April 9, 2026 • 13 mins
Are you stuck in indecision? Many people are stuck in life, thinking they are just undecided about what they should do. But indecision IS a decision.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- Why indecision is actually a decision to keep things the same
- How staying “in the middle” creates more uncertainty in relationships
- The hidden cost of waiting for clarity before taking action
- Why many people stay stuck in careers or life choices longer than they want
- How indecision around health and habits shapes your future over time
- What the motivational triad is and how it influences your decisions
- The difference between your primitive “toddler brain” and your higher mind
- The Spice Girl tool to get you moving
Challenge for the Week
Identify one area of your life where you’ve been stuck in indecision—whether it’s a relationship, career path, or personal habit.
Then ask yourself two questions:
- If I stay in indecision, what am I choosing to continue?
- What does my higher mind actually want long-term?
Even one small step toward clarity can begin to move your life forward.
Work With Me
If you’ve realized that indecision has been keeping you stuck, you don’t have to figure it out alone. This is exactly the work I do with my clients.
Together, we look at how your brain’s patterns—like the motivational triad—are influencing your choices and learn practical ways to reconnect with your higher mind so you can make decisions that move your life forward.
Apply to work with me at:
www.maryannwalker.life
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Speaker 2 (00:43):
Well, hello and welcome back.
My name is MaryAnn Walker and Ihelp highly sensitive people and
recovering people pleasers,learn how, identify what their
needs are so that they can bemet.
And today we're gonna be talkingabout something that many people
don't even realize that they'redoing.
They're remaining in indiedecision.
But here's the truth isindecision is actually a
decision.
Many people tell themselvesthat, well, I just haven't made
(01:05):
up a decision yet.
So they might see things like,well, I'm still thinking about
it.
I'm not sure what I want yet.
I'll make change after I havethings all figured out.
But sometimes months go by, ormaybe even years go by, and
they're still in the same place.
They haven't moved forward.
They haven't stepped away.
They're just kind of stuck inthe middle.
But here's the thing that mostpeople don't realize.
(01:27):
When you remain an indecision,you are still making a decision.
You're essentially deciding tokeep things exactly the way that
they are.
So let's talk about a few of thespaces that this shows up.
And we'll start withrelationships because this is
where a lot of indecision showsup.
So somebody might be askingthemselves questions like, well,
is this person the one, should Istay in this relationship?
Should we move forward together,or should we go our separate
(01:49):
ways?
They stay in uncertainty.
And they keep tellingthemselves, well, I just need
more time to figure this out.
But when you remain inindecision in a relationship,
you're actually choosing toallow things to continue to go
along exactly as they are.
You're not moving forward andyou're not stepping away.
And so essentially you arechoosing this new status quo.
(02:09):
And the problem with that isstaying in the status quo...
it rarely creates feelings ofcommitment, clarity, or
security.
In fact, more often than not,it's actually going to be
creating more uncertainty foryou.
Because you're just gonna remainin the wondering.
You're gonna remain in theanalyzing, and you remain in
that, well, maybe someday thingswill change.
And so sometimes people, theystay in relationships hoping
(02:30):
that the other person is goingto change.
However, staying in therelationship and remaining in
indecision, it's actually adecision to remain in that
relationship even if thingsdon't change, and that's a
really important realizationbecause once you understand
that, then it helps you to startasking better questions.
So then you're able to askquestions like, what do I
(02:51):
actually want in relationship?
What timeline do I want forbuilding a life with somebody?
What standards matter most tome?
What are my red and green flags,and am I actually treating them
as red and green flags?
Clarity starts to appear when westop pretending that indecision
is just some neutral thing andthat things will eventually get
better.
Okay.
(03:11):
Indecision keeps things thesame.
It keeps you stuck, and it is achoice to stay exactly where
you're at.
Now let's talk about anotherarea where indecision shows up a
lot, and that's around careerchoices.
