February 23, 2025 • 30 mins
In this episode of "Let Me Tell You This About That," host s Delbert and Hess engage in a heartwarming conversation about embracing the beauty in everyday life and finding purpose with whatever season in life we are in. Broadcasting live from Kentucky, they share personal anecdotes on what helps them through. With reflections on their 67 years of experiences, they discuss the importance of cultivating wisdom, maintaining strong relationships, and spreading positivity. The episode also highlights their upcoming events and how small actions, like planting seeds or enjoying a dance concert, can uplift the spirit. Delbert and Hess remind us all to live fully, be brave, and embrace the present moment, sending out vibes of blue skies and green grass to their listeners.
Update on my friend José and his cancer treatments. José has finsihed two raounds of chemo--the second round much stronger. After a recent scan, there is great news the tumors have shrunk--ALOT! Thank you Lord, and José's positive frame of mind! He knows he will beat this! Thank you so much for your support to Jose!
https://gofund.me/e6f61999
In addition to being a podcast host, Hess is also an LCSW--if you'd like to learn more about her work as a therapist, check it out at www.jessicabollinger.com
One of her mission's is for all of our lights to shine--when we see each other and allow ourself to be seen--and we can say to the person in front of us, There You Are! the world will be an amazing place!
Delbert is a realtor in Louisville, KY, and you can find her at Kentucky Select Properties
Her philanthropic work to continue her sister Carole and niece Meghan is Carole's Kitchen. Blessings in a Backpack helps feed the many hungry students in our schools. The instagram account is: https://www.instagram.com/caroleskitchen.nonprofit?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==
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Hess (00:00):
This is Hess with Let Me Tell You This About That.
Delbert (00:04):
morning.
This is Delbert.
Again, live from the green couchlooking out my window.
it is a beautiful day inKentucky, right?
Hess (00:16):
I've got blue skies here, Delbert.
I'm 60 miles east of Louisville.
Delbert's on the green couch inSt.
Matthews in Louisville,Kentucky.
And I'm in Lexington, Kentuckyon a 92 acre farm and that is
about 60 miles.
East of Delbert, and I've gotblue skies also,
Delbert (00:35):
And it's a beautiful drive to the farm.
never far away.
Hess (00:40):
I'm looking at remember you all last week.
I talked about seeing mud andthen I said the grass has got a
green hue to it.
And then it was so amazing byjust pointing that out to my
brain.
That's all I saw was the greenhue in the grass.
And yes, there is green hue inthe grass, even more today.
(01:02):
There's some patches of snowbecause we got some snow this
past week here.
But I'm seeing some green hues.
It stuck with me, Delbert.
It stuck with me.
Delbert (01:12):
good.
I was going to say it's stillsnowed at the beginning of this
week and it's icy, but todayit's going to be in the mid to
upper forties.
The sun's out.
I I was telling Hess, I shookthe ice off.
I was like, it doesn't matter.
And my car did the same thing.
My car looks like that emoji,the little frozen face emoji.
(01:34):
And I could not get all the iceoff the front.
It looked like it had a, like alittle beard of ice and snow.
And I couldn't get it off.
And finally the other day when Iwas driving, it just broke off,
like there we go.
We've shake it, literally andfiguratively, I shook off all
the ice and I'm just in thisplace where I'm gonna do my open
house today and give out seedsto people as a little takeaway.
(02:00):
seeds.
I'm ready for spring.
I'm not letting anything hold medown.
Hess (02:06):
Yeah, and something else different that you were doing
besides giving out seeds at theopen house?
What did you say?
Delbert (02:11):
Oh, yeah, I'm just shaking it up.
I was trying to think of newideas and I had a meeting with
our marketing team and I waslike, I just want to do
something different, just have alittle experience to get people
out of the winter, and I'm likeI'm Catholic.
Why don't I do a bingo card withall the great things in the
house?
(02:32):
And I've got stickers for peopleto put on as they find things
and, see things.
Doing the same thing that youand I were talking about with
our color walk and of noticingcolors.
And as people go through theopen house today they're going
to play bingo.
So I think that'll be fun.
Hess (02:49):
Cool.
Cool.
Y'all, as Podsters, I'm, we haveknown each other for 60 years.
And I, Delbert just turned 67.
No?
67?
Delbert (03:04):
Yeah.
Hess (03:05):
67.
Yeah, I'll be 67.
You're 67 a couple months, a fewmonths before me.
My birthday is in April andwe're about to turn 67.
And when we met with our group,excuse me, when we met with our
group a year ago, January, partof it was like we're going into
our later stages of life.
What are we going to do with ourlife?
(03:26):
That was the theme.
What are we going to do with ourlives to contribute to see how
We can give back or what else dowe want to do with our lives?
That was what the theme was forour Barkley village retreat that
we had with our little group.
And I'm just been, I've justbeen contemplating that because
(03:48):
I was just away with a group offriends down on Blas is so
beautiful, big wide beach.
You could have your dog on thebeach.
Tyler loved it.
My soul dog.
It was just fun being around thethis.
These other ladies who are alsoin this part of life that I'm in
(04:09):
of what we want to do and how wewant to do it different.
And, and it's so fun to seepeople being brave about what
they can do To be, to dodifferent.
Delbert, you were saying you,you would never want to go or be
anywhere else.
You got the Darling Society thatlives there by you, and you
still contribute big time as agrandmother, picking up and
(04:32):
driving carpool, and you're nottoo far away from your other
daughter that's in Nashville.
