January 13, 2025 • 31 mins
Elevate Your Life: Top 5 Mindset Shifts for Resilience & Growth
Welcome to Investor Evolution, Elevate - the podcast designed for busy Physician Assistants, Nurse Practitioners, and Doctor mamas striving for financial freedom, time management, and a life of harmony.
In this episode, we discuss key mindset shifts for building resilience and fostering growth in your career, personal life, and financial journey.
Learn strategies like adopting a growth mindset, reframing failure as feedback, focusing on controllable factors, practicing gratitude, and taking consistent imperfect action.
Tune in for actionable steps and personal experiences on how these shifts can elevate your life to new heights. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with fellow medical professionals. Let's elevate together!
00:00 Welcome to Investor Evolution
00:36 Mindset Shifts for Resilience and Growth
03:41 Adopting a Growth Mindset
09:15 Reframing Failure as Feedback
12:41 Focusing on What You Can Control
16:38 Practicing Gratitude and Optimism
20:39 Taking Consistent Imperfect Action
24:37 Personal Reflections and Actionable Steps
30:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Welcome to investor evolution,elevate.
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The podcast designed to helpbusy PAs NPs and Dr.
Mamas like you, rise higher inevery area of life.
Whether you're looking to createfinancial freedom, reclaim your
time or find harmony whilethriving in your career.
This show is for you.
Join me each week as we uncoverstrategies to grow your wealth,
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nurture your personaldevelopment and elevate your
life to new heights.
So you can live with purpose,joy, and confidence.
Hey everyone.
I am so grateful to have youwith me today.
today we are going to talk aboutmindset shifts for resilience
and growth.
So in January, the beginning ofthe year, this is the perfect
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time to truly set the intentionfor the year, last week, I
talked about how my word for theyear is elevate.
And so we're going to start withelevating our mindset.
We're going to talk this weekabout mindset shifts for
resilience, especially inmedicine, we need resilience.
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So let's dive in today.
Let me ask you this question.
What separates those who thrivein challenging situations from
those who feel stuck?
It all starts with mindset.
Today, we're diving into thosemindset shifts that will help
you build resilience, help youovercome obstacles, prevent
burnout, and continue to growingwhether it's in your career,
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your personal life or yourfinancial journey.
We know as medicalprofessionals, these shifts can
be especially powerful andhelping us find balance clarity
and confidence in life and work.
I like the word harmony.
There really is no balance.
Right?
There's no perfect work lifebalance.
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But we can find harmony betweenthe two.
Sometimes we are heavily focusedon work and sometimes we are
heavily focused on our family.
And we have to find thatharmony.
In those different times.
Okay.
Why is this important?
Mindset directly affects how weapproach challenges, both in
medicine.
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And our personal life as well asin our financial growth.
And.
Really, we want to find ways tobuild all aspects of our life,
elevate all aspects of our life.
Not just our careers, not justour family, but also our
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personal growth and development,our financial future, our wealth
creation, our generationalwealth creation.
All of those things, we need theright mindset to move forward.
As we all know in demandingfields like ours in the medical
field, having mental resilienceand a growth oriented mindset
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will help us decrease our stresslevels, it'll prevent burnout
and it also helps open doors tonew possibilities.
What are we talking about today?
So the key mindset shifts thatwe'll discuss today are adopting
a growth mindset, number tworeframing failure as feedback.
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Number three, focusing on whatwe can control.
Number four- practicinggratitude and optimism.
And number five.
Taking consistent and somewhatimperfect action.
So key mindset shifts that we'regoing to talk about.
Number one.
Adopting a growth mindset.
And this is not new.
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This is a refresher for all ofus.
And especially for those of usin medicine, right.
What do we do?
We learn.
We continue.
We are continually learning.
We are continually looking atstudies, looking at the new
research, seeing what's beingupdated.
What things that as we learnmore, we need to change our
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practice.
So that growth mindset is reallyinherent in all that we do.
What exactly is a growthmindset.
If we were going to put adefinition on it, it's the
belief that skills, knowledgeintelligence can be developed
through effort and learning yourbrain is not stagnant.
It is always learning andgrowing and you can build.
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So why, why is a growth mindsetimportant?
Obviously it helps us viewchallenges as opportunities for
improvement and not justobstacles.
It also encourages curiosity,adaptability and ongoing
development.
Again, going back to researchand the more we know, the more,
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we're learning about differentthings.
We're changing what we're doingto optimize our patients' care
and we need to be, we need to bedoing that in our life as well.
We need to be adopting thatgrowth mindset as we're always
taking in new information.
How was that helpful for us?
What does that change in ourlife?
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And then using that to build abetter outcome in all aspects of
life.
Another way I like to thinkabout it is from the patient's
perspective because they come tous to find out what's going on.
And if we can help them exploredifferent options and realize
that changing some of the thingsthat they are doing, may help
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them achieve better health.
And if they're open to that,It's it's so much better for the
patient.
Right.
And we know that.
And so when our patients come tous and they're not in a growth
mindset.
If they're in a closed and fixedmindset, I'm not changing.
This is what I'm doing.
Then it is a lot harder, right?
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So from both perspectives, if weare all open to growth and
learning and trying somethingnew.
Think about how much easier thatis to treat that patient versus
the person that comes in andsays, well, I'm not changing.
Okay, well, I can give you amedication for your diabetes,
but if you're not going tochange your diet, You're
probably going to need more andit's not going to fix anything.
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Right.
It's just delaying things.