Maybe you're early in yourcareer and you're trying to
figure out what direction totake, or maybe you've been
working at a job for a few yearsand you feel like it isn't right
anymore.
(03:31):
Maybe you're wondering if youshould go back to school and get
a new degree.
You might be thinking, well, Idon't know if I should change
careers.
I don't know if I should go backto school.
I don't know if this is theright time for me to make
change, and so you stay exactlywhere you're at.
But again, indecision is still adecision.
It's a decision to keep yourcurrent situation going.
(03:53):
And one thought that keepspeople stuck is this, well, I'm
too old to make change.
Or it would take too long.
Maybe going back to school wouldtake four years.
Or maybe changing careers wouldrequire learning a new skillset.
And so when that's the truth,then your brain might
immediately jump to, Nope,that's too much work.
But here's a question I like toask my clients.
How old will you be four yearsfrom now if you don't go to
(04:16):
school?
How old will you be four yearsfrom now if you do go to school?
Either way, you're still goingto be four years older.
Time is going to pass eitherway.
The only question is what youdecide to do with the time that
you have.
Four years from now then youcould still be stuck in the same
job feeling miserable or youcould be four years into
(04:37):
building something that reallyactually excites you.
Indecision it does not stoptime.
It just determines where youwill be when the time passes.
Okay.
Now let's talk about one morearea where indecision really
shows up and that's aroundpersonal health.
So maybe you've been thinking,well, I should probably call a
doctor and get that checked out,but you keep putting it off.
(04:59):
Or maybe you've been thinking,okay, well I really should start
exercising.
I.
But then the questions startpiling up.
You're wondering, well, what gymshould I go to?
What workouts should I do?
What diet plan should I follow?
And then suddenly, then thatuncertainty, it feels really
overwhelming.
We confuse ourself with all ofthe options.
And so then what do you do?
Generally, nothing.
(05:20):
So again, indecision it becomesa decision.
The decision to keep doing whatit is that you've been doing.
And over time, then those smalldecisions really do add up.
And they shape your health.
They shape your energy levels,and they shape how it is that
you feel about your own body.
Now, here is a really importantthing to know is if you find
yourself stuck in indecision, Iwant you to hear this part very
clearly, okay?
(05:40):
Nothing's wrong with you.
In fact, your brain is doingexactly what it was designed to
do.
And this kind of brings us tosomething I wanna talk about
called the motivational triad.
Okay.
Your brain is motivated by threethings.
It is motivated by avoidingpain.
It is motivated by seekingpleasure, and it is motivated by
saving energy.
(06:00):
This means that if you'restruggling to make the changes
that you wanna make, it doesn'tmean anything's wrong with you.
It just mean that your brain isworking the way it's designed to
do, and your motivational triadis an overdrive right now.
That's what's driving all ofyour decision making.
Because your brain is designedto avoid pain, of course, you're
not going to want to work out,of course, you're not gonna
wanna have that hardconversation to create change.
(06:20):
Of course, you're not gonnawanna start a new career.
Of course, you're not gonna wantto learn how to do something new
because that sounds like work,and it sounds uncomfortable.
Because your brain is wired toseek pleasure.
Of course, you're going to eatthose cookies instead of making
a salad.
Of course, you're going to wantto scroll online and get that
quick dopamine hit.
Of course, you're going to wantto bail on the work and just go
(06:41):
play instead.
Because your brain wants to saveenergy, of course, you're going
to want to take a nap instead ofworkout.
Of course, you're gonna wannajust throw things in the drawer
haphazardly instead of actuallyorganizing your stuff.
Of course, you're going to wantto talk yourself out of doing
the actual work because oh mygoodness, that sounds exhausting
and I want to save energy,right?
So nothing is wrong with you ifthis is how you're showing up.
(07:04):
Your brain is just working inthe way it's supposed to, but it
is also keeping you stuck.
When your brain sees somethingthat might be uncomfortable, it
immediately tries to avoid it.
