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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Hello, hello and welcome, hi Shiloh.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hi Stephanie, how are you today?
Speaker 1 (00:11):
I am great.
Welcome to Sex Talk A to Z withShiloh and Steph.
We are here every Tuesday atSchizokitty 11 am live for our
podcast and we wanted to do thisfor educational purposes, to
teach people honestly aboutdifferent types of things A to Z
(00:34):
in sex.
It's not to make youuncomfortable, it's to actually
teach you something.
We welcome you and this week weare doing the for dildos, which
is why I have my dildos hereand the good thing is also I
want to talk about that we arenow going to be raffling off
shiloh every week.
Something.
(00:54):
Here's one of our gift basketsthat we have that we're going to
start raffling off startingnext week yay, that's exciting
it has lots of.
It has a rabbit, it has a dildo,it has a vibrator, it has a
butt plug Everything you name it.
So we're going to have adownloadable form next week for
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everyone that they can fill out,and then the following week
Shiloh is so amazing Came upwith this like a wheel of
fortune with everyone's name,and the next week we'll throw
everyone's name in it.
Do the wheel of fortune andpick the next week, and it'll
get mailed out the following day.
So we're excited to be able toprovide stuff for you as while
(01:40):
you're listening to us.
So thank you.
You know, doing lives is thisis not my forte, but I like
talking about sex, so I believethat we need to be less shameful
about it.
As Dr Tina Schirmer-Seller says, sex is better without shame
(02:00):
and it is All right.
So, shiloh, introduce yourself,please to the audience and let
them know why we are doing thistogether.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Absolutely so.
My name is Shiloh Harvey and Iam a sex coach, with Love your O
, and basically I'm an educator.
I've been in the sex educationfield for well over a decade and
it is my passion to help womento live their best lives.
And you know, I think thatsexual wellness has a huge, huge
(02:32):
component of that and it's kindof overlooked in in, well, the
US for sure.
We know that.
We know that shame is ournumber one word when it comes to
sex.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yeah, it is, it kills it, just kills it.
Shame kills it.
Yeah, that's right, and youeven helped me because you've
given me some tools and sometechniques that you do with your
.
You know the people that youcoach and I have done that for
myself and I love that.
(03:04):
So, cause I I asked you, coachme, tell me what do you do?
Cause I wanted to know and, um,it was really cool because I
hadn't heard of those and I'vebeen in the sex industry for a
long time, and so you, you havea nice fresh new idea and a
different way of looking atthings and I love that.
So, and for all my females outthere, she will help you
(03:24):
overcome some of thoseinhibitions, and we all have had
them over the years.
So my background I've been doingsex since I was 18.
My first business wascoin-operated condom machines in
the AIDS epidemic, because Ibelieved that we needed to help
protect them, and so that's beenkind of my journey and it's
(03:45):
been multiple, multiplebusinesses over the years, with
my primary focus in healthcare,which is why my line is sex is
better when you're healthy, andit is.
It is better when you feelhealthy and you feel good and
you look good, because thenyou're like your ambitions.
Oh, I mean just, things canhappen in a good way.
(04:07):
And when I say sex is betterwhen you're healthy, it doesn't
mean you have to be thin, or oh,I can't have a glass of wine,
or I can't have a hamburger, I'ma hamburger, not talking about
that.
I'm talking about taking goodcare of yourself and loving
yourself, and that is one thingthat, shiloh, you had talked
about that you teach, you getwomen going through in the
(04:30):
beginning of your coachingsessions before you even get
into the sex point, and I lovethat.
Thank you, and I'm glad thatyou were the one who's like,
let's do sex A to Z.
And I'm like, oh, my God, okay,and here we go.
So now we're on D, and thankyou, cause I'm getting more and
(04:50):
more comfortable.
The panic attacks are subsiding,the anxiety, the stomach oh,
I'm doing, this is gone, it'sgetting gone.
So that's a little bit.
So let me just talk to you thatwe're going to spice up your
educational for whatever youalready know, we're just going
to spice it up a little bit,give you a little bit more
information that you probablydidn't know.
(05:12):
It's not to force you intodoing anything, making you want
to do anything, it's justteaching you.
And so if you have any othereducational conversations that
you want to have, you can talkto Shiloh.
The girls at Schizo Kitty areall trained.
In fact, I get to go throughthe training.
I'm super excited about that,so I will learn about that today
.
But they've all been throughsexual health training and so
(05:33):
that, yeah, so it's super coolthat it is becoming the new
thing.
And let's just say, as I don'tknow who else went through 2008,
but I did.
I lost everything and I'm goingto tell you, when we go through
recession, alcohol and sex sexare the number one topic, so we
might as well talk about it andget a little comfortable.
(05:56):
So let's do it.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Today's conversation is deeper, jesse may I say
really like how awesome is it?
The sex toy store that you'reworking, that you're at, is
trains their people on sexualhealth, like.
I think back to that first likeencounter that I had when I was
18 and going into a sex store,which I just want to say it was
(06:19):
in Green Bay, wisconsin.
So anybody out there that livesWisconsin I don't know what I'm
talking about because I got ahardcore, I feel like, when I
moved to Wisconsin.
First of all, I grew up inIllinois, in the Chicago area,
where you know you would thinkthat you know like sex stores
would be a thing, but I justwant to tell you they were not.
And when I moved to Wisconsin,like the very first thing that I
(06:41):
noticed, like driving up thehighway, their sex stores, their
sex toy stores on the side ofthe road are there, like you
just pull off and you go, likethis was a Wisconsin thing,
right?
So, anyway, my first voyageinto a sex store.
I mean it was dark for real.
It was a little bit like Idon't know what people are doing
behind that curtain, but I knowthat if they put in some money
(07:02):
or whatever, they got to watchshows, so 18 year old me might
have been a little bit wow byyes yes she dare you and most of
the sex stores, for these sextoy stores that are coming you
know and really becomingeducated and being able to help
their customers and you know,yes, what they need to know, so
that's cool, so yeah we'recoming.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yes, it.
That is so cool that you saythat, because you are right.
I think that a lot of peoplehave a misconception about what
adult stores are about, and thisparticular store is not only
about the sex toys, but it alsohas lingerie.
It has integrative toys for youto play with, not only for
yourself with partners.
It has things for yourself withpartners.
