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March 10, 2026 16 mins

Welcome to a special scripture-focused bonus episode of the Jesus Calling Podcast, where we do a deep dive on misunderstood women in the Bible with author, podcaster, and speaker Mary DeMuth. Many of us grew up hearing the stories of women like Bathsheba, Tamar, and the Woman at the Well, often presented in a simplified—and sometimes judgmental—light. But what if the Sunday School lessons we learned missed the mark by overlooking the cultural context, the brutal realities of the time, and what the Bible actually says about these women? Mary DeMuth takes us through a powerful rereading of their narratives, challenging the common misconceptions.

 

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Interview Quotes:

“There are some amazing women in the Bible, and sadly I have not heard them preached much except for the heavy hitters. And it gave me an ignited desire to highlight these women because they are part of the story of Scripture.” - Mary DeMuth

“These women, maybe like you, were misunderstood, misjudged. You can learn a lot from these women of the Bible.” - Mary DeMuth

“I think a lot of women ask, How can I get rid of this feeling? How can I get rid of this pain, this trauma, this worry? And yet the Lord is so good, He is with us when we walk through those kinds of really painful journeys.” - Mary DeMuth

“If you have felt like things have been really, really, hard, God is at work. And there will be a moment when He brings healing.” - Mary DeMuth

“One of the themes of my life has been how God has intersected a very broken, traumatic story and brought beauty out of it, healing me to bring me into places of ambassadorship where I am able to walk alongside those who have a similar story and just to see the beauty of the Lord intersecting them.” - Mary DeMuth

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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Life Audio.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
This episode contains content that may be triggering for some listeners.

Speaker 3 (00:15):
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Speaker 2 (00:46):
I have the privilege of being able to write about
these women that maybe feel like you or me, that
they were misunderstood, that maybe someone misjudged you, or they
came to you with a feeling of just something that
you couldn't correct and even though it might be wrong,
you might feel really sad about that, and you can
learn a lot from these women of the Bible.

Speaker 3 (01:07):
Welcome to a special scripture study bonus episode of the
Jesus Calling podcast where we focus on some of the
often misunderstood women of the Bible with author, podcaster and
speaker Mary Dumuth. Many of us grew up hearing the
stories of women like Bathsheba, Tamar, and the Woman at
the Well, often presented in a simplified and sometimes judgmental light.

(01:29):
But one of the Sunday School lessons we've learned miss
the mark by overlooking the cultural context, the brutal realities
of the time, and what the Bible actually says about
these women. Mary Dumuth takes us through a powerful rereading
of their narratives, challenging the common misconceptions.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
My name is Mary du Muth and I am the
author of over fifty books in various kinds of contexts,
and I have a daily podcast called Pray every Day,
which has been something I've been doing for about almost
eight years now. I am a mom to three adult children,
I have a husband of almost thirty five years, and

(02:08):
I love to speak around the world. One of my practices,
my spiritual practices over the past couple of years, has
been to rapid read the Bible, maybe like two or
three times a year, where I will read the Bible
in two or three months. And as I did that,
I realized, Wow, there are some amazing women in the Bible,

(02:30):
and sadly I have not heard them preached much except
for the heavy hitters, you know, the Esthers and the DeBras,
But there were so many others that I felt never
got screen time, so to speak, and it just gave
me this ignited desire to highlight these women because they

(02:51):
are part of the story of Scripture, and they were
real women. These were women that breathe the same air
I breathe, that had a lot of similar consequences and
problems and worries that I have. We definitely are in
different cultural texts, but it was just so rich and
so amazing, and so that's why I decided to tackle
the women of the Bible. The second Tamark she's the

(03:15):
one that has walked through some extreme violation by her brother,
and that is part of my own story, not necessarily
by a brother, but by a family member and by
numerous teenage boys when I was a five year old.
This story occurs during the reign of King David. She

(03:36):
is the daughter of David and her brother Amnon is
interested in her, and he gets this advice that he
should pretend like he's sick and to ask her to
come tend to him when he's sick and instead of
having to tend to him, which she was going to
do and intended to do, he attacks her, and at

(03:59):
the very end, after she's been attacked, she asks Amnon
the maybe they should just be married, and that it
sounds very hard for those of us who are not
in that particular culture, but if she had been violated
in that way and was still unmarried, then she would
have extreme disgrace and would have to live isolated.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
And so she basically says we should.

