How technology, predictability, and the courage of “not hiding” influence the way we relate.
Why does genuine connection feel harder than ever—even though we’re more connected than at any point in history?
In this episode of Facets of Connection, Sarah sits down with writer and systems thinker Alexander Goldman to explore the often-invisible forces shaping our relationships. Together, they examine how technology, culture, and modern life quietly influence the ways we connect, avoid discomfort, and seek belonging.
Rather than blaming technology itself, Alexander invites us to become more aware of the systems we’re participating in—and to reclaim our capacity for authentic human connection.
One of the most powerful moments of the conversation comes when Alexander offers a simple but profound reframe: instead of striving to be more vulnerable, what if our work is simply to practice not hiding?
Whether you’re navigating friendships, romantic relationships, family life, or your own relationship with technology, this conversation offers a hopeful and deeply practical perspective on what it means to stay human in an increasingly digital world.
In This Episode
Why connection has become more difficult in modern life
How technology changes the way we relate to one another
The hidden influence of systems on our relationships
Why predictability often feels safer than genuine connection
Rethinking vulnerability as the practice of not hiding
Building friendships as adults
AI, social media, and the future of human connection
Small practices that help us reconnect with ourselves and others
Reflection
Where in your own life have you chosen predictability over genuine connection?
What might become possible if, instead of trying to be more vulnerable, you simply practiced not hiding?
Resources for Further Exploration
The Interface of Us (Alexander’s Substack)
The Status Game: On Human Life and How to Play It — Will Storr
The Anxious Generation — Jonathan Haidt
Social Health: The Art and Science of Connection — Kasley Killam
The Art of Gathering — Priya Parker
Connect
If this conversation sparked something in you, I’d love to hear your reflections.
📧 sarah@facetsofconnection.com
🌐 www.leadyourlovelife.com
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