Let's Be Real - Mama Journeys - Episode 145 W/Jason Gibler

Jason Gibler is a psychotherapist who works with moms, dads and getting people to tap into a deeper healing. He works often with perinatal families, including before, during and after having kids. Even dads get Postpartum depression and many people don’t know that. Depression and anxiety are linked and many times that affects dads because we have more conscious fathering. The old paradigm of success vs. failure also is pulling at them. The paradigm is that dads aren’t always “good” at being a dad and that causes a deep anxiety and over time, that morphs into depression because they feel alone. There are many different modalities to help couples and many people don’t know how to communicate properly. Historically men have been taught how to distance themselves from their own feelings. If you aren’t in tune with your own emotional reality, you can’t be in tune with someone else's emotional reality. Men have been taught to be disconnected with their feelings and emotions. A crying baby brings out feelings of failure and they need to stop and recognize their own emotions, be honest and be authentic. To get a dad into therapy, ask them why therapy feels “bad” and where did you learn that seeking help makes you weak?  Call it “coaching” instead of therapy.  Vulnerability is strength because it takes strength to admit you need help. As a partner/wife, giving that positive praise is essential to giving dads that ego boost. The Way of the Jaguar is a novel Jason is writing based around the science of human bonding, the book will be out later this summer. You can find it on Amazon Kindle.  You can also find a free download for dads on his websites at aiyanacounseling.com or Jasongibler.com