In today’s episode, I’m unpacking a reel I saw recently that really bothered me.
It suggested that you should strive not to care if your partner cheats — that detachment will somehow make you more desirable.
Here’s the thing: that’s not detachment. That’s avoidance.
I get it, protecting yourself can feel safer than risking being hurt again.
But building walls to avoid pain doesn’t make you stronger. It just keeps you disconnected. I talk about what real emotional strength looks like, how avoidance masquerades as power, and why vulnerability is the key to healthy love.
I also share one of my favorite quotes from C.S. Lewis that captures this beautifully.
If you’ve been hurt before and find yourself pulling away from intimacy to stay “safe,” this episode is for you.
📩 Want support?If you’re ready to break down the walls and start creating real, secure connections — DM me the word sessions on Instagram @lillyrachels to learn about working together.
Thanks for listening — and as always, I hope you choose growth. 🤍
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