So having that growth mindsetfor us personally, you can see
how that helps you in allaspects of your life.
Learn and grow and build uponwhat you, what, you know, what
you're doing.
And right.
It's like iterating every timewe, we learn and grow and we do
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something new we can improve.
We can change.
And we can lead to betteroutcomes.
One way we can use this growthmindset is when we're faced with
a challenge, an obstacle.
You can stop and think.
How can I grow from this?
What is the lesson I'm going tolearn through this?
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And if you start looking for theopportunity to learn and grow.
Such a different way to approachthat problem or that obstacle.
Then, oh my gosh.
This is so horrible.
I can't believe this ishappening to me.
Right.
Energy feels so much different.
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And so, and this is a practice,right?
This is not something that weall do naturally.
It's something we're going tohave to work on.
And build that muscle of amindset shifting to, how am I
growing from this?
What is this going to teach me?
What lesson do I get from thischallenge?
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And that's something that takestime and reflection.
So no judgment.
What I'm starting to see andunderstand is we're not, we're
not going to automatically behit with a problem.
And be like, oh, this is sofantastic.
What's the lesson I'm going tolearn from it.
How am I going to grow fromthis?
That's, that's not how it'sgoing to be.
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you're going to hit with thatchallenge.
You're going to be frustrated.
But what you're going to find isyou're going to catch it so much
faster.
You know, maybe you would be hitby that problem.
And for days or weeks, you'd befrustrated, you'd be down.
And as you started thispractice, you're going to find,
you're going to catch thatnegative reaction faster.
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Maybe instead of a week of.
"oh, woe is me.
Maybe it's only a couple of daysbefore.
You're like, okay, I'm ready to.
Stop feeling sorry for myself,and actually look at this
problem from an outsideperspective, from a different
perspective, that's helpful.
And then maybe you go from the acouple of days too.
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A day where you're, you'recatching it faster.
And soon you're going to get tothe point where you're going to
be hit with obstacles.
You're going to get frustrated,for a few minutes and then
you're going to be able to,okay.
This sucks.
I don't like this, but how can Iuse this to my advantage?
What can I learn from this?
You're just going to startcatching it, faster.
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And I think that's reallyimportant.
This kind of leads into our nextpoint.
Number two.
Reframing failure as feedback.
Failure is not the opposite ofsuccess.
It is part of the process.
Every setback brings valuableinformation to help us improve
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and move forward.
For me thinking about failure aspart of the process and
necessary for success.
Really helps me I realize it'snot.
It's not a failure.
It's anything, but.
It's feedback.
It's a lesson learned.
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It's a way to not do it in thefuture.
Some of the things that it helpsus do is shift that fear of
failure that holds us back.
And to seeing it as feedbackhelps us build confidence and
that resilience.
And it helps us start takingmore risks and trying new things
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because we're not re we're notbeing paralyzed by that fear of
failure or that we have to do itperfect.
You know?
Perfection is, the enemy ofprogress, right?
When I started thinking aboutthis failure as feedback, I like
to relate it to our differentialdiagnosis.
You know, we may have three,five things that we think may be
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going on with a patient.
And so what do we do?
We may order a test.
And a negative test isn't badbecause it just tells us.
Okay, great.
That gives me more informationto realize this and this
diagnosis are off the table.
That's not what we're dealingwith.
And now I get a focus on theseones over here.
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And if we can think about ourfailures in that way as just, is
it a positive test or a negativetest?
Is it leading us towards thispossibility or that possibility?
It really gives it a differentconnotation.
It doesn't feel bad.
It's just, that's moreinformation that he needed to
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rule this out.
So just as that negative testwill rule out possibilities and
bring us closer to the truecause of the problem.
The same goes for life andbusiness.
Every failure is a clue thathelps us get closer to success.
So I think that.
For me seeing it in that way andrelating it back to how we're
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working up a patient.
It just feels so much lessheavy.
It doesn't, it just feels like,okay, this is just the process I
have to go through.
And I think that's a great wayto look at it.
So a practical tip here is ifyou're a journaler, it may be a
good idea in your journal tohave a section for for feedback.
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So you can start tracking thelessons that you're learning
from those obstacles, thosesetbacks, those challenges that
came up.
And identify areas forimprovement.
When we can start looking at itin that way and reflecting on
it, it reframes those problems.
In such a great way.
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That you're gaining from it andyou're learning from it.
And again, it just shifts theenergy to a different feeling
for that, for that issue soinstead of viewing something as
a failure, write down whatyou're learning and how you can
apply it moving forward.
Number three.
Focus on what you can control.
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This one is for, for my worriersout there.
Those of us that like to worryabout what could happen.
this is a good one.
We often stress about thingsthat are beyond our control,
that may never happen.
And how many of us play out thatdoomsday scenario in our head?
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Over and over and over again.
True resilience comes fromfocusing on what is within our
power.
What can we control?
Why is this important?
This really think about it whenyou are overwhelmed, are you
overwhelmed by what's actuallyhappening?
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Or are you overwhelmed by allthe possibilities and all the
things that you're worriedabout?
My guess is.
You're overwhelmed by all thethings.
I do this, and this is one ofthe things that I'm working on.
Right.
Now.
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When we can focus on what we cancontrol, what we have control
over, it helps reduce thatfeeling of overwhelm by
narrowing our focus toactionable steps that we can
take.
And it builds a sense of calmand confidence, even in
stressful situations.
Because you can only controlyourself and what you can
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control and again, it's catchingit faster.
