August 14, 2024 • 25 mins
Can the nature of your desires reveal the life you genuinely aspire to lead? Join me, as we uncover the multifaceted essence of desire and its profound impact on our lives. We'll explore how desires are not inherently negative but serve as powerful indicators of our deepest aspirations. This episode delves into the importance of balancing the energy we dedicate to our desires with a sense of surrender and trust, preventing anxiety and feelings of failure. We'll also examine the ego center in human design, shedding light on the differences between defined and undefined centers and their influence on our willpower, drive, and sense of worthiness.
As we journey further, we'll reflect on the power of being present in the moment and how practicing daily presence can help us build our future. We’ll tackle the often-taboo topic of jealousy, urging listeners to explore their feelings of envy and insecurity to uncover deeper truths about their desires and self-worth. By challenging and transforming these emotions, we can reclaim our power and focus on what truly matters. Dream with me about the limitless possibilities that life offers, and let’s expand our horizons together. Don’t forget to subscribe, share this message with your loved ones, and connect with me on Instagram to share your thoughts and takeaways.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, loves, welcome to the Journey to the Soul podcast
.
I am your host, jacinda Villa,a spiritual life coach and
holistic health coach.
Every week, we will be divingdeep into all things purpose,
wellness, spirituality andcreating the life that you dream
of.
This space is meant to be safeand transformative for you to
(00:26):
dive into the deepest parts ofyourself.
I will share what I havelearned from my journey along
this path years of research andmentors along the way.
Having spent many years livinglife out of alignment and afraid
to go after my dreams, I knowfirsthand what it means to take
the first step down, living alife authentic to you.
(00:47):
We are on this road ofself-discovery together.
It is time for you to live thelife you imagined.
Hello, beautiful souls, welcometo this week's podcast episode.
Welcome to this week's podcastepisode.
I am very excited to touch onthis week's topic with you.
(01:09):
It was something that waspercolating in my mind after I
recorded the podcast episodeDear Me, thank you and it
actually came to me as I wasplanning that episode, as I was
writing it out, and I felt likethis particular topic needed its
(01:31):
own moment.
It deserved its own discussionbecause there was so much that I
wanted to expand on, and ifyou're reading the podcast
episode then you're going toknow it has to do with your
desires.
So that is what we're going tobe touching on in this episode
(01:52):
and in the Dear Me Thank youepisode I did touch on having
dreams and aspirations that arematerial, like many of us do,
but also focusing on dreams andaspirations that are beyond the
material, as, when it comes toachieving them, we typically
(02:15):
just tie it to the materialthings.
So to expand on that and tostart, I really want to think
about the feelings that most ofus have when it comes to desire,
and for many people it couldfeel like a bad thing to want to
(02:36):
desire something, and I don'tbelieve desire is a negative
thing.
I feel like it can really teachus so much about ourselves.
Our desires can be a signpostabout what we want out of life,
a door into the life we aspireto have.
(02:58):
So it's so powerful to be awareof them and to be able to work
with them.
To be aware of them and to beable to work with them, and what
tends to be an issue with ourdesires is the attachment that
we create around them.
We become so tied to thatspecific thing, we give so much
(03:19):
power to it, and this is wherewe create distress, and learning
to be less attached to anythingin life can really save us so
much anxiety and setting us upfor feelings of failure.
(03:39):
Another thing to think about aswell is the energy in which we
desire also matters.
So you could really wantsomething and you can let go,
knowing that it will come intoyour life when it's meant to.
So this is about surrender, andthis creates a deep knowing and
(04:05):
peace within you.
There's also the other side ofthat.
On the opposite end of thespectrum.
We can also be constantly doingwith a deep desire to achieve
something, and this is almostdesperate in nature, and this is
(04:44):
almost desperate in for you tomeditate more deeply on what
comes up for you consistentlywhen it comes to your dreams,
your goals, your aspirations,your daydreams, all of that.
I want us to take a closer lookat it, and we are going to
(05:07):
start with just discussing howwe can see this in human design.
And if you've tuned in from thebeginning, then you know that
this is a tool that I come backto time and time again, and it's
because I feel like it can beso supportive to so many aspects
of life.
In this episode we are going tobe looking at a particular part
(05:31):
of human design and, again, howit could be super supportive in
this conversation about desires.