So you'd never pick up and move.
You've got your work there.
You've got your,
Delbert (04:43):
yeah, Carole's kitchen is here.
The service I do through that.
And no, I, and I think people,in this stage of your life,
especially abilities.
And resources are all different,right?
I think it's important to thisis where I am.
(05:04):
This is what I can do focus onwhat you can do.
I can't move anywhere.
But so much that I can do here.
Hess (05:16):
Yeah and looking at it in a new and different way.
That's one thing I like abouttravel.
When I come back, it makes me atourist in my own space.
What all is there to do or see?
What, is there a trail aroundhere that I could go hike?
And I found one, 30 minutesaway, and it was a beautiful
little trail.
I felt like I was in the middleof the wilderness.
It, it brings a new perspectiveto my home place.
(05:38):
And I do have a home place.
I've 92 acres and I've got thislife a lifestyle here on the
farm.
I have my licensed clinicalsocial work practice in my
office here in the back of thehouse, people drive here too.
And we, we have this place withthese beautiful people that work
here that, that keep their horsehere.
(05:59):
And it's I could never pick thisup and move this anywhere else.
Delbert (06:05):
right, but you are so lucky because at this phase in
your life, you've got, peoplethat help you at the barn.
have great barn staff, likewe've talked about, and you have
the ability to get up and gosometimes when you've got
everything covered.
(06:25):
Which Lovely.
Hess (06:27):
true.
Delbert (06:28):
I
Hess (06:28):
And
Delbert (06:29):
you.
Hess (06:29):
you were talking about I'll tell you tonight what's
going on for me today is I gottrained in the Brene Brown work
and I, that's what I presentedlast year to you all Delbert at
the Barkley village.
We started doing this for theuniversity students here at the
farm.
And so we do it once a month andtonight we're feeding them a
(06:52):
meal and I'm presenting someBrene Brown work that can just
give them information to helpthem in their lives.
And those are the little seeds,the little wildflower seeds, I
guess I can give out today.
Like you're giving out at youropen house.
And that's just beautiful how,whatever I know I can spread it.
Delbert (07:12):
Exactly.
Exactly.
Little seeds of wisdom andlittle, hopeful, whatever it is,
whether it's a, plantingsomething physically in the
ground or planting it in yourmind.
It's still so beautiful andhopeful, and that's what I love.
Springtime.
I love summer.
They're my favorites.
(07:33):
I'm thinking about, we'regetting close to Lent and then
that anticipation during Lentabout, When Easter comes, when
springtime comes, gives ussomething to look forward to
springtime and the beautiful newlife that comes.
And it just invigorates your,for me, it invigorates my mind
(07:55):
and my spirit just for things tostart blooming and the days to
get warmer.
Hess (08:00):
And we used, we got it, we got more ice and snow this week
here in Kentucky.
I didn't experience that downthere at the Cape San Blas.
But you were able to fortify andto what helped you during the
cold snap again this week,Delbert?
Yeah.
Delbert (08:23):
decided that I was over it.
Like, I'm no longer a bear inthis cave.
I'm coming out.
I don't care.
And so I just started by justtaking a walk in the cold air.
I was like, I am not afraid ofyou cold air.
And then and then I just,naturally things start to
change.
I got busier at work worked outa couple closings, sold a house
(08:45):
this week, and I got to go to adance concert, one of my darling
schools, and that was veryuplifting.
And I love dance, and it wasthis beautiful, it had every
style of dance in it.
It was just beautiful.
I can't tell you how it liftedmy soul up.
But The other thing is I did notlet it stop me from showing
(09:08):
houses and this one littleclient of mine.
And we're always going to laughabout this for the rest of our
lives.
We went to most of the snow andice is melted.
Just like my little car's beardthat I couldn't crack off.
It's gone.
But this house that client and Iwent to look at is face in the
(09:28):
woods.
And and the people it's vacant.
So the people never did shoveltheir walk or their steps.
And it was really up this hugeincline and it looked like it
was just covered with snow, butI said, she was pregnant and has
a four year old.
I said, let's just hold on.
It looks like it's just snow,but if it's too icy, let's not
(09:49):
let go, let's just prepare, sowe get to the top, this front
porch landing is like an iceskating rink.
And if somebody had filmed us,we were like a comedy routine.
I was holding on to the door andthen I grabbed the little four
year old's arm and brought herinside and then my sweet little
(10:10):
client, she's holding on to allthe rails and I'm holding on to
her and we're like, we're notgoing out that way.
We're not, but we braved it andwe conquered that stage.
staircase.
It's just like a lot of littlevictories and little uplifts for
me this week.
We went out the basement door Icalled the agent.
I'm like, we like it, but we'renot coming back until you saw
(10:31):
those stairs off.
But just little things like thatthis week I did to perk me up.
And then I got really excitedabout my open house bingo and
giving out flower seeds andstickers.
And also have, oh, bless you, my
Hess (10:45):
Thank you.
Delbert (10:46):
My cousin Allison, who helps me a lot with Carole's
Kitchen we're doing a newwebsite and she called me and
said she might have a new schooland, if we do bring it on and
start helping them throughCarole's Kitchen with a food
program, she wants to do all thesteps with me and learn how I do
(11:07):
it.
So that just made me feel sogood.
And I was telling Hess before wegot on that my niece, Lizzie,
she is a senior in college andshe came home just to have a
family meeting about Carole'skitchen.