Your brain will say, Ugh, thatsounds hard.
That sounds uncomfortable.
No.
Nope.
No, no.
Let's not do that right?
Because your brain wants toavoid pain.
So instead of doing somethingchallenging, like preparing a
(07:25):
healthy meal, then your brain'sgonna say something like, no,
let's just eat cookies Instead,let's hit the drive-through.
Let's scroll on our phone.
Let's watch another episode.
A quick dopamine hit is alwaysgoing to win in the moment
because your brain wantspleasure.
And again, your brain also wantsto save energy.
So organizing your house orstarting a new workout or
researching a career change, allof that can feel really
(07:47):
exhausting.
Your brain wants to say, no, no,no.
Let's please just rest instead.
And again, when that happens,nothing is wrong with you.
Your brain is just doing itsjob.
But if we're not careful, thenthat motivational triad is just
gonna keep us stuck.
So something I wanna point outto you about your brain is that
there's two different parts.
Okay?
There's your primitive mind oryour toddler brain, and then
(08:09):
there's also your higher mind.
Your primitive mind is focusedpurely on survival.
That's the part of you that justwants comfort, safety, and
minimal effort.
That toddler brain wants theeasy life.
It doesn't wanna have to.
Your higher mind is run by yourprefrontal cortex, and that's
the part of you that wants tohelp you to plan, to grow and to
build the life that you actuallywant.
(08:30):
That's like your adult brain,okay?
This means that when yourprimitive mind might be saying
things like, nah, change isuncomfortable, then your higher
mind can step in and say, yeah,and that discomfort is totally
worth the end result.
That's exactly what we'relooking for here.
Your toddler brain, it can onlysee what you want right now in
this very present moment, butyour higher mind, it can see
(08:51):
what's going to happen in thelong term.
It can see what it is that yourchoices are gonna create in the
long term.
In other words, your toddlermind.
It's all about instantgratification, whereas your
adult mind or your prefrontalcortex, it's okay with that
delayed gratification.
It knows something better iscoming if I can stay disciplined
and if I can stay on track.
(09:12):
I also want you to notice thatmore than likely your primitive
mind, it wins a lot of the timebecause it can feel so loud and
it can be so convincing.
So we just wanna give itwhatever it wants to make it be
quiet, thinking that then wewill be able to get what it's
that we want later.
Right?
Okay, I'll, I'll be moredisciplined later.
I'll kick the can until tomorrowor next week, or next month or
next year.
(09:33):
now, if this is just how yourbrain works, is you're gonna
have these two parts of thebrain.
How do you break the cycle ofalways listening to your
primitive mind?
Let me share with you somethingthat I'm gonna call the Spice
Girl strategy.
Now, this is something that Ipersonally do.
You can laugh at me.
It's a hundred percent okay, butit works.
Okay?
So when I catch myself stuck inresistance, or stuck in
(09:54):
indecision, then I tap into myInner Spice Girl and it looks a
little something like this.
My brain will start sayingsomething like, I don't wanna
work out.
That sounds like too mucheffort.
And then I will start to sing tomyself and I'll sing.
So tell me what you want, whatyou really, really want.
And I'll sing it to both sidesof my brain.
So first I'll ask my primitivebrain.
I'll say, so tell me what youwant, what you really, really
want.
And then I listen and myprimitive brain will say, I'll
(10:17):
tell you what I want, what Ireally, really want.
I wanna just sit on the couch.
And I say, okay, I hear you.
And then I address my highermind and I'm like, Hey, higher
mind.
So tell me what you want, whatyou really, really want.
And my higher mind will say,I'll tell you what I want, what
I really, really want.
And then it will remind me ofwhat it is that I really
actually want.
Like, not in that moment, butwhat I want to create over time,
(10:37):
what my long-term goal is, evenif it's uncomfortable.
So my higher mind might say,Hey, you know what I really want
more than sitting on the couchis I wanna feel strong.