(07:43):
It has things for yourself.
You know you are a single personand you want to have a motor
bunny or a female.
You know there's the gamma iscrazy.
So, and it is interesting thatyou say that, because back in
the day it was dark, it wasdingy, he used to have rooms
where you could put the quarterin and you could have a little
(08:04):
room.
Well, and people do still comein here and ask for those things
, and the ladies have told methat and so and I've seen people
come in looking for what'sbehind those curtains there's no
bathroom and there is nobathroom.
You know those things.
You probably will find them inthe major metropolitan cities
(08:26):
like LA, san Francisco, thingslike that.
I mean, when I used to visitthem in San Francisco, they had
stairs going down, they haddifferent rooms, they had
dungeons.
I mean, the gamma is just.
It's crazy what you can see.
What you can see.
(08:49):
But sex store, adult stores thatsell product is strictly about
selling product and helpingpeople connect at a higher level
in their relationship.
And the cool thing about hereis that what I'm learning,
because this is new for me butthese ladies are all educated.
They all went through a class,a course.
I mean it was so cool to watchhow they work with people, a
23-year-old talking to a70-year-old about anal sex and
(09:10):
everyone, being comfortable,loved it Like, oh my gosh,
seriously.
So let's go on and talk aboutthe big D, d, d D.
Her delos, her heels.
Oh, I was going to try and dothat.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Twain, I'm not going up.
We didn't have any of theclothes he's flexing down he is
this one's good section?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
yeah, oh, and, by the way, you can get car dents out
of these.
You can put these on the cardents.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I've seen that video.
Yep, I mean, I've never triedit, but I have seen it.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
They were let's talk about some myths about the
dildos, because people thinkit's just for a personal use,
just for me.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
So I mean you know that's not necessarily true.
I mean you know when you lookat dildos, I mean like any toy,
I mean they're going to be.
You know they're toys foreveryone.
You know both.
You know you can use themtogether with a partner, you can
use it by yourself.
Just depends on you know whatyou want to do.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Or you could do it for double penetration, which I
love.
Somebody came in this weekend.
That was really cool to watchmy, the 23 year old.
I just loved watching that.
Just, you know her verycomfortable talking, and that's
what I love is that it's a safeplace to go into the adult
stores and talk about it.
So, um, but the doublepenetration that's a good one.
(10:30):
So if your man is a little toobig and you want a smaller dildo
to go inside your anus, you cando that as well.
So just a smaller dildo, youknow?
Okay, so now I.
So they say that, um, it's onlyused by females.
Now we know that's not thetruth.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
It's not true.
Like I just said, it's used byyou know, it's used by everyone
you can use.
You can both use them together.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
And I want to be clear I don't care if you're gay
or straight.
Even straight men use so it'snot manners.
Exactly and again when.
I just want you to know ifyou're making comments.
I certainly appreciate it.
Thank you so much, but I'massuming that we probably are
not going to be able to see them, so we will respond after.
But thank you, I can see peoplewatching us.
(11:15):
It's just, our topic issomething that's uncomfortable
for a lot of people.
Okay, anyway, with regards tothe dildos, they're not just for
gay men, they're not just forfemales, for straight females or
gay females, they're forstraight men too, and having a
female have a strap on and dothat to a male, it could be a
(11:36):
turn on, because the male anushas a lot of sensitivity down
there, both anuses are.
I know we already talked aboutanal sex, but using the dildo
for those purposes is certainlyimportant.
Good is awesome, but with that,I want you to talk about
lubrication.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Oh yes, Well, definitely need it.
Lubrication is always a must.
I mean, you know, andespecially when it comes to anal
play, you definitely want tohave lubricant.
I mean, if you're playing witha toy, you want to have it
properly lubricated.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
You know, you need to remember that.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
So just remember, when it comes to anal play, you
want to have a siliconelubricant that's not absorbed in
tissues, so more.
Otherwise, a water-basedlubricant is fantastic to use
and you know it's okay to use alubricant.
It doesn't mean that yourpartner's not turned on if
they're using a lubricant justbecause you need that.
Women, we have all kinds ofstuff going on with us.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
You know our partners need to realize that yes,
exactly, we're precious littleflowers is really kind of what
we are yeah, yes as you said,monica from friends says calls
her little thing a flower, andit is.
Each petal is very delicate andvery special and can do a lot
of amazing things.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Tell us more about the dildo first of all, dildo
and a vibrator are two separatethings, Because a vibrator is a
vibrator and it vibrates.
A dildo does not mean that itvibrates.
So a dildo generally is goingto mean that it does not vibrate
.
It can be created withdifferent you know different
substances.
I want to bring up the last one, because this one where you
(13:10):
know it's kind of interesting,You're like, oh, but when it
breaks, you know it's kind ofinteresting.
You're like, oh, I want tobreak.
You know it's not going tobreak at all, they're safe,
they're made so that they canstand.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
They're usually made out of Pyrex material so you can
eat them and all that and theydon't.
They're really not breakable.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
You're right and, like you just mentioned, you
know.
So the nice thing about glassis that you can.
You can heat it up, you cancool it off so you can go in the
freezer.
You know you can have thoseextra sensations with the glass
and I have a lot of clients whoabsolutely love the glass, you
know, and are, like you know,love glass, like bring them back
.
So glass is always good.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
You can also let me stay right there right now.
Hold on one second.
Let's stay with the glass.
Um, they have an amazingselection and glass vibrator
dildos here sorry, dildos.
Amazing selection.
Also about plants as well.
Um, that was a business that Idid do back in the day when I
was 30, so like 25 years ago.
(14:06):
Sorry, there's a fly.
It is going to be super hothere today.
It's going to be like 95degrees, but the glass dildo
stuff is super fun.
People think, oh, that looksit's so hard.
It is hard, but it's supposedto be, it's not supposed to be
painful.
So you can get all differentkinds of sizes.
Cooling them and heating themare awesome.
(14:28):
It adds a different flair toyour sexual experience.
They are dishwasher safe, by theway, and I only know this
because when I was selling Ihave to tell a story when I was
selling my glass dildos, we usedto give them out to people or
test right To test, and thenthey give them back clean.
(14:50):
I'd still boil them, wash them,and then I'd throw them in the
dishwasher.