What I want us to look at inthis episode is the ego center
in human design.
It's sometimes also called theheart center or the will center,
and if you are familiar withhuman design and you have your
(05:56):
chart pulled up, then it is atriangle on the right hand side
of the graph that sits rightabove the triangle to the right,
so it's slightly lower on theright hand side.
It's about four shapes down ifyou are counting from top to
bottom, and it is the smallesttriangles of all the triangles,
(06:19):
so it sits right above thetriangle to the right.
And if you have never pulled upyour human design chart or have
never heard about human design,I suggest you tune into my
episode about human design.
It's unlocking your fullpotential with human design and
(06:43):
I give more of a backing on itthere, and I will, as always, of
course, leave a link in thedescription box for you to be
able to pull up your chart.
In human design, the ego centeris responsible for your
willpower, drive, determination,ego, your sense of worthiness.
(07:08):
So it's a wonderful thing tolook at in your chart to better
understand these aspects ofyourself.
And in past podcast episodes wehave talked about the difference
between defined versusundefined centers.
(07:29):
So if you have an undefinedcenter, this is a center that is
open for you or not colored in.
If you have a defined center,this is a center that is colored
in for you.
And when it comes to the egocenter, we're going to discuss
(07:50):
how the undefined looks like andplays out as well as the
defined.
So if you have an undefined oropened ego center, you amplify
the pressure to prove yourself.
Yet you are not designed to bewillful and competitive, so you
(08:13):
have this pressure to need toprove yourself.
But again, that does not comefrom you.
It typically comes from theoutside world and the way that
the undefined center, how thataffects the world around you and
the way that this feels, isthat, since you are completely
(08:36):
open, you will take in andamplify the will of the defined,
so people who have a definedenergy center and the energy to
prove and to compete.
So if you have a defined egocenter, you have consistent will
(08:57):
and energy to be able to worktowards your desires, and this
is an energy that is really aforce to be reckoned with, and
your desires are meant to guideyou.
They are really the breadcrumbsto your inner alignment and how
(09:17):
this affects the world aroundyou.
You, having a defined egocenter, conditions others with
your ego and willpower.
So this center that we arediscussing has a huge influence
in what society at large values.
(09:37):
That's why so many people feelthe urge and the need to have
and want certain things A house,a car, a partner to live a
certain lifestyle, to make acertain amount of money, to have
kids and a family.
We feel like we are meant to docertain things.
(09:59):
There are certain check boxesthat we are meant to go through
in life and this is how we setthose precedences is that they
typically come from the peoplewho have a defined ego center
and, like I mentioned, if youare listening to this and you
are undefined, you are simplytaking this in and amplifying it
(10:23):
for yourself as if you weredefined, as if you do have the
energy to prove yourself, theenergy and the need to prove
yourself or to compete withothers, so that you can go
through life and basically checkoff what we feel we need to
have.
About 37% of the population hasthis center defined and 63%
(10:52):
have it undefined.
That is a third of thepopulation.
It's really important to askourselves why we want something,
and the reason I brought thisin is because, through the
teachings of human design, weknow that everyone is
(11:14):
susceptible to conditioning.
So, regardless of if you havethis center defined or not, you
can still be susceptible toconditioning.
Those that have an undefinedcenter are simply more
susceptible to it, and in humandesign, conditioning is
(11:35):
essentially taking in thoughts,emotions, feelings, expectations
that are essentially not yourown.
It is not authentic to yourinternal truth.
It's what we take in from theworld.
If you have an open ego center,a good question to ask yourself
(12:01):
is do I think I have somethingto prove?
You might find that you aredoing so many things in your
life from that state of mind,from those intentions and that
is really what I want you toexplore today because those are
not coming from your truth.
(12:22):
It's coming from what you feellike it needs to be for you.
You might feel the pressure ofthose around you, or their
indirect messaging of thosepeople that do have a defined
ego center, to go, push yourselfto go, be worthy enough through
the actions that you do.
(12:43):
But again, that is not how youare designed to be.
It will ultimately lead todissatisfaction in your life and
burnout if you try to meetthose standards.
We are not here to proveourselves to anyone.
Regardless of whether you havean undefined center or a defined
(13:05):
center, it's important for usto make peace with this part of
ourselves, to honor it, whetherwe do have some deep-rooted
desires that we have or desiresthat we've held on to that are
really not ours.
