June 23, 2025 • 17 mins
EP. 83 Be the Leader They Need
The blueprint you create today becomes the foundation your children build upon tomorrow. Are you modeling the strength, faith, and discipline you hope to see in them?
Jake Fine and Braxston Cave dive deep into the profound responsibility of family leadership, revealing how your daily actions speak volumes more than your words ever could. Your children aren't just hearing your advice—they're observing how you treat your spouse, manage stress, prioritize time, and handle both successes and failures. This observation becomes their definition of adulthood and their expectation of what relationships should look like.
We explore the danger of outsourcing parental influence to technology and social media, and why genuine presence matters more than productivity or perfection. Braxston shares personal stories about his family's dinner table traditions, discipline approaches that focus on meaningful eye contact, and the sobering realization that children notice when you're not fully engaged. The conversation includes practical wisdom about setting standards that you yourself live up to, creating intentional family moments, and understanding that your legacy isn't measured by what you leave FOR your children, but what you build IN them.
Whether you're a parent, guardian, or someone who influences young lives, this episode will challenge you to examine whether you're creating a life worthy of being copied. Because one day, your children will tell stories about how you raised them—what story are you writing today? Listen, reflect, and commit to being the leader your family needs.
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Speaker 1 (00:21):
Welcome back to the Go All In podcast.
I'm Jake Fine.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
And I'm Braxton Cave and on today's episode we've
titled this one the Leader yourKids and Family Need.
And I'll be honest, I mean Ilove this topic.
This is a top three for me.
But, as you guys know, as Iroll, today's power five, from
my point of view, starts withnumber one.
(00:44):
Your family is watching how youlove, how you work and how you
lead.
I think the big things here,you know they don't just hear
what you say, they see how youlive.
You know more is caught thantaught and you know a big one on
this is they.
They're paying attention to theway you treat your spouse, your
(01:06):
team.
They pay attention to yourhabits.
You know it's shaping theirdefinition of of manhood, for
your boys and for your daughter,and especially in my case,
right, it's, it's shaping herexpectation of what a man is.
And you know, another piecealong that for our kids, like my
wife and I are very intentionalabout, like holding hands and
(01:28):
hugging, kissing, flirting infront of the kids Um, because
that's the example we want toset.
Like that's the expectation ofyou know mom and dad truly love
each other and, uh, I think thatgoes a long way in in raising
children and I think that goes along way in raising children,
and I think it all goes to saylike you're the first example of
(01:51):
what strength, faith anddiscipline look like in real
life, right, not through socialmedia or TV or whatever it may
be, but like you're the examplefor them every single day.
Number two don't outsource yourinfluence to the internet.
Model it in your home and kindof back to that same
(02:11):
conversation, right, it'sInstagram reels, motivational
quotes aren't raising your kids.
I think it's great if that's asource that you use to to learn,
to listen, to motivate, but ifthat's all you're relying on to
raise and grow up your kids,that's not the influence that
(02:32):
you want.
And I think it's important forus to all just be cognizant and
aware of not being more focusedon getting likes on social media
, over giving leadership at thedinner table, and a big thing
for us is every night at dinner.
Obviously, I travel a lot forwork, but when I'm home, we eat
(02:56):
as a family at the dinner table.
Every night we go around.
One of the kids will pray andthen we always do our happies
and crappies.
What was the best day, bestpart of your day?
What was the best day, bestpart of your day?
What was the worst part?
And it kind of opens up the doorof opportunity for us to talk
through what the kids aredealing with what excites them
and then also what was a letdown, and I just believe that
(03:19):
influence starts in your houseand not on your feed, if you can
do both right.
We've talked about this before.
There's a lot of social mediainfluencers out there that are
doing a great job of showing howthey live their life with their
families and making familynumber one and being an example
of that.
I think that's awesome.
(03:39):
A lot of people also fall intothe trap of focusing more on the
clicks and the views versusreally living by the content
that they're trying to create.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Yeah, sal Frisella.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
He does the best with it.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I feel like and I know you feel that way too Shout
out to Sal.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Yep.