And so I had my formermother-in-law come she goes what
would you like me to do?
Not clean, I'd still boil them,wash them, and then I'd throw
them in the dishwasher.
And so I had my formermother-in-law come.
She goes, what would you likeme to do?
And I said, oh, could youplease empty the dishwasher?
That would be awesome.
And so I come home and thedishwasher is not emptied and
I'm like, damn, that's the onlything I asked her to do, like I
mean, she did a lot of otherthings, but I opened the top.
(15:11):
That's why she didn't open it.
She didn't put the dishes awaybecause the whole top level was
full of glass.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Yes, and no, I wasn't Not wanting to put them in the
dishwasher.
There are toy cleaners that youcan use that are absolutely
fantastic for use.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Well, we were reusing them and we were having to give
them back out to other peopleand and because we were testing
them.
So everyone knew we weretesting.
And are you kidding everyone?
Okay, because they got a freeone.
Um, yeah, it was awesome, butmy point is that, um, don't be
scared to try things.
Even though they may look scary, you'll find that they actually
(15:52):
can be super fun.
You know to try and you knowyou can get most of them
anywhere from under 75, and youwere up to 500 bucks it could
just anywhere, but to get one tohave is super fun.
So, yeah, definitely Okay.
So now we talked about theglass ones and now you were
talking about the silicone.
So there is also silicone,mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
So there is also silicone.
So similar to the one thatshe's batting around behind her,
that's such in there.
It's going to be a silicone.
Those are going to be nice.
They're going to be what you'reprobably most used to when it
comes to a vibrator, becausemost of your vibrators are going
to be made of a siliconematerial.
Don't throw those ones in thedishwasher.
Um, also, we're talking 25years ago, that's one thing to
(16:36):
know.
I know, but people are gonna getstuck on that, for, like, I can
throw it in the dishwasher,don't throw your dishwasher,
y'all.
It's not a good plan.
They learn that just becausethey used to do that.
That's why the joke is thereshame on me.
Bad habits okay you know whatyou didn't know, what you didn't
know 25 years ago.
Oh, we learn.
You know what you didn't know,what you didn't know 25 years
ago.
Oh, we learn, we learn.
(16:57):
Oh, and you know what I'mpointing out about your silicone
, your silicone dildos, is storethem together, please, if you
don't want them touching.
You always want to keep themapart.
They do create, like toy toy,little toy bags.
You can separate them with atowel, but you don't want them
touching together Because ifthey touch together you could
come fall into your drawer andlook and see, can you have one
(17:18):
fly instead of two?
Because they became melonstogether and you don't want that
.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yeah, and you probably want to clean them
after the use and not leave.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
You want to make sure that you're cleaning them
before and after each use.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Yes, yes, definitely.
People need to realize,especially women and men may not
understand, but if they're notcleaned well, we easily can get
a bladder infection, a yeastinfection or kind of a back, any
kind of infection, Backinfections.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
Yeah, we're super sensitive down there to all that
.
So, making sure all thewhatever you wipe it off with,
whatever toy cleaner you use,that you definitely make sure
it's all done gone before youinsert and whatnot.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Be sensitive to that and think of it with your hands.
Y'all Like wash your hands, I'mbig on.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
I got to tell you I'm big on the shower or bath
before the sex stuff because thegenitals carry so much bacteria
before the sex stuff, becausethe genitals carry so much
bacteria and I found over theyears that that has worked the
best.
Where I have the least amountof infections is by doing that
particular process before sex.
(18:24):
And I think that if peoplecould have a good cleanliness I
mean, I know ravaged sex aftergoing out and having fun Okay,
cool, you're not going toprobably help in the shower but
take a towel, wipe yourself offwe just carry a lot of gooky
stuff around all day, and mencan get infections too from
women's stuff, so it goes backand forth.
(18:48):
So it is important to stayhygiene and clean and all that.
So, yeah, yes, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Definitely so.
Other options for your dildosyou can also get them in a
stainless steel.
So, again, like the glass, themetal can be cooled and warmed
up.
Yay, you know they're going tostay firm, you know.
So that's always a nice thing.
And then, last but not least,stone dildos.
So these ones made of graniteor marble, and a hard, smooth
(19:17):
sensation.
I have never seen this on one.
I just want to say I've neveractually seen that.
Awesome, I haven't either, butI can say, under the same, you
know, you can definitely warmthem up, cool them off, kind of
thing as well.
I also have that same theme andcategory there.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, that's really fun why we're talking about this
and talking about the differenttypes of products to put inside
your and play with.
Please, please, do not put in.
I know people like to just tryother items out there in the
world vegetables, other productsat home, whatnot, and cucumber
and cucumbers, carrots, I'veheard but the problem with these
(20:02):
things is that they can splitoff and actually create an issue
inside of your vaginas.
Putting any types of productsother than products that are
clear to be safe to go into yourvagina you probably don't want
to do.
Otherwise it will go to death.
I have, unfortunately, seen afemale.
I was very shocked about it,but she died from that, wow.
(20:25):
So, yeah, that was prettyshocking, yeah, and so I just
wanted to say, as we're talkingabout putting products in our
vaginas, don't put things thatare not safe in your vagina, you
know.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
And also, yeah, and I mean with the food.
You know one thing that sugarscreate can create urinary tract
infections, all those funbacteria infections.
So you know, you want to makesure.
You know whipped cream soundslike fun, but keep it up, up top
, not below, because thosesugars can cause infections.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
So keep it on the nipple If you want to yep, put
it on the nipple.
If you want to Lick it offthere, but don't take it
downstairs y'all, that goes bothways.
Don't put it on his either,because if y'all are going to
have sex afterwards, that sugarthat was on his, you know, it's
kind of still there's traces.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Keep it high.
You know, don't do sugars y'all, it's not good.
Yeah, Get the safe products forall of those edible fun times.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Yes, and, by the way, they have a lot of edible fun
products here that are safe foryou to use down under, and they
have a lot of heating oils, alot of different types of lubes
and play stuff.
So go out and experiment.
But go to your local adultstore, call us.
We could get you guys all setup.
(21:45):
Whoever wants to get a littlepacket of goodies sent to them,
so the ladies are happy to helpas well, all right.
Well, anything else about ourdildos that we want to talk
about?