When you realize that's beyondmy control, I can't do anything
about it.
I'm not going to worry about itthat starts decreasing that
stress level and that feeling ofoverwhelm.
When I think about thissituation and controlling what
we can control.
I think about that patient thatcomes in and they're either
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super-duper frustrated or veryemotional.
And we cannot control theirreactions.
We can't control what, what theysay, what they do.
And it is reliant on us to keepthat equanimity about us.
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And, and not rise to their levelof emotion.
Right.
I think that is where again,this sense of you know,
controlling what you can,letting go of what you can't, is
very essential to keeping thatstress level down.
You know, and the same principleapplies to life, right?
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Whether it's with our kids, ourfinances, our relationships.
We can only control what we cancontrol.
A practical tip that you can usehere is actually creating a
list.
If you're in a situation you'refeeling overwhelmed.
You're really frustrated.
Stop take a minute.
Write down.
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What is it that you have controlof in this situation and what
don't you have control over?
And focus on the list that youhave control over.
I think it's really importantbecause that gives you action
steps, and it takes you out ofthat realm of spiraling thoughts
of all the bad that can happenand actually focusing on what
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you can do about that situation.
That's one way that you can usethis.
And again, This is going to taketime and you may need to walk
away from the situation and itmay be later that day we'd you
can decompress and spend sometime actually contemplating
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what's going on.
Why are you so frustrated?
What do I have available to me?
What am I able to control?
What can I not control?
Let those things go.
That's the hard part is lettingthose things go.
And just focusing on the thingsthat you can control.
All right.
So number four.
Practicing gratitude andoptimism.
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Gratitude shifts your focus towhat is good in your life.
And optimism fuels hope for thefuture.
It is hard to be negative andgrateful at the same time.
When you start.
Shifting your focus to gratitudeit changes a lot because you
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realize how much you reallyhave.
And I think it's importantbecause.
It helps you build thatresilience by being able to see
the silver lining, even indifficult situations.
Seeing that silver lining is notunrealistic.
For example.
I applied for this job.
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That I have now about a yearago.
And I went through the processand they ended up taking the job
down and not hiring for it.
I can see now how beneficialthat was for me, because my
stepdad passed away in Januaryof last year.
Had I had that job- I neverwould have been able to be there
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for my mom.
Like I was able to be.
That's the silver lining.
Now in the moment, was itdifficult?
Was I frustrated?
Yes.
And so basically when we startshifting that focus and we start
doing it earlier versus.
You know, a year later orwhenever later.
When we can start seeing theseobstacles.
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And saying, okay, this, this isfrustrating.
The sucks.
I don't like this, you know, andit's okay to be upset.
It's okay to be devastated.
It's okay to have thoseemotions.
And when we can start seeinghow.
This is going to be how, howwe're grateful for the
situation.
Even in the difficult thingswhen bad things happen, and they
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do, and they're going to.
There are good things that comeout of it.
You hear the saying?
When disaster strikes look forthe helpers, right?
There's those people that aregoing to come in and provide
benefit for those who arestruggling.
Same thing with us as we'regoing through difficult
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situations.
When we can start being gratefulfor what is good in that
situation, it shifts the meaningand it shifts the impact of that
bad situation to something good.
And we know that gratitude isscientifically proven to reduce
stress and improve our overallwellbeing.
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And.
The same, what we think about,we bring about.
If we are hopeful for thefuture, if we are optimistic, if
we're seeing things that we'regrateful for, we're going to see
more of that.
We're going to expect more ofthat.
Your reticular activating systemis going to start going into
overdrive looking for the good.
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If you're worrying about things,if you're thinking about all the
negatives.
Guess what you're going to find.
You're going to find all thenegatives.
So it's all of that same stuff.
Over and over again, when we,when we think about the good
things, when we focus on thegood things, those are the
things that are going tocontinue to flow into our lives,
because that's what we'relooking for.
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So how can we apply this to ourlife?
I recommend starting a gratitudepractice each morning, write
down three things that you'regrateful for.
And maybe even one positiveoutcome that you're working
towards.
What is the thing that you'rehoping to achieve maybe that day
or that week, or that monthsomething positive that you're
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working towards.
There's always something thatyou can think of, that you're
grateful for.
And I think it's a goodexercise.
For your brain to start yoursubconscious, to really start
looking for those, those thingsthat are good in your life.
It helps build a positivemindset as well.
Number five taking consistentimperfect action.
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Now we were all here.
A lot of us are probably thatvery type A, have to do it
right.
Have to get it perfect typepersonalities.
I know that was me for sure.
One thing we've learnedperfectionism can lead to
paralysis.
We feel like we have to do itright.
And if we're not going to do itright, we're just not going to
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do it at all.
But that doesn't lead toprogress.
That leaves you stagnant andstuck where you're at.
Whereas progress happens whenyou show up consistently.
Even if things aren't perfectand you take the steps and you
do the reps, you put in thework.
When we put in that consistentaction, even if it's not
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perfect, it's going to buildmomentum and confidence over
time.
What's interesting aboutconfidence is you don't have
confidence and then you do thething.
You do the thing and you buildconfidence, just like, think
back when we were in school.
And we were on our rotations.
And the first day you showed upto that.
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Rotation, maybe it was in theER, whatever.
You were scared to do anything,because you didn't know anybody,
you didn't know where thingswere.
You didn't know the system, youdidn't know the routines.
But as you were there for thatsix weeks or three months, or
however long you were there for.