I wanna avoid feeling aches andpains as I get older.
I want to have energy.
I want to feel good and lookgood in my body.
And when I intentionallyreconnect with my higher mind
and ask it, okay, what do Iactually really, really want out
(10:59):
of life?
Then it becomes so much easierto move forward, even if my
toddler mind is throwing atantrum.
And the same process works forour relationships and career
decisions and every otherdecision too.
So primitive mind might say,well, I don't know if I want
this relationship or if I wantthis relationship in this form
or not.
And then higher mind might jumpin and say, okay, well what are
(11:19):
three things that we can lookfor specifically to give us
clarity around thisrelationship?
And how much time do we need tolook for those three things
before we decide that, okay, weneed to invest our time and
energy elsewhere.
Primitive mind might say, boy,changing careers just sounds
exhausting.
And higher mind might say, yeah,you're right.
Change can be uncomfortable.
And staying in a job that wedon't actually like means that
(11:42):
we'll be choosing to bemiserable for the next 20 years.
And that sounds way worse.
So let's be uncomfortable for acouple of months as we look for
something better so that we canbe less miserable later.
Now, both of those voices arethere.
The key is just choosing whichone you wanna listen to.
Now if you've been stuck in adecision, I want you to remember
this, your brain avoidingdiscomfort..
(12:02):
It doesn't mean that anything iswrong with you.
It just means that you have anormal and fully functioning
brain.
And you also have a higher mindthat knows what you really,
really want, right?
It knows what it is that youwant right now, and it knows
what it is that you need inorder to really thrive rather
than merely survive.
And when you start to listen toyour higher mind more often than
your toddler mind, theneverything begins to change.
(12:23):
You stop staying stuck and youmoving forward with more
intention.
So if this conversation has madeyou realize that, boy, I've been
stuck in a decision for a while,and maybe it's with a
relationship with your career,with your personal growth, I
want you to know that you do nothave to figure this out alone.
Okay?
This is exactly the kind of workthat I do with my clients.
So together we can look at howthe motivational triad is
(12:44):
showing up for you in your lifeand how it's holding you back.
I can teach you how to tap in toyour inner Spice Girl to your
higher mind so that you can makedecisions that really actually
help you to propel your lifeforward.
So if you would like help andsupport, you can email me at
Maryann@maryannwalker.life oryou can come to my website,
www.maryannwaker.life to applyto work with me right now.
(13:04):
I do have a short wait list, butlet me know that you're
interested and I can let you bethe first to know when I have an
opening available.
Change might be closer than youthink.
So thank you so much for beinghere, and I hope you have a
great week.
Let's talk soon.
Bye now.
Well, hello and welcome back.
My name is MaryAnn Walker and Ihelp highly sensitive people and
recovering people pleasers,learn how, identify what their
needs are so that they can bemet.
And today we're gonna be talkingabout something that many people
don't even realize that they'redoing.
They're remaining in indiedecision.
But here's the truth isindecision is actually a
decision.
Many people tell themselvesthat, well, I just haven't made
(01:05):
up a decision yet.
So they might see things like,well, I'm still thinking about
it.
I'm not sure what I want yet.
I'll make change after I havethings all figured out.
But sometimes months go by, ormaybe even years go by, and
they're still in the same place.
They haven't moved forward.
They haven't stepped away.
They're just kind of stuck inthe middle.
But here's the thing that mostpeople don't realize.
(01:27):
When you remain an indecision,you are still making a decision.
You're essentially deciding tokeep things exactly the way that
they are.
So let's talk about a few of thespaces that this shows up.
And we'll start withrelationships because this is
where a lot of indecision showsup.
So somebody might be askingthemselves questions like, well,
is this person the one, should Istay in this relationship?
Should we move forward together,or should we go our separate
(01:49):
ways?
They stay in uncertainty.
And they keep tellingthemselves, well, I just need
more time to figure this out.
