March 3, 2025 • 37 mins
EP. 70 The Discipline Download: 11 Essential Habits
Join us in this insightful episode where we explore the power of daily routines and how they drive personal success. Our discussions uncover the critical habits that have kept us locked in, focused, and truly effective. Starting with the importance of planning your day the night before, we emphasize setting an intentional tone for the day ahead.
This episode dives deep into the reasons why having a purpose can motivate you every morning, as well as how physical activity contributes to mental wellness. We introduce practical tips on hydration and fueling your body right to maintain energy throughout the day, exploring the connection between physical health and mental clarity.
Additionally, we discuss how mindset plays into our routines and why actively feeding our brains is essential. Reflecting on our habits and adjusting them as necessary can be the key to sustainable growth. As we share personal stories and insights into our daily lives, we aim to inspire you to take charge of your own routines, making them simple yet impactful.
If you’re ready to transform your daily habits, listen now and discover how to keep it all simple while staying consistent. Let's build toward that success together—don’t forget to subscribe, share your thoughts with us, and leave a review!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
But if I don't work out, I'm just not, I'm off, not
a good human, you know, easilyagitated, you know the whole
thing.
I'm sure, like anyone who getsin that routine, feels the same
way, Like you're just missingsomething.
And so for me, the physicalactivity working out, getting a
good sweat in, like that is theway that I set myself up for
(00:23):
success, and that's bothphysically and mentally.
It just gets me in the rightheadspace to go after the day.
What's up everybody?
(00:53):
Welcome back to the Go All Inpodcast.
I'm Braxton Cave.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I'm Jake Fine, and today we're going to go over,
we're going to break down somethings that keep us locked in,
disciplined and on and on track.
Basically, it's the power ofroutine.
So we're gonna go over what 11habits that we follow every
single day and evening, andobviously his are gonna be
different than mine.
(01:17):
Um, first hold on before I digin.
Obviously we have new sceneryhere we're in a new spot new
vibes.
So, um, we're still tweaking alittle of the lighting here, but
this is a new spot we're doingthe podcast at, so it's a little
different scenery for you, so Iwanted to get that out the way.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But jake is the the ultimate lighting guy.
I don't know anything.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I think it looks great so far it's, I'll get
there we'll change the mojo up alittle bit.
Yeah, there's going to be addedstuff.
We threw the helmet in here fornow A little decor.
There's going to be added stuff.
Every episode will probablyknow something different.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Now they have to watch.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Be like where's Waldo .
What's different?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And if you figure it out you get something.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Yeah, you get a prize , you get a sweatshirt.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Yeah, anyway, you had 11 habits that you know.
Power, the routine that I do,like the night before I usually
I plan my routine the nightbefore.
I plan my day out.
I plan, like, the outfits I'mgoing to wear for the gym, what
I wear for the day, for work.
(02:24):
I mean, it's pretty much thesame thing you were taught to do
by your parents when you're inschool.
I feel like success startsbefore the day even begins, and
every night I take about 15 to20 minutes, plan my day out,
what I have.
I even look at what workout I'mgoing to do for the day and
(02:45):
then, um, yeah, just, my day atwork is pretty much the same
thing.
It's the same routine.
But, yeah, that's the firstthing I do in the evening, and
then, um, when I get up in themorning, I usually go into like
hydrating myself.
So, but we'll dig into that.
(03:05):
What do you do for your number?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Well, I mean you're, you're way more detailed.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I'm very detailed, yeah, I mean I'm usually you're
going to notice that.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
I mean, I'm usually digging through the dryer,
whatever you know, hopefully,natalie, I usually throw my
clothes in the wash after I workout.
Natalie dries and does the restof it.
So I'm usually digging throughand trying to find workout
clothes in the mornings, but tome it starts the night before.
Before I go to bed.
Every night I'm looking at mycalendar, seeing what I have on
(03:38):
the agenda for that day, makingsure that I'm writing things
down in my notebook that I needto accomplish the next day.
And then for me it's themindset of forward thinking,
backwards planning.
So when I know what my firstmeeting is of the day, I kind of
work my way back from there.
So obviously I'm going to getup at five, I'm going to get my
(04:00):
workout in, be with Natalie andthe kids get ready for the
school day.
But then I know that there's acertain time that's a cutoff for
me and so as long as I knowthat the night before, I can
always step into that nextmorning setting myself up for
success.
Let's jump into number two here,and that's starting your day
with purpose.
(04:20):
For me, you got one of thebiggest things that you have to
realize is we'll get you out ofbed every morning and I think a
note I took down here was thatif you haven't figured that out
yet, I think it's time to dosome of that mental, the hard
work of figuring out what thatis.
For me, that's so easy it's myfamily.
I was just having aconversation with a guy at the
(04:42):
gym this morning and I was kindof busting on him and telling
him that he needed to liftheavier way.
I said your son's chasing youand you know, that's one of the
things that really motivates mehaving, you know, two younger
boys, like dad always wants tobe the guy and so, um, you know,
my purpose in life is toprovide, you know, an incredible
(05:04):
life for my family and be ableto allow them, you know, the
experiences that they'llremember for a lifetime.
And that's that's my why,that's my purpose, that's my,
that's what gets me out of bedevery single morning.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Well, first things first.
Mine is don't hit the snoozebutton.
When I first my alarm goes off.
I mean, I've been getting up at3, 3, 15, naturally, for 17
plus years because the RV and mybody's so, you know, immune to
it.
I don't even need the alarmsometimes.
(05:39):
So that's like the main thing.
First thing don't hit snooze.
You know I get up knowingexactly what I need to do.
Whether it's a workout, whichthat's when I usually work out,
it's first thing in the morningbefore I go into work and I
remind myself why I'm doing it.
And you know, with my brand,that I'm building.
That's another thing, you knowI got to set a standard because
(06:05):
you wear the right shirt today.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
For that, yes.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
I did.
That's from Ben Newman, by theway.
Yeah, if you know, if I don'thave a purpose behind the
actions that I'm taking with mybrand and what I'm doing,
there's no point in, you know,promoting my brand that I'm not
even taking action from.
You know, living the standardfrom it, so that's like the big
thing that I focus on.
And, uh, I feel like if you,you live with that standard and
(06:31):
you want to better yourselfevery single day, it's like dude
, I mean, there's no stoppinganybody.
You know, if you have thatmindset and just keep going, I
just don't see how people can becomplacent, you know, and um,
but yeah, that's my purposefirst thing.
When I get up every day, it'slike that's the first thing I
want.
How can I better myself?
How can I better my brand?
(06:51):
And um, yeah, that's everysingle day, that's what I think
about.
But um, which leads nicely intonumber three yeah, I mean moving
your body first thing in themorning.
Um, first thing, obviously,when I I get out of bed, I just
go straight to the kitchen.
I mean, obviously I let Sophieout first cause she's right
beside me, she's a morningmorning dog.
(07:14):
First thing she goes out I'llmake my nature's Gatorade.
I've posted this before.
Bryce Harper's also, you know,shared this a lot on Tik TOK and
on his page.
And basically I mean, if youguys want the recipe, I have it,
just DM me and I can send itover to you.
But it's pretty easy.
It's just coconut water.
You squeeze some lemon into it,add some salt, you can add
(07:41):
honey to it, which I haven'tdone that yet, but it's.
I feel like it's a lot better II also add a salt packet too
sometimes before I work out, butit's like I feel like it's
better than having a cup ofcoffee, um, but yeah, first
things hydrate.