To just make peace with it.
There have been moments in mylife where I felt so much shame
(13:29):
over wanting what I did.
I actually kept my dreams veryclose to my heart because I had
such a deep-rooted fear that thepeople in my life, and just
people in general, would judgeme, judge them and not
understand why I could possiblywant the things that I wanted.
(13:50):
And from a pretty young ageI've always known what I wanted
to some degree.
I have always had pretty bigdreams.
I've known what kind of life Iwanted to create for myself, and
it has evolved, of course, asmy worldview has expanded.
(14:11):
My dreams from 10 years ago areso different to the dreams I
have today, but my dreams havealways been my anchor for what I
was working towards, and when Idiscovered that I had a defined
ego center in human design,that was a confirmation for me
(14:33):
that these desires were mine fora reason and as long as they
were coming from a place that isauthentic to me, then there is
no reason why I can't achievethem.
This was a huge learning lessonfor me.
I have done many things in mylife that were not aligned with
(14:55):
me.
I stayed on paths because Ifelt like the end goal was what
I wanted for myself or I did itfor someone else.
It was before I knew the valuein actually doing it for
yourself.
I was trying to go aftersomeone else's dream, not mine,
(15:15):
and I did reach some of thosedreams After much discipline and
effort, only to feel sounfulfilled at the end To reach
that top that we dream of thetop of the mountain and to
realize that this was not what Iwanted after all, and we have
(15:37):
all done this at some point oranother.
We experience thisdisappointment in our life.
When I was younger, I did havesome regret over spending so
much time and energy on so manyof these things, only to realize
it wasn't meant for me.
(15:58):
It's like we spend so much ofour time doing these things that
we never really wanted.
We just thought we wanted.
And now we have to go backessentially and start from our
authentic truth and build onthat, and we feel like we've
gone back four steps.
(16:19):
I understand that everyexperience is simply an
opportunity to gain wisdom andknowledge.
So if you have felt that, ifyou have been in that position
before, or if you are there now,know that there is no singular
path to getting to where youwant to go and your path is
(16:41):
unfolding as it's meant toBecause of this, I lived so much
of my life in the future aswell, this I lived so much of my
life in the future as well,constantly thinking about the
future and creating for thefuture.
I never slowed down enough toenjoy the present moment.
That was something that was notin me.
(17:03):
I did not know how to do that,and it's taken so much growth
and practicing presence to be aspresent as I am today in my
day-to-day life.
Now I understand that theanswer lies in me being present
(17:24):
in the moment.
The future is built in the hereand now, brick by brick, and
you can accomplish anything inthis life with enough time and
devotion.
It simply takes us waking upevery day and focusing on the 1%
that we can do to make progresstowards our dreams.
(17:48):
That makes all the difference,and I still struggle with being
present.
It's a constant practice formyself to be here now, fully,
and not get lost in the future.
I feel like this has been oneof the biggest things that I've
been working on in my life is tocultivate more presence and to
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learn the balance between beinghere and also having some
forward thinking.
The last thing that I want totouch on as we end this episode
is jealousy.
Jealousy can often prompt us todesire something.
For most of us, we feel envy,insecurity, resentment over what
(18:39):
people have, so then we want itfor ourselves.
But something to keep in mindis that this jealousy is coming
from something greater withinourselves.
We feel like, at this moment intime, our life is lacking in
(18:59):
some way, that something ismissing in it.
So I simply invite you tonotice whenever you do feel
jealous and sit back withyourself and ask yourself what
you feel like you don't haveenough of, or what you feel like
(19:21):
maybe you are not worthy ofhaving for yourself, because
ultimately, we are all capableof having what any other person
has achieved in life.
They are just a mirror of whatis possible.
There is a path for us to getthere if we wanted that for
ourselves.
(19:41):
So dismantle the envy, theinsecurity, the resentment that
comes Because you are worthy ofhaving these desires work
through whatever it is is beingtriggered in you, and if you
feel resentment, know that whatis meant for you will unfold in
(20:06):
divine time.
And all of these things theenvy, the insecurity, the
resentment they really just robus of being in the present
moment and actually being ableto enjoy our life.
