We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community. This one is a freshly re-recorded instalment — updated, expanded, and shaped by listener requests.
In this episode we are diving into the letter N with The Nine N Words You Need to Know!
We explore key “N” words that often come up in non-monogamous relationships. We talk about non-negotiables, the meaning and impact of names and titles, necrophilia, and neediness in relationships—when it can be a call for support and when it might negatively impact the connection.
We also cover nesting partners, the importance of the word no and recognizing both verbal and body-language cues, and what it looks like to normalize non-monogamy in everyday life.
Plus, we touch on numbers (a.k.a. body count of sexual partners) and nudism, and why these conversations matter.
This is a fun, thoughtful, and wide-ranging episode we know you’ll enjoy!
Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452.
📖 Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction
01:38 - Exploring Non-Negotiables in Relationships
03:56- Names and Titles in Non-Monogamous Relationships
05:46 - Understanding Necrophilia
10:30 - Navigating Neediness
12:11 - Nesting & Nesting Partners
13:08 - Nipples and Nipple Play
15:45 - No when shared verbally or through body language
17:53 Normalization of Non-Monogamy
21:21 Nudism and Naturism
24:25 Discussing Numbers in Relationships
Show Resources:
- Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the HOT words from A-Z! https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist
- Necrophilia image and article - https://www.vice.com/en/article/yvxem5/the-little-death-living-and-loving-as-a-necrophiliac-51
- Relationship Burnout: How to Make LRE Feel Like NRE Again podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ujeot4xkUKWwZCPClzVDt?si=T0BytQblSUGqLyiqj7494Q
- Consent is Sexy: Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=cg7CPN_yTXSkmTlsRchq0w
- Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer - https://courses.letstalkpolyam
- Looking for therapy? Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue
- Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly
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