May 4, 2024 • 23 mins
Get ready to chuckle and learn as Stephanie and I, Shiloh, tackle the zesty subject of fellatio with the zest our listeners love and expect. This isn't your average sex talk; we're taking the giggles and the taboo head-on with a laugh-out-loud journey through history, cultural nuances, and yes, the fine art of oral pleasure. Our quirky anatomical assistant from Key West—a most educational penis-shaped bottle opener—joins us to demystify male anatomy, while we debunk myths and encourage a shame-free exploration of sexuality. Whether you're curious about size, seeking to understand your partner better, or simply in for a good story, we've got the insights that promise to be as enlightening as they are entertaining.
Ever wonder how adult films and media have shaped our sexual expectations? We're peeling back the curtain to reveal the reality behind those scripted scenes and airbrushed images, discussing why real intimacy is far more fulfilling than any performance. I'll even share a resource that's a game-changer for those looking to up their intimacy game: "Jack's Blowjob Lessons." We're here to normalize conversations on foreplay, cleanliness, and the inclusive joy of pleasure. By the end of our chat, you'll be equipped with the knowledge to enhance your own intimate experiences, whether you're single, dating, or deep in the trenches of a long-term relationship. So, brace yourself for a no-holds-barred discussion that's as informative as it is cheeky.
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Speaker 2 (00:00):
two so give me one minute.
I gotta go there and go live.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
I need some mom, uh-oh, hold on.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
So sorry if that's okay, okay, cool, yay, hello and
welcome back with sex Talk withStephanie and Shiloh.
We're here today with F4Felicio.
I love it, felicio, and youknow, let's just.
I'm going to start to kind ofmake everyone a little
(00:36):
comfortable with a joke from theLaugh Factory and this is from
Tatuajee13, because I'd like togive credit to whoever did it
right.
A mother is in the kitchenmaking dinner for her family
when her daughter walks inMother, where do babies come
from?
The mother thinks for a fewseconds and says well, dear
(00:57):
mommy and daddy fall in love andget married.
One night they go into theirbedroom, they kiss and hug and
have sex.
The daughter looks puzzledled.
So the mother continues thatmeans that daddy puts his penis
in mommy's vagina.
The child seems to comprehendoh, I see, but the other night,
(01:19):
when I came into your room, youhad daddy's penis in your mouth.
What do you get when you dothat?
Jewelry, my dear jewelry.
I love that and I think that'skind of archaic jewelry.
But okay, we'll stick.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Well, you know, I mean, they do say anniversaries,
birthdays, christmas, diamondsI.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
I don't know why we just do it on certain occasions,
but okay I mean, you know, Ifeel like, there are those
people that definitely do it onspecial occasions, so let's
break that I.
Okay.
So let's have a conversationabout that, because let's just
break it down what is fellatio?
Just so that people don't know.
Don't mix it with it's fellatio, but that's not because it's
(02:07):
female, it's.
This is the male's penis.
Okay, so fellatio is a form oforal sex that involves the use
of the mouth, lips and sometimesthe throat to stimulate the
penis.
It is a sexual practice thatcan be traced back to ancient
times, with references to itfound in curious cultures and
historic texts, and I wasexplaining to Shiloh earlier
(02:31):
that I had found some recentresearch that, while it goes
back so far in the United States, we only have been talking
talking not uncomfortably, youcould tell since the 1940ss, and
so it's 80 years we've beentalking about this topic and
we're still not that far alongin the united states.
(02:54):
I mean.
So here's the thing.
Do we really need to go another80 not talking about this stuff
?
You know what I mean.
Seriously, come on.
No, not at all.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
We need to get rid of the shame.
That's what we're here for.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
We're getting rid of the shame we're sex-educating
you.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Yes, I was trying to Sexucation.
How about sexucation?
I like that.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Sexucation.
That sounds fun.
Yeah, we're doing sexology,we're studying the sex.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Today we're talking about the penis.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
I love it this is our model today.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
by the way I have this one.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
So here's the penis.
He's from Key West, by the way.
He even has my name on it.
A little gift there.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
And it's a bottle opener.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Yes, and it's a bottle opener.
Yes, and it and it's a bottleopener.
So I mean, you know, we have alot of fun with the penis, don't
we?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
there's a lot of penis jokes just yeah, exactly
oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
So when we're talking about the penis, this is gonna
be your tip, this is gonna bethe shaft.
You do have some littletesticles down here.
You imagine the person thatgets to carve this.
There's a machine that does thisright, I don't know Somebody's
hand carving this and makingthis for all the vacationers
around the world, because youknow these are in different
(04:14):
places, like somebody is makingthese, just like there's people
that make the vibrators and aredoing you know, the cast and
then quality control.
