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Justin Wenck (00:00):
So today we're
continuing on with the six best
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values to have for 2026 andtoday is number five. And this
one can change everything. It'slikely one of the things that
you've wanted, and you do somuch of your life to get this.
Yet you probably haven't everthought that this is a value
that you should have. So ifyou're ready for the number five
value to have for 2026 stickaround. Are you ready to live a
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life with enough time, money andenergy have relationships and
connections that delight you?
Are you ready for theextraordinary life you know
you've been missing? If so, thenthis is the place for you. I'm a
best selling author, coach,consultant and speaker who's
worked in technology for overtwo decades. I'm a leader at
transforming people andorganizations from operating in
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fear, obligation and guilt torunning off joy, ease and love.
It's time for engineeringemotions and energy with me.
Justin Wenck, PhD, what isnumber five out of the six best
values to have for 2026 it'ssomething we all want yet, so
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few of us actually state thatthis is something that I value.
And again, this is number five.
We've already number number six,which was integrity. And this is
something that, once you saythat this is something I value,
it starts to put a whole lot ofthings in perspective. And so
I'm coming to you today, filmingon location in Colombia.
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Actually, I'm 50 miles on anisland outside of Cartagena,
Colombia, which is on the sortof the Northern, I think mostly
Northern, on the Caribbean coastof Colombia. And so I'm on an
island out in the Caribbean, andjust so important to get this to
you that I am recording it inthis beautiful, luscious
paradise, where, this morning,during breakfast, there was
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something that looked like atiny eagle was just fluttering
its wings and trying to get somefood, and it's just magical and
beautiful. And once you decideto value this value, there's
some bells being rung right now.
I think that means that a boat'sprobably coming in, or
somebody's just having fun withthe bells. So the number five
value to have is joy. And sosome of you might be going like,
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oh yeah, Joy to the world, peaceand joy. But what exactly is
joy? And it's different thanhappiness. Happiness is also
very important. And if youreally haven't experienced much
happiness, it kind of is animportant pre rep to work on
your happiness before you'reable to get into joy. So how I
like to think of happinessversus joy is happiness is more
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of when something happens, youfeel happy, like you get a
promotion, you eat somedelicious food. You know
somebody that you like likes youback. You know some you're on an
amazing trip. You feel happy.
And so happiness is great. It'salso somewhat fleeting. You
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know, thing that induceshappiness happens feel happy.
Thing that induces happinessgoes away. No more happy.
Whereas Joy, Joy is more of astate of being. Joy can be
something that you experience,regardless of the circumstances,
and I'll have a very goodexample of this coming up. So
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it's important, though, to allowyourself to experience
happiness, because it's verythere's some similarities with
with the experience of joy. Soif you don't experience allow
yourself happiness, that is thefirst thing to start working on.
How many times does somethingreally incredible happen to you
yet you diminish it? Or go, oh,well, you know, it's missing
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this, or it's missing that, or,Oh, I mean, I got the promotion,
but what about the nextpromotion where you don't even
allow yourself to experiencehappiness when there's something
to feel happy about. And so whenthis comes to Joy. Joy is a
state of being like you can feeljoy even when awful things are
happening, happening. It reallyis. It's the joy of having this
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human experience. And so reallygood example was flying into
Colombia. So left San Franciscoat 10pm at night, had a red eye
into Atlanta airport, so arrivedlike at 5am had a four hour
layover, was able to get alittle bit of a nap, and then on
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a 10pm flight into Cartagena,Colombia, get in around 215 off
the plane, down the stairs,across the tarmac, wow, it's
hot. It's beautiful. It's sunny.
This is great. And then into aline for for immigration. It's
like, okay, cool. Moving along,moving along. And then come into
this room, and it is just onegiant line, like, bigger than
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anything I've ever seen atDisneyland or any other theme
park. Yeah, it was actuallyended up. Being much longer than
any theme park line I've everwaited in. So it ultimately
ended up being a two and a halfhour wait to get through the
Immigrations Customs, and manypeople are just so frustrated,
so annoyed. Yet I'm like, I'm Ivalue Joy. Joy is one of my
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values. So I'm going to feeljoy. I'm going to enjoy this
experience, which is objectivelynot that nothing to be that
happy about, nothing to beexcited.
It wasn't like, oh, I can't waitto be in a two and a half hour
line. Yet I don't have to beupset or frustrated or mad or
sad or grumpy. I can be enjoyingthe experience. Like, for one
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thing, there was a bathroom thatyou could use a lot of places
I've been, they really don't letit make it easy for you to go to
the bathroom during theseimmigration line experiences.
And then the other thing was,was with a group of people, and
it started to be interestingjust to see, like, well, you
know, who's from where, what'sgoing on. And one of the really
coolest things that ended upcoming out of it was, the next
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day, signed up to do a streetfood tour. So just gonna go
around and have food at variousstreet vendors. But when we get
there, these two women go, youwere in the line yesterday,
weren't you? And it's like,yeah. And where are you from?
San Francisco? How about you?
Oh, we're from San Franciscoarea too, and it was just that
reminder of how much we canimpact, how much we are seen and
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probably by me enjoying that asmuch as I could, being in a
state of joy, instead of being astate of annoyance or
frustration when, when thesepeople saw me again, they're
like happy to see me. So valuingyour joy is not only good for
you, it's good for those aroundyou. I know a lot of you that
listen to this, watch this, areleaders or wanting to be
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leaders, and how many of youthat have other leaders that you
know lead you in yourorganizations, your politics,
your whatever? How many of themwould you say you believe they
actually value joy, actuallyvalue joy. Many, many of you
might have like a spiritualperson that maybe you look to
like, I'll use the Dalai Lama orsomeone like that that you you
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pop in on it every now and thena little bit. But somebody
that's a leader, that'sinfluential in your life every
day, whether you want them to beor not. Would you say this is a
person who values joy, andhow's, how do you feel the world
is because of that. So what if,what if more leaders value joy?