Number three the standard youlive by becomes their
expectation of manhood andleadership.
Number three the standard youlive by becomes their
expectation of manhood andleadership.
This one's pretty simple, rightit's if you cut corners,
they'll normalize mediocrity.
If you pursue discipline,they'll chase excellence.
(04:19):
It's the standard that you setbecomes their foundation, and so
the higher you set it, that bar, the more that they're going to
chase and have an expectationto live to.
And I think that's very, veryimportant.
And I'll add in this disclaimerDon't set a standard or an
expectation for your kids tolive up to that you're not going
to live up to yourself 100%.
(04:42):
Nothing drives me more crazythan you know.
My boys are starting to getinto baseball, right, and seeing
the dads that are there likeyelling at, well, these boys are
young, right, eight years oldand under, and there's these
dads out of shape.
You know, maybe they were greatwhen they were in little league
or high school, but they're outof shape, yelling at their kids
(05:06):
, trying to coach them from thestands.
I'm like dude come on what do?
Speaker 3 (05:10):
you, oh yeah, that's all what you're trying to teach
little little timmy.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
You're not.
I don't see that in you andthat just personally drives me
bonkers to see that.
Um, let's see number four.
They need your eye contact morethan your wi-fi, and so that
one just leads into like yourpresence contact more than your
wifi, and so to that one justleads into like your presence
matters more than yourproductivity.
(05:38):
You know, anytime, you know mykids do something wrong, break
the rules, whatever it may beright, you know we'll, they'll
sit in timeout, and when theycome out of timeout, the number
one thing that's most importantto me is it's not just like, hey
, you're out of timeout, it'swe're going to have a
(05:59):
conversation.
Yeah.
And it's look me in my eyes andthat's really hard for kids to
do.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
You actually meant it when you looked at me like that
.
I mean, I felt it.
I felt it, I mean I sometimeshave to say it like four or five
times, but I'll be like Asa.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Look in my eyes.
Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1 (06:19):
I'm like no they always look away.
Even Andrew does that.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
It's crazy and part of it is like I think it that's
probably just a natural reaction.
I think it breaks them of thathabit of when maybe they feel
guilt or shame to like look awayor try to hide.
And so we lock eye contact, wehave a conversation, I always
give them a hug and then youknow we're on to living life
(06:46):
again.
But I think the eye contactpiece is so important.
Oh, yeah, piece is so important.
And you know again, I've saidthis many, many times but my
wife is very good at like theintentionality around, like
screen time.
So you know it's that's aconstant reminder for me of like
putting my phone away, beingintentional spending time with
(07:07):
the kids.
You know, I I got home fromfrom being out of town for a few
days.
Yesterday, as soon as I walkedin the door, copeland runs up to
me.
He's like hey, dad, can webuild Legos?
I'm like absolutely bud.
So you know phones away,spending time just hanging out
with him.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Being present.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
You know.
Another example of this one iswas at Copeland's baseball game
a few weeks ago and he was outin the field and doing his thing
.
I was talking to one of theother parents.
Him and I were standing in thedugout.
We're talking about the boysand the guy I was talking to him
(07:48):
and I played together in highschool, and so we're talking
about hey, this is pretty cool,they're the same age, they gonna
come up together and and afterthe game, copeland came up to me
and he was like dad, whyweren't you watching me?
And I'm like I was, buddy, whatare you talking about?
He's like no, you were talkingto the other dad.
And I'm like, yeah, I wastalking about you.
(08:09):
But all that to say likethey're always watching, yep,
and paying attention.
Is mom and dad watching?
um because that's what means themost of them right now like
that.
It won't be like that foreveryeah and so taking advantage of
these moments where, like you,just being there and watching
them is the most important thingit's pretty cool and it doesn't
(08:29):
last forever.
