Segment: You'll regret what you didn't do more than what you did - Moses B Arthur

Greatness demands more than talent—it requires honor, obsession, and unwavering discipline.

Moses Barthur joins us for a profound conversation about the forgotten values driving exceptional achievement. He articulates a powerful definition of honor as "your ability to design, celebrate, and reward men for their distinct, different, and unique contributions to life." In an age where gratitude—the simplest expression of honor—is increasingly rare, Barthur challenges us to recognize that while spiritually all may be equal, our contributions and sacrifices in pursuit of destiny vary significantly.

We dive deep into the concept of "positive obsession"—that driving force behind all remarkable accomplishments that some might call passion or hunger. This obsession, particularly regarding financial success in one's early years, creates compound benefits throughout life. Barthur brilliantly contrasts motivation and discipline: "Making money is an action, maintaining it is a behavior, multiplying it is knowledge." While motivation initiates the journey, discipline sustains it through challenges and setbacks.

The conversation reaches its emotional peak with Barthur sharing wisdom received upon his mentor's 40th birthday: "You will regret what you didn't do more than what you did." This perspective illuminates the pain of unrealized potential—opportunities declined, books unwritten, businesses never launched. As Barthur eloquently states, better to stand "in the arena whose face is marred with dust, sweat, and blood" than to never have entered at all.

Ready to transform your mindset and approach to success? Join our Konnected Minds community, grab Moses Barthur's insightful books, and remember: the greatest honor to our creator comes through creating as He did. Subscribe now and become part of a movement dedicated to unlocking human potential through honor, discipline, and positive obsession.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
So I look at the good , I look at the good, I look at
the good.
Now, I said there are pointswhere the person will cross, and
when you cross you have to act.
But your action should also bein love.
Wow, yeah.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
Wow.
I said in previous episodes, onthe 29th of August at the
British Council, we're doing ourfirst Connected Minds Live and
it's only limited to 250 people.
Now I can't begin to talk aboutsome of the teachings that you
guys are going to have in termsof your mindset transformation.
If you've been following myInstagram and the things we've

(00:34):
been talking about, and if youlove exactly what we've been
doing here, we're not doing itexactly for a certain group of
people.
It's for people who think thatthey can cross that path to
greatness.
That's why we're doing this.
That's the first connectedminds live and then also the
four pillars to success.
If you haven't read that book,I'm gonna leave that link below

(00:57):
in the description and then youcan get access to it.
If you're listening to theaudio, then you can go to
connectedacademycom and enteryour details.
Today I have got three bookshere, three amazing books.
Very quickly, I know which oneis going to be my favorite book.
Me, I love thinking, so this ismy favorite book, right.

(01:20):
I love thinking, so if I seeanything that comes to thinking,
I know it's going to be great.
But look, this man has gotthree books.
This is the most recent one.
Now, anytime I pick up a bookand I recommend a book, you know
, I do say that there is nobenefit to reading and not
acting, and one of my favoritequotes by Aristotle, that the

(01:44):
purpose of knowledge is action,not more knowledge.
Grab a copy of this, read itand highlight it, don't see.
You know, as a matter of fact,don't read, study the book,
study the book, don't just readit.
So if you're looking for it,I'm gonna put it in the
description as well, or you cango to mosesbarthurcom right, yes

(02:06):
, that's the website.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
That's the website, because I checked it out yeah,
and then you can.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
You can grab the book , but yeah, let's carry on let's
carry on, let's carry on wowmba derek, is there any question
that I could have asked youtoday in this conversation that
I didn't, that you still thinkwe can talk about?

Speaker 1 (02:28):
They should muse on this one, they should muse on
the conversations that we've had, and I think, probably to wrap
it up, would be how that, as ageneration, we should love
process, should be patient loveprocess and our people.

