March 26, 2026 • 15 mins
How you feel determines how you show up in your life. In this episode, MaryAnn Walker explores how emotions shape your reactions, relationships, and daily experiences.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- Why your emotions drive your reactions and behaviors
- How the same situation can feel different depending on your emotional state
- The “cup” analogy that explains why certain reactions spill out during stressful moments
- How identifying your emotions helps you respond more intentionally
- How choosing a more supportive emotion can change your relationships and daily life
- Why your temperament may simply be emotions you’ve practiced repeatedly
Challenge for the Week
Take a moment today to identify three emotions you’re experiencing. Notice where each emotion shows up in your body and how it influences your thoughts and behavior. Then ask yourself: Which emotion do I want to turn the volume up on today? Practicing emotional awareness is the first step toward changing how you show up in your life.
Work With Me
If you’re a deep-feeling person who wants help learning how to understand, manage, and work with your emotions, coaching can make a powerful difference. Together we can explore your emotional patterns and help you intentionally practice emotions that create more peace, confidence, and connection in your life.
You can apply to work with me at www.maryannwalker.life
or email me directly at maryann@maryannwalker.life
.
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Speaker 3 (00:42):
Well, hello and welcome back.
My name is MaryAnn Walker and Ihelp those who tend to over own
other people's emotions toexperience more peace in life
and less eggshells.
And today we're gonna be talkingabout something that is
incredibly important tounderstand if you wanna change
how it is that you're showing upin life and in your
relationships.
And it's this (00:59):
how you feel determines how you show up.
The truth is that our actions,how we speak, how we respond,
how we treat other people, thechoices that we make, they're
all driven by how it is that wefeel at any given moment.
Now, last week we talked abouthow our thoughts create our
feelings, and this is reallybuilding upon that.
This is the next step in thechain.
(01:20):
So if you haven't listened tolast week's, go and listen to
that one because this reallykind of builds upon that.
But once a feeling is present inyour body, that feeling is what
is going to drive your behavior.
So if you want to change how itis that you're showing up in
life, if you want to change yourlived experience, you have to
understand how it is that you'recurrently feeling so that we can
come up with a map to get you tohow it is that you actually want
(01:42):
to feel.
So let me share with you asimple example.
Imagine for a moment that youare stuck in rush hour traffic,
okay?
And we're gonna play around withtwo different scenarios here.
So on this first day, thenyou're feeling really amazing.
You're feeling cute, you'refeeling energized.
Maybe you're rocking out tomusic that you love, or you're
listening to your favoritepodcast.
Hello, that's me.
You're feeling really confidentand you feel like life is really
(02:04):
going your way.
You're stuck in traffic, yes,but the traffic isn't bothering
you.
In fact, you might decide toturn up the music and dance
along.
Maybe you're really excited tolisten to another episode here
on the podcast, or maybe you'vebeen looking around enjoying the
sunshine or smiling andshrugging it off at the car next
to you.
Or maybe you're using that timeto call a friend, but you're
(02:24):
really pretty unbothered in thismoment.
Now imagine that exact samescenario where the traffic is
just the same, right?
You're stuck in rush hourtraffic, but on this day you're
feeling discouraged and you'realready feeling victimized.
You're tired.
Work has been stressful.
Maybe you had an argumentearlier in the day and now that
same traffic, it's feelingunbearable.
(02:46):
You might even start thinkingthings like,"well, why does
stuff like this always happen tome?
This day, it just keeps gettingworse.
Nothing ever goes smoothly forme." The traffic didn't change.
The only difference is youremotional state and that
emotional state.
It was shaping how it was thatyou were experiencing that rush
hour traffic.
Now, here's another way to thinkabout it.
(03:08):
There's a story that's kind ofbeen circulating a bit on social
media about carrying a cup ofsomething and then being jostled
and noticing what spills out.
Now if you're walking aroundholding a cup of something and
somebody bumps into you,whatever is inside of the cup is
what is going to spill out.
So if you have coffee in yourcup, coffee will spill out.
If it's water, water will spillout.
If it's juice, juice will spillout.
(03:28):
And the same thing happens withour emotional world.