You learned, you grew, you builtyour confidence by the end, you
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were able to come in and learnand grow in that environment
because you've built up thatconsistent action.
And now you have confidence inyourself and your abilities
because you've learned.
Just.
Just like that, Confidencebuilds over time.
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Another reason why this isimportant, is it because it
encourages you to start even ifconditions aren't ideal.
Maybe you want to learn.
Maybe you want to invest in realestate.
But you're not quite sure.
Where to start.
That's okay.
It's all about learning as yougo and starting to, to build up
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that reservoir of knowledge sothat when you're ready to take
that step.
You can jump in with confidence,right?
So some practical tips.
If we start setting miny goals.
Small achievable goals thatwe'll help us build momentum
without that pressure ofperfection.
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That's what we want to do.
So maybe it is I want to grow upportfolio of properties that
brings in passive income.
For me to live off of.
Okay.
That's one of my goals.
I don't have that right now andI'm not going to wait until I'm
perfect to, to get there becausethen I won't ever happen.
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But I can start learning aboutdifferent areas of investing
that I want to be.
And different property types.
Different types of real estate.
Whether I'm passive or active inthere.
And as I'm learning and gaininginformation, I will know when I
can start moving into thoseareas of investing to achieve my
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goals, but I don't have to do itperfectly.
And I don't have to wait either.
I can.
Acquire knowledge.
And once I have enough and Ifeel confident and have people
who can support me, I can moveinto some of those investments.
Another step I want you to takeor tip.
Would be to ask yourself, what'sthe smallest, next step I can
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take today to move me towards mygoal.
And once you figure that out, doit.
Don't wait.
Don't say, oh, okay.
That's I could do that.
And then never do it.
Take that step.
What's the smallest step thatyou can do.
What's the smallest step thatyou can take to move yourself
forward.
I want to take a minute or twoto share with you how these five
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things have impacted me.
Number one.
The growth mindset.
Three four years ago, I wasstuck in a career in an area of
medicine that I hated.
I felt it was soul sucking.
And.
I dreaded going to work.
I had panic attacks at timesbecause I hated it so much
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because I felt like I was stuck.
Right.
I had a closed mindset.
I was stuck here.
This was the best I could do.
This was the best job I couldget.
This was the most money I couldmake.
And I had a limited mindset.
I had a fixed mindset of this isall that I could do.
Once I got into personal growthand development and realized
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this very thing, this growthmindset.
It changed my life.
And I realize most of theproblem was me.
It wasn't that job.
It wasn't that employer.
It was me because I had thatfixed mindset.
But it took me getting out ofthat situation in order to see.
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And it took me learning aboutpersonal growth, personal
development to get to this placewhere I realized, and I could
admit.
I was the problem there.
And getting out of thatenvironment was the best thing I
could've done for myself.
And I'm so grateful that I did.
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So reframing failure asfeedback, I left that job.
I left that job to go to atelehealth company, which I
loved.
It was fantastic, but it was astartup company that didn't
start up.
But realizing that, taking thatstep out of that, that
environment and trying somethingnew and realizing there was a
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whole other world out there.
Really allowed me to see thateven though this job didn't work
out.
There's so much more out therefor me, and I was able to shift.
I was able to move so fluidly.
Whereas before I'd been stuck ina job that I hated for so long.
And it took me so long to getout of it.
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That this, this time, it wasjust a small shift and I've been
able to do that as neededbecause I can see this as well.
That test was negative.
We'll just move to the next one.
You know, we'll look at thisnext opportunity.
And really seeing those, thosefailures as valuable information
to help me improve.
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Number three, focusing on what Ican control.
So what I could control in thatsituation, when that job was
tanking was.
Finding a different option.
And I was able to do that.
So that the day that we weretold that they were going to
have to close their doors.
I already had another job.
I signed for that day, you know,so I was able to focus on what I
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could control.
I couldn't control whether ornot, they were going to be able
to keep their doors open.
But I could control what I wasable to do.
And looking for a job andfinding another opportunity.
For practicing gratitude andoptimism.
I told you guys earlier, I do agratitude practice every morning
and I've voiced memo over to myfriend, Tawna.
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And it's really been helpful andit's really been interesting to
see all of the things there isnot a day that goes by that I
can not find three things thatI'm grateful for.
Never.
And I guarantee you, you won'tget to that point either.
If you can't find something thatyou're grateful for.
You're not looking hard enough.
You can do it.
And then taking consistentimperfect action.
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Uh, for me.
It's been in this realm of realestate investing.
I've tried a lot of differentthings and.
Things have worked, thingshaven't.
I've had some setbacks and somecould be considered failures,
things that I didn't want to do.
But it was all feedback.
Right?
I learned these are the thingsthat I don't want to do in real
estate.
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And I learned that there arethings that I love and I'm
working towards those.
And is it perfect?
Nope.
Am I.
Working on it every day, tryingto learn and grow.
Absolutely.
And I wouldn't have it any otherway.
I love what I'm doing.
I'm so grateful for it.
So those are the things that inmy life, how I've been using,
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these different.
So I gave you a lot ofactionable steps with each one
of those different mindsetshifts.
So that adopting a growthmindset, reframing failure as
feedback.
Controlling or focusing on whatyou can control.
Practicing gratitude.
And taking consistent action.
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At this point, I would recommendyou choose one of those mindset
shifts that resonated the mostwith you.
Do you need to practicegratitude?
Do you need to start seeingthings more positive?
Do you need to take thosefailures and see how they are.