She wants to take over the helmwhen I'm retired or when I croak
or whatever.
And I have discovered this deepspiritual connection my niece
(11:32):
that I have with my aunt Katie.
And so these are all just thelittle things.
Hess (11:38):
So the way your aunt Katie, you're so close.
She mentored you and you're soclose to aunt Katie.
You're the aunt Katie you saidto your niece.
Delbert (11:48):
know.
And so Aunt Katie and I calleach other spiritual sisters.
And we mean that, I as time goeson, I noticed that I have this
same spiritual connection withmy own niece.
And yeah so that's wonderful.
Cherish my relationship with mybrother's sister.
They my brother and sister inlaw had them later in life and
(12:09):
my kids were out of the nest andI got to kind of practice being
a grandparent with them.
And just having all these greatadventures.
Jay said, now you were alwaysour first choices babysitter,
but.
The house was just trashed whenwe came home, like a, some kind
of frat party with sprinkles,like we were baking fairy
(12:30):
cupcakes out of my fairycookbook and, and then we'd get
done with that.
I'd say maybe we better cleanthe kitchen up this time.
And they'd say no, we're goingto do dance party too, and so
we'd go do that.
And then we'd all fall asleepdownstairs in the den.
And they would come home and I'dbe like, oh, shoot.
I didn't clean the kitchenagain, but they said you were
(12:52):
the messiest babysitter, but youwere the best.
So I just got to have this greatgift of, on being a grandparent.
With them, they were so littlewhen my kids were grown.
And I just have nurtured thatlike a beautiful flower in a
pot.
I've nurtured that.
That's
Hess (13:13):
to give back.
Yeah I want to share podstersthat when we were doing this
presentation last year toBerkeley village, my friend
Cynthia, that was helping me dothis.
She gave a presentation aboutwisdom.
What is it?
And if.
And it doesn't matter what ageyou are, you've got some, you've
(13:34):
got wisdom.
You don't have to be 67 yearsold to have wisdom, but it's
about already having someknowledge about life.
It's about knowing what thefacts are.
And then it's aboutunderstanding the the context.
So there's an understanding.
There's also awareness of whatour values and priorities are.
(13:55):
And then the ability torecognize and manage
uncertainty.
Because that, as we've seen over67 years, there's always
uncertainty, but what we canfeel secure about goes back to
what we talked about a few weeksago, that spire that we, I do
have, and that's an acronym S PI R E that I do have a strong
(14:19):
spiritual basis of.
Of how I feel about what life isand where I am in the context of
the galaxies in the a hundredbillion universes.
There's that's the S the mostspiritual side that we're all
connected.
The P my physical self, how,even though I'm 67, I take good
vitamins and exercise and doburn bootcamp and play
(14:41):
pickleball and try to take careof myself physically,
intellectually.
Being a curious learner always,what else do I have to learn
here is so rejuvenating to havethat intellect.
And then the R is relationships.
What have I done to make myrelationships good?
The people around me, my family,my chosen family, my my loved
(15:06):
ones, my relatives, the peoplethat I walk past on the
sidewalk, those relationships,the people that I work with.
And then E.
Emotions being able to feel andacknowledge whatever emotion I'm
feeling and be able to act fromthere.
Spire helps me in theuncertainty of life and it also
can make me help spread whateverwisdom I might have or talk to
(15:30):
people or we we don't know whatwe don't know, so what I know I
like to share because somebodyelse might not know it.
Sigh.
Delbert (15:41):
beautiful.
And we talked about SPIRE lasttime and I was like, boy that's
a really important acronym and Ithink we should revisit it, and
so glad that you did has,because all those ways that we
take care of ourself.
(16:02):
So important to having a good,healthy, happy life being fully
alive wherever we are,
Hess (16:12):
Help you to be brave and have the courage to do things
that you've never done before
Delbert (16:16):
right?
Hess (16:17):
I'm going to do this.
Even if it's something little,you're not climbing a mountain.
You're not climbing MountEverest with this new thing
you're going to do at your openhouse today, but you're doing
something different.
You're changing it up.
Delbert (16:28):
Yeah.
Even, yeah.
You're not climbing MountEverest.
Maybe you're just going outsideand braving the cold.
you're just taking an old broomto your car.
If it's still there.
Frozen down deep in the tundra,whatever it is get out there it
a great day and live your lifeTo its fullest.
Hess (16:50):
People are watching you, and maybe you'll be an
inspiration to somebody.
Delbert (16:54):
You don't even know it when you're messing
Hess (16:56):
I don't know.
Delbert (16:57):
kitchen up if somebody's watching I'll tell
you saw him at my oldestdaughter saw how much fun I was
having with Jay's kids and Shebought me that fairy cookbook
And I still have it in mykitchen.
And then when my grandkids werelittle, then I had all that
practice and I'd say, now, whatLizzie and Addie and I would
(17:21):
cook together, you know?
And they let, oh, it was alwaysa big mess, but they loved it
and I still have that.
So just little bitty things.
You could bake a cupcake today.
You could go ahead and plant aceiling, seedling in an egg
carton Get you a little eggcarton, do get you some little
seeds to plant, get ready, putthem in a window.
Hess (17:43):
Yeah, now is the time I think you're supposed to be
thinking about planting yourlittle tomato plants that you're
going to put out in the gardenif you grow your owN.
Yeah, so it might not be abeautiful blue sky right where
you are.