When life bumps into us, whensomething unexpected happens,
when we're stuck in traffic,whatever it is that's already
inside of us.
That is what is going to spillout.
This means that if you'refeeling calm and in good humor,
when your waiter gets your orderwrong, then you might even smile
and laugh it off.
You might even say somethinglike, oh, no worries.
(03:50):
Things like this happen.
But if you're already feelingoverwhelmed and resentful, then
that exact same mistake, itmight trigger frustration in
you.
Which might leak out onto yourwaiter.
Suddenly you're snapping at thewaiter or you're stewing about
the simple mistake for the restof the evening.
And so it's really easy toassume that the situation caused
our emotional reaction, butoften the situation is simply
(04:12):
revealed an emotion that wasalready present for us.
And so today I want to inviteyou to start to get curious
about two things.
First.
What is it that I'm feelingright now?
And second, what do I want tofeel instead?
That's what's gonna create theroadmap to get to where you want
to go.
Now, before we go further, let'skind of talk about the emotions
themselves, emotions orfeelings.
(04:35):
There's simply a vibration inthe body.
That's it.
They're just a sensation in thebody.
So this might feel liketightness or warmth, maybe it's
pressure or expansion.
Maybe it's high energy or lowenergy.
But when you resonate with acertain emotional vibration for
long enough, then it can startto feel like that's your own
personality.
That's now become yourtemperament.
(04:56):
And when that happens, you mightsay things like, well, I'm just
an anxious person.
I'm easily overwhelmed.
I'm just naturally pessimistic.
But what's really happening isthat your brain and your body,
they have practiced certainemotional vibrations for so long
that they've now become a partof who you are.
They've become familiar.
(05:16):
They've become your defaultemotional setting.
But what if your defaultemotional setting isn't what you
want it to be?
Now, let me share with you anexample from one of my clients,
and we're just gonna call herAnne.
I've changed some details, butAnne has gone through some
really difficult friendships inthe past.
She's been hurt and betrayed,and because of those
experiences, then she's began tofeel jaded when it comes to
(05:39):
female relationships.
So that means that when she'smeeting new people, then she's
showing up as guarded,pessimistic, distrusting, on
edge.
She doesn't open up very easily.
She goes into relationships justassuming that these other women
will disappoint her.
And so she keeps it emotionaldistance, and because she's
(05:59):
showing up as guarded, itactually makes it harder for her
to connect with people.
Now during coaching, we talkedabout what emotions might serve
her better and how would shelike to feel about these
potential female friends.
Now, she wasn't necessarily in aplace where forcing herself into
love and trust would feel safeor authentic.
Feeling guarded, it did actuallyhelp her to feel safe because
(06:20):
that way she could protectherself from future harm.
But as we talked, we found anemotion that felt both safe and
possible for her.
Curiosity.
So instead of enteringrelationships feeling guarded,
then she started to practicejust neutral curiosity.
She did not have to decide rightaway who was safe and who
wasn't.
She didn't have to decide rightaway who to be friends with.
(06:41):
She could be curious, and shecould collect evidence along the
way of the qualities that didand did not feel safe to her.
She could look for evidence oftrust, reciprocation, and mutual
care.
She could ask herself questionslike, well, what is this person
like?
What can I learn about themtonight?
And well, I wonder in what wayswere compatible and I wonder
(07:02):
what ways were not compatible.
She could just lead with thatcuriosity.
And that curiosity allowed herto stay discerning while still
being open to the possibility ofconnection.
And that small emotional shift,it completely changed how she
started showing up inrelationship.
All right.
Let me share with you anotherexample.
Sam was starting to associatethe feeling of overwhelm with
(07:25):
his wife.
Many of their conversationsrevolved around politics and the
current state of the world.
And the truth is that his wifecares deeply about social
issues, and she wanted to talkwith her partner about it.
But Sam would come home afterlong work days, feeling already
mentally and emotionallyexhausted...
and when those conversationsstarted, he immediately felt
overwhelmed.
(07:45):
Eventually he began to dreadhaving conversations with her at
all, which really wasn't helpinghis marriage.