Jealousy robs us of so much ofour life that we are living
(20:27):
today, in this moment, becausewe are desiring something that
we don't have right now.
So it's up to us to take ourpower back when it comes to this
, to choose not to feel thesethings, to step away and
disconnect from the feelingsthat it is triggering in you,
(20:51):
because these feelings have somuch more to tell us.
So really look into why you arefeeling envy, why are you
feeling insecure and why you arefeeling resentment.
Challenge those beliefs.
With all this in mind.
(21:12):
I want you to ponder on thesequestions and take as much time
as you need.
You can journal, meditate, sitin silence with them, come back
to them later if that's what youneed and I invite you to simply
explore your desires and whatthey are showing you.
(21:35):
Why do you want something?
What is your motive?
What do you feel it will bringinto your life?
And once you have that narroweddown, is this coming from your
heart, a deep need that iswithin you, or is this something
(21:59):
that you want that is simplyfilling a greater need?
And lastly, are your desiresreally yours or someone else's?
Are you trying to provesomething else's?
Are you trying to provesomething by accomplishing these
(22:20):
things?
And once you have all of thiswritten down or in mind, as
you're looking at your desiresor what revelations came through
as you are answering thesequestions, these things are
showing you a deeper part ofyourself and simply validating
what you know is true for you.
So let yourself own that truthshamelessly.
(22:44):
Step into the power of knowingthat is meant for you.
Scream it from the rooftops ifyou want, or perhaps they can be
showing you that this is notwhat is meant for you and it is
completely okay to acknowledgethat this is no longer true for
(23:05):
you, or never was, and to let goof any shame we may feel about
us no longer working towards abig or small goal.
With both of these sides.
It's for us to release theshame, and honoring ourselves,
regardless of what the exercisebrings up, is the most important
(23:27):
thing.
I love to dream.
I am a huge dreamer and I feellike I spend half of my time
thinking about all the wonderfulpossibilities that we can
experience.
It just makes me so happy.
I feel like I have so much towork towards that I want to
(23:49):
experience in this life.
That's part of my reason forwaking up in the morning.
I spent so much of my childhoodand teenage years stuck in
fantasy books, absorbing themand bringing them into life in
my mind.
Now that I am older, I see thatit was me bringing visions to
(24:12):
life in my mind like I do today.
This is still something that Ido every single day, and the
inception starts in the mind,but then it is up to us to bring
it to life in thethree-dimensional world.
Dreaming is vital for ourevolution, for us to continue to
(24:35):
progress and push ourselvesinto new realms.
Life continues to unfold andshow us its depth.
There is so much for us toexperience.
We have only begun to scratchthe surface.
Isn't it amazing to think aboutall the lives we will get to
(24:56):
live in our lifetime?
I am sending you all so muchlove until next week.
I will talk to you then.
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Hi, loves, welcome to the Journey to the Soul podcast
.
I am your host, jacinda Villa,a spiritual life coach and
holistic health coach.
Every week, we will be divingdeep into all things purpose,
wellness, spirituality andcreating the life that you dream
of.
This space is meant to be safeand transformative for you to
(00:26):
dive into the deepest parts ofyourself.
I will share what I havelearned from my journey along
this path years of research andmentors along the way.
Having spent many years livinglife out of alignment and afraid
to go after my dreams, I knowfirsthand what it means to take
the first step down, living alife authentic to you.
(00:47):
We are on this road ofself-discovery together.
It is time for you to live thelife you imagined.
Hello, beautiful souls, welcometo this week's podcast episode.
Welcome to this week's podcastepisode.
I am very excited to touch onthis week's topic with you.
(01:09):
It was something that waspercolating in my mind after I
recorded the podcast episodeDear Me, thank you and it
actually came to me as I wasplanning that episode, as I was
writing it out, and I felt likethis particular topic needed its
(01:31):
own moment.
It deserved its own discussionbecause there was so much that I
wanted to expand on, and ifyou're reading the podcast
episode then you're going toknow it has to do with your
desires.
So that is what we're going tobe touching on in this episode
(01:52):
and in the Dear Me Thank youepisode I did touch on having
dreams and aspirations that arematerial, like many of us do,
but also focusing on dreams andaspirations that are beyond the
material, as, when it comes toachieving them, we typically
(02:15):
just tie it to the materialthings.