But when you remain inindecision in a relationship,
you're actually choosing toallow things to continue to go
along exactly as they are.
You're not moving forward andyou're not stepping away.
And so essentially you arechoosing this new status quo.
(02:09):
And the problem with that isstaying in the status quo...
it rarely creates feelings ofcommitment, clarity, or
security.
In fact, more often than not,it's actually going to be
creating more uncertainty foryou.
Because you're just gonna remainin the wondering.
You're gonna remain in theanalyzing, and you remain in
that, well, maybe someday thingswill change.
And so sometimes people, theystay in relationships hoping
(02:30):
that the other person is goingto change.
However, staying in therelationship and remaining in
indecision, it's actually adecision to remain in that
relationship even if thingsdon't change, and that's a
really important realizationbecause once you understand
that, then it helps you to startasking better questions.
So then you're able to askquestions like, what do I
(02:51):
actually want in relationship?
What timeline do I want forbuilding a life with somebody?
What standards matter most tome?
What are my red and green flags,and am I actually treating them
as red and green flags?
Clarity starts to appear when westop pretending that indecision
is just some neutral thing andthat things will eventually get
better.
Okay.
(03:11):
Indecision keeps things thesame.
It keeps you stuck, and it is achoice to stay exactly where
you're at.
Now let's talk about anotherarea where indecision shows up a
lot, and that's around careerchoices.
Maybe you're early in yourcareer and you're trying to
figure out what direction totake, or maybe you've been
working at a job for a few yearsand you feel like it isn't right
anymore.
(03:31):
Maybe you're wondering if youshould go back to school and get
a new degree.
You might be thinking, well, Idon't know if I should change
careers.
I don't know if I should go backto school.
I don't know if this is theright time for me to make
change, and so you stay exactlywhere you're at.
But again, indecision is still adecision.
It's a decision to keep yourcurrent situation going.
(03:53):
And one thought that keepspeople stuck is this, well, I'm
too old to make change.
Or it would take too long.
Maybe going back to school wouldtake four years.
Or maybe changing careers wouldrequire learning a new skillset.
And so when that's the truth,then your brain might
immediately jump to, Nope,that's too much work.
But here's a question I like toask my clients.
How old will you be four yearsfrom now if you don't go to
(04:16):
school?
How old will you be four yearsfrom now if you do go to school?
Either way, you're still goingto be four years older.
Time is going to pass eitherway.
The only question is what youdecide to do with the time that
you have.
Four years from now then youcould still be stuck in the same
job feeling miserable or youcould be four years into
(04:37):
building something that reallyactually excites you.
Indecision it does not stoptime.
It just determines where youwill be when the time passes.
Okay.
Now let's talk about one morearea where indecision really
shows up and that's aroundpersonal health.
So maybe you've been thinking,well, I should probably call a
doctor and get that checked out,but you keep putting it off.
(04:59):
Or maybe you've been thinking,okay, well I really should start
exercising.
I.
But then the questions startpiling up.
You're wondering, well, what gymshould I go to?
What workouts should I do?
What diet plan should I follow?
And then suddenly, then thatuncertainty, it feels really
overwhelming.
We confuse ourself with all ofthe options.
And so then what do you do?
Generally, nothing.
(05:20):
So again, indecision it becomesa decision.
The decision to keep doing whatit is that you've been doing.
And over time, then those smalldecisions really do add up.
And they shape your health.
They shape your energy levels,and they shape how it is that
you feel about your own body.
Now, here is a really importantthing to know is if you find
yourself stuck in indecision, Iwant you to hear this part very
clearly, okay?
(05:40):
Nothing's wrong with you.
In fact, your brain is doingexactly what it was designed to
do.
And this kind of brings us tosomething I wanna talk about
called the motivational triad.
Okay.
Your brain is motivated by threethings.
It is motivated by avoidingpain.
It is motivated by seekingpleasure, and it is motivated by
saving energy.