So during coaching then we kindof explored other emotions that
he had towards his wife.
And as is usually the case, hewas actually experiencing more
than one emotion at the sametime, and one emotion that he
had unintentionally turned thevolume down on was love.
(08:06):
He fell in love with his wifefor her compassion, he fell in
love with her for her level ofempathy.
He loves how deeply she caresabout other people and the world
around her.
Instead of trying to eliminatethe overwhelm completely, then
Sam, he simply startedpracticing, turning up the
volume on the love that wasalready there.
And when he listened to herconcerns through that lens of
(08:27):
love instead of through the lensof overwhelm, then the whole
experience changed.
His wife still talks about thesame topics, but his changed
emotional state has changed howit is that he's receiving her
commentary.
And that has made a hugedifference in their
relationship.
He is now better able to really,truly listen to her.
He's better able to hold space,and this has deepened their
(08:49):
connection and increased thelove and joy that they
experience in theirrelationship.
All right, let me share one moreexample.
Chloe has noticed that she'sstarting to feel intense disdain
towards her work.
She had a conflict with acoworker one day, and since that
day, anytime she sees thatcoworker, she just feels
completely drained.
At work then she stews overevery single word that this
(09:11):
coworker has said.
When she comes home, she talksabout how much she hates her job
and all of the stress that thiscoworker is creating for her,
And it's starting to take atoll, not only on her, but on
everybody that she's talking to.
So she came to me knowing thatsomething really needed to
change.
She also knew that she didn'tnecessarily need to love her
job, but at the very least shewanted to stop hating it.
(09:31):
So through coaching, then sherealized something really
important.
Working there was actually achoice.
Nobody was forcing her to bethere.
She didn't have to show up.
And in fact, as we talked aboutthis, then she realized that, oh
yeah, I was actually offered anopportunity to transfer to
another branch if I wanted to.
And I wouldn't even have toreapply to the job.
They could just transfer me overthere.
(09:52):
And once she saw that staying inthat position was optional, and
that change was within herpower, her whole perspective
shifted.
Instead of feeling trapped inher job, she now chose to lean
into that feeling of choice,that this was optional for her,
and now she felt like she was infact choosing to go to work each
day.
In fact, she was even choosingto engage with that coworker.
And that shift towards seeing itall as optional, it allowed her
(10:15):
to feel more neutral about herjob.
Knowing it was a choice to bethere, it even alleviated the
pressure that she felt to findsomething new or to transfer.
Simply feeling more neutralabout her job has allowed her to
show up at work, feeling lessresentment, and experiencing
more clarity.
When you're a deep feelingperson, emotions can sometimes
feel overwhelming.
It can feel like emotions arejust happening to you, but the
(10:38):
truth is that you can learn howto work with your emotions more
intentionally.
Now, most people are onlyfamiliar with three emotions.
Sad, mad, and glad.
But there are dozens and evenhundreds of emotional
experiences that are availableto you.
And something else that's reallyimportant to know is that often
we experience multiple emotionsat the same time.
(11:00):
In fact, right now I want to doa little exercise with you.
Take a moment right now to seeif you can identify three
emotions that you're currentlyexperiencing and then see if you
can kind of separate them outand see how each of those
emotions feel in your body.
So for example, right now as I'mrecording this episode, I'm
experiencing several emotions.
I'm feeling excited to sharethis with you and for me, that
(11:21):
excitement, it feels light, itfeels expansive in my body, it
feels energetic.
It has this upward momentumabout it.
It's almost like sunshine justkind of radiating outward into
the world.
And also, I'm feeling a littlebit nervous, even though I've
recorded over 200 episodes hereon the podcast, putting new
ideas out into the world, itrequires a lot of vulnerability.
(11:42):
And so, yeah, for me, thenervousness, it makes me feel a
little bit smaller.
It makes me feel a little bitshaky and my throat can feel a
little bit tighter.
Another emotion I'm experiencingright now is confidence.
I feel confident in talking withyou about this subject, and for
me, confidence.
It feels grounded.
It feels solid.
I notice that my posture kind oflifts a bit.
(12:03):
My shoulders, they roll back,and my voice, it feels clear and
steady.