Beneficial for your future andhow their feedback to help you
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move forward.
Whichever one resonated the mostwith you.
I would encourage you to pickthat one.
And start applying that throughthe week.
Maybe it's adopting that growthmindset or focusing on only what
you can control, but start withone shift.
And notice how it changes yourperspective.
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With that I will end with thisstatement, that mindset isn't a
one-time shift.
It really is a daily practice.
Start small, stay consistent andwatch how your life begins to
elevate by changing just alittle thing at a time.
And as always, if this episoderesonated with you, please.
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Like, and subscribe, and pleaseshare it with someone, a friend,
a coworker fellow PA mama, whoyou feel might benefit?
Let's keep elevating togetherall right, everyone until next
time, take care.
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Hey everyone.
I am so grateful to have youwith me today.
today we are going to talk aboutmindset shifts for resilience
and growth.
So in January, the beginning ofthe year, this is the perfect
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time to truly set the intentionfor the year, last week, I
talked about how my word for theyear is elevate.
And so we're going to start withelevating our mindset.
We're going to talk this weekabout mindset shifts for
resilience, especially inmedicine, we need resilience.
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So let's dive in today.
Let me ask you this question.
What separates those who thrivein challenging situations from
those who feel stuck?
It all starts with mindset.
Today, we're diving into thosemindset shifts that will help
you build resilience, help youovercome obstacles, prevent
burnout, and continue to growingwhether it's in your career,
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your personal life or yourfinancial journey.
We know as medicalprofessionals, these shifts can
be especially powerful andhelping us find balance clarity
and confidence in life and work.
I like the word harmony.
There really is no balance.
Right?
There's no perfect work lifebalance.
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But we can find harmony betweenthe two.
Sometimes we are heavily focusedon work and sometimes we are
heavily focused on our family.
And we have to find thatharmony.
In those different times.
Okay.
Why is this important?
Mindset directly affects how weapproach challenges, both in
medicine.
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And our personal life as well asin our financial growth.
And.
Really, we want to find ways tobuild all aspects of our life,
elevate all aspects of our life.
Not just our careers, not justour family, but also our
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personal growth and development,our financial future, our wealth
creation, our generationalwealth creation.
All of those things, we need theright mindset to move forward.
As we all know in demandingfields like ours in the medical
field, having mental resilienceand a growth oriented mindset
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will help us decrease our stresslevels, it'll prevent burnout
and it also helps open doors tonew possibilities.
What are we talking about today?
So the key mindset shifts thatwe'll discuss today are adopting
a growth mindset, number tworeframing failure as feedback.
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Number three, focusing on whatwe can control.
Number four- practicinggratitude and optimism.
And number five.
Taking consistent and somewhatimperfect action.
So key mindset shifts that we'regoing to talk about.
Number one.
Adopting a growth mindset.
And this is not new.
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This is a refresher for all ofus.
And especially for those of usin medicine, right.
What do we do?
We learn.
We continue.
We are continually learning.
We are continually looking atstudies, looking at the new
research, seeing what's beingupdated.
What things that as we learnmore, we need to change our
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practice.
So that growth mindset is reallyinherent in all that we do.
What exactly is a growthmindset.
If we were going to put adefinition on it, it's the
belief that skills, knowledgeintelligence can be developed
through effort and learning yourbrain is not stagnant.
It is always learning andgrowing and you can build.
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So why, why is a growth mindsetimportant?
Obviously it helps us viewchallenges as opportunities for
improvement and not justobstacles.
It also encourages curiosity,adaptability and ongoing
development.
Again, going back to researchand the more we know, the more,
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we're learning about differentthings.
We're changing what we're doingto optimize our patients' care
and we need to be, we need to bedoing that in our life as well.
We need to be adopting thatgrowth mindset as we're always
taking in new information.
How was that helpful for us?
What does that change in ourlife?
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And then using that to build abetter outcome in all aspects of
life.
Another way I like to thinkabout it is from the patient's
perspective because they come tous to find out what's going on.
And if we can help them exploredifferent options and realize
that changing some of the thingsthat they are doing, may help
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them achieve better health.
And if they're open to that,It's it's so much better for the
patient.
Right.
And we know that.
And so when our patients come tous and they're not in a growth
mindset.
If they're in a closed and fixedmindset, I'm not changing.
This is what I'm doing.
Then it is a lot harder, right?
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So from both perspectives, if weare all open to growth and
learning and trying somethingnew.
Think about how much easier thatis to treat that patient versus
the person that comes in andsays, well, I'm not changing.
Okay, well, I can give you amedication for your diabetes,
but if you're not going tochange your diet, You're
probably going to need more andit's not going to fix anything.
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Right.
It's just delaying things.
So having that growth mindsetfor us personally, you can see
how that helps you in allaspects of your life.
Learn and grow and build uponwhat you, what, you know, what
you're doing.
And right.
It's like iterating every timewe, we learn and grow and we do
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something new we can improve.
We can change.
And we can lead to betteroutcomes.
One way we can use this growthmindset is when we're faced with
a challenge, an obstacle.
You can stop and think.
How can I grow from this?
What is the lesson I'm going tolearn through this?
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And if you start looking for theopportunity to learn and grow.
Such a different way to approachthat problem or that obstacle.
Then, oh my gosh.
This is so horrible.
I can't believe this ishappening to me.
Right.
Energy feels so much different.
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And so, and this is a practice,right?
This is not something that weall do naturally.