You know, at least 16 ounces ofwater and um, right before I go
to the gym, that's get thatmovement going yeah, I mean it's
(08:02):
for me same thing.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
same.
To me it's taking care ofnumber one right, taking care of
yourself.
You know a lot of people goback and forth on the whole
physical health, mental healthand for me, as long as I'm doing
the physical, the mentalfollows with that.
And I mean Natalie can elaborateon this, you know, sometime
(08:26):
when she comes on the podcast.
But if I don't work out, I'mjust not, I'm off.
Not a good human, easilyagitated the whole thing.
I'm sure anyone who gets inthat routine feels the same way.
You're just missing something.
So for me, the physicalactivity, working out, getting a
(08:46):
good sweat in, that is the waythat I set myself up for success
and that's both physically andmentally.
It just gets me in the rightheadspace to go after the day.
Number four here hydrate andfuel your body.
You just touched on that.
For me, again, going back toforward thinking, backwards
(09:10):
planning, you know Sunday forNatalie and I is meal prep day,
um, you know we, we typicallyget three to four days prepped
out, um, and then we'll have todo something midweek just to one
to try and keep the food fresh.
But two, I mean it's a lot offood to prep out, you know, for
(09:33):
the both of us, and so you knowwe do that.
Hydration's key you know we'vebeen on the Element train for a
long time, so you know doing theelectrolyte packets from from
element have been crucial for us, you know, whether it's through
the workouts or, you know,avoiding any type of illness I
(09:56):
mean it's it's played a hugerole I'm gonna throw another one
at you.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Look at water boy.
We do water boy packets, we doboth.
I feel like element is like toptier.
But um, one of the guys fromthe hrt clinic mentioned water
boy to me and we got that and Iwas like, wow, these taste
amazing.
Like strawberry what strawberrylemonade.
Yeah, phenomenal.
Yeah.
So I, if you guys want toswitch, switch it up.
(10:20):
I know you guys probably have asubscription, but if you want
to change it up one time, trythem out.
I highly recommend them.
Those are the two we usually cango with.
But, yeah, hydration is key andI feel like a lot of people
they, you know, oh, salt's bad.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
Salt's bad for you.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
No, it is not, and you know it's like we're all
taught.
You know drinking just straightwater.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
You got to understand that's flushing everything, all
your minerals, everything outof your body.
Especially like I go through, Ido quite a bit of intermittent
fasting and so that's a veryquick way to dehydrate yourself
and so that plays a huge role.
And then again the amount ofwater we drink in a day like
water we all know water can getpretty boring, yeah and uh makes
(11:11):
it kind of hard to choke itdown.
I think once you add a littlesomething to it it makes it a
lot a lot easier agreed.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I mean, they have all those flavors.
What was it?
The meal flavor?
You know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
The.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Mios.
Yeah they have that and I'venever done them before.
I just love water.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
I'm just so used to it, I do.
But going into mindset work,feeding your brain, I've been
going back and forth.
Sometimes I end my nightreading but I've been doing it
in the morning.
Sometimes I end my nightreading but I've been doing it
in the morning, and basicallyit's when I have extra time I'm
(11:52):
like, okay, I'm going to read my10 pages for 75 hard, and some
mornings I start doing it in themorning.
I like doing that.
It's nice, switching up alittle bit.
But it's also nice to do in theevening too, because it unwinds
you down in bed and keeps youaway from your you know your
phone and um.
(12:13):
But yeah, feeding your brain,um is you gotta it's.
It's a muscle as well.
You gotta train that thing.
And um.
I like to uh some days on.
I on my phone and play itthrough my speakers in my in my
car and listen to, likeMotiversity, you know
Motivational, I'll send you some.
Sometimes I usually listen tothat on the way to work.
(12:33):
Or I'll listen to our podcastsor, um, andy's podcast on the
way to work.
But yeah, I mean, you got tofeed the brain, man, that's.
You can't leave that, leavethat out yeah, I mean, I used to
.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
So I used to only listen to music in the car and
then now, like, if natalie and Iare driving together or if the
kids are with me, we play music.
You know, the kids love musicand sing along, and but if I'm
riding solo, like I don't, I'mnot listening to music.
You know, I have on an ebook, apodcast, youtube.
(13:06):
Um, you know something toconstantly be learning and I
also love the idea of just it's.
It gives you the ability tohabit stack right.
So you're you're able to domore than one thing you know for
yourself at once and, um, youknow.
The other key thing I thinkplays into this, because we're,
because we all have some sort ofaddiction to social media.
(13:28):
If you go to your Explore page,what's it showing?
Yep, is it uplifting stuffthat's feeding you new
information and things that aremaking you better?
Is it goofy stuff?
I can add to this To me, likeagain, social media can be a
(13:49):
blessing and a curse.
Yep, you can.
You have your head right inyour hands, the ability to learn
so much, but it also can turninto scrolling and you know
crazy stuff too.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah, I can add to that Um, cause I recently, uh,
like cleared my whole explorepage and basically started just
going through like stuff that Iwant to see, like content
creation.
Um, entrepreneurs, you knowtalking their stuff, and then
you know motivation.
That's like basically my feedand like some baseball stuff and
(14:24):
like hitting drills and stufflike that for her kid.
But yeah, that's like mainexplore page and that I do.
It's like you, you control yourinstagram.
You can control whatever youwant, and I mean instagram you
can learn quite a bit.
You know it's just like tiktokas well.
You can control what you seeand what you learn off of that
(14:45):
too.
But yeah, I recently did thatand there it there's positives
and there's negatives, becausethe negative thing I've noticed
is your views go down.
So I'm trying to figure thatpart out too.
But that's another thing to.
I could go into that all dayabout that.
But, um, I mean going to umnumber six here, you're
(15:11):
non-negotiable your work block,um, do you have like a set time
in the evening, do you don't?
You don't look at your phone.
That's the thing about mine.
I, I have to, and that's why Iset like times, like, okay, I
need to get this posted, causeyou can see what times to post
for post for you know, like formy brand and like for personal
page, but do you have like a settime to you?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
so it's, it's different, I mean I, so I set up
time blocks within my workschedule because otherwise I'll
just go back to backs all daylong and I never get an
opportunity to get in, actuallyget anything done.
Yeah, I need to, and so for thelongest time, you know, I fell
into the trap of like justfilling my calendar from the
(15:53):
start of the day to the finish,you know, with meetings and
one-on-one and all these thingsright because you just feel like
, well, if my calendar is packed, then I'm obviously doing
something you know doingaccomplishing things, not the
case.
And so every day I have at leasttwo time blocks in there.
Just depending on what's goingon, it could be an hour, it
could be two hours just to getstuff done.
(16:16):
As far as and that's just my inmy work time, when I get home
you know I talked about thisbefore like Natalie's really
good about being on me, about,you know, from the time I walk
in the door to the time we getthe kids in bed, put the phone
away, yep, and again, the, theGarmin's been helpful for me for
that, uh, being able to, youknow, get updates or if
(16:39):
something's going on, if thereis a 911, obviously I can go get
my phone, um, but taking thetime to prioritize family and
put the phone away has been, youknow, so that you know two to
three hour time block ofintentional family time is is a
big deal around here I know youcould chime in about this, about
your like your non-negotiablework block.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Yeah, because you're the same as him I'm very.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
When I work I put like the night before I always
look at my calendar and put mymeetings and I I usually fill
the first two hours of the dayof what I need to do.
