April 10, 2024 • 38 mins
Ever felt like the intricacies of the clitoris were shrouded in mystery, tucked away from everyday conversation? Let's bring that conversation front and center. Stephanie Smith, together with Shiloh Hobby from Love Your O, promises to illuminate the wonders of female pleasure, straight from the cozy quarters of SchizoKitty in Palm Desert. We're not just talking about the 'little button' everyone whispers about – we're exploring the clitoris in all its glory, from its hidden anatomy to its central role in sexual wellness.
Sexuality isn't a one-size-fits-all affair, and this episode is your invitation to a shame-free zone where education meets laughter. We'll share why clitoral stimulation isn't just another box to check off but a diverse and personal journey to understand what sets your sensations alight. We're holding nothing back as we tackle the concerns most shy away from – the appearance of vulvas, the truths about orgasms, and why sexual empowerment should be on everyone's to-do list. Think of this conversation as a roadmap to embracing and enjoying your body's full potential.
Finally, let's talk about what can take pleasure from 'oh' to 'O-M-G'! From the hands-free magic of the Womanizer to the intricacies of exploring G-spots, Shiloh and I pull back the curtain on the toys that are changing the game for women everywhere. Whether you're flying solo or spicing things up with a partner, we've got the lowdown on how to navigate the myriad pathways to ecstasy. So buckle up – this episode is your ticket to a more fulfilled, joyful exploration of what makes you tick, with a hearty side of giggles.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello, we are live today from hey, this is
Stephanie with.
Let's Talk About Sex with me,stephanie Smith, and I'm here
with Shiloh Hobby, love your O,right, love your O.
And we're talking about O'stoday.
We're here live at Schizo Kitty.
Shiloh had a brainy idea thatit would be super fun to do it
(00:26):
at a sex shop, so I decided toget going and I said, okay,
let's do it, let's do it.
And so I went and I'm superexcited to say that we're here
today.
Everyone's testing each otherout, seeing if they like it, if
I like it, and how it feels, andso today we're going to be live
(00:48):
from Schizo Kitty.
It's in Palm Desert, california.
It's located off of Highway 111.
It's one of the premier adultbookstores, adult stores in Palm
Desert, in the Coachella Valley, and we will have Dave and the
team on to be able to give us alittle bit more about.
They have so many accoladesthat I could give them, but it's
(01:12):
like a list goes a mile long.
So I'm super excited and sowe're going to show and showcase
some of the toys today, becausetoday we're talking C for
clitoris, a, clitoris a, very.
Oh, oh, you got your.
Oh, nice, the clitoris verynice.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
yes, this is what it looks like you know, and it's
it's.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
everyone thinks it's just a little button and it's
not.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
It's so much more than.
This is the part that everybodysees, this is the part that's
hidden, so we're going to talkabout it.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I'm excited, yeah, and I I'm excited to talk about
it because there's a lot ofmyths, um, and it's kind of like
, I think, a woman's arts.
There's so many pieces to it,it's so complicated that not
many people have been able todig into that, and we've lived
in a male dominated world.
(02:08):
So it's not to rap on the menor anything, but we have, and
it's time to really starttalking about, you know, the
clitoris and the female partsand what makes us happy, because
, yeah, there's so much morethan just a penis in the vagina
or a clitoris, a little button.
There's so much more involved.
(02:30):
So it's super exciting to haveyou here.
So, um, it's a.
We're going to start.
Oh, I love it.
I'm just going to be funnycause I have to.
Uh, this is my life.
Now I get to have fun, um, fundoing what I love to do, which
is talk about sex.
(02:50):
I've been doing it since I was.
We were talking about this, soI just want to for our listeners
out there, I just want to sayyou know, people go, oh, yeah,
well, how long have you beendoing it?
Well, well, I've been havingsex since I was 16, but have I
been talking about sex since Iwas 18?
So we're talking I'm 55.
We're talking 37 years.
I've been all about humansexuality and in a lot of
(03:14):
different ways.
So I think that's we just aresuch a shameful country we
really are.
I get so much more interestfrom out of the country, not in
this area, and I mean we haveemployers that, and spouses and
partners and significant othersthat criticize each other for
(03:36):
looking at certain thingssexually instead of learning
about it, taking it as alearning experience, because
that's really what we need to do.
So I'm kind of going back to myeducation of like.
Remember I told you, shiloh,about my education at San
Francisco State, that the doctorbrought in all these different
(03:56):
people to talk about it and Ilearned so many things.
So that's really what thispodcast is about is to teach
everyone, and you brought up theawesome idea of A to Z, and I
love that because it's so needed.
We could just take each littlealphabet and we can just roll
that over over and over again.
So so fun.
I'm excited to be here with you.
(04:17):
So thank you.
You want to give them a littleunder a little background of
yourself.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Absolutely so.
My name is Shiloh and I am asex coach with Love Uro Coaching
, as you mentioned.
You know I agree with you.
You know our sexual educationgoes back so far, you know.
I mean, you know we think about, you know, like the formal
training that we've had.
I did get certified to be a sexcoach during COVID.
(04:43):
However, prior to that, I waspart of Pure Romance.
I should say up until recentlyI've been a part of Pure Romance
, which is a in-home party forwomen that you know focuses on
sharing information about sexand, obviously, selling the
goods.
(05:03):
So you know, it was veryinformative for me, definitely
broke, you know, definitelyhelped me with a lot of, a lot
of education.
But you know, as you mentioned,you know it goes back, you know
, way before that I mean I did,you know, and I've done that for
, you know, 13 years.
So I mean I had that experienceas well that I had in so lots
(05:23):
of women.
You know that I've helped overthe years, you know, with
choosing, you know, withchoosing the right toy or
helping them understandsomething about their body.
You know I love those ahamoments which you know really
truly made me want to be a coach.
But even more than that, youknow the idea of sexuality, you
know it has such a big part inour lives that we, as you
(05:48):
mentioned, you know there's alot of shame.
There's a lot of shame, sorryabout that.
There's a lot of shame.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You have a life.
I mean, you're a real person.
Oh sorry.
We're real people here Sorry.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know, and I mean there is a lot of shame in this
country.
And you know, part of thereason, too, I want to do this
is because I think that it'simportant to get the education
out there, and get properinformation out there to people
and make it accessible to themso they can have it, you know,
and make a difference in theirlives, because so many people
are confused about things thatare happening within their
(06:25):
bodies just because they don'thave the knowledge.
And, as you mentioned, you know, I mean we're gonna talk about
the clitoris today, but justwant you all to keep in mind
that the clitoris wasn't even inmedical textbooks, wasn't it,
most likely at the time that youwere in school.
I just want to say, like theyreally, truly went around.
(06:46):
Yeah, they really.
So.
In 2005, helen O'Connell andher colleagues published the
Anatomy of a Clitoris, which wasa review in the Journal of
Urology that provides a completeanatomical description of the
clitoris.
So not till then, 2005.
(07:07):
That was 2005.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
That's absolutely.
Well.
It's not surprising because youknow we were in a male
dominated not to be, you knowright it has always been a male
dominated world.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Women were at home and they were having the babies
and taking care of the familyand the house and they weren't
thought of in any kind ofacademic sense.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Well, and let's be clear, I think that the clitoris
look at what you showed us, youknow, maybe you can keep that
up there for you know, I don'tknow keep showing it off and on.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
It's complicated, you know there's a lot, there's,
there's, there's a lot of partsto it.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Yeah, so, um so, okay , Um so we found out in 2005,.
When did they actually reallyfind the clitoris?
Speaker 2 (08:00):
So I mean they have been, they've been playing with
this.
I mean you know they have beenplaying with this.