Um, and the last one here I putin was attention is one of the
most powerful forms ofaffirmation, and so sometimes
you don't even have to sayanything, but the fact that you
were there paying attention,regardless of what.
That doesn't have to bebaseball, obviously, but
whatever it may be just the merefact of presence and attention
(08:56):
can say a thousand words.
And then, last here, numberfive, is your life is their
blueprint, so you need to makesure you build something worthy
of being copied, and so one day,your kids will lead a home or a
team or a business, and they'lldraw from your example that you
(09:19):
set for them over X number ofyears, and I love this.
I was watching a clip the otherday and it talked about how you
know.
One day, your kids will tellstories to other people about
how you raised them, and I meanI think we all do that oh yeah,
we have tons of stories ofyou.
(09:40):
You don't remember everything,but there are some key things
that you do remember of of beingraised and so, um, even from
like the simple things, Iliterally was just telling my
kids yesterday after they gothaircuts, like I'd rub the back
of their head after the boys geta fresh fade.
You know that prickly feeling.
My dad used to do that to meevery time I'd get a haircut, so
(10:03):
I was telling them about thatstory.
But the other idea that I wantpeople to be thinking about is
that your legacy isn't what youleave for them, it's what you
build in them, and I think a lotof times people will feel like
their legacy are the things thatthey leave behind to their kids
(10:25):
Money, cars, house, whateverbut to me, the traits and the
characteristics that you buildwithin your kids is the greatest
legacy.
(10:46):
Like nothing like pumps me upmore than when you know cope
will do something at school orsomeone will be like he, like I
guess correlating like when hedoes something awesome and
they're like he's so much likeyou.
And it goes both ways, becauseI tell people all the time like
copeland's the carbon copy of mein all the best and worst ways,
but when you hear some of thegood things.
It's so reaffirming that youare doing the right thing.
(11:10):
The last thing here is buildwith intention and live a life
that they can model with pridepride, right.
I think there's a lot of timewe can.
We could probably do a wholeepisode on like some of the
characteristics or habits thatwe have that we learned from our
parents Maybe some of those welove and we're thankful for, and
(11:30):
some of them not so much and Ithink that's part of.
I posted a picture on myInstagram story this morning
about.
This is probably hard for me toexplain, but basically it's like
a picture of a son and a dadand basically they're built out
(11:50):
of puzzle pieces and it's likethe son has basically got all
his full body and the dad'smissing a bunch of puzzle pieces
because he's given them all tohis son and I think that that's
what it's all them all to hisson.
And you know, I think thatthat's what it's all about.
Is a dad or a mom, right?
It's giving all those hopefullythose good puzzle pieces to
(12:13):
your kids and holding on to andnot passing down to generations
of the things that you strugglewith.
Right, they're great lessonslearned, but things that you
don't want your kids to have todeal with.
So that's my power five today.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Well, to add into cause, I have a different, you
know.
You know I'm basically like astep parent, you know, view
Cause, you know, with her sonnot, basically no.
I am, yeah, sorry, coming fromthat point of view, you know,
with her son not basically.
No, I am, yeah, sorry, um,coming from that point of view,
you know, I look at.
I'll just use, you know,baseball, for example.
You know, when coaching him, Iremember when I played.
(12:53):
Yes, I'm going to listen to my,my dad.
Yes, I listen to my coaches,but I remember everything.
My dad said that I was doing so.
So, with him, I understand he'sgoing to listen to his dad, but
there's some things that I needto add in and I don't want to
confuse him, you know.
Okay, should I listen to him orshould I want that kind of
situation?
So I'm like, yes, your dad'scorrect on this part, but you
(13:15):
need to also look into this.
But make sure you always causeyou've even told me this make
sure you always start withsomething Okay, that was good,
but this is also what you didwrong.
So just don't always come outnegative and say you did this
wrong and that's it, becausethey're going to go back and say
, okay, yeah, this was greatyeah.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
But hey, this is how we could do it even better.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Yes, so, and you know with them, seeing everything
that you do, you know with mybrand, I mean this dude, he,
that is like his first thing.