So like from eight to ten.
But I usually block out becauseI'm I'm really the only one on
east coast time.
Everyone's mostly Central time.
(17:26):
So I usually block out 8 to 10to just knock out a bunch of
stuff, because I know wheneveryone starts getting on,
meetings start and whatnot.
So that two hours is prettymuch my time.
But I do everything in two-hourblocks.
I have my to-do list and then Ifill in.
(17:46):
Sometimes things don't get done.
I have my to-do list and then Ifill in.
Sometimes things don't get done, I have to move it.
But instead of beingoverwhelming of everything I
need to do, I do that two-hourblock.
I'm very good at it at work.
Sometimes work overpowers it.
They just schedule over it.
But I know I need to do betterat home.
There was a while where I didjust put my phone away, but I
(18:09):
gotta work on that the phonegets you, it will, it does it's.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I mean it's a distraction, but I mean, with
what I'm doing, I, you knowthat's.
I set myself times.
I'm like, okay, do this for alittle bit and you make your
videos and then you, you know,save them and so on and then do
some editing, you know, but it'sjust so much screen time, it's
unreal, you know.
But yeah, non-negotiable workblock I just I try to unwind,
(18:39):
you know, by eight o'clock andjust plan my day that then, and
then hopefully be in bed by youknow nine, ten o'clock, which
very rarely does happen.
Um, but yeah, that's, it's sohard to that.
I think this is like one of thetoughest things in the routine
is this um, but going into whatnumber?
(19:02):
seven, number seven 100%.
No plan B going all in.
I mean no backup plan, no halfeffort.
Operate like there's no otheroption but success.
You find a way to make ithappen.
If you're going to giveyourself an out, you'll take it
every time.
Burn the boats and fully commit.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yeah, I mean people.
People ask have been asking methis my whole life.
Like Bragg said, you not gottena scholarship to Notre Dame to
play football, what would youhave done?
I'm like that wasn't an option.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yep, you know, not necessarily Notre Dame, but like
getting a football scholarshipand playing was not an that was
the only thing in my mind that Iwas going to do.
And then, same thing.
Once I got to Notre Dame, itwas like, brax, what if you
wouldn't have made it to the NFL?
Like, never thought about it,like I in the back of my mind,
yes, did I know I was getting adegree from the university of
(20:00):
Notre Dame and that I wouldfigure it out.
Yeah, but that was exactly it.
I, I'll figure it out and it'sno different now.
And what I do for work, it's.
You know, there's been timeswhere you you start looking at
these other things and it's allit is is a distraction you know,
I like the visual of you take alion, put two pieces of meat on
each side of them.
Right, like where do you go?
(20:21):
Right, it's focus on one thingat a time and devour that and
then move on to the next thing.
And for me it's just like Idon't operate like that.
You know, natalie, that's onething that you know Natalie has
to temper me on is like the goall in mindset of like when I
commit to something, like that'sit for good or for bad, like
(20:45):
that's it, that's it for good orfor bad?
Like that's it, um, and if itdoesn't work out, then I'll,
I'll pivot and figure it outafter that.
But to sit there and, you know,go half in on one thing and
half in on another is not goingto get me anywhere.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
When it's all said and done, so that's with anybody
and you said it already.
You know pivot If something, ifyou have to do something else
in, and yeah, obviously you dopivot.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Yeah, I mean you learn, you pivot, you grow and
you continue on.
I mean there's no other option,I've done it numerous times.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
you know, yeah, I mean, it goes right into number
eight.
You know building reflectionadjustments.
You know, at some point in myday I take a step back.
You know I've done this man,I've done this a couple times.
I've actually had.
You know, we said in the pastepisode that you know the test
(21:36):
days and taking that step backand evaluating and taking a deep
breath, and usually during myoutdoor ruck is and usually when
I have this, you know areflection, a reflection time
and what I think about.
You know what went good for theday, what I need to work on,
(21:57):
and you know going from thereand I feel like you know if
you're just grinding withoutchecking in, you're missing
opportunities to improve.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Right.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
You know, growth comes from adjustments, not just
effort.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
So I mean you look at to me this is a two-part the
reflection piece and then theadjustment piece.
I think the adjustment piece issomething that I do really well
.
The pivot right you learn, youfail, you pivot, you move on,
you just continue that cycle.
The reflection piece isprobably my weakest.
You learn, you fail, you pivot,you move on, you just continue
(22:32):
that cycle.
The reflection piece is probablymy weakest.
You know I talked about thisbefore.
Natalie reminds me often oflike you have to take a step
back and reflect on the thingsthat you have accomplished and I
just I'm not, I'm not good atthat.
So having a partner who does agood job of reminding me of that
(22:53):
is very helpful.
But me myself, like that'swhere I struggle the most,
especially, like you know, withour journal we're we're using
right Doing the weeklyreflection.
It's like I dread doing that.
I hate it because I'm like theweek's over, like I'm on let's
keep going, and whateveradjustments I had to make during
that week, I've already madethem, and so I struggle with
(23:16):
doing the look back.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
I'm kind of with you.
You know, like with thejournaling part too, it's like
that is like the hard thing todo, like I know she's done it,
it I've tried to do it, you know, it's just it's very hard for
me to do, just to write out, youknow, just anything.
Um.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
But yeah, I I'm with you on that you know what's
crazy is like, uh, so I've, like, we've, I've told you before
like I I've kept a journal for along time, but I find I still,
to this day, find myself likequestioning what I write in it,
cause I'm like, oh my God, likewhat, if someone, what if
someone finds this, you know,like they find the crazy stuff
(24:05):
that's in my head, you know, andit was.
It shouldn't be that way.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Right.
I think it's that part of likelike your diary care like what
other people?
Speaker 1 (24:15):
think about you.
Yeah, you know they.
You know people say all thetime like you shouldn't care
what other people think, likethere's certain things, I really
don't care what other peoplethink but at the end of the day,
we're all looking for likerecognition yeah and approval
from certain people, and so Ithink there's just something
about that when it comes tojournaling, that makes it tough.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Don't think, just do that's right right.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
Yes, okay, correct.
Where are you referencing thatfrom Maverick?
Yes, not Top Gun.
2.
No, maverick, I just want toGun 2.
No.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
Maverick, I just want to a little thing.
I'm very opposite.
I'm not good at pivoting, I'mgood at reflecting.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Teach me.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
I don't like change.
I don't like pivoting is verylike it has to take something
major for me to be like no.
It has to take something majorfor me to be like no and to kind
of go back with the commitment.
I was taught I had to trysomething.
If I was going to sign up, Ihad to do it for one full year,
no matter what.
If I hated it too bad, you haveto.
You committed so at least ayear.
(25:26):
One time there was something.
I was on a dance team but Iwanted to.
I did theater as well and Iliterally had to have a
presentation to my parents onwhy I had to quit the dance team
so I could do the play.
It worked well.
I got the lead in the play, butthat was one of those like.
(25:47):
It was a big, long discussion.
It wasn't a very easy decision.
So that's how I was brought up.
But the reflection part when Iget to a pivot or get to a
crossroads, I have to look backand go wow, I started.
I've been the Red Robin, thecharacter I've come from there
(26:09):
and I've been a vp, you know,looking at different things of
like I was an intern here.
You know just the differentthings I've done in life of I
can't believe I did that.
And here I am today, and so Ilike to look at those things and
reflect, and so when I'm like Ifeel like I've done nothing,
(26:31):
well, you've come a long wayfrom being the bird at red Robin
, so you know, anything ispossible.