What would you be putting outthere? What would that be like?
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What kind of world are thoseleaders creating? And you can be
that leader. You are that leadereven if you don't talk to
anybody, even if you never seethem ever again. By you being in
a state of joy, you show themthat that is something that
matters, is possible and isworthwhile, and so by being in a
state of joy, you are changingthe world. No joke, no lie,
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that's really what you're doing.
You're changing the world whenyou value your joy. And no
matter what the circumstancesare, it's really easy to be at a
really incredible meal and belike, Oh, what a joyful
experience. Got the people Ilove, amazing food, great
ambiance. Yet when you're in asituation that sucks, right? It
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just sucks, and you can stillfind something to feel joyful
about that shifts your mood andthe mood of those around you for
the better, and maybe thecircumstances start to shift,
because being alive, beinghuman, is not all fluff and
roses and greatness and this andthat. Like there's loss, there's
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anger, there's frustration,there's disappointment, there's
pain. Yet, as the Buddha oftensaid, pain is inevitable,
suffering that's optional. Andreally what that's pointing to
is that you can always have theoption of being in a state of
joy and valuing joy. And whenyou value joy, it starts to put
a lot of things intoperspective. Like, if somebody
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does something that you don'tlike, am I going to be in a
state of can I be in a state ofjoy if I'm going to yell at
them, or if I'm going to thinkbadly about them? Doesn't mean
that you're going to put up withit or stay in the situation, but
how you deal with it, how you goabout it will be completely
different, and you can honor andrespect that person, allow them
to be while taking care ofyourself, having boundaries,
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finding a joyful way tocommunicate it or shift your
circumstances. And so that's whynumber five for 2026 is the
value of joy. And we've donepodcasts about where you know
loss, how you can find thegifts. And so even you know,
when you lose something orsomeone, you can find joy in
that, because it's like, Ah, I Ienjoyed this I had such good
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experiences with this person,this place, this thing, whatever
it was, and recognizing thatit's allowing a shift to happen
that can bring something new,something fresh. Something
different and to and you can bein a state of joy now again,
you're not going to be happy,right? You're going to be sad,
you're going to be frustrated,you're going to be angry, right?
But there can be this sense of,I'm enjoying having the
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experience that I'm having, notletting it knock you off course,
and to succumb, to be at themercy of the situation, but to
really be a master of your owninternal state. And when the
master of your internal state,it starts to reflect in your
outer state. It's not the otherway around, where, oh, when I'm
in when I'm in paradise, then Ican feel like I'm at peace and
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I'm in paradise, because, trustme, I'm here in Paradise, and
there's still things that Icould get annoyed at. I'll share
a couple, you know, that that inthe past I would have gotten
annoyed with, like, you know,there's, there's somebody
hammering, fixing something thatcould be annoying the the meal
times. It's kind of like beingat a summer camp here, where
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there's three set meal times.
Breakfast, 730 to 10. Finelunch. Gotta wait till 131 30 to
three is lunch and then dinner.
Not till 737. 30 to nine. And tome, that's later than I usually
like to eat. Yet. Hey, do I wantto get upset, frustrated,
annoyed? No, I want to be in astate of joy, curiosity, and be
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like, well, maybe there'ssomething, something for me to
learn about myself and this,this place, this island, by
having meal times at differenttimes than I'm used to. So I'm
curious, what are your thoughts?
How could you value joy? Becausethese values, again, it's not
about just saying you value joy.
It's about making choices everyday, every hour, every moment
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that align with your values.
Because you might say, Oh, Ivalue joy. I value integrity.
Yet, if I was to look at yourlife and watch you and see what
you do, I will know within anhour, one day tops, maybe even
within five minutes. For many ofyou, do you actually value what
you say you value, because itshows up in how you live your
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life, how you feel, how youlook, how you treat people, and
what your circumstances end upbeing. Because for the most
part, I find everywhere I go,people are incredibly
reasonable. Are theredifferences, sure, but people
are very reasonable. Very rarelydo I come across somebody who's
just very, very obstinate, youknow, that's an asshole. Happens
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occasionally, and usually lookat, well, what was my part in
that? What, how was I playinginto that and creating that? And
so with that in mind, it can bea lot easier to find the joy in
interactions with people. And ifyou're not finding that. Then
again, it's you look inside andsee what are you valuing?
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Because if you're valuing beingright, being in control, then
you're often probably behavinglike an asshole. Let's just be
honest, and the world is goingto reflect that back and be
harsh and mean back at you. Sothe world is neither for you or
against you, it's justreflecting what you're putting
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out. And if you're putting outjoy, it's going to return more
opportunities to experience joyover and over and over again.
But if you're choosing to avoidjoy, it's also going to bring
plenty of opportunities for youto have harsh, painful,
challenging experiences, and Iwant you to feel joy, experience
joy, and also, of course,experience lots of happiness.
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May there be lots of happy, funadventures. So with that, let me
know what you think. Could youvalue joy? How would you do
that? And I'm curious, what areyou enjoying about this on
location shoots? If you're notwatching this on YouTube,
definitely go check it out.
Justin Wenck, PhD, on YouTube soyou can see the video of this
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we're going to be continuing.
Got four more values that arethe best values to have for 2026
so we just finished up Joypreviously did integrity. So
make sure you subscribe so youdon't miss because if you value
these six values, it's going tocompletely change your life. So
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