It's something we're going tohave to work on.
And build that muscle of amindset shifting to, how am I
growing from this?
What is this going to teach me?
What lesson do I get from thischallenge?
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And that's something that takestime and reflection.
So no judgment.
What I'm starting to see andunderstand is we're not, we're
not going to automatically behit with a problem.
And be like, oh, this is sofantastic.
What's the lesson I'm going tolearn from it.
How am I going to grow fromthis?
That's, that's not how it'sgoing to be.
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you're going to hit with thatchallenge.
You're going to be frustrated.
But what you're going to find isyou're going to catch it so much
faster.
You know, maybe you would be hitby that problem.
And for days or weeks, you'd befrustrated, you'd be down.
And as you started thispractice, you're going to find,
you're going to catch thatnegative reaction faster.
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Maybe instead of a week of.
"oh, woe is me.
Maybe it's only a couple of daysbefore.
You're like, okay, I'm ready to.
Stop feeling sorry for myself,and actually look at this
problem from an outsideperspective, from a different
perspective, that's helpful.
And then maybe you go from the acouple of days too.
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A day where you're, you'recatching it faster.
And soon you're going to get tothe point where you're going to
be hit with obstacles.
You're going to get frustrated,for a few minutes and then
you're going to be able to,okay.
This sucks.
I don't like this, but how can Iuse this to my advantage?
What can I learn from this?
You're just going to startcatching it, faster.
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And I think that's reallyimportant.
This kind of leads into our nextpoint.
Number two.
Reframing failure as feedback.
Failure is not the opposite ofsuccess.
It is part of the process.
Every setback brings valuableinformation to help us improve
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and move forward.
For me thinking about failure aspart of the process and
necessary for success.
Really helps me I realize it'snot.
It's not a failure.
It's anything, but.
It's feedback.
It's a lesson learned.
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It's a way to not do it in thefuture.
Some of the things that it helpsus do is shift that fear of
failure that holds us back.
And to seeing it as feedbackhelps us build confidence and
that resilience.
And it helps us start takingmore risks and trying new things
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because we're not re we're notbeing paralyzed by that fear of
failure or that we have to do itperfect.
You know?
Perfection is, the enemy ofprogress, right?
When I started thinking aboutthis failure as feedback, I like
to relate it to our differentialdiagnosis.
You know, we may have three,five things that we think may be
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going on with a patient.
And so what do we do?
We may order a test.
And a negative test isn't badbecause it just tells us.
Okay, great.
That gives me more informationto realize this and this
diagnosis are off the table.
That's not what we're dealingwith.
And now I get a focus on theseones over here.
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And if we can think about ourfailures in that way as just, is
it a positive test or a negativetest?
Is it leading us towards thispossibility or that possibility?
It really gives it a differentconnotation.
It doesn't feel bad.
It's just, that's moreinformation that he needed to
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rule this out.
So just as that negative testwill rule out possibilities and
bring us closer to the truecause of the problem.
The same goes for life andbusiness.
Every failure is a clue thathelps us get closer to success.
So I think that.
For me seeing it in that way andrelating it back to how we're
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working up a patient.
It just feels so much lessheavy.
It doesn't, it just feels like,okay, this is just the process I
have to go through.
And I think that's a great wayto look at it.
So a practical tip here is ifyou're a journaler, it may be a
good idea in your journal tohave a section for for feedback.
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So you can start tracking thelessons that you're learning
from those obstacles, thosesetbacks, those challenges that
came up.
And identify areas forimprovement.
When we can start looking at itin that way and reflecting on
it, it reframes those problems.
In such a great way.
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That you're gaining from it andyou're learning from it.
And again, it just shifts theenergy to a different feeling
for that, for that issue soinstead of viewing something as
a failure, write down whatyou're learning and how you can
apply it moving forward.
Number three.
Focus on what you can control.
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This one is for, for my worriersout there.
Those of us that like to worryabout what could happen.
this is a good one.
We often stress about thingsthat are beyond our control,
that may never happen.
And how many of us play out thatdoomsday scenario in our head?
(13:08):
Over and over and over again.
True resilience comes fromfocusing on what is within our
power.
What can we control?
Why is this important?
This really think about it whenyou are overwhelmed, are you
overwhelmed by what's actuallyhappening?
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Or are you overwhelmed by allthe possibilities and all the
things that you're worriedabout?
My guess is.
You're overwhelmed by all thethings.
I do this, and this is one ofthe things that I'm working on.
Right.
Now.
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When we can focus on what we cancontrol, what we have control
over, it helps reduce thatfeeling of overwhelm by
narrowing our focus toactionable steps that we can
take.
And it builds a sense of calmand confidence, even in
stressful situations.
Because you can only controlyourself and what you can
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control and again, it's catchingit faster.
When you realize that's beyondmy control, I can't do anything
about it.
I'm not going to worry about itthat starts decreasing that
stress level and that feeling ofoverwhelm.
When I think about thissituation and controlling what
we can control.
I think about that patient thatcomes in and they're either
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super-duper frustrated or veryemotional.
And we cannot control theirreactions.
We can't control what, what theysay, what they do.
And it is reliant on us to keepthat equanimity about us.
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And, and not rise to their levelof emotion.
Right.
I think that is where again,this sense of you know,
controlling what you can,letting go of what you can't, is
very essential to keeping thatstress level down.
You know, and the same principleapplies to life, right?
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Whether it's with our kids, ourfinances, our relationships.
We can only control what we cancontrol.
