June 4, 2025 • 28 mins
Weddings bring out both the best and worst in people, creating unique dysfunction as couples navigate traditions, family expectations, and changing technology.
The podcast hosts reflect on how their perspectives on weddings have changed with age and experience. Chrisy acknowledges her "bridezilla" tendencies when she married at 21, focusing primarily on what she wanted with little consideration for her husband's preferences. She prohibited certain reception traditions she found "ridiculous," like the Chicken Dance, Hokey Pokey, and other group dances. Kerry, having been married multiple times, shares how each subsequent wedding became simpler and more focused on the couple's actual enjoyment rather than fulfilling societal expectations.
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DJ Nick (00:07):
Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies podcast.
We may not have seen it all,but we've seen enough.
And now here are your hosts,Chrissy and Kerry.
Kerry (00:21):
Hello, Junkies, I'm Kerry
Chrisy (00:23):
and I'm Chrissy.
Kerry (00:24):
All righty Well, today we're going to do the other half
of family get-togethers.
A few months, or last month, wetalked about funerals.
Today we're going to talk aboutweddings.
Chrisy (00:35):
This is the other event in everybody's life that brings
out the best and the worst ineverybody Weddings.
Kerry (00:46):
Do you have a lot of weddings to go to these?
Chrisy (00:47):
days?
No, I don't think so.
I can't even think of the lastwedding we went to.
Kerry (00:52):
It seems like they come and go in like waves, kind of
like funerals.
You get a wave of funerals allof a sudden and then nothing for
a while and you get waves ofweddings.
We've had our share of weddings, you know, I have a lot of
extended family so but I feellike weddings.
They're definitely differentnowadays than they used to be
back in the day for us.
Oh my gosh.
Chrisy (01:13):
Very, very different, very different.
Like everything else has, Iguess people have evolved.
Kerry (01:20):
Yes.
Chrisy (01:21):
In a lot of ways, and industries have changed.
Oh yeah yeah, just in general,the importance of photography at
weddings.
Kerry (01:28):
Oh yeah Is a huge.
Chrisy (01:29):
That would probably be one of the biggest things I
would have to say.
Probably has changed.
Yes, Because when we hired aphotographer, I got married in
93.
Kerry (01:38):
Yeah.
It was a big deal to try andchoose one and the packages a
big deal to try and choose one,and the packages were not cheap.
Chrisy (01:47):
No, and of course you know I had to go with the top
package.
Kerry (01:51):
The gold star premium platinum package yeah.
Chrisy (01:56):
So, and I can probably tell you what the bottom dollar
amount was when it was all saidand done, probably spent $2,000.
Which, back in the day, that'dprobably be like $10,000.
Kerry (02:08):
Yeah, it was when it was all said and done probably spent
$2,000.
Chrisy (02:11):
Which back in the day that'd probably be like $10,000.
Yeah, it was a big part of thattype of budget at the time and
I mean I wasn't disappointed,right.
And then what's funny is thatphotographer decided that they
were getting out of thephotography business like that
for weddings.
They were strictly, I think,maybe still competing and
entering the photography andcompetitions and stuff, but they
really weren't going to bebusiness like that for weddings.
They were strictly, I think,maybe still competing and
entering the photography andcompetitions and stuff, but they
really weren't going to bedoing weddings anymore, probably
because the writing started tobe on the walls as far as where
(02:34):
this industry was headed.
And they reached out to mebecause they were probably going
through their catalog ofweddings they had filed and they
said look, she said I'll sellyou all of your negatives and
you have the right to dowhatever you want, because if
not they're just going to getdestroyed.
Wow, what's a negative.
Kerry (02:53):
What's a negative?
Does anybody out there knowwhat a?
Chrisy (02:54):
negative is so when you used to take pictures with a
real camera, A film and youactually had to put like the
little Kodak film in there.
And you actually had to put likethe little Kodak film in there
and you would go and get yourpictures developed.
They would also toss in yournegatives.
So if you wanted to recreateanother picture or make it, you
know, another one or whatever,you had the negative to do so
(03:15):
and you had to go to a well,kind of like a lab and I of
course said, well, yeah me,you're going to destroy my
pictures, how dare you?
I of course said, well, yeah me, you're going to destroy my
pictures, how dare you.
So she, like probably 10, 15years after we were married, she
got another check from me.
Oh, wow.
So I mean genius on her part,but she was.
(03:38):
I felt it was reasonable to haveaccess to all of that stuff.
Kerry (03:42):
It was like $50.
It was $50.
Yeah.
Chrisy (03:46):
Oh my gosh.
But I mean, when she figureswhat she made off of me.
Yeah, at the initial go she waslike okay, look at me, I scored
another 50.
Kerry (03:53):
So yeah, the the photography industry is way
different well, especially now,because you know again, when we
got married you know originallywell, at least for me,
originally, because I've beenmarried three times Carrie go,
carrie go, she did, I did Threetimes.
But you know, we didn't havecell phones, we didn't have
(04:15):
digital cameras.
You know, it's like you said,everything was film or Polaroid
or VHS video.
Chrisy (04:23):
Oh, the videography.
Kerry (04:27):
Yeah, so you didn't have everybody there taking pictures.
You know where now?
Now the trend is people mayhire a photographer to get like
fancy photos, but otherwise theyput the little QR code on the
table that says if you're takingpictures, send them to this QR
code and that's, that's thepeople's wedding album.
They're getting everybody inthe room for free to send them
(04:48):
all their picture.
Chrisy (04:49):
It's ingenious, it is.
Does everybody know that whenthey get invited to a wedding,
they're also there to work?
Kerry (04:55):
Yeah, they got to earn their dinner, I guess.
Chrisy (04:59):
And you know, I don't know if that affects the gift
you give, but you know, hey,look at, I took all these
pictures, you know this, offyour gift, you know.
But right, yeah, maybe that'swhy we, if we, might have been
getting invited to weddings.
Kerry (05:14):
But I just said to myself you know what, that's too much
work, I don't feel like too muchpressure, I don't want to take
pictures, you know take pictures, you know Well, and then
nowadays you have because youknow, and this is where society
can get so dysfunctional, likethere's just a time and a place
for things.
I've been to many weddings alsowhere they have said no cell
(05:35):
phones because they don't wantthe picture of the bride coming
down the aisle.
They want the picture.
You know.
They want the picture of thebride coming down the aisle,
beautiful, with all the pews orseats decorated and everything.
But what do they got?
They have 70 people with a cellphone in front of there because
everyone's trying to reach outand get that same shot.
Chrisy (05:55):
But now you have all these cameras.
I thought of that.
Yeah, it would be a totalproblem.
Kerry (05:59):
Yeah, so again, because people can't just be like, hey,
you know, enjoy the moment that,let the professional
photographer take that picture.
You know, save your picturesfor the impromptu or the candid,
you know, drunk person orwhatever.
Chrisy (06:19):
The cousin that's over there flopped out, passed out
somewhere.
That's the fun picture.
Kerry (06:26):
Right, that would be my goal, right, exactly.