So to expand on that and tostart, I really want to think
about the feelings that most ofus have when it comes to desire,
and for many people it couldfeel like a bad thing to want to
(02:36):
desire something, and I don'tbelieve desire is a negative
thing.
I feel like it can really teachus so much about ourselves.
Our desires can be a signpostabout what we want out of life,
a door into the life we aspireto have.
(02:58):
So it's so powerful to be awareof them and to be able to work
with them.
To be aware of them and to beable to work with them, and what
tends to be an issue with ourdesires is the attachment that
we create around them.
We become so tied to thatspecific thing, we give so much
(03:19):
power to it, and this is wherewe create distress, and learning
to be less attached to anythingin life can really save us so
much anxiety and setting us upfor feelings of failure.
(03:39):
Another thing to think about aswell is the energy in which we
desire also matters.
So you could really wantsomething and you can let go,
knowing that it will come intoyour life when it's meant to.
So this is about surrender, andthis creates a deep knowing and
(04:05):
peace within you.
There's also the other side ofthat.
On the opposite end of thespectrum.
We can also be constantly doingwith a deep desire to achieve
something, and this is almostdesperate in nature, and this is
(04:44):
almost desperate in for you tomeditate more deeply on what
comes up for you consistentlywhen it comes to your dreams,
your goals, your aspirations,your daydreams, all of that.
I want us to take a closer lookat it, and we are going to
(05:07):
start with just discussing howwe can see this in human design.
And if you've tuned in from thebeginning, then you know that
this is a tool that I come backto time and time again, and it's
because I feel like it can beso supportive to so many aspects
of life.
In this episode we are going tobe looking at a particular part
(05:31):
of human design and, again, howit could be super supportive in
this conversation about desires.
What I want us to look at inthis episode is the ego center
in human design.
It's sometimes also called theheart center or the will center,
and if you are familiar withhuman design and you have your
(05:56):
chart pulled up, then it is atriangle on the right hand side
of the graph that sits rightabove the triangle to the right,
so it's slightly lower on theright hand side.
It's about four shapes down ifyou are counting from top to
bottom, and it is the smallesttriangles of all the triangles,
(06:19):
so it sits right above thetriangle to the right.
And if you have never pulled upyour human design chart or have
never heard about human design,I suggest you tune into my
episode about human design.
It's unlocking your fullpotential with human design and
(06:43):
I give more of a backing on itthere, and I will, as always, of
course, leave a link in thedescription box for you to be
able to pull up your chart.
In human design, the ego centeris responsible for your
willpower, drive, determination,ego, your sense of worthiness.
(07:08):
So it's a wonderful thing tolook at in your chart to better
understand these aspects ofyourself.
And in past podcast episodes wehave talked about the difference
between defined versusundefined centers.
(07:29):
So if you have an undefinedcenter, this is a center that is
open for you or not colored in.
If you have a defined center,this is a center that is colored
in for you.
And when it comes to the egocenter, we're going to discuss
(07:50):
how the undefined looks like andplays out as well as the
defined.
So if you have an undefined oropened ego center, you amplify
the pressure to prove yourself.
Yet you are not designed to bewillful and competitive, so you
(08:13):
have this pressure to need toprove yourself.
But again, that does not comefrom you.
It typically comes from theoutside world and the way that
the undefined center, how thataffects the world around you and
the way that this feels, isthat, since you are completely
(08:36):
open, you will take in andamplify the will of the defined,
so people who have a definedenergy center and the energy to
prove and to compete.
So if you have a defined egocenter, you have consistent will
(08:57):
and energy to be able to worktowards your desires, and this
is an energy that is really aforce to be reckoned with, and
your desires are meant to guideyou.
They are really the breadcrumbsto your inner alignment and how
(09:17):
this affects the world aroundyou.
You, having a defined egocenter, conditions others with
your ego and willpower.
So this center that we arediscussing has a huge influence
in what society at large values.
(09:37):
That's why so many people feelthe urge and the need to have
and want certain things A house,a car, a partner to live a
certain lifestyle, to make acertain amount of money, to have
kids and a family.
We feel like we are meant to docertain things.
