May 1, 2025 • 15 mins
The come down after a high.
Last week was a good week; I filmed a pilot, met with a potential new agent and sent a bunch of TV pitches off.
This week’s been a little more trying and I know that’s just part of the game, but I often forget that after a high, there’s a little low and that’s ok. I think it’s meant to happen, it’s a time to regroup, heal, ground and let the good stuff settle in. But being an A-type shark (my friend Jad always says that I’m like a shark and I would die if I stopped moving), it’s really hard for me to slow down, to be ok with the stillness and calm that comes off the back of a win. In some weird warped way, my mind see it as a failure.
So here I am, today, choosing to celebrate the win, sit in it and enjoy the stillness of this week. I’m about to meet a friend and go for a walk around the reservoir, do yoges and breathwork later in the day then do a face mask and watch a Pedro Pascal movie tonight. It’s what I call a “Lola day” time to reset, ground and do all the things that make me feel mentally and physically clear.
When I feel clear, I understand the importance of stillness after a busy time, I remember that there’s always a time of quiet after business in the creative world. I’ve written 11 books and after every book publicity tour I would crash and burn; I’d be tired but I’d miss the business of full schedules of interviews, TV segments, launch parties. Overtime, I learnt to enjoy the “come down” by connecting back into what makes me feel clear; yoga, movement, breath work, cooking a healthy meal, going to the movies, seeing a live band, watching other people live their passions. And then, in those quieter times, there would be a sense of ease and clarity and that’s where I’d find the inspiration or idea for the next project.
So here’s to choosing to love the come down after a creative high. Who knows what creating that space might bring in next…
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to your Diary episode. Here's the thing. I'm a
bit of a nomad, so these episodes come to you
from wherever I'm living or traveling to at the time,
so I'll share with you what's going on in my world,
from book tours, animal encounters, delish meals, nature adventures, health discoveries,
(00:22):
to swimming in Hidden Byron Bay Beaches. Come with me
as I share my adventures with you. Hello, fam, Hello friends.
La Diary coming to you. I've got a twenty minutes
before I have a yog's class, and I thought, you
know what, that's the perfect pocket of time to do
(00:44):
my diary pod and just check in and say hello
with you. So La Diary. This will probably feel a
little bit more like an actor diary this week, just
because I've really been sitting in the feelings of the
come down after a high after getting to film a
pilot last week, and then having a really exciting with
(01:07):
an agent last week or a potential agent, and then
pitching all these TV ideas to a little bit of
a quieter week this week, and it's sometimes hard to
take like slow down and be okay with it when
(01:27):
it slows down, because it doesn't mean, you're not writing
off the momentum. But it's hard because you go from
like busy, busy, busy, kind of like being booked and
da da da and doing things to then like oh wow,
like okay, well we're back to teaching yoga this week,
you know what I mean. It's like it feels slower.
(01:49):
And I journaled a little bit today and put it
on my substack about why the comdowns feel a little
bit hard sometimes after a creative high. So for those
of you that don't know me, I've written eleven books,
mainly in the health and wellness genre. One more mental
(02:10):
health called Philsley Failing after this podcast, but the rest
are all health and wellness books. Because I'm also a
nutritionist and I remember like the week of like launching
a book, or that I'd say two weeks, the first
two weeks launching books. So you've literally got physical book launchers.
You're doing media like TV, radio podcasts, You're signing lots
(02:35):
of bookstock, You're like traveling around all over Sydney or
Melbourne physically visiting bookstores and signing stock. And then you've
got the big physical launch parties in Sydney and Melbourne
and then kind of like the second week after the
book comes out, things will die down. You'll still get
your book stats and your weekly stats, and they call
(02:55):
it book scan, where you kind of find out how
your book's trending and sales numbers and stuff, but your
like go go goonus slows a little, and that come
down I used to initially was really hard for me
to digest and process, whereas now I kind of got
(03:18):
used to it after a while because I used to
bring out two books a year. There was a phase
of time, like a five year period where I would
bring two books out a year. And it's funny because
yesterday I was really flat, not depressed, just flat, and
I forgot that it's normal to have a come down
(03:38):
after a high, and I remember how to remedy the
come down bit, which is what I'm doing now, which
is essentially just doing the shit. I love yoga, movement,
face masks, go to the movies when and ordered an
acting class last night. Things that make me feel connected
(03:59):
to myself. And I have this thing where I have
to watch people living their passion, Like that's why movies are.