A practical tip that you can usehere is actually creating a
list.
If you're in a situation you'refeeling overwhelmed.
You're really frustrated.
Stop take a minute.
Write down.
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What is it that you have controlof in this situation and what
don't you have control over?
And focus on the list that youhave control over.
I think it's really importantbecause that gives you action
steps, and it takes you out ofthat realm of spiraling thoughts
of all the bad that can happenand actually focusing on what
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you can do about that situation.
That's one way that you can usethis.
And again, This is going to taketime and you may need to walk
away from the situation and itmay be later that day we'd you
can decompress and spend sometime actually contemplating
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what's going on.
Why are you so frustrated?
What do I have available to me?
What am I able to control?
What can I not control?
Let those things go.
That's the hard part is lettingthose things go.
And just focusing on the thingsthat you can control.
All right.
So number four.
Practicing gratitude andoptimism.
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Gratitude shifts your focus towhat is good in your life.
And optimism fuels hope for thefuture.
It is hard to be negative andgrateful at the same time.
When you start.
Shifting your focus to gratitudeit changes a lot because you
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realize how much you reallyhave.
And I think it's importantbecause.
It helps you build thatresilience by being able to see
the silver lining, even indifficult situations.
Seeing that silver lining is notunrealistic.
For example.
I applied for this job.
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That I have now about a yearago.
And I went through the processand they ended up taking the job
down and not hiring for it.
I can see now how beneficialthat was for me, because my
stepdad passed away in Januaryof last year.
Had I had that job- I neverwould have been able to be there
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for my mom.
Like I was able to be.
That's the silver lining.
Now in the moment, was itdifficult?
Was I frustrated?
Yes.
And so basically when we startshifting that focus and we start
doing it earlier versus.
You know, a year later orwhenever later.
When we can start seeing theseobstacles.
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And saying, okay, this, this isfrustrating.
The sucks.
I don't like this, you know, andit's okay to be upset.
It's okay to be devastated.
It's okay to have thoseemotions.
And when we can start seeinghow.
This is going to be how, howwe're grateful for the
situation.
Even in the difficult thingswhen bad things happen, and they
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do, and they're going to.
There are good things that comeout of it.
You hear the saying?
When disaster strikes look forthe helpers, right?
There's those people that aregoing to come in and provide
benefit for those who arestruggling.
Same thing with us as we'regoing through difficult
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situations.
When we can start being gratefulfor what is good in that
situation, it shifts the meaningand it shifts the impact of that
bad situation to something good.
And we know that gratitude isscientifically proven to reduce
stress and improve our overallwellbeing.
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And.
The same, what we think about,we bring about.
If we are hopeful for thefuture, if we are optimistic, if
we're seeing things that we'regrateful for, we're going to see
more of that.
We're going to expect more ofthat.
Your reticular activating systemis going to start going into
overdrive looking for the good.
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If you're worrying about things,if you're thinking about all the
negatives.
Guess what you're going to find.
You're going to find all thenegatives.
So it's all of that same stuff.
Over and over again, when we,when we think about the good
things, when we focus on thegood things, those are the
things that are going tocontinue to flow into our lives,
because that's what we'relooking for.
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So how can we apply this to ourlife?
I recommend starting a gratitudepractice each morning, write
down three things that you'regrateful for.
And maybe even one positiveoutcome that you're working
towards.
What is the thing that you'rehoping to achieve maybe that day
or that week, or that monthsomething positive that you're
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working towards.
There's always something thatyou can think of, that you're
grateful for.
And I think it's a goodexercise.
For your brain to start yoursubconscious, to really start
looking for those, those thingsthat are good in your life.
It helps build a positivemindset as well.
Number five taking consistentimperfect action.
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Now we were all here.
A lot of us are probably thatvery type A, have to do it
right.
Have to get it perfect typepersonalities.
I know that was me for sure.
One thing we've learnedperfectionism can lead to
paralysis.
We feel like we have to do itright.
And if we're not going to do itright, we're just not going to
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do it at all.
But that doesn't lead toprogress.
That leaves you stagnant andstuck where you're at.
Whereas progress happens whenyou show up consistently.
Even if things aren't perfectand you take the steps and you
do the reps, you put in thework.
When we put in that consistentaction, even if it's not
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perfect, it's going to buildmomentum and confidence over
time.
What's interesting aboutconfidence is you don't have
confidence and then you do thething.
You do the thing and you buildconfidence, just like, think
back when we were in school.
And we were on our rotations.
And the first day you showed upto that.
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Rotation, maybe it was in theER, whatever.
You were scared to do anything,because you didn't know anybody,
you didn't know where thingswere.
You didn't know the system, youdidn't know the routines.
But as you were there for thatsix weeks or three months, or
however long you were there for.
You learned, you grew, you builtyour confidence by the end, you
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were able to come in and learnand grow in that environment
because you've built up thatconsistent action.
And now you have confidence inyourself and your abilities
because you've learned.
Just.
Just like that, Confidencebuilds over time.
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Another reason why this isimportant, is it because it
encourages you to start even ifconditions aren't ideal.
Maybe you want to learn.
Maybe you want to invest in realestate.
But you're not quite sure.
Where to start.
That's okay.
It's all about learning as yougo and starting to, to build up
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that reservoir of knowledge sothat when you're ready to take
that step.
You can jump in with confidence,right?
So some practical tips.
If we start setting miny goals.
Small achievable goals thatwe'll help us build momentum
without that pressure ofperfection.