Um, but yeah, the the pivot'svery hard for me, so we can all
learn from each other.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
For sure, yeah.
So we talked.
We talked a little bit aboutmorning routine.
What For sure, yeah?
So we talked a little bit aboutmorning routine.
What about evening wind downroutine?
What's that look?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
like for you, that's number nine.
I do my ruck at night.
I like ending pretty closebefore bedtime, doing that in
the evening.
Sometimes I'll do it a littlebit earlier, because if I know I
have to make some videos oredit some clips or anything like
that, I try to do that in theevening.
Um, sometimes I'll do it alittle bit earlier and then,
cause, if I know I have to makesome videos or edit some clips
or anything like that, I try todo that in the evening as well.
(27:16):
Um, but yeah, that's usuallywhat I do in my evenings.
And then, you know, I'll plan mynext day and then I'll slowly
start unwinding and gettingready for bed, and then then
I'll slowly start unwinding andgetting ready for bed, and then
usually, like I said before, Iusually end the night.
(27:36):
You know, reading, reading.
And then, yeah, man, I meanstaring at a book for a little
bit my eyes get heavy real quick.
That's the thing.
Another thing about reading,man, I just I have to read it a
few times too, but yeah, in theevening that slowly calms me and
(27:58):
relaxes me when I'm reading,and then, dude, I'm out after
that, you know, but yeah, that'susually how my evening is.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
Yeah, I mean, for me it looks like you know, getting
home, putting the phone away, wedo dinner as a family.
Putting the phone away, we dodinner as a family.
The kids right now are in aphase where they love playing
either soccer or footballdownstairs at our house, so
we'll usually get after doingthat for a little bit and then
our bedtime routine with them,and then after that it just kind
(28:24):
of depends on where the day'sat.
It could be going out to do aruck, it could be doing more
work.
No-transcript.
Same thing, though eitherreading or.
(28:46):
That's also a time like that'smy time where I'm usually on my
phone again, whether it's emailsor social media or responding
to the 50 text messages that Ihadn't responded to, which I'm
(29:06):
bad at that.
So if I owe you a text back,I'll get to you.
I promise it's coming.
But, yeah, I mean it's all justpart of the wind down.
That's become part of just theroutine and to me, even when I'm
(29:27):
doing emails on my phone or onthe computer, like that's like
chill time for me.
That is winding down,decompressing.
I spend all day long withpeople, talking with people,
mentoring people, so gettingthat time and I'm a highly
extroverted person, so you knowthat maybe 30-minute window of
(29:50):
just having me time is enoughfor me, and then when my head
hits the pillow it's 10 secondsI'm out.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
And it's less than that for Natalie.
You're not talking to Natalie,keeping her awake.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
No, she's yelled at me enough times to not do that
anymore.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
I feel like if you're constantly overstimulated,
you're not recovering andwithout recovery, you burn out.
And I think winding down is ahuge, huge thing to include and
incorporate, because I meanthese right here, these also,
(30:30):
they just they take, they, theycontrol you, you know so, but I
mean what you do, putting themaway right when you get home, is
, I is the best thing to do.
So, um, we're going right intonumber 10, be flexible but
consistent.
You know, life happens, thingswill come up, you know, but it
(30:54):
doesn't mean you throw yourwhole routine out the window.
You know, you've talked youtalked about earlier about
pivoting.
Um, I'll stay adaptable whilekeeping non-negotiables in your
place.
You know, the goal isn'tperfection, is consistency over
time.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
So, yeah, I like, uh, I like the the mindset of Ben,
but don't break your place.
You know, the goal isn'tperfection, it's consistency
over time.
So, yeah, I like, uh, I likethe the mindset of ben, but
don't break yeah um, you know,you become too rigid in your
habits and your routines.
It can drive you absolutelyinsane and I've been there.
It drives me insane, it drivesnatalie insane, um, and so for
me, this it's a big focal point.
(31:28):
You know what?
Because, especially when itcomes to like diet, nutrition,
workout, like it can almostbecome, you know, religious and
when things don't go to plan,like it'll irk me, make me feel
a certain way and and it justthrows things off, it makes, you
know, the time being around meunpleasant.
(31:51):
So I've really tried to focuson just learning to always be
able to find joy, no matter whatthe situation is.
That's a really hard thing todo, yep, um, but you know, I, at
the end of the day, I don'twant that to be something that
(32:11):
my kids remember, and you know,I think happiness is what we're
all pursuing.
And so letting yourself getsideways over, you know
something silly is, you know,missing a meal like it's not
gonna it's not gonna kill youyeah if you're consistent like
(32:32):
you're right back on the nextday, so just figuring it out,
you know yeah, I mean, it'sgotten so bad to the point where
, like, the family sits down fordinner and my daughter's made
comments like dad, why don't you, why don't you eat what we eat?
(32:52):
and that's kind of a hard thingto explain to an eight-year-old,
but they see it and so I'vegotten better at you know, and
my wife cooks really healthyfood, but it's like if it didn't
fit perfectly into my macros,then I was was just going to
make my own thing.
So I've gotten better with that.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
They see everything Mm-hmm.
Well, final, the last one Keepit simple and sustainable.
At the end of the day, if yourroutine isn't simple, you won't
stick with it.
(33:32):
I don't overcomplicate mine atall and you probably don't do
yours either.
I focus on what truly moves theneedle, makes me better every
day, makes me feel good dayafter day.
But you know, like we just said, there's some things that
happen during the day that don'tgo as planned.
But you know, like we just said, there's some things that
happen during the day that don'tgo as planned.
You have to pivot and figure itout, but don't overcomplicate
(33:54):
it.
That's the number one thing Ican say, because if you do,
you're just going to mentallydrain yourself and you're not
going to want to do it.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
Yeah, I mean, I've kind of tried to live by the
quote of there's beauty insimplicity, and so many people
will go through, they'll listento this podcast and be like, oh
my gosh, those 11 things.
Where do I even start?
And I think it's just that.
(34:23):
You have to start somewhere.
And then, once you lock in onehabit, you add another one, and
that may take you a year, whoknows.
I was just having a conversationwith an individual the other
day where they were talkingabout how they're their own
worst enemy because they feellike they have so far to go, and
(34:46):
I'm like it's true, you do havea long way to go, but it starts
by taking the first step and ittypically takes longer than
what you think it's going to.
But if you continue to show upevery single day doing one
simple thing over time right,compound interest it's going to
(35:08):
make a big difference in the end.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
People are impatient.
That's why they want it now.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Yeah, and then other people will take it the other
way, where they'll completelyflood their calendars and their
day and try and do a milliondifferent things and all these
crazy morning routines and itbecomes overwhelming.
And so my advice there was dondon't confuse movement with
progress.
Yeah, just because you're doingall these things doesn't mean
that you're taking any stepscloser to where you want to be,
(35:35):
because they may not be theright things that work for you.
So keep it simple.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
That's it.
That's it.
Don't overcomplicate it, butthat's it.
That's 11 Habits, um to keepyou locked in and on track for
for life, basically, um.
But, like we said, these arewhat work for us, that's what
works for braxton.
So, basically, if you don'thave a routine, you can figure
it out, you know, one at a time,and stack them from there um
(36:06):
let's recap these one more timehere for you guys.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
So number one is planning a routine the night
before.
Two is start your day withpurpose.
Three is move your body firstthing in the morning.
Four is hydrate and fuel yourbody.