Just saying somebody gets thatjob Anyhow, this one Somebody
doesn't have a right figure onthat one, but okay.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah, so this one I'm sure there's some small, you
know, balls but and you know, ohyeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
And just to keep in mind, they do come in all sizes
Shapes.
Acdc did have that song back inthe 80s.
You know, hung Got Big Balls ityeah.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So I don't, don't quote me.
I don't know, I'm really bad atthat stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Okay, I think it was.
I think it was, but if I'mwrong, please go ahead and put
it in there.
I mean, I just remember thesong I've got big balls, You've
got big balls, he's got thebiggest balls of them all.
You know anyway, this one doesnot.
So anyways, and also one otherthing that we're going to talk
about here today is going to bethe frenulum which not on this
(05:12):
anatomically not correct penis,although he is, whatever he's
kind, of penis come in allshapes and sizes.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
you know, don't worry about it they all look
different, so you know andthat's why women need to
understand that what might workfor one partner isn't going to
necessarily work for the other.
And I should not say just women.
Women, it's person.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah, you know what.
You are absolutely correct insaying that, because that is a
very, very valid point.
We all have a matchup andactually I found some videos.
I'll send them to you.
There's actually Dr Rachel Rossactually did a video on how to
tell what kind of how they're,how they are, how each sex so
(06:01):
one for guys, one for women buthow you can determine the size
of their penis and their vagina.
Really, yes, Very, veryinteresting.
I'll share it so we can sharethe link.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Okay, cool, great for you people that are dating.
You know you can kind of helpyou to like.
No like do I even want tobother, so but if you do want to
bother, fellatio is always fun,so let's talk about the myth
stuff and what do you got formyth that we can go out here.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Well, here's the thing.
I this, this.
I love to do some research ondifferent types of things.
So they say that only 45percent of women they don't like
to do oral sex at all.
So that's like that to me.
Yeah, that's pretty highpercentage.
I see a lot of people that saythat if you don't do oral sex,
that someone will leave you.
(06:54):
I don't believe that that's tobe true, but I have seen and
read that it is.
The second reason men willleave a relationship is if they
are not getting oral sex.
So that's a big deal to me.
I think, if you know what I'vebeen reading and the stuff that
(07:15):
I read about is I think thatmaybe women don't really
understand what the psychologybehind why men need that kind of
intimate connection, and so Idon't know.
I mean I don't understandeverything of it, but there is a
psychology behind it.
But women have the same.
(07:36):
So we need to understand eachother's and we need to take that
time to enjoy.
And one of the things that Iread and tell me I mean I'm
assuming that this is to be truethe guy knows if you're into it
.
He knows your attitude about it.
He knows if you're into it.
(07:58):
He knows if you're happy to doit, if it's a chore for you, he
knows.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
It goes the same way.
It's the same way backward.
It's the same as the other way.
You know, if your partner's notreally wanting to do that, you,
if they don't want to be there,if they're just like let me
just do it for a second, likeit's the same.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
yes, absolutely, I agree with that yes, exactly,
and so here's the thing I thinkthat creating good environments
together and what cleanlinesscleaning yeah, I was just about
to say the very first thing hasto be that manscaping, like
let's just say, gentlemen, youneed to manscape down there and
(08:39):
female and female I just heard astory absolutely yeah, I just
heard a guy text me or send me amessage and dm is like ah, how
do I tell my girlfriend of likefive years that her, you know,
women tend to take not as manyshowers every day because of our
hair and we dry out, so but westill need to take care of down
(09:00):
under.
So if everyone could justremember that you need to take
care of down under, becausereally that's the key.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Yeah you need to do some landscaping down there.
Take care of the property.
Yeah, you need to do somelandscaping down there, take
care of the property so they'llmake it accessible.
And let's just um, guys, sincewe're talking about the guys,
though, because we're nottalking about the women right
now, we really are focusing on,men you know just make sure that
you're landscaping and you knowtrimming the bushes makes the
tree look bigger and I don't.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
I got to go see, I got to see Joe Coy and here in
Rancho Mirage and he was talkingabout manscaping, especially
the butthole and the butt andthe hairy asshole that you guys
have, and sometimes you havehemorrhoids and you get all shit
, a lot of shit, going on downunder and Bob is Come on as we
get older, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
It's a big blade.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
yes, His little piece on the butt was awesome.
I just loved it because it'sjust so true.
It's like the minute you knowguys can lay down there and try
and look all sexy, but if youdidn't manscape good and it's
looking all ugly and stuff andnot very warm and cool down
there, like it's not going to beappetizing.