(09:59):
There are certain check boxesthat we are meant to go through
in life and this is how we setthose precedences is that they
typically come from the peoplewho have a defined ego center
and, like I mentioned, if youare listening to this and you
are undefined, you are simplytaking this in and amplifying it
(10:23):
for yourself as if you weredefined, as if you do have the
energy to prove yourself, theenergy and the need to prove
yourself or to compete withothers, so that you can go
through life and basically checkoff what we feel we need to
have.
About 37% of the population hasthis center defined and 63%
(10:52):
have it undefined.
That is a third of thepopulation.
It's really important to askourselves why we want something,
and the reason I brought thisin is because, through the
teachings of human design, weknow that everyone is
(11:14):
susceptible to conditioning.
So, regardless of if you havethis center defined or not, you
can still be susceptible toconditioning.
Those that have an undefinedcenter are simply more
susceptible to it, and in humandesign, conditioning is
(11:35):
essentially taking in thoughts,emotions, feelings, expectations
that are essentially not yourown.
It is not authentic to yourinternal truth.
It's what we take in from theworld.
If you have an open ego center,a good question to ask yourself
(12:01):
is do I think I have somethingto prove?
You might find that you aredoing so many things in your
life from that state of mind,from those intentions and that
is really what I want you toexplore today because those are
not coming from your truth.
(12:22):
It's coming from what you feellike it needs to be for you.
You might feel the pressure ofthose around you, or their
indirect messaging of thosepeople that do have a defined
ego center, to go, push yourselfto go, be worthy enough through
the actions that you do.
(12:43):
But again, that is not how youare designed to be.
It will ultimately lead todissatisfaction in your life and
burnout if you try to meetthose standards.
We are not here to proveourselves to anyone.
Regardless of whether you havean undefined center or a defined
(13:05):
center, it's important for usto make peace with this part of
ourselves, to honor it, whetherwe do have some deep-rooted
desires that we have or desiresthat we've held on to that are
really not ours.
To just make peace with it.
There have been moments in mylife where I felt so much shame
(13:29):
over wanting what I did.
I actually kept my dreams veryclose to my heart because I had
such a deep-rooted fear that thepeople in my life, and just
people in general, would judgeme, judge them and not
understand why I could possiblywant the things that I wanted.
(13:50):
And from a pretty young ageI've always known what I wanted
to some degree.
I have always had pretty bigdreams.
I've known what kind of life Iwanted to create for myself, and
it has evolved, of course, asmy worldview has expanded.
(14:11):
My dreams from 10 years ago areso different to the dreams I
have today, but my dreams havealways been my anchor for what I
was working towards, and when Idiscovered that I had a defined
ego center in human design,that was a confirmation for me
(14:33):
that these desires were mine fora reason and as long as they
were coming from a place that isauthentic to me, then there is
no reason why I can't achievethem.
This was a huge learning lessonfor me.
I have done many things in mylife that were not aligned with
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me.
I stayed on paths because Ifelt like the end goal was what
I wanted for myself or I did itfor someone else.
It was before I knew the valuein actually doing it for
yourself.
I was trying to go aftersomeone else's dream, not mine,
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and I did reach some of thosedreams After much discipline and
effort, only to feel sounfulfilled at the end To reach
that top that we dream of thetop of the mountain and to
realize that this was not what Iwanted after all, and we have
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all done this at some point oranother.
We experience thisdisappointment in our life.
When I was younger, I did havesome regret over spending so
much time and energy on so manyof these things, only to realize
it wasn't meant for me.
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It's like we spend so much ofour time doing these things that
we never really wanted.
We just thought we wanted.
And now we have to go backessentially and start from our
authentic truth and build onthat, and we feel like we've
gone back four steps.
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I understand that everyexperience is simply an
opportunity to gain wisdom andknowledge.
So if you have felt that, ifyou have been in that position
before, or if you are there now,know that there is no singular
path to getting to where youwant to go and your path is
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unfolding as it's meant toBecause of this, I lived so much
of my life in the future aswell, this I lived so much of my
life in the future as well,constantly thinking about the
future and creating for thefuture.
I never slowed down enough toenjoy the present moment.
That was something that was notin me.
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I did not know how to do that,and it's taken so much growth
and practicing presence to be aspresent as I am today in my
day-to-day life.
Now I understand that theanswer lies in me being present
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in the moment.
The future is built in the hereand now, brick by brick, and
you can accomplish anything inthis life with enough time and
devotion.