Five is mindset work.
Feed your brain.
Six is create non-negotiablework blocks.
Six is create non-negotiablework blocks.
(36:32):
Seven commit 100.
No plan b.
A is build, build in reflectionand adjustments.
Nine stick to an evening winddown routine.
10 be flexible but consistent.
And 11 keep it simple andsustainable.
Speaker 2 (36:46):
And that is it Before we go.
If this episode helped, youguys, let us know, share it, tag
us and yeah, let's keep pushingforward, but until the next
time we're out of here, We'llsee you.
But if I don't work out, I'm just not, I'm off, not
a good human, you know, easilyagitated, you know the whole
thing.
I'm sure, like anyone who getsin that routine, feels the same
way, Like you're just missingsomething.
And so for me, the physicalactivity working out, getting a
good sweat in, like that is theway that I set myself up for
(00:23):
success, and that's bothphysically and mentally.
It just gets me in the rightheadspace to go after the day.
What's up everybody?
(00:53):
Welcome back to the Go All Inpodcast.
I'm Braxton Cave.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I'm Jake Fine, and today we're going to go over,
we're going to break down somethings that keep us locked in,
disciplined and on and on track.
Basically, it's the power ofroutine.
So we're gonna go over what 11habits that we follow every
single day and evening, andobviously his are gonna be
different than mine.
(01:17):
Um, first hold on before I digin.
Obviously we have new sceneryhere we're in a new spot new
vibes.
So, um, we're still tweaking alittle of the lighting here, but
this is a new spot we're doingthe podcast at, so it's a little
different scenery for you, so Iwanted to get that out the way.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But jake is the the ultimate lighting guy.
I don't know anything.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I think it looks great so far it's, I'll get
there we'll change the mojo up alittle bit.
Yeah, there's going to be addedstuff.
We threw the helmet in here fornow A little decor.
There's going to be added stuff.
Every episode will probablyknow something different.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Now they have to watch.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Be like where's Waldo .
What's different?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And if you figure it out you get something.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Yeah, you get a prize , you get a sweatshirt.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Yeah, anyway, you had 11 habits that you know.
Power, the routine that I do,like the night before I usually
I plan my routine the nightbefore.
I plan my day out.
I plan, like, the outfits I'mgoing to wear for the gym, what
I wear for the day, for work.
(02:24):
I mean, it's pretty much thesame thing you were taught to do
by your parents when you're inschool.
I feel like success startsbefore the day even begins, and
every night I take about 15 to20 minutes, plan my day out,
what I have.
I even look at what workout I'mgoing to do for the day and
(02:45):
then, um, yeah, just, my day atwork is pretty much the same
thing.
It's the same routine.
But, yeah, that's the firstthing I do in the evening, and
then, um, when I get up in themorning, I usually go into like
hydrating myself.
So, but we'll dig into that.
(03:05):
What do you do for your number?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Well, I mean you're, you're way more detailed.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I'm very detailed, yeah, I mean I'm usually you're
going to notice that.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
I mean, I'm usually digging through the dryer,
whatever you know, hopefully,natalie, I usually throw my
clothes in the wash after I workout.
Natalie dries and does the restof it.
So I'm usually digging throughand trying to find workout
clothes in the mornings, but tome it starts the night before.
Before I go to bed.
Every night I'm looking at mycalendar, seeing what I have on
(03:38):
the agenda for that day, makingsure that I'm writing things
down in my notebook that I needto accomplish the next day.
And then for me it's themindset of forward thinking,
backwards planning.
So when I know what my firstmeeting is of the day, I kind of
work my way back from there.
So obviously I'm going to getup at five, I'm going to get my
(04:00):
workout in, be with Natalie andthe kids get ready for the
school day.
But then I know that there's acertain time that's a cutoff for
me and so as long as I knowthat the night before, I can
always step into that nextmorning setting myself up for
success.
Let's jump into number two here,and that's starting your day
with purpose.
(04:20):
For me, you got one of thebiggest things that you have to
realize is we'll get you out ofbed every morning and I think a
note I took down here was thatif you haven't figured that out
yet, I think it's time to dosome of that mental, the hard
work of figuring out what thatis.
For me, that's so easy it's myfamily.
I was just having aconversation with a guy at the
(04:42):
gym this morning and I was kindof busting on him and telling
him that he needed to liftheavier way.
I said your son's chasing youand you know, that's one of the
things that really motivates mehaving, you know, two younger
boys, like dad always wants tobe the guy and so, um, you know,
my purpose in life is toprovide, you know, an incredible
(05:04):
life for my family and be ableto allow them, you know, the
experiences that they'llremember for a lifetime.
And that's that's my why,that's my purpose, that's my,
that's what gets me out of bedevery single morning.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Well, first things first.
Mine is don't hit the snoozebutton.
When I first my alarm goes off.
I mean, I've been getting up at3, 3, 15, naturally, for 17
plus years because the RV and mybody's so, you know, immune to
it.
I don't even need the alarmsometimes.
(05:39):
So that's like the main thing.
First thing don't hit snooze.
You know I get up knowingexactly what I need to do.
Whether it's a workout, whichthat's when I usually work out,
it's first thing in the morningbefore I go into work and I
remind myself why I'm doing it.
And you know, with my brand,that I'm building.
That's another thing, you knowI got to set a standard because
(06:05):
you wear the right shirt today.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
For that, yes.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
I did.
That's from Ben Newman, by theway.
Yeah, if you know, if I don'thave a purpose behind the
actions that I'm taking with mybrand and what I'm doing,
there's no point in, you know,promoting my brand that I'm not
even taking action from.
You know, living the standardfrom it, so that's like the big
thing that I focus on.
And, uh, I feel like if you,you live with that standard and
(06:31):
you want to better yourselfevery single day, it's like dude
, I mean, there's no stoppinganybody.
You know, if you have thatmindset and just keep going, I
just don't see how people can becomplacent, you know, and um,
but yeah, that's my purposefirst thing.
When I get up every day, it'slike that's the first thing I
want.
How can I better myself?
How can I better my brand?
(06:51):
And um, yeah, that's everysingle day, that's what I think
about.
But um, which leads nicely intonumber three yeah, I mean moving
your body first thing in themorning.
Um, first thing, obviously,when I I get out of bed, I just
go straight to the kitchen.
I mean, obviously I let Sophieout first cause she's right
beside me, she's a morningmorning dog.
(07:14):
First thing she goes out I'llmake my nature's Gatorade.
I've posted this before.
Bryce Harper's also, you know,shared this a lot on Tik TOK and
on his page.
And basically I mean, if youguys want the recipe, I have it,
just DM me and I can send itover to you.
But it's pretty easy.
It's just coconut water.
You squeeze some lemon into it,add some salt, you can add
(07:41):
honey to it, which I haven'tdone that yet, but it's.
I feel like it's a lot better II also add a salt packet too
sometimes before I work out, butit's like I feel like it's
better than having a cup ofcoffee, um, but yeah, first
things hydrate.
You know, at least 16 ounces ofwater and um, right before I go
to the gym, that's get thatmovement going yeah, I mean it's
(08:02):
for me same thing.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
same.
To me it's taking care ofnumber one right, taking care of
yourself.
You know a lot of people goback and forth on the whole
physical health, mental healthand for me, as long as I'm doing
the physical, the mentalfollows with that.
And I mean Natalie can elaborateon this, you know, sometime
(08:26):
when she comes on the podcast.
But if I don't work out, I'mjust not, I'm off.