(10:15):
No, no, no, no, no, you got tomake it look inviting.
And I think, as we age too, youknow, let's just be clear, the
penis, everything, all skinstarts to hang.
Okay, so things are not goingto look the same, so it's okay.
You know it doesn't have tolook perfect.
Okay, so things are not goingto look the same, so it's okay.
You know it doesn't have tolook perfect, okay, it's not
(10:35):
going to look like that.
We got to just adjust andadjust to the fact that, you
know, do not use porn.
Let's just I got to say thisDon't use porn as an example of
how to give everything isPhotoshopped, like that's the
first important note.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Like they should put a disclaimer oh my gosh, she's
got a book y'all.
That should be a disclaimer onall porn.
You know this is photoshopped.
This is not.
This is not what people reallylook like.
I just want it's theatrics.
It's with the like with themedia.
It's you know.
It's basically, you know likean overall.
You know, when you think aboutthe media, like we need a
(11:11):
disclaimer, like this is notwhat people look like.
You know that this is not whatreal people look like.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
We are not photoshopped no, no, no, and.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
And here's the thing I'm not photoshopped, by the way
no, I don't do photoshop in anyof my photos.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That's why sometimes people go your photos don't look
good, I don't care, I don'tPhotoshop anything Anyway.
But what I do want to say isthat the whole thing is it's a
screenplay.
When they're doing porn, theyhave roles that they need to
capture.
The guy, the director, hasexactly the shots that he needs
(11:48):
to get for this particular movie.
So, bam straight, they're goingto make sure that they get
those specific spots and thosespecific positions and how
everything's going to be perfect.
Okay, that's the reason why youcannot use those as a
foundation, but this has beengoing around for 20 plus years.
Okay, I don't know if you'veever heard it Jack's Blowjob
(12:10):
Lessons.
This is an amazing video.
I've I've downloaded the bookbecause he goes into attitude.
He talks about intimacy in themail and the psychology around
it.
He talks about positions andhow to make it fun for both of
you and how you can.
(12:31):
You know he could basically bewalking can't even stand because
of his legs shaking so much,you know.
And then he talks a lot aboutforeplay.
And you know, to me, you know,we got to have places to send
people because we're not goingto sit here and just talk about
all these things ongoing.
You know they have to have aplace to go and do it in the
privacy of their own home andlisten and things like that.
(12:53):
So this is an amazing reference.
The other one, Shiloh.
I know that you do it when youdo your classes, you do blowjob
lessons and courses, when you doyour little pure romance, right
, no, we talk about it, but Idon't do lessons to speak.
Oh, you haven't oh, okay, soback in the day.
(13:15):
So back in the day, many, manyyears we're talking, you know,
back when I was beginning.
I mean, old school is coming tomind when um, what's his name?
Speaker 1 (13:25):
did the blowjob lesson for the ladies on the
bananas?
Remember that?
That in the movie of old schoolwith Will Ferrell yes, that was
awesome.
And they had the guy that camein and did the.
And who was it?
God, I can't think of his nameright now.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Oh, I don't remember.
I can't remember who did it.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
It was so, but he was perfect for it.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
It was it was awesome , but and here's the thing we
used to do courses, so maybeI'll get back into doing
something like that.
Maybe we could do it as anonline gig thing, but we used to
get everyone involved inlearning how to you know deep
through, Ask all those questionsand answer them right there for
them.
What do I do with my hands?
What do I, you know?
(14:06):
What do I do with his balls?
What do I do with his ass?
You know, because the fellatioincludes all those things down
there.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
It does.
I mean you're going to make useof your hands.
You're going to make use, youknow, it's not just your mouth,
you know, and it's, you knowit's your hands, and you know.
I mean, you know, think aboutit in terms of your own body.
I mean you know, so to speak,touched.
You don't like just, you don'twant his mouth right there.
You like a little incorporationof the hands, some fingers so
just in that sense, or whatever.
(14:34):
Please make sure thateverything is clean yeah, even
your hands and fingers.
Yeah, make sure that your handsand fingers are clean, because I
mean you're gonna, you cancreate a cradle the balls create
a what cradle, the cradle theballs, you gotta cradle them oh,
I think there's a lot of thingsyou can do with it.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You can do with a lot of things and men are very.
Yeah, and men are very.
You know they're balls.
They're very sensitive about it.
Yes, they are.
If you get to get down thereand start playing and licking
and enjoying all the teachingthem, all the different things
about fellatio is just not aboutthe penis, it's about the balls
, the butthole, all thatincluded right and it comes down
(15:14):
there worship it.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
You know what, just like.