(02:49):
I always say that and I is sucha very important and powerful
thing and true, anna, honorsomeone, it's your ability to
first of all design, celebrate,reward men for their distinct,

(03:12):
different and uniquecontributions to life.
So your ability to design truehonor starts off with
discernment.
So your ability to design, yourability to celebrate and your
ability to reward men for theirdistinct and unique
contributions to the lives ofpeople.

(03:33):
So, and anna, is not humanworship, that's what a lot of us
may say.
I always say that, um, inchristianity we teach that all
men are the same.
In christ, it's true, in christwe are all the same, but when
we come to life, as far as thesacrifice and the pursuit and
the push of destiny is concerned, all men are not the same.

(03:55):
So, honor men, and the easiestway to show honor is gratitude.
The easiest way, the easiestway to honor a man is gratitude.
You don't have to, and it'ssomething that is missing in the
generation.
We don't know how to honor.
We don't know how to showgratitude.
We think that the fact that youhave a big man's number means
that and there are little thingsthat speak this honor.

(04:17):
Somebody was telling me thatthey have this person's contact.
They message a person.
The person doesn't mind them.
When he showed me the chat, hehas added the person to his
broadcast list.
I said how would the personmind you?
Do you know what it means towake up and be broadcasting?
Do you know what it means towake up and be broadcasting your
whatever to such a person, youhave abused access.

(04:39):
So there are things that aremissing in the generation that I
think that with time willbecome better.
I think that with a platformlike this, people's perspectives
and life will also be shaped,and I know that, with relentless
focus and unshakable disciplineand an obsession to be the best
, anything that anybody is doinghas the power to lift them up.

(05:00):
They should just stay focused,they should just have a certain
discipline and, most importantly, they should have a certain
obsession to be the best.
It's very important.
You look at all great people.
They have an underliningobsession.
You may call it passion and theNigerians will say your passion
will determine your portion youknow, so your obsession will
determine how much you that'sright make out of life.

(05:23):
Somebody will call obsessionpassion, somebody will call it
hunger or urgency, but you needit yeah, you definitely need a
positive obsession about lifesuccess.

Speaker 2 (05:32):
You know, I was telling the boys this morning
that they have got to think ofsolutions, problem solving it's,
it's very, very important but,there's something that makes me
so happy for you.
You know what it is no, it'sthe fact that since I've been
young I've always beenpositively obsessed about money

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and I thank God the position Iam now right, I mean my 30s, and
if I didn't, if I wasn't thatpositively obsessed?
About money from my teenage age20s.
I would have suffered now.
So seeing you younger than I amand the path you are on.
My brother, you've done well.

Speaker 1 (06:16):
I'm very happy for you.

Speaker 2 (06:17):
Thank you, and all I just want to say is that the
young people that are listeningin their teens, they should not
soak themselves in masturbation,pornography, lottery yeah,
because it will take a lot of.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
Manage your time wisely.
By the time you realize you are30 years, 40 years, you're on
pension and you're strugglingabsolutely my question is
motivation or discipline, thefamous connected minds question
motivation or discipline.
You need a good blend of both.

(06:52):
You need a good balance of both.
Your motivation is usually whatwill get you started.
Your discipline is what willget you connected and stayed on
it.
It's like let me use moneyMoney, motivation or discipline.

(07:12):
You need a certain motivationand drive to move towards making
money.
So I say this making money is anaction, maintaining it as a
behavior, multiplying it asknowledge.
Making money is an action,maintaining it as a behavior,
multiplying it as knowledge.
And what you do to make moneyis not what you do to multiply
money.
So making money is an action.

(07:32):
Your action is alwaysmotivation inspired.
You want to make money is notwhat you do to multiply money.
So making money is an action.
Your action is alwaysmotivation inspired.
You want to make money.
Something must inspire you tostart making that money.
But far beyond making the moneyis behavior.
That's where discipline comesto play.
So you don't make 10,000 GhanaCDs and you wake up and you tell
me that you got some two odds.