And really isn't it kind ofinteresting to notice that I can
feel both nervous and confidentat the same time?
And if both of those emotionsare present, why not choose to
turn up the volume on theemotion that feels better in the
moment?
If I choose to turn up thevolume on my nervousness, which
(12:24):
is something we often do whenwe're hyper-focused on, Ooh, I
don't wanna feel that.
I feel too nervous.
We're actually giving it moreenergy.
So if I choose to turn up thevolume on my own nervousness, I
might start to hesitate orsecond guess myself.
But if I choose to intentionallyturn up the volume on
confidence, then I would show upstronger and with a more clear
message.
Now, both emotions can and doexist simultaneously, but I get
(12:48):
to choose which emotion it isthat I want to amplify.
So right now, I want you to justtake a moment and pause and see
if you can identify threeemotions that you are
experiencing.
So maybe you're feeling calm,maybe you're feeling tired,
maybe you're feeling curious.
Just notice how each of theseemotions feel in your body.
Become more familiar with them.
And then ask yourself, whatwould happen if I turned up the
(13:12):
volume on one of these emotions?
How might that change how I'mshowing up today?
Because the truth is that youare driven by your emotions.
Your actions are driven by youremotions.
So the more aware you become ofwhat it is that you're feeling,
the more intentional you can beabout how it is that you wanna
show up in this world.
And here's something reallyimportant to remember.
(13:33):
You become what you practice.
So if you practice joy, joy willspill out.
If you practice anger, angerwill spill out.
If you practice overwhelm,overwhelm will spill out.
If you practice confidence.
Confidence will spill out Yourtemperament or your personality.
It is just a mood or an emotionthat you've practiced repeatedly
(13:54):
over time.
So now the question becomes,what emotion are you currently
practicing and what is thatemotion creating for you?
What emotion would you like topractice instead?
Do you like what this iscreating for you or do you want
to change it?
And what might living throughthat new emotion create for you?
Because when you learn how towork with your emotions more
intentionally, you really, trulycan change your life.
(14:16):
Now, if you're ready to do thatwork, if you want help
understanding your emotionalpatterns and learning how to
shift them in ways that createmore joy, more confidence, and
more connection, I wouldabsolutely love to help you.
This is exactly what I do withmy coaching clients.
So together we can look at yourcurrent emotional default
settings and create a plan tohelp you to rewire your brain
for the emotional life that youactually want.
(14:38):
It just takes practice andsometimes a little bit of
outside help.
So email me atMaryann@maryannwalker.life or
come to my website, MaryAnnWalker Life to apply to work
with me now.
Change just might be closer thanyou think.
All right.
Thank you so much for beinghere, and let's talk soon.
Bye now.
Well, hello and welcome back.
My name is MaryAnn Walker and Ihelp those who tend to over own
other people's emotions toexperience more peace in life
and less eggshells.
And today we're gonna be talkingabout something that is
incredibly important tounderstand if you wanna change
how it is that you're showing upin life and in your
relationships.
And it's this (00:59):
how you feel determines how you show up.
The truth is that our actions,how we speak, how we respond,
how we treat other people, thechoices that we make, they're
all driven by how it is that wefeel at any given moment.
Now, last week we talked abouthow our thoughts create our
feelings, and this is reallybuilding upon that.
This is the next step in thechain.
(01:20):
So if you haven't listened tolast week's, go and listen to
that one because this reallykind of builds upon that.
But once a feeling is present inyour body, that feeling is what
is going to drive your behavior.
So if you want to change how itis that you're showing up in
life, if you want to change yourlived experience, you have to
understand how it is that you'recurrently feeling so that we can
come up with a map to get you tohow it is that you actually want
(01:42):
to feel.
So let me share with you asimple example.
Imagine for a moment that youare stuck in rush hour traffic,
okay?
And we're gonna play around withtwo different scenarios here.
So on this first day, thenyou're feeling really amazing.
You're feeling cute, you'refeeling energized.
Maybe you're rocking out tomusic that you love, or you're
listening to your favoritepodcast.
Hello, that's me.