Just like us, I mean they, youknow, even though men are pretty
basic in terms of everything,they still have.
They still have sensitive spotson their bodies.
They still have sensitive spotson their penis where they like,
you know, they, they, there arecertain things that they like,
just like.
There's certain things that youlike.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Yeah, and the cool thing about Jack he does talk
about the all the different.
He's a guy talking about how togive a blowjob to a guy.
To me it's the best way becausehe's a guy, he's knows.
And so ladies go out.
The link is in my bio.
I don't, it's no money, I'm notselling anything.
(15:58):
It's just a video you watch.
He tells you what you can do,he gives you ideas there and
then you can decide if you wantto buy his book and move on
forward to different levels ofintimacy with your partner at
doing fellatio, and to me it'sgot to get away from.
It's not a job.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Right, it is not I can't find it but my favorite
book about the penis, dr Sadie.
She does Tickle is Pickle andit's a super fun.
It's super fun.
She does a whole lot ofdifferent sexuality books and
Tickle is Pickle is one of them.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
And for some reason.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
I have it, but I don't know where it went to
because it disappeared.
I have her other ones.
She has a whole line of themand they're very fun
entertaining.
She's got a whole differentseries, so we can throw things
around Well the thing is is thatyou've got to educate yourself
too.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
So you got to go out, you got to learn.
That's why this is just like abeginning A to Z, giving you a
high level.
We're not going to bedemonstrating here, none of that
kind of stuff, but you coulddefinitely go to Jack's Blowjob.
He, you could definitely go toJack's blow job.
He's not going to bedemonstrating it either, but he
might learn some more visual keypoints.
(17:14):
That from a male's perspective,because I think women need to
hear that.
So yeah, and fellatio is anamazing add on to give your man,
maybe even first thing in themorning before he goes off to
work.
They love that kind of stuff,makes them be very constructive
(17:35):
during the day.
And you know it doesn't need tobe a 30-minute sesh, doesn't
need to be 40.
I mean, it can be any kind ofsesh you want.
So you make it what you want,it with your partner and what
you have time for for the day,instead of feeling it as a
hassle to be intimate with yourpartner, because that was what
(17:56):
you enjoyed before things gotstale or stagnant and the only
way to bring up the spark is tojust start reading and start
doing.
I mean Right.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
You want him to care about your pleasure, you need to
care about his pleasure as well.
It's a two-way street.
You know what I mean, really,truly.
You know you want an orgasm,but you also want your important
part in an orgasm.
You know it should be equally.
It needs to be equallyimportant on both sides, you
know.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Nice, yeah, exactly Well.
Nice, yeah, exactly well, thankyou, okay.
So, shiloh, next week let metalk to you about a few things.
Business stuff, raffle.
We have the raffle link.
The link is in my bio.
You can check the link there.
It takes you right to where thelaugh the raffle is.
We're doing the raffle till May12th, which is Mother's Day,
(18:45):
and then we will raffle it offon the 14th, which is our next
live.
On Tuesday, may 14th, we'llraffle off the person's name and
then we'll get it out intotheir little hands before the
end of May.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
And so I thought it would be a good way.
Can you tell us more about thisbasket?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
What's in there?
Yes, there's about fivedifferent products.
I did post a video on instagram, facebook, all over about all
the different products that arein it, but it does come with a
conch ring, comes with a buttplug, it comes with a vibrator
and, uh, we will throw in someuh lube and some toy cleaner,
(19:25):
because, of course, that alwayshas to go with that kind of
stuff.
So, yeah, so some stuff, funstuff for um our moms out there
for a beautiful mother's day,and this basket is being
dedicated from schizo kitty andwe're so grateful for them out
there.
Thank you for joining ustogether and merging and
bringing us a basket that we getto raffle to all of our mothers
(19:47):
out there.
So go ahead and check the linkand fill out the information and
we'll be on our way and we'lldo our little name wheel on the
14th of May.
And I want to thank all thosepeople who have joined us,
because I have seen that we'vehad some joins and we've seen
some little hearts and messages.
(20:08):
So I really appreciate all ofour followers, even on these
uncomfortable topics, and that'swhy it's not here to make you
uncomfortable, it's just reallyhere to just have that open,
honest conversation that we justnormally cannot do and make it
so it's not so taboo and it's OK.
If you don't like to givelittle jobs and if you feel it's
(20:29):
a job and a chore and all ofthese things, talk about it and
maybe let's see how we can makeit less of that.
Or maybe it's more of anintimate connection between you
and your partner, because guesswhat?
Next week we're talking for G,for G-Spot, so now your female
(20:51):
will do for you and now we'regoing to teach you to do for
your female.
