahamas,and so visualizing myself in the
Bahamas right now, not in thefuture, it's key to manifesting,
is key in visualizing is you'reit's happening right now, or it
already happened.
That's a huge part of uh of youknow manifesting.
So if I'm gonna visualizemyself in the Bahamas, that's
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one exercise.
I want a compound exercise.
So I go outside, let the sunhit me in my face, just like the
Bahamas.
This is the second element.
I take my son to the park, takemy sandals off, and I put my
toes in the sand, just like I'mon the beach in the Bahamas.
So now I got the sand on myfeet, the sunlight in my face,
and I've got the visualizationgoing on.
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And then on top of that, Ibring in the watcher.
I feel that presence watchingme on the beach in the Bahamas,
sun in my face, toes in thesand.
Now I'm compound exercising, Igot all these things working at
once.
And I started using thosevisualizations, those type of
visualization techniques forretirement.
I wrote myself a check, I putit all over the place.
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I had one in my wallet, I hadone in my pocket.
Every time I reached it, Iwould look at my check and you
know, say things like, I'm sohappy and thankful that I'm
retired, how and ask myselfquestions.
When you ask yourself aquestion, your subconscious will
have to answer it.
So when you say something like,I'm retired, back then when I
wasn't, my ego will say, No,you're not.
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No, you can't.
You're only 28.
But if I were to say to myself,how would it feel to be
retired?
My ego shuts up, mysubconscious answers the
question.
It would feel great.
You'd have more time, you'dhave more money, you'd be
spending time with your kids,you'd be able to work on these
projects.
So asking yourself questionslike that is a great tool as
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well.
So using all these examples wasgreat over those eight months.
But there's no doubt in my mindthat the watcher exercise was a
huge emphasis on what pushed meover the edge of me.
My last day of work wasNovember 28th, uh, 2008, eight
months later.
And I I felt invincible.
(55:10):
I said, man, I can do anythingwith this, anything.
And I just went for custody ofmy kids, no lawyer.
I I've never seen a male get inNew Jersey, never seen a male
get custody of his kids ever.
I went in that courtroom withno lawyer, just the law of
attraction.
Came out with my kids, and Iwas just like, man, I am
(55:33):
unstoppable.
And I wanted to work withcelebrities.
I started working withathletes, started working with
the Philadelphia Eagles.
Andy Reid went to Kansas City,started working with the Chiefs.
They start winning Super Bowlrings and they play against each
other.
No matter who wins that, I geta Super Bowl ring.
It's it's just it's just been ajourney ever since uh of
learning.
But yeah, those eight monthswere were very critical and
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taught me a lot about myself andwhat I needed to do.
Because, like I said, themental exercises that Oprah
Winfrey was doing and sharingwith people, I couldn't do.
Because she could say, I'mrich, I'm rich, I'm rich, and
her ego's gonna say, Yeah, youare.
And my ego's gonna say, No,you're not, no, you can't, no,
you won't.
How many people you know?
(56:18):
So that was pretty much thejourney for there.
Dr James (56:23):
I I was gonna ask, how does life look for you now?
However, you told us, which iswhich is amazing.
Um, Neo, Neo, I actually thinkthat that's probably a really
great note to wrap up on uh thispodcast, because it was just so
beautifully put, and I thinkthat that really allows people
(56:45):
to understand some of the microsteps that they might take to
start feeling more in controland start pursuing what makes
them happiness and is think whatmakes them happy, what gives
them happiness and is alignedwith their inner essence, so to
speak, however the flip thatlooks.
(57:05):
Neil, I I I want to invite youto shout out your book one more
time for the audience so peoplewho can find out more about you,
and then also your website aswell, just purely so people can
continue this journey andcontinue to build on what we've
talked about today in thepodcast.
Neo (57:24):
You know, I'm gonna do you one more better.
I'm gonna give every sideeverybody something to start on.
Um, sure.
But I want to start I want todo this little note real quick.
A lot of people I talk to swearup and down that they don't
have negative thoughts.
First step is to acknowledgethat we do.
Self-preservation, it is whatit is, except that we do have
negative thoughts.
(57:44):
Um, but as a starting point, Iwould just say wake up as often
as you can.
I like to rub my fingerstogether.
Just wake up from the rat race,wake up from everything, just
to the moment, this room rightnow.
Do that two, three, four timestoday.
And then tomorrow you may do itone or two times.
So I'd say do it 10 times aday.
Tomorrow you'll do it on yourown three or four times.
(58:06):
Practicing waking up is what Icall it.
Do that first as often as youcan.
Once you wake up, then you cando any affirmation you want.
I got the book is called YourATM, Your Ability to Manifest.
You can get it on Amazon, uh,you can get it on
neopositivity.com.
The audiobook is there, theebook is there, my Instagram,
(58:27):
Facebook.
People reach out to me all thetime with all kinds of
questions.
I love answering questions.
It makes me feel good.
When if you if you hit me upand say, Hey, I'm going through
this, when I when I answer yourquestion, I end up reminding
myself, hey, I should be doingthis too.
But there's so many differentpractices and so many different
mental exercises, it's hard foreven me to remember.
(58:47):
So reach out, you know, go tothe website, uh, thoughts become
things, shirts and merchandise.
These are all reminders.
These are all just remindersfor me throughout the day
because remembering to rememberto do these exercises,
remembering to remember thatthis stuff even exists is the
hardest part.
A thousand percent with lifecoming at you a mile a minute,
it is the hardest part.
(59:08):
So get you put a pebble in yourpocket, and every time you feel
it, do a mental exercise,something like that.
But whatever you have to do tokeep waking up and doing these,
that's that's the key toeverything.
I want to see everyone succeed.
Money is cool, you know, butit's about quality of life.
Sitting down on the sofa andduring the commercial break,
(59:29):
you're smiling at where yourthoughts are taking you.
Driving through tap traffic,you know, you're stuck on a
highway, you're not gonna gethome for the next 45 minutes,
your brain starts to wander.
Have it wander to a differentplace, a good place.
That's the ultimate benefithere.
That is what you want for therest of your life.
Because what trust me, you getyou get all the money in the
(59:51):
world, you'll realize the firstthing you realize is money's not
everything.
The first thing you realizeonce you get money is money is
not everything, it's about yourstate of mind.
And that's that's the numberone goal.
So please reach out, go toneopositivity.com, get the book,
read it, audio book, and shareit with as many people as you
can.
(01:00:11):
That's the goal.
And thank you, Dr.
J, for allowing me to be onyour platform.
And um, I always like to saythis too.
There are thousands, if notmillions, of people out there
that you have helped that you'llnever hear say thank you just
because they're listening toyour podcast while they're
(01:00:31):
driving, you never get to seethem.
On behalf of all them, I thankyou for everything that you're
doing.
Super excited to be presenting this podcast today.
A little bit different.
We're talking about moneymindset and how my next guest
retired from the 9 to 5 at 28.
We have Mr.
Neo from Neopositivity.com, theofficial voice of the Thoughts
Become Things movement.
Neil speaks to dentistsspecifically and helps them
(02:03):
understand how much more thereis to Light and Dentistry, what
are the things that they can do?
Whether they like dentistry orthey don't don't like dentistry,
it's good to know what else isout there and broaden our
horizons.
Neil has a really interestingstory, lots of takeaways.
Looking forward to getting intoit on today's podcast.
