Failing Motherhood

Failing Motherhood

If you're riddled with mom guilt, your temper scares you, you're terrified you're screwing up your kids and are afraid to admit any of those things out loud....this podcast is for you. Hosted by Danielle Bettmann, parenting coach for families with 1-7-year-old strong-willed kids, each episode is a storytelling interview about one mom's raw and honest experience of growth that leads to new perspectives and practical strategies. Each week we will normalize the struggle, share vulnerably about our insecurities, and rally around small wins and truths. We hope to convince you you're not alone and YOU are the mom your kids need. Interviews with experts that have brilliant insight to share will be sprinkled among interviews with moms just like you. We hope you see yourself, hear your story, and find hope and healing. Welcome to Failing Motherhood. You belong here!


December 5, 2023 63 mins

Originally aired: October 13, 2020 (Ep. 26)

"You want your parents to be involved in your child's life, but at what cost?"

Both of Jamie's parents are alcoholics and are still in a gut-wrenching divorce that's been going on for years.  She has been working daily to break the chain of trauma, and what once crippled her has made her so much stronger.

"It was a scary thing to r...

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Parents to a 4-year-old strong-willed son and an almost 2 year-old daughter, Omaya + Andrew are here to share the biggest mindset shifts they internalized that made it possible for them to go from constantly splitting up their family to avoid setting off their strong-willed child to watching their sibling relationship thrive and taking both kids hiking as a solo parent!

They reflected on what they've done well to pa...

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No matter the occasion, when buying a gift for the kid(s) in your life, you want to WOW them without breaking the bank or seeing your investments lying in the "toy graveyard" 2 months from now, taking up space or making a mess, never to be played with again.  

I've compiled a huge list of mostly unconventional items your strong-willed child will lose their mind for
, and continue playing with f...

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Today I am talking to Dr. Sara Reardon (@the.vagina.whisperer), board-certified pelvic health physical therapist and founder of an online on-demand workout platform for your pelvic floor and core. She's here to talk about all things pelvic floor,  dropping basic knowledge we all wish someone would have told us by now but no one has.
Together we work to normalize the conversation, not the pain or the misery.


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November 7, 2023 31 mins

Think of literally anything. There's a fantastic children's book on it!

Books can be used to meet your strong-willed child's need for control through a power reversal role, as well as teach them important social-emotional life skills!

I've compiled 29 of my very favorite books I highly recommend to my clients, and have categorized them by  - Offers Control, BIG Emotions, Best for Toddlers and Skill Build...

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Today's topic is a heavy one; dark and possibly triggering...but we don't leave you hanging. It's not one that I would advise playing in the car with kids around, but it is necessary listening if you aim to be an aware, conscious parent in today's society.

Alexandra Stevenson, a former trafficking victim turned activist, started her anti-trafficking work at 11 years old. 10 years later, she was traffic...

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It's HARD + SCARY to unlearn, re-learn, and teach new ways of being with your child as a united front with your partner, improve your child's behavior, and become more and more confident by the day (ESPECIALLY with strong-willed kids)!

What sets the families apart that succeed in truly changing their lives for good?

There's much more insight to be gleaned from the actual journey toward growth than f...

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Motherhood is hard for everyone, so how do you know when what you’re experiencing is not what everyone is experiencing? 

Today’s guest, Becky Gleed is a busy working mom of two fun, spirited girls, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a certified perinatal mental health professional ! She owns and operates a private mental health practice right outside of Washington, D.C. specializing in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders....

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There are likely more than a handful of very legit reasons why doing this hard thing feels even harder for you right now.  

Are you aware of them enough to know how to overcome them?


  • Often underestimated, proven ways your progress has been held back 
  • Why some of the approaches you've been working so hard to implement aren't working at...
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NOTE: This episode will not answer every question you have in hopes of finding the *perfect* formula for managing screens and video games at your house.  However, I guarantee you will see them in an entirely new light one hour from now, no matter your child's age.

Mx. Ash Brandin, EdS (they/them) has been a public school educator for over a decade. . After years of research and starting  their Instagram page @thegame...

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This episode goes out to every family that is trying to break the cycle and feels like it might break their marriage.

There's a vicious cycle that plays itself out over and over like a broken record in these dynamics in ways that account for the inevitable stress on your relationship that is parenting a strong-willed child. 

Not only does this episode shed light on the unseen contributors and look at it in ne...

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Parents to boys age 7 + 4, Vanessa + James, are here to be completely honest with you about how they've gone from regretting their decision to have kids, to enjoying international travel with them, tantrum-free.
They ended up sharing a powerful story about a recent trip they took that drove home so much of the perspective that we need to be compassionate with our kids and their need to make sense of the world.

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We cover a lot of topics in this episode, so buckle your seat-belts. Today we get a front row seat to learn from a mom already wise in her years, Emily Mulligan

Emily is a solo mum by choice to two little girls living on the West Coast of Australia.  She walks us through her journey into creating her family, as well as her experience in discovering and managing her PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a very severe fo...

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August 29, 2023 18 mins

In nearly every coaching conversation this week this topic was brought up so it only made sense to talk about it here!

I break down what's happening if your child is using this behavior often, how to get ahead of it and how to break free of it by putting it in a box!


  • The two likely elements at play when a child is whining
  • Strategies to eliminate the need for the behavior
  • How to talk it out...
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Preterm birth accounts for over 1 in 10 births in the United States. Prematurity is one of leading causes of long term health complications & death in children. Half of all maternal mortality loss can be prevented.

My guest today, Parijat Desphande is working to end this high risk pregnancy crisis so families don’t meet their child earlier than they should.

Parijat is a bestselling author, speaker, consultant, and film...

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While you may be breaking generational cycles, today I'm going to open your eyes to a new cycle you might not even know you're perpetuating.

I've been taking ferocious notes during a new favorite show and I've compiled the key takeaways for you here!


  • How you may be inadvertently encouraging your child's negative behavior (it's NOT by being permissive!)
  • The me...
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Do you feel equipped to prevent your child from being a bystander, victim or bully?

Kayla Taylor is a best-selling author, researcher, advocate and parent. She recently published "Canaries Among Us", an important expose that blends poignant storytelling and groundbreaking scientific research to empower those caring for the millions of kids challenged by learning differences, bullying and anxiety.

In this...

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Unfortunately, your child did not come home stamped from the hospital with the care instructions they need based on their particular temperament.

"Throwing spaghetti at the wall and seeing what sticks"  likely feels more accurate!

If you've been struggling with your child and traditional discipline approaches just aren't landing... you feel like there's something different about them than...

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Are you on the never-ending potty training struggle bus?

I have good news and bad news. The bad news is there is NO one-size-fits-all way to potty train, especially if you have a strong-willed child.  The good news is there is critical insight you can learn today to make it 10X smoother!

After over 5,000 hours of research, my guest today, Allison Jandu created Potty Training Consultant where she has helped 7,000 ...

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There are so many reasons to feel insecure, guilt, shame or fear as a parent. How do you know if you're doing okay or if you need to make a change?

If your child’s behavior is not your report card, what is?

In today's episode I share 3 questions to navigate that help you decide for yourself and your family what the right next step is for you. Many times it's simply letting an expectation go, forgetting about that unsol...

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