Hit that G spot, because Lordknows.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
It does exist.
Oh, we're just going to.
We're going to do that.
We're going to bust that mythright now.
It does exist.
We're going to talk about it.
We're going to talk about whatit is, how to find it.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
And it's different on everyone.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
So I will talk about that next week though.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Yeah, exactly, so all right.
Well, thank you for joining uson today's live sex talk A to Z
with Shiloh and Steph, and wewelcome you back next week.
So don't forget to like, followand subscribe so that you can
get that live notification.
Thank you so much.
Thanks, shiloh, for joining me.
Have a great one, stephanie.
Okay, bye, straight.
two so give me one minute.
I gotta go there and go live.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
I need some mom, uh-oh, hold on.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
So sorry if that's okay, okay, cool, yay, hello and
welcome back with sex Talk withStephanie and Shiloh.
We're here today with F4Felicio.
I love it, felicio, and youknow, let's just.
I'm going to start to kind ofmake everyone a little
(00:36):
comfortable with a joke from theLaugh Factory and this is from
Tatuajee13, because I'd like togive credit to whoever did it
right.
A mother is in the kitchenmaking dinner for her family
when her daughter walks inMother, where do babies come
from?
The mother thinks for a fewseconds and says well, dear
(00:57):
mommy and daddy fall in love andget married.
One night they go into theirbedroom, they kiss and hug and
have sex.
The daughter looks puzzledled.
So the mother continues thatmeans that daddy puts his penis
in mommy's vagina.
The child seems to comprehendoh, I see, but the other night,
(01:19):
when I came into your room, youhad daddy's penis in your mouth.
What do you get when you dothat?
Jewelry, my dear jewelry.
I love that and I think that'skind of archaic jewelry.
But okay, we'll stick.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Well, you know, I mean, they do say anniversaries,
birthdays, christmas, diamondsI.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
I don't know why we just do it on certain occasions,
but okay I mean, you know, Ifeel like, there are those
people that definitely do it onspecial occasions, so let's
break that I.
Okay.
So let's have a conversationabout that, because let's just
break it down what is fellatio?
Just so that people don't know.
Don't mix it with it's fellatio, but that's not because it's
(02:07):
female, it's.
This is the male's penis.
Okay, so fellatio is a form oforal sex that involves the use
of the mouth, lips and sometimesthe throat to stimulate the
penis.
It is a sexual practice thatcan be traced back to ancient
times, with references to itfound in curious cultures and
historic texts, and I wasexplaining to Shiloh earlier
(02:31):
that I had found some recentresearch that, while it goes
back so far in the United States, we only have been talking
talking not uncomfortably, youcould tell since the 1940ss, and
so it's 80 years we've beentalking about this topic and
we're still not that far alongin the united states.
(02:54):
I mean.
So here's the thing.
Do we really need to go another80 not talking about this stuff
?
You know what I mean.
Seriously, come on.
No, not at all.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
We need to get rid of the shame.
That's what we're here for.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
We're getting rid of the shame we're sex-educating
you.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Yes, I was trying to Sexucation.
How about sexucation?
I like that.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Sexucation.
That sounds fun.
Yeah, we're doing sexology,we're studying the sex.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Today we're talking about the penis.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
I love it this is our model today.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
by the way I have this one.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
So here's the penis.
He's from Key West, by the way.
He even has my name on it.
A little gift there.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
And it's a bottle opener.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Yes, and it's a bottle opener.
Yes, and it and it's a bottleopener.
So I mean, you know, we have alot of fun with the penis, don't
we?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
there's a lot of penis jokes just yeah, exactly
oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
So when we're talking about the penis, this is gonna
be your tip, this is gonna bethe shaft.
You do have some littletesticles down here.
You imagine the person thatgets to carve this.
There's a machine that does thisright, I don't know Somebody's
hand carving this and makingthis for all the vacationers
around the world, because youknow these are in different
(04:14):
places, like somebody is makingthese, just like there's people
that make the vibrators and aredoing you know, the cast and
then quality control.
Just saying somebody gets thatjob Anyhow, this one Somebody
doesn't have a right figure onthat one, but okay.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah, so this one I'm sure there's some small, you
know, balls but and you know, ohyeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
And just to keep in mind, they do come in all sizes
Shapes.
Acdc did have that song back inthe 80s.
You know, hung Got Big Balls ityeah.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So I don't, don't quote me.
I don't know, I'm really bad atthat stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Okay, I think it was.
I think it was, but if I'mwrong, please go ahead and put
it in there.
I mean, I just remember thesong I've got big balls, You've
got big balls, he's got thebiggest balls of them all.
