Ep. 23: Midlife Sexual Health Masterclass: with Gynogirl Dr Sameena Rahman

What if the, low desire, or changes in your sex life you've been told are "normal" actually aren't?

In this episode of Heads & Tails, Dr. Kate White and Jay White sit down with Dr. Sameena Rahman — widely known online as "GynoGirl" — for a candid, empowering conversation about women's sexual health, trauma-informed gynecology care, pelvic pain, libido, menopause, and why so many women are dismissed when they ask for help.

Together, they unpack:

    •    Why pain with sex is never something women should simply "push through"

    •    How women are conditioned to normalize suffering

    •    The connection between pelvic floor dysfunction, hormones, anxiety, and sexual pain

    •    What pelvic floor physical therapy actually is — and why it can be life-changing

    •    The difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire in long-term relationships

    •    Why libido often disappears when sex becomes painful

    •    How trauma, culture, shame, and "medical gaslighting" affect women's willingness to seek care

    •    How perimenopause and menopause impact arousal, vaginal tissue, and intimacy

    •    New treatments for female arousal, including topical sildenafil ("topical Viagra")

    •    Why women need clinicians who actually have time and training to address sexual health concerns

Dr. Rahman also shares insights from her upcoming book, Brown Girl's Disease: A Guide to Sexual Health and Empowerment Through a South Asian Lens, and discusses how women can better advocate for themselves in a healthcare system that often overlooks sexual wellness.

If you've ever wondered:

    •    "Is this normal?"

    •    "Why does sex hurt?"

    •    "Why don't I feel desire anymore?"

    •    "Why do I feel dismissed by doctors?"

    •    "Could hormones, stress, trauma, and relationship dynamics all be connected?"

…this episode is for you.

Because midlife isn't just about surviving changes — it's about recalibrating your body, mind, and relationships from your head to your tail.