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Everybody's just heard my introabout Mr.
Neo, and I'm gonna do what I'mvery bad at today, which is do
(03:07):
less talking rather than more,because this podcast is about
yourself, Neo, and how we canrelate the lessons that you've
learned, particularly from yourwalking away from the nine to
five at the age that you did,how people can translate them to
their own lives, and why youbelieve this is especially
important of it's an especiallyimportant message for dentists
specifically.
We're gonna be getting into allof that today, all of that good
(03:30):
stuff.
Neil, maybe a good place tobegin is with a little bit of an
introduction from yourself tothe audience.
Neo (03:36):
Yes, yes.
Thank you, Dr.
J.
Can I call you Dr.
J?
Dr James (03:39):
Yeah, sure.
I've been calling voices.
Neo (03:42):
No, that's a he's a legend out here, and you're a legend.
Um, thank you for the intro.
And uh hello everyone andwelcome.
I'm Neil fromNeoPositivity.com.
Voice of the thoughts becomethings movement.
And just to sum it up for you,uh as quickly as I can before we
dive in, uh, you know, Ilearned about this phrase,
thoughts become things.
(04:03):
Uh, when I was 28 years old, Iwas a police officer on a SWAT
team in the most dangerous cityin America.
And when I learned this phrase,I got obsessed with it, how to
use it, how to manifest.
And uh eight months later, Iwas retired and I sat on a
journey to tell everyone exactlyhow I did it.
(04:24):
You know, so interviewingpeople that know about this
stuff, learning more from them,and then sharing it on stages.
I've been doing that ever sincefor the last 18 years.
I'm obsessed with it, changinglives.
And uh, I was brought into thedental world because of the high
suicide and depression rate,you know, specifically to uh
change the industry.
(04:44):
They were number one inAmerica, high suicide depression
rate for 18 years in a row.
And they brought me inspecifically to combat that.
And in the last four years,we've gotten down to number
four.
So something's working.
So in a nutshell, you know,that's that's where we're at
with it.
Dr James (05:01):
Nice.
And all of that good stuff onthe Dice Podcast, the best of
the best of those lessons whichare really valuable to people.
And you know what?
We should just set the scene.
Um, when we share this stuff,we're we're sharing it from the
point of view of emphasizing thepositive side of it.
Like what takeaways can wehave?
Because there'll be people outthere who just flippin' love
their life, right?
Or or people who think it'sreally great, but they're
(05:23):
looking for these little bits oftid, you know, tidbits of
information to take their lifeto the next level.
We're definitely not saying onepath is superior over the
other.
You know what?
If you love dentistry andyou're working nine to five and
you're living your best life, ina way you kind of are retired,
right?
You're having fun, you know,it's it's so unique to you.
And I just wanted to say thatto set the scene.
We share this stuff from aplace of inspiration, and that's
(05:46):
about it.
Neo, when us Brits hear aboutthe SWOT agents, we think to
ourselves, right, this is what Idon't know how it is in
America.
Maybe you can just set therecord straight, okay?
But basically, when we when wewatch movies and the SWAT agents
get called in, we're like, ohshit, shit's about to get the
fan.
We're sitting up, shit's aboutto hit the fan.
We're sitting up on our seat,and we're like, right, okay,
(06:08):
this is the this is the actionpart of the movie.
So I'm actually reallyinterested to start a roundabout
there.
How did you get into that?
Neo (06:17):
Well, let me have you ever heard of uh a Warhammer?
Dr James (06:20):
Yes, the the little figurines and you paint them,
right?
Neo (06:23):
Yeah, is that big at all over there?
Dr James (06:25):
It's it's actually a UK company, interestingly.
Okay, yeah, so it's it'sactually on the uh a little bit
of an investing reference here.
It's on the aim market, thealternative investments market.
So it's like if you're notquite big enough to make the
FTSE 500, I think you go on thisAIM uh public uh stock
exchange, effectively.
So yeah, it's a UK company, sothere we go.
Neo (06:46):
Nice.
Well, you know when those guysshow up, how all the rest of the
soldiers are looking.
Dr James (06:52):
What is it?
The um oh yeah, we will notwe've got to be careful to not
go down too far this rabbithole, right?
Because a lot of people mightnot have heard of Warhammer, but
it's like what are the what dothey call the guys, the the
Space Marines, right?
Neo (07:04):
Yeah, there it is.
That's you know, when all thenormal cops are there and SWAT
team shows up, it's like themovies, they're like the
celebrities of the policedepartment.
Yeah, so it's actually likerightfully so, because the
training and everything that wego through is rightfully so.
It's earned, and the thingsthat we have to do, you know,
(07:24):
going into houses full of smokeand gunmen, you know, normal
cops don't have to do that.
So a lot of respect, yeah.
Dr James (07:33):
Wow, and what drew you to that path?
Because you went on a bit of ajourney, right?
You obviously that was theobjective, the goal for you at
one point.
That was like, wow, this iswhere I really want to go.
And then you had a bit of anawakening, right?
Neo (07:46):
You know what?
I say like this.
I always wanted to play in theNFL, I wanted to be a football
star.
And while pursuing that, Iended up having my daughter and
my my dad, who was a sergeant inthat same police department.
You know, he was just like, youneed medical benefits.
So take the police test.
I took it, I scored high, andthat's where I ended up at.
(08:09):
And, you know, while I was acop, you know, I wanted to be
undercover, I wanted to be SWAT,I wanted to be, you know, bike
patrol, I wanted to do all thosefun things.
So yeah, just following what Ilove to do, you know.
Karate was huge in my lifegrowing up and football, you
know, obviously was huge, andbeing a police officer involves
chasing people and fighting.
(08:30):
That's karate in football.
So that's how that ended upthere.
Dr James (08:34):
Sure.
Because we have over here, Idon't I'm not an expert on this
stuff, right?
But in America, there's a a lotmore of a gun culture, right?
What is it, the FifthAmendment, isn't it?
The right to bear arms.
Over here, not so much.
So there's not really it's notreally as common that that
there's you know, there's thesesort of agents required.
Uh so they don't get nearly thesame publicity, but SWAT is
(08:57):
like everywhere in the movies.
So it's crazy that it isactually like that in real life.
So you were you were followingyour heart, in effect, and then
I guess a question to ask isjust before we move on, was the
when you made it, when you gotto where you wanted to go, which
was to become a SWAT agent, howdid the reality compare to how
you imagined it to bebeforehand?
(09:18):
Was it that?
Was it different?
Did you become disillusioned?
Neo (09:23):
It everything was just so much more real.
I was um I was on achampionship paintballing team
before that, and so the tacticalwarfare part of it I was
already good at, but when yougot real bullets in the game,
that changes everythingmentally, blood pressure, tunnel
(09:46):
vision, that changeseverything.
So it's just a lot more faster,and you know, you just got to
be trained to use muscle memorybecause you can't think in those
moments.
It's like flying a helicopter.
Uh, I'm a pilot as well.
When you fly an airplane, youyou know, use gauges and you
fly.
When you fly a helicopter, youcan't think.
Your hand is moving off of justreactions.
(10:08):
If you try to think, the plane,the helicopter's moving left,
go right, you're gonna crash.
You just have to use instinctscompletely when you're using the
uh the stick.
So it's kind of like that.
Dr James (10:19):
Okay, fine.
Yeah, right, crazy.
Okay, cool.