But just you might be able tocatch part of our blue sky.
We're looking at right now.
Delbert (17:59):
We're sending you blue sky vibes out there.
Hess (18:05):
Yeah, so yeah, just being in our the last quarter of our
life, Delbert, if we're like onthe 60 yard line, how do I want
the next 40 yards to be, or fromthe 70 yard line?
I guess I'm on the, I'll say 60yard line.
How do I want the rest of thelast quarter to be?
Delbert (18:23):
more yards for heaven's sakes.
Yes.
Hess (18:26):
yeah, I mean there's 10 yards until you reach the
goalpost after you cross thegoal line, but yeah What do I
want to do?
Don't stop.
Where can I see the Sun?
Where can I make this Sun?
Delbert (18:42):
You know what Einstein said?
Hess (18:44):
What do you say?
Delbert (18:46):
Your imagination is a preview of life's coming
attractions.
Imagine where you want to go.
Imagine what you want to do.
Manifest it, vibrate it intobeing.
Hess (19:03):
Yeah.
Something that always excitesme, Delbert, is hearing somebody
talk about something thatthey're love, that they love and
they're crazy about.
And I can get as much feeling ofsatisfaction as if I was doing
that myself.
Like I could listen to somebodytalk about bowling and what
their strategy is and how theygot good at it.
I could just totally dive intothat and feel it myself in my
(19:28):
body.
Yeah.
Totally.
Delbert (19:29):
You are a very good listener.
That is true.
And you do get excited for otherpeople.
is the gift.
That is a gift.
Hess (19:37):
I think everybody could do that too.
I don't see that it's anythingspecial.
I have that.
I do.
Delbert (19:43):
No, I think that is a gift really.
Cause some people don't listenand some people can get envious
even of just the littlest thing.
You just never know people canthrow rocks at shiny things.
And if you're getting all shinedup about it, not everyone, but.
(20:05):
Some people can.
So I do think it's a gift to bea good listener and to be
excited for everybody.
Because guess what?
That doesn't take away yoursparkle.
It doesn't take away your shine.
It just makes the more youshine.
It's like I told you about mymeditation.
When I include everybody in thewhole wide world doesn't take
(20:25):
anything away from my family.
When
Hess (20:28):
Right.
Delbert (20:29):
praying that big gold light around them, includes, it
makes it bigger and brighter.
Hess (20:36):
Yeah, I really appreciate that.
You send it on up here, 60 mileseast
Delbert (20:40):
Yeah, it's not hard.
It's not even hard.
I just, I it east and then Isend it and south and then it
just expands all over.
and it doesn't take long becauseI think we need to be whatever
you believe.
We need to be spirituallyunited.
(21:01):
In this world right now,
Hess (21:04):
Delbert.
Let me say this about that.
And that's the name of ourpodcast.
That's what our cousin Deweysaid.
Let me tell you this about that.
So when you spread that, thatlight and that, that gold light
and that protective force.
around your family, then alittle bit broader, then around
me here in Lexington.
And then it goes on further toyour relatives in Hilton Head
(21:25):
and so forth, and then to thewhole world.
It's going around you also.
You're feeling it.
You're in it.
Delbert, you are in it.
You're in that vortex of itright there in the center.
So you're giving it to yourself.
That's what I'm saying.
Delbert (21:41):
Exactly.
You said it better than I saidit.
When you give off good to otherpeople, it doesn't take anything
away from you.
It makes you stronger.
Just remember that you're inthat vortex of light, love and
protection that you're sendingout into the world, right?
Hess (22:00):
And like your niece that wants to take over Carole's
kitchen.
She's a senior in college You'regiving off that light to her and
she's gravitating.
And she says, I can catch thebaton.
When you get tired I'll be hereand this is important to me too.
It's catching.
It's catching.
Delbert (22:18):
And sometimes I didn't see that going on.
I didn't see that.
knew we were always very closebecause of the, all the
adventures and babysitting wehad.
But didn't see that budding andblooming and that's so
beautiful.
And it's something that gave memy bounce back this week.
If you want to say, I winter,over it.
(22:40):
I don't care how
Hess (22:41):
Right.
Delbert (22:42):
I'm not participating any longer.
That's it.
We're over, and it did help meget a bounce back like that
dance concert and working andbringing things together and
then getting excited about mybingo, open house bingo you're
excited about your dinner andall the knowledge that you're
going to share.
How lucky are those?
(23:04):
Students that work in the barnthat you share all this
knowledge with them.
I love that.
Hess (23:11):
They're receptive to it, so be receptive to it.
Open yourself up to it.
As I'm looking outside Delbert,I just thought if I told
somebody, gosh, look how thegrass is turning green, then
maybe that's the way thatthey'll see it.
Delbert (23:24):
Yes,
Hess (23:26):
Possibly good.
Delbert (23:27):
We just shared our blue sky with everybody.
So we'll suggest that we're alsosharing the green grass.
Yes
Hess (23:36):
we are 30 days away from spring.
Delbert (23:39):
we're not far.
We're not far.
is the 20th of April.
It's late this year, but hang inthere, baby.
Spring is a coming.
It's all gonna happen.
Hess (23:51):
Amen.
Delbert (23:52):
quote.
It's like a two quote Sunday.
Hess (23:56):
Okay.
The first quote was AlbertEinstein.
And he said, let yourimagination be the what was
that?
Delbert (24:04):
is a preview of life's coming attractions.
So it's like being at themovies, you're seeing what's
coming.