Or you know, video the thefight in the parking lot
countdown to tony passing outeverybody so but you know, like
we talked about in our, our promepisode, it, this, it.
This is where this level two is.
So we have our proms andplanning that event.
Now we've got weddings.
(06:47):
You know, prom prepped us forthe wedding.
So now the dysfunctioncontinues on the expectations
and the oh, I'm breathing heavyagain.
Did you just see that?
I'm just thinking about this.
I'm having anxiety.
Chrisy (06:59):
Well, the one thing I have to say I'm probably glad
about that there wasn'tavailable back when I got
married and for you, uh also isthese tv shows, these reality
shows that, oh yeah, with the,the dress, the perfect dress,
right, and finding and dealingwith brides who are just total
monsters, and so that I wouldhave to imagine that adds a lot
(07:22):
of anxiety that is sounnecessary because you already
got the anxiety.
Kerry (07:26):
Exactly.
Chrisy (07:27):
Yes, I got engaged young , yes, and got married pretty
young.
We were 19 when we got engaged,21 when we got married.
A lot of people, I think, had aproblem with that and weren't
shy about expressing thatfeeling.
Oh yeah, with that and weren'tshy about expressing that
(07:48):
feeling.
But the one thing and I guess Ido have some hostility about it
is when people go to pick, whena bride goes to pick out her
dress, it's usually an event forher to share with mom, maybe
siblings, her bridesmaids.
They do it all together and Idon't want any pity here because
I mean, if you guys havelistened long enough, you know
that probably, the way mypersonality is, I might have
(08:10):
been better off anyhow, but Idid all that alone.
Kerry (08:13):
I'm shocked at that.
I really I, when you said thatearlier, I was kind of shocked
by that, just knowing your momand how involved she could be at
times like how your stage mom,you know, like that kind of
thing, where she, you know, Iwas shocked that she didn't go
with you.
Chrisy (08:28):
Yeah, maybe because she realized the wedding meant she
wasn't probably pursuing thatfamous singer that I wanted her
to be, so she was pouting.
I don't know that she waspouting.
Kerry (08:39):
I guess I'm trying to understand it, right.
Chrisy (08:42):
But I never questioned her about it or asked.
She did come with me to get myveil.
This is a funny story.
I had my veil made by a shopthat the women handmade your
veil.
Kerry (08:55):
Right.
Chrisy (08:56):
So I, you know, invested in the dress also, but she did
come to that.
What's hilarious is it was thisbeautiful boutique, I mean, and
they had, like these glassdoors on it.
Oh, chrissy, well, my mom, she,she walked into the door just
(09:17):
cleaned the windows because itwas like they were real fancy.
They were always cleaningeverything in there and she
totally bonked into it Becauseit was so clean.
It didn't look like it was eventhere, and I think all those
women at that hoity-toityboutique were like running over
there with rags.
Kerry (09:36):
She didn't get hurt, did she?
Chrisy (09:38):
No, no, poor Jaina.
Kerry (09:39):
It's like when a bird flies in the air, chrissy.
Chrisy (09:44):
Boy and then, of course, me.
I was like, oh my God, mom,it's so embarrassing.
How can you do this to me?
Look at the big smudge mark onthe window, chrissy.
Well, at least she came forthat.
Kerry (09:58):
Yeah, she came, there you go, there you go.
Chrisy (10:00):
But yeah so, and I also just had a lot of family drama.
Kerry (10:06):
Yeah.
Chrisy (10:06):
Because I had very opinionated people that were
closely related to this and werenot shy about expressing their
concern Right.
Kerry (10:16):
Opinion.
Chrisy (10:17):
Yeah, I mean I started out with we can touch on this
Wedding parties.
Kerry (10:21):
Yeah Is a whole thing yeah.
I started out with a lot morepeople in my wedding party.
Chrisy (10:27):
Yeah and uh, I still ended up with more than I
probably needed, but like threeor four people how many people
do you have?
In your wedding party.
Gosh, how many was in.
Well, let's just say I probablyhad like what six, five, six
people on for the girls.
Yeah, I'd have to sit here.
Anybody want to sit here andlisten to me count?
Let me go so there is, I havesisters, a cousin, and then two
(10:54):
was it like five, and oh no, six, it was six.
Kerry (10:57):
Yeah.
Chrisy (11:02):
We had us like we had groomsmen matched up with
bridesmaids, but because it wasthe bridesmaids.
Kerry (11:05):
That, of course, were exited out of the thing, so you
started off.
Chrisy (11:09):
Oh no, you had more.
We had more than that.
Oh, I know, we had more, like10.
Oh geez.
And then it went to six.
But we didn't know what to dowith these poor men Guys that
they're.
They were groomsmen.
They got reduced to ushersbecause they had no partner.
So that was fun.
But let's talk about why.
Kerry (11:35):
I don't know, by today's standards, if they put a lot of
people in wedding parties, butit was something like when you
so my first wedding, I thinkthat I had.
I want to say there wasprobably five or six, but
honestly I don't think any ofthem I keep in touch with.
I mean, I think on facebookthere's a couple, but that we
went to high school with thesecond wedding.
We just had a couple that stoodup for like a I was at that one
yes.
And then the third one.
(11:55):
Yeah, it was just just us andyou know, I think jim's son,
jason, stood up for him, andthen I had my best friend on.
Yeah, we didn't do the wholewedding party thing.
I think we realized that, yeah,the first one was the big
all-out extravaganza and thesecond one we realized we don't
need to do all that simple inthe park yeah and then the third
one was kind of a mix inbetween.
We had a little bit of a party,like you know, socializing.
Chrisy (12:19):
We was at one of the hotels in las vegas, in their
chapel so well, you are askingfor a lot of trouble with these
large wedding yes, you areespecially and I don't mean to
be, you know, crapping on thewomen in the park, but generally
they're going to be the onesthat you know.
Kerry (12:33):
Start the drama.
Start the dysfunction.
Chrisy (12:35):
I have a problem, you know.
I remember hearing complaintsabout the expense of the dress I
picked out and then having tohave them schedule their
fittings and then tell them.
We used to have to tell themyou have to go to this place,
probably to get your shoes,because they will make sure that
the shoes will match your dressRight, and then you got to buy
gifts for these people.
Kerry (12:55):
Yeah.
Chrisy (12:55):
Or at least that was a thing For your bridal party.
You bought a gift, you know,and you got to try and find the
perfect thing for that.
Kerry (13:03):
Yeah, it's a, it's a, it's a lot.
Chrisy (13:04):
As if you're not already under a ton of pressure.
Kerry (13:06):
Oh, I know it, it's crazy .
It's crazy.
If you were to do it again,what would you, knowing what you
know now, what would you do?
It would be very different.
Yeah.
Chrisy (13:15):
Get married at 21 and just having.
I know everybody says you stillhave that horrible ego
personality going and to someextent I do, but you wouldn't
have wanted to know I would talkabout I was toxic.
We talk about toxic people.
Kerry (13:29):
I was a toxic person.
Chrisy (13:30):
I mean, I probably was, because I just, you know, didn't
care what you thought.
This is how I thought myfeelings, my thoughts are what
matters.