You're feeling really confidentand you feel like life is really
(02:04):
going your way.
You're stuck in traffic, yes,but the traffic isn't bothering
you.
In fact, you might decide toturn up the music and dance
along.
Maybe you're really excited tolisten to another episode here
on the podcast, or maybe you'vebeen looking around enjoying the
sunshine or smiling andshrugging it off at the car next
to you.
Or maybe you're using that timeto call a friend, but you're
(02:24):
really pretty unbothered in thismoment.
Now imagine that exact samescenario where the traffic is
just the same, right?
You're stuck in rush hourtraffic, but on this day you're
feeling discouraged and you'realready feeling victimized.
You're tired.
Work has been stressful.
Maybe you had an argumentearlier in the day and now that
same traffic, it's feelingunbearable.
(02:46):
You might even start thinkingthings like,"well, why does
stuff like this always happen tome?
This day, it just keeps gettingworse.
Nothing ever goes smoothly forme." The traffic didn't change.
The only difference is youremotional state and that
emotional state.
It was shaping how it was thatyou were experiencing that rush
hour traffic.
Now, here's another way to thinkabout it.
(03:08):
There's a story that's kind ofbeen circulating a bit on social
media about carrying a cup ofsomething and then being jostled
and noticing what spills out.
Now if you're walking aroundholding a cup of something and
somebody bumps into you,whatever is inside of the cup is
what is going to spill out.
So if you have coffee in yourcup, coffee will spill out.
If it's water, water will spillout.
If it's juice, juice will spillout.
(03:28):
And the same thing happens withour emotional world.
When life bumps into us, whensomething unexpected happens,
when we're stuck in traffic,whatever it is that's already
inside of us.
That is what is going to spillout.
This means that if you'refeeling calm and in good humor,
when your waiter gets your orderwrong, then you might even smile
and laugh it off.
You might even say somethinglike, oh, no worries.
(03:50):
Things like this happen.
But if you're already feelingoverwhelmed and resentful, then
that exact same mistake, itmight trigger frustration in
you.
Which might leak out onto yourwaiter.
Suddenly you're snapping at thewaiter or you're stewing about
the simple mistake for the restof the evening.
And so it's really easy toassume that the situation caused
our emotional reaction, butoften the situation is simply
(04:12):
revealed an emotion that wasalready present for us.
And so today I want to inviteyou to start to get curious
about two things.
First.
What is it that I'm feelingright now?
And second, what do I want tofeel instead?
That's what's gonna create theroadmap to get to where you want
to go.
Now, before we go further, let'skind of talk about the emotions
themselves, emotions orfeelings.
(04:35):
There's simply a vibration inthe body.
That's it.
They're just a sensation in thebody.
So this might feel liketightness or warmth, maybe it's
pressure or expansion.
Maybe it's high energy or lowenergy.
But when you resonate with acertain emotional vibration for
long enough, then it can startto feel like that's your own
personality.
That's now become yourtemperament.
(04:56):
And when that happens, you mightsay things like, well, I'm just
an anxious person.
I'm easily overwhelmed.
I'm just naturally pessimistic.
But what's really happening isthat your brain and your body,
they have practiced certainemotional vibrations for so long
that they've now become a partof who you are.
They've become familiar.
(05:16):
They've become your defaultemotional setting.
But what if your defaultemotional setting isn't what you
want it to be?
Now, let me share with you anexample from one of my clients,
and we're just gonna call herAnne.
I've changed some details, butAnne has gone through some
really difficult friendships inthe past.
She's been hurt and betrayed,and because of those
experiences, then she's began tofeel jaded when it comes to
(05:39):
female relationships.
So that means that when she'smeeting new people, then she's
showing up as guarded,pessimistic, distrusting, on
edge.
She doesn't open up very easily.
She goes into relationships justassuming that these other women
will disappoint her.
And so she keeps it emotionaldistance, and because she's
(05:59):
showing up as guarded, itactually makes it harder for her
to connect with people.
Now during coaching, we talkedabout what emotions might serve
her better and how would shelike to feel about these
potential female friends.
Now, she wasn't necessarily in aplace where forcing herself into
love and trust would feel safeor authentic.