You know anyway, this one doesnot.
So anyways, and also one otherthing that we're going to talk
about here today is going to bethe frenulum which not on this
(05:12):
anatomically not correct penis,although he is, whatever he's
kind, of penis come in allshapes and sizes.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
you know, don't worry about it they all look
different, so you know andthat's why women need to
understand that what might workfor one partner isn't going to
necessarily work for the other.
And I should not say just women.
Women, it's person.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah, you know what.
You are absolutely correct insaying that, because that is a
very, very valid point.
We all have a matchup andactually I found some videos.
I'll send them to you.
There's actually Dr Rachel Rossactually did a video on how to
tell what kind of how they're,how they are, how each sex so
(06:01):
one for guys, one for women buthow you can determine the size
of their penis and their vagina.
Really, yes, Very, veryinteresting.
I'll share it so we can sharethe link.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Okay, cool, great for you people that are dating.
You know you can kind of helpyou to like.
No like do I even want tobother, so but if you do want to
bother, fellatio is always fun,so let's talk about the myth
stuff and what do you got formyth that we can go out here.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Well, here's the thing.
I this, this.
I love to do some research ondifferent types of things.
So they say that only 45percent of women they don't like
to do oral sex at all.
So that's like that to me.
Yeah, that's pretty highpercentage.
I see a lot of people that saythat if you don't do oral sex,
that someone will leave you.
(06:54):
I don't believe that that's tobe true, but I have seen and
read that it is.
The second reason men willleave a relationship is if they
are not getting oral sex.
So that's a big deal to me.
I think, if you know what I'vebeen reading and the stuff that
(07:15):
I read about is I think thatmaybe women don't really
understand what the psychologybehind why men need that kind of
intimate connection, and so Idon't know.
I mean I don't understandeverything of it, but there is a
psychology behind it.
But women have the same.
(07:36):
So we need to understand eachother's and we need to take that
time to enjoy.
And one of the things that Iread and tell me I mean I'm
assuming that this is to be truethe guy knows if you're into it
.
He knows your attitude about it.
He knows if you're into it.
(07:58):
He knows if you're happy to doit, if it's a chore for you, he
knows.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
It goes the same way.
It's the same way backward.
It's the same as the other way.
You know, if your partner's notreally wanting to do that, you,
if they don't want to be there,if they're just like let me
just do it for a second, likeit's the same.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
yes, absolutely, I agree with that yes, exactly,
and so here's the thing I thinkthat creating good environments
together and what cleanlinesscleaning yeah, I was just about
to say the very first thing hasto be that manscaping, like
let's just say, gentlemen, youneed to manscape down there and
(08:39):
female and female I just heard astory absolutely yeah, I just
heard a guy text me or send me amessage and dm is like ah, how
do I tell my girlfriend of likefive years that her, you know,
women tend to take not as manyshowers every day because of our
hair and we dry out, so but westill need to take care of down
(09:00):
under.
So if everyone could justremember that you need to take
care of down under, becausereally that's the key.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Yeah you need to do some landscaping down there.
Take care of the property.
Yeah, you need to do somelandscaping down there, take
care of the property so they'llmake it accessible.
And let's just um, guys, sincewe're talking about the guys,
though, because we're nottalking about the women right
now, we really are focusing on,men you know just make sure that
you're landscaping and you knowtrimming the bushes makes the
tree look bigger and I don't.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
I got to go see, I got to see Joe Coy and here in
Rancho Mirage and he was talkingabout manscaping, especially
the butthole and the butt andthe hairy asshole that you guys
have, and sometimes you havehemorrhoids and you get all shit
, a lot of shit, going on downunder and Bob is Come on as we
get older, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
It's a big blade.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
yes, His little piece on the butt was awesome.
I just loved it because it'sjust so true.
It's like the minute you knowguys can lay down there and try
and look all sexy, but if youdidn't manscape good and it's
looking all ugly and stuff andnot very warm and cool down
there, like it's not going to beappetizing.
(10:15):
No, no, no, no, no, you got tomake it look inviting.
And I think, as we age too, youknow, let's just be clear, the
penis, everything, all skinstarts to hang.
Okay, so things are not goingto look the same, so it's okay.
You know it doesn't have tolook perfect.
Okay, so things are not goingto look the same, so it's okay.
You know it doesn't have tolook perfect, okay, it's not
(10:35):
going to look like that.
We got to just adjust andadjust to the fact that, you
know, do not use porn.
Let's just I got to say thisDon't use porn as an example of
how to give everything isPhotoshopped, like that's the
first important note.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Like they should put a disclaimer oh my gosh, she's
got a book y'all.