I wouldn't say I was abridezilla, but I definitely
just you know it was your way orthe highway, and that was.
It was pretty much what Iwanted and I pretty much did get
at that moment.
Yeah, I got the wedding Iwanted.
(13:50):
I wanted the big monster,beautiful, expensive dress with
the handmade veil.
I wanted the extravagant churchand even though I'm not
religious but went to Catholicschool, but that was also right,
that was what was expected ofus and that's what I felt like.
Kerry (14:08):
I was like oh, this is what you have to do, this is
what it is, and that's why Ikind of love nowadays that
people really have takenweddings and they really have
broken against the grain andthey've done their own thing.
You have these themed weddingsor they, you know, elope or have
a what do they call it when yougo away for a wedding
(14:28):
Destination, destination, yes,destination, wedding, or
whatever you know, because, like, I didn't even think any of
that was possible back when Ifirst got married.
Chrisy (14:36):
No, because I mean eloping was or maybe going to a
little bit of a destination, butnothing on the level that they
do now.
Right, right, no, my weddingwas very textbook Traditional
Princess, you know church, tonsof guests, way too many people
invited in the you know the hall.
(14:56):
Yeah, it just it wasn't.
And I always talked to myhusband about you know, we were
young and that's what I wanted.
I did I ever asked him what hewanted.
No, no.
Kerry (15:08):
Nick's shaking his head.
You want?
Chrisy (15:10):
me, which means that you want what I want.
There you go.
Kerry (15:13):
That's the end of it there therein lies the beginning
of the dysfunction marriages.
Chrisy (15:18):
But if I I didn't talk to him later, on, 10 years maybe
, or even sooner, if we were toget married, uh, a little older.
I would have wanted somethingway more simple.
Yeah, and you know, not as manyguests, maybe more in the
evening.
Yeah, like, well, you talkedabout what the funeral situation
(15:39):
was, where they, back in theday, they had all these
different times for callinghours and then the church and
then the meal afterwards.
Yes, and that sort of has, youknow, morphed into something
which I think is more manageable.
Yeah, same thing with weddings.
You would get married, somepeople would have a breakfast
and then you would have thechurch, usually in the early
(16:00):
afternoon, then you'd have thiswindow of time Now you generally
would go and take like we wouldgo to the park and take
pictures.
Kerry (16:09):
But what are your guests doing for those three hours
Mangling?
Chrisy (16:13):
around, they go somewhere, they go home, I guess
.
And then you had evening peoplewho were guests.
Usually they had, like, I know,my mother had a dress that was
for the earlier ceremony andthen it turned into more of an
evening type thing for that Huhand so yeah.
And then you had the receptionat night, and then some people,
(16:34):
even the day before they leavefor their honeymoon or whatever,
they'd have another breakfastor something early on.
The rehearsal dinner was thenight before.
Kerry (16:41):
Oh my gosh yes.
Chrisy (16:43):
I mean, I'm guessing people still have some of this
to some extent.
But I think it has reallychanged.
It has, and I just would have.
If I were to get married now,or even 10 or 15 years ago, I
would have liked to have justhad everything kind of in a
block.
That was close.
Yes, that didn't.
Kerry (17:00):
Yes, completely monopolize your whole day, right
and that's how it was forwedding number two and three for
me.
So, because it was the samething I remember the big thing
about the big first wedding wasjust that I didn't get it was,
you do all this planning andyou're doing all this but you
don't really get to enjoy that.
You don't get to enjoy much ofit.
It's just like you're usheredhere.
(17:20):
You got to do this, you got todo this, and now we have this
and now we have pictures and yougot to visit all the you know
180 people that you invited orwhatever you didn't, just to get
to enjoy.
And that's what I enjoyed about, especially when Jim and I got
married.
We got, we had 50 people.
There was, you know, weddinglittle reception the next day.
We had people over at the houseand it was just nice because
(17:41):
you actually got to enjoy themoment.
It just definitely.
And then just we'll see, we'regoing on our 20th anniversary
now, on our 15th Well, itactually ended up being our 16th
because COVID interrupted it wedid a vow renewal in the
Bahamas and that was perfect.
It was on the beach.
It was just us.
Heather and Andrew were there.
I was brand new out the gategetting married again.
(18:03):
That's what I'd want, just us.
I get when people want to dothe get away from everybody and
not have all the drama and allthe issues and all the yeah.
Chrisy (18:19):
Well, it's good that you were able to have that yeah,
and even if it wasn't yeah, thatin the moment when you first
did it, you had the opportunityto also have like this is what I
want, yes, type thing.
But and then when you getmarried young like that too?
The other thing is is thatgenerally parents are involved
as far as the financial part ofit?
Kerry (18:33):
right to some extent now.
Chrisy (18:34):
Now, my husband and I, we did invest a lot in it
because we were engaged for acouple of years, so we were able
to save, and we did pay for alot of the stuff on our own, and
my father, though, of course,paid for the bulk of the
reception and that kind of stuff, and my father was not shy
about telling you he had rules.
(18:55):
One of his big rules that hetold me was when the at the
reception, when you do thebridal dance and your husband
carries you out, he said Don'tyou step foot back in that hall.
You have to be gone.
Wow, and the reason his, hisargument for this was because he
used to.
He was in police work, right,right right.
(19:16):
Even though he did work atGeneral Motors, he also did
police work.
Kerry (19:19):
Right.
Chrisy (19:19):
And he had worked a lot of weddings and seen this a lot.
He says when the bride andgroom come back, people don't
leave.
Oh, People start drinking evenmore.
Ah and he says all the weddingshe ever worked where the bride
and groom came back and peopleget out of hand, that's when
there was a fight.
One of the ways I remember mydad coming home once from
(19:39):
working a wedding.
He said he knew he was done, hewas getting older and these
guests were young.
He said that there was a fightthat broke out at this wedding
and he kept hitting this one guyand the guy kept getting back
up and my father says you knowwhat I'm done After the second
or third time that guy got backup, I knew I was too old, I
(20:00):
wasn't doing this anymore.
Oh, so what's funny is when wehad the wedding and the other
thing my dad wanted was hewanted to dance with me during
the father-daughter name.
How funny.
My dad was not Italian, but heinsisted that we dance to the
song Speak Softly Love, which isthe song from the Godfather.
Oh, not only was I able, I hada really great band at our
(20:24):
wedding.
Yeah, they were able toaccommodate playing that.
Yeah, but the gentleman whoseband it was and he was the
singer he sang it in Italian.
Kerry (20:36):
Oh, so I had that.
Had that's a good memory.
Chrisy (20:36):
The other thing was the other reason we hired this band
was we were doors fans big timeand they played a really great
version of roadhouse blues.
Kerry (20:48):
We loved that song by the doors is it really we, or is it
you and nick by default?
No, he's shaking his head, okay.
Chrisy (20:56):
I'm not speaking for him right now, everybody but we
love that song.
Kerry (21:00):
Okay.
Chrisy (21:01):
Well, the band never got to it until after we had to
leave and they told me.