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That's what we want to do.
So maybe it is I want to grow upportfolio of properties that
brings in passive income.
For me to live off of.
Okay.
That's one of my goals.
I don't have that right now andI'm not going to wait until I'm
perfect to, to get there becausethen I won't ever happen.
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But I can start learning aboutdifferent areas of investing
that I want to be.
And different property types.
Different types of real estate.
Whether I'm passive or active inthere.
And as I'm learning and gaininginformation, I will know when I
can start moving into thoseareas of investing to achieve my
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goals, but I don't have to do itperfectly.
And I don't have to wait either.
I can.
Acquire knowledge.
And once I have enough and Ifeel confident and have people
who can support me, I can moveinto some of those investments.
Another step I want you to takeor tip.
Would be to ask yourself, what'sthe smallest, next step I can
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take today to move me towards mygoal.
And once you figure that out, doit.
Don't wait.
Don't say, oh, okay.
That's I could do that.
And then never do it.
Take that step.
What's the smallest step thatyou can do.
What's the smallest step thatyou can take to move yourself
forward.
I want to take a minute or twoto share with you how these five
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things have impacted me.
Number one.
The growth mindset.
Three four years ago, I wasstuck in a career in an area of
medicine that I hated.
I felt it was soul sucking.
And.
I dreaded going to work.
I had panic attacks at timesbecause I hated it so much
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because I felt like I was stuck.
Right.
I had a closed mindset.
I was stuck here.
This was the best I could do.
This was the best job I couldget.
This was the most money I couldmake.
And I had a limited mindset.
I had a fixed mindset of this isall that I could do.
Once I got into personal growthand development and realized
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this very thing, this growthmindset.
It changed my life.
And I realize most of theproblem was me.
It wasn't that job.
It wasn't that employer.
It was me because I had thatfixed mindset.
But it took me getting out ofthat situation in order to see.
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And it took me learning aboutpersonal growth, personal
development to get to this placewhere I realized, and I could
admit.
I was the problem there.
And getting out of thatenvironment was the best thing I
could've done for myself.
And I'm so grateful that I did.
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So reframing failure asfeedback, I left that job.
I left that job to go to atelehealth company, which I
loved.
It was fantastic, but it was astartup company that didn't
start up.
But realizing that, taking thatstep out of that, that
environment and trying somethingnew and realizing there was a
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whole other world out there.
Really allowed me to see thateven though this job didn't work
out.
There's so much more out therefor me, and I was able to shift.
I was able to move so fluidly.
Whereas before I'd been stuck ina job that I hated for so long.
And it took me so long to getout of it.
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That this, this time, it wasjust a small shift and I've been
able to do that as neededbecause I can see this as well.
That test was negative.
We'll just move to the next one.
You know, we'll look at thisnext opportunity.
And really seeing those, thosefailures as valuable information
to help me improve.
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Number three, focusing on what Ican control.
So what I could control in thatsituation, when that job was
tanking was.
Finding a different option.
And I was able to do that.
So that the day that we weretold that they were going to
have to close their doors.
I already had another job.
I signed for that day, you know,so I was able to focus on what I
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could control.
I couldn't control whether ornot, they were going to be able
to keep their doors open.
But I could control what I wasable to do.
And looking for a job andfinding another opportunity.
For practicing gratitude andoptimism.
I told you guys earlier, I do agratitude practice every morning
and I've voiced memo over to myfriend, Tawna.
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And it's really been helpful andit's really been interesting to
see all of the things there isnot a day that goes by that I
can not find three things thatI'm grateful for.
Never.
And I guarantee you, you won'tget to that point either.
If you can't find something thatyou're grateful for.
You're not looking hard enough.
You can do it.
And then taking consistentimperfect action.
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Uh, for me.
It's been in this realm of realestate investing.
I've tried a lot of differentthings and.
Things have worked, thingshaven't.
I've had some setbacks and somecould be considered failures,
things that I didn't want to do.
But it was all feedback.
Right?
I learned these are the thingsthat I don't want to do in real
estate.
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And I learned that there arethings that I love and I'm
working towards those.
And is it perfect?
Nope.
Am I.
Working on it every day, tryingto learn and grow.
Absolutely.
And I wouldn't have it any otherway.
I love what I'm doing.
I'm so grateful for it.
So those are the things that inmy life, how I've been using,
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these different.
So I gave you a lot ofactionable steps with each one
of those different mindsetshifts.
So that adopting a growthmindset, reframing failure as
feedback.
Controlling or focusing on whatyou can control.
Practicing gratitude.
And taking consistent action.
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At this point, I would recommendyou choose one of those mindset
shifts that resonated the mostwith you.
Do you need to practicegratitude?
Do you need to start seeingthings more positive?
Do you need to take thosefailures and see how they are.
Beneficial for your future andhow their feedback to help you
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move forward.
Whichever one resonated the mostwith you.
I would encourage you to pickthat one.
And start applying that throughthe week.
Maybe it's adopting that growthmindset or focusing on only what
you can control, but start withone shift.
And notice how it changes yourperspective.
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With that I will end with thisstatement, that mindset isn't a
one-time shift.
It really is a daily practice.
Start small, stay consistent andwatch how your life begins to
elevate by changing just alittle thing at a time.
And as always, if this episoderesonated with you, please.
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Like, and subscribe, and pleaseshare it with someone, a friend,
a coworker fellow PA mama, whoyou feel might benefit?
Let's keep elevating togetherall right, everyone until next
time, take care.
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