(06:00):
This means that if you'restruggling to make the changes
that you wanna make, it doesn'tmean anything's wrong with you.
It just mean that your brain isworking the way it's designed to
do, and your motivational triadis an overdrive right now.
That's what's driving all ofyour decision making.
Because your brain is designedto avoid pain, of course, you're
not going to want to work out,of course, you're not gonna
wanna have that hardconversation to create change.
(06:20):
Of course, you're not gonnawanna start a new career.
Of course, you're not gonna wantto learn how to do something new
because that sounds like work,and it sounds uncomfortable.
Because your brain is wired toseek pleasure.
Of course, you're going to eatthose cookies instead of making
a salad.
Of course, you're going to wantto scroll online and get that
quick dopamine hit.
Of course, you're going to wantto bail on the work and just go
(06:41):
play instead.
Because your brain wants to saveenergy, of course, you're going
to want to take a nap instead ofworkout.
Of course, you're gonna wannajust throw things in the drawer
haphazardly instead of actuallyorganizing your stuff.
Of course, you're going to wantto talk yourself out of doing
the actual work because oh mygoodness, that sounds exhausting
and I want to save energy,right?
So nothing is wrong with you ifthis is how you're showing up.
(07:04):
Your brain is just working inthe way it's supposed to, but it
is also keeping you stuck.
When your brain sees somethingthat might be uncomfortable, it
immediately tries to avoid it.
Your brain will say, Ugh, thatsounds hard.
That sounds uncomfortable.
No.
Nope.
No, no.
Let's not do that right?
Because your brain wants toavoid pain.
So instead of doing somethingchallenging, like preparing a
(07:25):
healthy meal, then your brain'sgonna say something like, no,
let's just eat cookies Instead,let's hit the drive-through.
Let's scroll on our phone.
Let's watch another episode.
A quick dopamine hit is alwaysgoing to win in the moment
because your brain wantspleasure.
And again, your brain also wantsto save energy.
So organizing your house orstarting a new workout or
researching a career change, allof that can feel really
(07:47):
exhausting.
Your brain wants to say, no, no,no.
Let's please just rest instead.
And again, when that happens,nothing is wrong with you.
Your brain is just doing itsjob.
But if we're not careful, thenthat motivational triad is just
gonna keep us stuck.
So something I wanna point outto you about your brain is that
there's two different parts.
Okay?
There's your primitive mind oryour toddler brain, and then
(08:09):
there's also your higher mind.
Your primitive mind is focusedpurely on survival.
That's the part of you that justwants comfort, safety, and
minimal effort.
That toddler brain wants theeasy life.
It doesn't wanna have to.
Your higher mind is run by yourprefrontal cortex, and that's
the part of you that wants tohelp you to plan, to grow and to
build the life that you actuallywant.
(08:30):
That's like your adult brain,okay?
This means that when yourprimitive mind might be saying
things like, nah, change isuncomfortable, then your higher
mind can step in and say, yeah,and that discomfort is totally
worth the end result.
That's exactly what we'relooking for here.
Your toddler brain, it can onlysee what you want right now in
this very present moment, butyour higher mind, it can see
(08:51):
what's going to happen in thelong term.
It can see what it is that yourchoices are gonna create in the
long term.
In other words, your toddlermind.
It's all about instantgratification, whereas your
adult mind or your prefrontalcortex, it's okay with that
delayed gratification.
It knows something better iscoming if I can stay disciplined
and if I can stay on track.
(09:12):
I also want you to notice thatmore than likely your primitive
mind, it wins a lot of the timebecause it can feel so loud and
it can be so convincing.
So we just wanna give itwhatever it wants to make it be
quiet, thinking that then wewill be able to get what it's
that we want later.
Right?
Okay, I'll, I'll be moredisciplined later.
I'll kick the can until tomorrowor next week, or next month or
next year.
(09:33):
now, if this is just how yourbrain works, is you're gonna
have these two parts of thebrain.
