What We Can Control in Uncertain Times

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The world can feel loud, fast, and out of control, and that’s exactly when we often tighten our grip and start trying to manage everything: other people’s choices, scary headlines, uncertain timing, and outcomes we can’t possibly guarantee. I’m inviting you to take a different path, one that doesn’t depend on perfect circumstances to feel steady. The turning point is a single question: what do I actually have stewardship or agency over today?

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
A deep change in the way that we live requires a deep
change in the way that we think.
I'm Carla Reeves, and this isDifferently.
Happy Thursday if you'relistening live.
Today's episode is about lookingat what we can control in
uncertain times.

(00:21):
Lately I've noticed inconversations with people I
love, with clients, and withmyself too, that there's a lot
that we can't control right now.
The speed of things, the noise,there's a lot of uncertainty.
We can't control other people'schoices or the headlines or the
timing of things or the outcome.
And when life feels shaky, it'sreally easy to reach for control

(00:45):
without even realizing it,wanting to fix and solve and
figure out and predict or manageor brace for what could go wrong
next.
I get it.
And today I want to invite youto think about this differently.
Instead of following the feelingor need to control everything
around you, what if you asked,what do I actually have

(01:09):
stewardship or agency overtoday?
This provides a completelydifferent approach.
And it shifts us from feeling atthe mercy of our circumstances
or what's happening around us toa place of choice and power
about how we move through it.
And this matters more than yourealize.

(01:30):
It's something I see again andagain when I'm working with
private clients that a woman cancome into coaching feeling like
life is so full, and her maybeshe's got elderly aging parents
that she's caring for and caringfor young children.
Her business still hasuncertainty.
Her marriage requires attention,her kids need her.

(01:53):
The hard things don't magicallydisappear in coaching.
But the way that she movesthrough them does.
And what I witness is there,she's calmer, she's clearer,
she's less wound up in fear.
She's not getting bossed andbullied around by her thoughts.
She's more grounded, morepresent, more able to choose.

(02:16):
This is real change.
And it's sometimes we discountthe kind of change because it's
invisible.
But invisible change reallycreates visible impact.
I want you to think about thatas you're sitting in your own
circumstances that maybe youdon't have control over and that
you're feeling saddened orfrustrated by when you change

(02:39):
the invisible things, when youfocus on the invisible things
that you do have power over, theway that you shift those things,
the way that you uh change yourthinking affects the way you
walk into a room.
It affects the way you respondto your husband or the way you
lead your business, or the wayyou're able to sit and be

(03:00):
present with your child.
It impacts the way you make adecision.
Think about it, it even impactsthe way that you sleep, because
when our mind is calmer andquieter, we sleep better.
It impacts the way you pray orthe posture in which you pray,
and it impacts the way you walkthrough the hard things.

(03:20):
These kinds of changes can feelinsignificant or small, but they
are actually life-altering.
So, my friend, if you've beenspinning in uncertainty this
week, may this podcast episodebe your reminder that while you
may not control the currentstorm of your circumstances or

(03:41):
the world, you do have influenceover your inner world.
You have influence about howwhat you give your attention to.
You have influence over thethoughts that you keep allowing
to run in your mind.
You get to choose whether youfocus on the darkness or of
what's happening or turnyourself to the light.

(04:01):
You get to choose your pace,your posture, how you respond,
and that next step that you'regoing to take.
And that, my friend, is why Icome back to writing again and
again.
Not always because I love towrite or want to write, but
because I need to calm mythoughts, calm my mind from
racing too far ahead, to calm myheart from worry so that I can

(04:25):
show up with purpose to my lifetoday and be of service to
what's in front of me.
This doesn't always come easy,and that's okay.
It's worth fighting for.
As you go back into your day, Iwant you to remember to hold
that.
I want you to remember that youhold the dials to your inner

(04:45):
life and you can turn down thenoise on the inside.
You can get honest with yourselfabout what's taking up space in
your mind.
You can pay attention to yourhabits that are adding to your
anxiousness and fear and replacethem with things that help you
feel more centered and grounded.
Write it out if that helps.

(05:06):
Empty your mind and all theworries and fears and thoughts.
How do you want to show up asyou walk through this?
What is the next right step foryou?

(05:29):
So, friend, what if our missionin these times is to find a way
to be steadier in the face ofuncertainty?
What if we worried less aboutthe bumps in the road and
instead focused on gettingequipped for the journey?
I've witnessed it in my life andI watch it in my clients as they
find calm and agency on theinside, in the invisible things.

(05:52):
That work changes everythingbecause as you feel steadier on
the inside, it changes the wayyou show up for your family, for
yourself, for your clients, forthe people who rely on you, and
for the life that you'rebuilding.
You feel pulled in a lot ofdirections today by things you
cannot control.

(06:13):
Let this be your invitation tocome back, to calm your mind,
get back to your breath, turn toGod, write it out, come back to
what's actually yours and whereyou actually have influence
today.
And remember, don't look to theworld for peace.
Peace is found and nurtured andcultivated on the inside.

(06:39):
Thank you for tuning in to thisepisode of Differently.
Hey, if you're ready to stopcircling the same thoughts and
start creating real momentum,check out my coaching
experiences.
There's a 12-week experience fora big shift, or there's a
monthly writing and coachingpartnership for ongoing clarity,

(07:02):
creativity, alignment, andmomentum.
You can find all the details atCarlareeves.com.
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Until next time, stop survivingyour life.
Start creating it.