I mean you know they've beenlike the clitoris itself.
They've you know, they've seenit, you know, as the little,
teeny, tiny nub.
So this is where we're at, andactually I was looking through
my notes for the exact date 1858.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah, you were saying that.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Well, and that's when they had a drawing of the vulva
with the clitoris prominent.
So basically they were showingthis.
You know, look at my hand here.
They were just showing thislittle, teeny, tiny part, the
part that we see, the partthat's external on the body.
They didn't see all of thispart, and this is the part
that's all inside.
So let's talk about theclitoris.
(08:46):
Why don't we go back and let'sactually just talk about it for
a moment?
So just to say, ladies, yourclitoris has over 8,000 nerve
endings which is double.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Which is how many more than the penis?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
It's double, it's double, it's double right.
Yeah, the clitoris is made forpleasure.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
I get to say hi to people as they wait.
So you know, okay, the clitorisis for pleasure.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Yes, the clitoris is made for pleasure, that's it.
It really doesn't have anotherpurpose, unlike the its
counterpart, the penis, which tokind of you know, to kind of
back up a little bit further,when we start out in the womb,
we all start off with the tissuethat either grows into a penis
or clitoris.
It's the same exact tissue.
(09:35):
So when you think of a penisand how it becomes erect and it
becomes filled and gorged, thesame thing happens with the
clitoris, except that you can'tsee it.
It's internal, because all ofthis is internal.
So when you're thinking of your, your vulva, which you know, as
you know, that's the properterminology for that.
(09:57):
And I have my little, my vulvapillow here, which I have, as
you know, that's the properterminology for that.
And I have my little, my vulvapillow here, which I have oh, I
have mine too, I brought.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Oh perfect, so when you're thinking about this.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
you know, this is the clitoral hood here.
I love yours too.
It's so fun yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I think it's the same lady who makes them all.
She's so cute, I like her.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
I found this one on Etsy.
Is that where you got yours?
yeah, that's you know yourclitoris.
So, like just to kind of giveyou an idea, so we have your.
Do you have a good?
Can you see this?
Well, yeah, I can see thatthat's good.
So, um, when you're looking atthis, like this is you know your
clitoral hood and your clitorisis hiding on, you know your
little part that you can see ishiding under here.
Yay, for theitoral high, butall of this part the legs, this
(10:43):
is the crura, is the legs, thevestibules, like this is the.
You know this part is allhiding, it's all behind, it's
all behind your labia.
So I want to say really quicklyin regards to that you know a
lot of people, you know they, alot of women, are very upset
about how their vulva looks andthey want to go and get like
(11:04):
labiaplasty and such like that.
Well, just keep in mind, yourclitoris is right here behind
those labia and you're perfectjust the way you are, unless you
experience some type of pain,you know, or you know your
doctor is recommending that youget this.
Keep in mind, your vulva isbeautiful just the way it is.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
I think the biggest thing I've heard from women
complaining about that is theway that it it sat there.
They hang.
So maybe because the flaps hangor something like that.
But you're right, I mean, theminute we start messing around
with our parts, any kind of partof our body, let's just be
really clear.
(11:46):
Any kind of surgery okay, butspecifically those particular
parts.
You may not have some, you maylose some feeling in other parts
because you're trying to pullup your labia and then you're
not going to have the bestfeeling.
It could affect you in otherways.
Now, of course, we're notdoctors and we'll leave that
right, we're not doctors, Iwouldn't I wouldn't be messing
(12:09):
around.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
I think you're right just there's no, there's really
truly no reason, you know,unless I think that's the go
with men, though men are theones who can become critical
about.
Oh my God Well that's becausethey're looking at porn and it's
all Photoshopped.
Let's just talk about that fora moment.
Everything is Photoshopped,it's all cropped.
I mean they make the vulva looknice and pretty and like it's
(12:30):
this thing that it's reallytruly not so.
There is that part.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Oh sorry, okay, that's okay.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
So you know.
Just to get back to theclitoris, so you know this, um,
you know when it, when it does,um, expand and arouse internally
, um, it can be up to fiveinches.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
It can, it can grow up to five inches long that's
like a penis, is what I'veactually seen pictures of what
they look like, and they canactually look like an extremely
small, you know thin lot thatcan go out like a penis, like
I've seen them big.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Like some of the, some of the and, interestingly
enough, they actually.
I learned that the clitorisactually grows, like it does get
.
It does get bigger as we age.
So your clitoris isn't the samesize you know at 50 as it is at
you know 16.
So that's kind of interesting.
I thought that was aninteresting thought um fact.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
I remember on Miss Jaya over at Sex uh, love and
Goop or whatever that was onNetflix.
She has that big one that hasall the the you know, the
fingers hanging out at that bigred one.
That's a great one, and I thinkthat she was exactly explaining
that as we get older, they growand they became more
(13:49):
complicated to be able tomaneuver and get excited.
So we need to.
You know what I mean.
Work on that kind of stuff isthat people think that what you
were looking like at 18, 20, oryour sex life even at 30 or 40,
it's going to be the same.
It's not.
It's going to changedrastically and what used to be
the whole pound, pound, boom,whatever done, however, you did
(14:11):
it your way.
It's not.
It's more about connection andloving and being together, and
sometimes there's not the orgasmthat you're going to have.
But let's get back to it theclit.
Okay, so we've got the clit.
All these different, like somany nerve endings.
(14:34):
How do we help someone find outabout a clit, their own
personal clit?
What would be a good.
You know I always love thevagina.
Monologue events there alwayssays take a mirror, get down
there and look.
What is something you couldsuggest.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Well, I mean you're clitoris, I mean the outer part
of it.
You certainly use the mirrorand you can examine it and see
what it looks like.
You know you can even look tosee what it looks like.
You know, if you're doing selfexploration and you're and
you're masturbating, you canlook at it.
You can grab a mirror and lookat it when you're aroused and
see what it looks like on theexternal part I mean obviously
the internal part.
You know that's where you knowtoys and such do come into play.
(15:16):
You know if you're reallylooking to stimulate or just
self massage to figure out, youknow where where your clitoris
is actually sensitive at.
Because you know everybody,every body is different, every
clitoris is different and, as weall know, what works for your
best friend might not work foryou.
You know that amazing thingthat she tried and she had the
most amazing orgasm ever and youtried it and you're like it was
(15:40):
OK.
You're not, yeah, you're notthe same body, you're not broken
.
You just you work differently.
Something else is going to bebetter for you.
So that's whereself-exploration, masturbation,
really comes into play, causeyou can, you can play with that
and you can figure out.
You know which part of myclitoris is.
You know which part of myclitoris is more sensitive?
It might be that part that'ssitting underneath the right
(16:02):
labia.
You know, you don't know.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
What's one for, what works for one doesn't work for
the other and that's why, youknow, you doing your own self
exploration and it's good if youcould do it with your partner
and get them.
But they have to be men, dohave to be patient and you know,
be relaxed about it, because dohave to be patient and you know
, be relaxed about it, cause youknow getting down there, you
know, you know it's nice if youknow, it's nice if you know your
(16:29):
own body so that you can directthem.
Right, exactly, they really dowant it.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
They really do want a little bit of direction.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Yeah, they do, and and rightly so.
I mean, come on, we're help,we're asking them to you know a
big task to get us to have anamazing orgasm, because it
actually is an amazing orgasm.
I mean you know my favorite.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
My other favorite C word is communication.
So you know I'm all abouttalking about it.
So you should be able to tellyour partner what turns you on
because and what doesn't turnyou on in the bedroom, because
if you can't, then maybe you'renot with the right partner.