So we've talked about that partof the journey, and then you
had an awakening, as I as I wassaying a second ago, and that's
when you learned about theconcept of thoughts become
things, which is on yourt-shirt.
Neo (10:38):
Yes, every shirt I wear, my wristbands, everything uh says
thoughts become things on it.
Um, my old partner in thepolice department was a retired
CIA agent, and he's telling meabout he knows I'm all about
psychology.
I've always been into thebrain.
I wanted to take psychologyclasses.
Um, and he tells me about thismovie that they make all the CIA
(11:00):
agents watch every year in theacademy.
Every year they have to watchthis one movie.
And I'm thinking it's like SWATteam, rapid deployment,
something like that.
But no, it's this movie calledThe Secret.
You familiar with The Secret?
Dr James (11:12):
I've heard of it, never watched it.
Neo (11:16):
Well, if you're gonna get into it, just skip the movie
because it's although it's agood movie, it's a bit
redundant.
They basically say thoughtsbecome things over and over
again for 45 years.
Dr James (11:23):
Should we say spoiler alerts, right, Noy?
Or no?
Neo (11:26):
No, because they say thoughts become things over and
over again in the movie, theyexplain it 50 different ways,
but it's just it's it's more ofa documentary.
Sure.
Um, uh, I'll put it to you likethis: Oprah describes the
secret as a cherry on top of acake.
I describe the secret as acherry on top of a multi-layered
cake with sprinkles and jimmiesand MMs and all the fixings.
(11:48):
So you need to know all theother things as well.
And that's what I did.
I compiled everything togetherto become what was
neo-positivity.
It started off as a philosophyand became a stage name.
So that's what I got from themovie.
Thoughts become things, and uh,I just got obsessed with the
concept.
You know, my partner told meabout it.
I saw the movie, it made somuch sense.
(12:11):
It connected all these piecesin my brain as to why I did what
I did and in my whole life andwhy things played out the way
they played out.
So for me, you know, a lot ofpeople hear a concept and they
might resist it.
And some people gravitatetowards it.
I immediately gravitatedtowards it because it made sense
to me.
And then I wanted to know more.
(12:31):
I went straight to YouTube.
That's where I saw, you know,uh the Oprah video.
She said there's a book thatshe sleeps with on her
nightstand that she highlightedso many lines in the first
chapter that she just stoppedhighlighting.
That book is called The Powerof Now by Eckhart Tolley.
So I went and got that book,and then I just let the universe
take me on a journey, gettingme new, more and better
(12:52):
information that I could use tostart shifting my mind and all
this other stuff.
And, you know, I guess we'llget into the all the meat and
grits of that later.
But yeah, that was the start ofmy journey, you know, and I
started manifesting things, itstarted working and it started
working on demand.
And I said to myself, whoa,this thing, if it really works
the way it's working, then Ishould use it to retire.
(13:14):
Like I want to retire and dosomething else.
You know, I knew I was meant tohelp people on this earth, but
I knew I was meant to help morethan just the citizens of Camden
City.
You know, I was doing great asa police officer, but I wanted
to affect the world.
And in order to do that, Icouldn't be chasing bad guys for
40 hours or 40, 50 hours a weekin this little city in New
(13:36):
Jersey.
And so that's what I did.
I set on a path to retire, andeight months later, I was done.
I was able to do that, andthat's exactly what I did after
that.
I've dedicated my whole life tospreading this information and
learning more about it.
Dr James (13:52):
I love that, man.
And you know what?
Something clicked, right?
Because literally eight monthslater, you got to where you did,
which is amazing.
So I'm looking forward tolearning more about that journey
as this podcast continues.
And I mean, yeah, in a weirdway, I I uh the listeners in
(14:15):
this podcast may or may not knowthat I left clinical dentistry
when I was at 29, and the reasonthat happened was uh a lot of
it was manifesting, man, youknow, like a lot of it was like
I just know I'm just gonna buildsomething and I I can see the
vision, and there's literallytwo realities right now.
I'll either die trying, right?
(14:36):
I literally, I literally dietrying, okay, or this will
happen, right?
And when you bring that energy,you know what?
You can't you can't lose, likeyou physically can't lose
because you're not gonna quit.
You only quit, you only losewhen you when you give up, you
know, and um that that kind ofperiod of time.
It was about you know what itwas about like maybe I started
(14:56):
Dennis Who Invest and then Iwent back to clinical dentistry
for a while, and then ninemonths later it I actually went
full time on on Dentist WhoInvest, and yeah, man, I just
would never have believed thatwas possible.
And it's it's weird these kindof curveballs and things that
can come up for you.
And I'm not saying that's theright thing for everybody, but I
am saying I actually reallyliked dentistry.
(15:18):
Uh I just guessed that otherthings came up.
Let's just say that.
And I I was I was reallyenjoying the journey of
Dentistry Invest, and I justthought, you know what, let me
try this for six months andlet's see how it goes.
And here I am, four yearslater, still having fun, still
growing.
Uh anyway, I don't want tosteal the limelight.
You know, I'm just I'm justwhat I'm trying to say is the
(15:39):
story resonates with me, man,because a lot of it was
manifestation.
You have to believe in yourselfuh before anybody else does,
right?
Like you have to set you you'realmost setting that boundary.
It's like, no, I take myselfseriously, and then you keep
pushing until everybody elsedoes, because they never will,
it'll never happen the other wayaround, if you ask me.
So it's it's partly that.
(16:00):
But anyway, man, um I'm reallyinterested to get into more of
your story.
What happened in those eightmonths?
Neo (16:10):
It was it was to key off of what you just said, real quick,
which will segue great intothis.
In those eight months, I had tolearn how to use thought to
become things.
And one of the biggeststruggles was when I sat back
and tried to close my eyes andand meditate or just sit in the
headspace, two or three secondswould go by of stillness, and
(16:33):
then my mind would say, I needto get milk on the way home.
Or did I take out the dog?
It's that's it's it's humans,and it was so frustrating for
me.
I'm like, why won't my brainjust allow me to sit in these
head spaces and visualize?
Because they say we're tuningforks, we vibrate at a specific
(16:54):
frequency, and that's accordingto what we're feeling and what
we're thinking.
And any two things that vibrateat the same frequency will
naturally pull towards eachother.
So you and a certain outcome,good or bad, stressful or great,
when you're thinking about it,you're pulling it towards you.
And so if I can't sit in thesegreat head spaces because my
mind is wandering everywhere,then I'm not going to be able to
(17:15):
pull it towards me long enoughtill it's actually a part of my
reality.
So that became my main area offocus.
That was it.
We as humans, we have 65,000thoughts on average per day per
person, right?
And as a tuning fork, 94 pluspercent of those 65,000 thoughts
are on autopilot.
Our brain is just throwing atus what it's used to throwing at
(17:38):
us, and that's what's creatingour future.
Thoughts become things, and soimmediately I said, Whoa, whoa,
whoa, whoa.
I don't want autopilot creatingmy future.
So I need to control that 94%of my thoughts.
I need to shift that.
And so that led me to all kindsof mental exercises that I had
to create because I can't, Ican't use the same mental
(18:00):
exercises as Oprah Winfrey.
For her to sit in the cornerand say, I'm rich, I'm rich, I'm
rich.
My ego, if I say I'm rich, I'mrich, my ego is gonna say, No,
you're not, no, you can't.
How dare you dream that big?