And if you imagine it, manifestit.
Hess (24:15):
All right.
The second quote is.
Delbert (24:17):
From Jack Canfield, and it says, Everything you want is
out there waiting for you toask.
You want also wants you.
But you have to take action toget it.
Hess (24:35):
Nice.
Thanks Jack Canfield.
Thanks Delbert.
Delbert (24:39):
Thanks Einstein.
Hess (24:40):
you, Podsters
Delbert (24:41):
thanks Hess.
Get out there and share yourknowledge and enjoy this
beautiful day.
Hess (24:49):
Amen on that.
Be sure to like, subscribe, andto share this with somebody.
This is our Sunday MorningConversations, and it helps us.
We thought it might help you,too.
Peace and love!
Delbert (25:02):
Peace and love.
We love you friends.
This is Hess with Let Me Tell You This About That.
Delbert (00:04):
morning.
This is Delbert.
Again, live from the green couchlooking out my window.
it is a beautiful day inKentucky, right?
Hess (00:16):
I've got blue skies here, Delbert.
I'm 60 miles east of Louisville.
Delbert's on the green couch inSt.
Matthews in Louisville,Kentucky.
And I'm in Lexington, Kentuckyon a 92 acre farm and that is
about 60 miles.
East of Delbert, and I've gotblue skies also,
Delbert (00:35):
And it's a beautiful drive to the farm.
never far away.
Hess (00:40):
I'm looking at remember you all last week.
I talked about seeing mud andthen I said the grass has got a
green hue to it.
And then it was so amazing byjust pointing that out to my
brain.
That's all I saw was the greenhue in the grass.
And yes, there is green hue inthe grass, even more today.
(01:02):
There's some patches of snowbecause we got some snow this
past week here.
But I'm seeing some green hues.
It stuck with me, Delbert.
It stuck with me.
Delbert (01:12):
good.
I was going to say it's stillsnowed at the beginning of this
week and it's icy, but todayit's going to be in the mid to
upper forties.
The sun's out.
I I was telling Hess, I shookthe ice off.
I was like, it doesn't matter.
And my car did the same thing.
My car looks like that emoji,the little frozen face emoji.
(01:34):
And I could not get all the iceoff the front.
It looked like it had a, like alittle beard of ice and snow.
And I couldn't get it off.
And finally the other day when Iwas driving, it just broke off,
like there we go.
We've shake it, literally andfiguratively, I shook off all
the ice and I'm just in thisplace where I'm gonna do my open
house today and give out seedsto people as a little takeaway.
(02:00):
seeds.
I'm ready for spring.
I'm not letting anything hold medown.
Hess (02:06):
Yeah, and something else different that you were doing
besides giving out seeds at theopen house?
What did you say?
Delbert (02:11):
Oh, yeah, I'm just shaking it up.
I was trying to think of newideas and I had a meeting with
our marketing team and I waslike, I just want to do
something different, just have alittle experience to get people
out of the winter, and I'm likeI'm Catholic.
Why don't I do a bingo card withall the great things in the
house?
(02:32):
And I've got stickers for peopleto put on as they find things
and, see things.
Doing the same thing that youand I were talking about with
our color walk and of noticingcolors.
And as people go through theopen house today they're going
to play bingo.
So I think that'll be fun.
Hess (02:49):
Cool.
Cool.
Y'all, as Podsters, I'm, we haveknown each other for 60 years.
And I, Delbert just turned 67.
No?
67?
Delbert (03:04):
Yeah.
Hess (03:05):
67.
Yeah, I'll be 67.
You're 67 a couple months, a fewmonths before me.
My birthday is in April andwe're about to turn 67.
And when we met with our group,excuse me, when we met with our
group a year ago, January, partof it was like we're going into
our later stages of life.
What are we going to do with ourlife?
(03:26):
That was the theme.
What are we going to do with ourlives to contribute to see how
We can give back or what else dowe want to do with our lives?
That was what the theme was forour Barkley village retreat that
we had with our little group.
And I'm just been, I've justbeen contemplating that because
(03:48):
I was just away with a group offriends down on Blas is so
beautiful, big wide beach.
You could have your dog on thebeach.
Tyler loved it.
My soul dog.
It was just fun being around thethis.
These other ladies who are alsoin this part of life that I'm in
(04:09):
of what we want to do and how wewant to do it different.
And, and it's so fun to seepeople being brave about what
they can do To be, to dodifferent.
Delbert, you were saying you,you would never want to go or be
anywhere else.
You got the Darling Society thatlives there by you, and you
still contribute big time as agrandmother, picking up and
(04:32):
driving carpool, and you're nottoo far away from your other
daughter that's in Nashville.
So you'd never pick up and move.
You've got your work there.
You've got your,
Delbert (04:43):
yeah, Carole's kitchen is here.
The service I do through that.
And no, I, and I think people,in this stage of your life,
especially abilities.
And resources are all different,right?
I think it's important to thisis where I am.
(05:04):
This is what I can do focus onwhat you can do.
I can't move anywhere.
But so much that I can do here.
Hess (05:16):
Yeah and looking at it in a new and different way.
That's one thing I like abouttravel.
When I come back, it makes me atourist in my own space.
What all is there to do or see?
What, is there a trail aroundhere that I could go hike?
And I found one, 30 minutesaway, and it was a beautiful
little trail.
I felt like I was in the middleof the wilderness.
It, it brings a new perspectiveto my home place.