Yeah, maybe you shouldn't behaving sex with them, because if
you can't talk about it youreally shouldn't be.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Oh, look at that sexy model oh, I didn't mean to do
that.
I I, there we go.
I thought it was gonna make myscreen bigger so I could
actually see.
You know like I could seethings better?
Speaker 2 (17:25):
yeah, sorry that was funny, that was funny, it was
good, it was, that was fun, like, just like all of a sudden, all
of a sudden, I got like thisclose-up of of the sorry.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Well, I saw this thing saying shift and I'm like
it's popping out.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
I'm like what do I do ?
Someday we're gonna're going tolook back on our.
Someday, we're going to lookback on these, on these tapings,
and we're going to be likeyou've come so far, Come so far.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Hey, listen you know, here's the deal.
I'd like to ask who else hasbigger balls than us to get out
here and do this, because ittakes some fucking balls to get
out here and do this.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
So I'm telling you it takes some fucking balls to get
out here and do this, so youknow what I mean.
Good, my goal is for people tolearn.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
So you know, I want people to learn and I'm sorry, I
know I get vulgar, but I am oneof those that say that.
You know, testing is not a badthing, but I will keep it to the
minimum.
Anyway, all right.
So let's we talked about nowthe idea about the how about the
magic button?
Everyone thinks it's the magicbutton.
Now we know it's more okay andit has a lot of nerve endings.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
And it can grow up to .
It can grow up to 300%.
We know when it's aroused.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
So what about?
The clitoris isn't as importantfor sexual pleasure as the
vaginal, because I know we're.
You know, some people thinkthat the vaginal is more
important, or their clit is, orvice versa, and some people
don't have either, and somepeople have both.
So I think the spectrum is vastand that's why how can we tell
(18:58):
people?
Speaker 2 (18:59):
So I mean, you know this is back to that.
Everybody is different.
So 85% of women do, have, dofind stimulation through the
clitoris to be the way to go.
That's not to say that therearen't people that have vaginal
orgasms, vaginal orgasms, but ingeneral the clitoris is there
(19:27):
to help to stimulate you, to getyou excited.
I mean it's you know how do you, how do you play with the Volvo
without touching the clitoris?
Because you really can't.
Because even internally, whenyou're looking at this little
itch right here, even you knowinternally, you know vaginally,
the clitoris hugs these littletwo, these little two, the
(19:47):
vestibule here this is, this isthe vaginal opening right here,
this is your vaginal opening.
So when that penis is righthere, they're hitting that
clitoris.
So, no matter what, theclitoris is always getting hit
and it can't get hit.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
There's certain positions, and there's great
positions, where you can do apenis entry and get the clit at
the same time, and a woman couldhave both orgasm at the same
time with the penis, I mean.
So I think people need torealize that once you know that
(20:23):
the orgasms are vast in theclitoris and your vagina and
they vary and they're going tochange as we get older and
whatever happens to us as wetake medications, everything,
and if we don't have sex a lot,you know, because that's a big
thing, everything.
And if we don't have sex a lot,you know cause that's a big
(20:43):
thing, um, but that's why Ithink we should encourage people
to have sex as much as possiblebecause, as they say, you, we,
that's the one prescription thatthey've left out of how to make
yourself whole, which is, youknow, a low calorie diet,
exercise, don't eat, don't smoke, don't over all these things.
(21:03):
They don't even have sex onthere, not even sex.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
And just to clarify, because that's definitely, you
know, like I'm all my, my stanceis all about self-love.
That's my, that is my coachingniche is self-love and with that
sexual wellness aspect ofthings, so maybe not necessarily
penis and vagina sex, it can bemasturbation, you know, but I
completely agree, you know sometype of you know whether it be,
(21:31):
you know, and it again, this isgoing to differ for everybody.
I mean, some people, some womenwill, we'll say women right now
, cause women are the ones withclitorises.
So we're going to, you know,pronouns, pronouns aside, but if
you have a clitoris, peoplewith clitorises, you can
stimulate them daily if that'swhat you like to do.
(21:51):
I mean, sex drive is differentfor everybody.
Some people do it once, you know, once a day, other people four
times a day, depending on whichtime they have.
But other people, you know,maybe it's once a week.
You, other people, four times aday, depending on how much time
they have, but other people,you know, maybe it's once a week
.
You know it really, it's yourbody.
So you get to decide, you knowwhat works for you.
But if you find yourselfgetting cranky or sad or moody,
go masturbate, go stimulate yourclutter, see what happens.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Oh, it's kind of how I really hate to say this
because it's going to go live,but it's going to be out there.
But we could measure people whodidn't have sex or who had not
had sex in a while by how crankythey were at work.
If they were little biatches,I'm telling you, then we knew
that they weren't having sex andwe're like, oh my God, they
need to have sex.
(22:36):
Sex I could tell when I wasn't.
You know, if I'm cranky, Icould tell when my kids were, I
could tell all around me.
So you are 100%.
Sex is an amazing stress release.
It's amazing for our, ouroverall health, and please go
check out.
I have lots of stuff on myReddit that I posted about this
(22:57):
Um and making sure that everyonehas as much information as
possible, because that's what Ilove to do is provide you a ton
of information.
But, bottom line, when you havesex three, four times a week
with your partner or by yourself, it's amazing what it does for
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your overall wellbeing throughyour skin, through your, your
stress level, through cortisol,all of that.
So, and even down there forfemale, we need to bring blood
flow to that area.
Anyway, it's something that noone's talking about bringing
blood flow down to the vaginainside, especially as we get
(23:41):
older and if we're sedentary,you know, because not just older
, but we have a lot of peopleeven in their thirties, now
forties, being extremelysedentary and not bringing blood
flow to that area.
Um, so it's.
It's not only just for females,but it's for men.
It's something that I talk alot about is vibing in the
(24:02):
vagina, which you and I startedtalking about over a year and a
half ago and I also then put onto vagina, or vibing in the anus
for men with a vibratingmassager and for prostate health
.
So I have those podcasts out.
Please go check them out.
Also, a Vibe a Day keeps thedoctor away, because I do
(24:24):
believe that bringing blood flowto the body, it's huge, it's
crazy, huge.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
I mean I've noticed the apple industry used it, so I
feel like we can use it too.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
And the apple industry.
There is absolutely noscientific proof.
I'm going to tell you becauseNot at all.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
It's a marketing point, it's all marketing.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
I'm going to tell you because, except for the fact
that it one apple is anutritional, adds a nutritional
plus to your food intake of theday.
Other than that, if you go readon my Reddit account, I have
all the articles from nationalInstitute of health is because
that's the one I feel like hasthe best information and it all
talks about this.
So, getting down here, here'sone thing I was thinking as you
(25:07):
were talking.
I remember when I was 16, Ididn't know anything about my
vagina and it took me a longtime, and it wasn't until I had
a partner that taught me aboutit and taught me how to play
with myself, because we're notreally taught how to masturbate
and play with ourselves.
So all I could say is for anyfemale that is out there that
has never got into there, gotdown there, got a mirror, got
(25:33):
their fingers down there,figured out their vaginal orgasm
, their clitoral orgasms, edgingorgasm, their clitoral orgasms,
edging everything.
I mean there's so many facetsto it.
I can say try all differentkinds of toys, try combination,
dildo, vibrator, both one each,doesn't matter all different
kinds, and you will find thatyou will be able to go oh,
(25:56):
that's awesome.
And then you interact that withyour partner.
How amazing your relationshipcould be.
So let me encourage people tomasturbate, because I, I do
encourage people to masturbateanyway.
I'm a, I masturbate, I, I justbelieve in it.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Everyone should, and I know and just a real quick
plug for that, you know if any,if any, women are, anybody with
a clitoris is looking for, youknow, not not entirely sure,
what to do for masturbation.