That should be a disclaimer onall porn.
You know this is photoshopped.
This is not.
This is not what people reallylook like.
I just want it's theatrics.
It's with the like with themedia.
It's you know.
It's basically, you know likean overall.
You know, when you think aboutthe media, like we need a
(11:11):
disclaimer, like this is notwhat people look like.
You know that this is not whatreal people look like.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
We are not photoshopped no, no, no, and.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
And here's the thing I'm not photoshopped, by the way
no, I don't do photoshop in anyof my photos.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That's why sometimes people go your photos don't look
good, I don't care, I don'tPhotoshop anything Anyway.
But what I do want to say isthat the whole thing is it's a
screenplay.
When they're doing porn, theyhave roles that they need to
capture.
The guy, the director, hasexactly the shots that he needs
(11:48):
to get for this particular movie.
So, bam straight, they're goingto make sure that they get
those specific spots and thosespecific positions and how
everything's going to be perfect.
Okay, that's the reason why youcannot use those as a
foundation, but this has beengoing around for 20 plus years.
Okay, I don't know if you'veever heard it Jack's Blowjob
(12:10):
Lessons.
This is an amazing video.
I've I've downloaded the bookbecause he goes into attitude.
He talks about intimacy in themail and the psychology around
it.
He talks about positions andhow to make it fun for both of
you and how you can.
(12:31):
You know he could basically bewalking can't even stand because
of his legs shaking so much,you know.
And then he talks a lot aboutforeplay.
And you know, to me, you know,we got to have places to send
people because we're not goingto sit here and just talk about
all these things ongoing.
You know they have to have aplace to go and do it in the
privacy of their own home andlisten and things like that.
(12:53):
So this is an amazing reference.
The other one, Shiloh.
I know that you do it when youdo your classes, you do blowjob
lessons and courses, when you doyour little pure romance, right
, no, we talk about it, but Idon't do lessons to speak.
Oh, you haven't oh, okay, soback in the day.
(13:15):
So back in the day, many, manyyears we're talking, you know,
back when I was beginning.
I mean, old school is coming tomind when um, what's his name?
Speaker 1 (13:25):
did the blowjob lesson for the ladies on the
bananas?
Remember that?
That in the movie of old schoolwith Will Ferrell yes, that was
awesome.
And they had the guy that camein and did the.
And who was it?
God, I can't think of his nameright now.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Oh, I don't remember.
I can't remember who did it.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
It was so, but he was perfect for it.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
It was it was awesome , but and here's the thing we
used to do courses, so maybeI'll get back into doing
something like that.
Maybe we could do it as anonline gig thing, but we used to
get everyone involved inlearning how to you know deep
through, Ask all those questionsand answer them right there for
them.
What do I do with my hands?
What do I, you know?
(14:06):
What do I do with his balls?
What do I do with his ass?
You know, because the fellatioincludes all those things down
there.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
It does.
I mean you're going to make useof your hands.
You're going to make use, youknow, it's not just your mouth,
you know, and it's, you knowit's your hands, and you know.
I mean, you know, think aboutit in terms of your own body.
I mean you know, so to speak,touched.
You don't like just, you don'twant his mouth right there.
You like a little incorporationof the hands, some fingers so
just in that sense, or whatever.
(14:34):
Please make sure thateverything is clean yeah, even
your hands and fingers.
Yeah, make sure that your handsand fingers are clean, because I
mean you're gonna, you cancreate a cradle the balls create
a what cradle, the cradle theballs, you gotta cradle them oh,
I think there's a lot of thingsyou can do with it.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You can do with a lot of things and men are very.
Yeah, and men are very.
You know they're balls.
They're very sensitive about it.
Yes, they are.
If you get to get down thereand start playing and licking
and enjoying all the teachingthem, all the different things
about fellatio is just not aboutthe penis, it's about the balls
, the butthole, all thatincluded right and it comes down
(15:14):
there worship it.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
You know what, just like.
Just like us, I mean they, youknow, even though men are pretty
basic in terms of everything,they still have.
They still have sensitive spotson their bodies.
They still have sensitive spotson their penis where they like,
you know, they, they, there arecertain things that they like,
just like.
There's certain things that youlike.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Yeah, and the cool thing about Jack he does talk
about the all the different.
He's a guy talking about how togive a blowjob to a guy.
To me it's the best way becausehe's a guy, he's knows.
And so ladies go out.
The link is in my bio.
I don't, it's no money, I'm notselling anything.
(15:58):
It's just a video you watch.
