Gay Men's Life Lab with Buck Dodson

Gay Men's Life Lab with Buck Dodson

Join therapist, coach and creator Buck Dodson (LCSW) for Gay Men's Life Lab, a podcast that extends the brave and bold conversations he’s been having with other gay men for over 15 years about what matters most to us, and how to follow our own paths to feel alive and aligned – mind, body, heart, and soul. Each episode, Buck and his guests dive deep into the issues facing gay men today, including relationships, self-worth, purpose, a healthy body, sex, and more. Together we take an honest look at what’s working, what’s not and what to do about it. We get real with each other, about ourselves and our lives, and we open up about our struggles and our successes. Along the way, we learn from each other and grow together, feeling inspired and connected. This is your Gay Men’s Life Lab. Welcome!


July 11, 2022 33 min

I’m sorry for the podcast silence last month, especially since it was Pride Month. Although Gay Men’s Life Lab celebrates LGBTQ+ pride every month.  In this episode, I share about my decision to take a few months off from the podcast so I can spend the summer soaking up some extra self, relationship and business care. 

I hope you’ll tune in to join me for this relatively brief conversation about my decision. It involves filling ...

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In part two of my pro-dating, pro-relationship guide, I dive further into energizing your dating and relationship life. I cover the key topics my clients and I work on and offer practical ways you can beef up your relational dating skills. 

Check out the episode to hear…

  • How to approach pacing in dating so you can stay “sober” in the early stages of love
  • My suggestion for approaching sex 
  • The communication styles and skills you need fo...
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    In the first of this two-parter, I invite you into a conversation about becoming or rediscovering hope and eagerness about dating. Join me for this deep dive into how becoming “pro dating” and a pro at dating means could radically shift your perspective on dating and creating long term relationships. 

    Tune in to hear…

  • What it means to be Pro-Relationship rather than Pro-Self
  • How to approach dating like you would in a relationship
  • The 5...
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    April 22, 2022 56 min

    Join me for this engaging and important conversation about porn, sex, masturbation, and most importantly, pleasure. I’m talking with Don Shewey, a psychotherapist, pleasure activist and author of The Paradox of Porn: Notes on Gay Male Sexual Culture.

    Tune in to hear Don and I discuss:

  • His journey to being a pleasure activist and Sacred Intimate
  • The integral yet complex role pornography plays in gay men’s self-discovery
  • How porn both he...
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    Join me for this enriching conversation with licensed psychotherapist, Brian Torres, on what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person and how embracing this part of your nature can help you create a more optimal lifestyle.  

    Some of the topics Brian and I discuss:

  • The core traits of highly sensitive people
  • What D.O.E.S. - Depth, Over-Arousal, Emotional Responsiveness, and Sensitivity to Subtleties – has to do with high sensitivity
  • Misc...
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    You won’t want to miss this enlivening conversation about tapping into your erotic energy as a pathway to healing, aliveness and joy. Join me and my guest, Craig Cullinane from The New Body Electric School as we dive deep celebrating our erotic potential. 

    Some of the topics Craig and I discuss:

  • The role of “conscious eroticism” in self and collective healing
  • His own journey from body shame to celebration
  • The intersection of pleasure, ...
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    In this episode, I unpack codependence, developmental trauma and love addiction with Jodi White, a psychotherapist, sober recovering love addict and host of “Journals of a Love Addict.” 

    Jodi and talk about:

  • The 5 core symptoms of codependence
  • How dysfunctional families set the stage for being over or anti-dependent
  • What love addiction is and how it’s different from codependency
  • Developing a Functional Adult Self to care for our “inner ...
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    Gay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as…

  • How to handle conflict
  • Communicating your feelings 
  • Navigating relationship dynamics
  • How to identify your needs and get them met 

  • If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my own relationship...

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    Gay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as…

  • How to handle conflict
  • Communicating your feelings 
  • Navigating relationship dynamics
  • How to identify your needs and get them met 

  • If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my own relationship...

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    February 11, 2022 41 min

    We’re going to mindset school. In this solo episode, I’m riffing on how our attitudes, perspectives and beliefs—our mindsets—make the difference between creating the life we want or staying stuck.  