How many people with thepercentage of people that you
grew up with that made it?
You know, your egoic voicethat's always kicking your back
(18:20):
in when you're trying to dreamand not allowing you to stay in
these head spaces.
That voice really became mytarget focus.
I needed to weigh, I neededways to be able to sit in a
great scenario that's notcurrently happening yet, you
know, a scenario where I'mretired, a scenario with that
promotion, whatever I wanted.
I needed to be able to sit inthat scenario without my ego
(18:41):
coming in and saying, that's notcurrently happening.
That's not, how dare you dreamthat big?
And that became the area offocus where I needed to really
knuckle down and see how totrick the ego into shutting up,
allowing me to stay in thatheadspace, vibrate at that
frequency, and pull it towardsme.
So that was just a journey.
I always call myself aprofessional tryer because
(19:03):
that's what I'm doing.
I just try, try differentthings in my mind, try, try,
try.
I feel tested, friends andfamily, old, short, tall, young,
fat, skinny, no matter whatreligion, I feel tested with
everybody I can.
And when it works, I release itto Facebook.
And so, to you, to what youwere saying earlier, all of
these mental exercises that Icame up with, a lot of them I
(19:27):
would see in other books, andI'm like, okay, that's cool.
That means I'm on the rightpage.
But most of them I came up withthem on my own.
But no matter how many mentalexercises that I might give
somebody, none of them will workif you don't believe in your
ability to manifest.
Is what you were sayingearlier.
You had the confidence inyourself that you were either
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going to do this or die trying.
And you had the confidence thatit was going to work.
You didn't know how, but youhad confidence in your ability
to manifest.
When I was trying to, I justcame up with a book, 18 years of
research, over 2,000 livestream interviews, and over 200
podcasts of me interviewingpeople who have used these
techniques.
I'd put that all into thisbook, and I couldn't couldn't
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think of a name.
I'm like, man, what do I meanthis book?
What do I name this book?
I ended up naming it your ATM.
And ATM stands for ability tomanifest.
And I like when you think of anATM machine, you know.
Um, do you guys call it ATMmachine?
Dr James (20:26):
Where we do, we do, or we just say we say crash point,
but we we know what an ATM is.
Neo (20:32):
Okay.
Okay, yeah, no, because I saidthat to somebody from Missouri
and they were like, What?
Like they never used that termbefore.
So anyway, uh, I'm thinking ofthe ATM machine, you put
something in it, your card, andthen you get something out of
it.
And that's how the universeworks.
You put your thoughts and youremotions into the universe, and
then it gives that back to you.
(20:53):
And so I like the ATM referenceas far as the machine and then
your ability to manifest,because that is the strongest
point.
I can give you all the tools, Ican give you every mental
exercise, I can give youeverything I've learned over the
last 18 years.
But if you don't believe thatyou have the power to create
your future the way you want itto, it's not gonna do no good.
(21:14):
Not gonna do any good.
So, yeah, that was that was myjourney.
The next eight months wasintense mental exercises, field
testing, seeing what worked toget me this and what didn't work
to get me that and what feltgood when I said it, changing my
affirmations because one wordmade me feel different.
Talk about this thing in the inyour chest.
(21:36):
I call it the knot.
If you're to lie to yourself orsay something bad, uh you'll
feel it go down, right?
And it kind of likegut-wrenching, you know.
If you're if you were to andgive me an example, if you were
to say, I'm a billionaire,you're gonna feel something go
down a little bit.
It's because you lied toyourself.
But if you're to smile orlaugh, you feel it go up.
(21:58):
Pay attention to that knot.
So if you're gonna do anaffirmation like I'm rich, you
feel the knot go down, it's nota good thing.
You shouldn't use thataffirmation because your ego's
coming and saying, No, you'renot, no, you can't, no, you
don't.
Your ego's showing you yourbank statement, proving to you
that you're not rich.
So you got to pay attention tothat knot.
If you were to say somethinglike, I love money, that knot
might go up a little bit.
(22:19):
It's not gonna go down, mightstay still, might go up, but
guess what?
That's what you want.
You want affirmations that makethat not go down.
Because we do love money.
It's what feeds our kids, it'swhat put gas in our car so we
can go to where we we need to goto.
So it's all about the verbiagewith these affirmations.
And this is the type of thingsthat I was working on over those
(22:40):
next eight months and beentrying to perfect as good as I
can over the last 18 years, youknow, while sharing and learning
and you know, interviewingpeople along the way.
Dr James (22:52):
You know, I'm just gonna offer two quick
reflections and then I wannahear what happens next.
There's a book by I think it'sJohn Maxwell, uh, and it's
called Psycho Cybernetics.
Have you read it?
Neo (23:07):
No, but I'm familiar with Maxwell.
Dr James (23:10):
Yeah, I think it's I think it's Maxwell.
Maxwell, no, sorry, I messed itup.
His name is Maxwell Holtz, Ithink it is.
Sorry.
John Maxwell is somebody else.
But there's a quote in thatbook, okay, and he's like, Your
mind, your subconscious mind isa heat seeking missile, right?
It just finds the thing thatyou tell it to, and that can be
(23:31):
happiness, but it can also besadness, it can be anger, it can
be also joy, right?
And it's it'll always find waysto prove itself right.
So, in a weird way, if you wantto achieve your Goal, you have
to convince your subconsciousmind that it's real, first of
all, because then it will findways to prove itself correct in
your world, which sounds reallywoo-woo, but it's a hundred
(23:53):
percent a thing.
It's a hundred percent a thing.
Because otherwise, if you don'tdo that, if you're trying to do
something and you fail, whichyou inevitably do, depends how
you term fail.
Let's say you suffer a setback,right?
That's not really failure, it'sjust a setback.
Your brain, your subconsciousbrain is like, Told you you
could never do that in the firstplace, right?
And you're that much morelikely to just quit.
That's the first thing.
(24:15):
I know the second thing isthis, and I know this this may
be a teeny bit controversial.
I'm gonna say it anyway.
I know not everyone is an ElonMusk fan.
That's fine, that's completelyokay.
Let's put that aside.
The one thing the guy does do,or the one thing the guy has is
a crazy level of self-belief,right?
But we can't take that awayfrom him, that's for sure.
And there's this one video, andit's when he's he's being
(24:36):
interviewed, right?
And he gets really emotional,and it actually gets me a little
bit, this interview.
And the interview says to him,it's like, Hey, when you had
that third rocket failure, didyou think about giving up?
And you can see the tears inhis eyes, man, when he's
replying to the to theinterviewer, and he's like, I
don't ever give up.
And it's the way that he said,he's like, I don't ever give up,
(24:57):
like that, right?
And it's the emotion, I'm notdoing it justice, right?
It's the emotion in his voice,and you just tell you can just
tell he believes in himself somuch, man.
You know, even though he'strying to do this completely
crazy thing, like trying to heliterally trying to put this the
first private rocket ship inorbit that no one has ever done
before, and um to you can justtell that he doesn't care if
(25:19):
he's a laughs and stalk, heliterally does not give it one
toss, he doesn't care whatanyone thinks about him.
He will either do that or he'lldie trying.
And I really like that clip,man.
I really like it, and I knownot everyone's an Elon fan, but
I do really love that clip.
Anyway, uh back to what youwere saying, I just wanted to
offer those reflections.