He tells you what you can do,he gives you ideas there and
then you can decide if you wantto buy his book and move on
forward to different levels ofintimacy with your partner at
doing fellatio, and to me it'sgot to get away from.
It's not a job.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Right, it is not I can't find it but my favorite
book about the penis, dr Sadie.
She does Tickle is Pickle andit's a super fun.
It's super fun.
She does a whole lot ofdifferent sexuality books and
Tickle is Pickle is one of them.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
And for some reason.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
I have it, but I don't know where it went to
because it disappeared.
I have her other ones.
She has a whole line of themand they're very fun
entertaining.
She's got a whole differentseries, so we can throw things
around Well the thing is is thatyou've got to educate yourself
too.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
So you got to go out, you got to learn.
That's why this is just like abeginning A to Z, giving you a
high level.
We're not going to bedemonstrating here, none of that
kind of stuff, but you coulddefinitely go to Jack's Blowjob.
He, you could definitely go toJack's blow job.
He's not going to bedemonstrating it either, but he
might learn some more visual keypoints.
(17:14):
That from a male's perspective,because I think women need to
hear that.
So yeah, and fellatio is anamazing add on to give your man,
maybe even first thing in themorning before he goes off to
work.
They love that kind of stuff,makes them be very constructive
(17:35):
during the day.
And you know it doesn't need tobe a 30-minute sesh, doesn't
need to be 40.
I mean, it can be any kind ofsesh you want.
So you make it what you want,it with your partner and what
you have time for for the day,instead of feeling it as a
hassle to be intimate with yourpartner, because that was what
(17:56):
you enjoyed before things gotstale or stagnant and the only
way to bring up the spark is tojust start reading and start
doing.
I mean Right.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
You want him to care about your pleasure, you need to
care about his pleasure as well.
It's a two-way street.
You know what I mean, really,truly.
You know you want an orgasm,but you also want your important
part in an orgasm.
You know it should be equally.
It needs to be equallyimportant on both sides, you
know.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Nice, yeah, exactly Well.
Nice, yeah, exactly well, thankyou, okay.
So, shiloh, next week let metalk to you about a few things.
Business stuff, raffle.
We have the raffle link.
The link is in my bio.
You can check the link there.
It takes you right to where thelaugh the raffle is.
We're doing the raffle till May12th, which is Mother's Day,
(18:45):
and then we will raffle it offon the 14th, which is our next
live.
On Tuesday, may 14th, we'llraffle off the person's name and
then we'll get it out intotheir little hands before the
end of May.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
And so I thought it would be a good way.
Can you tell us more about thisbasket?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
What's in there?
Yes, there's about fivedifferent products.
I did post a video on instagram, facebook, all over about all
the different products that arein it, but it does come with a
conch ring, comes with a buttplug, it comes with a vibrator
and, uh, we will throw in someuh lube and some toy cleaner,
(19:25):
because, of course, that alwayshas to go with that kind of
stuff.
So, yeah, so some stuff, funstuff for um our moms out there
for a beautiful mother's day,and this basket is being
dedicated from schizo kitty andwe're so grateful for them out
there.
Thank you for joining ustogether and merging and
bringing us a basket that we getto raffle to all of our mothers
(19:47):
out there.
So go ahead and check the linkand fill out the information and
we'll be on our way and we'lldo our little name wheel on the
14th of May.
And I want to thank all thosepeople who have joined us,
because I have seen that we'vehad some joins and we've seen
some little hearts and messages.
(20:08):
So I really appreciate all ofour followers, even on these
uncomfortable topics, and that'swhy it's not here to make you
uncomfortable, it's just reallyhere to just have that open,
honest conversation that we justnormally cannot do and make it
so it's not so taboo and it's OK.
If you don't like to givelittle jobs and if you feel it's
(20:29):
a job and a chore and all ofthese things, talk about it and
maybe let's see how we can makeit less of that.
Or maybe it's more of anintimate connection between you
and your partner, because guesswhat?
Next week we're talking for G,for G-Spot, so now your female
(20:51):
will do for you and now we'regoing to teach you to do for
your female.
Hit that G spot, because Lordknows.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
It does exist.
Oh, we're just going to.
We're going to do that.
We're going to bust that mythright now.
It does exist.
We're going to talk about it.
We're going to talk about whatit is, how to find it.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
And it's different on everyone.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
So I will talk about that next week though.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Yeah, exactly, so all right.
Well, thank you for joining uson today's live sex talk A to Z
with Shiloh and Steph, and wewelcome you back next week.
So don't forget to like, followand subscribe so that you can
get that live notification.
Thank you so much.
Thanks, shiloh, for joining me.
Have a great one, stephanie.
Okay, bye, straight.
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