Speaker 2 (04:24):
Marry, even though to modern years that sounds very hard,
and he just throws her out, and she asks this question,
how do I get rid of my disgrace? And so
just resonating with her question, how can I get rid
of my disgrace? And you don't have to be violated
that way to ask that question.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
I think a lot of women ask that question.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
How can I get rid of this feeling? How can
I get rid of this pain, this trauma, this thing.
I can't seem to get rid of this worry. And
yet the Lord is so good and he is with
us when we walk those kinds of really painful journeys.
And her brother Absalom half brothers, and all of this

(05:07):
shelters her and the redemptive part of that story. It
seems like there is no redemptive part, because it's one
of those stories in the Bible that ends pretty abruptly.
But one of the things I found when I was
researching this book is that her name means date palm.
And when I was in Israel, I heard one of

(05:28):
the tour guides talk about the date palm, and date
palms they start off on the ground. They live on
the ground for a really long time, and then one
day they just shoot up into the sky and they
look like a palm tree, and then you can harvest
dates from them. And so you just see this like
years and years of being humble and on the ground

(05:48):
and then suddenly this springing up. Part of her redemption
is hearing what Absalom names his daughter.

Speaker 1 (05:55):
So I mentioned that Tamar was the second Tamar.

Speaker 2 (05:58):
There's Tamar one, which is in the Book of Genesis,
then there's this Tamar two. But Tamar three is the
daughter of Absalom. And so he brings Tamartu into his house.
And I believe that she had such a beautiful positive
effect on his family that he honored her by naming
his daughter after her. And so even if you have

(06:20):
felt like your story you've been just living like on
the hummus of earth and things have been really, really hard,
God is at work and there will be that moment
where He brings healing.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
And that's one of the themes of.

Speaker 2 (06:33):
My life has been how God has intersected a very
broken story, a very traumatic story, and has brought beauty
out of it. Not only years and years of healing,
which has taken a really long time, but healing me
to the point to bring me into places of ambassadorship
where I am able to walk alongside those who have

(06:56):
a similar story as mine and to just see the beauty.

Speaker 1 (06:59):
Of the Lord intersect those stories.

Speaker 3 (07:02):
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Speaker 2 (07:39):
I think we all have a lens by which we
view the scriptures, and of course in the twenty first century,
we're going to do that as well, and I think
part of it, unfortunately, has been the lens of how
we've heard things preached. So we'll just talk about Bathsheba
for a moment. We have often heard, in fact, almost

(08:00):
all the sermons I've ever heard about her, was that
she was complicit, that her bathing on top of the
roof was a seductive.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
Thing that she did.

Speaker 2 (08:11):
And having researched her, first of all, we have to
recognize that when Nathan the Prophet went to David and
told him that parable that story of the lamb, he
did not ever implicate the lamb in that story. The
lamb was innocent. The lamb did nothing wrong, But somehow

(08:31):
we think she deserved it because she was bathing, well,
everybody bathed on their roofs at that time. And we
also know from the text, actually, which I think is
really important that we just look at the text plainly,
it was her monthly cycle. She was cleansing herself from that,
so this was no sort of cleansing that was in

(08:52):
any way meant to seduce or tempt, And so we
have to view her through the actual lens of scripture,
which puts no blame upon her, puts all blame upon David,
and then recognizing the hierarchy that was there, when the
king's men came to get her, she could not say no.

(09:12):
It was not like, hey, would you like to come
to the castle, and she's like, well, let me weigh
my options. No, she just had to physically go. There
was no other options. She was being taken by them,
and she had no other option when she was taken
into the king's headquarters and into his chambers to do
what he told her to do. He was the king

(09:33):
and she had no agency as a subject. And so
in this story you may have heard of King David.
He was a man known as a man after God's
own heart, the greatest king in the history of Israel,
great guide, did amazing things, wrote a lot of the psalms.
But in the springtime of this particular year, when kings

(09:53):
are supposed to go off to war for whatever.

Speaker 1 (09:55):
Reason, he did not go off to war.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
But he sent all of his mighty men off to war,
including Uriah the Hittite, which means he was not Jewish.
Was Bathsheba. And so when David was supposed to be
doing his duty, he was back home and walking around
on the top of the castle, and that's when he
spied Bathsheba bathing.

Speaker 1 (10:19):
He should not have looked.