Neo (25:39):
No, it it it is a great it plays a huge role, your
confidence, and so many peoplelack that confidence, and it's
this pre-programming that wehave growing up, and a lot of
people will blame society andgovernments and all that other
stuff, and it does make sense,but you've been taught limits
(26:00):
since you were birth born.
When you were a baby, you couldonly scream so loud, you could
only reach so far.
Every single day of your life,you're taught these limits.
So, of course, you're gonnahave limiting thoughts.
Of course, you're it's gonna behard to see unlimited.
We've never seen unlimitedanything.
So we're tasked with being ableto see and live in these head
(26:24):
spaces for long periods of timeto attract these things towards
us for the reward of havingthem.
You know, they say controllingone's thoughts is the hardest
occupation a man can have,according to both science and
religion, right?
Hardest thing a person can dois control their thoughts.
And for a lot of people willsay, Oh, it's not hard.
I can think about anything Iwant.
(26:45):
Just think about the last timeyou had a grandparent who was in
the hospital, and you're tryingto stay positive, and the
hospital bed's beeping, and youdon't know if they're gonna make
it home this time becausethey've been in there a bunch of
times.
You're trying to stay positive,your brain keeps going back to
the what-ifs and all my that'sjust a perfect example of how
the mind works.
It's it's very hard to control,it's the hardest occupation
(27:07):
someone can do.
However, it yields the greatestreward in the spirit of
yin-yang evenness, it yields thegreatest reward, which is the
ability to create your future athousand percent.
But this is it's work, it's noteasy, it is a lifelong
practice.
It's not like a black beltwhere you get it, it's yours for
the rest of time.
(27:28):
No, no, no, this is somethingyou gotta work at.
It's like jogging.
You're a world-class jogger andyou take off for two months,
you're not gonna be aworld-class jogger anymore.
Dr James (27:35):
You might still be good, but this is like a muscle
practice.
Um I think a muscle is theperfect analogy, right?
Neo (27:42):
Yes, yes.
They say the brain, they don'tsay, but the brain is an organ,
but it acts like a muscle, andthat's what you're
reprogramming, your brain.
Those that 94 plus percent ofyour thoughts that's on
autopilot.
What I try to do is get peopleto reprogram that so they think
differently, they seedifferently, they act
differently, they make differentdecisions, and what happens
(28:03):
when you're making differentdecisions, different outcomes.
Now you're a different person,now you're retired at 28, 29,
pursuing something else.
I loved being a cop.
You love being a dentist.
However, here's the thing Ifelt like I was meant to serve a
larger group of people thanjust the 80,000 citizens of
(28:23):
Camden City, and so I went forthat.
You know, I always try to tellpeople, let's say you wanted to
be, let's say you're this typeof doctor, uh, a foot doctor,
right?
And you were meant to be agastro.
Now you can go on and be asuccessful foot doctor and have
three or four practices and livea very great life.
(28:46):
But once if you had pursuedwhat you were meant to do, which
is the gastro, it would havebeen far, far better.
Whatever that means, whatever10 practices, better marriage,
better life, I don't know.
But when you pursue your dream,what you're good at, what you
do naturally, great, that's whenyou end up in those spaces.
(29:07):
That's when you end up in greathead spaces, and everybody
around you is in a greatheadspace, living a better life,
living a better, fulfilledlife.
I was happy as a cop.
I was I was the man everywhereI went, you know, SWAT team.
I walked in the room, I waslike the president.
Um, and it and it felt good,you know, but I was putting my
life on a line every day.
My kids knew that, they sawthat.
(29:29):
The waves were sometimes at myface.
But when I started pursuingthis, the waves have been at my
back ever since, thrusting meinto the next room full of
people that wants to hear thismessage and is telling it to all
their friends and it'sspreading it, and that's how it
goes.
The waves are at my back now.
I'm out of the danger that Iwas in.
My kids are happier,everybody's just happier, and
(29:50):
that's what I that's what Ifeel.
So for everybody out there, youmight like this and be great at
that.
And I just want everybody totake a little deeper look inside
and ask yourself if I won $10billion, right?
After I paid off all myfamily's debts and bought
everybody houses and cars andtook care of their health bills,
(30:12):
and I took every vacation thatI could possibly take.
At the end of all that, you'regonna sit down on the sofa and
you're gonna be bored.
And you're gonna say, Okay, nowI have to do something.
You're not gonna care aboutmoney because you got billions,
but you're gonna have to start,you're gonna start some kind of
company, whatever it finds, thatis and pursue that.
In your downtime, while you'restill doing whatever you 40,
(30:34):
you're doing for 40 hours aweek, just put a little bit of
effort into pursuing that, andthem waves hit you at your back
and you start ending up in phonecalls in that direction, and be
open to where the universetakes you.
I never knew that this is wherethe universe was going to take
me.
And I'm here and I'm happierthan I could have ever been.
And you know, from talking toyou, it sounds like you're
(30:56):
experiencing the same thing.
You know, you you you're you'regrowing when you talk about
your newest ventures.
And I love that.
See, you start smiling.
For those who are listening tothe podcast, get on the video
and see them smile when I saythat.
And that's it's a differentlife when you're in that
headspace like all day.
It is a different life, adifferent world.
And I just want to geteverybody to that place.
Dr James (31:18):
Yeah, yeah, I fully agree.
And you know what?
My reflection on that is uhthat I never really intended to
build like 90% of the thingsthat I built, right?
I was in it, it almost soundsslightly whimsical, right?
But I was just doing the thingthat I thought made sense next,
but was also fun and that Ienjoyed.
(31:38):
And that sounds a bitwhimsical, but you can actually
get pretty far on that logicbecause I think a lot of people
they kind of they're they kindof feel paralyzed because
they're like, oh, but how do Iknow the next thing that I'm
gonna do is gonna be my passionor what I enjoy or what I love?
It's literally as simple asjust pick the thing at the top
(32:00):
of your fun list, potentially,that it doesn't even necessarily
have to make you money, right?
Just friggin' do it, right?
And it's as simple, it's it'salmost like it's as scientific
as that, really, from for me.
And then if it is your goal tomake money out of it, I mean
you'll probably figure that outalong the way, or maybe it
isn't.
That's fine too, but at leastyou're kind of enjoying yourself
(32:22):
at the same time.
And I think we should rememberthat.
I think life's very short, andwe need to remember that a lot.
Neo (32:30):
I think it's a huge level of blind faith.
You're just like, okay, I don'tknow if this is gonna work out,
but I'm gonna give it a shotanyway.
And so many people have beenlet down so many different times
in their life that they don'teven want to try something new
or try to make what they loveinto a profession.
But listen, step out and justgive it a shot.
What if you got to lose?
(32:52):
If you if you if you pursuethat and it doesn't work out,
you end up right where you areright now.
You've lost nothing.
But you can say that I tried.
And like I said, I'm aprofessional tryer, so I'm just
gonna keep trying things.
Dr James (33:06):
I think I think a big part of it is reframes, right?
It's like we, you know, it itdepends how someone frames
failure, right?
And there's there's a sayingthat I love, and it it the
saying is you either win or youlose.
You I sorry, you you either youeither win or you learn.
That's the saying.
So you're not really losing perse or feeling, right?
(33:27):
You're just learning.
You're like, okay, that didn'twork.
Fine, I learned.
And then when you remove thethe F-word in a way, the the
feel word, I guess, right?
You're just like, hey, I'mlearning.