It simply takes us waking upevery day and focusing on the 1%
that we can do to make progresstowards our dreams.
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That makes all the difference,and I still struggle with being
present.
It's a constant practice formyself to be here now, fully,
and not get lost in the future.
I feel like this has been oneof the biggest things that I've
been working on in my life is tocultivate more presence and to
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learn the balance between beinghere and also having some
forward thinking.
The last thing that I want totouch on as we end this episode
is jealousy.
Jealousy can often prompt us todesire something.
For most of us, we feel envy,insecurity, resentment over what
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people have, so then we want itfor ourselves.
But something to keep in mindis that this jealousy is coming
from something greater withinourselves.
We feel like, at this moment intime, our life is lacking in
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some way, that something ismissing in it.
So I simply invite you tonotice whenever you do feel
jealous and sit back withyourself and ask yourself what
you feel like you don't haveenough of, or what you feel like
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maybe you are not worthy ofhaving for yourself, because
ultimately, we are all capableof having what any other person
has achieved in life.
They are just a mirror of whatis possible.
There is a path for us to getthere if we wanted that for
ourselves.
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So dismantle the envy, theinsecurity, the resentment that
comes Because you are worthy ofhaving these desires work
through whatever it is is beingtriggered in you, and if you
feel resentment, know that whatis meant for you will unfold in
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divine time.
And all of these things theenvy, the insecurity, the
resentment they really just robus of being in the present
moment and actually being ableto enjoy our life.
Jealousy robs us of so much ofour life that we are living
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today, in this moment, becausewe are desiring something that
we don't have right now.
So it's up to us to take ourpower back when it comes to this
, to choose not to feel thesethings, to step away and
disconnect from the feelingsthat it is triggering in you,
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because these feelings have somuch more to tell us.
So really look into why you arefeeling envy, why are you
feeling insecure and why you arefeeling resentment.
Challenge those beliefs.
With all this in mind.
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I want you to ponder on thesequestions and take as much time
as you need.
You can journal, meditate, sitin silence with them, come back
to them later if that's what youneed and I invite you to simply
explore your desires and whatthey are showing you.
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Why do you want something?
What is your motive?
What do you feel it will bringinto your life?
And once you have that narroweddown, is this coming from your
heart, a deep need that iswithin you, or is this something
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that you want that is simplyfilling a greater need?
And lastly, are your desiresreally yours or someone else's?
Are you trying to provesomething else's?
Are you trying to provesomething by accomplishing these
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things?
And once you have all of thiswritten down or in mind, as
you're looking at your desiresor what revelations came through
as you are answering thesequestions, these things are
showing you a deeper part ofyourself and simply validating
what you know is true for you.
So let yourself own that truthshamelessly.
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Step into the power of knowingthat is meant for you.
Scream it from the rooftops ifyou want, or perhaps they can be
showing you that this is notwhat is meant for you and it is
completely okay to acknowledgethat this is no longer true for
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you, or never was, and to let goof any shame we may feel about
us no longer working towards abig or small goal.
With both of these sides.
It's for us to release theshame, and honoring ourselves,
regardless of what the exercisebrings up, is the most important
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thing.
I love to dream.
I am a huge dreamer and I feellike I spend half of my time
thinking about all the wonderfulpossibilities that we can
experience.
It just makes me so happy.
I feel like I have so much towork towards that I want to
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experience in this life.
That's part of my reason forwaking up in the morning.
I spent so much of my childhoodand teenage years stuck in
fantasy books, absorbing themand bringing them into life in
my mind.
Now that I am older, I see thatit was me bringing visions to
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life in my mind like I do today.
This is still something that Ido every single day, and the
inception starts in the mind,but then it is up to us to bring
it to life in thethree-dimensional world.
Dreaming is vital for ourevolution, for us to continue to
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progress and push ourselvesinto new realms.
Life continues to unfold andshow us its depth.
There is so much for us toexperience.
We have only begun to scratchthe surface.
Isn't it amazing to think aboutall the lives we will get to
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live in our lifetime?
I am sending you all so muchlove until next week.
I will talk to you then.
I hope you enjoyed this episode.
Please make sure you subscribeso you never miss an episode,
and share this message with anyfriends and family.
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I am sending you all so muchlove.
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