Going to a concert or seeing a band helps feed
my passion because I get to see other people living
their passion. So I wrote this actor diary bit. I'm
just going to read a bit to you. It literally
is a quick read, so don't worry. I just did
(04:21):
it this morning when I woke up, so it's literally
like a journal entry. Last week was a good week.
I filmed a pilot, met with a potential new agent,
and sent off a bunch of TV pitches. This week
has been a little more trying, and I know that's
just part of the game, but I often forget that
(04:41):
after a high, there's a low, and that's okay. I
think it's meant to happen. I think it's a time
to regroup, heel ground, and let that good stuff settle in.
But being an a type shark, I know, I tell
you guys about being a shark all the time because
my friend Jad says that I'm a shark and I
would die if I stop moving. I don't know why
I feel like I need to always tell you that
(05:03):
because I don't want you to think I'm a shark
in that like I want to take something from someone.
You know how in business there's a term, oh they're
a bit sharky. I don't mean it in that sense.
I mean it in the sense of like I'm always
have to move or be doing something, or I combust. Essentially,
I'm very much that type of personality, to the point
(05:24):
that I've thought long and hard about getting a shark tadoo.
That's how much I love sharks and oceana life. But
that's a whole other podcast, because, as you know, I'm
also obsessed with ork whales. Okay, so it's probably no
surprise to you that it's really hard for me to
slow down and to be okay with the stillness and
calm that comes off the back of a win. In
(05:46):
some weird and warped way, my mind still sees it
as a failure. So here I am today choosing to
celebrate the win, sit in the stillness and enjoy it.
I'm about to meet a mate. Okay, well I've done that.
Now this happen. I wrote this before I recorded the pod,
But this morning I went out and met a mate,
my mate Western, and we went for a walk around
(06:07):
the reservoir. But we call it the Rezi. And now
I'm about ted to yoaks do a bit of breath work.
I've got a candle that I light for my goals,
which I talked about in last week's pod. It comes
from this candle shop in La where you set an
intention for the candle, you buy a specific candle that
lines up with that intention, you meditate. I've started doing
(06:29):
seven rounds of box breathing every time that I light
the candle, and then essentially it's meant to bring in
what you're asking their candle to bring in. But once
it's burnt out, you take it back to the candle
shop and they bring in a reader and a wax
reader reads your candle very curl, very curl. Okay, So
(06:50):
about to go and do yogs and some breath work,
light my special candle. And then I saw on Amazon
Prime that Gladiator Too is out, and as you know,
I am a huge Pedro pesqucal fans, So it's going
to be a pedro pest gal moving night with a
face mask on and probably my collagen hot chocolate tonight.
That's how this is going to roll. It's what I
call a lull a day. It's a time to reset
(07:13):
ground and do all the things that make me feel
mentally and physically clear. A little asterisk on them mentally
and physically clear. One of the things that makes me
feel mentally clear is also talking with my therapist, and
yesterday when I was feeling flat, I booked a session
with him, but he's away for two weeks, so although
(07:36):
the session is booked, it's not till the middle of May.