And if you feel like it'stough, you're just learning real
hard, right?
Yeah, that's what I say.
And that sounds a bit silly,but I say that to myself all the
(33:49):
time.
You know, uh, is Jay-Z big outthere?
Oh, yeah, he's big.
He's big.
Neo (33:56):
He was one of my favorite artists um growing up, and um,
he said in this one song, hesays, For I will not lose.
He said, 'I will not lose foreven in defeat, there's a
valuable lesson learned, so thatevens it up for me.' And when
he said that, it just hit me sohard.
And I said, I will never loseagain.
You know, and and it and youknow, it's got to be said
(34:18):
different ways to differentpeople.
And it's the same thing withthese mental exercises.
There's no one path.
I can't get up here and giveyou a set of mental exercises
and a set of affirmations thatare going to work to get you
exactly what you want today.
These are so custom to eachperson because of what we've
been through, what we'velearned, and what our brains
(34:39):
allow us to believe.
And so diving into it is areally a self-study of who you
are and then implementation ofthese practices daily.
That's what it comes down to.
And at the end of the day, whenyou lay down in bed and you
say, How many mental exercisesdid I do today?
That is the same question ashow bad do I want it?
(35:03):
Because if you did three mentalexercises, you have 65,000
thoughts today, and three ofthose 65,000 thoughts were
positive affirmations.
What's the over-under on that?
Three versus 64,997.
Hmm, why didn't your lifechange today?
(35:24):
You know, so it's it's it's allabout that over-under and how
bad you want it.
That's why I try to challengepeople with this, but it is
possible.
There's no doubt.
I was I Camden City, where Iwas a cop, poorest and most
dangerous city in America, I wasborn there.
I grew up there.
There was nothing special aboutme from the person next to me,
(35:44):
outside of the fact that whenour guidance counselors and our
teachers told us that we werenever going to amount to
anything, I didn't believe them.
All my friends did.
I didn't believe them becausemy dad was a cop and he had he
had he loved watches.
He had these expensive Movadowatches.
They were a thousand dollars,and this is back in like you
(36:04):
know, '95.
So the thousand dollars was alot more back then than it is
now.
And he would have thesewatches, and it gave me hope
that I didn't have to end uplike everybody else in my school
whose parents and brothers andcousins were drug dealers, and
my dad is the one chasing them.
And so I didn't listen to theteachers who told me that.
(36:25):
And I'm so like my life wouldbe so, you know.
Point is everything changedwhen I learned this message.
I was just a normal dudefollowing his dad's footsteps,
joining the police departmentbecause I got my girlfriend
pregnant.
Learned this message eightmonths later.
I'm retired.
I have my own TV show, I havefive Super Bowl rings, I have my
(36:47):
own radio shows, changing wholeprofessions at a time all the
day that this came in.
So a lot of people consider ithippie talk.
My life is my resume, it is nothippie talk.
Dr James (37:03):
Boom.
My life is my resume.
Neo (37:06):
Mic drop.
Dr James (37:07):
Mic drop right there.
Neo (37:09):
I talk about interviewing so many people, just getting
this information, getting theirtips and secrets, and putting it
all in this book.
98% of those life coaches andnew thought thinkers that I
interviewed live terrible lives.
Their relationship with theirkids are terrible.
They don't talk to theirparents, they're broke, they
(37:32):
have another nine to five jobthat they hate, and they're life
coaching other people.
And I just, I just, I don't, Ijust don't, you know, this
doesn't add up to me.
You should be financiallystable and happy with good
relationships if you're usingthese principles right.
Now, I'm not saying they're notgood at what they do, because
(37:53):
often people aren't good attaking their own advice.
That's very, very common.
So I get it, but at the end ofthe day, I want to be able to
say my life is my resume, and Ican lean on that, I can stand on
that, you know, and I live bythat.
I I wouldn't be happy as happyas I am if it wasn't, you know.
Dr James (38:15):
I used to be really skeptical of this stuff, and
then yeah, as I say, I Iembraced a lot of it as well,
and things changed, you know,they're not going to change
overnight, right?
But it's that it's that sparkthat starts the fire, isn't it?
And you know what I'd love todo, you know, over that for the
for the benefit from my owncuriosity and also for the
benefit of the audience.
If we zoom in on that eightmonths between initial inception
(38:38):
of this concept, and then youleaving uh and inverted commas
retiring, right?
And the reason I sayinverticomas is it's like it's
not like you sealed off in thesunset and went to a beach,
right?
You you started to enjoyyourself, right?
And that is a version ofretirement.
That's basically whatretirement is.
You know, I read a really greatbook once, and it was ah,
(38:59):
that's gonna annoy the hell outof me.
I can't remember what thebook's called, but uh, what did
stick with me was how he definedretirement, and how he defined
retirement was the day that youstop exchanging present
unhappiness for the futurepromise of being happy.
Okay, bit to unpack there,right?
Neo (39:23):
I'm gonna have to unpack that one.
I like it.
Dr James (39:25):
Right, and I know there's there's at least two or
three things to unpack there.
I'll I'll cover it super quickbecause I think you'll like it,
and the audience.
Maybe, maybe some I think I'vesaid this on a podcast before,
there might be some peoplerolling their eyes out there,
but you know what?
It's so it's so useful.
I'm gonna I'm gonna cover itagain.
The the day is in right here,right now, okay, or whenever
this happens, that you stopexchanging present unhappiness,
(39:46):
that you sacrifice happiness tosome level versus your 10 out of
10 version of being happy,right?
There's some sacrifice ofhappiness going on there, yeah.
The day that you stop doingthat in exchange for the future
promise, because it is apromise, you don't know if
you're gonna be happy when itactually you actually get there,
(40:08):
right?
You have no idea, it's just apromise, and like all promises,
with the best intentions, theydon't always happen, yeah.
The future promise of beinghappy, as in that you'll reach a
finish line and then be happy.
It's where you just do it inthe here and now, however that
looks.
And that's actually not a moneything.
Think about that.
That's not a money thing, man.
(40:28):
That is that is a fulfillmentthing, isn't it?
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Neo (42:23):
Definitely.
He started like started the rapgame.
Uh, I read this book seekingfinancial advice, and it didn't
talk about finances at all.
So yeah, and I I love that.
(42:46):
I'd love to memorize that andbe able to say it because it
means it doesn't make sense nowthat I explained it, right?
Dr James (42:53):
You get it.
Neo (42:53):
Yeah, big time, big time.
I wish I had heard that yearsago.
I always define retirement, youknow, as being able to because
it just simply just being ableto not have to work anymore,
ever.
You know, that's in and that'sand that was my goal, you know,
(43:13):
so that everything I did afterthat would be like on my time,
and I could take six months offif I wanted to.
And you know, and so that wasthat was my big thing.
But to uh to to to give you abreakdown, after I saw it was uh
March 11th, 200 uh eight.
I saw the secret.
My my partner told me about it.
(43:35):
I went and picked it up fromBarnes and Noble, um blew my
mind, and I tried to sit downand think.
Like they said, I tried tovisualize and then these random
thoughts would come into myhead.
I gotta walk the dog.
Uh a car drives by, and I thesound of the car just they're
playing music, and it's a songthat I like.
(43:56):
Whatever, all theseinterruptions.