Not a good human, easilyagitated the whole thing.
I'm sure anyone who gets inthat routine feels the same way.
You're just missing something.
So for me, the physicalactivity, working out, getting a
(08:46):
good sweat in, that is the waythat I set myself up for success
and that's both physically andmentally.
It just gets me in the rightheadspace to go after the day.
Number four here hydrate andfuel your body.
You just touched on that.
For me, again, going back toforward thinking, backwards
(09:10):
planning, you know Sunday forNatalie and I is meal prep day,
um, you know we, we typicallyget three to four days prepped
out, um, and then we'll have todo something midweek just to one
to try and keep the food fresh.
But two, I mean it's a lot offood to prep out, you know, for
(09:33):
the both of us, and so you knowwe do that.
Hydration's key you know we'vebeen on the Element train for a
long time, so you know doing theelectrolyte packets from from
element have been crucial for us, you know, whether it's through
the workouts or, you know,avoiding any type of illness I
(09:56):
mean it's it's played a hugerole I'm gonna throw another one
at you.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Look at water boy.
We do water boy packets, we doboth.
I feel like element is like toptier.
But um, one of the guys fromthe hrt clinic mentioned water
boy to me and we got that and Iwas like, wow, these taste
amazing.
Like strawberry what strawberrylemonade.
Yeah, phenomenal.
Yeah.
So I, if you guys want toswitch, switch it up.
(10:20):
I know you guys probably have asubscription, but if you want
to change it up one time, trythem out.
I highly recommend them.
Those are the two we usually cango with.
But, yeah, hydration is key andI feel like a lot of people
they, you know, oh, salt's bad.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
Salt's bad for you.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
No, it is not, and you know it's like we're all
taught.
You know drinking just straightwater.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
You got to understand that's flushing everything, all
your minerals, everything outof your body.
Especially like I go through, Ido quite a bit of intermittent
fasting and so that's a veryquick way to dehydrate yourself
and so that plays a huge role.
And then again the amount ofwater we drink in a day like
water we all know water can getpretty boring, yeah and uh makes
(11:11):
it kind of hard to choke itdown.
I think once you add a littlesomething to it it makes it a
lot a lot easier agreed.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I mean, they have all those flavors.
What was it?
The meal flavor?
You know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
The.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Mios.
Yeah they have that and I'venever done them before.
I just love water.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
I'm just so used to it, I do.
But going into mindset work,feeding your brain, I've been
going back and forth.
Sometimes I end my nightreading but I've been doing it
in the morning.
Sometimes I end my nightreading but I've been doing it
in the morning, and basicallyit's when I have extra time I'm
(11:52):
like, okay, I'm going to read my10 pages for 75 hard, and some
mornings I start doing it in themorning.
I like doing that.
It's nice, switching up alittle bit.
But it's also nice to do in theevening too, because it unwinds
you down in bed and keeps youaway from your you know your
phone and um.
(12:13):
But yeah, feeding your brain,um is you gotta it's.
It's a muscle as well.
You gotta train that thing.
And um.
I like to uh some days on.
I on my phone and play itthrough my speakers in my in my
car and listen to, likeMotiversity, you know
Motivational, I'll send you some.
Sometimes I usually listen tothat on the way to work.
(12:33):
Or I'll listen to our podcastsor, um, andy's podcast on the
way to work.
But yeah, I mean, you got tofeed the brain, man, that's.
You can't leave that, leavethat out yeah, I mean, I used to
.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
So I used to only listen to music in the car and
then now, like, if natalie and Iare driving together or if the
kids are with me, we play music.
You know, the kids love musicand sing along, and but if I'm
riding solo, like I don't, I'mnot listening to music.
You know, I have on an ebook, apodcast, youtube.
(13:06):
Um, you know something toconstantly be learning and I
also love the idea of just it's.
It gives you the ability tohabit stack right.
So you're you're able to domore than one thing you know for
yourself at once and, um, youknow.
The other key thing I thinkplays into this, because we're,
because we all have some sort ofaddiction to social media.
(13:28):
If you go to your Explore page,what's it showing?
Yep, is it uplifting stuffthat's feeding you new
information and things that aremaking you better?
Is it goofy stuff?
I can add to this To me, likeagain, social media can be a
(13:49):
blessing and a curse.
Yep, you can.
You have your head right inyour hands, the ability to learn
so much, but it also can turninto scrolling and you know
crazy stuff too.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah, I can add to that Um, cause I recently, uh,
like cleared my whole explorepage and basically started just
going through like stuff that Iwant to see, like content
creation.
Um, entrepreneurs, you knowtalking their stuff, and then
you know motivation.
That's like basically my feedand like some baseball stuff and
(14:24):
like hitting drills and stufflike that for her kid.
But yeah, that's like mainexplore page and that I do.
It's like you, you control yourinstagram.
You can control whatever youwant, and I mean instagram you
can learn quite a bit.
You know it's just like tiktokas well.
You can control what you seeand what you learn off of that
(14:45):
too.
But yeah, I recently did thatand there it there's positives
and there's negatives, becausethe negative thing I've noticed
is your views go down.
So I'm trying to figure thatpart out too.
But that's another thing to.
I could go into that all dayabout that.
But, um, I mean going to umnumber six here, you're
(15:11):
non-negotiable your work block,um, do you have like a set time
in the evening, do you don't?
You don't look at your phone.
That's the thing about mine.
I, I have to, and that's why Iset like times, like, okay, I
need to get this posted, causeyou can see what times to post
for post for you know, like formy brand and like for personal
page, but do you have like a settime to you?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
so it's, it's different, I mean I, so I set up
time blocks within my workschedule because otherwise I'll
just go back to backs all daylong and I never get an
opportunity to get in, actuallyget anything done.
Yeah, I need to, and so for thelongest time, you know, I fell
into the trap of like justfilling my calendar from the
(15:53):
start of the day to the finish,you know, with meetings and
one-on-one and all these thingsright because you just feel like
, well, if my calendar is packed, then I'm obviously doing
something you know doingaccomplishing things, not the
case.
And so every day I have at leasttwo time blocks in there.
Just depending on what's goingon, it could be an hour, it
could be two hours just to getstuff done.
(16:16):
As far as and that's just my inmy work time, when I get home
you know I talked about thisbefore like Natalie's really
good about being on me, about,you know, from the time I walk
in the door to the time we getthe kids in bed, put the phone
away, yep, and again, the, theGarmin's been helpful for me for
that, uh, being able to, youknow, get updates or if
(16:39):
something's going on, if thereis a 911, obviously I can go get
my phone, um, but taking thetime to prioritize family and
put the phone away has been, youknow, so that you know two to
three hour time block ofintentional family time is is a
big deal around here I know youcould chime in about this, about
your like your non-negotiablework block.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Yeah, because you're the same as him I'm very.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
When I work I put like the night before I always
look at my calendar and put mymeetings and I I usually fill
the first two hours of the dayof what I need to do.
So like from eight to ten.
But I usually block out becauseI'm I'm really the only one on
east coast time.
Everyone's mostly Central time.
(17:26):
So I usually block out 8 to 10to just knock out a bunch of
stuff, because I know wheneveryone starts getting on,
meetings start and whatnot.
So that two hours is prettymuch my time.
But I do everything in two-hourblocks.
I have my to-do list and then Ifill in.
(17:46):
Sometimes things don't get done.
I have my to-do list and then Ifill in.
Sometimes things don't get done, I have to move it.