So I still need to do these self healing practices
to allow myself to be okay with processing things that
feel uncomfortable, because when I feel clear, I understand the
(07:57):
importance of stillness after a busy time, and I remember
that there's always a time for quiet after the busyness
in the creative world. Having written these eleven books, after
every book, it's like what I was saying to at
the start, after every book, I would crash and burn
after a publicity tour, and not crash and burning the
(08:20):
sense of burnout, just in the sense of missing the busyness,
missing the go go go, missing there that momentum and
that spark. I love that feeling of moving towards a
goal that is aligned with your passion. But over time,
I've learned to enjoy this come down, and I enjoy
it by connecting back with what makes me feel clear,
(08:42):
which is yoga, movement, breath work, cooking a healthy meal,
going to the movies, seeing a live band, and watching
other people live their passion. And then it's in those
quieter times that there would be a sense of ease
and clarity, and often that's where the inspiration for the
next idea or project comes. So here's to choosing to
(09:06):
love the comdown after a creative high, because who knows
what creating that space might bring next. So there you go.
That is that was literally essentially my substack from this
morning that went live. And ps, my substack's totally free,
So just jump on my instat stories if you want
to have a sas because I link it there whenever
(09:28):
I do one. And also and I'll be in my
bio as well, my Insta bio. But also it's very
similar to this all. It's kind of like a diary episode,
a diary check in of where I'm at. I also
mentioned last week I believe that I am and was
absolutely soaking up all the Stagecoach Mumford and Son's content,
(09:53):
And today I found myself watching an interview with Marcus Mumford,
so handsome by the way, but he brought out a
solo album a couple of years ago. I did not
know this, and he said his goal was, I'm going
to set myself the task to write as honestly as
(10:13):
I can and be relentlessly honest. And I was like,
holy shit, that's pretty fucking kill and what a great
way to live. And he talked about at the end
of the album, the album confronts a lot of like
trauma and hard things, but then he talks about the
freedom that comes on the other side of processing that,
(10:37):
and he said, the more focused on what you think
you need. He said, there's something freeing about being more
focused on what you think you need and less bothered
by what other people think of you. And I think that,
like I'm thirty nine, that is like such a great
(10:58):
place to sit. I don't know about you, but I
can always like ruminate over what I said or did
or thought, and it's like, no, like just be honest
with yourself, be honest with everyone else too, but also
like have the courage to honor what you think you
(11:20):
need and then be less bothered by what other people
think of you. There's like a magic in that, right, Hup.
I feel like there is for sure. The episode that
came out on Monday was like a real like passion
and purpose, go go go, let's do this. And I
(11:41):
shared a quote from someone I've been fed on the
pod that hasn't come out yet, Noah Hunter Dorsey, and
he talks about we overestimate what we can achieve in
a month, and then underestimate what we can achieve in
a year. He's amazing by the way, such a little ledge.
I say little because he's like twenty seven Holy mac right,
(12:05):
And so that whole episode is kind of like a
g up and like inviting you to evoke and fan
that spark that flame inside your heart. And this episode
is still that, but it's honoring the like yin to
(12:27):
that yang. It's like the quiet and the calm that
allows the creativity to flow and come. And I think
you do need the two. I think you need the
like g up and the purpose and like let's let's
go after this thing, like let's give it a red
hot crack. And then you still need the softness and
the gentleness with yourself to be like I need this
(12:49):
time to grow, to heal, to process, to work on
myself to be the best version of myself. When the
times are momentum, go go go, you know, running at
that thing anyway. So they're my thoughts. I feel like
I've been quite philosophical, but they're my thoughts. I'm going
(13:13):
to head off and do some yogs, come back and
do a bit of breath work. Got a zoom with
mum later. She's planning an American trip. So yeah, today
is LOLLA day in the sense that I'm just giving
back to myself and I hope that this chat invites
you to do the same, whether it's a day or
(13:35):
an afternoon or a morning where you just get to
do something for you no one else, and coming back
to that idea of freedom where you care about and
you know the things that you need for you, and
you're less bothered by what other people think of you. Again,
I can't claim that, thank you, Marcus Mumford, but I
(13:57):
love that, and I think like that's something that I
want to like lean into, this idea of like this
is what I need right now, and being honest about
that and honoring that and then just letting go of
(14:17):
whatever other people like. Being less bothered about what other
people think of you, you can feel the freedom in that.