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Well, let's just talk about you know, I guess one
question that always comes up ishow do I talk to my partner
about this?
how do I bring this up like howdo we talk about this?
I don't know why sex is scaryto talk about.
It goes back to that shamething y'all.
We don't talk about it becausewe're shamed of it.
And then we think that, oh mygosh, if I ask to add a toy to
the bedroom, like he's gonnathink that I'm trying to replace
(22:19):
him.
I mean, there's so manymisconceptions about toys and I
just want you to know that thevibrator was invented by because
women used to go to the doctorto get treatments and these
treatments that poor doctor eat,that carpal tunnel and the
vibrator would form as a resultof that.
Just want to say this used tobe a medical practice for the
(22:41):
vibrator.
Now, obviously, dildos havebeen around for a lot longer.
But you know, when you'regetting around to introducing a
toy, you know think of your sexytime or time with your partner.
You know that's your playtime.
So why not introduce toys?
But you can reassure them thatit's not there to replace them.
(23:02):
You're never replacing them,you're letting them play
different.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
It's just an integration To me.
You got to bring toys in tobuild better connection.
And if she does end up having adifferent type of orgasm when
she has a dildo in her, it willbe probably different when
there's penicentery.
And that doesn't mean that yourpenicentery isn't what she does
, she's going to replace that.
(23:27):
No, they're just differentorgasms and if you go to our
clitoral podcast or live streamthat we did, the woman's
clitoris and down under is sothere's so many facets and we
have so many different types oforgasms.
I mean I can't even tell you.
(23:47):
I mean I wouldn't even tell youhow many different types I have
.
I don't know.
I keep on still experiencing,especially as I get older.
I experience them evendifferently.
So, and I still, to this day,use integration of a dildo and
vibrator combo and even withpartners, I still do, and I
think it's healthy, it's superhealthy and it's not replacing
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the partner, it's just adifferent feel.
And I know the big one felldown.
But you know, I'll tell you,when you have a big, when a
female can put a child throughtheir or through their vagina
Okay, I know men don't like tothink like that, but when you
have a bigger dildo inside ofyou.
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Your, your body can stretch tothat and that orgasm can be
super amazing.
So trying all kinds ofdifferent sizes and all that is
super, not shameful in arelationship when you're trying
to connect with your partner.
It's healthy, yeah, Superhealthy.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Can't be ashamed of what makes you come, just run
out of it.
Oh yeah, any.
You don't have fun.
You don't take your, take yoursignificant other over to the
sex toy store.
You know there are thosehelpful people that can help you
with shopping.
But also it's just helpful,like look at the website with
your, with your partner, likesee what they're thinking about
(25:13):
things.
Like you don't even know whatthey're thinking about things
until you actually have aconversation about it.
So you know, open up.
I learned.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Some people talked about some things this weekend.
This weekend I was like, wow,cool, never tried that before,
awesome, you know.
So you know we had a bridegroup come in and, um, she got a
little bridal outfit and shepaired it with a butterfly for
the remote to her man.
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I mean, what a better.
I mean, come on, have fun.
You know, just playing aroundis really key to in a
relationship and I know we didour series of dead bedrooms last
year and it's like it's just,it's crazy, dead bedrooms.
It's called we got to talk,it's time to have a talk, and
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they're difficult to have.
They're really difficult.
And if you're not comfortablewith your partner, meaning like
you don't have a goodrelationship already, that's got
to be worked on first.
People to understand, you knowyou got to fix those things
first before you can really havea good sexual relationship.
But working on those will builda better sex relationship
because that means you'reconnecting emotionally and
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physically and that's what womenwant.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
So that's right, absolutely Women like that.
Women need the emotionalconnection.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
Yes, Women definitely are emotional.
We are emotional creatures,y'all All 85 different
personalities that we have likewe're emotional.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Yes, we are, yes, okay.
Well, let me just say a couplemore things.
What we're doing here, shilohand I, with that, with Schizo
Kitty, we're doing our raffles.
We're going to have events.
That's the reason why I'mdressed in my muumuu today.
I'll take a picture with, havethe gals take a picture of me in
my Mrs Roper costume.
So we'll do little events.
(27:07):
That's a big deal here inSouthern California is Mrs Roper
events and everyone dresses asMrs Roper.
We have them across the country.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Is it?
Is it good over there too?
Yeah, good over there too.
I heard of, actually, a friendof mine not too long ago was
just talking about doing thatI'm in Austin.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
I just got accepted to do Mrs Roper in the
Huntington Beach 4th of Julyparade.
If you've never been to 4th ofJuly parade in Huntington Beach,
it's like one of the best 4thof July parties ever.
And so I just got accepted tobe a Miss Roper in the 4th of
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July, Huntington BeachCongratulations.
So we will be representingSchizo Kitty and the Gilston.
Let's talk about sex with me,Stephanie Smith.
So that will be super fun.
So that's what we're going todo.
We're going to do events andmore lives, and as we get more
comfortable, we'll do even morethings.
So it's super fun teachingeveryone about A to Z about sex.
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So I'm going to do.
You have anything else to say?
My love.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
You know I'm here.
I'm here as a coach to you know, help the ladies.
You know I'm here to help youfeel better about yourself.
If you have a goal that you'vebeen trying to figure out, like
why you can't get there and youneed that extra support, I'm
here for you.
You want to talk about yoursexuality and discover what it
is that you actually like andfigure out how to come out about
what it is that you want andrelease that shame, let out
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about what it is that you wantand release that shame.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
Let's talk.
Let's talk, all right.
Well, that's great.
Okay, so we've reached the endof another exhilarating episode
of Sex Talk A to Z with Stephand Shiloh.
If you have managed to stickwith us to the end, give
yourself a pat on the back andwe do.
We have people at the end.
Thank you so much.
You are officially a certifiedsex ed warrior.
We you are officially acertified sex ed warrior.
We can't thank you enough fortuning in, laughing with us and
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hopefully learning a thing ortwo along the way.
Your support keeps us going, sodon't forget to subscribe, like
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Until next time, stay curious,stay safe and remember it's all
about the ABCs Always be curious.
See you next time.
All right, thanks, shiloh forjoining me.
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Have a great one.
Thanks, abby.
Bye, everyone, bye.
Hello, hello and welcome, hi Shiloh.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hi Stephanie, how are you today?