There is a fantastic websitethat does actually provide some
(26:34):
very good educational videos,and it is called O-M-m-g-s dot
com.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Okay, we will put that on the link in my link so
that they can go and just find aplace that they can learn how
to masturbate.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Absolutely.
It's a great resource for that.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Great, and that's why we bring you on Sex Coach, so
you can teach us all these funthings.
Well, let me talk about a toyreally quick.
Yeah, let's talk about someclitorals.
You got a clitoral toy for us.
This is called the woman withthe womanizer.
Enter the pleasure dimension.
This is by orgasms evolved andum, anyways, I read about it.
(27:19):
This thing is kind of coolbecause it looks like it's a
sucker.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
It does puffs in the air.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
It does puffs in the air.
Yes, like y'all.
And they said that this.
Yes, please give a plug, tellus all about it.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I just want to tell you the best review I got of the
Womanizer.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Okay, cool.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
It was a fun conversation and definitely made
me go run out and get my own.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Okay, tell me, because I'm going to get one
after I read this.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
I had a friend that had one and she basically said
that it made her so wet that herpartner needed to go in with he
needed an umbrella and raincoat.
It just made her completely wet.
And so, as a gag at the end ofthe weekend, this was back,
(28:18):
actually COVID, when, um, wewere flying and stuff and I had
I'd gone on a retreat and metthem and everything and um, so I
had one of those masks thatwere like the face shield, so I
did give that to her and then weended up like she got like that
for her husband, like we gotour whole looks, because
apparently, yes, yes, theWomanizer, y'all it's good.
(28:41):
Those little puffs of air, itdoes something crazy.
I mean, it has differentvibrations and woo y'all.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
So the cool thing about this it's actually
patented.
So they patented.
No one else can do this.
It says it can get you off in60 seconds or less.
It's called the OrgasmWhisperer for the clitoris
Amazing.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Y'all.
It does some whispering.
I just want y'all to know.
I don't know if it's whisperingor yelling.
It might be some screaminginvolved.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
That's awesome.
Well, here's the thing is thatif you've never, I have to just
tell females, if you have neverhad an orgasm, that you squirt
through your G-spot.
Whatever squirt, okay, Like I'msaying, not just a little
puddle Email ejaculation.
I'm telling you it is the mostamazing orgasm and I guarantee
(29:36):
you this is.
I can probably guarantee youthis is going to work.
I have something similar, butit probably helps with it.
Yeah, it helps with it.
It helps a little bit.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
Help a little bit.
A little bit.
You also want some G-spotstimulation.
We'll talk about G-spot anotherday.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Oh yeah, okay here this is called a Lola Milani
Mystique Bullet.
Check this thing out.
It has a little look at thatand it opens.
It's a little special chargingcase.
This is a charging case all inone.
Is that cool?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
wow.
So what does the actual toylook like then?
This is this is the toy, okayvery nice.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
This is also for.
This is another.
It's nice, so it's a bigvibrating.
It also is for the clitoris, soshe picked this one out.
Is it nice?
They get lots of reviews onthis one for the clitoris.
That's, that's a.
That's my as you go through ittoo bad.
(30:40):
We can't feel this ourselves no, but you can hear this stuff.
Geez, oh, oh, my, okay.
So we got a couple toys.
That is super slick.
Look at that.
It has this rechargeable littleunit.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
That is, the technology is pretty awesome.
I have to say Like it's yeah,very.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Well, the cool thing about being here is that they
have such a vast.
They have like 75,000 toysbetween toys and outfits and
everything here toys betweentoys and outfits and everything
here.
His online store is currentlydown because he's had so many
products that Shopify could notcarry him.
So he is working on the store,but if you do want to buy any of
(31:20):
these products, please feelfree to-568-6300.
Go to wwwschizo with a Zkittycom and, of course, all of
this stuff is in my link in mybio and this is awesome.
(31:43):
Okay, well, let's do a couplemore.
Do you have any, maybe?
What do you want to talk about?
Maybe a couple more, if youhave a.
Do you have any?
Maybe a couple?
What do you want to talk about?
Maybe a couple more things, andthen we can close it up so, um,
yeah, you know just some funthings.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Um, that I learned, you know, in in doing a little
bit more research for this.
Um, the first clitorissculpture was made by the artist
sophia wallace and it Cliteracy.
So, and just basically, it wascreated to, uh, shed a little
bit of light on thismisunderstood and often ignored
organ.
(32:16):
Um, another fun thing that Ilearned and I felt like this was
pretty cool um, much props toeducation and just goes to show
that, um, the U?
S has so far to come in regardsto sex education, but in France
there is a law that mandatesthat all newly made sex
(32:37):
education models must include aclitoris.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
I love that.
I love when I read that.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
Like you know.
It just amazes me just how muchshame there is in the United
States, you know, I mean, andthe sad thing about it is such a
huge contradiction.
But that's a soapboxconversation for a whole
different day.
A whole different day.
A whole different day.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Oh yeah, no, here's the thing.
We could go on and we couldtalk about lots of different
things about the clitoris.
We could, you know, go on andon different things about the
clitoris.
We could, you know, go on andon.
But you know, we're just tryingto give a little bit of
information so you could takeback, go talk about it with your
partner, significant other,whoever, even just for yourself,
(33:20):
and go explore.
I mean, that's the bottom lineand making it you feel like
you're not weird for looking atthis, like you're not weird.
Okay, it's normal to want to beinterested in learning about
your body and it's normal towant to learn about all parts of
your body, and this is just oneof the female.
That is just not discussed.
(33:40):
So, and some people call mevanilla, like, oh well, you do
vanilla sex.
Well, let me tell you, uh,there's a lot of people that
don't even know about the oldother stuff yet.
So we do have to talk about thevanilla stuff because we need
to educate people, hey, it allstarts out with vanilla.
It all starts out there, and letme just reiterate one more time
(34:04):
If you don't have never had aclitoral orgasm or a vaginal
orgasm, it is time to get downthere and learn about it.
Go to the sex shops.
You could call Schizo Kitty.
One of the ladies there couldhelp guide you in which toy
would be the best one as abeginner.
They're educated.
All the ladies here you callShiloh, reach out to her.
(34:27):
That's what we're here.
We're here to help.
It's free, it doesn't costmoney to get educated.
Okay, that's what we're herefor.
All, right, well, good, well,thanks, shiloh.
Again, you can also reach outto Shiloh.
She does coaching.
She has coaching classes.
(34:48):
So reach out for consulting ifyou want.
My goal is just to provide thisinformation for you.
So, anyways, well, thank you,shiloh for joining me on our
first live over at Schizo Kitty.
I can't wait to get thefeedback.
I have some things I alreadyknow I need to fix, but it's all
good.
That's what we are here to dois to learn, learn, learn.
And that's what life is about,and that's what I want to remind
everyone.
Life is about learning, changingand getting better, and so if
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you're not doing these things.
Get out there and start atleast doing one thing a day to
better yourself.
No one's going to change yourlife except for you.
So if you want a better sexlife, you got to start doing
your own stuff.
If you want a better job, gotto start doing your own thing.
So remember, we didn't startdoing this just to start like
that.
Shiloh and I've been working Imean, we both have been helping
each other, coaching, gettingout there on the social media
(35:37):
stuff so it's been a work inprogress for us and nothing
happens overnight Okay, nothing.
So remember, it's a story andeverything is a story and you
have to start somewhere.
Okay, green is green can bestart somewhere, all right.
Well, thanks Shiloh for joiningme.
What's next week?
We have D, so what is next week?