So with that said, here's the feeling free. Here's to
freedom and here's to being gentle with ourselves after a
creative high, might I gang, I nearly want to say
(14:38):
number stay then right, Oh hooru, have a wonderful day.
I hope you're like this is little check in big love.
Oh and ps, I tried a really cool thing at
air one this week. It's their coconut milk Sunday Hailey
beeber style with her strawberry syrupy stuff from the smoothie,
peanut butter and chop chips. Yes, wildly as insane as
(15:01):
it sounds. Yes delicious, Yes, the perfect sweetie treaty. All right,
hooru you the best. Bye,
Welcome to your Diary episode. Here's the thing. I'm a
bit of a nomad, so these episodes come to you
from wherever I'm living or traveling to at the time,
so I'll share with you what's going on in my world,
from book tours, animal encounters, delish meals, nature adventures, health discoveries,
(00:22):
to swimming in Hidden Byron Bay Beaches. Come with me
as I share my adventures with you. Hello, fam, Hello friends.
La Diary coming to you. I've got a twenty minutes
before I have a yog's class, and I thought, you
know what, that's the perfect pocket of time to do
(00:44):
my diary pod and just check in and say hello
with you. So La Diary. This will probably feel a
little bit more like an actor diary this week, just
because I've really been sitting in the feelings of the
come down after a high after getting to film a
pilot last week, and then having a really exciting with
(01:07):
an agent last week or a potential agent, and then
pitching all these TV ideas to a little bit of
a quieter week this week, and it's sometimes hard to
take like slow down and be okay with it when
(01:27):
it slows down, because it doesn't mean, you're not writing
off the momentum. But it's hard because you go from
like busy, busy, busy, kind of like being booked and
da da da and doing things to then like oh wow,
like okay, well we're back to teaching yoga this week,
you know what I mean. It's like it feels slower.
(01:49):
And I journaled a little bit today and put it
on my substack about why the comdowns feel a little
bit hard sometimes after a creative high. So for those
of you that don't know me, I've written eleven books,
mainly in the health and wellness genre. One more mental
(02:10):
health called Philsley Failing after this podcast, but the rest
are all health and wellness books. Because I'm also a
nutritionist and I remember like the week of like launching
a book, or that I'd say two weeks, the first
two weeks launching books. So you've literally got physical book launchers.
You're doing media like TV, radio podcasts, You're signing lots
(02:35):
of bookstock, You're like traveling around all over Sydney or
Melbourne physically visiting bookstores and signing stock. And then you've
got the big physical launch parties in Sydney and Melbourne
and then kind of like the second week after the
book comes out, things will die down. You'll still get
your book stats and your weekly stats, and they call
(02:55):
it book scan, where you kind of find out how
your book's trending and sales numbers and stuff, but your
like go go goonus slows a little, and that come
down I used to initially was really hard for me
to digest and process, whereas now I kind of got
(03:18):
used to it after a while because I used to
bring out two books a year. There was a phase
of time, like a five year period where I would
bring two books out a year. And it's funny because
yesterday I was really flat, not depressed, just flat, and
I forgot that it's normal to have a come down
(03:38):
after a high, and I remember how to remedy the
come down bit, which is what I'm doing now, which
is essentially just doing the shit. I love yoga, movement,
face masks, go to the movies when and ordered an
acting class last night. Things that make me feel connected
(03:59):
to myself. And I have this thing where I have
to watch people living their passion, Like that's why movies are.
Going to a concert or seeing a band helps feed
my passion because I get to see other people living
their passion. So I wrote this actor diary bit. I'm
just going to read a bit to you. It literally
is a quick read, so don't worry. I just did
(04:21):
it this morning when I woke up, so it's literally
like a journal entry. Last week was a good week.
