Today we’re talking about The Slow Fade: that slow, quiet drifting apart where the messages get shorter, the replies slower, and the energy shifts until one day…it’s just silence.
In this episode, we’re unpacking:
- Why we quietly quit people instead of having real conversations
- What’s actually happening beneath the surface for both sides — the Fader and the Fadee
- Who deserves an explanation and who doesn’t
- What can we do instead of fading away
If you’ve ever been on either side of The Slow Fade, this conversation will help you see what’s really going on underneath, and how to move through it with more clarity, courage, and integrity.
Today's Hosts:
- Michael DiIorio - Join my weekly newsletter for deeper reflections and practical tools
- Matt Landsiedel
- Reno Johnston
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Chapters
- (00:00:05) - Gay Men Going Deeper: The Slow Fade
- (00:01:12) - Why We're Always Ghosting
- (00:01:53) - What Is The Slow Fade?
- (00:03:17) - How To Deal With An Uncomfortable Relationship
- (00:08:02) - What To Do About A faded Love Letter
- (00:10:20) - What's The Slow Fade?
- (00:14:06) - Gay Men Talk About Dating Apps
- (00:15:05) - Matt on Slow Fade
- (00:19:17) - In the Elevator With Real People
- (00:20:38) - A Sense of Community With Neil Gaiman
- (00:21:42) - The Fader and the Fade
- (00:22:42) - The Signs That Someone Is Starting To Distance From You
- (00:26:51) - When You're Not Enough, Do You Lash Out?
- (00:28:44) - Fader: Being Honest With My Friends
- (00:30:34) - The Slow Fade
- (00:34:52) - Reno on His Heartbreak
- (00:36:16) - Slow Fling
- (00:37:44) - The Gay Men's Brotherhood
- (00:41:30) - How to Deal With An Avoidant Partner
- (00:45:32) - You Can't Force People To Tell You Things
- (00:46:52) - Gaiman's Brotherhood
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