(05:38):
And I do have a home place.
I've 92 acres and I've got thislife a lifestyle here on the
farm.
I have my licensed clinicalsocial work practice in my
office here in the back of thehouse, people drive here too.
And we, we have this place withthese beautiful people that work
here that, that keep their horsehere.
(05:59):
And it's I could never pick thisup and move this anywhere else.
Delbert (06:05):
right, but you are so lucky because at this phase in
your life, you've got, peoplethat help you at the barn.
have great barn staff, likewe've talked about, and you have
the ability to get up and gosometimes when you've got
everything covered.
(06:25):
Which Lovely.
Hess (06:27):
true.
Delbert (06:28):
I
Hess (06:28):
And
Delbert (06:29):
you.
Hess (06:29):
you were talking about I'll tell you tonight what's
going on for me today is I gottrained in the Brene Brown work
and I, that's what I presentedlast year to you all Delbert at
the Barkley village.
We started doing this for theuniversity students here at the
farm.
And so we do it once a month andtonight we're feeding them a
(06:52):
meal and I'm presenting someBrene Brown work that can just
give them information to helpthem in their lives.
And those are the little seeds,the little wildflower seeds, I
guess I can give out today.
Like you're giving out at youropen house.
And that's just beautiful how,whatever I know I can spread it.
Delbert (07:12):
Exactly.
Exactly.
Little seeds of wisdom andlittle, hopeful, whatever it is,
whether it's a, plantingsomething physically in the
ground or planting it in yourmind.
It's still so beautiful andhopeful, and that's what I love.
Springtime.
I love summer.
They're my favorites.
(07:33):
I'm thinking about, we'regetting close to Lent and then
that anticipation during Lentabout, When Easter comes, when
springtime comes, gives ussomething to look forward to
springtime and the beautiful newlife that comes.
And it just invigorates your,for me, it invigorates my mind
(07:55):
and my spirit just for things tostart blooming and the days to
get warmer.
Hess (08:00):
And we used, we got it, we got more ice and snow this week
here in Kentucky.
I didn't experience that downthere at the Cape San Blas.
But you were able to fortify andto what helped you during the
cold snap again this week,Delbert?
Yeah.
Delbert (08:23):
decided that I was over it.
Like, I'm no longer a bear inthis cave.
I'm coming out.
I don't care.
And so I just started by justtaking a walk in the cold air.
I was like, I am not afraid ofyou cold air.
And then and then I just,naturally things start to
change.
I got busier at work worked outa couple closings, sold a house
(08:45):
this week, and I got to go to adance concert, one of my darling
schools, and that was veryuplifting.
And I love dance, and it wasthis beautiful, it had every
style of dance in it.
It was just beautiful.
I can't tell you how it liftedmy soul up.
But The other thing is I did notlet it stop me from showing
(09:08):
houses and this one littleclient of mine.
And we're always going to laughabout this for the rest of our
lives.
We went to most of the snow andice is melted.
Just like my little car's beardthat I couldn't crack off.
It's gone.
But this house that client and Iwent to look at is face in the
(09:28):
woods.
And and the people it's vacant.
So the people never did shoveltheir walk or their steps.
And it was really up this hugeincline and it looked like it
was just covered with snow, butI said, she was pregnant and has
a four year old.
I said, let's just hold on.
It looks like it's just snow,but if it's too icy, let's not
(09:49):
let go, let's just prepare, sowe get to the top, this front
porch landing is like an iceskating rink.
And if somebody had filmed us,we were like a comedy routine.
I was holding on to the door andthen I grabbed the little four
year old's arm and brought herinside and then my sweet little
(10:10):
client, she's holding on to allthe rails and I'm holding on to
her and we're like, we're notgoing out that way.
We're not, but we braved it andwe conquered that stage.
staircase.
It's just like a lot of littlevictories and little uplifts for
me this week.
We went out the basement door Icalled the agent.
I'm like, we like it, but we'renot coming back until you saw
(10:31):
those stairs off.
But just little things like thatthis week I did to perk me up.
And then I got really excitedabout my open house bingo and
giving out flower seeds andstickers.
And also have, oh, bless you, my
Hess (10:45):
Thank you.
Delbert (10:46):
My cousin Allison, who helps me a lot with Carole's
Kitchen we're doing a newwebsite and she called me and
said she might have a new schooland, if we do bring it on and
start helping them throughCarole's Kitchen with a food
program, she wants to do all thesteps with me and learn how I do
(11:07):
it.
So that just made me feel sogood.
And I was telling Hess before wegot on that my niece, Lizzie,
she is a senior in college andshe came home just to have a
family meeting about Carole'skitchen.
She wants to take over the helmwhen I'm retired or when I croak
or whatever.
And I have discovered this deepspiritual connection my niece
(11:32):
that I have with my aunt Katie.
And so these are all just thelittle things.
Hess (11:38):
So the way your aunt Katie, you're so close.
She mentored you and you're soclose to aunt Katie.
You're the aunt Katie you saidto your niece.
Delbert (11:48):
know.
And so Aunt Katie and I calleach other spiritual sisters.
And we mean that, I as time goeson, I noticed that I have this
same spiritual connection withmy own niece.
And yeah so that's wonderful.
Cherish my relationship with mybrother's sister.
They my brother and sister inlaw had them later in life and
(12:09):
my kids were out of the nest andI got to kind of practice being
a grandparent with them.
And just having all these greatadventures.