And I didn't like that I wasn'table to sit peacefully in a
scenario and vibrate at thatfrequency until that toy,
because I was going for toys atthe time, uh specifically remote
control airplanes, because I'mI'm I'm really into remote
control airplanes, um, and hellcopy anything that applies, I'm
(44:16):
I'm obsessed with.
And so I I said I have to learnhow to meditate.
That was my thing.
I needed to learn how tomeditate.
And that's a the that that wordis a lot of people hear that
word and they run for the hills.
But if you want to be able toquiet your mind, you have to
practice quiet in your mind.
Just simply put, you have topractice quiet in your mind if
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you want to be able to do it ondemand.
And so for the next 16 days, itwas mental torture trying to
learn how to meditate.
I'll never forget it wasexactly 16 days.
And then I thought back to themovie The Secret.
They said there's a littlehack, and they said, I'm so
happy and thankful for dot dotdot, fill in the rest with
(45:00):
whatever you want.
And I said to myself, I wentback, I went back and watched
the movie again.
And that's where I said, youknow what, let me key in on
that.
And so I started saying, I'm sohappy and thankful that I enjoy
meditating.
I'm so happy and thankful thatmeditating is working.
I'm so happy and thankful thatmeditating is one of my favorite
things, even though it wasn't.
I was saying these things, Iwas reprogramming my mind.
(45:23):
And then I would find I wasable to sit in these head
spaces, this peaceful, blank, nothought.
Because for me, meditation,some people have guided
meditation where there's someonetelling you, you're walking
through a forest and the treesare I call that guided
meditation.
To me, true meditation isabsence of thought.
Nothing.
(45:43):
You're just focusing on yourbreathing, just complete absence
of thought.
And it's hard to do that foreven a couple of seconds.
But the more I did it and themore I did that affirmation, I'm
so happy and thankful for, Iwas able to spend more time.
It went from three seconds tofour seconds to five seconds
that I can sit in an emptyheadspace with no thoughts, up
(46:05):
to 30 seconds where I could sit.
And I was like, wow.
And then I started to like it.
Because after that 30 secondsor 15 seconds of pure no-thought
just being, I would be able torun a scenario like me owning my
own airplane, me retiring, medoing this, me doing that.
(46:26):
I was able to sit in thosescenarios.
So I'll give you an example.
My friend, my best friend, Itried to tell her to envision
going on a cruise with unlimitedmoney.
You can spend as much money asyou want, that you won a prize,
go on this cruise to whereveryou get off the boat, you can
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spend as many, as much money asyou want.
She won't even run thisscenario with me.
She feels uncomfortable.
And a lot of people do becausethey feel like it's a waste of
time for one.
And when they come back toreality, they're disappointed
because that's not the reality.
Because of the limiting beliefsand the pre-programming.
And that's what I'm talkingabout.
Being able to sit in thesescenarios for an extended period
(47:10):
of time and vibrate at thatfrequency for an extended period
of time, you need to be able todo that.
And so meditation became a bigpart of my life.
And that's when I would justtry different things.
Once I was able to sit in thosehead spaces, now I can run
scenarios, which is what I callproactive manifesting.
If your thoughts are becomingthings, and a lot of them are on
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autopilot, well, the onesyou're proactively projecting,
you're choosing which thoughtsto think about.
I call that proactivemanifesting.
And then that's that's when itgot into all the affirmations.
Um the ego was a big partbecause when you think something
good that hasn't happened yet,the ego says, You're lying,
that's not happening.
(47:51):
I needed to figure out why thatwas happening, and that was
huge.
Why does the ego keep kickingmy back in every single time I
try to think of something great?
The Power of Now by EckhartTolle.
Basically, in a nutshell, theego wants you in this moment.
The ego wants you in thismoment at all times.
(48:12):
It doesn't acknowledge thefuture of the past.
You and I, we've never tasted,touch it, touched, or seen
anything in our future.
Have you?
Think about it.
And in your past, you can't goback and relive something from
your past.
If you did, it would be doingit the second time, not the
first time.
So the ego doesn't acknowledgethe future of the past because
(48:34):
they literally don't exist.
Everything we've ever done,everything you've ever done, you
will do in this seeminglyrecurring current moment.
And that's what I learned fromThe Power of Now by Eckhart's
Holy.
We everything is this moment.
Like right now, me and you aretalking in this moment right
now.
Okay, when I just said that,that's the past, right?
I'm gonna do it again.
(48:54):
Right now, we're back in thismoment again.
Everything again, we're back inthis moment.
There's no future or no past.
And since the ego doesn'tacknowledge them, if you spend
headspace in those times, theego will wake you up from it.
So all 65,000 of your thoughtsthat you're gonna have today,
something is going to wake youup from every single one of
them.
That's your ego saying you'renot present and pulling you back
(49:18):
to this moment.
That's why it's shutting youdown.
That's why when you try todream about having a yacht, you
don't have that.
It's using your subconsciousdatabase to prove to you that
you don't have that, showing youbank statements, you're not
rich, all to pull you back tothis moment.
And so this was a bigrealization for me because I was
I was hating my ego.
I'm like, why do you keepinterrupting my beautiful
(49:40):
thoughts about the future andvacations and money?
But you got to learn yourenemy.
It was my enemy at the time,but you have to learn why it's
doing what it's doing.
And once I learned that, and Ilearned that it's a part of me,
and to hate a part of me isgoing to manifest, thoughts
become things more hating me.
You know, that all became astudy, you know, and I'm still
working on you know egoicstudies now.
(50:02):
But yeah, that's what thosenext couple months consisted of
me coming up with differentmental exercises and finding out
the rules in the game, like theego, why it does what it does.
Um, you know, all those typesof things.
Learning the rules, learningmental exercises.
And uh in November of 2008, Ihad this uh crazy epiphany I
(50:26):
call a watcher.
Um basically, and this is thisis one month before I retired,
and I believe this is whatpushed me over the edge.
This is what got me there.
I call it the watcher exercise.
I'll tell you a story realquick.
I was taking this governmenttest, right?
Now, it wasn't a superimportant test.
I was in a room with nowindows, there was no camera, it
(50:48):
was just one desk, one chair.
I take the test.
When I get up to walk out, mymy foot, I trip over the leg of
the table.
I just stumbled a little bit.
And mind you, no one's watchingme.
It wasn't that important.
But when I stumbled, I feltembarrassed and I kind of like,
I kind of looked around, like,oh, like who saw that?
Like, you know, you just hadyou know, you've ever had that
(51:10):
feeling like someone someone'ssaw you, someone saw that.
We've all had that feeling.
We're walking down darkalleyway, or you know, as your
kid, you're walking down thehallway to use the bathroom at
two o'clock in the morning, youfeel like something's watching
you.
That watcher feeling, everyonehas experienced that in their
life.
And I like to study things thatwe all experience.
(51:32):
Every country, people laugh inevery country.
You know what I mean?
I like to experience, I like tofocus and study things that we
all have in common on everycountry and every, you know.
So I decided to study thiswatcher feeling that I had in
that moment and that I can haveright now, and you don't even
know I'm doing it.
So I decided to study it.
(51:53):
And the first thing I noticedwhen I decided to study the
watcher feeling was that it knewI decided to study it.
I don't know how I knew that,but I just knew that it knew
that I had decided to study it.
And I thought to myself, wait aminute, watching me at all
times, okay, even when I'm notwatching it, because when I when
(52:15):
I go to notice the watcherwatching me, it's already
watching me.