Speaker 1 (00:11):
I am great.
Welcome to Sex Talk A to Z withShiloh and Steph.
We are here every Tuesday atSchizokitty 11 am live for our
podcast and we wanted to do thisfor educational purposes, to
teach people honestly aboutdifferent types of things A to Z
(00:34):
in sex.
It's not to make youuncomfortable, it's to actually
teach you something.
We welcome you and this week weare doing the for dildos, which
is why I have my dildos hereand the good thing is also I
want to talk about that we arenow going to be raffling off
shiloh every week.
Something.
(00:54):
Here's one of our gift basketsthat we have that we're going to
start raffling off startingnext week yay, that's exciting
it has lots of.
It has a rabbit, it has a dildo,it has a vibrator, it has a
butt plug Everything you name it.
So we're going to have adownloadable form next week for
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everyone that they can fill out,and then the following week
Shiloh is so amazing Came upwith this like a wheel of
fortune with everyone's name,and the next week we'll throw
everyone's name in it.
Do the wheel of fortune andpick the next week, and it'll
get mailed out the following day.
So we're excited to be able toprovide stuff for you as while
(01:40):
you're listening to us.
So thank you.
You know, doing lives is thisis not my forte, but I like
talking about sex, so I believethat we need to be less shameful
about it.
As Dr Tina Schirmer-Seller says, sex is better without shame
(02:00):
and it is All right.
So, shiloh, introduce yourself,please to the audience and let
them know why we are doing thistogether.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Absolutely so.
My name is Shiloh Harvey and Iam a sex coach, with Love your O
, and basically I'm an educator.
I've been in the sex educationfield for well over a decade and
it is my passion to help womento live their best lives.
And you know, I think thatsexual wellness has a huge, huge
(02:32):
component of that and it's kindof overlooked in in, well, the
US for sure.
We know that.
We know that shame is ournumber one word when it comes to
sex.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yeah, it is, it kills it, just kills it.
Shame kills it.
Yeah, that's right, and youeven helped me because you've
given me some tools and sometechniques that you do with your
.
You know the people that youcoach and I have done that for
myself and I love that.
(03:04):
So, cause I I asked you, coachme, tell me what do you do?
Cause I wanted to know and, um,it was really cool because I
hadn't heard of those and I'vebeen in the sex industry for a
long time, and so you, you havea nice fresh new idea and a
different way of looking atthings and I love that.
So, and for all my females outthere, she will help you
(03:24):
overcome some of thoseinhibitions, and we all have had
them over the years.
So my background I've been doingsex since I was 18.
My first business wascoin-operated condom machines in
the AIDS epidemic, because Ibelieved that we needed to help
protect them, and so that's beenkind of my journey and it's
(03:45):
been multiple, multiplebusinesses over the years, with
my primary focus in healthcare,which is why my line is sex is
better when you're healthy, andit is.
It is better when you feelhealthy and you feel good and
you look good, because thenyou're like your ambitions.
Oh, I mean just, things canhappen in a good way.
(04:07):
And when I say sex is betterwhen you're healthy, it doesn't
mean you have to be thin, or oh,I can't have a glass of wine,
or I can't have a hamburger, I'ma hamburger, not talking about
that.
I'm talking about taking goodcare of yourself and loving
yourself, and that is one thingthat, shiloh, you had talked
about that you teach, you getwomen going through in the
(04:30):
beginning of your coachingsessions before you even get
into the sex point, and I lovethat.
Thank you, and I'm glad thatyou were the one who's like,
let's do sex A to Z.
And I'm like, oh, my God, okay,and here we go.
So now we're on D, and thankyou, cause I'm getting more and
(04:50):
more comfortable.
The panic attacks are subsiding,the anxiety, the stomach oh,
I'm doing, this is gone, it'sgetting gone.
So that's a little bit.
So let me just talk to you thatwe're going to spice up your
educational for whatever youalready know, we're just going
to spice it up a little bit,give you a little bit more
information that you probablydidn't know.
(05:12):
It's not to force you intodoing anything, making you want
to do anything, it's justteaching you.
And so if you have any othereducational conversations that
you want to have, you can talkto Shiloh.
The girls at Schizo Kitty areall trained.
In fact, I get to go throughthe training.
I'm super excited about that,so I will learn about that today
.
But they've all been throughsexual health training and so
(05:33):
that, yeah, so it's super coolthat it is becoming the new
thing.
And let's just say, as I don'tknow who else went through 2008,
but I did.
I lost everything and I'm goingto tell you, when we go through
recession, alcohol and sex sexare the number one topic, so we
might as well talk about it andget a little comfortable.
(05:56):
So let's do it.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Today's conversation is deeper, jesse may I say
really like how awesome is it?
The sex toy store that you'reworking, that you're at, is
trains their people on sexualhealth, like.
I think back to that first likeencounter that I had when I was
18 and going into a sex store,which I just want to say it was
(06:19):
in Green Bay, wisconsin.
So anybody out there that livesWisconsin I don't know what I'm
talking about because I got ahardcore, I feel like, when I
moved to Wisconsin.
First of all, I grew up inIllinois, in the Chicago area,
where you know you would thinkthat you know like sex stores
would be a thing, but I justwant to tell you they were not.
And when I moved to Wisconsin,like the very first thing that I
(06:41):
noticed, like driving up thehighway, their sex stores, their
sex toy stores on the side ofthe road are there, like you
just pull off and you go, likethis was a Wisconsin thing,
right?
So, anyway, my first voyageinto a sex store.
I mean it was dark for real.
It was a little bit like Idon't know what people are doing
behind that curtain, but I knowthat if they put in some money
(07:02):
or whatever, they got to watchshows, so 18 year old me might
have been a little bit wow byyes yes she dare you and most of
the sex stores, for these sextoy stores that are coming you
know and really becomingeducated and being able to help
their customers and you know,yes, what they need to know, so
that's cool, so yeah we'recoming.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yes, it.
That is so cool that you saythat, because you are right.
I think that a lot of peoplehave a misconception about what
adult stores are about, and thisparticular store is not only
about the sex toys, but it alsohas lingerie.
It has integrative toys for youto play with, not only for
yourself with partners.
It has things for yourself withpartners.
(07:43):
It has things for yourself.
You know you are a single personand you want to have a motor
bunny or a female.