Speaker 2 (35:58):
Well, next week D?
I mean it has to be for dildos,right?
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Dildos I'm so excited .
Speaker 2 (36:04):
And there's a difference between dildos and
vibrators, so we're going totalk about them.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Oh good, yes, that's good.
So we'll bring out some dildosand vibrators, so we're going to
talk about them.
Oh good, yes, that's good.
So we'll bring out some dildosas well this year, next week
from schizo kitty.
All right, well, cool, shiloh,thank you so much for joining me
and thank you everyone else forjoining us.
Live here today and we lookforward to seeing you next week,
tuesday at 11 am.
Bye, shiloh, bye, see youeveryone have a great day okay,
(36:32):
bye.
Hello, we are live today from hey, this is
Stephanie with.
Let's Talk About Sex with me,stephanie Smith, and I'm here
with Shiloh Hobby, love your O,right, love your O.
And we're talking about O'stoday.
We're here live at Schizo Kitty.
Shiloh had a brainy idea thatit would be super fun to do it
(00:26):
at a sex shop, so I decided toget going and I said, okay,
let's do it, let's do it.
And so I went and I'm superexcited to say that we're here
today.
Everyone's testing each otherout, seeing if they like it, if
I like it, and how it feels, andso today we're going to be live
(00:48):
from Schizo Kitty.
It's in Palm Desert, california.
It's located off of Highway 111.
It's one of the premier adultbookstores, adult stores in Palm
Desert, in the Coachella Valley, and we will have Dave and the
team on to be able to give us alittle bit more about.
They have so many accoladesthat I could give them, but it's
(01:12):
like a list goes a mile long.
So I'm super excited and sowe're going to show and showcase
some of the toys today, becausetoday we're talking C for
clitoris, a, clitoris a, very.
Oh, oh, you got your.
Oh, nice, the clitoris verynice.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
yes, this is what it looks like you know, and it's
it's.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
everyone thinks it's just a little button and it's
not.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
It's so much more than.
This is the part that everybodysees, this is the part that's
hidden, so we're going to talkabout it.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I'm excited, yeah, and I I'm excited to talk about
it because there's a lot ofmyths, um, and it's kind of like
, I think, a woman's arts.
There's so many pieces to it,it's so complicated that not
many people have been able todig into that, and we've lived
in a male dominated world.
(02:08):
So it's not to rap on the menor anything, but we have, and
it's time to really starttalking about, you know, the
clitoris and the female partsand what makes us happy, because
, yeah, there's so much morethan just a penis in the vagina
or a clitoris, a little button.
There's so much more involved.
(02:30):
So it's super exciting to haveyou here.
So, um, it's a.
We're going to start.
Oh, I love it.
I'm just going to be funnycause I have to.
Uh, this is my life.
Now I get to have fun, um, fundoing what I love to do, which
is talk about sex.
(02:50):
I've been doing it since I was.
We were talking about this, soI just want to for our listeners
out there, I just want to sayyou know, people go, oh, yeah,
well, how long have you beendoing it?
Well, well, I've been havingsex since I was 16, but have I
been talking about sex since Iwas 18?
So we're talking I'm 55.
We're talking 37 years.
I've been all about humansexuality and in a lot of
(03:14):
different ways.
So I think that's we just aresuch a shameful country we
really are.
I get so much more interestfrom out of the country, not in
this area, and I mean we haveemployers that, and spouses and
partners and significant othersthat criticize each other for
(03:36):
looking at certain thingssexually instead of learning
about it, taking it as alearning experience, because
that's really what we need to do.
So I'm kind of going back to myeducation of like.
Remember I told you, shiloh,about my education at San
Francisco State, that the doctorbrought in all these different
(03:56):
people to talk about it and Ilearned so many things.
So that's really what thispodcast is about is to teach
everyone, and you brought up theawesome idea of A to Z, and I
love that because it's so needed.
We could just take each littlealphabet and we can just roll
that over over and over again.
So so fun.
I'm excited to be here with you.
(04:17):
So thank you.
You want to give them a littleunder a little background of
yourself.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Absolutely so.
My name is Shiloh and I am asex coach with Love Uro Coaching
, as you mentioned.
You know I agree with you.
You know our sexual educationgoes back so far, you know.
I mean, you know we think about, you know, like the formal
training that we've had.
I did get certified to be a sexcoach during COVID.
(04:43):
However, prior to that, I waspart of Pure Romance.
I should say up until recentlyI've been a part of Pure Romance
, which is a in-home party forwomen that you know focuses on
sharing information about sexand, obviously, selling the
goods.
(05:03):
So you know, it was veryinformative for me, definitely
broke, you know, definitelyhelped me with a lot of, a lot
of education.
But you know, as you mentioned,you know it goes back, you know
, way before that I mean I did,you know, and I've done that for
, you know, 13 years.
So I mean I had that experienceas well that I had in so lots
(05:23):
of women.
You know that I've helped overthe years, you know, with
choosing, you know, withchoosing the right toy or
helping them understandsomething about their body.
You know I love those ahamoments which you know really
truly made me want to be a coach.
But even more than that, youknow the idea of sexuality, you
know it has such a big part inour lives that we, as you
(05:48):
mentioned, you know there's alot of shame.
There's a lot of shame, sorryabout that.
There's a lot of shame.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You have a life.
I mean, you're a real person.
Oh sorry.
We're real people here Sorry.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know, and I mean there is a lot of shame in this
country.
And you know, part of thereason, too, I want to do this
is because I think that it'simportant to get the education
out there, and get properinformation out there to people
and make it accessible to themso they can have it, you know,
and make a difference in theirlives, because so many people
are confused about things thatare happening within their
(06:25):
bodies just because they don'thave the knowledge.
And, as you mentioned, you know, I mean we're gonna talk about
the clitoris today, but justwant you all to keep in mind
that the clitoris wasn't even inmedical textbooks, wasn't it,
most likely at the time that youwere in school.
I just want to say, like theyreally, truly went around.
(06:46):
Yeah, they really.
So.
In 2005, helen O'Connell andher colleagues published the
Anatomy of a Clitoris, which wasa review in the Journal of
Urology that provides a completeanatomical description of the
clitoris.
So not till then, 2005.
(07:07):
That was 2005.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
That's absolutely.
Well.
It's not surprising because youknow we were in a male
dominated not to be, you knowright it has always been a male
dominated world.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Women were at home and they were having the babies
and taking care of the familyand the house and they weren't
thought of in any kind ofacademic sense.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Well, and let's be clear, I think that the clitoris
look at what you showed us, youknow, maybe you can keep that
up there for you know, I don'tknow keep showing it off and on.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
It's complicated, you know there's a lot, there's,
there's, there's a lot of partsto it.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Yeah, so, um so, okay , Um so we found out in 2005,.
When did they actually reallyfind the clitoris?
Speaker 2 (08:00):
So I mean they have been, they've been playing with
this.
I mean you know they have beenplaying with this.
I mean you know they've beenlike the clitoris itself.
They've you know, they've seenit, you know, as the little,
teeny, tiny nub.
So this is where we're at, andactually I was looking through
my notes for the exact date 1858.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah, you were saying that.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Well, and that's when they had a drawing of the vulva
with the clitoris prominent.
So basically they were showingthis.
You know, look at my hand here.
They were just showing thislittle, teeny, tiny part, the
part that we see, the partthat's external on the body.
They didn't see all of thispart, and this is the part
that's all inside.
So let's talk about theclitoris.
(08:46):
Why don't we go back and let'sactually just talk about it for
a moment?
So just to say, ladies, yourclitoris has over 8,000 nerve
endings which is double.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Which is how many more than the penis?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
It's double, it's double, it's double right.
