The last time she was on the podcast, Arana told me about a fantasy she wanted to become a reality. Her partner had offered to help organize it. I told her: when this happens, you have to come back and tell us.
It happened.
In September, six lovers spent eight sultry hours with her in her own home. Her metamours — the lovers of her lovers — even got together separately and made her a cake. The banner read: "Happy First Gang Bang."
In this conversation, we go into:
- How the night actually got planned (and why she didn't plan it)
- What "cherished, not used" actually feels like
- The brain goblins that showed up afterward — and how she met them
- Why safety, in her words, is an inside job
- The unexpected male bonding that came out of it
- Practical wisdom she wishes someone had given her (yes, including the blankets)
Arana is a relationship anarchist, solo polyamorous, a mother, and a professional who runs two businesses and is writing a book. She's also someone who's stopped apologizing for being "a lot".
This is part two of her story. I already have a feeling there's a part three coming.
Previous episode: https://podcast.morganhalebooks.com/2471543/episodes/17725531
Content note: This episode is a candid conversation about adult sexuality, polyamory, and group sex. Listener discretion advised.
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