I filmed a pilot, met with a potential new agent,
and sent off a bunch of TV pitches. This week
has been a little more trying, and I know that's
just part of the game, but I often forget that
(04:41):
after a high, there's a low, and that's okay. I
think it's meant to happen. I think it's a time
to regroup, heel ground, and let that good stuff settle in.
But being an a type shark, I know, I tell
you guys about being a shark all the time because
my friend Jad says that I'm a shark and I
would die if I stop moving. I don't know why
I feel like I need to always tell you that
(05:03):
because I don't want you to think I'm a shark
in that like I want to take something from someone.
You know how in business there's a term, oh they're
a bit sharky. I don't mean it in that sense.
I mean it in the sense of like I'm always
have to move or be doing something, or I combust. Essentially,
I'm very much that type of personality, to the point
(05:24):
that I've thought long and hard about getting a shark tadoo.
That's how much I love sharks and oceana life. But
that's a whole other podcast, because, as you know, I'm
also obsessed with ork whales. Okay, so it's probably no
surprise to you that it's really hard for me to
slow down and to be okay with the stillness and
calm that comes off the back of a win. In
(05:46):
some weird and warped way, my mind still sees it
as a failure. So here I am today choosing to
celebrate the win, sit in the stillness and enjoy it.
I'm about to meet a mate. Okay, well I've done that.
Now this happen. I wrote this before I recorded the pod,
But this morning I went out and met a mate,
my mate Western, and we went for a walk around
(06:07):
the reservoir. But we call it the Rezi. And now
I'm about ted to yoaks do a bit of breath work.
I've got a candle that I light for my goals,
which I talked about in last week's pod. It comes
from this candle shop in La where you set an
intention for the candle, you buy a specific candle that
lines up with that intention, you meditate. I've started doing
(06:29):
seven rounds of box breathing every time that I light
the candle, and then essentially it's meant to bring in
what you're asking their candle to bring in. But once
it's burnt out, you take it back to the candle
shop and they bring in a reader and a wax
reader reads your candle very curl, very curl. Okay, So
(06:50):
about to go and do yogs and some breath work,
light my special candle. And then I saw on Amazon
Prime that Gladiator Too is out, and as you know,
I am a huge Pedro pesqucal fans, So it's going
to be a pedro pest gal moving night with a
face mask on and probably my collagen hot chocolate tonight.
That's how this is going to roll. It's what I
call a lull a day. It's a time to reset
(07:13):
ground and do all the things that make me feel
mentally and physically clear. A little asterisk on them mentally
and physically clear. One of the things that makes me
feel mentally clear is also talking with my therapist, and
yesterday when I was feeling flat, I booked a session
with him, but he's away for two weeks, so although
(07:36):
the session is booked, it's not till the middle of May.
So I still need to do these self healing practices
to allow myself to be okay with processing things that
feel uncomfortable, because when I feel clear, I understand the
(07:57):
importance of stillness after a busy time, and I remember
that there's always a time for quiet after the busyness
in the creative world. Having written these eleven books, after
every book, it's like what I was saying to at
the start, after every book, I would crash and burn
after a publicity tour, and not crash and burning the
(08:20):
sense of burnout, just in the sense of missing the busyness,
missing the go go go, missing there that momentum and
that spark. I love that feeling of moving towards a
goal that is aligned with your passion. But over time,
I've learned to enjoy this come down, and I enjoy
it by connecting back with what makes me feel clear,
(08:42):
which is yoga, movement, breath work, cooking a healthy meal,
going to the movies, seeing a live band, and watching
other people live their passion. And then it's in those
quieter times that there would be a sense of ease
and clarity, and often that's where the inspiration for the
next idea or project comes. So here's to choosing to
(09:06):
love the comdown after a creative high, because who knows
what creating that space might bring next. So there you go.