Speaker 2 (10:21):
But he chose to look, and then he chose to
lust after her, and then he chose to have his
men bring her to him, and then he violated her.
And there was a lot of consequences after that, a
lot of judgment. And I'm grateful that the Lord also
offered a lot of grace, But we need to remember

(10:41):
that sin like that and all sin has consequences, but
there's also grace to cover all sin. And so I
think that's part of getting at what we need to
remember when we're reading scripture. Not only do we have
to kind of erase sometimes some of the preaching that
we've heard, but we just have to go to the
text plainly and just ask.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
Who, what, where, when, why, how?

Speaker 2 (11:04):
And if you simply do that, you see that there
is no blame placed upon her. She was a victim
one hundred percent. And did God do amazing things after that, yes,
but not without her losing a baby as well as
King David and her losing her husband and then eventually
being the mother of Solomon and receiving some great honor.

(11:26):
After that, I think about the Woman at the Well
and that beautiful story in John chapter four, where she's
known as the Samaritan woman, and we hear that she's
had many husbands and she's at this well Jesus meets her.

(11:49):
And the beautiful thing about that story is if you
record all of the Gospels and all of the theological
discussions in the Gospel, so not just like healing or
casting out of demons, but a theological discussion that is
the longest recorded theological discussion in the New Testament between
Jesus and another human being. And she is a Samaritan,

(12:10):
which is a kind of a half breed in the
Israelites mind, so hated and maligned. Also, she's a woman
also because she's been married so many times, there's that
stigma upon her. And Jesus just has this conversation with her.
It's so beautiful that he even says to her that
you've had five husbands, and yet she's so wowed by

(12:33):
the conversation that she's this kind of first missionary who
goes back to her city and says, come see the
man who told me everything I've ever done.

Speaker 1 (12:43):
One thing that in my own research about her.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
That has been really helpful is to ask the question
why five marriages and currently she's with somebody else. So
it makes her sound like this really wishy washy woman.
But in that culture, you could issue a certificate of
divorce for any reason, but the most common reason for barrenness,

(13:08):
and you have no mention in the scripture that she
has a child. My hunch is that she was divorced
that many times because she could not produce an air
and then she got to the point where she had
to live, and so she did the best she could
with what she had, and by five marriages and five
failed attempts to have children, no one would have wanted.

Speaker 1 (13:30):
To attempt to marry her again.

Speaker 2 (13:32):
And so when we come to the scripture, we think, oh,
she's this naughty woman who did bad things. How nice
of Jesus to restore her. But actually he sees her,
He knows her story intimately. He knows that she is
most likely abused and maligned by many and unseen and
also outside the commonwealth of Israel. And yet he invites

(13:56):
her in and changes her life and dignifies her.

Speaker 1 (13:59):
And so she gives me so much hope.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
When I'm reading the New Testament, and I look at
how Jesus interacts with women.

Speaker 3 (14:05):
And.

Speaker 2 (14:09):
Whatever it is it's on your heart, you can give
to the Lord. He already knows that you have those things.
He already knows, and he's willing to shoulder them. But
because he wants relationship with you, he wants you to
share those burdens with him. I love this idea of
honestly praying our fears and worries to the Lord. And

(14:33):
one thing that Sarah Young did with Genius is to
convey the heart of God to us in such a
way that causes a response in us. I think the
Lord wants us to connect with him. Every day, I'll
be reading from Jesus Listens by Sarah Young, November thirteenth.

Speaker 1 (14:55):
Jesus, my Redeemer.

Speaker 2 (14:57):
I long to experience more fully the riches of my salvation,
the joy of being loved.

Speaker 1 (15:03):
Constantly and perfectly.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
Instead of trying to fix myself, help me fix my
thoughts on You, the lover of my soul. Rather than
using my energy to judge myself, I need to redirect
it to communicating with you, trusting and praising you. I'm
so thankful that you view me wrapped in your righteousness,
radiant in your perfect love, in your Holy name.

Speaker 1 (15:28):
Amen.

Speaker 3 (15:31):
Thank you for listening to the special scripture focused bonus episode.
To learn more about Mary, please visit Marydemouth dot com
and be sure to check out her new book, Restore
Your Life, available at your favorite retailer. Enjoy our entire
series of scripture studies, each with different Bible teachers walking
us through specific books and people in the Bible. On

(15:53):
the Jesus Calling YouTube channel. To discover more inspiring stories
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