Jay said, now you were alwaysour first choices babysitter,
but.
The house was just trashed whenwe came home, like a, some kind
of frat party with sprinkles,like we were baking fairy
(12:30):
cupcakes out of my fairycookbook and, and then we'd get
done with that.
I'd say maybe we better cleanthe kitchen up this time.
And they'd say no, we're goingto do dance party too, and so
we'd go do that.
And then we'd all fall asleepdownstairs in the den.
And they would come home and I'dbe like, oh, shoot.
I didn't clean the kitchenagain, but they said you were
(12:52):
the messiest babysitter, but youwere the best.
So I just got to have this greatgift of, on being a grandparent.
With them, they were so littlewhen my kids were grown.
And I just have nurtured thatlike a beautiful flower in a
pot.
I've nurtured that.
That's
Hess (13:13):
to give back.
Yeah I want to share podstersthat when we were doing this
presentation last year toBerkeley village, my friend
Cynthia, that was helping me dothis.
She gave a presentation aboutwisdom.
What is it?
And if.
And it doesn't matter what ageyou are, you've got some, you've
(13:34):
got wisdom.
You don't have to be 67 yearsold to have wisdom, but it's
about already having someknowledge about life.
It's about knowing what thefacts are.
And then it's aboutunderstanding the the context.
So there's an understanding.
There's also awareness of whatour values and priorities are.
(13:55):
And then the ability torecognize and manage
uncertainty.
Because that, as we've seen over67 years, there's always
uncertainty, but what we canfeel secure about goes back to
what we talked about a few weeksago, that spire that we, I do
have, and that's an acronym S PI R E that I do have a strong
(14:19):
spiritual basis of.
Of how I feel about what life isand where I am in the context of
the galaxies in the a hundredbillion universes.
There's that's the S the mostspiritual side that we're all
connected.
The P my physical self, how,even though I'm 67, I take good
vitamins and exercise and doburn bootcamp and play
(14:41):
pickleball and try to take careof myself physically,
intellectually.
Being a curious learner always,what else do I have to learn
here is so rejuvenating to havethat intellect.
And then the R is relationships.
What have I done to make myrelationships good?
The people around me, my family,my chosen family, my my loved
(15:06):
ones, my relatives, the peoplethat I walk past on the
sidewalk, those relationships,the people that I work with.
And then E.
Emotions being able to feel andacknowledge whatever emotion I'm
feeling and be able to act fromthere.
Spire helps me in theuncertainty of life and it also
can make me help spread whateverwisdom I might have or talk to
(15:30):
people or we we don't know whatwe don't know, so what I know I
like to share because somebodyelse might not know it.
Sigh.
Delbert (15:41):
beautiful.
And we talked about SPIRE lasttime and I was like, boy that's
a really important acronym and Ithink we should revisit it, and
so glad that you did has,because all those ways that we
take care of ourself.
(16:02):
So important to having a good,healthy, happy life being fully
alive wherever we are,
Hess (16:12):
Help you to be brave and have the courage to do things
that you've never done before
Delbert (16:16):
right?
Hess (16:17):
I'm going to do this.
Even if it's something little,you're not climbing a mountain.
You're not climbing MountEverest with this new thing
you're going to do at your openhouse today, but you're doing
something different.
You're changing it up.
Delbert (16:28):
Yeah.
Even, yeah.
You're not climbing MountEverest.
Maybe you're just going outsideand braving the cold.
you're just taking an old broomto your car.
If it's still there.
Frozen down deep in the tundra,whatever it is get out there it
a great day and live your lifeTo its fullest.
Hess (16:50):
People are watching you, and maybe you'll be an
inspiration to somebody.
Delbert (16:54):
You don't even know it when you're messing
Hess (16:56):
I don't know.
Delbert (16:57):
kitchen up if somebody's watching I'll tell
you saw him at my oldestdaughter saw how much fun I was
having with Jay's kids and Shebought me that fairy cookbook
And I still have it in mykitchen.
And then when my grandkids werelittle, then I had all that
practice and I'd say, now, whatLizzie and Addie and I would
(17:21):
cook together, you know?
And they let, oh, it was alwaysa big mess, but they loved it
and I still have that.
So just little bitty things.
You could bake a cupcake today.
You could go ahead and plant aceiling, seedling in an egg
carton Get you a little eggcarton, do get you some little
seeds to plant, get ready, putthem in a window.
Hess (17:43):
Yeah, now is the time I think you're supposed to be
thinking about planting yourlittle tomato plants that you're
going to put out in the gardenif you grow your owN.
Yeah, so it might not be abeautiful blue sky right where
you are.
But just you might be able tocatch part of our blue sky.
We're looking at right now.
Delbert (17:59):
We're sending you blue sky vibes out there.
Hess (18:05):
Yeah, so yeah, just being in our the last quarter of our
life, Delbert, if we're like onthe 60 yard line, how do I want
the next 40 yards to be, or fromthe 70 yard line?
I guess I'm on the, I'll say 60yard line.
How do I want the rest of thelast quarter to be?
Delbert (18:23):
more yards for heaven's sakes.
Yes.
Hess (18:26):
yeah, I mean there's 10 yards until you reach the
goalpost after you cross thegoal line, but yeah What do I
want to do?
Don't stop.
Where can I see the Sun?
Where can I make this Sun?
Delbert (18:42):
You know what Einstein said?
Hess (18:44):
What do you say?