He writes on everything, likehis art folder.
Recently he put you know, bebetter.
He has a calendar in his room.
At the top of it it says bebetter.
I mean he wears the hoodie allthe time and he, you know, he
(14:01):
wears the t-shirt at school andall that.
So it's.
They see you doing everythingand just you know, giving them
that extra bonus stuff on top ofwhat his dad's teaching them I
think is also a positive thingwith that as well.
So, but you know, I always I'mgonna come out and ask you know,
if your kids followed yourevery move, would their life end
(14:23):
up in a place you'd be proud of?
You gotta ask yourself that,and if the answer is no, then
something's got to change andyou got to start something
different.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Yeah, so that's the big part at the end of the day,
you are your family's mainexample of strength love and
leadership.
Yeah, and like don't get ittwisted, like don't waste the
privilege, don't waste theopportunity because it's you
know it.
Nothing kills me more thanseeing those charts where it
shows, like, the amount of timeyou have to spend with your kids
(14:53):
as they get older.
Yeah, man, talk about like adagger in the heart seeing,
seeing that.
Take advantage of it, man.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Time is not slow man, it goes fast.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
That's what I say the days go so slow, but the weeks
and months go so fast.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Yeah, you know a couple things before we end it.
Your family doesn't need aperfect man, they need a present
one.
They don't need a millionaire.
They need a protector, aprovider and a guide and always
be present.
Like what you said you got homefrom being out of town, you
(15:32):
went right to playing Legos.
There's a lot of fathers outthere that don't do that.
So kudos to you because you aresetting the example and I look
up to you, for you know thefamily part.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
So yeah, yeah, it's the last thing that I'll say and
it's it's become like a famousconversation on social media,
but it's when you, when youthink about parenting and
looking back on the way we wereraised and you know, obviously
all of us want to do things alittle bit different than the
(16:07):
way that we were, than what wewere raised yeah, but when you
come to terms with the fact thatyour parents were just doing
the best they could at the time,with the information that they
had right.
So no, none of our parents wereperfect.
We're not perfect, but so, likeunderstanding as you go through
it, like I'm making the bestdecisions I can with what I know
(16:29):
in this moment, my parents weredoing the same thing, whether I
liked it or not, and evenlooking back on it now like
that's what it was, like there's, there's no reason for people
to hold on to those grudges anda lot of people have been
through horrible things growingup but just knowing where they
(16:51):
were in those situations andbeing able to do them
differently and better, likethat's the main part.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
For sure, that's it.
That is it.
Quick and easy, we're out ofhere.
See ya, thank you.
Welcome back to the Go All In podcast.
I'm Jake Fine.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
And I'm Braxton Cave and on today's episode we've
titled this one the Leader yourKids and Family Need.
And I'll be honest, I mean Ilove this topic.
This is a top three for me.
But, as you guys know, as Iroll, today's power five, from
my point of view, starts withnumber one.
(00:44):
Your family is watching how youlove, how you work and how you
lead.
I think the big things here,you know they don't just hear
what you say, they see how youlive.
You know more is caught thantaught and you know a big one on
this is they.
They're paying attention to theway you treat your spouse, your
(01:06):
team.
They pay attention to yourhabits.
You know it's shaping theirdefinition of of manhood, for
your boys and for your daughter,and especially in my case,
right, it's, it's shaping herexpectation of what a man is.
And you know, another piecealong that for our kids, like my
wife and I are very intentionalabout, like holding hands and
(01:28):
hugging, kissing, flirting infront of the kids Um, because
that's the example we want toset.
Like that's the expectation ofyou know mom and dad truly love
each other and, uh, I think thatgoes a long way in in raising
children and I think that goes along way in raising children,
and I think it all goes to saylike you're the first example of
(01:51):
what strength, faith anddiscipline look like in real
life, right, not through socialmedia or TV or whatever it may
be, but like you're the examplefor them every single day.