    Tune in to hear…

  • Buck’s update on his ‘Filling my Well’ commitment
  • How being a ‘design thinker’ can help solve problems and achieve goals
  • The core mindsets you need to move you toward personal and relationship growth
  • How to be curious, try s...
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    January 28, 2022 52 min

    This week, I dive into a misunderstood topic that we don’t talk about enough – Adult ADHD. Tune in as I talk with ADHD Coach and Founder of Queer ADHD, Sarah Dopp, about what it does and does not mean to live with ADHD. Even if you don’t have ADHD, I encourage you to check out this episode because someone in your life does and may be struggling alone. 

    Sarah and I talk about:

  • Misconceptions about Adult ADHD
  • How coming out with ADHD mi...
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    January 14, 2022 52 min

    You won’t want to miss my bold conversation with David Pevsner, author of DAMN SHAME: A Memoir of Desire, Defiance and Show Tunes. Join us to hear about David’s journey as a 62-year-old actor, erotic provocateur and anti-ageist, anti-body shaming, pro-sexuality advocate.

    David and talk about:

  • How becoming an escort changed his outlook on what he means to be a man
  • The missed opportunity that helped him see the cost of being a ‘body naz...
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    December 31, 2021 43 min

    Happy new year, everyone! What were the personal growth and gay takeaways from 2021? What did you learn and how are you going to apply that in 2022?  In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain to share some of my own growth journey this last year and what I’m committing to next year. I’m guessing many of you might relate. 

    Tune as I talk about…

  • Why 2021 was my yearlong “choppy growth phase”
  • Grieving the loss of my False Self &am...
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    December 17, 2021 50 min

    In this episode, I’m talking about coming out later in life and what coming out looks like over the life span of gay and queer men. 

    Tune as I talk about…

  • Why coming out is about more than saying “I’m gay” 
  • How we’re always coming out and what it evolves through life
  • Identifying your “gay age” to decrease shame regardless of when you come out
  • The one thing we all need whether we’re coming out at 16 or 60

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    In this special “Quick Buck” episode, I’m having a conversation with listeners about what’s next for the podcast including the Gay Men’s Life Lab Phone Line! 

    Tune as I talk about…

  • My desire to build community and connect more deeply with listeners in 2022
  • Finding ways to engage that aren’t through social media (which I suck at)
  • My search for an “intern” to help grow our community
  • How to expand our audience and how you can help
  • You can s...

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    Join me for a spirited conversation with Martin Cowart, the founder of Financial Heart Space and prosperity mindset coach as we dive into how he helps gay, bi, and queer men business leaders create financial abundance through spiritual alignment and clarity of purpose.

    Martin and I talk about:

  • What’s at the core of every financial issue
  • The spirituality of abundance and prosperity
  • Connecting net worth to self worth
  • Leading in the “post-...
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    Join me for this thoughtful conversation with psychotherapist, Steve Lapuk, as we discuss his work helping gay men address self-destructive behaviors by understanding the root causes and learning how to soothe ourselves to get our needs met. 

    Steve and talk about:

  • How the trauma of growing up can fuel self-harming behaviors
  • How to use the “Hangover Effect” to determine if you’re self-medicating
  • What a “manic flight” is and why it drive...
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    Join me for a lively conversation with writer, purpose strategist and Sensitivity Mapper, Mike Iamele, as we talk about how his unique process for guiding gay, bi and queer man to live our purpose by embracing – rather than resisting – our greatest sensitivities. 

    Mike and I dive into:

  • His journey to falling in love with a man and coming out to 100K people overnight
  • How knowing and mapping our sensitivities improves our lives, work an...
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    October 8, 2021 43 min

    In the first episode of the Self Esteem Series, I’m diving into one of the most effective tools to decrease the harsh judgement and self-criticism that make us feel unworthy and incapable of having the life we want and need. It’s called Self Compassion and it’s a simple yet powerful practice. 

    Tune as I talk about…

  • What self esteem is and what GBQ men must do to recover ours
  • The reason high self esteem doesn’t always prevent self-crit...
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    In this episode, I’m talking with Paul Bailey, a nutrition coach with over 15 years experience helping gay men transform their health, body and self confidence. Join me as I talk with Paul about how focusing on our mindset, relationship with food and ourselves is the key to a balanced, healthy lifestyle that’s right for us. 

    Join us for a fun and informative conversation that covers topics including:

  • Measuring success without focusin...
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