They said look, we're going toplay it, but it's going to be
after he carries you out and I'mlike I can't, that's the whole
reason.
But it's going to be after hecarries you out and I'm like I
can't, that's the whole reason.
So I did have to go to myfather during my wedding, at my
reception and we had to askpermission for that one song
(21:21):
from him.
Kerry (21:22):
We said, look, they're going to play this one song.
Chrisy (21:23):
We wanted to come in and just dance to that.
Kerry (21:26):
And then go.
Chrisy (21:26):
So instead of Nick carrying me out after speak
softly, love by the godfatherwhen my father turns me and I
got carried out after RoadhouseBlues and my dress was nothing
but, of course, big dress.
Kerry (21:46):
Big dress, Big dress, big Chrissy ideas big dress, all
tulle.
Chrisy (21:51):
Like just an obnoxious amount of dress and our bridal
table was like sort of the pathwhere he would have to carry me
out, and I said there's a bunchof candles over there, oh God.
And I said, Nick, don't carryme out past that table, Find
another rock.
Because I said if I start, if Icatch on fire, the whole dress
(22:11):
is going and the hair, becauseyou probably had a bunch of hair
I had.
well, my hair was like it wasbecause I had really long hair.
Then, In the excitement of themoment, he totally forgot.
I told him not to do that, sohe did run past.
I didn't catch on fire, Okay.
But what's hilarious is is thatnetting that dress.
Yes, it came down a little bitbecause there's so much of it.
Kerry (22:32):
The dress was just so much, did you fall?
Chrisy (22:34):
Yes, no, he once he was fine on the carpeted part of
inside the hall, but then whenhe hit the ceramic tile that was
in the lobby of the hall, heslid and he threw me on the
ground and landed on top of meand I screamed, which is very
comical, it's very fun, you'llhear it.
Kerry (22:54):
I was going to say is this on video?
It is, oh it is.
Chrisy (22:57):
So you don't see it, you just hear it go.
Well, you see it.
You see a big puff of whitefabric, which is me falling to
the ground, and then some man ina tux just falling on top of a
white.
Kerry (23:13):
Oh, my gosh so.
I don't remember being carriedout.
Chrisy (23:18):
You had, I bet you were.
Kerry (23:19):
I don't remember, oh gosh , you were, I don't remember, oh
gosh, really I don't rememberthat, but I've blocked a lot of
things out of my past.
You know trauma response I knowyou had another role that you
talked about at your wedding Idid you, oh, yes, about songs
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that could not be played.
Chrisy (23:40):
Yes, I did not and I specifically did ask the band
this is the bridezilla part here.
I did not want any groupdancing songs or any ridiculous
in my opinion ridiculous songsthat they do at weddings that
silly chicken dance.
(24:02):
I don't know if they did.
I don't think they did theelectric slide or anything like
that.
We didn't have that.
What's another?
Oh, sometimes they did thehokey pokey thing.
Yeah, they did the hokey pokey.
Yes, why are we doing this?
Why it's so ridiculous At awedding, Aren't you people
insulted that you're asked to dothe hokey?
I mean, have you drank thatmuch?
Kerry (24:24):
that this now turns into a thing.
Chrisy (24:26):
Oh, they're doing my song, the hokey pokey, left foot
in, left foot out.
I got to go All right.
So there's my opinion on yours.
Go, carrie, give me go.
Kerry (24:37):
I will say that prior to my current position I used to
enjoy the chicken dance a lot.
But I have a little thing aboutthe chicken dance now because
where I work now the onegentleman there plays the
accordion and occasionally atevents the accordion makes an
appearance.
Well, for the week prior tosaid event the accordion is in
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the office playing the chickendance first.
Why?
Chrisy (25:04):
Practice.
Why that Practice for that song?
I know why.
Is he practicing something bylike Beethoven?
Kerry (25:12):
What is that?
I don't know, and I know a lotof it is all in fun.
But yeah, I just actuallyrecently had experienced this
where the chicken dance wasbeing played on the accordion in
the office and three hourslater I did another video
because it was still ongoing.
So I twitch a little bit nowwhen I hear the chicken dance,
because it's one thing to hearit once in a while and enjoy it,
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and it's fun and it's quirky orwhatever.
But when you're subjected tolistening to it for three hours
straight nonstop, yeah it makesyou twitch a little.
But I do like.
I like the line dancing andthings like that.
Part of it probably is becausemy husband is not one to dance.
He'll slow dance but he is nota dancer.
So if I want to dance I need agroup dance because I just feel
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awkward by myself on the dancefloor.
But if it's a group dance thenit's like all it's OK.
So I do enjoy the, the linedancing.
You know, do the?
Do the Cupid shuffle?
Do the electric slide?
Do the?
What's that one?
The?
Chrisy (26:11):
Macarena.
Kerry (26:12):
Yeah, there's that, but there's also that other one
that's something brown, it's oh,I can't think of the name, but
there's a bunch of them now likeit's way more way more
acceptable.
Chrisy (26:21):
Yeah, I didn't.
I didn't want this I, but Imade up for it because the band
that we had which you're datingyourself too, but you know that
well yeah because, you're sayingband and people probably aren't
realizing you mean a band likeactual people playing musical
right.
It was like a five-piece bandPeople playing live, not a DJ.
Kerry (26:41):
Playing Not a DJ, just spin and mute.
Chrisy (26:44):
This was a band.
Kerry (26:45):
Yes.
Chrisy (26:46):
And they were very, very respected where we're from.
I'm guessing, do they still?
They don't do weddings.
I don't think anymore, but Imight be speaking out of turn.
I guess I'd give them a plug.
If they're still out there,what's the harm?
It was called the House Bandand they played at a lot of the
night spots in the Youngstownarea.
(27:07):
They definitely had a following.
The guy who was in charge ofthat band wonderful, Probably an
alumnus of ours.
Kerry (27:15):
Or at least had cousins, because we did graduate, I think
, with somebody who had the lastname.
Chrisy (27:22):
Oh Say, last names.
So just lovely and they did notdisappoint.
But I mean, at that time Idon't think it.
Maybe a DJ was something wemight have floatingly thought of
?
Kerry (27:33):
Yeah, but they would have to bring in crates of records.
Yeah, it was totally different.
Yeah, now, my husband, this istheir mix board.
Right, dj of records.
Yeah, it was totally different.
Yeah, now, this is their mixboard DJ.
Chrisy (27:43):
Nick is holding up his phone.
Kerry (27:45):
This is what they use now , and it's just crazy.
I know, I know.
Chrisy (27:49):
Well, do we think we could do a part two of this?
Kerry (27:52):
I don't know.
It's always possible.
You got more.
Chrisy (27:54):
I got.
Well, how about cake?
And these people who go crazysmacking each other with cake?
Kerry (27:59):
all the time.
Chrisy (28:00):
Yep, you know honeymoon planning and where are you going
.
You know people getting toodrunk there you go and I had an
experience where there was aperson in at the wedding that
got very intoxicated.
I can have a quick little funstory about that.
So okay, well let's do part two, then let's do a part two, we
gave two parts to funeral.
Right, I guess you're right.