That is that was literally essentially my substack from this
morning that went live. And ps, my substack's totally free,
So just jump on my instat stories if you want
to have a sas because I link it there whenever
(09:28):
I do one. And also and I'll be in my
bio as well, my Insta bio. But also it's very
similar to this all. It's kind of like a diary episode,
a diary check in of where I'm at. I also
mentioned last week I believe that I am and was
absolutely soaking up all the Stagecoach Mumford and Son's content,
(09:53):
And today I found myself watching an interview with Marcus Mumford,
so handsome by the way, but he brought out a
solo album a couple of years ago. I did not
know this, and he said his goal was, I'm going
to set myself the task to write as honestly as
(10:13):
I can and be relentlessly honest. And I was like,
holy shit, that's pretty fucking kill and what a great
way to live. And he talked about at the end
of the album, the album confronts a lot of like
trauma and hard things, but then he talks about the
freedom that comes on the other side of processing that,
(10:37):
and he said, the more focused on what you think
you need. He said, there's something freeing about being more
focused on what you think you need and less bothered
by what other people think of you. And I think that,
like I'm thirty nine, that is like such a great
(10:58):
place to sit. I don't know about you, but I
can always like ruminate over what I said or did
or thought, and it's like, no, like just be honest
with yourself, be honest with everyone else too, but also
like have the courage to honor what you think you
(11:20):
need and then be less bothered by what other people
think of you. There's like a magic in that, right, Hup.
I feel like there is for sure. The episode that
came out on Monday was like a real like passion
and purpose, go go go, let's do this. And I
(11:41):
shared a quote from someone I've been fed on the
pod that hasn't come out yet, Noah Hunter Dorsey, and
he talks about we overestimate what we can achieve in
a month, and then underestimate what we can achieve in
a year. He's amazing by the way, such a little ledge.
I say little because he's like twenty seven Holy mac right,
(12:05):
And so that whole episode is kind of like a
g up and like inviting you to evoke and fan
that spark that flame inside your heart. And this episode
is still that, but it's honoring the like yin to
(12:27):
that yang. It's like the quiet and the calm that
allows the creativity to flow and come. And I think
you do need the two. I think you need the
like g up and the purpose and like let's let's
go after this thing, like let's give it a red
hot crack. And then you still need the softness and
the gentleness with yourself to be like I need this
(12:49):
time to grow, to heal, to process, to work on
myself to be the best version of myself. When the
times are momentum, go go go, you know, running at
that thing anyway. So they're my thoughts. I feel like
I've been quite philosophical, but they're my thoughts. I'm going
(13:13):
to head off and do some yogs, come back and
do a bit of breath work. Got a zoom with
mum later. She's planning an American trip. So yeah, today
is LOLLA day in the sense that I'm just giving
back to myself and I hope that this chat invites
you to do the same, whether it's a day or
(13:35):
an afternoon or a morning where you just get to
do something for you no one else, and coming back
to that idea of freedom where you care about and
you know the things that you need for you, and
you're less bothered by what other people think of you. Again,
I can't claim that, thank you, Marcus Mumford, but I
(13:57):
love that, and I think like that's something that I
want to like lean into, this idea of like this
is what I need right now, and being honest about
that and honoring that and then just letting go of
(14:17):
whatever other people like. Being less bothered about what other
people think of you, you can feel the freedom in that.
So with that said, here's the feeling free. Here's to
freedom and here's to being gentle with ourselves after a
creative high, might I gang, I nearly want to say
(14:38):
number stay then right, Oh hooru, have a wonderful day.
I hope you're like this is little check in big love.
Oh and ps, I tried a really cool thing at
air one this week. It's their coconut milk Sunday Hailey
beeber style with her strawberry syrupy stuff from the smoothie,
peanut butter and chop chips. Yes, wildly as insane as
(15:01):
it sounds. Yes delicious, Yes, the perfect sweetie treaty. All right,
hooru you the best. Bye,
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