Number two don't outsource yourinfluence to the internet.
Model it in your home and kindof back to that same
(02:11):
conversation, right, it'sInstagram reels, motivational
quotes aren't raising your kids.
I think it's great if that's asource that you use to to learn,
to listen, to motivate, but ifthat's all you're relying on to
raise and grow up your kids,that's not the influence that
(02:32):
you want.
And I think it's important forus to all just be cognizant and
aware of not being more focusedon getting likes on social media
, over giving leadership at thedinner table, and a big thing
for us is every night at dinner.
Obviously, I travel a lot forwork, but when I'm home, we eat
(02:56):
as a family at the dinner table.
Every night we go around.
One of the kids will pray andthen we always do our happies
and crappies.
What was the best day, bestpart of your day?
What was the best day, bestpart of your day?
What was the worst part?
And it kind of opens up the doorof opportunity for us to talk
through what the kids aredealing with what excites them
and then also what was a letdown, and I just believe that
(03:19):
influence starts in your houseand not on your feed, if you can
do both right.
We've talked about this before.
There's a lot of social mediainfluencers out there that are
doing a great job of showing howthey live their life with their
families and making familynumber one and being an example
of that.
I think that's awesome.
(03:39):
A lot of people also fall intothe trap of focusing more on the
clicks and the views versusreally living by the content
that they're trying to create.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Yeah, sal Frisella.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
He does the best with it.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I feel like and I know you feel that way too Shout
out to Sal.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Yep.
Number three the standard youlive by becomes their
expectation of manhood andleadership.
Number three the standard youlive by becomes their
expectation of manhood andleadership.
This one's pretty simple, rightit's if you cut corners,
they'll normalize mediocrity.
If you pursue discipline,they'll chase excellence.
(04:19):
It's the standard that you setbecomes their foundation, and so
the higher you set it, that bar, the more that they're going to
chase and have an expectationto live to.
And I think that's very, veryimportant.
And I'll add in this disclaimerDon't set a standard or an
expectation for your kids tolive up to that you're not going
to live up to yourself 100%.
(04:42):
Nothing drives me more crazythan you know.
My boys are starting to getinto baseball, right, and seeing
the dads that are there likeyelling at, well, these boys are
young, right, eight years oldand under, and there's these
dads out of shape.
You know, maybe they were greatwhen they were in little league
or high school, but they're outof shape, yelling at their kids
(05:06):
, trying to coach them from thestands.
I'm like dude come on what do?
Speaker 3 (05:10):
you, oh yeah, that's all what you're trying to teach
little little timmy.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
You're not.
I don't see that in you andthat just personally drives me
bonkers to see that.
Um, let's see number four.
They need your eye contact morethan your wi-fi, and so that
one just leads into like yourpresence contact more than your
wifi, and so to that one justleads into like your presence
matters more than yourproductivity.
(05:38):
You know, anytime, you know mykids do something wrong, break
the rules, whatever it may beright, you know we'll, they'll
sit in timeout, and when theycome out of timeout, the number
one thing that's most importantto me is it's not just like, hey
, you're out of timeout, it'swe're going to have a
(05:59):
conversation.
Yeah.
And it's look me in my eyes andthat's really hard for kids to
do.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
You actually meant it when you looked at me like that
.
I mean, I felt it.
I felt it, I mean I sometimeshave to say it like four or five
times, but I'll be like Asa.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Look in my eyes.
Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1 (06:19):
I'm like no they always look away.
Even Andrew does that.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
It's crazy and part of it is like I think it that's
probably just a natural reaction.
I think it breaks them of thathabit of when maybe they feel
guilt or shame to like look awayor try to hide.
And so we lock eye contact, wehave a conversation, I always
give them a hug and then youknow we're on to living life
(06:46):
again.
But I think the eye contactpiece is so important.
Oh, yeah, piece is so important.
And you know again, I've saidthis many, many times but my
wife is very good at like theintentionality around, like
screen time.