Yeah, the clitoris is made forpleasure.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
I get to say hi to people as they wait.
So you know, okay, the clitorisis for pleasure.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Yes, the clitoris is made for pleasure, that's it.
It really doesn't have anotherpurpose, unlike the its
counterpart, the penis, which tokind of you know, to kind of
back up a little bit further,when we start out in the womb,
we all start off with the tissuethat either grows into a penis
or clitoris.
It's the same exact tissue.
(09:35):
So when you think of a penisand how it becomes erect and it
becomes filled and gorged, thesame thing happens with the
clitoris, except that you can'tsee it.
It's internal, because all ofthis is internal.
So when you're thinking of your, your vulva, which you know, as
you know, that's the properterminology for that.
(09:57):
And I have my little, my vulvapillow here, which I have, as
you know, that's the properterminology for that.
And I have my little, my vulvapillow here, which I have oh, I
have mine too, I brought.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Oh perfect, so when you're thinking about this.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
you know, this is the clitoral hood here.
I love yours too.
It's so fun yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I think it's the same lady who makes them all.
She's so cute, I like her.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
I found this one on Etsy.
Is that where you got yours?
yeah, that's you know yourclitoris.
So, like just to kind of giveyou an idea, so we have your.
Do you have a good?
Can you see this?
Well, yeah, I can see thatthat's good.
So, um, when you're looking atthis, like this is you know your
clitoral hood and your clitorisis hiding on, you know your
little part that you can see ishiding under here.
Yay, for theitoral high, butall of this part the legs, this
(10:43):
is the crura, is the legs, thevestibules, like this is the.
You know this part is allhiding, it's all behind, it's
all behind your labia.
So I want to say really quicklyin regards to that you know a
lot of people, you know they, alot of women, are very upset
about how their vulva looks andthey want to go and get like
(11:04):
labiaplasty and such like that.
Well, just keep in mind, yourclitoris is right here behind
those labia and you're perfectjust the way you are, unless you
experience some type of pain,you know, or you know your
doctor is recommending that youget this.
Keep in mind, your vulva isbeautiful just the way it is.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
I think the biggest thing I've heard from women
complaining about that is theway that it it sat there.
They hang.
So maybe because the flaps hangor something like that.
But you're right, I mean, theminute we start messing around
with our parts, any kind of partof our body, let's just be
really clear.
(11:46):
Any kind of surgery okay, butspecifically those particular
parts.
You may not have some, you maylose some feeling in other parts
because you're trying to pullup your labia and then you're
not going to have the bestfeeling.
It could affect you in otherways.
Now, of course, we're notdoctors and we'll leave that
right, we're not doctors, Iwouldn't I wouldn't be messing
(12:09):
around.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
I think you're right just there's no, there's really
truly no reason, you know,unless I think that's the go
with men, though men are theones who can become critical
about.
Oh my God Well that's becausethey're looking at porn and it's
all Photoshopped.
Let's just talk about that fora moment.
Everything is Photoshopped,it's all cropped.
I mean they make the vulva looknice and pretty and like it's
(12:30):
this thing that it's reallytruly not so.
There is that part.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Oh sorry, okay, that's okay.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
So you know.
Just to get back to theclitoris, so you know this, um,
you know when it, when it does,um, expand and arouse internally
, um, it can be up to fiveinches.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
It can, it can grow up to five inches long that's
like a penis, is what I'veactually seen pictures of what
they look like, and they canactually look like an extremely
small, you know thin lot thatcan go out like a penis, like
I've seen them big.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Like some of the, some of the and, interestingly
enough, they actually.
I learned that the clitorisactually grows, like it does get
.
It does get bigger as we age.
So your clitoris isn't the samesize you know at 50 as it is at
you know 16.
So that's kind of interesting.
I thought that was aninteresting thought um fact.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
I remember on Miss Jaya over at Sex uh, love and
Goop or whatever that was onNetflix.
She has that big one that hasall the the you know, the
fingers hanging out at that bigred one.
That's a great one, and I thinkthat she was exactly explaining
that as we get older, they growand they became more
(13:49):
complicated to be able tomaneuver and get excited.
So we need to.
You know what I mean.
Work on that kind of stuff isthat people think that what you
were looking like at 18, 20, oryour sex life even at 30 or 40,
it's going to be the same.
It's not.
It's going to changedrastically and what used to be
the whole pound, pound, boom,whatever done, however, you did
(14:11):
it your way.
It's not.
It's more about connection andloving and being together, and
sometimes there's not the orgasmthat you're going to have.
But let's get back to it theclit.
Okay, so we've got the clit.
All these different, like somany nerve endings.
(14:34):
How do we help someone find outabout a clit, their own
personal clit?
What would be a good.
You know I always love thevagina.
Monologue events there alwayssays take a mirror, get down
there and look.
What is something you couldsuggest.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Well, I mean you're clitoris, I mean the outer part
of it.
You certainly use the mirrorand you can examine it and see
what it looks like.
You know you can even look tosee what it looks like.
You know, if you're doing selfexploration and you're and
you're masturbating, you canlook at it.
You can grab a mirror and lookat it when you're aroused and
see what it looks like on theexternal part I mean obviously
the internal part.
You know that's where you knowtoys and such do come into play.
(15:16):
You know if you're reallylooking to stimulate or just
self massage to figure out, youknow where where your clitoris
is actually sensitive at.
Because you know everybody,every body is different, every
clitoris is different and, as weall know, what works for your
best friend might not work foryou.
You know that amazing thingthat she tried and she had the
most amazing orgasm ever and youtried it and you're like it was
(15:40):
OK.
You're not, yeah, you're notthe same body, you're not broken
.
You just you work differently.
Something else is going to bebetter for you.
So that's whereself-exploration, masturbation,
really comes into play, causeyou can, you can play with that
and you can figure out.
You know which part of myclitoris is.
You know which part of myclitoris is more sensitive?
It might be that part that'ssitting underneath the right
(16:02):
labia.
You know, you don't know.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
What's one for, what works for one doesn't work for
the other and that's why, youknow, you doing your own self
exploration and it's good if youcould do it with your partner
and get them.
But they have to be men, dohave to be patient and you know,
be relaxed about it, because dohave to be patient and you know
, be relaxed about it, cause youknow getting down there, you
know, you know it's nice if youknow, it's nice if you know your
(16:29):
own body so that you can directthem.
Right, exactly, they really dowant it.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
They really do want a little bit of direction.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Yeah, they do, and and rightly so.
I mean, come on, we're help,we're asking them to you know a
big task to get us to have anamazing orgasm, because it
actually is an amazing orgasm.
I mean you know my favorite.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
My other favorite C word is communication.
So you know I'm all abouttalking about it.
So you should be able to tellyour partner what turns you on
because and what doesn't turnyou on in the bedroom, because
if you can't, then maybe you'renot with the right partner.
Yeah, maybe you shouldn't behaving sex with them, because if
you can't talk about it youreally shouldn't be.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Oh, look at that sexy model oh, I didn't mean to do
that.
I I, there we go.
I thought it was gonna make myscreen bigger so I could
actually see.
You know like I could seethings better?
Speaker 2 (17:25):
yeah, sorry that was funny, that was funny, it was
good, it was, that was fun, like, just like all of a sudden, all
of a sudden, I got like thisclose-up of of the sorry.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Well, I saw this thing saying shift and I'm like
it's popping out.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
I'm like what do I do ?
Someday we're gonna're going tolook back on our.
Someday, we're going to lookback on these, on these tapings,
and we're going to be likeyou've come so far, Come so far.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Hey, listen you know, here's the deal.