Kerry (28:20):
I guess you're right, so let's do part two, then let's do
a part two.
We gave two parts to funeral,right, I guess you're right, I
guess you're right, so let'smaybe give a little bit of
attention to this there we go.
All right, junkies.
Well, stay tuned, because we'regoing to have part two of
weddings coming at you.
Yep, bye-bye.
Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies podcast.
We may not have seen it all,but we've seen enough.
And now here are your hosts,Chrissy and Kerry.
Kerry (00:21):
Hello, Junkies, I'm Kerry
Chrisy (00:23):
and I'm Chrissy.
Kerry (00:24):
All righty Well, today we're going to do the other half
of family get-togethers.
A few months, or last month, wetalked about funerals.
Today we're going to talk aboutweddings.
Chrisy (00:35):
This is the other event in everybody's life that brings
out the best and the worst ineverybody Weddings.
Kerry (00:46):
Do you have a lot of weddings to go to these?
Chrisy (00:47):
days?
No, I don't think so.
I can't even think of the lastwedding we went to.
Kerry (00:52):
It seems like they come and go in like waves, kind of
like funerals.
You get a wave of funerals allof a sudden and then nothing for
a while and you get waves ofweddings.
We've had our share of weddings, you know, I have a lot of
extended family so but I feellike weddings.
They're definitely differentnowadays than they used to be
back in the day for us.
Oh my gosh.
Chrisy (01:13):
Very, very different, very different.
Like everything else has, Iguess people have evolved.
Kerry (01:20):
Yes.
Chrisy (01:21):
In a lot of ways, and industries have changed.
Oh yeah yeah, just in general,the importance of photography at
weddings.
Kerry (01:28):
Oh yeah Is a huge.
Chrisy (01:29):
That would probably be one of the biggest things I
would have to say.
Probably has changed.
Yes, Because when we hired aphotographer, I got married in
93.
Kerry (01:38):
Yeah.
It was a big deal to try andchoose one and the packages a
big deal to try and choose one,and the packages were not cheap.
Chrisy (01:47):
No, and of course you know I had to go with the top
package.
Kerry (01:51):
The gold star premium platinum package yeah.
Chrisy (01:56):
So, and I can probably tell you what the bottom dollar
amount was when it was all saidand done, probably spent $2,000.
Which, back in the day, that'dprobably be like $10,000.
Kerry (02:08):
Yeah, it was when it was all said and done probably spent
$2,000.
Chrisy (02:11):
Which back in the day that'd probably be like $10,000.
Yeah, it was a big part of thattype of budget at the time and
I mean I wasn't disappointed,right.
And then what's funny is thatphotographer decided that they
were getting out of thephotography business like that
for weddings.
They were strictly, I think,maybe still competing and
entering the photography andcompetitions and stuff, but they
really weren't going to bebusiness like that for weddings.
They were strictly, I think,maybe still competing and
entering the photography andcompetitions and stuff, but they
really weren't going to bedoing weddings anymore, probably
because the writing started tobe on the walls as far as where
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this industry was headed.
And they reached out to mebecause they were probably going
through their catalog ofweddings they had filed and they
said look, she said I'll sellyou all of your negatives and
you have the right to dowhatever you want, because if
not they're just going to getdestroyed.
Wow, what's a negative.
Kerry (02:53):
What's a negative?
Does anybody out there knowwhat a?
Chrisy (02:54):
negative is so when you used to take pictures with a
real camera, A film and youactually had to put like the
little Kodak film in there.
And you actually had to put likethe little Kodak film in there
and you would go and get yourpictures developed.
They would also toss in yournegatives.
So if you wanted to recreateanother picture or make it, you
know, another one or whatever,you had the negative to do so
(03:15):
and you had to go to a well,kind of like a lab and I of
course said, well, yeah me,you're going to destroy my
pictures, how dare you?
I of course said, well, yeah me, you're going to destroy my
pictures, how dare you.
So she, like probably 10, 15years after we were married, she
got another check from me.
Oh, wow.
So I mean genius on her part,but she was.
(03:38):
I felt it was reasonable to haveaccess to all of that stuff.
Kerry (03:42):
It was like $50.
It was $50.
Yeah.
Chrisy (03:46):
Oh my gosh.
But I mean, when she figureswhat she made off of me.
Yeah, at the initial go she waslike okay, look at me, I scored
another 50.
Kerry (03:53):
So yeah, the the photography industry is way
different well, especially now,because you know again, when we
got married you know originallywell, at least for me,
originally, because I've beenmarried three times Carrie go,
carrie go, she did, I did Threetimes.
But you know, we didn't havecell phones, we didn't have
(04:15):
digital cameras.
You know, it's like you said,everything was film or Polaroid
or VHS video.
Chrisy (04:23):
Oh, the videography.
Kerry (04:27):
Yeah, so you didn't have everybody there taking pictures.
You know where now?
Now the trend is people mayhire a photographer to get like
fancy photos, but otherwise theyput the little QR code on the
table that says if you're takingpictures, send them to this QR
code and that's, that's thepeople's wedding album.
They're getting everybody inthe room for free to send them
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all their picture.
Chrisy (04:49):
It's ingenious, it is.
Does everybody know that whenthey get invited to a wedding,
they're also there to work?
Kerry (04:55):
Yeah, they got to earn their dinner, I guess.
Chrisy (04:59):
And you know, I don't know if that affects the gift
you give, but you know, hey,look at, I took all these
pictures, you know this, offyour gift, you know.
But right, yeah, maybe that'swhy we, if we, might have been
getting invited to weddings.
Kerry (05:14):
But I just said to myself you know what, that's too much
work, I don't feel like too muchpressure, I don't want to take
pictures, you know take pictures, you know Well, and then
nowadays you have because youknow, and this is where society
can get so dysfunctional, likethere's just a time and a place
for things.
I've been to many weddings alsowhere they have said no cell
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phones because they don't wantthe picture of the bride coming
down the aisle.
They want the picture.
You know.
They want the picture of thebride coming down the aisle,
beautiful, with all the pews orseats decorated and everything.
But what do they got?
They have 70 people with a cellphone in front of there because
everyone's trying to reach outand get that same shot.
Chrisy (05:55):
But now you have all these cameras.
I thought of that.
Yeah, it would be a totalproblem.
Kerry (05:59):
Yeah, so again, because people can't just be like, hey,
you know, enjoy the moment that,let the professional
photographer take that picture.
You know, save your picturesfor the impromptu or the candid,
you know, drunk person orwhatever.
Chrisy (06:19):
The cousin that's over there flopped out, passed out
somewhere.
That's the fun picture.
Kerry (06:26):
Right, that would be my goal, right, exactly.
Or you know, video the thefight in the parking lot
countdown to tony passing outeverybody so but you know, like
we talked about in our, our promepisode, it, this, it.
This is where this level two is.
So we have our proms andplanning that event.
Now we've got weddings.
(06:47):
You know, prom prepped us forthe wedding.
So now the dysfunctioncontinues on the expectations
and the oh, I'm breathing heavyagain.
Did you just see that?