(07:53):
So you took 8,000 Ghana CDs andyou placed it on that tool.
It doesn't make sense.
Your discipline is where we'reable to see your character and
your habits come to play.
So at that point you make10,000 Ghana CDs.
Wisdom teaches you that maybe20% of this should go into an
account for emergency.

(08:14):
Maybe 20% should also go intoan account for savings, should
also go into an account forsavings.
Then 10% should probably gointo maybe my recreational
account for vacation or for mymental health.
Then 50% should go towardsexpenditure.
So out of your recreational 10%, you can probably take a

(08:34):
portion of it to go and do yourgambling or your bet or whatever
.
It's discipline Other than that, that that's where a lot of
people lose out on it.
So then, multiplying it.
Then now will come to knowledge.
So ask for knowledge there.
You need it every now and then.
But you look at it.
Motivation will always startthe journey, but I won't keep
you there.
You can't tell me that, oh, Ifeel inspired and motivated to

(08:57):
do real estate.
It's true, we were all inspiredonce.
But when you jump into thearena and you are doing it, you
realize that motivation is notwhat to buy the cement, it's not
what to buy the iron rods.
So the discipline will now cometo play, and the discipline is
where a lot of people feel.
Most people are inspired.
Few people come to the place ofdiscipline, and discipline is
commitment my god, what's thebest advice you've ever received

(09:21):
?
hmm, best advice, best advice.
You've asked a hard one becauseI've received this question
always guess.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
I really guess, you think I have received a lot.
So many, because give us oneinstead of being the only
councils, so many councils Ihave received.

Speaker 1 (09:48):
So, so, so, so many councils.
I think that I'd give a recentone.
I sat with an elder brother ofmine who is past 40.
So he's been very instrumentalin my life for the longest I've

(10:10):
known him, since I was in SHS2.
So it's like I'm the firstbornof my dad, so he's like the big
brother I never had.
And he turned 40.
And so I messaged him and Isaid I'd like to hear from you.
Life lessons are 40.
And then he was like let's notdiscuss this over phone, let's
meet in person.

(10:31):
So we met and he said somethingto me.
He said when you are 40 andabove, you will regret what you
didn't do more than what you did.
You will regret what you didn'tdo more than what you did.
The opportunities you didn'ttake, the projects, you didn't

(10:53):
start the books, you never wrotethe podcast, you never recorded
the song, you never sang thepainting.
You never recorded the song,you never sang the painting, you
never completed.
Because truth of the matter isthat if and I thought through
this I said what he's saying istrue, I prefer to be the guy who
stands in the arena whose faceis mad with dust, sweat blood.

(11:16):
Dust sweat blood.
Failing, failing forward,having my life up to something
than not doing anything.
At least I would understand whatit means to try and succeed
than to have not done anything.
My place in destiny andeternity will be with the cold

(11:39):
and timid souls who nevercreated anything and would not
be an honor to god, because truehonor to god is to create like
he created, is to do as he did.
He woke up and he created.
He's the greatest entrepreneurI know.
He built a business in six days.
He retired on the seventh day.
He's been two thousand plusyears.
He has eight billion peopleworking for him and his system
has him filled.

Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yeah wow, wow I was gonna ask you to recommend the
book, but I won't because I'vealready got the books here, but
thank you so much, I'vedefinitely recommended it.
I know you will.
I know you will, but thank youso much for your time.
I really appreciate you comingin and indeed it's good we

(12:20):
didn't record the first time Ihave been blessed my viewers and
my listeners are definitelygoing to be blessed.
As a matter of fact, if they arenot blessed, then they have not
been watching Connected Minds,because this is definitely
connected.
My name is Derek Abayte and Ithank you so much.
If you made it to the end, letthe comments flow.
I want to see that in thecomments section.

(12:40):
Thank you so much.
If you made it to the end, letthe comments flow.
I want to see that in thecomments section thank you and I
appreciate you for being here.
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