So you know it's that's aconstant reminder for me of like
putting my phone away, beingintentional spending time with
(07:07):
the kids.
You know, I I got home fromfrom being out of town for a few
days.
Yesterday, as soon as I walkedin the door, copeland runs up to
me.
He's like hey, dad, can webuild Legos?
I'm like absolutely bud.
So you know phones away,spending time just hanging out
with him.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Being present.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
You know.
Another example of this one iswas at Copeland's baseball game
a few weeks ago and he was outin the field and doing his thing
.
I was talking to one of theother parents.
Him and I were standing in thedugout.
We're talking about the boysand the guy I was talking to him
(07:48):
and I played together in highschool, and so we're talking
about hey, this is pretty cool,they're the same age, they gonna
come up together and and afterthe game, copeland came up to me
and he was like dad, whyweren't you watching me?
And I'm like I was, buddy, whatare you talking about?
He's like no, you were talkingto the other dad.
And I'm like, yeah, I wastalking about you.
(08:09):
But all that to say likethey're always watching, yep,
and paying attention.
Is mom and dad watching?
um because that's what means themost of them right now like
that.
It won't be like that foreveryeah and so taking advantage of
these moments where, like you,just being there and watching
them is the most important thingit's pretty cool and it doesn't
(08:29):
last forever.
Um, and the last one here I putin was attention is one of the
most powerful forms ofaffirmation, and so sometimes
you don't even have to sayanything, but the fact that you
were there paying attention,regardless of what.
That doesn't have to bebaseball, obviously, but
whatever it may be just the merefact of presence and attention
(08:56):
can say a thousand words.
And then, last here, numberfive, is your life is their
blueprint, so you need to makesure you build something worthy
of being copied, and so one day,your kids will lead a home or a
team or a business, and they'lldraw from your example that you
(09:19):
set for them over X number ofyears, and I love this.
I was watching a clip the otherday and it talked about how you
know.
One day, your kids will tellstories to other people about
how you raised them, and I meanI think we all do that oh yeah,
we have tons of stories ofyou.
(09:40):
You don't remember everything,but there are some key things
that you do remember of of beingraised and so, um, even from
like the simple things, Iliterally was just telling my
kids yesterday after they gothaircuts, like I'd rub the back
of their head after the boys geta fresh fade.
You know that prickly feeling.
My dad used to do that to meevery time I'd get a haircut, so
(10:03):
I was telling them about thatstory.
But the other idea that I wantpeople to be thinking about is
that your legacy isn't what youleave for them, it's what you
build in them, and I think a lotof times people will feel like
their legacy are the things thatthey leave behind to their kids
(10:25):
Money, cars, house, whateverbut to me, the traits and the
characteristics that you buildwithin your kids is the greatest
legacy.
(10:46):
Like nothing like pumps me upmore than when you know cope
will do something at school orsomeone will be like he, like I
guess correlating like when hedoes something awesome and
they're like he's so much likeyou.
And it goes both ways, becauseI tell people all the time like
copeland's the carbon copy of mein all the best and worst ways,
but when you hear some of thegood things.
It's so reaffirming that youare doing the right thing.
(11:10):
The last thing here is buildwith intention and live a life
that they can model with pridepride, right.
I think there's a lot of timewe can.
We could probably do a wholeepisode on like some of the
characteristics or habits thatwe have that we learned from our
parents Maybe some of those welove and we're thankful for, and
(11:30):
some of them not so much and Ithink that's part of.
I posted a picture on myInstagram story this morning
about.
This is probably hard for me toexplain, but basically it's like
a picture of a son and a dadand basically they're built out
(11:50):
of puzzle pieces and it's likethe son has basically got all
his full body and the dad'smissing a bunch of puzzle pieces
because he's given them all tohis son and I think that that's
what it's all them all to hisson.
And you know, I think thatthat's what it's all about.
Is a dad or a mom, right?
It's giving all those hopefullythose good puzzle pieces to
(12:13):
your kids and holding on to andnot passing down to generations
of the things that you strugglewith.