I'm just thinking about this.
I'm having anxiety.
Chrisy (06:59):
Well, the one thing I have to say I'm probably glad
about that there wasn'tavailable back when I got
married and for you, uh also isthese tv shows, these reality
shows that, oh yeah, with the,the dress, the perfect dress,
right, and finding and dealingwith brides who are just total
monsters, and so that I wouldhave to imagine that adds a lot
(07:22):
of anxiety that is sounnecessary because you already
got the anxiety.
Kerry (07:26):
Exactly.
Chrisy (07:27):
Yes, I got engaged young , yes, and got married pretty
young.
We were 19 when we got engaged,21 when we got married.
A lot of people, I think, had aproblem with that and weren't
shy about expressing thatfeeling.
Oh yeah, with that and weren'tshy about expressing that
(07:48):
feeling.
But the one thing and I guess Ido have some hostility about it
is when people go to pick, whena bride goes to pick out her
dress, it's usually an event forher to share with mom, maybe
siblings, her bridesmaids.
They do it all together and Idon't want any pity here because
I mean, if you guys havelistened long enough, you know
that probably, the way mypersonality is, I might have
(08:10):
been better off anyhow, but Idid all that alone.
Kerry (08:13):
I'm shocked at that.
I really I, when you said thatearlier, I was kind of shocked
by that, just knowing your momand how involved she could be at
times like how your stage mom,you know, like that kind of
thing, where she, you know, Iwas shocked that she didn't go
with you.
Chrisy (08:28):
Yeah, maybe because she realized the wedding meant she
wasn't probably pursuing thatfamous singer that I wanted her
to be, so she was pouting.
I don't know that she waspouting.
Kerry (08:39):
I guess I'm trying to understand it, right.
Chrisy (08:42):
But I never questioned her about it or asked.
She did come with me to get myveil.
This is a funny story.
I had my veil made by a shopthat the women handmade your
veil.
Kerry (08:55):
Right.
Chrisy (08:56):
So I, you know, invested in the dress also, but she did
come to that.
What's hilarious is it was thisbeautiful boutique, I mean, and
they had, like these glassdoors on it.
Oh, chrissy, well, my mom, she,she walked into the door just
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cleaned the windows because itwas like they were real fancy.
They were always cleaningeverything in there and she
totally bonked into it Becauseit was so clean.
It didn't look like it was eventhere, and I think all those
women at that hoity-toityboutique were like running over
there with rags.
Kerry (09:36):
She didn't get hurt, did she?
Chrisy (09:38):
No, no, poor Jaina.
Kerry (09:39):
It's like when a bird flies in the air, chrissy.
Chrisy (09:44):
Boy and then, of course, me.
I was like, oh my God, mom,it's so embarrassing.
How can you do this to me?
Look at the big smudge mark onthe window, chrissy.
Well, at least she came forthat.
Kerry (09:58):
Yeah, she came, there you go, there you go.
Chrisy (10:00):
But yeah so, and I also just had a lot of family drama.
Kerry (10:06):
Yeah.
Chrisy (10:06):
Because I had very opinionated people that were
closely related to this and werenot shy about expressing their
concern Right.
Kerry (10:16):
Opinion.
Chrisy (10:17):
Yeah, I mean I started out with we can touch on this
Wedding parties.
Kerry (10:21):
Yeah Is a whole thing yeah.
I started out with a lot morepeople in my wedding party.
Chrisy (10:27):
Yeah and uh, I still ended up with more than I
probably needed, but like threeor four people how many people
do you have?
In your wedding party.
Gosh, how many was in.
Well, let's just say I probablyhad like what six, five, six
people on for the girls.
Yeah, I'd have to sit here.
Anybody want to sit here andlisten to me count?
Let me go so there is, I havesisters, a cousin, and then two
(10:54):
was it like five, and oh no, six, it was six.
Kerry (10:57):
Yeah.
Chrisy (11:02):
We had us like we had groomsmen matched up with
bridesmaids, but because it wasthe bridesmaids.
Kerry (11:05):
That, of course, were exited out of the thing, so you
started off.
Chrisy (11:09):
Oh no, you had more.
We had more than that.
Oh, I know, we had more, like10.
Oh geez.
And then it went to six.
But we didn't know what to dowith these poor men Guys that
they're.
They were groomsmen.
They got reduced to ushersbecause they had no partner.
So that was fun.
But let's talk about why.
Kerry (11:35):
I don't know, by today's standards, if they put a lot of
people in wedding parties, butit was something like when you
so my first wedding, I thinkthat I had.
I want to say there wasprobably five or six, but
honestly I don't think any ofthem I keep in touch with.
I mean, I think on facebookthere's a couple, but that we
went to high school with thesecond wedding.
We just had a couple that stoodup for like a I was at that one
yes.
And then the third one.
(11:55):
Yeah, it was just just us andyou know, I think jim's son,
jason, stood up for him, andthen I had my best friend on.
Yeah, we didn't do the wholewedding party thing.
I think we realized that, yeah,the first one was the big
all-out extravaganza and thesecond one we realized we don't
need to do all that simple inthe park yeah and then the third
one was kind of a mix inbetween.
We had a little bit of a party,like you know, socializing.
Chrisy (12:19):
We was at one of the hotels in las vegas, in their
chapel so well, you are askingfor a lot of trouble with these
large wedding yes, you areespecially and I don't mean to
be, you know, crapping on thewomen in the park, but generally
they're going to be the onesthat you know.
Kerry (12:33):
Start the drama.
Start the dysfunction.
Chrisy (12:35):
I have a problem, you know.
I remember hearing complaintsabout the expense of the dress I
picked out and then having tohave them schedule their
fittings and then tell them.
We used to have to tell themyou have to go to this place,
probably to get your shoes,because they will make sure that
the shoes will match your dressRight, and then you got to buy
gifts for these people.
Kerry (12:55):
Yeah.
Chrisy (12:55):
Or at least that was a thing For your bridal party.
You bought a gift, you know,and you got to try and find the
perfect thing for that.
Kerry (13:03):
Yeah, it's a, it's a, it's a lot.
Chrisy (13:04):
As if you're not already under a ton of pressure.
Kerry (13:06):
Oh, I know it, it's crazy .
It's crazy.
If you were to do it again,what would you, knowing what you
know now, what would you do?
It would be very different.
Yeah.
Chrisy (13:15):
Get married at 21 and just having.
I know everybody says you stillhave that horrible ego
personality going and to someextent I do, but you wouldn't
have wanted to know I would talkabout I was toxic.
We talk about toxic people.
Kerry (13:29):
I was a toxic person.
Chrisy (13:30):
I mean, I probably was, because I just, you know, didn't
care what you thought.
This is how I thought myfeelings, my thoughts are what
matters.
I wouldn't say I was abridezilla, but I definitely
just you know it was your way orthe highway, and that was.
It was pretty much what Iwanted and I pretty much did get
at that moment.
Yeah, I got the wedding Iwanted.
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I wanted the big monster,beautiful, expensive dress with
the handmade veil.