I'd like to ask who else hasbigger balls than us to get out
here and do this, because ittakes some fucking balls to get
out here and do this.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
So I'm telling you it takes some fucking balls to get
out here and do this, so youknow what I mean.
Good, my goal is for people tolearn.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
So you know, I want people to learn and I'm sorry, I
know I get vulgar, but I am oneof those that say that.
You know, testing is not a badthing, but I will keep it to the
minimum.
Anyway, all right.
So let's we talked about nowthe idea about the how about the
magic button?
Everyone thinks it's the magicbutton.
Now we know it's more okay andit has a lot of nerve endings.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
And it can grow up to .
It can grow up to 300%.
We know when it's aroused.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
So what about?
The clitoris isn't as importantfor sexual pleasure as the
vaginal, because I know we're.
You know, some people thinkthat the vaginal is more
important, or their clit is, orvice versa, and some people
don't have either, and somepeople have both.
So I think the spectrum is vastand that's why how can we tell
(18:58):
people?
Speaker 2 (18:59):
So I mean, you know this is back to that.
Everybody is different.
So 85% of women do, have, dofind stimulation through the
clitoris to be the way to go.
That's not to say that therearen't people that have vaginal
orgasms, vaginal orgasms, but ingeneral the clitoris is there
(19:27):
to help to stimulate you, to getyou excited.
I mean it's you know how do you, how do you play with the Volvo
without touching the clitoris?
Because you really can't.
Because even internally, whenyou're looking at this little
itch right here, even you knowinternally, you know vaginally,
the clitoris hugs these littletwo, these little two, the
(19:47):
vestibule here this is, this isthe vaginal opening right here,
this is your vaginal opening.
So when that penis is righthere, they're hitting that
clitoris.
So, no matter what, theclitoris is always getting hit
and it can't get hit.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
There's certain positions, and there's great
positions, where you can do apenis entry and get the clit at
the same time, and a woman couldhave both orgasm at the same
time with the penis, I mean.
So I think people need torealize that once you know that
(20:23):
the orgasms are vast in theclitoris and your vagina and
they vary and they're going tochange as we get older and
whatever happens to us as wetake medications, everything,
and if we don't have sex a lot,you know, because that's a big
thing, everything.
And if we don't have sex a lot,you know cause that's a big
(20:43):
thing, um, but that's why Ithink we should encourage people
to have sex as much as possiblebecause, as they say, you, we,
that's the one prescription thatthey've left out of how to make
yourself whole, which is, youknow, a low calorie diet,
exercise, don't eat, don't smoke, don't over all these things.
(21:03):
They don't even have sex onthere, not even sex.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
And just to clarify, because that's definitely, you
know, like I'm all my, my stanceis all about self-love.
That's my, that is my coachingniche is self-love and with that
sexual wellness aspect ofthings, so maybe not necessarily
penis and vagina sex, it can bemasturbation, you know, but I
completely agree, you know sometype of you know whether it be,
(21:31):
you know, and it again, this isgoing to differ for everybody.
I mean, some people, some womenwill, we'll say women right now
, cause women are the ones withclitorises.
So we're going to, you know,pronouns, pronouns aside, but if
you have a clitoris, peoplewith clitorises, you can
stimulate them daily if that'swhat you like to do.
(21:51):
I mean, sex drive is differentfor everybody.
Some people do it once, you know, once a day, other people four
times a day, depending on whichtime they have.
But other people, you know,maybe it's once a week.
You, other people, four times aday, depending on how much time
they have, but other people,you know, maybe it's once a week
.
You know it really, it's yourbody.
So you get to decide, you knowwhat works for you.
But if you find yourselfgetting cranky or sad or moody,
go masturbate, go stimulate yourclutter, see what happens.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Oh, it's kind of how I really hate to say this
because it's going to go live,but it's going to be out there.
But we could measure people whodidn't have sex or who had not
had sex in a while by how crankythey were at work.
If they were little biatches,I'm telling you, then we knew
that they weren't having sex andwe're like, oh my God, they
need to have sex.
(22:36):
Sex I could tell when I wasn't.
You know, if I'm cranky, Icould tell when my kids were, I
could tell all around me.
So you are 100%.
Sex is an amazing stress release.
It's amazing for our, ouroverall health, and please go
check out.
I have lots of stuff on myReddit that I posted about this
(22:57):
Um and making sure that everyonehas as much information as
possible, because that's what Ilove to do is provide you a ton
of information.
But, bottom line, when you havesex three, four times a week
with your partner or by yourself, it's amazing what it does for
(23:20):
your overall wellbeing throughyour skin, through your, your
stress level, through cortisol,all of that.
So, and even down there forfemale, we need to bring blood
flow to that area.
Anyway, it's something that noone's talking about bringing
blood flow down to the vaginainside, especially as we get
(23:41):
older and if we're sedentary,you know, because not just older
, but we have a lot of peopleeven in their thirties, now
forties, being extremelysedentary and not bringing blood
flow to that area.
Um, so it's.
It's not only just for females,but it's for men.
It's something that I talk alot about is vibing in the
(24:02):
vagina, which you and I startedtalking about over a year and a
half ago and I also then put onto vagina, or vibing in the anus
for men with a vibratingmassager and for prostate health
.
So I have those podcasts out.
Please go check them out.
Also, a Vibe a Day keeps thedoctor away, because I do
(24:24):
believe that bringing blood flowto the body, it's huge, it's
crazy, huge.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
I mean I've noticed the apple industry used it, so I
feel like we can use it too.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
And the apple industry.
There is absolutely noscientific proof.
I'm going to tell you becauseNot at all.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
It's a marketing point, it's all marketing.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
I'm going to tell you because, except for the fact
that it one apple is anutritional, adds a nutritional
plus to your food intake of theday.
Other than that, if you go readon my Reddit account, I have
all the articles from nationalInstitute of health is because
that's the one I feel like hasthe best information and it all
talks about this.
So, getting down here, here'sone thing I was thinking as you
(25:07):
were talking.
I remember when I was 16, Ididn't know anything about my
vagina and it took me a longtime, and it wasn't until I had
a partner that taught me aboutit and taught me how to play
with myself, because we're notreally taught how to masturbate
and play with ourselves.
So all I could say is for anyfemale that is out there that
has never got into there, gotdown there, got a mirror, got
(25:33):
their fingers down there,figured out their vaginal orgasm
, their clitoral orgasms, edgingorgasm, their clitoral orgasms,
edging everything.
I mean there's so many facetsto it.
I can say try all differentkinds of toys, try combination,
dildo, vibrator, both one each,doesn't matter all different
kinds, and you will find thatyou will be able to go oh,
(25:56):
that's awesome.
And then you interact that withyour partner.
How amazing your relationshipcould be.
So let me encourage people tomasturbate, because I, I do
encourage people to masturbateanyway.
I'm a, I masturbate, I, I justbelieve in it.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Everyone should, and I know and just a real quick
plug for that, you know if any,if any, women are, anybody with
a clitoris is looking for, youknow, not not entirely sure,
what to do for masturbation.
There is a fantastic websitethat does actually provide some
(26:34):
very good educational videos,and it is called O-M-m-g-s dot
com.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Okay, we will put that on the link in my link so
that they can go and just find aplace that they can learn how
to masturbate.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Absolutely.
It's a great resource for that.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Great, and that's why we bring you on Sex Coach, so
you can teach us all these funthings.
Well, let me talk about a toyreally quick.
Yeah, let's talk about someclitorals.
You got a clitoral toy for us.
This is called the woman withthe womanizer.
Enter the pleasure dimension.
This is by orgasms evolved andum, anyways, I read about it.