Feeling guarded, it did actuallyhelp her to feel safe because
(06:20):
that way she could protectherself from future harm.
But as we talked, we found anemotion that felt both safe and
possible for her.
Curiosity.
So instead of enteringrelationships feeling guarded,
then she started to practicejust neutral curiosity.
She did not have to decide rightaway who was safe and who
wasn't.
She didn't have to decide rightaway who to be friends with.
(06:41):
She could be curious, and shecould collect evidence along the
way of the qualities that didand did not feel safe to her.
She could look for evidence oftrust, reciprocation, and mutual
care.
She could ask herself questionslike, well, what is this person
like?
What can I learn about themtonight?
And well, I wonder in what wayswere compatible and I wonder
(07:02):
what ways were not compatible.
She could just lead with thatcuriosity.
And that curiosity allowed herto stay discerning while still
being open to the possibility ofconnection.
And that small emotional shift,it completely changed how she
started showing up inrelationship.
All right.
Let me share with you anotherexample.
Sam was starting to associatethe feeling of overwhelm with
(07:25):
his wife.
Many of their conversationsrevolved around politics and the
current state of the world.
And the truth is that his wifecares deeply about social
issues, and she wanted to talkwith her partner about it.
But Sam would come home afterlong work days, feeling already
mentally and emotionallyexhausted...
and when those conversationsstarted, he immediately felt
overwhelmed.
(07:45):
Eventually he began to dreadhaving conversations with her at
all, which really wasn't helpinghis marriage.
So during coaching then we kindof explored other emotions that
he had towards his wife.
And as is usually the case, hewas actually experiencing more
than one emotion at the sametime, and one emotion that he
had unintentionally turned thevolume down on was love.
(08:06):
He fell in love with his wifefor her compassion, he fell in
love with her for her level ofempathy.
He loves how deeply she caresabout other people and the world
around her.
Instead of trying to eliminatethe overwhelm completely, then
Sam, he simply startedpracticing, turning up the
volume on the love that wasalready there.
And when he listened to herconcerns through that lens of
(08:27):
love instead of through the lensof overwhelm, then the whole
experience changed.
His wife still talks about thesame topics, but his changed
emotional state has changed howit is that he's receiving her
commentary.
And that has made a hugedifference in their
relationship.
He is now better able to really,truly listen to her.
He's better able to hold space,and this has deepened their
(08:49):
connection and increased thelove and joy that they
experience in theirrelationship.
All right, let me share one moreexample.
Chloe has noticed that she'sstarting to feel intense disdain
towards her work.
She had a conflict with acoworker one day, and since that
day, anytime she sees thatcoworker, she just feels
completely drained.
At work then she stews overevery single word that this
(09:11):
coworker has said.
When she comes home, she talksabout how much she hates her job
and all of the stress that thiscoworker is creating for her,
And it's starting to take atoll, not only on her, but on
everybody that she's talking to.
So she came to me knowing thatsomething really needed to
change.
She also knew that she didn'tnecessarily need to love her
job, but at the very least shewanted to stop hating it.
(09:31):
So through coaching, then sherealized something really
important.
Working there was actually achoice.
Nobody was forcing her to bethere.
She didn't have to show up.
And in fact, as we talked aboutthis, then she realized that, oh
yeah, I was actually offered anopportunity to transfer to
another branch if I wanted to.
And I wouldn't even have toreapply to the job.
They could just transfer me overthere.
(09:52):
And once she saw that staying inthat position was optional, and
that change was within herpower, her whole perspective
shifted.
Instead of feeling trapped inher job, she now chose to lean
into that feeling of choice,that this was optional for her,
and now she felt like she was infact choosing to go to work each
day.
In fact, she was even choosingto engage with that coworker.
And that shift towards seeing itall as optional, it allowed her
(10:15):
to feel more neutral about herjob.
Knowing it was a choice to bethere, it even alleviated the
pressure that she felt to findsomething new or to transfer.
Simply feeling more neutralabout her job has allowed her to
show up at work, feeling lessresentment, and experiencing
more clarity.
When you're a deep feelingperson, emotions can sometimes
feel overwhelming.