I wanted the extravagant churchand even though I'm not
religious but went to Catholicschool, but that was also right,
that was what was expected ofus and that's what I felt like.
Kerry (14:08):
I was like oh, this is what you have to do, this is
what it is, and that's why Ikind of love nowadays that
people really have takenweddings and they really have
broken against the grain andthey've done their own thing.
You have these themed weddingsor they, you know, elope or have
a what do they call it when yougo away for a wedding
(14:28):
Destination, destination, yes,destination, wedding, or
whatever you know, because, like, I didn't even think any of
that was possible back when Ifirst got married.
Chrisy (14:36):
No, because I mean eloping was or maybe going to a
little bit of a destination, butnothing on the level that they
do now.
Right, right, no, my weddingwas very textbook Traditional
Princess, you know church, tonsof guests, way too many people
invited in the you know the hall.
(14:56):
Yeah, it just it wasn't.
And I always talked to myhusband about you know, we were
young and that's what I wanted.
I did I ever asked him what hewanted.
No, no.
Kerry (15:08):
Nick's shaking his head.
You want?
Chrisy (15:10):
me, which means that you want what I want.
There you go.
Kerry (15:13):
That's the end of it there therein lies the beginning
of the dysfunction marriages.
Chrisy (15:18):
But if I I didn't talk to him later, on, 10 years maybe
, or even sooner, if we were toget married, uh, a little older.
I would have wanted somethingway more simple.
Yeah, and you know, not as manyguests, maybe more in the
evening.
Yeah, like, well, you talkedabout what the funeral situation
(15:39):
was, where they, back in theday, they had all these
different times for callinghours and then the church and
then the meal afterwards.
Yes, and that sort of has, youknow, morphed into something
which I think is more manageable.
Yeah, same thing with weddings.
You would get married, somepeople would have a breakfast
and then you would have thechurch, usually in the early
(16:00):
afternoon, then you'd have thiswindow of time Now you generally
would go and take like we wouldgo to the park and take
pictures.
Kerry (16:09):
But what are your guests doing for those three hours
Mangling?
Chrisy (16:13):
around, they go somewhere, they go home, I guess
.
And then you had evening peoplewho were guests.
Usually they had, like, I know,my mother had a dress that was
for the earlier ceremony andthen it turned into more of an
evening type thing for that Huhand so yeah.
And then you had the receptionat night, and then some people,
(16:34):
even the day before they leavefor their honeymoon or whatever,
they'd have another breakfastor something early on.
The rehearsal dinner was thenight before.
Kerry (16:41):
Oh my gosh yes.
Chrisy (16:43):
I mean, I'm guessing people still have some of this
to some extent.
But I think it has reallychanged.
It has, and I just would have.
If I were to get married now,or even 10 or 15 years ago, I
would have liked to have justhad everything kind of in a
block.
That was close.
Yes, that didn't.
Kerry (17:00):
Yes, completely monopolize your whole day, right
and that's how it was forwedding number two and three for
me.
So, because it was the samething I remember the big thing
about the big first wedding wasjust that I didn't get it was,
you do all this planning andyou're doing all this but you
don't really get to enjoy that.
You don't get to enjoy much ofit.
It's just like you're usheredhere.
(17:20):
You got to do this, you got todo this, and now we have this
and now we have pictures and yougot to visit all the you know
180 people that you invited orwhatever you didn't, just to get
to enjoy.
And that's what I enjoyed about, especially when Jim and I got
married.
We got, we had 50 people.
There was, you know, weddinglittle reception the next day.
We had people over at the houseand it was just nice because
(17:41):
you actually got to enjoy themoment.
It just definitely.
And then just we'll see, we'regoing on our 20th anniversary
now, on our 15th Well, itactually ended up being our 16th
because COVID interrupted it wedid a vow renewal in the
Bahamas and that was perfect.
It was on the beach.
It was just us.
Heather and Andrew were there.
I was brand new out the gategetting married again.
(18:03):
That's what I'd want, just us.
I get when people want to dothe get away from everybody and
not have all the drama and allthe issues and all the yeah.
Chrisy (18:19):
Well, it's good that you were able to have that yeah,
and even if it wasn't yeah, thatin the moment when you first
did it, you had the opportunityto also have like this is what I
want, yes, type thing.
But and then when you getmarried young like that too?
The other thing is is thatgenerally parents are involved
as far as the financial part ofit?
Kerry (18:33):
right to some extent now.
Chrisy (18:34):
Now, my husband and I, we did invest a lot in it
because we were engaged for acouple of years, so we were able
to save, and we did pay for alot of the stuff on our own, and
my father, though, of course,paid for the bulk of the
reception and that kind of stuff, and my father was not shy
about telling you he had rules.
(18:55):
One of his big rules that hetold me was when the at the
reception, when you do thebridal dance and your husband
carries you out, he said Don'tyou step foot back in that hall.
You have to be gone.
Wow, and the reason his, hisargument for this was because he
used to.
He was in police work, right,right right.
(19:16):
Even though he did work atGeneral Motors, he also did
police work.
Kerry (19:19):
Right.
Chrisy (19:19):
And he had worked a lot of weddings and seen this a lot.
He says when the bride andgroom come back, people don't
leave.
Oh, People start drinking evenmore.
Ah and he says all the weddingshe ever worked where the bride
and groom came back and peopleget out of hand, that's when
there was a fight.
One of the ways I remember mydad coming home once from
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working a wedding.
He said he knew he was done, hewas getting older and these
guests were young.
He said that there was a fightthat broke out at this wedding
and he kept hitting this one guyand the guy kept getting back
up and my father says you knowwhat I'm done After the second
or third time that guy got backup, I knew I was too old, I
(20:00):
wasn't doing this anymore.
Oh, so what's funny is when wehad the wedding and the other
thing my dad wanted was hewanted to dance with me during
the father-daughter name.
How funny.
My dad was not Italian, but heinsisted that we dance to the
song Speak Softly Love, which isthe song from the Godfather.
Oh, not only was I able, I hada really great band at our
(20:24):
wedding.
Yeah, they were able toaccommodate playing that.
Yeah, but the gentleman whoseband it was and he was the
singer he sang it in Italian.
Kerry (20:36):
Oh, so I had that.
Had that's a good memory.
Chrisy (20:36):
The other thing was the other reason we hired this band
was we were doors fans big timeand they played a really great
version of roadhouse blues.
Kerry (20:48):
We loved that song by the doors is it really we, or is it
you and nick by default?
No, he's shaking his head, okay.
Chrisy (20:56):
I'm not speaking for him right now, everybody but we
love that song.
Kerry (21:00):
Okay.
Chrisy (21:01):
Well, the band never got to it until after we had to
leave and they told me.
They said look, we're going toplay it, but it's going to be
after he carries you out and I'mlike I can't, that's the whole
reason.
But it's going to be after hecarries you out and I'm like I
can't, that's the whole reason.
So I did have to go to myfather during my wedding, at my
reception and we had to askpermission for that one song
(21:21):
from him.
Kerry (21:22):
We said, look, they're going to play this one song.
Chrisy (21:23):
We wanted to come in and just dance to that.