So watch me at all times, evenwhen I even when I'm not
watching it, no one can hear mythoughts.
I'm not a super religiousperson, but this kind of sounds
like God.
And if I'm right, this is theclosest humans have come to uh
(52:38):
feeling interaction.
Like I'm in my mind, I'm like,holy crap, what have I stumbled
onto here?
And so that led to a whole slewof different uh research
projects and exercises with justthat watcher.
But what I ended up using itfor was this.
I'll give you and I'll give youan example.
(53:00):
I had never been to theBahamas, right?
I wanted to go to the Bahamas,and so visualizing myself in the
Bahamas right now, not in thefuture, it's key to manifesting,
is key in visualizing is you'reit's happening right now, or it
already happened.
That's a huge part of uh of youknow manifesting.
So if I'm gonna visualizemyself in the Bahamas, that's
(53:24):
one exercise.
I want a compound exercise.
So I go outside, let the sunhit me in my face, just like the
Bahamas.
This is the second element.
I take my son to the park, takemy sandals off, and I put my
toes in the sand, just like I'mon the beach in the Bahamas.
So now I got the sand on myfeet, the sunlight in my face,
and I've got the visualizationgoing on.
(53:45):
And then on top of that, Ibring in the watcher.
I feel that presence watchingme on the beach in the Bahamas,
sun in my face, toes in thesand.
Now I'm compound exercising, Igot all these things working at
once.
And I started using thosevisualizations, those type of
visualization techniques forretirement.
I wrote myself a check, I putit all over the place.
(54:07):
I had one in my wallet, I hadone in my pocket.
Every time I reached it, Iwould look at my check and you
know, say things like, I'm sohappy and thankful that I'm
retired, how and ask myselfquestions.
When you ask yourself aquestion, your subconscious will
have to answer it.
So when you say something like,I'm retired, back then when I
wasn't, my ego will say, No,you're not.
(54:28):
No, you can't.
You're only 28.
But if I were to say to myself,how would it feel to be
retired?
My ego shuts up, mysubconscious answers the
question.
It would feel great.
You'd have more time, you'dhave more money, you'd be
spending time with your kids,you'd be able to work on these
projects.
So asking yourself questionslike that is a great tool as
(54:49):
well.
So using all these examples wasgreat over those eight months.
But there's no doubt in my mindthat the watcher exercise was a
huge emphasis on what pushed meover the edge of me.
My last day of work wasNovember 28th, uh, 2008, eight
months later.
And I I felt invincible.
(55:10):
I said, man, I can do anythingwith this, anything.
And I just went for custody ofmy kids, no lawyer.
I I've never seen a male get inNew Jersey, never seen a male
get custody of his kids ever.
I went in that courtroom withno lawyer, just the law of
attraction.
Came out with my kids, and Iwas just like, man, I am
(55:33):
unstoppable.
And I wanted to work withcelebrities.
I started working withathletes, started working with
the Philadelphia Eagles.
Andy Reid went to Kansas City,started working with the Chiefs.
They start winning Super Bowlrings and they play against each
other.
No matter who wins that, I geta Super Bowl ring.
It's it's just it's just been ajourney ever since uh of
learning.
But yeah, those eight monthswere were very critical and
(55:57):
taught me a lot about myself andwhat I needed to do.
Because, like I said, themental exercises that Oprah
Winfrey was doing and sharingwith people, I couldn't do.
Because she could say, I'mrich, I'm rich, I'm rich, and
her ego's gonna say, Yeah, youare.
And my ego's gonna say, No,you're not, no, you can't, no,
you won't.
How many people you know?
(56:18):
So that was pretty much thejourney for there.
Dr James (56:23):
I I was gonna ask, how does life look for you now?
However, you told us, which iswhich is amazing.
Um, Neo, Neo, I actually thinkthat that's probably a really
great note to wrap up on uh thispodcast, because it was just so
beautifully put, and I thinkthat that really allows people
(56:45):
to understand some of the microsteps that they might take to
start feeling more in controland start pursuing what makes
them happiness and is think whatmakes them happy, what gives
them happiness and is alignedwith their inner essence, so to
speak, however the flip thatlooks.
(57:05):
Neil, I I I want to invite youto shout out your book one more
time for the audience so peoplewho can find out more about you,
and then also your website aswell, just purely so people can
continue this journey andcontinue to build on what we've
talked about today in thepodcast.
Neo (57:24):
You know, I'm gonna do you one more better.
I'm gonna give every sideeverybody something to start on.
Um, sure.
But I want to start I want todo this little note real quick.
A lot of people I talk to swearup and down that they don't
have negative thoughts.
First step is to acknowledgethat we do.
Self-preservation, it is whatit is, except that we do have
negative thoughts.
(57:44):
Um, but as a starting point, Iwould just say wake up as often
as you can.
I like to rub my fingerstogether.
Just wake up from the rat race,wake up from everything, just
to the moment, this room rightnow.
Do that two, three, four timestoday.
And then tomorrow you may do itone or two times.
So I'd say do it 10 times aday.
Tomorrow you'll do it on yourown three or four times.
(58:06):
Practicing waking up is what Icall it.
Do that first as often as youcan.
Once you wake up, then you cando any affirmation you want.
I got the book is called YourATM, Your Ability to Manifest.
You can get it on Amazon, uh,you can get it on
neopositivity.com.
The audiobook is there, theebook is there, my Instagram,
(58:27):
Facebook.
People reach out to me all thetime with all kinds of
questions.
I love answering questions.
It makes me feel good.
When if you if you hit me upand say, Hey, I'm going through
this, when I when I answer yourquestion, I end up reminding
myself, hey, I should be doingthis too.
But there's so many differentpractices and so many different
mental exercises, it's hard foreven me to remember.
(58:47):
So reach out, you know, go tothe website, uh, thoughts become
things, shirts and merchandise.
These are all reminders.
These are all just remindersfor me throughout the day
because remembering to rememberto do these exercises,
remembering to remember thatthis stuff even exists is the
hardest part.
A thousand percent with lifecoming at you a mile a minute,
it is the hardest part.
(59:08):
So get you put a pebble in yourpocket, and every time you feel
it, do a mental exercise,something like that.
But whatever you have to do tokeep waking up and doing these,
that's that's the key toeverything.
I want to see everyone succeed.
Money is cool, you know, butit's about quality of life.
Sitting down on the sofa andduring the commercial break,
(59:29):
you're smiling at where yourthoughts are taking you.
Driving through tap traffic,you know, you're stuck on a
highway, you're not gonna gethome for the next 45 minutes,
your brain starts to wander.
Have it wander to a differentplace, a good place.
That's the ultimate benefithere.
That is what you want for therest of your life.
Because what trust me, you getyou get all the money in the
(59:51):
world, you'll realize the firstthing you realize is money's not
everything.
The first thing you realizeonce you get money is money is
not everything, it's about yourstate of mind.
And that's that's the numberone goal.
So please reach out, go toneopositivity.com, get the book,
read it, audio book, and shareit with as many people as you
can.
(01:00:11):
That's the goal.
And thank you, Dr.
J, for allowing me to be onyour platform.
And um, I always like to saythis too.
There are thousands, if notmillions, of people out there
that you have helped that you'llnever hear say thank you just
because they're listening toyour podcast while they're
(01:00:31):
driving, you never get to seethem.
On behalf of all them, I thankyou for everything that you're
doing.
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