Delbert (18:46):
Your imagination is a preview of life's coming
attractions.
Imagine where you want to go.
Imagine what you want to do.
Manifest it, vibrate it intobeing.
Hess (19:03):
Yeah.
Something that always excitesme, Delbert, is hearing somebody
talk about something thatthey're love, that they love and
they're crazy about.
And I can get as much feeling ofsatisfaction as if I was doing
that myself.
Like I could listen to somebodytalk about bowling and what
their strategy is and how theygot good at it.
I could just totally dive intothat and feel it myself in my
(19:28):
body.
Yeah.
Totally.
Delbert (19:29):
You are a very good listener.
That is true.
And you do get excited for otherpeople.
is the gift.
That is a gift.
Hess (19:37):
I think everybody could do that too.
I don't see that it's anythingspecial.
I have that.
I do.
Delbert (19:43):
No, I think that is a gift really.
Cause some people don't listenand some people can get envious
even of just the littlest thing.
You just never know people canthrow rocks at shiny things.
And if you're getting all shinedup about it, not everyone, but.
(20:05):
Some people can.
So I do think it's a gift to bea good listener and to be
excited for everybody.
Because guess what?
That doesn't take away yoursparkle.
It doesn't take away your shine.
It just makes the more youshine.
It's like I told you about mymeditation.
When I include everybody in thewhole wide world doesn't take
(20:25):
anything away from my family.
When
Hess (20:28):
Right.
Delbert (20:29):
praying that big gold light around them, includes, it
makes it bigger and brighter.
Hess (20:36):
Yeah, I really appreciate that.
You send it on up here, 60 mileseast
Delbert (20:40):
Yeah, it's not hard.
It's not even hard.
I just, I it east and then Isend it and south and then it
just expands all over.
and it doesn't take long becauseI think we need to be whatever
you believe.
We need to be spirituallyunited.
(21:01):
In this world right now,
Hess (21:04):
Delbert.
Let me say this about that.
And that's the name of ourpodcast.
That's what our cousin Deweysaid.
Let me tell you this about that.
So when you spread that, thatlight and that, that gold light
and that protective force.
around your family, then alittle bit broader, then around
me here in Lexington.
And then it goes on further toyour relatives in Hilton Head
(21:25):
and so forth, and then to thewhole world.
It's going around you also.
You're feeling it.
You're in it.
Delbert, you are in it.
You're in that vortex of itright there in the center.
So you're giving it to yourself.
That's what I'm saying.
Delbert (21:41):
Exactly.
You said it better than I saidit.
When you give off good to otherpeople, it doesn't take anything
away from you.
It makes you stronger.
Just remember that you're inthat vortex of light, love and
protection that you're sendingout into the world, right?
Hess (22:00):
And like your niece that wants to take over Carole's
kitchen.
She's a senior in college You'regiving off that light to her and
she's gravitating.
And she says, I can catch thebaton.
When you get tired I'll be hereand this is important to me too.
It's catching.
It's catching.
Delbert (22:18):
And sometimes I didn't see that going on.
I didn't see that.
knew we were always very closebecause of the, all the
adventures and babysitting wehad.
But didn't see that budding andblooming and that's so
beautiful.
And it's something that gave memy bounce back this week.
If you want to say, I winter,over it.
(22:40):
I don't care how
Hess (22:41):
Right.
Delbert (22:42):
I'm not participating any longer.
That's it.
We're over, and it did help meget a bounce back like that
dance concert and working andbringing things together and
then getting excited about mybingo, open house bingo you're
excited about your dinner andall the knowledge that you're
going to share.
How lucky are those?
(23:04):
Students that work in the barnthat you share all this
knowledge with them.
I love that.
Hess (23:11):
They're receptive to it, so be receptive to it.
Open yourself up to it.
As I'm looking outside Delbert,I just thought if I told
somebody, gosh, look how thegrass is turning green, then
maybe that's the way thatthey'll see it.
Delbert (23:24):
Yes,
Hess (23:26):
Possibly good.
Delbert (23:27):
We just shared our blue sky with everybody.
So we'll suggest that we're alsosharing the green grass.
Yes
Hess (23:36):
we are 30 days away from spring.
Delbert (23:39):
we're not far.
We're not far.
is the 20th of April.
It's late this year, but hang inthere, baby.
Spring is a coming.
It's all gonna happen.
Hess (23:51):
Amen.
Delbert (23:52):
quote.
It's like a two quote Sunday.
Hess (23:56):
Okay.
The first quote was AlbertEinstein.
And he said, let yourimagination be the what was
that?
Delbert (24:04):
is a preview of life's coming attractions.
So it's like being at themovies, you're seeing what's
coming.
And if you imagine it, manifestit.
Hess (24:15):
All right.
The second quote is.
Delbert (24:17):
From Jack Canfield, and it says, Everything you want is
out there waiting for you toask.
You want also wants you.
But you have to take action toget it.
Hess (24:35):
Nice.
Thanks Jack Canfield.
Thanks Delbert.
Delbert (24:39):
Thanks Einstein.
Hess (24:40):
you, Podsters
Delbert (24:41):
thanks Hess.
Get out there and share yourknowledge and enjoy this
beautiful day.
Hess (24:49):
Amen on that.
Be sure to like, subscribe, andto share this with somebody.
This is our Sunday MorningConversations, and it helps us.
We thought it might help you,too.
Peace and love!
Delbert (25:02):
Peace and love.
We love you friends.
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