But instead of beingoverwhelming of everything I
need to do, I do that two-hourblock.
I'm very good at it at work.
Sometimes work overpowers it.
They just schedule over it.
But I know I need to do betterat home.
There was a while where I didjust put my phone away, but I
(18:09):
gotta work on that the phonegets you, it will, it does it's.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I mean it's a distraction, but I mean, with
what I'm doing, I, you knowthat's.
I set myself times.
I'm like, okay, do this for alittle bit and you make your
videos and then you, you know,save them and so on and then do
some editing, you know, but it'sjust so much screen time, it's
unreal, you know.
But yeah, non-negotiable workblock I just I try to unwind,
(18:39):
you know, by eight o'clock andjust plan my day that then, and
then hopefully be in bed by youknow nine, ten o'clock, which
very rarely does happen.
Um, but yeah, that's, it's sohard to that.
I think this is like one of thetoughest things in the routine
is this um, but going into whatnumber?
(19:02):
seven, number seven 100%.
No plan B going all in.
I mean no backup plan, no halfeffort.
Operate like there's no otheroption but success.
You find a way to make ithappen.
If you're going to giveyourself an out, you'll take it
every time.
Burn the boats and fully commit.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yeah, I mean people.
People ask have been asking methis my whole life.
Like Bragg said, you not gottena scholarship to Notre Dame to
play football, what would youhave done?
I'm like that wasn't an option.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yep, you know, not necessarily Notre Dame, but like
getting a football scholarshipand playing was not an that was
the only thing in my mind that Iwas going to do.
And then, same thing.
Once I got to Notre Dame, itwas like, brax, what if you
wouldn't have made it to the NFL?
Like, never thought about it,like I in the back of my mind,
yes, did I know I was getting adegree from the university of
(20:00):
Notre Dame and that I wouldfigure it out.
Yeah, but that was exactly it.
I, I'll figure it out and it'sno different now.
And what I do for work, it's.
You know, there's been timeswhere you you start looking at
these other things and it's allit is is a distraction you know,
I like the visual of you take alion, put two pieces of meat on
each side of them.
Right, like where do you go?
(20:21):
Right, it's focus on one thingat a time and devour that and
then move on to the next thing.
And for me it's just like Idon't operate like that.
You know, natalie, that's onething that you know Natalie has
to temper me on is like the goall in mindset of like when I
commit to something, like that'sit for good or for bad, like
(20:45):
that's it, that's it for good orfor bad?
Like that's it, um, and if itdoesn't work out, then I'll,
I'll pivot and figure it outafter that.
But to sit there and, you know,go half in on one thing and
half in on another is not goingto get me anywhere.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
When it's all said and done, so that's with anybody
and you said it already.
You know pivot If something, ifyou have to do something else
in, and yeah, obviously you dopivot.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Yeah, I mean you learn, you pivot, you grow and
you continue on.
I mean there's no other option,I've done it numerous times.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
you know, yeah, I mean, it goes right into number
eight.
You know building reflectionadjustments.
You know, at some point in myday I take a step back.
You know I've done this man,I've done this a couple times.
I've actually had.
You know, we said in the pastepisode that you know the test
(21:36):
days and taking that step backand evaluating and taking a deep
breath, and usually during myoutdoor ruck is and usually when
I have this, you know areflection, a reflection time
and what I think about.
You know what went good for theday, what I need to work on,
(21:57):
and you know going from thereand I feel like you know if
you're just grinding withoutchecking in, you're missing
opportunities to improve.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Right.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
You know, growth comes from adjustments, not just
effort.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
So I mean you look at to me this is a two-part the
reflection piece and then theadjustment piece.
I think the adjustment piece issomething that I do really well
.
The pivot right you learn, youfail, you pivot, you move on,
you just continue that cycle.
The reflection piece isprobably my weakest.
You learn, you fail, you pivot,you move on, you just continue
(22:32):
that cycle.
The reflection piece is probablymy weakest.
You know I talked about thisbefore.
Natalie reminds me often oflike you have to take a step
back and reflect on the thingsthat you have accomplished and I
just I'm not, I'm not good atthat.
So having a partner who does agood job of reminding me of that
(22:53):
is very helpful.
But me myself, like that'swhere I struggle the most,
especially, like you know, withour journal we're we're using
right Doing the weeklyreflection.
It's like I dread doing that.
I hate it because I'm like theweek's over, like I'm on let's
keep going, and whateveradjustments I had to make during
that week, I've already madethem, and so I struggle with
(23:16):
doing the look back.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
I'm kind of with you.
You know, like with thejournaling part too, it's like
that is like the hard thing todo, like I know she's done it,
it I've tried to do it, you know, it's just it's very hard for
me to do, just to write out, youknow, just anything.
Um.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
But yeah, I I'm with you on that you know what's
crazy is like, uh, so I've, like, we've, I've told you before
like I I've kept a journal for along time, but I find I still,
to this day, find myself likequestioning what I write in it,
cause I'm like, oh my God, likewhat, if someone, what if
someone finds this, you know,like they find the crazy stuff
(24:05):
that's in my head, you know, andit was.
It shouldn't be that way.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Right.
I think it's that part of likelike your diary care like what
other people?
Speaker 1 (24:15):
think about you.
Yeah, you know they.
You know people say all thetime like you shouldn't care
what other people think, likethere's certain things, I really
don't care what other peoplethink but at the end of the day,
we're all looking for likerecognition yeah and approval
from certain people, and so Ithink there's just something
about that when it comes tojournaling, that makes it tough.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Don't think, just do that's right right.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
Yes, okay, correct.
Where are you referencing thatfrom Maverick?
Yes, not Top Gun.
2.
No, maverick, I just want toGun 2.
No.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
Maverick, I just want to a little thing.
I'm very opposite.
I'm not good at pivoting, I'mgood at reflecting.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Teach me.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
I don't like change.
I don't like pivoting is verylike it has to take something
major for me to be like no.
It has to take something majorfor me to be like no and to kind
of go back with the commitment.
I was taught I had to trysomething.
If I was going to sign up, Ihad to do it for one full year,
no matter what.
If I hated it too bad, you haveto.
You committed so at least ayear.
(25:26):
One time there was something.
I was on a dance team but Iwanted to.
I did theater as well and Iliterally had to have a
presentation to my parents onwhy I had to quit the dance team
so I could do the play.
It worked well.
I got the lead in the play, butthat was one of those like.
(25:47):
It was a big, long discussion.
It wasn't a very easy decision.
So that's how I was brought up.
But the reflection part when Iget to a pivot or get to a
crossroads, I have to look backand go wow, I started.
I've been the Red Robin, thecharacter I've come from there
(26:09):
and I've been a vp, you know,looking at different things of
like I was an intern here.
You know just the differentthings I've done in life of I
can't believe I did that.
And here I am today, and so Ilike to look at those things and
reflect, and so when I'm like Ifeel like I've done nothing,
(26:31):
well, you've come a long wayfrom being the bird at red Robin
, so you know, anything ispossible.
Um, but yeah, the the pivot'svery hard for me, so we can all
learn from each other.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
For sure, yeah.
So we talked.
We talked a little bit aboutmorning routine.
What For sure, yeah?
So we talked a little bit aboutmorning routine.
What about evening wind downroutine?
What's that look?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
like for you, that's number nine.
I do my ruck at night.
I like ending pretty closebefore bedtime, doing that in
the evening.
Sometimes I'll do it a littlebit earlier, because if I know I
have to make some videos oredit some clips or anything like
that, I try to do that in theevening.