You know there's the gamma iscrazy.
So, and it is interesting thatyou say that, because back in
the day it was dark, it wasdingy, he used to have rooms
where you could put the quarterin and you could have a little
(08:04):
room.
Well, and people do still comein here and ask for those things
, and the ladies have told methat and so and I've seen people
come in looking for what'sbehind those curtains there's no
bathroom and there is nobathroom.
You know those things.
You probably will find them inthe major metropolitan cities
(08:26):
like LA, san Francisco, thingslike that.
I mean, when I used to visitthem in San Francisco, they had
stairs going down, they haddifferent rooms, they had
dungeons.
I mean, the gamma is just.
It's crazy what you can see.
What you can see.
(08:49):
But sex store, adult stores thatsell product is strictly about
selling product and helpingpeople connect at a higher level
in their relationship.
And the cool thing about hereis that what I'm learning,
because this is new for me butthese ladies are all educated.
They all went through a class,a course.
I mean it was so cool to watchhow they work with people, a
23-year-old talking to a70-year-old about anal sex and
(09:10):
everyone, being comfortable,loved it Like, oh my gosh,
seriously.
So let's go on and talk aboutthe big D, d, d D.
Her delos, her heels.
Oh, I was going to try and dothat.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Twain, I'm not going up.
We didn't have any of theclothes he's flexing down he is
this one's good section?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
yeah, oh, and, by the way, you can get car dents out
of these.
You can put these on the cardents.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I've seen that video.
Yep, I mean, I've never triedit, but I have seen it.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
They were let's talk about some myths about the
dildos, because people thinkit's just for a personal use,
just for me.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
So I mean you know that's not necessarily true.
I mean you know when you lookat dildos, I mean like any toy,
I mean they're going to be.
You know they're toys foreveryone.
You know both.
You know you can use themtogether with a partner, you can
use it by yourself.
Just depends on you know whatyou want to do.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Or you could do it for double penetration, which I
love.
Somebody came in this weekend.
That was really cool to watchmy, the 23 year old.
I just loved watching that.
Just, you know her verycomfortable talking, and that's
what I love is that it's a safeplace to go into the adult
stores and talk about it.
So, um, but the doublepenetration that's a good one.
(10:30):
So if your man is a little toobig and you want a smaller dildo
to go inside your anus, you cando that as well.
So just a smaller dildo, youknow?
Okay, so now I.
So they say that, um, it's onlyused by females.
Now we know that's not thetruth.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
It's not true.
Like I just said, it's used byyou know, it's used by everyone
you can use.
You can both use them together.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
And I want to be clear I don't care if you're gay
or straight.
Even straight men use so it'snot manners.
Exactly and again when.
I just want you to know ifyou're making comments.
I certainly appreciate it.
Thank you so much, but I'massuming that we probably are
not going to be able to see them, so we will respond after.
But thank you, I can see peoplewatching us.
(11:15):
It's just, our topic issomething that's uncomfortable
for a lot of people.
Okay, anyway, with regards tothe dildos, they're not just for
gay men, they're not just forfemales, for straight females or
gay females, they're forstraight men too, and having a
female have a strap on and dothat to a male, it could be a
(11:36):
turn on, because the male anushas a lot of sensitivity down
there, both anuses are.
I know we already talked aboutanal sex, but using the dildo
for those purposes is certainlyimportant.
Good is awesome, but with that,I want you to talk about
lubrication.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Oh yes, Well, definitely need it.
Lubrication is always a must.
I mean, you know, andespecially when it comes to anal
play, you definitely want tohave lubricant.
I mean, if you're playing witha toy, you want to have it
properly lubricated.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
You know, you need to remember that.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
So just remember, when it comes to anal play, you
want to have a siliconelubricant that's not absorbed in
tissues, so more.
Otherwise, a water-basedlubricant is fantastic to use
and you know it's okay to use alubricant.
It doesn't mean that yourpartner's not turned on if
they're using a lubricant justbecause you need that.
Women, we have all kinds ofstuff going on with us.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
You know our partners need to realize that yes,
exactly, we're precious littleflowers is really kind of what
we are yeah, yes as you said,monica from friends says calls
her little thing a flower, andit is.
Each petal is very delicate andvery special and can do a lot
of amazing things.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Tell us more about the dildo first of all, dildo
and a vibrator are two separatethings, Because a vibrator is a
vibrator and it vibrates.
A dildo does not mean that itvibrates.
So a dildo generally is goingto mean that it does not vibrate
.
It can be created withdifferent you know different
substances.
I want to bring up the last one, because this one where you
(13:10):
know it's kind of interesting,You're like, oh, but when it
breaks, you know it's kind ofinteresting.
You're like, oh, I want tobreak.
You know it's not going tobreak at all, they're safe,
they're made so that they canstand.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
They're usually made out of Pyrex material so you can
eat them and all that and theydon't.
They're really not breakable.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
You're right and, like you just mentioned, you
know.
So the nice thing about glassis that you can.
You can heat it up, you cancool it off so you can go in the
freezer.
You know you can have thoseextra sensations with the glass
and I have a lot of clients whoabsolutely love the glass, you
know, and are, like you know,love glass, like bring them back
.
So glass is always good.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
You can also let me stay right there right now.
Hold on one second.
Let's stay with the glass.
Um, they have an amazingselection and glass vibrator
dildos here sorry, dildos.
Amazing selection.
Also about plants as well.
Um, that was a business that Idid do back in the day when I
was 30, so like 25 years ago.
(14:06):
Sorry, there's a fly.
It is going to be super hothere today.
It's going to be like 95degrees, but the glass dildo
stuff is super fun.
People think, oh, that looksit's so hard.
It is hard, but it's supposedto be, it's not supposed to be
painful.
So you can get all differentkinds of sizes.
Cooling them and heating themare awesome.
(14:28):
It adds a different flair toyour sexual experience.
They are dishwasher safe, by theway, and I only know this
because when I was selling Ihave to tell a story when I was
selling my glass dildos, we usedto give them out to people or
test right To test, and thenthey give them back clean.
(14:50):
I'd still boil them, wash them,and then I'd throw them in the
dishwasher.
And so I had my formermother-in-law come she goes what
would you like me to do?
Not clean, I'd still boil them,wash them, and then I'd throw
them in the dishwasher.