It can feel like emotions arejust happening to you, but the
(10:38):
truth is that you can learn howto work with your emotions more
intentionally.
Now, most people are onlyfamiliar with three emotions.
Sad, mad, and glad.
But there are dozens and evenhundreds of emotional
experiences that are availableto you.
And something else that's reallyimportant to know is that often
we experience multiple emotionsat the same time.
(11:00):
In fact, right now I want to doa little exercise with you.
Take a moment right now to seeif you can identify three
emotions that you're currentlyexperiencing and then see if you
can kind of separate them outand see how each of those
emotions feel in your body.
So for example, right now as I'mrecording this episode, I'm
experiencing several emotions.
I'm feeling excited to sharethis with you and for me, that
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excitement, it feels light, itfeels expansive in my body, it
feels energetic.
It has this upward momentumabout it.
It's almost like sunshine justkind of radiating outward into
the world.
And also, I'm feeling a littlebit nervous, even though I've
recorded over 200 episodes hereon the podcast, putting new
ideas out into the world, itrequires a lot of vulnerability.
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And so, yeah, for me, thenervousness, it makes me feel a
little bit smaller.
It makes me feel a little bitshaky and my throat can feel a
little bit tighter.
Another emotion I'm experiencingright now is confidence.
I feel confident in talking withyou about this subject, and for
me, confidence.
It feels grounded.
It feels solid.
I notice that my posture kind oflifts a bit.
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My shoulders, they roll back,and my voice, it feels clear and
steady.
And really isn't it kind ofinteresting to notice that I can
feel both nervous and confidentat the same time?
And if both of those emotionsare present, why not choose to
turn up the volume on theemotion that feels better in the
moment?
If I choose to turn up thevolume on my nervousness, which
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is something we often do whenwe're hyper-focused on, Ooh, I
don't wanna feel that.
I feel too nervous.
We're actually giving it moreenergy.
So if I choose to turn up thevolume on my own nervousness, I
might start to hesitate orsecond guess myself.
But if I choose to intentionallyturn up the volume on
confidence, then I would show upstronger and with a more clear
message.
Now, both emotions can and doexist simultaneously, but I get
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to choose which emotion it isthat I want to amplify.
So right now, I want you to justtake a moment and pause and see
if you can identify threeemotions that you are
experiencing.
So maybe you're feeling calm,maybe you're feeling tired,
maybe you're feeling curious.
Just notice how each of theseemotions feel in your body.
Become more familiar with them.
And then ask yourself, whatwould happen if I turned up the
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volume on one of these emotions?
How might that change how I'mshowing up today?
Because the truth is that youare driven by your emotions.
Your actions are driven by youremotions.
So the more aware you become ofwhat it is that you're feeling,
the more intentional you can beabout how it is that you wanna
show up in this world.
And here's something reallyimportant to remember.
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You become what you practice.
So if you practice joy, joy willspill out.
If you practice anger, angerwill spill out.
If you practice overwhelm,overwhelm will spill out.
If you practice confidence.
Confidence will spill out Yourtemperament or your personality.
It is just a mood or an emotionthat you've practiced repeatedly
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over time.
So now the question becomes,what emotion are you currently
practicing and what is thatemotion creating for you?
What emotion would you like topractice instead?
Do you like what this iscreating for you or do you want
to change it?
And what might living throughthat new emotion create for you?
Because when you learn how towork with your emotions more
intentionally, you really, trulycan change your life.
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Now, if you're ready to do thatwork, if you want help
understanding your emotionalpatterns and learning how to
shift them in ways that createmore joy, more confidence, and
more connection, I wouldabsolutely love to help you.
This is exactly what I do withmy coaching clients.
So together we can look at yourcurrent emotional default
settings and create a plan tohelp you to rewire your brain
for the emotional life that youactually want.
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It just takes practice andsometimes a little bit of
outside help.
So email me atMaryann@maryannwalker.life or
come to my website, MaryAnnWalker Life to apply to work
with me now.
Change just might be closer thanyou think.
All right.
Thank you so much for beinghere, and let's talk soon.
Bye now.
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