Right, they're great lessonslearned, but things that you
don't want your kids to have todeal with.
So that's my power five today.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Well, to add into cause, I have a different, you
know.
You know I'm basically like astep parent, you know, view
Cause, you know, with her sonnot, basically no.
I am, yeah, sorry, coming fromthat point of view, you know,
with her son not basically.
No, I am, yeah, sorry, um,coming from that point of view,
you know, I look at.
I'll just use, you know,baseball, for example.
You know, when coaching him, Iremember when I played.
(12:53):
Yes, I'm going to listen to my,my dad.
Yes, I listen to my coaches,but I remember everything.
My dad said that I was doing so.
So, with him, I understand he'sgoing to listen to his dad, but
there's some things that I needto add in and I don't want to
confuse him, you know.
Okay, should I listen to him orshould I want that kind of
situation?
So I'm like, yes, your dad'scorrect on this part, but you
(13:15):
need to also look into this.
But make sure you always causeyou've even told me this make
sure you always start withsomething Okay, that was good,
but this is also what you didwrong.
So just don't always come outnegative and say you did this
wrong and that's it, becausethey're going to go back and say
, okay, yeah, this was greatyeah.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
But hey, this is how we could do it even better.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Yes, so, and you know with them, seeing everything
that you do, you know with mybrand, I mean this dude, he,
that is like his first thing.
He writes on everything, likehis art folder.
Recently he put you know, bebetter.
He has a calendar in his room.
At the top of it it says bebetter.
I mean he wears the hoodie allthe time and he, you know, he
(14:01):
wears the t-shirt at school andall that.
So it's.
They see you doing everythingand just you know, giving them
that extra bonus stuff on top ofwhat his dad's teaching them I
think is also a positive thingwith that as well.
So, but you know, I always I'mgonna come out and ask you know,
if your kids followed yourevery move, would their life end
(14:23):
up in a place you'd be proud of?
You gotta ask yourself that,and if the answer is no, then
something's got to change andyou got to start something
different.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Yeah, so that's the big part at the end of the day,
you are your family's mainexample of strength love and
leadership.
Yeah, and like don't get ittwisted, like don't waste the
privilege, don't waste theopportunity because it's you
know it.
Nothing kills me more thanseeing those charts where it
shows, like, the amount of timeyou have to spend with your kids
(14:53):
as they get older.
Yeah, man, talk about like adagger in the heart seeing,
seeing that.
Take advantage of it, man.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Time is not slow man, it goes fast.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
That's what I say the days go so slow, but the weeks
and months go so fast.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Yeah, you know a couple things before we end it.
Your family doesn't need aperfect man, they need a present
one.
They don't need a millionaire.
They need a protector, aprovider and a guide and always
be present.
Like what you said you got homefrom being out of town, you
(15:32):
went right to playing Legos.
There's a lot of fathers outthere that don't do that.
So kudos to you because you aresetting the example and I look
up to you, for you know thefamily part.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
So yeah, yeah, it's the last thing that I'll say and
it's it's become like a famousconversation on social media,
but it's when you, when youthink about parenting and
looking back on the way we wereraised and you know, obviously
all of us want to do things alittle bit different than the
(16:07):
way that we were, than what wewere raised yeah, but when you
come to terms with the fact thatyour parents were just doing
the best they could at the time,with the information that they
had right.
So no, none of our parents wereperfect.
We're not perfect, but so, likeunderstanding as you go through
it, like I'm making the bestdecisions I can with what I know
(16:29):
in this moment, my parents weredoing the same thing, whether I
liked it or not, and evenlooking back on it now like
that's what it was, like there's, there's no reason for people
to hold on to those grudges anda lot of people have been
through horrible things growingup but just knowing where they
(16:51):
were in those situations andbeing able to do them
differently and better, likethat's the main part.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
For sure, that's it.
That is it.
Quick and easy, we're out ofhere.
See ya, thank you.
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