And so I had my formermother-in-law come.
She goes, what would you likeme to do?
And I said, oh, could youplease empty the dishwasher?
That would be awesome.
And so I come home and thedishwasher is not emptied and
I'm like, damn, that's the onlything I asked her to do, like I
mean, she did a lot of otherthings, but I opened the top.
(15:11):
That's why she didn't open it.
She didn't put the dishes awaybecause the whole top level was
full of glass.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Yes, and no, I wasn't Not wanting to put them in the
dishwasher.
There are toy cleaners that youcan use that are absolutely
fantastic for use.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Well, we were reusing them and we were having to give
them back out to other peopleand and because we were testing
them.
So everyone knew we weretesting.
And are you kidding everyone?
Okay, because they got a freeone.
Um, yeah, it was awesome, butmy point is that, um, don't be
scared to try things.
Even though they may look scary, you'll find that they actually
(15:52):
can be super fun.
You know to try and you knowyou can get most of them
anywhere from under 75, and youwere up to 500 bucks it could
just anywhere, but to get one tohave is super fun.
So, yeah, definitely Okay.
So now we talked about theglass ones and now you were
talking about the silicone.
So there is also silicone,mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
So there is also silicone.
So similar to the one thatshe's batting around behind her,
that's such in there.
It's going to be a silicone.
Those are going to be nice.
They're going to be what you'reprobably most used to when it
comes to a vibrator, becausemost of your vibrators are going
to be made of a siliconematerial.
Don't throw those ones in thedishwasher.
Um, also, we're talking 25years ago, that's one thing to
(16:36):
know.
I know, but people are gonna getstuck on that, for, like, I can
throw it in the dishwasher,don't throw your dishwasher,
y'all.
It's not a good plan.
They learn that just becausethey used to do that.
That's why the joke is thereshame on me.
Bad habits okay you know whatyou didn't know, what you didn't
know 25 years ago.
Oh, we learn.
You know what you didn't know,what you didn't know 25 years
ago.
Oh, we learn, we learn.
(16:57):
Oh, and you know what I'mpointing out about your silicone
, your silicone dildos, is storethem together, please, if you
don't want them touching.
You always want to keep themapart.
They do create, like toy toy,little toy bags.
You can separate them with atowel, but you don't want them
touching together Because ifthey touch together you could
come fall into your drawer andlook and see, can you have one
(17:18):
fly instead of two?
Because they became melonstogether and you don't want that
.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yeah, and you probably want to clean them
after the use and not leave.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
You want to make sure that you're cleaning them
before and after each use.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Yes, yes, definitely.
People need to realize,especially women and men may not
understand, but if they're notcleaned well, we easily can get
a bladder infection, a yeastinfection or kind of a back, any
kind of infection, Backinfections.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
Yeah, we're super sensitive down there to all that
.
So, making sure all thewhatever you wipe it off with,
whatever toy cleaner you use,that you definitely make sure
it's all done gone before youinsert and whatnot.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Be sensitive to that and think of it with your hands.
Y'all Like wash your hands, I'mbig on.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
I got to tell you I'm big on the shower or bath
before the sex stuff because thegenitals carry so much bacteria
before the sex stuff, becausethe genitals carry so much
bacteria and I found over theyears that that has worked the
best.
Where I have the least amountof infections is by doing that
particular process before sex.
(18:24):
And I think that if peoplecould have a good cleanliness I
mean, I know ravaged sex aftergoing out and having fun Okay,
cool, you're not going toprobably help in the shower but
take a towel, wipe yourself offwe just carry a lot of gooky
stuff around all day, and mencan get infections too from
women's stuff, so it goes backand forth.
(18:48):
So it is important to stayhygiene and clean and all that.
So, yeah, yes, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Definitely so.
Other options for your dildosyou can also get them in a
stainless steel.
So, again, like the glass, themetal can be cooled and warmed
up.
Yay, you know they're going tostay firm, you know.
So that's always a nice thing.
And then, last but not least,stone dildos.
So these ones made of graniteor marble, and a hard, smooth
(19:17):
sensation.
I have never seen this on one.
I just want to say I've neveractually seen that.
Awesome, I haven't either, butI can say, under the same, you
know, you can definitely warmthem up, cool them off, kind of
thing as well.
I also have that same theme andcategory there.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, that's really fun why we're talking about this
and talking about the differenttypes of products to put inside
your and play with.
Please, please, do not put in.
I know people like to just tryother items out there in the
world vegetables, other productsat home, whatnot, and cucumber
and cucumbers, carrots, I'veheard but the problem with these
(20:02):
things is that they can splitoff and actually create an issue
inside of your vaginas.
Putting any types of productsother than products that are
clear to be safe to go into yourvagina you probably don't want
to do.
Otherwise it will go to death.
I have, unfortunately, seen afemale.
I was very shocked about it,but she died from that, wow.
(20:25):
So, yeah, that was prettyshocking, yeah, and so I just
wanted to say, as we're talkingabout putting products in our
vaginas, don't put things thatare not safe in your vagina, you
know.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
And also, yeah, and I mean with the food.
You know one thing that sugarscreate can create urinary tract
infections, all those funbacteria infections.
So you know, you want to makesure.
You know whipped cream soundslike fun, but keep it up, up top
, not below, because thosesugars can cause infections.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
So keep it on the nipple If you want to yep, put
it on the nipple.
If you want to Lick it offthere, but don't take it
downstairs y'all, that goes bothways.
Don't put it on his either,because if y'all are going to
have sex afterwards, that sugarthat was on his, you know, it's
kind of still there's traces.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Keep it high.
You know, don't do sugars y'all, it's not good.
Yeah, Get the safe products forall of those edible fun times.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Yes, and, by the way, they have a lot of edible fun
products here that are safe foryou to use down under, and they
have a lot of heating oils, alot of different types of lubes
and play stuff.
So go out and experiment.
But go to your local adultstore, call us.
We could get you guys all setup.
(21:45):
Whoever wants to get a littlepacket of goodies sent to them,
so the ladies are happy to helpas well, all right.
Well, anything else about ourdildos that we want to talk
about?
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Well, let's just talk about you know, I guess one
question that always comes up ishow do I talk to my partner
about this?
how do I bring this up like howdo we talk about this?