(27:19):
This thing is kind of coolbecause it looks like it's a
sucker.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
It does puffs in the air.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
It does puffs in the air.
Yes, like y'all.
And they said that this.
Yes, please give a plug, tellus all about it.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I just want to tell you the best review I got of the
Womanizer.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Okay, cool.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
It was a fun conversation and definitely made
me go run out and get my own.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Okay, tell me, because I'm going to get one
after I read this.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
I had a friend that had one and she basically said
that it made her so wet that herpartner needed to go in with he
needed an umbrella and raincoat.
It just made her completely wet.
And so, as a gag at the end ofthe weekend, this was back,
(28:18):
actually COVID, when, um, wewere flying and stuff and I had
I'd gone on a retreat and metthem and everything and um, so I
had one of those masks thatwere like the face shield, so I
did give that to her and then weended up like she got like that
for her husband, like we gotour whole looks, because
apparently, yes, yes, theWomanizer, y'all it's good.
(28:41):
Those little puffs of air, itdoes something crazy.
I mean, it has differentvibrations and woo y'all.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
So the cool thing about this it's actually
patented.
So they patented.
No one else can do this.
It says it can get you off in60 seconds or less.
It's called the OrgasmWhisperer for the clitoris
Amazing.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Y'all.
It does some whispering.
I just want y'all to know.
I don't know if it's whisperingor yelling.
It might be some screaminginvolved.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
That's awesome.
Well, here's the thing is thatif you've never, I have to just
tell females, if you have neverhad an orgasm, that you squirt
through your G-spot.
Whatever squirt, okay, Like I'msaying, not just a little
puddle Email ejaculation.
I'm telling you it is the mostamazing orgasm and I guarantee
(29:36):
you this is.
I can probably guarantee youthis is going to work.
I have something similar, butit probably helps with it.
Yeah, it helps with it.
It helps a little bit.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
Help a little bit.
A little bit.
You also want some G-spotstimulation.
We'll talk about G-spot anotherday.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Oh yeah, okay here this is called a Lola Milani
Mystique Bullet.
Check this thing out.
It has a little look at thatand it opens.
It's a little special chargingcase.
This is a charging case all inone.
Is that cool?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
wow.
So what does the actual toylook like then?
This is this is the toy, okayvery nice.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
This is also for.
This is another.
It's nice, so it's a bigvibrating.
It also is for the clitoris, soshe picked this one out.
Is it nice?
They get lots of reviews onthis one for the clitoris.
That's, that's a.
That's my as you go through ittoo bad.
(30:40):
We can't feel this ourselves no, but you can hear this stuff.
Geez, oh, oh, my, okay.
So we got a couple toys.
That is super slick.
Look at that.
It has this rechargeable littleunit.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
That is, the technology is pretty awesome.
I have to say Like it's yeah,very.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Well, the cool thing about being here is that they
have such a vast.
They have like 75,000 toysbetween toys and outfits and
everything here toys betweentoys and outfits and everything
here.
His online store is currentlydown because he's had so many
products that Shopify could notcarry him.
So he is working on the store,but if you do want to buy any of
(31:20):
these products, please feelfree to-568-6300.
Go to wwwschizo with a Zkittycom and, of course, all of
this stuff is in my link in mybio and this is awesome.
(31:43):
Okay, well, let's do a couplemore.
Do you have any, maybe?
What do you want to talk about?
Maybe a couple more, if youhave a.
Do you have any?
Maybe a couple?
What do you want to talk about?
Maybe a couple more things, andthen we can close it up so, um,
yeah, you know just some funthings.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Um, that I learned, you know, in in doing a little
bit more research for this.
Um, the first clitorissculpture was made by the artist
sophia wallace and it Cliteracy.
So, and just basically, it wascreated to, uh, shed a little
bit of light on thismisunderstood and often ignored
organ.
(32:16):
Um, another fun thing that Ilearned and I felt like this was
pretty cool um, much props toeducation and just goes to show
that, um, the U?
S has so far to come in regardsto sex education, but in France
there is a law that mandatesthat all newly made sex
(32:37):
education models must include aclitoris.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
I love that.
I love when I read that.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
Like you know.
It just amazes me just how muchshame there is in the United
States, you know, I mean, andthe sad thing about it is such a
huge contradiction.
But that's a soapboxconversation for a whole
different day.
A whole different day.
A whole different day.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Oh yeah, no, here's the thing.
We could go on and we couldtalk about lots of different
things about the clitoris.
We could, you know, go on andon different things about the
clitoris.
We could, you know, go on andon.
But you know, we're just tryingto give a little bit of
information so you could takeback, go talk about it with your
partner, significant other,whoever, even just for yourself,
(33:20):
and go explore.
I mean, that's the bottom lineand making it you feel like
you're not weird for looking atthis, like you're not weird.
Okay, it's normal to want to beinterested in learning about
your body and it's normal towant to learn about all parts of
your body, and this is just oneof the female.
That is just not discussed.
(33:40):
So, and some people call mevanilla, like, oh well, you do
vanilla sex.
Well, let me tell you, uh,there's a lot of people that
don't even know about the oldother stuff yet.
So we do have to talk about thevanilla stuff because we need
to educate people, hey, it allstarts out with vanilla.
It all starts out there, and letme just reiterate one more time
(34:04):
If you don't have never had aclitoral orgasm or a vaginal
orgasm, it is time to get downthere and learn about it.
Go to the sex shops.
You could call Schizo Kitty.
One of the ladies there couldhelp guide you in which toy
would be the best one as abeginner.
They're educated.
All the ladies here you callShiloh, reach out to her.
(34:27):
That's what we're here.
We're here to help.
It's free, it doesn't costmoney to get educated.
Okay, that's what we're herefor.
All, right, well, good, well,thanks, shiloh.
Again, you can also reach outto Shiloh.
She does coaching.
She has coaching classes.
(34:48):
So reach out for consulting ifyou want.
My goal is just to provide thisinformation for you.
So, anyways, well, thank you,shiloh for joining me on our
first live over at Schizo Kitty.
I can't wait to get thefeedback.
I have some things I alreadyknow I need to fix, but it's all
good.
That's what we are here to dois to learn, learn, learn.
And that's what life is about,and that's what I want to remind
everyone.
Life is about learning, changingand getting better, and so if
(35:15):
you're not doing these things.
Get out there and start atleast doing one thing a day to
better yourself.
No one's going to change yourlife except for you.
So if you want a better sexlife, you got to start doing
your own stuff.
If you want a better job, gotto start doing your own thing.
So remember, we didn't startdoing this just to start like
that.
Shiloh and I've been working Imean, we both have been helping
each other, coaching, gettingout there on the social media
(35:37):
stuff so it's been a work inprogress for us and nothing
happens overnight Okay, nothing.
So remember, it's a story andeverything is a story and you
have to start somewhere.
Okay, green is green can bestart somewhere, all right.
Well, thanks Shiloh for joiningme.
What's next week?
We have D, so what is next week?
Speaker 2 (35:58):
Well, next week D?
I mean it has to be for dildos,right?
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Dildos I'm so excited .
Speaker 2 (36:04):
And there's a difference between dildos and
vibrators, so we're going totalk about them.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Oh good, yes, that's good.
So we'll bring out some dildosand vibrators, so we're going to
talk about them.
Oh good, yes, that's good.
So we'll bring out some dildosas well this year, next week
from schizo kitty.
All right, well, cool, shiloh,thank you so much for joining me
and thank you everyone else forjoining us.
Live here today and we lookforward to seeing you next week,
tuesday at 11 am.
Bye, shiloh, bye, see youeveryone have a great day okay,
(36:32):
bye.
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