Kerry (21:26):
And then go.
Chrisy (21:26):
So instead of Nick carrying me out after speak
softly, love by the godfatherwhen my father turns me and I
got carried out after RoadhouseBlues and my dress was nothing
but, of course, big dress.
Kerry (21:46):
Big dress, Big dress, big Chrissy ideas big dress, all
tulle.
Chrisy (21:51):
Like just an obnoxious amount of dress and our bridal
table was like sort of the pathwhere he would have to carry me
out, and I said there's a bunchof candles over there, oh God.
And I said, Nick, don't carryme out past that table, Find
another rock.
Because I said if I start, if Icatch on fire, the whole dress
(22:11):
is going and the hair, becauseyou probably had a bunch of hair
I had.
well, my hair was like it wasbecause I had really long hair.
Then, In the excitement of themoment, he totally forgot.
I told him not to do that, sohe did run past.
I didn't catch on fire, Okay.
But what's hilarious is is thatnetting that dress.
Yes, it came down a little bitbecause there's so much of it.
Kerry (22:32):
The dress was just so much, did you fall?
Chrisy (22:34):
Yes, no, he once he was fine on the carpeted part of
inside the hall, but then whenhe hit the ceramic tile that was
in the lobby of the hall, heslid and he threw me on the
ground and landed on top of meand I screamed, which is very
comical, it's very fun, you'llhear it.
Kerry (22:54):
I was going to say is this on video?
It is, oh it is.
Chrisy (22:57):
So you don't see it, you just hear it go.
Well, you see it.
You see a big puff of whitefabric, which is me falling to
the ground, and then some man ina tux just falling on top of a
white.
Kerry (23:13):
Oh, my gosh so.
I don't remember being carriedout.
Chrisy (23:18):
You had, I bet you were.
Kerry (23:19):
I don't remember, oh gosh , you were, I don't remember, oh
gosh, really I don't rememberthat, but I've blocked a lot of
things out of my past.
You know trauma response I knowyou had another role that you
talked about at your wedding Idid you, oh, yes, about songs
(23:39):
that could not be played.
Chrisy (23:40):
Yes, I did not and I specifically did ask the band
this is the bridezilla part here.
I did not want any groupdancing songs or any ridiculous
in my opinion ridiculous songsthat they do at weddings that
silly chicken dance.
(24:02):
I don't know if they did.
I don't think they did theelectric slide or anything like
that.
We didn't have that.
What's another?
Oh, sometimes they did thehokey pokey thing.
Yeah, they did the hokey pokey.
Yes, why are we doing this?
Why it's so ridiculous At awedding, Aren't you people
insulted that you're asked to dothe hokey?
I mean, have you drank thatmuch?
Kerry (24:24):
that this now turns into a thing.
Chrisy (24:26):
Oh, they're doing my song, the hokey pokey, left foot
in, left foot out.
I got to go All right.
So there's my opinion on yours.
Go, carrie, give me go.
Kerry (24:37):
I will say that prior to my current position I used to
enjoy the chicken dance a lot.
But I have a little thing aboutthe chicken dance now because
where I work now the onegentleman there plays the
accordion and occasionally atevents the accordion makes an
appearance.
Well, for the week prior tosaid event the accordion is in
(24:59):
the office playing the chickendance first.
Why?
Chrisy (25:04):
Practice.
Why that Practice for that song?
I know why.
Is he practicing something bylike Beethoven?
Kerry (25:12):
What is that?
I don't know, and I know a lotof it is all in fun.
But yeah, I just actuallyrecently had experienced this
where the chicken dance wasbeing played on the accordion in
the office and three hourslater I did another video
because it was still ongoing.
So I twitch a little bit nowwhen I hear the chicken dance,
because it's one thing to hearit once in a while and enjoy it,
(25:34):
and it's fun and it's quirky orwhatever.
But when you're subjected tolistening to it for three hours
straight nonstop, yeah it makesyou twitch a little.
But I do like.
I like the line dancing andthings like that.
Part of it probably is becausemy husband is not one to dance.
He'll slow dance but he is nota dancer.
So if I want to dance I need agroup dance because I just feel
(25:58):
awkward by myself on the dancefloor.
But if it's a group dance thenit's like all it's OK.
So I do enjoy the, the linedancing.
You know, do the?
Do the Cupid shuffle?
Do the electric slide?
Do the?
What's that one?
The?
Chrisy (26:11):
Macarena.
Kerry (26:12):
Yeah, there's that, but there's also that other one
that's something brown, it's oh,I can't think of the name, but
there's a bunch of them now likeit's way more way more
acceptable.
Chrisy (26:21):
Yeah, I didn't.
I didn't want this I, but Imade up for it because the band
that we had which you're datingyourself too, but you know that
well yeah because, you're sayingband and people probably aren't
realizing you mean a band likeactual people playing musical
right.
It was like a five-piece bandPeople playing live, not a DJ.
Kerry (26:41):
Playing Not a DJ, just spin and mute.
Chrisy (26:44):
This was a band.
Kerry (26:45):
Yes.
Chrisy (26:46):
And they were very, very respected where we're from.
I'm guessing, do they still?
They don't do weddings.
I don't think anymore, but Imight be speaking out of turn.
I guess I'd give them a plug.
If they're still out there,what's the harm?
It was called the House Bandand they played at a lot of the
night spots in the Youngstownarea.
(27:07):
They definitely had a following.
The guy who was in charge ofthat band wonderful, Probably an
alumnus of ours.
Kerry (27:15):
Or at least had cousins, because we did graduate, I think
, with somebody who had the lastname.
Chrisy (27:22):
Oh Say, last names.
So just lovely and they did notdisappoint.
But I mean, at that time Idon't think it.
Maybe a DJ was something wemight have floatingly thought of
?
Kerry (27:33):
Yeah, but they would have to bring in crates of records.
Yeah, it was totally different.
Yeah, now, my husband, this istheir mix board.
Right, dj of records.
Yeah, it was totally different.
Yeah, now, this is their mixboard DJ.
Chrisy (27:43):
Nick is holding up his phone.
Kerry (27:45):
This is what they use now , and it's just crazy.
I know, I know.
Chrisy (27:49):
Well, do we think we could do a part two of this?
Kerry (27:52):
I don't know.
It's always possible.
You got more.
Chrisy (27:54):
I got.
Well, how about cake?
And these people who go crazysmacking each other with cake?
Kerry (27:59):
all the time.
Chrisy (28:00):
Yep, you know honeymoon planning and where are you going
.
You know people getting toodrunk there you go and I had an
experience where there was aperson in at the wedding that
got very intoxicated.
I can have a quick little funstory about that.
So okay, well let's do part two, then let's do a part two, we
gave two parts to funeral.
Right, I guess you're right.
Kerry (28:20):
I guess you're right, so let's do part two, then let's do
a part two.
We gave two parts to funeral,right, I guess you're right, I
guess you're right, so let'smaybe give a little bit of
attention to this there we go.
All right, junkies.
Well, stay tuned, because we'regoing to have part two of
weddings coming at you.
Yep, bye-bye.
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