I don't know why sex is scaryto talk about.
It goes back to that shamething y'all.
We don't talk about it becausewe're shamed of it.
And then we think that, oh mygosh, if I ask to add a toy to
the bedroom, like he's gonnathink that I'm trying to replace
(22:19):
him.
I mean, there's so manymisconceptions about toys and I
just want you to know that thevibrator was invented by because
women used to go to the doctorto get treatments and these
treatments that poor doctor eat,that carpal tunnel and the
vibrator would form as a resultof that.
Just want to say this used tobe a medical practice for the
(22:41):
vibrator.
Now, obviously, dildos havebeen around for a lot longer.
But you know, when you'regetting around to introducing a
toy, you know think of your sexytime or time with your partner.
You know that's your playtime.
So why not introduce toys?
But you can reassure them thatit's not there to replace them.
(23:02):
You're never replacing them,you're letting them play
different.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
It's just an integration To me.
You got to bring toys in tobuild better connection.
And if she does end up having adifferent type of orgasm when
she has a dildo in her, it willbe probably different when
there's penicentery.
And that doesn't mean that yourpenicentery isn't what she does
, she's going to replace that.
(23:27):
No, they're just differentorgasms and if you go to our
clitoral podcast or live streamthat we did, the woman's
clitoris and down under is sothere's so many facets and we
have so many different types oforgasms.
I mean I can't even tell you.
(23:47):
I mean I wouldn't even tell youhow many different types I have
.
I don't know.
I keep on still experiencing,especially as I get older.
I experience them evendifferently.
So, and I still, to this day,use integration of a dildo and
vibrator combo and even withpartners, I still do, and I
think it's healthy, it's superhealthy and it's not replacing
(24:11):
the partner, it's just adifferent feel.
And I know the big one felldown.
But you know, I'll tell you,when you have a big, when a
female can put a child throughtheir or through their vagina
Okay, I know men don't like tothink like that, but when you
have a bigger dildo inside ofyou.
(24:32):
Your, your body can stretch tothat and that orgasm can be
super amazing.
So trying all kinds ofdifferent sizes and all that is
super, not shameful in arelationship when you're trying
to connect with your partner.
It's healthy, yeah, Superhealthy.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Can't be ashamed of what makes you come, just run
out of it.
Oh yeah, any.
You don't have fun.
You don't take your, take yoursignificant other over to the
sex toy store.
You know there are thosehelpful people that can help you
with shopping.
But also it's just helpful,like look at the website with
your, with your partner, likesee what they're thinking about
(25:13):
things.
Like you don't even know whatthey're thinking about things
until you actually have aconversation about it.
So you know, open up.
I learned.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Some people talked about some things this weekend.
This weekend I was like, wow,cool, never tried that before,
awesome, you know.
So you know we had a bridegroup come in and, um, she got a
little bridal outfit and shepaired it with a butterfly for
the remote to her man.
(25:42):
I mean, what a better.
I mean, come on, have fun.
You know, just playing aroundis really key to in a
relationship and I know we didour series of dead bedrooms last
year and it's like it's just,it's crazy, dead bedrooms.
It's called we got to talk,it's time to have a talk, and
(26:05):
they're difficult to have.
They're really difficult.
And if you're not comfortablewith your partner, meaning like
you don't have a goodrelationship already, that's got
to be worked on first.
People to understand, you knowyou got to fix those things
first before you can really havea good sexual relationship.
But working on those will builda better sex relationship
because that means you'reconnecting emotionally and
(26:28):
physically and that's what womenwant.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
So that's right, absolutely Women like that.
Women need the emotionalconnection.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
Yes, Women definitely are emotional.
We are emotional creatures,y'all All 85 different
personalities that we have likewe're emotional.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Yes, we are, yes, okay.
Well, let me just say a couplemore things.
What we're doing here, shilohand I, with that, with Schizo
Kitty, we're doing our raffles.
We're going to have events.
That's the reason why I'mdressed in my muumuu today.
I'll take a picture with, havethe gals take a picture of me in
my Mrs Roper costume.
So we'll do little events.
(27:07):
That's a big deal here inSouthern California is Mrs Roper
events and everyone dresses asMrs Roper.
We have them across the country.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Is it?
Is it good over there too?
Yeah, good over there too.
I heard of, actually, a friendof mine not too long ago was
just talking about doing thatI'm in Austin.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
I just got accepted to do Mrs Roper in the
Huntington Beach 4th of Julyparade.
If you've never been to 4th ofJuly parade in Huntington Beach,
it's like one of the best 4thof July parties ever.
And so I just got accepted tobe a Miss Roper in the 4th of
(27:45):
July, Huntington BeachCongratulations.
So we will be representingSchizo Kitty and the Gilston.
Let's talk about sex with me,Stephanie Smith.
So that will be super fun.
So that's what we're going todo.
We're going to do events andmore lives, and as we get more
comfortable, we'll do even morethings.
So it's super fun teachingeveryone about A to Z about sex.
(28:11):
So I'm going to do.
You have anything else to say?
My love.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
You know I'm here.
I'm here as a coach to you know, help the ladies.
You know I'm here to help youfeel better about yourself.
If you have a goal that you'vebeen trying to figure out, like
why you can't get there and youneed that extra support, I'm
here for you.
You want to talk about yoursexuality and discover what it
is that you actually like andfigure out how to come out about
what it is that you want andrelease that shame, let out
(28:35):
about what it is that you wantand release that shame.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
Let's talk.
Let's talk, all right.
Well, that's great.
Okay, so we've reached the endof another exhilarating episode
of Sex Talk A to Z with Stephand Shiloh.
If you have managed to stickwith us to the end, give
yourself a pat on the back andwe do.
We have people at the end.
Thank you so much.
You are officially a certifiedsex ed warrior.
We you are officially acertified sex ed warrior.
We can't thank you enough fortuning in, laughing with us and
(29:00):
hopefully learning a thing ortwo along the way.
Your support keeps us going, sodon't forget to subscribe, like
, follow, comment and spread theword like Conspetti.
Until next time, stay curious,stay safe and remember it's all
about the ABCs Always be curious.
See you next time.
All right, thanks, shiloh forjoining me.
(29:22):
Have a great one.
Thanks, abby.
Bye, everyone, bye.
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