How do you break the cycle ofalways listening to your
primitive mind?
Let me share with you somethingthat I'm gonna call the Spice
Girl strategy.
Now, this is something that Ipersonally do.
You can laugh at me.
It's a hundred percent okay, butit works.
Okay?
So when I catch myself stuck inresistance, or stuck in
(09:54):
indecision, then I tap into myInner Spice Girl and it looks a
little something like this.
My brain will start sayingsomething like, I don't wanna
work out.
That sounds like too mucheffort.
And then I will start to sing tomyself and I'll sing.
So tell me what you want, whatyou really, really want.
And I'll sing it to both sidesof my brain.
So first I'll ask my primitivebrain.
I'll say, so tell me what youwant, what you really, really
want.
And then I listen and myprimitive brain will say, I'll
(10:17):
tell you what I want, what Ireally, really want.
I wanna just sit on the couch.
And I say, okay, I hear you.
And then I address my highermind and I'm like, Hey, higher
mind.
So tell me what you want, whatyou really, really want.
And my higher mind will say,I'll tell you what I want, what
I really, really want.
And then it will remind me ofwhat it is that I really
actually want.
Like, not in that moment, butwhat I want to create over time,
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what my long-term goal is, evenif it's uncomfortable.
So my higher mind might say,Hey, you know what I really want
more than sitting on the couchis I wanna feel strong.
I wanna avoid feeling aches andpains as I get older.
I want to have energy.
I want to feel good and lookgood in my body.
And when I intentionallyreconnect with my higher mind
and ask it, okay, what do Iactually really, really want out
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of life?
Then it becomes so much easierto move forward, even if my
toddler mind is throwing atantrum.
And the same process works forour relationships and career
decisions and every otherdecision too.
So primitive mind might say,well, I don't know if I want
this relationship or if I wantthis relationship in this form
or not.
And then higher mind might jumpin and say, okay, well what are
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three things that we can lookfor specifically to give us
clarity around thisrelationship?
And how much time do we need tolook for those three things
before we decide that, okay, weneed to invest our time and
energy elsewhere.
Primitive mind might say, boy,changing careers just sounds
exhausting.
And higher mind might say, yeah,you're right.
Change can be uncomfortable.
And staying in a job that wedon't actually like means that
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we'll be choosing to bemiserable for the next 20 years.
And that sounds way worse.
So let's be uncomfortable for acouple of months as we look for
something better so that we canbe less miserable later.
Now, both of those voices arethere.
The key is just choosing whichone you wanna listen to.
Now if you've been stuck in adecision, I want you to remember
this, your brain avoidingdiscomfort..
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It doesn't mean that anything iswrong with you.
It just means that you have anormal and fully functioning
brain.
And you also have a higher mindthat knows what you really,
really want, right?
It knows what it is that youwant right now, and it knows
what it is that you need inorder to really thrive rather
than merely survive.
And when you start to listen toyour higher mind more often than
your toddler mind, theneverything begins to change.
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You stop staying stuck and youmoving forward with more
intention.
So if this conversation has madeyou realize that, boy, I've been
stuck in a decision for a while,and maybe it's with a
relationship with your career,with your personal growth, I
want you to know that you do nothave to figure this out alone.
Okay?
This is exactly the kind of workthat I do with my clients.
So together we can look at howthe motivational triad is
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showing up for you in your lifeand how it's holding you back.
I can teach you how to tap in toyour inner Spice Girl to your
higher mind so that you can makedecisions that really actually
help you to propel your lifeforward.
So if you would like help andsupport, you can email me at
Maryann@maryannwalker.life oryou can come to my website,
www.maryannwaker.life to applyto work with me right now.
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I do have a short wait list, butlet me know that you're
interested and I can let you bethe first to know when I have an
opening available.
Change might be closer than youthink.
So thank you so much for beinghere, and I hope you have a
great week.
Let's talk soon.
Bye now.
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