Um, sometimes I'll do it alittle bit earlier and then,
cause, if I know I have to makesome videos or edit some clips
or anything like that, I try todo that in the evening as well.
(27:16):
Um, but yeah, that's usuallywhat I do in my evenings.
And then, you know, I'll plan mynext day and then I'll slowly
start unwinding and gettingready for bed, and then then
I'll slowly start unwinding andgetting ready for bed, and then
usually, like I said before, Iusually end the night.
(27:36):
You know, reading, reading.
And then, yeah, man, I meanstaring at a book for a little
bit my eyes get heavy real quick.
That's the thing.
Another thing about reading,man, I just I have to read it a
few times too, but yeah, in theevening that slowly calms me and
(27:58):
relaxes me when I'm reading,and then, dude, I'm out after
that, you know, but yeah, that'susually how my evening is.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
Yeah, I mean, for me it looks like you know, getting
home, putting the phone away, wedo dinner as a family.
Putting the phone away, we dodinner as a family.
The kids right now are in aphase where they love playing
either soccer or footballdownstairs at our house, so
we'll usually get after doingthat for a little bit and then
our bedtime routine with them,and then after that it just kind
(28:24):
of depends on where the day'sat.
It could be going out to do aruck, it could be doing more
work.
No-transcript.
Same thing, though eitherreading or.
(28:46):
That's also a time like that'smy time where I'm usually on my
phone again, whether it's emailsor social media or responding
to the 50 text messages that Ihadn't responded to, which I'm
(29:06):
bad at that.
So if I owe you a text back,I'll get to you.
I promise it's coming.
But, yeah, I mean it's all justpart of the wind down.
That's become part of just theroutine and to me, even when I'm
(29:27):
doing emails on my phone or onthe computer, like that's like
chill time for me.
That is winding down,decompressing.
I spend all day long withpeople, talking with people,
mentoring people, so gettingthat time and I'm a highly
extroverted person, so you knowthat maybe 30-minute window of
(29:50):
just having me time is enoughfor me, and then when my head
hits the pillow it's 10 secondsI'm out.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
And it's less than that for Natalie.
You're not talking to Natalie,keeping her awake.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
No, she's yelled at me enough times to not do that
anymore.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
I feel like if you're constantly overstimulated,
you're not recovering andwithout recovery, you burn out.
And I think winding down is ahuge, huge thing to include and
incorporate, because I meanthese right here, these also,
(30:30):
they just they take, they, theycontrol you, you know so, but I
mean what you do, putting themaway right when you get home, is
, I is the best thing to do.
So, um, we're going right intonumber 10, be flexible but
consistent.
You know, life happens, thingswill come up, you know, but it
(30:54):
doesn't mean you throw yourwhole routine out the window.
You know, you've talked youtalked about earlier about
pivoting.
Um, I'll stay adaptable whilekeeping non-negotiables in your
place.
You know, the goal isn'tperfection, is consistency over
time.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
So, yeah, I like, uh, I like the the mindset of Ben,
but don't break your place.
You know, the goal isn'tperfection, it's consistency
over time.
So, yeah, I like, uh, I likethe the mindset of ben, but
don't break yeah um, you know,you become too rigid in your
habits and your routines.
It can drive you absolutelyinsane and I've been there.
It drives me insane, it drivesnatalie insane, um, and so for
me, this it's a big focal point.
(31:28):
You know what?
Because, especially when itcomes to like diet, nutrition,
workout, like it can almostbecome, you know, religious and
when things don't go to plan,like it'll irk me, make me feel
a certain way and and it justthrows things off, it makes, you
know, the time being around meunpleasant.
(31:51):
So I've really tried to focuson just learning to always be
able to find joy, no matter whatthe situation is.
That's a really hard thing todo, yep, um, but you know, I, at
the end of the day, I don'twant that to be something that
(32:11):
my kids remember, and you know,I think happiness is what we're
all pursuing.
And so letting yourself getsideways over, you know
something silly is, you know,missing a meal like it's not
gonna it's not gonna kill youyeah if you're consistent like
(32:32):
you're right back on the nextday, so just figuring it out,
you know yeah, I mean, it'sgotten so bad to the point where
, like, the family sits down fordinner and my daughter's made
comments like dad, why don't you, why don't you eat what we eat?
(32:52):
and that's kind of a hard thingto explain to an eight-year-old,
but they see it and so I'vegotten better at you know, and
my wife cooks really healthyfood, but it's like if it didn't
fit perfectly into my macros,then I was was just going to
make my own thing.
So I've gotten better with that.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
They see everything Mm-hmm.
Well, final, the last one Keepit simple and sustainable.
At the end of the day, if yourroutine isn't simple, you won't
stick with it.
(33:32):
I don't overcomplicate mine atall and you probably don't do
yours either.
I focus on what truly moves theneedle, makes me better every
day, makes me feel good dayafter day.
But you know, like we just said, there's some things that
happen during the day that don'tgo as planned.
But you know, like we just said, there's some things that
happen during the day that don'tgo as planned.
You have to pivot and figure itout, but don't overcomplicate
(33:54):
it.
That's the number one thing Ican say, because if you do,
you're just going to mentallydrain yourself and you're not
going to want to do it.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
Yeah, I mean, I've kind of tried to live by the
quote of there's beauty insimplicity, and so many people
will go through, they'll listento this podcast and be like, oh
my gosh, those 11 things.
Where do I even start?
And I think it's just that.
(34:23):
You have to start somewhere.
And then, once you lock in onehabit, you add another one, and
that may take you a year, whoknows.
I was just having a conversationwith an individual the other
day where they were talkingabout how they're their own
worst enemy because they feellike they have so far to go, and
(34:46):
I'm like it's true, you do havea long way to go, but it starts
by taking the first step and ittypically takes longer than
what you think it's going to.
But if you continue to show upevery single day doing one
simple thing over time right,compound interest it's going to
(35:08):
make a big difference in the end.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
People are impatient.
That's why they want it now.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Yeah, and then other people will take it the other
way, where they'll completelyflood their calendars and their
day and try and do a milliondifferent things and all these
crazy morning routines and itbecomes overwhelming.
And so my advice there was dondon't confuse movement with
progress.
Yeah, just because you're doingall these things doesn't mean
that you're taking any stepscloser to where you want to be,
(35:35):
because they may not be theright things that work for you.
So keep it simple.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
That's it.
That's it.
Don't overcomplicate it, butthat's it.
That's 11 Habits, um to keepyou locked in and on track for
for life, basically, um.
But, like we said, these arewhat work for us, that's what
works for braxton.
So, basically, if you don'thave a routine, you can figure
it out, you know, one at a time,and stack them from there um
(36:06):
let's recap these one more timehere for you guys.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
So number one is planning a routine the night
before.
Two is start your day withpurpose.
Three is move your body firstthing in the morning.
Four is hydrate and fuel yourbody.
Five is mindset work.
Feed your brain.
Six is create non-negotiablework blocks.
Six is create non-negotiablework blocks.
(36:32):
Seven commit 100.
No plan b.
A is build, build in reflectionand adjustments.
Nine stick to an evening winddown routine.
10 be flexible but consistent.
And 11 keep it simple andsustainable.
Speaker 2 (36:46):
And that is it Before we go.
If this episode helped, youguys, let us know, share it, tag
us and yeah, let's keep pushingforward, but until the next
time we're out of here, We'llsee you.
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